#and not just harm to those groups

[im-a-freaking-joy]

CALLING ALL EXMORMONS/PIMOS

i have a proposition- lets all write the nastiest, most unhinged, atrocious mormon themed smut that we possibly can. It was honestly weirdly healing for me to read wild ass smut on ao3 that was themed around the religion and not the musical, and i want it to become such a popular trend for exmos and pimos to start doing that they have to start vagueing about it in general conference. It doesnt have to be good. It just needs to *be.*

Once im done writing my Ammon×Lamoni smut fic I'm absolutely reblogging this post with the link added, please join me in this unhinged rebellion

#look those two always had something homoerotic going on alright #even before i knew what homoeroticism was #just like. the inherent dom sub dynamics of willingly and happily listening to everything the king says? #asking for more duties just so you can spend time around him? #fighting an entire rampaging group of men intent on harming your b̶o̶y̶f̶r̶i̶e̶n̶d̶s̶ I mean king's sheep? #cutting off said enemies arms to show him how devoted you are? #and on lamoni's side-- #giving up your kingdom for your “best friend” so he can be safe?? #protecting him from anyone who disagrees with you and thinks he shouldnt be here? #the tldr of this i guess is that if joe smith wrote smut instead of the book of mormon and making it into a cult i would have less trauma #exmo #exmormon #ex lds #ex mormon #pimo #calling all exmos

[blueskittlesart]

deeply refreshing to see someone critical of Swift who also like, genuinely likes her. Like i'm neutral to positive on her, but the online discourse has been absolutely rancid. flipping between "Taylor Swift has never done anything wrong ever and she's a fucking genius" and "Taylor Swift is the worst lyricist of all time and also a bad person" is exhausting, so thank you for like. nuance or something lmao

not to make it serious for a sec but i genuinely think that being able to like things that are bad is really important. like I think that it's an important skill to be able to look at something and see what you personally enjoy about it and then take a step back and acknowledge that objectively it's flawed. and to also be able to acknowledge that liking something isn't necessarily an identity or a moral stance. and i think that fandom space in general could really benefit from more people taking the time to learn how to do that. it's okay to like things that are bad

#people ask me sometimes why ill occasionally talk about something i like and then go 'but it's bad' and the answer is usually because it is #i love teen wolf. i love genshin impact. i love detective conan. and i fucking LOVE taylor swift. that doesnt mean theyre good #it just means i like them. and recognizing their flaws actually helps me better identify what i like about them! #it's like. in my mind bad > good is the x axis and i like it > i dont like it is the y axis yk. they're not mutually exclusive #tldr it's not that serious. we can all relax a little #irt taylor swift i do also think she has done some real harm to her fans in enabling them to deflect all criticism of her as misogyny #and i don't think it's fully the fault of these people who are parroting that response bc so much of her marketing has deliberately #reinforced this idea that to be a swiftie is to be a part of a sisterhood and that any attack on taylor is an attack on all of those women #who are in that in-group. when that's obviously not the case. but she's marketed herself as. for lack of a better term. 'girl music' #to the point where it makes her fans feel as though any criticism of the music or the woman responsible for it is an attack on their #personal experience of womanhood/girlhood/sisterhood/etc. and that's how you get all of thess bad-faith accusations of misogyny #i don't necessarily think this was her deliberate goal with her marketing tho because like. on first glance such a strong sense of communit #among fans sounds like a great thing. the friendship bracelets i got at the eras tour movie are really genuinely special to me. #but it does present a problem when your fans are unable to separate how they feel about the community and experience your music has fostere #from how they feel about you as a person. especially when you are a billionaire who absolutely CANNOT be above criticism in this economy #anyway. tldr i love taylor's music and i don't think swiftie hivemind is as deliberately malicious as it may seem #but it's obviously necessary to be able to take a step back and look objectively at what you're participating in. #anyway stream ttpd or don't idc <3 #taylor swift

[braxiatel]

Having been in that place of “so many long distance friends all in one place!!” A couple of times I just can’t help but feel so much second hand happiness for the cc hermits. You could tell the entire weekend that they were all so giddy - from raising $800k for charity over two days, yes - but also from just being in the same space. Getting to hug and play fight and shoot each other with nerf guns and bringing treats from home for everyone to try.

It just makes you think, you know. I mainly deal with the characters they play, and try very hard to separate those characters from their creators, but at the end of the day all of the love that they pour into their characters and the world they make together is all down to how much they also love each other irl. And good for them, good for them. I hope they had just as much, if not more, time off the clock to just hang out together

#hermitcraft #hermitcraft charity stream #looking at cc Scar buying those mugs and thinking yeah. yeah I would do that with my friends’ work too #I recognise that this is parasocial #but I reject the notion that it is so in a harmful way #I personally believe pretty much everyone in the fandom is parasocial with the hermits #since part of the product they are selling is just ‘imagine if you had a huge group of friends to good around in minecraft with’ #*goof #anyway I just wanted to put that out there #me being happy about other people’s happiness isn’t harmful #if I had turned up at the event expecting them to share that happiness with me it would have been #but I digress #I’m just happy to see people happy #it’s like when you’re at the airport and you see two people run to hug each other you know? #you can’t help but feel their joy #the void collection

[dyketubbo]

not to be a woman womaning all over the place but i feel like if you genuinely like. do not have friends that are women then you have something to work on. if you cant think of any female characters that you treat the same way you do male characters then you have something to work on. if you cant handle even seeing "i dont like being called a guy/bro/lad/etc because it doesnt feel gender neutral to me" but can understand when one of your masc besties is uncomfortable with being called girlie or sister then you have something to work on. if your default in regards to how you handle other people and even characters is to assume masculinity then you have something to work on. if you cant even let women and otherwise feminine people speak about our experiences without bringing up how you suffer too then you have something to work on.

it doesnt matter if youre queer or a poc or a minority in whatever which way, if you do not include women in your life and cant even stand a fucking inch of genuine feminism (and i dont mean terfs but god is it fucking agonizing that thats all you people can think of when you hear feminism anymore) where the point is to treat women, all women, equally then you have something to work on. listen to women, even the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours (hell ESPECIALLY the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours). just like how we all have to check ourselves for racism, ableism, queerphobia, we all have to check ourselves for misogyny too. stop acting like it got solved at some point. it still exists and it exists within you and you have to actually fucking work on that. "women should be included in your life and you should listen to them" shouldnt be a hard goddamn pill to swallow.

#mask mews #truly i dont think if you can call yourself a feminist then thats a red flag. actually. like legit #yes fuck terfs we all fucking hate terfs but if thats all you can think of when you hear feminism youre letting them win #youre lettin the misogynistic assholes who call people 'feminazis' win. the mras the pieces of shit who treat our rights like a debate topic #and no transmascs yall are not exempt from them just because youve experienced misogyny too #i see misogyny from queer men all the time and yall need to stop acting like being a minority #prevents you from being harmful to other minorities #black men often perpetuate misogynoir. trans men often perpetuate transmisogyny. gay men often perpetuate lesbophobia #just as women can perpetuate the harmful shit against all of those groups too #we're all being shit to each other and we all need to check ourselves and im tired of people acting #like its just okay to like. exclude women from shit #its exhausting and its misogynistic and i think especially in this fandom none of you ever moved on from thinking gaming is only for men #watch yourselves. watch how you talk about women. about femininity. #how when yall talk about the annoying cis white women #its clear which of yall are annoyed about the cis white parts. and which of yall are annoyed about the woman part

[demodoggonetired]

Post S3. Steve — inspired by how out of shape the kids were, knowing they're about to enter highschool territory and will need even better stamina to protect themselves from bullies, and it's just good for them — harasses the party into doing morning cross-country style runs. 

At first they obviously try to get out of it. But once Steve starts withholding their chauffeur privileges for a week per run they miss and proves that he means it, they begrudgingly go along with it.

Steve’s not mean about it. He doesn’t push them to run particularly fast or for excruciatingly long distances. As long as they keep themselves moving, he’s happy about it. 

Of course even better are the few days where he’s able to convince Max to join them — usually through promised milkshakes afterwards. 

She never jogs with them, instead skateboarding either behind them all or taunting them from in front. Which again — Steve’s just happy she’s out in the sun with them. And if the boys are too out of breath to try and strike up any kind of conversation with her when she’s not in the mood for it, then it’s all the better.  

- -

Robin’s a special case. She is, of course, her own adult (as much as you can be at their age, anyway) and Steve loves her like no other, his Platonic Soulmate capital ‘P’. But Steve’s now finished his third round of Upside Down dealings, and he’ll be damned if he leaves her to deal with the aftermath all on her own. (Like he may have felt back in the beginning, but he doesn’t often like to acknowledge those particular feelings).

So when the Underground Bunker and Torture flavored nightmares finally start to make their appearance, Steve knows just the solution. 

Much like the kids, it takes some convincing. Especially considering it’s nearly the middle of the night. 

But Robin’s much more willing to indulge his jock tendencies. And once they get going, having snuck out Robin’s thankfully ground-floor window, she starts to see the benefit. Simultaneously releasing the body of its flight-or-fight adrenaline rush and helping to get them out of their heads.

She still hates the actual running part of it. Bemoans every time they come back covered in sweat (okay so mainly just Robin, Steve’s only “lightly damp” by his own words). 

Yet Robin is the one to suggest moving their runs to the daytime as they slowly recover from Starcourt. Slowly able to get a proper night’s rest again. 

Eventually it almost just becomes habit to quick change, grab their drinks, and go for a lap around the downtown shops if they both get off shift before the sun sets. 

And if a certain unsuspecting metalhead happens to keep almost walking into signposts whenever the two of them jog past, well, Robin’s entitled to a little free entertainment. ;)

#steve himself probably started going for runs early on #to escape the emptiness of his house #see the sites #maybe a run through the woods is how he initially found skull rock #to just go out into the woods and exist where there's no expectations on you #but after getting into the upside down business I'd imagine the jogs through the woods mostly stop #constantly worried about not being able to hear if there were beasties nearby or flashing back to that sprint to the junkyard bus in S2 #I’m not one for jogging much myself (I do enjoy an occasional walk) #but I feel like Steve would be #so now he’s slowly working to convert the group or at least Robin #no Eddies were seriously harmed in the making of this post #(just a bloody nose that is 100% because he walked into that signpost and NOT because he saw Steve jogging in those red short shorts…) #stranger things #steve harrington #The party #max mayfield #robin buckley #eddie munson #steddie #(hinted at anyway) #My posts #does this count as writing?? Sure I guess why not #my writing #stobin #platonic stobin

[uncanny-tranny]

It's always weird when people are like, "Oh, you being [x minority] made me stop hating/reconsider my bigotry toward [minority]!"

Not only is it weird from the standpoint of "wow, you hated me?" but it's weird to know that you displayed some type of behaviour that proved your humanity to them, and that if you stop displaying that behaviour for any reason, it's possible they'll just slide back into their hatred because they haven't fundamentally challenged why they hated you and your people.

It's fine to grow out of your bigotry, yes, but I'm completely understanding of people being weary of those who are so brazen about how much they hated people like you.

#politics #ask to tag (genuine) #like i've expressed this before and it was like people were assuming i was ungrateful for their growth??? #but it's like... /have/ they outgrown their bigotry if they're almost jovial about just how hateful they were toward minority groups? #i feel like true growth from bigotry is understanding how harmful bigotry is and how you played into that... #...no that doesn't mean groveling about your past and performatively 'apologizing'... #...it means challenging the beliefs you held and learning how to spot them if they try festering back in your mind... #...because groveling isn't the same as growth and neither is pretending like past bigotry is amusing or funny or quirky... #...in my mind both those thought processes still center the 'reformed' bigot and not the people they hurt and held bigoted beliefs about... #...i think both those things are selfish and show (to me) that they may well do still hold those same bigotries but they're hiding them... #...and it will only be a matter of time before that bigotry festers and takes its mask off... #...like that is PRECISELY why bigotry against ~bad people~ is JUST AS BAD as bigotry toward ~good minorities~... #...like transphobia against a trans person who is a terrible excuse for a human is still transphobia. it doesn't matter how bad they are #(just as an example of what i mean)

[pacificgasandelectric]

Current Events in Silm fandom rlly reinforce my feeling that, despite claiming an ethos of acceptance/tolerance of anything that doesn't hurt ppl, a lot of ppl in the section of Silm fandom I frequent do follow a set of socially-agreed-upon mores about what concepts are "not acceptable" to discuss or propose (or the ways in which certain topics must be discussed to be acceptable), that you all seem to have agreed on despite the things those mores restrict not being harmful to anyone.

And when someone does say smth that violates those mores, the response is disproportionate to the amount of harm done (which is typically none, imo). I know it's tempting to say "but we just want people to be comfortable and safe", but treating ppl badly for the sin of sharing thoughts you dislike is NOT the same as preventing people from doing things that are harmful. The former is much more of a harmful behavior than the sharing of the thoughts that sets it off. Fannish etiquette, people: you shouldn’t act like someone’s meta makes them morally suspect just because you disagree with it; save the “this is morally bad” for things that are ACTUALLY harmful. We're all stuck on this website together & if you want to have any sort of community, you need to ACT like you're in a community, and that means letting other people say things you dislike. Block them if you need to! I block people all the time because i know it's better for me AND for them if we can both blog in peace.

I am not particularly comfortable with the young-queer-on-tumblr silm fandom rn due to this tendency to rebuke things that are uncomfortable rather than harmful. Maybe that's fine with you. But if your goal is to make all fans feel comfortable and accepted, you need to actually do that. If your goal is to make people who share your unwritten rules comfortable in your space, you need to admit that, and write those rules down, and curate your space so it follows them.

Edited 8:10am PST to clarify the specifics of the behavior I find concerning.

#mine #if there had been Actual Harm done i'd feel differently #but when ppl are this worked up over 'what if [female character] was Also a bad person in a way that's reprehensible to our current morals' #and start going ‘hm this person is morally suspect for their Taste In Fiction’ im like. yikes! and you do this in the War Crimes Fandom?! #and like listen i Get that esp in this fandom there's a high incidence of like. ppl who are genuinely bigoted and stuff #and it can be stressful to see stuff that reminds you of that bigotry and the way those ppl use the work to justify their own worldview #but that STILL doesn't give anyone the right to police stuff that Isn't Bigoted. that's just not how this works. #and then in terms of 'well it's not policing it's just disagreeing' i have to say. that's where Etiquette comes in and i'm frankly #unhappy & annoyed that so many ppl in my age group seem to care more about being Right than being comfortable to share a fannish space with #but again whatever maybe they don't want me in their space. that's fine! i don't want to be in your space if it doesn't want me. #but i wish they'd fucking ADMIT THAT instead of going 'ooooh we accept everyone' and then turning around #and censuring ppl whose ideas they find icky. you can't have it both ways is all i'm saying. pick one and actually do it. for all our sakes #haha i might regret this tomorrow but i'm sooooo sleep-deprived and so annoyed #sorry to my non-silm followers it's just that i'm right and i should say it

[lunetual]

the sooner you guys can divorce your enjoyment of creating from how many notes your set gets the happier you’ll be and the more fun you’ll have on here !!! flopping is a social construct. kill the idea of it !!! eliminate it from your mind !!! if you love it, that’s enough. if others love it too, that’s a great bonus 🫶

#i wholly appreciate every person who interacts w anything i make !! #but i just think assigning an arbitrary number to your idea of success is ultimately going to be harmful for your own happiness #esp since !! as we’ve discussed !! interactions ARE lower than they would be been five or six years ago #in terms of outside validation there is nothing like creating for a group that like three people know about but then one of those people + #rbs like ‘________ gifs ?? in this economy???’ #that serotonin rush is unmatched actually #in unrelated news im off to gif ireah again 🫡 #chatter

[edettethegreat]

10/10 manga for pulling a “we’ll defeat you with the power of friendship!!” “That’s… incredibly ignorant of you. I’m significantly more powerful, whether or not you have friends won’t impact this fight”

#this IS the best manga I stand by that forever #I know I vaguepost about it every few months but it just. keeps getting better #I am so emotionally invested in this #[spoiler]’s really out here being like “you fools. I am all powerful. Your group of like 8 friends cannot harm me” #He is genuinely such an interesting and compelling character #Such a unique character #honestly I don’t think I’ve ever seen a character like him in any media #Admittedly he’s not my favorite character. Not even my favorite in this manga. #But he’s just so strikingly unique #Just. The whole character progression of bullied outcast with a heart of gold —>dead(?)—> jk not really—>minor antagonist—> main antagonist #And you absolutely never see it coming #Because when he’s reintroduced as a minor antagonist you’re like “oh that’s interesting. That’s an interesting little twist” #And then as the story progresses and things become more and more intense #And suddenly HE’S the one who’s hunting the protagonists HE’S the one who’s actively trying to kill them #For those unfamiliar with this I feel like it’s important to clarify there was never some betrayal twist #As in he was genuinely a really good person at the start #And it’s a very very gradual shift #Because even when he’s reintroduced as an antagonist it’s all very understandable on his end #He’s a good guy he’s been through a lot but is making the best of his circumstances #Until he isn’t until things go too far #Just auuughh it;s so good

[centaurianthropology]

On Faceless Death, From the Perspective of Someone Who Deals with Death Every Day

This is a post I’ve toyed with writing for a while, and I keep thinking about writing it every few months when a new tragedy or accident or some other event that leads to loss of life comes up, and I see the inevitable deluge of people celebrating the deaths.  And these are very rarely the deaths of known actors, those whose actions, both good and bad, are public record.

These are, for lack of a better term, the unknown and faceless.  The “Ten People Die in Such-and-Such a Circumstance” people.  What is known about them is usually that they were in a place when an event occurred, be it a concert, a festival, a town, whatever.  But there are assumptions made about them because of where they were and what they might have been doing.  People claim that “everyone” doing a specific thing or being in a specific place was a member of XYZ group, and that’s why it’s fine to laugh and celebrate the deaths of these very ordinary people.

And I call them ordinary because they are.  Because all death is ordinary, because everyone is equalized in that.  Because these are not known actors, but those people who simply were in the wrong place at the wrong time, and their names, their faces, their stories are likely known only to those they left behind. 

I am a medical examiner.  Every day I go to work and I’m greeted by photos and stories of the dead.  These are also often people who were in a certain place at a certain time, who have judgment passed on them.  These are the woman found in a cheap motel room with a syringe floating next to her in a moldy bathtub.  These are the tatted-up uncle walking his nephew home when he’s caught in a drive-by.  This is the wealthy man who is bludgeoned to death while out walking on a secluded trail.  These are the kids caught in cross-fire as their older siblings shoot out their disputes.  These are an old woman dying alone at home and not being found for weeks because no one thought to check on her.  These are young college students driving home from a party when they roll over and get ejected through a windshield.  These are the rich, the poor, the addicted, the previously-sick, the expected-right-up-until-it-wasn’t.  These are those who at least someone will claim weren’t “innocent” victims.  These are people of unknown pasts and stories found dead far from home, whose stories and even identities may never be known.  Sometimes it’s natural, sometimes accidental, sometimes they kill themselves or someone else kills them.  Sometimes we just can’t tell because they’re so decomposed by the time they’re found that all we can say is that there’s no obvious trauma and no retained bullets. 

And the thing that unites all these cases, from the mundane to the photos that still haunt me, is that they’ve almost all left people behind.  These are the people who death truly hurts, because for the dead there is no more hurt, but for those that remain there is nothing but hurt.  The woman who overdoses in the tub is found by her boyfriend.  The old woman finally has a daughter who comes from hours away to crawl through a window and find her.  The nephew sees his uncle gunned down.  The siblings realize exactly the cost of their war when their baby siblings are bleeding out.  They are the ones left behind.  They are the ones who feel the guilt and the grief and the hole in the world where their loved ones used to be. 

And every time I see people celebrating the death of some stranger whose name and life is unknown to them, purely because they were at a certain place at a certain time, or they are assumed to be “one of those sorts of people”, I think about these deaths: lonely or in public, in fear or shock or the simple and chill acceptance that comes with realizing they will die.  I think about the conversations a medical examiner or a paramedic or a scene investigator has with those left behind.  I think about these lives, each unique, intricate, and gone.  I think about the tattoos that tell a story.  I think about the color of clouded-over eyes.  I think about the clothing they or someone else chose for them.  I think about text conversations, about emails and scribbled-down notes in handwriting so bad I can only make out a few words.  I think about all the things that they have done or could have done, all the paths they have walked and will never walk.

Working with death on such an intimate level is an incredibly humbling experience.  It makes me realize how small we all are, and yet also how vast.  How our lives and deaths spread out to touch so many others.   It’s why, with very few exceptions, I view all deaths as tragedies.  Yes, including the death of that nameless, faceless person you’re thinking about right now who was probably a member of some group you think deserves it.  Because lives can change.  Paths can change.  People can change, right up until everything stops.  Death is the one thing that guarantees a person will never change.  Maybe you think that because they might have been a part of a certain group, they are purely and simply Bad People, or that they must have done terrible things and their death is therefore somehow a good thing.  In your hypothetical world where this very real death can be used for moral clout and grandstanding.

But you don’t know who they were.  You don’t know what they did or who they left behind.  Death is never clean.  It is a fracture that goes through so many lives.  There are so few people in the world whose loss is a genuine net good.  Of course they exist, but I find that they are rare.  And I certainly can never assume that someone I don’t know, who was simply in a place at a time and may or may not be “one of those people”, whichever people are being discussed, would be so bad that their death should be celebrated, and that the pain of those left behind should, in turn, also be celebrated.  I think the world has more than enough casual cruelty without adding to it in that way. 

#death #tw death #as a medical examiner #who deals with death very closely every day #I cannot understand celebrating the deaths of people whose actions and lives are unknown #just because they are part of a group (or usually simply suspected to be a part of a group) that you dislike #there is a difference between disliking the actions of a group #fighting against those actions and trying to reduce harm #and celebrating a death of someone you don't know #because they might be a part of that group #or even are a part of that group #but that's the only thing you know about them #people are intricate and full of endless possibility #right up until they aren't #the only time we stop having the capacity for self-improvement #is when we're in the ground #sorry this one's a bit morbid #but I've been thinking about this for a while #hopefully it makes some sense

[daz4i]

justice is meaningless without care, if the thing that drives you to action is hate towards the oppressors rather than care for the oppressed you will not get very far

#getting rid of the garbage is helpful but without reform new garbage will just show up #that's why hating those who do harm ultimately doesn't do much #punching nazis is meaningless when you don't care about jews #the fact a lot of goyim think the nazis' main target is queer people is very telling in that regard imo #this is a symptom of that i think. they focus on taking down those who do harm without knowing what harm they even do #i get why it happens. it's easier to use rage as a motivator. it feels more satisfying and it's a more instant gratification #i don't blame anyone for accidentally falling for this thought process. i know for sure i have many times as well #but it's never too late to change that 🙏 it takes more work. but you can go at your own pace #if you get this angry then you clearly have care in you. you just need to turn it towards a better course of action 🤔 #anyway. that's my ramble for today #(btw i used nazis as an example bc as a jew this feels closer to home. but it's true abt every group)

[honeyandpumpkins]

i think it’s weird that displaying glee at random privileged people dying has become shorthand for how progressive you are, as if it demonstrates a level of enlightenment that is above having empathy for people who hold a level of privilege in the world and therefore are “the bad guys”

i also think it’s weird that freak accidents or instances of death are framed as “justice.” like how does a random billionaire dying lead to a more just and equitable society?

i ALSO think it’s weird that expressing any kind of horror at the circumstances of a privileged person’s death is framed as “simping for billionaires” or some shit. as if a personal emotional reaction to someone’s horrific death and the impact that death would have on loved ones precludes any level of class consciousness

#idk just some thoughts #also i do think it’s different when the person dying DOES lead to a reduction in harm #like people who openly advocated for the genocide of marginalized groups or who hold a judicial appointment and cause real systemic harm #i can see why people celebrate those deaths #but a random person who likely is not directly impacting anyone who is celebrating his death #and whose wealth will just get passed to whoever’s next in line? there is no real harm that is reduced in that situation #it seems like it’s just resentment politics tbh

[quiltedlovers]

finally watched heartstopper because one of the part time kids from when i worked at the bakery really wanted me to for the longest time and i was feeling sentimental. i don’t think i have ever wished so strongly to have had a piece of media as a teenager + have never felt so much gratitude that kids get to have it now

#‘it’s corny’ is such a lame and wilfully obtuse criticism #charlie and nick are 14 and 15 when it starts!!!! kids that age are more than allowed to be corny!!!!! #as the actors have said it’s an optimistic and idealized in some ways version of reality #but it’s so grounded in reality!!! especially from the viewpoint of the age group of the characters #I also think even in the brief beginning of charlie’s storyline with anorexia and self harm the portrayal is already so much healthier and #safer for a show geared towards an audience who statistically has mental health struggles more often #than 13 reasons why for example #i wish to god that show had never gotten made #also YEAH DUDE it’s so normal for 15 year olds to not drink or do drugs or even know where to get drugs #and to not be ready for sex!!!!!!!!! #also A REALISTIC PORTRAL OF LESBIAN TEENAGERS !!!! THAT IS SO CUTE AND SWEET #anyway im. looking into masters of information programs #thinking about being a librarian just has me emotional about recent censorship and book bans surrounding queer literature #really and truly breaks my heart that heart stopper the graphic novels are on those lists #heartstopper

[video-killed-the-radio--star]

what I've noticed on social media lately is that people making fun of a certain personality/interest have to add in something that makes the person morally wrong, in a way that usually makes no sense. They want to paint the group (that they're usually just annoyed at) as morally wrong, and they can't admit to themselves that they dislike the group just because they're annoying. that's it. They're annoying.

Take this:

this post is insulting fujoshis. which. i mean. fair. But you can see that most of these actions are just annoying, not wrong. However, I think that the person wanted to garner more hate towards fujoshis by adding that little "the age of consent is 13!!" in there, where it actually doesn't make much sense. Fujoshis arent pedos, they fetishize gay men. Don't add random shit cause you want more hate for a group you find annoying.

there r some other examples and I will add them when I find where I saved them on pinterest in a fit of rage xo

#idk I'm having thoughts #like youre just justifying your hate for a group by adding stuff that makes THEM morally wrong #you cant handle the fact that maybe you're just a hateful person #the fujoshi wasn't the best example because they can be harmful sometimes but you get my point #like I saw another one about “gay best friends” and it implicated that girls who want gay best friend are actually homophobic #which again makes no sense #those people are just annoying they're not homophobic #but you don't want to be seen as the bad guy!! #ever!! #get over urself omg

[honeybabymp3]

yesterday I was gonna make a post about how the single thread separating us from “gaylors are enforcing gender norms by saying a woman in pants looks gay” is that the only people bothered by this are too scared of people who say dyke to start a fight with us so of course this is actually already happening on twitter

#og tweet getting ratio’d to hell and with good reason but djjdjfjf #like Yes the whole boyfriend taylor stuff always feels like 'this is the butchest woman twitter can handle before they start biting' #to be fair the og tweet didn't say butch or masc it just said dyke but still #at some point overly focusing the idea of what a gay woman looks like only on relatively feminine woman sucks cause #if we're focusing positivity only on the most easily digestible model of Anything we're still leaving out everyone who #doesn't fit into that mold and they remain the most stigmatized people who are still harmed looked down upon etc etc #even more stigmatized cause it's like 'why can't you be like one of those normal []' #(<-saying it like that cause it also fits with how people talk about mental issues lol and defs other groups) #but dude lesbians calling a woman a dyke as a compliment is not regressive we are NOT there yet #calling random people gay in a positive way is not regressive. you only think that cause you still think that being gay is abnormal #and that's on pointless gaylor discourse of the week!

[boneless-mika]

If I listened to the anti-kink ppl I keep coming across I wouldn’t be allowed to have sex at all because the only instance I would is if I were fully clothed and nobody touched my genitals and possibly I’d need to wear gloves

#no being pro kink doesn’t inherently mean you support raceplay for fucks sake #87% chance the person who said that just hates kink in general #and are grouping things like impact play or the general concept of sadism/masochism with genuinely harmful stuff as unacceptable #like I think somno with prenegotiated consent is perfectly fine but is that actually too far and unethical? #what about pet play? do you think those engaging in it are zoophiles? it kind of sounds like you do #also you don’t entirely control what turns you on #I’ve been turned on by torture scenes ever since I was like 12 and it’s horribly distressing #I don’t think that makes me a bad person