#and you start yelling at your parents

[gxlden-angels]

Bro I hate fundamentalists and culturally-fundie parents they'll say shit like "spare the rod spoil the child am I right haha yea my parents used to have to beat my ass with a switch almost everyday but I sure did learn my lesson" but like??? no you didn't??? you were hit multiple times for something you very obviously did not, in fact, learn

Like studies about how harmful even lightly spanking children is aside, you're literally contradicting yourself?? Some even admitted they got worse as they got older cause they wanted to see how far they could push their parents before they got punished

And studies not aside, you're gonna get child raising advice from the same book that tells you to stone your wife if her hymen doesn't break on your wedding night instead of the decades of research we have now?? Just say you're a bad parent and move on my guy. Skill issue

#bro I had a coworker go 'unpopular opinion I think some kids really do need beatings' and I'm like???? #unprompted???? what's going on there???? #well anyways I ended up going 'yea so I plan on specializing in play therapy with autistic children so I've been learning about talking #to children and the ways their parents and environment affects them' #and they're like hmmm but beating this kid with a stick after they broke something or I upset them to the point of yelling is good actually #had a boss say it taught him and his kids respect cause they were hard-headed #and I'm like?? that's fear not respect! they fear punishment! they do not act out of respect for you! #he's a conservative christian black man tho so he's like 'But Authority!' like bro I don't even respect you what are you on about #'You don't respect police and their authority?' Nope! I fear them! I do not respect cops and every cop/cop-adjacent person I personally know #has reinforced that for me #'We'll agree to disagree' Cool! Doesn't mean you're not wrong! I could believe trees aren't real but that is in fact incorrect #then he pulled out the bible verse and I was like ah okay I forgot you like 'here's how to treat slaves' book you're so right bestie #I'm totally wrong now and so sorry for doubting you and your 2000+ year old book I don't believe in <3 #They'd go 'well I turned out fine!' then say something that directly contradicts that #anyways I need christians to get their grubby little hands off the current state of Child Protection and Rights in the U.S. #So we can actually start working on helping kids without the force of christian hands suffocating them #cause homeschooling and child raising by evangelicals are so fucked up bro I'm tired of this shit #I'd only stay in my current state to help children get out of that cycle since I'm in the bible belt #ex christian #religious trauma #child abuse tw

[roemantics]

I know there’s a lot of negativity surrounding the new generation of children but imo children are like the sweetest people ever. I see a ton of kids at work and they’re always the first to call me pretty or to wave hi or to do something funny to make me laugh. you know what I also see a lot at work? parents getting mad at their kids for getting too excited, parents on their phones instead of watching their kids and even worse, parents handing their kids phones or tablets when they get too rowdy. personally I think the problem is that this generation of parents aren’t loving their kids enough. I know it’s hard to be a parent, but it’s sad to know that parents are just handing their children electronics instead of… y’now, spending time with them? I hate the narrative of “ohhhh it’s so harddd to be a parent!!” when you chose to have kids and you now choose to ignore them. kids are really sweet and I will probably always defend your kid before I defend you.

#sorry I just saw some mom start yelling at her kid for being super excited at work today and it made me very sad #sorry if this doesn’t make sense #and if you’re an angry parent or something I straight up do not want to hear it #“my kid is actually just super bad!! wahhh!! #do you even love your child

[notquiteaghost]

customer making small talk at work: [legal name] is a good name, i've always liked unique names

me: yeah, so did my parents!

customer, who also clocked my pronouns & definitely just assumed i meant 'Actually, that's my birth name': oh, really?

me, who has a similarly unique birth name but also i inadvertently stole my brother's name with one syllable changed and i dont want to get into all that while ringing up her shopping: haha yeah. i like it though!

#yelling at clouds #work shit #then she told me how she named her daughter smth unique but everyone mishears it as smth more boring #and her daughter was there so i got to make commiserating eye contact #the thing with my brother's name is. i have my Family Name which is the first name i chose and is my legal middle name #but it doesn't start with the right letter and that's why i picked a different first name #and it took me starting a job and actually using the first name for it to click that it is only one syllable off my brother's #idk if my parents realised this before i did. they never mentioned it. #BUT my BIRTH name is almost only one syllable off my SISTER'S name so like it's their fault. for having a naming convention. #if you don't want your kids names to sound very similar dont have them all start with the same letter #anyway this was a couple weeks ago i was just reminded of it

[steakout-05]

i think having TF2 as a special interest really early in my childhood influenced so many things about myself and my identity.... my gender is big men my sexuality is big men and my sense of humour is big men. i even named myself after the "very tiny and scrawny but still big" big man and i think about all the big men in TF2 on a semi daily basis,,,,,, anyway yeah i like the men in TF2 :)

#tf2 #this post is nigh incomprehensible #this is the true effects of autism...... having such a big special interest that it literally influences half of your entire sense of self #i think this is why i feel gender euphoria playing crusty old source games #like i literally feel so connected to TF2 it's crazy #i'm currently listening to a TF2 YTPMV and have it in the corner of my screen and my brain is just going ''ahh... the song of my people'' #i look at scout tf2 and i go ''he is just like me!!!'' #man's got adhd and likes being an asshole to the other team on the battlefield and if that isn't relatable i don't know what is #i also occasionally play as engineer and i always put my sentries in the most bitchy spots ever #like you're taking a stroll over to the point and you're like ''oop. level 3 sentry that i can't get rid of because the fucker behind it- #-won't stop helicopter parenting it. welp.'' that's my gendar #scout main to engineer main redemption arc to scout main villain arc because my sentries kept exploding pipeline #that made absolutely zero sense. #i usually play on training mode because i'm too shy to play on casual again yet and let me tell you #the amount of times i've yelled at the engineer bots because they just won't build a damn dispenser next to their sentries is insane #like maintaining a sentry would be SO MUCH EASIER if you just built a dispenser nearby. like. #when you play engie you start to not even worry about your health anymore because you're too concerned with your metallic kids to care #it's like ''oh i'm at 2 hp. wow. OH SHIT MY SENTRY GOT HIT ONCE AND LOST A SINGLE BAR OF HP I NEED TO HEAL HIM!!!!! MY SON!!!' #and you never end up dead somehow because dispenser #and when you do die it's like torture looking at the spectating cam and seeing your sentry get shot at and not being there to help it #it's like ''nooo... my son.... please i need to heal my son..... i can't bare to watch'' #i should invest in a wrangler.... hmmmm...... #anyway this post is... so autism! it's great we love to see it! #autism #i'm very tired yet feel very energised.... i'm having a neurodivergent moment hang on #spy sappin my executive functioning #my brain is literally just 3 scouts and 2 engineers doing do si do with 'erectin a river' blasting really loud at the moment #YIPPEEKIYAHIYAAAAAHYKIYO - my brain when special interest

[astridthevalkyrie]

idk how one minute i’m like “my throat hurts I feel sick” and then in two minutes my mother is trying to force my mouth open to spray medicine down my throat and smacking my arm hard when I don’t open my mouth, like I do not get the instinct to hurt someone when they are sick I don’t understand at all.

#is being taken care of when one is sick actually a thing or just a myth #like do parents actually stroke your hair and feed you soup #because as far back as I can remember I just got yelled at for not liking medicine (as a kid) and I started making my own soup #and mind you I’m too old ig to be taken care of now #maybe it’s just the inner child that needs to heal #at this point idk if I could physically handle someone taking care of me I think it would make me nauseous

[bibuck-saved-me]

learning about buck’s childhood just makes the grocery store moment so much worse. he talks to the 118 about his problems because he thought he could trust them with it. because the only other person he could ever talk to about anything was maddie, and even she was always just a little bit out of reach. he tells them so much bad stuff because they’re supposed to be the safe place he can go where nothing hurts. somewhere he isn’t alone. his family, to remind him that he is loved and everything is gonna be okay.

what eddie said told buck that it never was a safe space. that every time he spoke to them, when he thought he finally found someone who cared enough to hear him, there was a part of them that saw him as a nuisance. an exhausting nuisance who complains about everything. who’s problems are so minuscule, they don’t matter at all. he was an inconvenience. something they had to carry but didn’t want to.

just like his parents.

#please don’t yell at me for this i do love eddie and the 118 #as someone who relates a LOT to buck this is how i perceive the situation #when you grow up invisible and you finally trust someone with all of you it leads to a lot of opening up #about all sorts of things even just stubbing your toe cuz for once in your life you have someone! who might care! #even though it’s just your toe #because in the past it was never just your toe #it was every single thing that hurt #every bad moment you kept inside because you were alone in the world #there was no one there to hug you when you were sad #buck’s parents may have started out caring when he got physically hurt #but they were always emotionally neglectful #and when they did care they cared for the wrong reasons in the wrong way #and even that faded with time #their love wasn’t just conditional it was. it was so rare #how many times did he sit alone and ache and ache and ache #and all he wanted was someone to hold him. tell him he’s gonna be okay #how many times did he cry himself to sleep #how many times did he sit and wonder what he did wrong. why they saw through him. why he wasn’t enough #what could he do to be enough? what would make them look at him and see him #and be happy with what they saw #happy enough to smile at him #god what he would’ve done to have someone smile at him #and then he thought he found it. he thought he could be enough for someone. they loved him #they listened to him #and then eddie says that it’s whining. that it’s annoying and exhausting and awful #that buck should suck it up and deal with it on his own #and. and the pain he must have felt #911 #evan buckley

[melangedmess]

Can't wait for Christmas fever to be over it's too exhausting

#Personal #Nothing ever good happens during Christmas #You have your catholic parents and relatives spewing the most atrocious bullshit and u have sit there like 🙎🏻‍♀️ #SHUTUP #I am glad they aren't so uptight abt church & all now at least. #The fact they are converted Christians is hilarious and sad like #Christian missionaries are EVIL and I will never stop yelling about it. If something has to convince you or worse prey when you are the mos #Vulnerable then that's not a religion that's a cult. Especially led by 1 (one) person???? #When that church can only ever talk abt Jesus being killed by the blood thirsty jews. Flat Earth. #or whatever bs u try to cook up. This group of missionaries have been busted on news a lot for being. funded by outside aid to #Convert more people. #I can't believe how brainwashing will have you believe the most weirdest shit. #Altho I'm thankful they weren't converted to Islam because then i wouldn't have the freedom I do now plus the horrible stories I've heard #From ex muslims #What other religion is there anyway who is so bent on converting as many people as they possibly could #To all my friends who have succeeded in leaving behind their families of both these cult-ish religions I love you and I'm glad you're safe. #It still affects me. I can't wait to finally start earning enough to leave this whole chapter behind. I've had enough. #Anyway if you can't tell or simply lack basic comprehension it's not a attack on YOU. It's a world wide phenomenon of conversion and brain #You can't deny that and I'm again NOT blaming you for it. Religious trauma is real. #The gangs or worse family members who will kill you for leaving religions is not something unknown. It's real it's true it's happening. #Anyway

[enigma-the-anomaly]

So I’m just not allowed to have single happy moment huh? Not even for a fucking second?

#i believe that yeah mom maybe no one is perfect but I believe that you are pushing your luck - paraphrasing tfb here but ugh #parents will literally say you can tell them anything and then shame you for not being perfect #like fuck you #its not even that bad of a mistake #I accidentally left my car keys at the theater but I’m getting them tomorrow #it’s just that I’ll have to be dropped off and picked up at school by my dad #which he’s done for fucking years so it’s not like an inconvenience #you’re just an asshole who likes it when people feel bad #I’m already stressed because of fucking everything and this happens and I figure it out and handle it #but you can’t leave it alone you have to shame me #when I was younger and forgot my phone in the airport bathroom because I had been distracted by my period starting #you yelled at me in the middle of the fucking airport in front of everyone and made me cry even more #and then you apologized because you knew i was already feeling awful about it without you yelling at me #why did you bother apologizing when you do the same exact thing every fucking time I mess up #I hope you go to hell

[kennabeth]

dustfinger: I love all of my children equally, brianna, farid, and [looks at smudged writing on hands] john

#tcor spoilers #HATE that there was no actual resolution this #i understand fully that it can be difficult when your partner's child (who is not also yours) looks like their other parent #feelings are hard to change! sure! #but: roxane is friends with her husband's affair partner. atp he has no right to show any hurt over her remarrying #and that includes taking it out on jehan #he doesnt say himself that theres any resentment (which is odd bc he loves telling us all his shitty thiughts usually; too stressed out #for self reflection right this second?) #but nyame talks about how obvious and infuriating it is #not to say jehan's making it up (i would never never never doubt my babiest boy) but it's bad enough that people outside the family see it #('outside the family' it's his uncle but outside the home ig) #where was i going with this #having a was-hoping-id-find-the-end-of-this-thought-when-i-came-to-it moment #oh right the lack of self reflection made me wonder if dustfinger knew he was acting like this at all #and i was PRAYING for nyame to chew him out over it #there were so many good spots for that conversation too #when df was practically dead for the third time and jehan stayed with him to make sure he didnt actually die #i expected 'i dreamed about you burning alive every night for ten years' levels of dustfinger being yelled at from jehan #and we literally?? didnt get a single chapter from either of their povs at that time?? what the actual fuck man #okay not to be like 'i could write this better' but a way more satisfying conclusion to everything that started #with nyame saying the two of them are so similar #would have been [jehan rightly makes dustfinger feel bad about continuing to be a terrible father] -> [jehan storms off to orpheus' to #'offer' dustfinger in exchange for the book but the adults dont know where he went] -> [nyame comes back and also yells at df #for letting his kid run off and drive home that he really is failing jehan and points out to him their similarities] -> #[df goes oh shit i also tried trading innocent people for a book] -> #[whatever. resolution] #do u see what i mean #his ~apology~ to meggie in book 2 is so good while being in character #and he cant apologize to his stepson? he barely fking knew meggie lmao #says kenna

[edgarallanpoestan]

sometimes i wonder why my social skills arent great then i remember that i read encyclopedias and textbooks for fun unti llike middle school and got really obsessed w random things and was only friends w people who also got easily obsessed w things and basically it shouldve been way obvious i was nd

#bee buzzes #sorry the other day i was rambling to my brother and he once again said i might be autistic #like. yeah bbygirl probably #also did you know walking on your toes is a sign of autism??? #i did that shit all the time until lile last year bc my mom started yelling at me abt it #so i tried to stop while in public #but i still do it at home #also there were these parenting books my parents had that i read a bunch #idk why i could just read dr seuss or smth #OH and this french/english dictionary #also i got rlly into different myth systems when young and folklore from various places #my favorite was banshees i thought they were so interesting and i always hated how media characterized them #bc to me the legends abt banshees felt like they were grieving w you not like they were like. bringing the death along w them #it felt comforting to me??? idk maybe im Silly #anyway

[yohankang]

btw sorry for the influx of negative posts but this is. literally a life defining moment for me and i'm scared shitless so <3 i'll calm down in a week i just need to be dramatic first

#just burst into tears on my way home 🙃 #just had a realization that therapy really did help me and i am in a better place now. but at the same time #it's really fucking disheartening to realize that if something bad happened you wouldn't be getting any help from your parents. again! #because why would they learn from their mistakes lmao #lately they've been just. so mean to me for no fucking reason. and it's fine usually but not now #i'm like okay! i'm starting my life again! we'll see how it goes #and they're like btw if you fuck up this time you'll be the only one to blame :) also we won't help you because you're an adult :) #like i did not!!! fucking ask!!!! #i did ask for a bit of your support though and got yelled at in return!!! #sometimes i'm just. amazed. like holy shit you guys can be normal but sometimes you're cartoonishly mean. #like i asked my father if he could ask his friend if i could sleep at his place one night. and the response i got? #'until you've proved your worth to me i have no reason to help you' like HELLO. this is. wow #he says shit like that all the time unprompted #he acts like i'm a criminal or something lmao but what i did wrong was dropping out of uni. #after 2 years of fighting with officials about something i had no control over and getting fucked over again and again #like sorry i could not take it anymore! #i restored most of my self-confidence through therapy but this shit sometimes gets to you. yk #godddd i am getting so personal it's fucking embarrassing but i promise it's the last time <3 or i hope so lmao #i just have to survive this week. i will calm down after first 2 days of classes. #and if after that i'll decide i'm not ready yet? then i still have my job and enough time to try again #yeah i'm trying to convince myself at this point abjsvjscjs #k.txt #dl #btw this sounds way dramatic than it actually is so <3 don't you worry about me i'll be back to normal soon

[florallychaotic]

...

#i love my parents logic of “your brother can yell mean things at you #and repeatedly make of fun of you for dropping out of college #saying youll never get your degree and that he doesnt want you to live here #but if you so much as yell at him when angry about starting homeschool in the fall #because he couldnt be bothered to attempt high school #despite having only adhd while you have multiple severe mental conditions and never #got the level of support that je did then youre the devil incarnate #like im fully aware i was mean to him #but theres only so many times you can kick a dog before it bites back #yeah o should be the grownup and not be a dick so im so fucking tired of being nice when he gets to be the asshole #and nothing ever comes of it

[notquiteaghost]

at my parents to walk the dog today/tmrw & it is making me so very insane to have to have the dog on the lead and be keeping him at my side with his attention on me by holding a treat in my free hand and telling him the whole time "that's it good boy be calm and steady you're alright we're alright good boy we're all good" because otherwise he snarls at other dogs. and he does that because the ambient levels of stress in my parents' house last year gave him disorders. and sometimes i have to walk myself places while telling myself "it's okay it's alright you're not in trouble everything's fine". and that is also because of living in my parents' house.

#yelling at clouds #they fuck you up #reparenting yourself by proxy (proxy is your dog) except you already started actually reparenting yourself straight-up #and also he's your parents' dog.

[atlabeth]

i love putting anthony bridgerton into situations

#when you’re already going through it bc the girl you kinda sorta love but kinda totally can’t love got stabbed #and now she’s kinda sorta dying and you’re kinda totally dying inside and your sister comes and yells at you then apologizes and cries #and then the parents of the girl you kinda sorta maybe love come in and they start crying and you’re like #oh my god #yeah he’s having a good time

[between-the-pages-ofa-book]

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#me: *starts to get up to go do thing before going and doing another thing* #my mom: hey can you add to the 2nd thing you were gonna do #me: yeah. just let me do this other thing 1st #my mom: ugh so lazy #me: *switches the way i was gonna do them to appease her* #my mom: *begins yelling and getting mad that I'm annoyed she got mad cause i didn't want to do her thing 1st because it didn't have to be #the 1st thing i did but i changed it around anyway* #me: *defends myself because I've been accused of having attitude all week for no reason so why not* #my mom: stop talking to me that way! #me internally: how do you not even realize we could've avoided a whole argument if you had just accepted the your bowl didn't need to be #taken to the kitchen BEFORE i went to the bathroom? #ignore please #goodness i love my parents but idk what goes through their heads #when they start yelling at me and accusing me of starting an argument with them over stupid crap like the bowl #and don't understand why i would possibly feel like defending myself #when all I've been hearing about all week is some imaginary attitude i have apparently had #and them telling me i should buy them stuff or pay for stuff

[mxbitters]

allies need to remember that they’re *allies* sometimes oh my god.  like don’t guilt a queer person for not participating in every single queer thing to ever be happening.  like, please, set up your pflag chapter and do your thing but don’t treat your queer kid like they’re a fucking homophobe or something just because they don’t have the energy to participate in a support group any day :/

#to be specific this is my parents but it's like. #cmon now. im glad youre doing important ally stuff and helping make change in the community but like #i haven't exactly forgotten what it was like before. yknow? #like the outright hostility when i casually mentioned i was pan to my dad in middle school. GOD that day sucked #like the talking over and yelling and shit about that not being a real thing #only for him to apologize the next day when he was proven wrong like #eegh. or when i came out as trans and the just. YEARS it has taken #like i'm glad you've changed and are doing good things but like #you *stepped into this.* you could easily not have any involvement w that activism in a SECOND if you wanted to #but like. i get to wrestle w the politicization of my entire existence *every day.* and like YES i want to be supporting others in my commun #community* but like right now i need to take care of *myself* which is a struggle in and of itself #like he was being RIDICULOUS just now #and like the thing about this is like. im so glad theyre starting a chapter but i feel like pflag is one of those things that like #idk i'd be much more comfortable in like. not the same support group as my parents because we need different kinds of support. #and i want to offer support but right now i just want to be in bed and not overheat