#apparently ppl like dick

[thesewickedwonders]

Not to be a slut but one of my nudes just passed 5k notes and um. What

#thats INSANE lmao #apparently ppl like dick #or maybe its the *** #or both who knows

[sergle]

I really really need a reduction but I'm scared my boobs will be ugly and it will make my dysphoria worse. Idk why I'm telling you this but nobody really seems to understand :/

no, bc I COMPLETELY understand. something that stressed me out more than the money was the fear that I'd do all this work to get the surgery, and then my tits would look like dogshit. that feeling SPIKED again when I saw that first surgeon, who told me my tits sucked rather than telling me he didn't feel capable of performing a reduction on someone with Actually Big Tits. (his patient gallery was full of C-cups for the "before" photos.) this is a real fear, bc some surgeons are just garbage. they don't care about the aesthetics of breast reductions. this doesn't have to be the case at all, there are lots of surgeons who actually care about helping you and getting you a result that's lighter/smaller AND still looks like a boob. you'll need to commit to The Search, looking through patient galleries to see if they operate on people who look like you. but you Will find a surgeon with results you like, who's worked on breasts that are similar to yours, and then the fear will go away!!

#the upside of this fear is that it's not something that can sneak up on you- having a bad reduction result #it can't hit you out of nowhere. you aren't gonna trip and fall onto the surgical table #of a surgeon who isn't qualified to perform aesthetically pleasing breast reductions #you can't be tricked here. you look at the photos and then you set up the consult #and talk to the surgeon and you ask about what results you can expect #and it's all going to be given straight to you. if your surgeon doesn't do good work then it'll be apparent. #ppl like to be such dicks about this bc it is a surgery that's about pain and convenience First. so it's like oh why are you so #bent outta shape about the way they look?? oh only bc I'm a human person. and I don't want to feel bad. #you're allowed to be picky about your result and about your surgeon #sergle answers

[rocker-socks]

not to be insane but Stephanie Brown is so underrated and i really do hate to say its misogyny but. well. It is.

#stephanie brown #batman #spoiler #this WILL get me shot but. steph is everything fanon tim wishes he was #i think i could write a whole dissertation on how if steph was a guy people would love him #like. obviously Some Men In Comics will not be happy with any female characters that aren't background wives or daughters #but this is so apparent with fandom that its kinda. boggling #know i shouldnt read too deep into it bc duke and cas get done dirty as well #(duke and cas are whole other rants. i love them both dearly and i DO think Cas should be Batmans heir bc she is literally the Ideal Fit #while WFA is great but has also reduced peoples perception of Duke to a reader insert that is still learning the ropes instead of like. #the robin gang leader who has been studying since birth to defeat the riddler. who has powers. #duke and cas are kinda insane and deserve that recognition is all so i dont go into another rant) #the way that people are so happy to have the batboys be complicated people (even when they reduce them down to core traits) but not steph #she's always the fun one #her struggle with being a completely average teenager fighting to be recognized and her struggles with self worth gets put to the side #oh for what? waffle jokes? yeah okay #ppl would be dickriding her so hard if she had an actual dick i KNOW it #ppl would be making tiktok mitski edits of her

[lord-squiggletits]

NGL I think one of my least favorite "gotchas" that I see/get while critiquing stories is "so how would you fix it? oh so you don't have an idea of how to rewrite the story to make it better? oh so basically you're just complaining that you don't like it and don't have actual critique."

Buddy.

Sometimes the reason I don't have a "solution" to how the author should've rewritten their story to be better, is because I'm not privy to the author's thought process, what their alternate story ideas were, what they talked about with their editor, what they might've been forced to do by deadlines, or even what they might've thought they were writing towards at first but then later changed the trajectory of their story to be about something else.

It's all well and good for me to say something like, idk, "I think Character A should've gotten more narrative focus because their story could have helped fix XYZ Plot Hole," but it could very well be that the author never intended for Character A to be a prominent character (just a secondary or tertiary character). Maybe using Character A to solve one Plot Hole would've gone against the writer's plans because then it would open up a different plot hole for something else they had planned later in the story. If it's an ongoing story, maybe something I see as a "plot hole" is actually a deliberate mystery that the creator left open to write about later-- or maybe the plot hole is because there was a deadline crunch and the author had to drop a certain character/plot point/etc because they couldn't fit it into the story any more. Maybe having Character A be a more prominent part of the story is just based on MY personal tastes and what I would want to write in MY version of the story, but completely clashes with the characters/conflicts the author wanted to focus on.

Because yes, there are some story critiques that are as simple as "part A doesn't make sense, you could just fix it by doing B", but there are also some story critiques where suggesting a viable "solution" would require BEING the author or someone involved in the production of the story to understand what limitations or plans were involved in the selection of that flawed plot point. There are also some story critiques where even if there is a "problem" and my critique offers a "solution," there could be another "solution" or even dozens that do just as good of a job fixing the issue, but involve vastly different characters, plot ideas, so on and so forth.

Being a good critic isn't (just) about going "the story would've been better if X happened" because the story is ultimately in control of the author and their vision, and without knowing what the author's vision was (something that you almost exclusively know if you're 1. the author or 2. their beta reader), it's impossible to definitively say "this plot point should've been cut/[completely different thing] should've happened instead" because THAT is the point at which you're complaining, not critiquing. I would argue that in some cases, trying to "fix" a story yourself actually makes your critique worse, not better, because it ends up being a case of you simply imposing your artistic vision over the author's to say "I think it would've been better this way."

At least if you just say "this part of the story was flawed because XYZ" without saying "it should have been ABC instead", then you're stating your grievances with the story without being presumptuous enough to assume that YOUR version of the story would fit the author's original vision, or the constraints they were working under, or the other versions of the story that they were debating over at the time before ultimately settling on one version (even if flawed).

There's a point at which "this plot is flawed, that should've happened instead" is just fix-it fan fiction and not actual critique that could help the writer write their story in a way that fits their vision.

#squiggposting #discourse #i think the closest you can get to definitively saying 'the author should've done X instead' #would be something like JRO and the handbooks he recently released where he actually revealed alternate plot ideas #or like what the reasoning was behind different plot points. as well as what he did and didn't include and why #because THEN with a more clear understanding of the behind the scenes/what the author wanted to achieve #THEN you would have more information to be able to say 'this alternative storyline would've solved this plot hole' #or to even say 'actually those alternate ideas weren't as good and picking the canon flawed plot made a better story' #like for god's sake ppl apparently don't understand that art and storytelling and creativity are subjective #sometimes if i don't have a solution it's not bc my critique is invalid. it's bc there's multiple ways to fix it #and i'm not the author so idk which way of fixing the story would best suit their intentions/purposes/limitations #despite what snobs seem to think it's very possible for you to say 'this is flawed' and not know what the fix for it is #it's like how you can eat restaurant food and go 'something about this tastes bland' #w/o having to know what ingredients went into the recipe or how it's supposed to taste #and in that case unless you literally know the recipe or are a chef you would come off as a dick #if you tried to dictate to the kitchen what they did wrong and how to fix it #for some reason story critics are terrified of ambiguity and uncertainty and subjectivity and idk why #it is very easy and not intellectually wrong for a person to say 'this is flawed' and not have a solution for how to fix it

[welcometogrouchland]

Remember when people would make gifsets and analysis posts and stuff about the meanings behind characters names, and find a interpretation that- regardless of whether or not it was intentional- added like another layer to the characters story??? That shit was amazing I miss it

#ramblings of a lunatic #ppl probably still do it in all fairness but I've only seen it in cases where the name is very relevant/the significance is clear #i got caught up thinking about how damian wayne's name (when u use his moms name as his surname) means ''tamer of demons'' #and how that ties into his arc and i. aughj. kills #but i also have been thinking about Dick and Steph (i was reading batgirl 2009) and i realized their names have similar meanings? #like richard means strong in rule or something to that effect #obviously has to do with the english king richard and this connection is referenced in Nightwing 2016 issues 16-20 #but STEPHANIE comes from the greek stephanos which apparently means ''crown'' #and then you draw the elaborate web of connections between Steph and Dick's characters and all their similarities and differences #and i become evil <3 #i also have Feelings and Thoughts about a possible intention behind cass' name. visa vie the Cassandra of greek myth #but consider: it is very late and i should sleep #anyway shoutout to toh also the name game on that show was EXCELLENT almost every name had significance to it #but not so much it became distracting y'know? good concept good execution we love to see it!

[purrfurnax]

flicking our g.yokko fictive on the nose. fucking stop!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#hes being a complete dick to like everyone suddenly idk #guilt tripping and trying to start arguments over whos fault stuff is #trying to start shit with ppl outside the sys too now apparently #and mostly h.antegus subsys #because of stupid inner relationship drama

[ssaalexblake]

Some people on this site are So rude and mean over the most inconsequential bullshit that it’d be funny if it wasn’t actually hurtful. 

#signed the side show dog apparently #a lot of the time i think i have crappy social skills but the helpful residents of tumblr remind me i am actually #at least #am not a jerk #different fandom experiences are not a crime and if if genuinely bothers you #that's a You problem #as is a compulsive need to be Correct(tm) all the time #chill the fuck out and leave like actual reasonable people idk it tends to work well for everybody else #but really the people who compulsively correct others Need to chill on this one. If you Have to correct people over inane shit Every time #it's legit a you problem #unless they explicitly asked you to do it #yes yes i know it can be annoying when other ppl get stuff wrong #but listen. somebody being wrong about something that doesn't matter is Not worth making them feel bad to cater #to your own perfectionism #it's not. #and an inability to understand people work in averages when talking about group sizes is unhelpful and pedantic #anyway tldr a bunch of you Need to recognise dumb fandom shit you are annoyed by is not a reason to be a dick to/at somebody #like i would never make a comment about somebody on my page if they'd ever see it #Ever. #i actually check even before i do the tumblr version of sub tweeting somebody #that they don't follow me #because i am not cruel #i'm easily irritated but i'm not mean #oh and btw.... reading comprehension. Try it.

[trans-xianxian]

every time I think my brother has grown the fuck up and become a decent person he says some stupid shit again

#our stepdad has been taking moms death REALLY really hard and apparently he was admitted to the hospital yesterday #and my sister sent out a text to all of us abt it #and he's just being a dick?? #like I'm not close w my stepdad At All but cmon dude #he's like judging him for being alcoholic #and being like Everyone Else Was A Functional Person After Her Death okay person who had a negative relationship with the deceased #if I thought anything could be gained from calling him out I would but I don't have the energy or patience to start a battle I won't win #'I'm sorry a human being is suffering but blah blah blah' go fuck yourself dude #addiction is a disease asshole!! everyone handles grief differently dickhead!!! #the way he he's barely said shit in this groupchat until now.... 🙄 #truly have barely any emotional connection to my stepdad but my brother is just being a dick straight up! #he literally said 'take accountability and grow the fuck up. ppl die and it can bury you or you can take it in stride and live on' #maybe YOU should grow the fuck up and be empathetic to peoples suffering #anyway. #ghost posts #text

[treesbian]

i feel insane i feel so insane. i feel so goddamn fucking insane. feels like my sisters won't allow me to even be civil to them anymore every interaction ends up with all 3 of them insulting me and when I tell them shit like "you're being mean" or "i don't think that criticism is coming from a place of love" they just try and justify themselves and insult me more. no one is on my side but I'm so so convinced that if an outside party came and observed what was happening they would see i'm being bullied. maybe i am insane. maybe there's a reason no one is on my side. i know i'm not perfect but goddamn. i love them so much and it feels like they hate me. i can say the world's most neutral statement ever and one of them'll have a snide and insulting comment about it and then everyone acts like i'm being unreasonable if i react. and again if i call them out and i say "you're being mean. do you not see what you're doing? you're being mean." they all just get excused bc apparently me having a hard time with filtering what i say and having debilitating executive dysfunction is "traumatizing" and their bullying is a trauma response. and they won't let me even fix my behavior bc if i say something that contradicts my past behavior they'll be like "oh so NOW u care about that. you don't actually care 🙄" can i do fucking anything. can i do fucking ANYTHING.

(through gritted teeth) my big sister's coming back from washington next week. next week she's coming back from washington. i think she'll be able to recognize what's happening, right? like if they do it in front of my parents then they'll probably do it in front of her too. but ofc my parents don't care. they are actively against my side in this.

#talk tag #the other day my godsister said i love myself more than anything else and the only thing i actually care about is being right #and i said 'you're being mean.' #and she just said 'it's true :/' #also in that conversation i got accused of ruining birthdays #apparently. my baby sisters birthday was ruined bc i called her a hypocrite about smth to do with juice... #like she was getting on everyone else for drinking some kinda juice and then she asked me to get her some of that same juice #and i made a joke calling her a hypocrite and that apparently ruined her birthday. #i didn't mean to hurt her feelings and i am sorry that i did. but. hm. #and then i apparently ruined my little sisters birthday bc i defended polyamory as a valid relationship type that can work out #and be committed. but everyone got mad at me bc they think commitment and exclusivity are the same thing #so polyamory apparently is inherently non commital and can never work out for everyone involved bc of that. but that just... isnt true #and i was calm the whole time i was making my points. ppl being angry when they argue doesn’t make their points less valid but i think #'polyamory is fine and works for a lot of ppl u just gotta communicate' is SUCH a silly take to get mad at. mind your business!! #they get very mad at me very often and it is usually bc i said smth to the tune of 'don't be a dick' #and sometimes it's for literally no reason and they get angrier when i react #my big sister's coming home soon. she'll be home next week. maybe she'll see. she at least wont be actively against me. lmao

[hirokiyuu]

unrelated to anything at all and unimportant to anyone but me but i DO think in the hypothetical jpns translation the fact that utopia tries to INSIST on being utopia-ba-san instead of nee-san is soooo funny

#jpns media is like 'women fight to be thought of as young!!!' #and meanwhile utopia at twenty-eight being like. NO IM UR AUNT IM NOT UR BIG SIS #peak. love that shit #god i want to talk abt hypothetical jpns translation but when i joiend the server hwere ppl were doing htat #a) there were already 100+ ppl there (god) #b) when i backread no one had done any jpns stuff at all #and c) the first guy i talked to was a dick to me and apparently was Consistently Like That #so i just left. You Can Just Leave! You Can J #personal

[zemnarihah]

much to think about.

#i had lunch w my sister today and she was talking abt our dad and abt how him being like emotionally abusive made her a huge people pleaser #and she was like yeah i think you didnt get that as much #you were always the one who stuck to your guns or just didnt talk to him #and at first i was like what bc i literally dont think anything i ever did could be rlly described as actually sticking to ones guns i alwa #felt like i was so avoidant of any conflict w him bc yk i was like. terrified of him. but i was thinking abt it and compared to her i think #like yeah actually shes right? bc i would avoid conflict w him but i did that by like fully cutting off our relationship as much as #possible and she did it by trying to please him all the time. which probably neither were that healthy obviously they were jsut like. our #instincts for how to protect ourselves yk. but the thing is for the past few months i thought i had been learning how to not be so scared #of making ppl mad and to be more assertive and stuff. but i think actually i probably have always had that strength maybe it was just. #kinda beaten down for a while since standing up for myself always made things worse. so the other option to not allow him to treat me like #that was to cut myself off from him. But i still did that yk? idk. #like i was thinking more abt it and #i was the one who left the church at 18. after i moved out but i did. and i didnt hide it after that. my sister has apparently been mentall #out for years now and nobody in our family knows but me. bc she is so scared to disappoint him. and like idk. i always was like why couldnt #i get out earlier bc i know so many ppl who just said fuck you im not going anymore at like 14 or smth and i was like why couldnt i do that #but i guess looking at it from my sisters pov our situation was just really fucking hard. and i guess im realizing i was honestly a lot #stronger and braver than i thought i was that whole time. idk. #lol its like bittersweet. bc it makes it so much more real that it was actually super fucked up. the way we grew up. like i think sometimes #the easiest thing is for me to go haha yeah my dad was kind of a dick and whooaaahhh so crazy i grew up mormon hahah! but its like no that #was fucked up. but look at how i made it through that yk. its kind of making me. idk. develop some more respect for myself i guess #idk idk #ignore me i am just journal posting . lol #exmo tag

[milflewis]

🐰- you’re highkey very funny n sweet

pls….how did u know that being called funny is my weakness

how intimidating am i ask game

#when i was like. 4 my cousin told me i was ugly n stupid n not funny n i apparently laughed for all of it #except the not funny part n told them to go suck a dick n fuck themselves 😔 #n some other stuff that i wil not be repeating #i MAY put too much importance into making ppl laugh. but listen !! i just love it ok. it gives me joy #KYLE KYLE R U HEARING THIS #ren thinks im funny n sweet 🥰 #i think UR funny n sweet ren. ur my favourite out of kyle’s friends btw #ask games #ren tag #niamh.asks

[cunni1inguistics]

im a lesbian so i have no experience with dick is it true that girth > length

imo too long is useless at a certain point bc it will just hit your cervix which can be quite painful while a dick that is shorter but thick gives you more stimulation than a long and thin one

#or as they say 'long and thin goes too far in but short and thick will do the trick' #obviously also comes down to how stretchy you are if you know what i mean. my bfs ex was too tight for him for example so his size hurt her #also personal preference is important cus some ppl like the cervix thing but apparently thicker dicks #expand the vagina more so theres more nerve endings being stimulated #still at the end of the day technique is obviously gonna be the deciding factor lol #& im speaking as someone whos only slept with 2 different guys but i personally prefer regular length & girthy over long #also surreal to believe that my very recently lesbian-turned-bisexual ass is supposedly qualified to give info about dick now omg #asks #anon

[just-a-queer-crow]

Hmmm have to post this for clarification I think becuz ppl keep misconstruing me:

A) I think u can HC what u want no one’s stopping u (that doesn’t mean ppl can’t say things abt it)

B) HCing other versions (like a book version or whatnot) of a character that r not specifically canon to a certain sexuality/gender is fine

C) if u HC a character as multiple genders that include the canon gender, fine whatever idc

D) now when u completely erase said characters canon sexuality/gender (specifically if queer (or honestly if straight if that’s important to the character, like Tao in Heartstopper,etc.)) that’s when I start to have an issue. Representation is so important to ppl and erasing that for ur fic or art or whatever is hurtful to ppl. Esp w/ underrepresented genders and sexualities. I am begging u to think abt how it might hurt ppl when u do this okay? Imagine if u HCed a canonically bi character as gay?? It’s not cool! Why is that different for gender? I understand gender is fluid and whatnot but these r characters, and representation of specific identities is important

Anyway blah blah blah what do I know I’m a stupid kid ig

#I don’t understand how this is a wrong/bad opinion to have #like genuinely #???? #the internet is so confusing to me #I don’t really care for being calling transphobic to trans men #as im a trans masc person myself #and while that’s not the same #I personally find myself in the same boat as many trans men #maybe my Og words were harsh but also it was like 3 am and I just wanted to vent???? I didn’t think ppl would see it #so like obvi I didn’t give any nuance to the situation #also I was told that Enby ppl and trans men have abt the same amnt of rep in my inbox #which was wildly untrue and maddening #I can barely count any Enby characters in mainstream media like??? #and yet I can think of a lot more trans men #and apparently neil gaiman called me a dick #which like a) the asker totally misconstrued my words (inch resting) #b) neil gaiman isn’t queer???? I know he’s written queer media but idk if I trust him to speak accurately on queer issues #but like fuck me ig #semi-venting ig

[autistic-britta-perry]

my sister after we served drinks for a shift at this volunteer thing: *talking about how she likes it bc she gets to socialize a lot and chat with people* me who had found the experience nice BECAUSE I didn't have to talk to people beyond 'hello what do you want, here's the drink and this is the price: ..... huh

#I generally tend to not want to talk in a 'professional' setting even if I wasn't really working but like #idk it was just funny like I was thinking this was a place where you weren't forced to socialize and a lot of people out there are like #'yay we can socialize a ton' #I respect it I just don't get it personally #maybe this was why I felt some people were giving me weird looks in retrospect #also I had been thinking that in any job where people have to talk to clients like in bars #restaurants or anywhere they're selling stuff everyone is just forced to talk to ppl and hating it which?? I'm sure partly is true #specially if a client's a dick and the person has to still be nice or like that crazy thing that happens in usa where cashiers have to be #like super extra nice and friendly for some reason #but apparently some people do enjoy some part of these conversations??? i have been told

[octoyanko]

so, explain this to me, why is it now okay to use slurs towards people you disagree with on tumblr now ? are we really going down 4chan path or what. calling a complete stranger a faggot won't win you a discussion you absolute morons.

#toki talkey #i saw that post abt gg and went into replies #worst mistake of my life #one person was legit spitting facts but since we all apparently hate grumps ppl called them a fag #like what for #what did you achieve #your point ? dead in the water #now you just look like a dick #oh and also you look like a bigot which you accused gg of being #clap clap #like i get it we love to reclaim slurs #THEY'RE STILL SLURS YOU MORONS #using them against each other is bloody homophobic #like if you don't know the person maybe don't call them d word and a faggot?? maybe ? #use a fucking braincell for once #i'm very fucking mad #toki tag talk