#black people can be racist too

[androgynousbirdtale]

DA: 5 Memphis cops 'all responsible' for Tyre Nichols' death

MEMPHIS, Tenn. — Five fired Memphis police officers were charged Thursday with murder and other crimes in the killing of Tyre Nichols, a Black motorist who died three days after a confrontation with the officers during a traffic stop.

Shelby County District Attorney Steve Mulroy told a news conference that although the officers each played different roles in the killing, “they are all responsible.”

The officers, who are all Black, each face charges of second-degree murder, aggravated assault, aggravated kidnapping, official misconduct and official oppression.

Video of the Jan. 7 traffic stop will be released to the public sometime Friday evening, Mulroy said. Nichols’ family and their lawyers said the footage shows officers savagely beating the 29-year-old FedEx worker for three minutes in an assault that the legal team likened to the infamous 1991 police beating of Los Angeles motorist Rodney King. His family urged supporters to protest peacefully.

Nichols’ stepfather, Rodney Wells, told The Associated Press by phone that he and his wife, RowVaughn Wells, who is Nichols’ mother, discussed the second-degree murder charges and are “fine with it.” They had sought first-degree murder charges.

“There’s other charges, so I’m all right with that,” he said.

Asked about the kidnapping charges, the district attorney said: “If it was a legal detention to begin with, it certainly became illegal at a certain point and was an unlawful detention.”

David Rausch, director of the Tennessee Bureau of Investigation, said he saw the video and found it “absolutely appalling.”

“Let me be clear: What happened here does not at all reflect proper policing. This was wrong. This was criminal,” Rausch said during the news conference.

Court records showed that all five former officers — Tadarrius Bean, Demetrius Haley, Desmond Mills Jr., Emmitt Martin III and Justin Smith — were taken into custody.

Martin’s lawyer, William Massey, confirmed that his client had turned himself in. He and Mills’ lawyer, Blake Ballin, said their clients would plead not guilty. Lawyers for Smith, Bean and Haley could not be reached.

“No one out there that night intended for Tyre Nichols to die,” Massey said.

Both lawyers said they had not seen the video.

“We are in the dark about many things, just like the general public is,” Ballin said.

Second-degree murder is punishable by 15 to 60 years in prison under Tennessee law.

Later Thursday, Nichols’ mother and stepfather were joined by several dozen supporters on a cold night for a candlelight vigil and prayer service at a Memphis skate park. Nichols, who had a 4-year-old son, was an avid skateboarder.

RowVaughn Wells thanked those who attended, then added that her family is “grief stricken.”

She warned supporters of the “horrific” nature of the video set to be released Friday, but she pleaded with supporters to “protest in peace.”

“I don’t want us burning up our city, tearing up the streets, because that’s not what my son stood for,” she said. “If you guys are here for me and Tyre, then you will protest peacefully. You can get your point across, but we don’t need to tear up our cities, people, because we do have to live in them.”

Activists and clergy led the group in prayer and a drummer played a steady rhythm to lead into the spoken part of the vigil. Afterwards, skaters rode their boards as Wells and her husband watched.

The attorneys for Nichols’ family, Ben Crump and Antonio Romanucci, issued a statement saying that Nichols “lost his life in a particularly disgusting manner that points to the desperate need for change and reform to ensure this violence stops occurring during low-threat procedures, like in this case, a traffic stop.”

The Rev. Al Sharpton, who runs the National Action Network and will deliver the eulogy at Nichols’ funeral service next week, called the charges “a necessary step in delivering justice” for Nichols.

“There is no point to putting a body camera on a cop if you aren’t going to hold them accountable when the footage shows them relentlessly beating a man to death,” Sharpton said. “Firings are not enough. Indictments and arrests are not convictions. As we’ve done in the past ... we will stand by this family until justice is done.”

At the White House, President Joe Biden said the Nichols family and the city of Memphis deserve “a swift, full and transparent investigation.”

“Public trust is the foundation of public safety, and there are still too many places in America today where the bonds of trust are frayed or broken,” Biden said in a statement.

The Memphis police chief has called the officers’ actions that night “heinous, reckless and inhumane.”

“This is not just a professional failing. This is a failing of basic humanity toward another individual,” Memphis Police Director Cerelyn “CJ” Davis said in a video statement released late Wednesday on social media.

Davis said the five officers found to be “directly responsible for the physical abuse of Mr. Nichols,” were fired last week, but other officers are still being investigated for violating department policy. In addition, she said “a complete and independent review” will be conducted of the department’s specialized units, without providing further details.

Two fire department workers were also removed from duty over the Nichols’ arrest.

As state and federal investigations continue, Davis promised the police department’s “full and complete cooperation” to determine what contributed to Nichols’ Jan. 10 death.

Mulroy told The Associated Press on Tuesday that local and state investigators wanted to complete as many interviews as possible before releasing the video. The timetable has rankled some activists who expected the video to be released after Nichols’ family and the family’s lawyers viewed it Monday.

Crump said the video showed that Nichols was shocked, pepper-sprayed and restrained when he was pulled over near his home. He was returning home from a suburban park where he had taken photos of the sunset.

Police have said Nichols was stopped for reckless driving and at some point fled from the scene.

Relatives have accused the police of causing Nichols to have a heart attack and kidney failure. Authorities have only said Nichols experienced a medical emergency.

When video of the arrest is publicly released, Davis said she expects people in the community to react, but she urged them to do so peacefully.

“None of this is a calling card for inciting violence or destruction on our community or against our citizens,” she said.

One of the officers, Haley, was accused previously of using excessive force. He was named as a defendant in a 2016 federal civil rights lawsuit while employed by the Shelby County Division of Corrections.

The plaintiff, Cordarlrius Sledge, stated that he was an inmate in 2015 when Haley and another corrections officer accused him of flushing contraband. The two officers “hit me in the face with punches,” according to the complaint.

A third officer then slammed his head to the ground, Sledge said. He lost consciousness and woke up in the facility’s medical center.

The claims were ultimately dismissed after a judge ruled that Sledge had failed to file a grievance against the officers within 30 days of the incident.

Washington Post

#tyre nichols #memphis #tennessee #cops #murder #black lives matter #are all cops really bastards? #black people can be racist too #idk if that's what's behind this #ijs #say his name

[randomnameless]

Who's winning the racism contest, Three Hopes with it's “the Orient is composed near-entirely of stupid, bloodthirsty slave-owners who take pride in raiding other countries for fun” or Tellius with it's “racial miscigenation is bad because one of the parents of the mixed-race child will lose their racial traits just for having the child at all”?

Fodlan bcs Dimitri is racist and Rhea BaD promotes isolationism

At least Nopes can pretend to be in the same world as Houses, so Claude, off-screen, when he goes to school, apparently manages to "teach" his people to not raid Fodlan and instead try to have regular and not bloody relationships with them -

But Tellius still takes the cake, because that's how its world works, it cannot be changed at all (unlike Almyrans who can be civilised by a Claude who went to school in Fodlan and this is totally not problematic in itself nope not at all).

So while Fodlan really really sucks because it reveals in 2022 some "writers" still think "the Orient" is full of bloodthirsty savages who want to raid and pillage for funsies and must be civilised - Tellius sucks even more, because the writers, while not showing irl bias, basically wrote "and you cannot have mixed race children otherwise you die" and went with it, while selling the hero as someone who supposedly bridged the relationships between said races.

#anon #replies #pushing it further you can even say Tellius could advocate for racial purity #at least for laguz else they die #even if they can cross breed between tribes like birds with other birds #or black dragons with red or white dragons or even pink ones #beorc and laguz is still a no-no #Fodlan insteads shits on people bcs the writers are racist like this exists in many shows or books #i mean look at ASOIAF and their dokrathis #but at least the writers aren't writing a game where people can only survive if they keep their race pure #i put the emphasis on die/surviving bcs the laguz parent loses what makes them laguz #they're neither afterwards #write it down as Tellius being sort of ableist too? Laguz basically became disabled when they mate with beorcs #10/100 writing gg IS

[craycraybluejay]

I'm just gonna start calling people theymab till they realize that being referred to by your agab is a particularly fucked up version of midgendering

#theymab #ok fine you want to be transphobic i will play ball #same with degendering. ok ur pronouns are they/them now too have fun. #i am SICK of people walking all over us #i like trans women but if you randomly reference someones agab against their will and invent slurs for people like.. #its fucking annoying how many of you just let someone talk to u like that just bc they claim 'more oppressed' title by some ideology #u can say black people are more oppressed than latinos but if u call them slurs and are racist ur still fucking racist even if ur #'more oppressed' #your token oppressed status does not make your bullying and hate and discrimination not that #youre still a bully and bullies deserve to get hit back #literally the only way someone will stop bullying you ime is strike back physically or otherwise #ignoring them or 'laughing it off' or going full doormat just makes them do it harder bc they think they can get away w it #the reason i wasnt bullied? because someone tried to fuck with my property and i very near punched them in the face #and purposely caused a scene #and you know what? no one ever touched my shit or said rude shit to me again. everyone got very kind and civil #self defense is all about losing the guilt smart bullies will try to put on you so you dont fight back #nevet ever let someone walk all over you or your friend

[cyarskaren52]

#So cute #omg so cute #too cute #so precious #precious #awww #mothers and daughters #❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ #This whole case had me changing my opinions and views(at least for the moment) #celebrating the police and the system #being xenophobic towards Canadian people #posting stories with reader plus white celebrities with fluffy or smutty material #nearly being racist towards black men #saying that some of them nigcels deserved to be another hashtag #and backing the death penalty. #megan thee stallion #i’m not sad for her #i’m outraged #i’m just glad she’s in a better place now #those people can speak for themselves they know who they are #and they can go straight to hell #they will pay for their crimes #for sucking that abusers meat #Instagram #As always a loud and sincere fuck you to everyone who has doubted her and supported that Canadian cuntery who must not be named #She went through unnecessary trauma for two years #That’s unforgivable #Next level fuckery #That that type of ish that would lead to an episode of snapped or deadly women #once again

[tariah23]

I hope that white gay couple who adopted that adorable little black child goes to hell so fast ohhhhh

#they’re already propping the baby up on their SM and using her for content… #transracial adoption is a curse #I wish every child adopted by wp the utmost support and safety for the coming years #most of the time they end up so screwed up #they’re isolated from their own people and history and are raised white because most wp don’t care if the child loses their sense of self #and awareness in these situations that they’re thrusted in just because wp wanna look like they aren’t racist for the gram or whatever tf #hiding behind their children to shield them from accusations of racism is crazy #the white gay dude posted a video of himself combing the babies hair too hard talking about some ‘um can I get some help here black people’ #basically like man you could’ve looked it up online yourself you clown #wp be adopting minority children for selfish reasons #the children don’t know any better when their peers use microagressions towards them and they think it’s normal behavior they don’t know #anyone who looks like them #it makes me so sad thinking about the stuff that they have to go though and it’s sad that most of them are only able to be free once they #leave home and I know the the culture shock must be insane…. #finally being around people who look just like you but you don’t feel like you’re part of their world… that must feel so lonely bro #at a certain point you’ll have to teach yourself these things #rambling

[neogotmyblack]

Clearing my drafts bc over the past year I felt a twinge of the chance to offer folks an out or a grace period, so to speak, to get themselves together, but after due consideration I shouldn’t have to hunt, scroll, check and follow up to see if someone un-racists themselves tbh. I may go back and see if they redeemed themselves when addressed and if I see they did, I’ll qrb my own post and say as such, but I’m not a detective. As such, I’ll also not go back to see how active someone is or isn’t anymore.

If I see the thing happened at any point, I’m posting it which will explain the flurry of posts suddenly this morning that were released from my drafts and a potential barrage of posts I may make later. That includes things from over years that I’ll transfer from my notepad, bc originally I started keeping the screencaps and names there & once I started posting here, I paused posting old ones in favor of the most recent transgressions as they happened. Maybe the writers acct is still up, maybe it isn’t; dc. I’m keeping the names on my notepad with a note but all pic evidence will go here with their @ as well bc i don’t see why I should have it taking space on my phone 🤷🏾‍♀️ Maybe the screen-cap is 3 years old, maybe they don’t even have tumblr anymore, iDC. Maybe I’ll use queue, maybe I won’t.

☼༄I always keep track of changed usernames or extra accts of that person that may pop up in my reading while perusing the tags & they note it in their bio or w/e in my phone too so there’s a paper trail (so to speak) so obviously I’ll be adding that lol

#writing UN-network #black girl problems #inclusion is a choice #fanfiction pet peeves #fanfiction problems #social media au posts can be done inclusively too *if you try* #fandom politics #make the effort or don’t be bothered when someone holds it against you 🤷🏾‍♀️ #if someone happens upon this post who are listed as a guilty party #if you want redemption instead of telling me i’m disheartening you and being self centered about racist tendencies you found out you have #don’t be mad at me #be mad at yourself baby #we don’t owe dainty polite requests with 🥺☹️ in them reminding people to be considerate #it’s not our job to teach anyone how to respect the same as other ones #and i’m starting most recent non uploads to farthest ago #I’ll notate that it’s old though. like maybe put the year the pic is from since everything else is already current #i don’t search my name so your sub posts won’t reach me #just apologize to black readers say that you’ll do better #don’t msg me unless it’s a “sorry I see what you mean and I fixed it” bc if it’s just a complaint I’ll ignore it #( #the same way that y’all ignore us constantly telling u or others that y’all be fucking up #🤗 #)

[whimsycore]

I actually hate advocacy work because I can see how much y’all don’t take that “activism starts in the home” statement seriously with how violently antiblack your communities are, how accepting of whiteness they are, and the way you don’t admit to yourselves the majority of your problems are because you lived most of your life being accepted by whiteness and now because of how racist the climate is you’re being affected NOW everyone’s gotta be about your issues? At the same time your family denies service to black people, yall will follow us around stores, yell slurs at us yet still copy us and I’m supposed to care?

#and it’s funny because it’s almost always the same groups of people too #like ‘gasp! i am also affected by white supremacy but I’m okay with it when it only affects Black people’ #i hate being a Black Muslim but at least I can admit how violent the nonblack Muslim community is to black people abroad #how xenophobic/islamophobic the black community is #can you honestly say that your communities built on the backs of Black ppl aren’t racist? people who aren’t black that are seen as the #better option because they aren’t black #and I have to deal with the racist elders in your community but I’m supposed to defend them because they’re finally being excluded by the #same whiteness they were fine embodying or being pets for 3 5 10 years ago for?

[thegetdownrebooter]

People are waking up, I used to pray for times like this.

#i used to pray for times like this #we have come so far #i mean they are still having a former klan meeting in the replies and quotes but still #but that is to be expected #you know whites think they deserve a pat on the back for not saying the n-word so… #but I have always felt this way #but you would get flamed online for saying it #i mean this person is getting jumped by former nazis but still #but the likes on the OG tweet #and certain people in the quotes calling them out #and a few people calling out WHITE QUEERS!!!! #I’ve never thought we would get this far #the fact that being racist/bigot is a coming of age thing or “phase for a certain demographic is disturbing #and when you call them out they immediately hit you with the “so you don‘t think people can change“ when did i say that??? #but it‘s still disturbing #and I’m sorry that calling you at makes you feel bad about yourself #but that’s too bad #just like the black teens you were around during your “phase“ had to hear “well that‘s just too bad“ #you don’t deserve a cookie for not being racist anymore #you don‘t deserve forgiveness either #but if you have truly changed and reflected then you already know that #this post is for the weirdos that go “lmfaoo we all had a neo nazi 🤪“ #and then when you go “who is we????“ they immediately get defensive and weird #“we ALL had a racist phase“ No we didn‘t #that was YOU #that was all you #it‘s not normal #and the most painful part is #that they all were around minorities this time #who had to deal with their behavior

[robotpussy]

everyday I am reminded of why I stopped getting into fandoms

#i always knew the stranger things fandom was being RACIST towards calen but i never really knew why #but today he spoke about his trauma and i am so angry and i was told before a really racist character has a fanbase #but they all hate caleb because he was 'mean to eleven in season 1' 😐 but you lot are fanning over a literal racist? #but im not surprised just angry because why are you attacking a child over a character he didnt write? all he did was act in the show? #but for alot of black actors this is the reality. fandoms will attack the black actors for literally doing their jobs #and i know they do this shit (redeeming villianous white characters and demonizing black characters) because they already hate black ppl #and poc so they just look for any excuse they can find to hate that character without ever having to say they don't like a character cause #they aren't white. that is literally how covert racism works. and ik im talking about fandom but this reflects on irl too #white people think they have a right to be racist towards black ppl and poc when we aren't 'nice' to them like we need to earn sympathy #there are so many instances i could bring up about white ppl not listening to black ppl and poc but im tired #ill touch on this later

[ausetkmt]

Comedian Chris Rock recently got into trouble after posting a meme with a picture of Betty White, the former “Golden Girls” actress.

“The first thing people say when a mass shooting is announced,” Rock wrote in the caption. The unspoken punchline: Bet he white.

Some white critics called Rock a racist. But the comedian’s defenders invoked an old argument: He can’t be racist because he’s black. While others can debate whether Rock is a racist or not, the reaction to his meme raises a bigger question:

Why can’t blacks be racist?

There’s a popular belief that people of color can’t be racist because they don’t have enough power. Racism, the thinking goes, transcends prejudice. It’s a system of advantage based on race and people of color don’t have the institutional power to oppress others.

But Ibram X. Kendi systematically demolishes this notion in his provocative new book, “How to be an Antiracist.” Kendi, a lean man with long dreads and an encyclopedic knowledge of Western history, says the notion that black people can’t be racist is tainted by racism itself.

“Like every other racist idea, the powerless defense underestimates black people and overestimates white people,” Kendi says.

Kendi’s new book is essential reading for anyone trying to figure out why racism remains such a destructive force in American life. There is arguably no better commentator on race in America today. Kendi’s previous book, “Stamped from the Beginning,” won a National Book Award. He is also the founding director of The Antiracist Research and Policy Center at American University and a 2019 Guggenheim fellow.

In his new book Kendi explains why there is no middle ground between being a racist and someone who says “I’m not a racist,” why Americans are trained to see deficiencies in people instead of policy and why he fears a second term of President Trump.

CNN talked with Kendi about the book. This interview has been edited for clarity and brevity.

I think people will understand the people who are actively supporting racist policies. I think people will (also) understand people who are actively supporting anti-racist policies, and how they are anti-racist. But what about the people who are literally doing nothing? The status quo – what is mainstream – is racial inequity. So to literally do nothing in the face of the status quo of racial inequity is to essentially support the status quo. It’s just like, for instance, what slaveholders wanted people in the North to do in the face of slavery, which was nothing.

You have white people who are in positions of power to shape policies, and then you have everyday white people. Who should we focus on? Should we see those people in positions of power as pretty much the same as ordinary white people? I’m saying, no we should not. Specifically those whites who are in positions of power, who are using that power to defend or institute racist policies, they are the source of this race problem.

For us to focus our efforts on any white person who says something or does something that’s racist as opposed to those in positions of power – whenever we take the focus off of those people in positions of power, we are taking the focus off of the source of the problem. By taking our focus off of the source of the problem we’re allowing that problem to fester. And by allowing that problem to fester we’re making the lives of black people worse. That’s how hating white people becomes ultimately hating black people.

So generally white people say, I’m not racist, and black people say, I can’t be racist. There’s a similar form of denial that is essential to the life of racism itself. You have black people who believe that they can’t be racist because they believe that black people don’t have power and that’s blatantly not true. Every single person on earth has the power to resist racist policies and power.

We need to recognize that there are black people who resist it, and there are some who do not because of their own anti-black racism. And then you have black people, a limited number, who are in policy-making positions and use those policy-making decisions to institute or defend policies that harm black people. If those people were white we would be calling them what they are – racists. If they’re black, they’re no different. They’re racists.

His policies will have an even more damaging effect on so many communities, the way in which his racist ideas are dividing and conquering Americans. That will only grow deeper. White domestic supremacist terrorists – they will continue to rise and harm Americans, specifically because the President is not willing to view them as as a domestic terrorist threat. And ultimately I think he will try to run again in 2024. He will try to figure out a way to operate as a king.

Yes. Cynicism is the kryptonite of change.

Yes. The reason why I believe that is first based on my reading of history. In 1860, if you had talked about eliminating chattel slavery, people would have said that was completely impossible. Slaveholders are extremely powerful. They’re the richest people in the world. In 1790, if we were having a conversation about Haiti becoming a free black republic by 1804, people would have said that’s impossible. Haiti is the most profitable colony in the world. There’s no way the French or any European power would allow Haiti to be lost to freedom. If someone said that someone named Barack Hussein Obama would become President of the United States, people would have said that’s impossible.

#Sure #black people can be racist #too #systemic racism #american racism #white supremacy #cnn #Ibrahm X Kendi

[naughtynoodle056]

The constant artist dilemma of wanting to draw some of the most Heinous Horny Unspeakably Hot stuffing kink art ever with your OCs of color you love so much but being Uncomfortably Aware that racial stereotypes revolving around Very Specific Foods exist and people Suck....

#look. all im saying is fried chicken is a fucking S tier food but i feel like i can nEVER BRING IT UP EVER #EVEN THOUGH IT'S ONE OF MY FAVORITE FOODS TOO CUZ RACIST PEOPLE RUIN EVERYTHING EVER ALWAYS #i have had the most Insane interactions with people EVER online simply because I drew a black character existing with an Afro 😭 #(average Steven Uni//verse fandom experience) #so if either 1) weirdos get too comfortable saying some REALLY racially loded shit as 'jokes' #or 2) people assume im drawing this in bad faith and stereotyping instead of lowkey spaaking from firsthand personal experience #i will literally Explode #Noodle talks #negative #my compromise is the classic 'white person tastes really good black food for the first time' #gonna draw CJ's white ass inhaling a bucket of KFC and then I will be given flowers because everyone loves pretty blond white boys /hj #i don't mean that super cynically btw kshdksjdksdjjdd

[mieczyhale]

"i'm not going to read your response because of your username & pfp"

okay "lalala i'm not listening"-ass energy motherfucker

#also 'you can't tell me what's racist bc i'm black' is 100% true but how do you know the people you're arguing with aren't also black?? #i dont think race is something you can assume?? maybe they have it in their bio or you lurked and found selfies... #i'm too old for this #but that doesn't stop my annoyance (my post) or my confusion (my tags) #maison speaks

[snobgoblin]

"football is an american sport" you're right it was invented by indigenous americans hope this helps 👍

#this post brought to you by #my racist as grandpa whos 'tired of seeing black people in football bc its an american sport' which???????? #bro black people can be americans too what the actual fuck are you on #tw racism #for these tags

[fanfic-lover-girl]

Dislike of the POC Term

Seeing all these posts about Moses Ingram has brought up an old pet peeve of mine: the term POC.

In Jamaica, I was just me. Of course, people were labelled by their skin color: black girl, brown girl, white girl etc. But that often did not mean anything deep about someone's character and identity besides maybe beauty standards. As long as you weren't racist, people didn't care what race you were for the most part in current times.

In the US, I am a POC and I hate it! It honestly sounds very derogatory in my view. It's basically saying here's white people and all you non-white people are shoved into this one umbrella category. Why the heck should I be under the same label as Asians, Hispanics etc.?? In Jamaica, most of the racism I heard about came from ASIANS like the Indian and Chinese. An Indian mother at my primary school criticized her son for letting my BLACK brother outperform him on a test. My half Chinese grand aunts looked down on my black grandfather, their HALF brother. Emphasis on half - they made sure people knew he was their half brother. They are great aunts to my mom but they had their issues.

I am a young Christian black woman, not a woman of color. Americans can keep their divisive terms to themselves. Last I checked, white people had melanin just like everyone else.

#anti woke #anti sjw #people of color #i hate that term #asian racism #meaning racism from asians #not only whites can be racist! #blacks can be racist too despite what blacks here may think #race is not your entire identity #jamaica #racial division #racism

[guideaus]

one of kekkai sensen's first serious episodes being about racism with the different species and it being carried out by a caricature of a black man being the racist one is not it, i've gotta say

#personal #i feel like other fantasy stories do this too 🤔 #theres aliens/androids/whatever now. we're so past racism! (except to the nonhuman species) #idk how the manga is but at least for this ep the guy beating the alien thing (i still dont know what they are. what are they?) looks very #much like a goofy character you're not supposed to care about. then the racist stereotype is added onto it #like... how is this a 'racism bad' episode when its also being racist 😭?? #or they care more abt fictional species than real black people #its like in the trigun anime w the ep abt slavers and i think a black man was in charge of it #dumb ass episode #but nightow can poc that arent stereotypes but it seems dependant upon their moral status #again idk how much involvement he had in the anime but trigun did do that

[sayitwityachest]

i really have a hard time with dealing with how people talk about dv or rather DON'T talk about it. The way i see it, this is practically the #1 feminist issue because it basically epitomizes the dynamic between oppressor and oppressed (obviously I'm talking about when a man abuses a woman). Like some women wanna talk about our supposed agency in the situation, and i hate to be a fucking downer, but for so many cases, it's just non-existent. I know this may shock a lot of people, but there are MANY women who have no idea there are services available to them to help escape these situations. I spoke to at least one who straight up admitted she didn't know there were women's shelters.

I think for a lot of people, this ignorances stems from how hard it can be to conceptualize having virtually NO support system. Having absolutely no one to rely on other than your abuser, and no one pointing out that your relationship isn't healthy. And other times (frequently) you have people pressuring you to suck it up and stay. We have one client with fucking babies with her abuser whose mom has been telling her she needs to stay with him despite knowing all he has done to her AND that he has a fucking kill kit in his car (rope, tape, shovel, knives, gloves, etc). This shit is WILD and so many people have no idea how bad it can be.

And those are just the super dangerous situations. I've been around DV my entire life, most people have, but just don't realize it. It's not hard to just look and see WHY this shit happens. Money, kids, lack of education/independence, the extremely poor, debalitating self-esteem that is so common in women- these are just a few of the base level factors.

And feminism is about realizing that, seeing women's position in life as it really fucking is, and trying to help women liberate themselves. So, all that being said, fucking shrugging your shoulders like "oh geez idk just dont date men" is soooooo fucking stupid

#a lot of women on here just care about lesbians specifically and that is a okay with me #but es not feminism bc feminism is about all fucking women #so it's the hypocrisy #it just gets me bc how can you tout being a radfem and then just shit on the majority of women for how they are oppressed lmao #not to mention that there are def lesbian women stuck in abusive relationships with men :/ #on another note #like i know this is just a website lmao #(i dont mean that it cant have an effect on people- i mean i see that this is clearly not ground zero radfem) #but oh my goooood the way some of the women on here pat themselves of the back bc they are just so smart #and they really care about women teehee #like gorl no u dont #ur a just an edgelord lmao #like u wanna talk about how radblr (the internet) is racist but then wanna say how stupid women are for continuing to date men??? #like hello there are disproportionate numbers of black women at my shelter compared to white women #so going by this logic apparently bw are too stupid to save themselves #which is obv a load of shit and we see these numbers because the bw in my region deal with racism which exacerbates other factors of dv #like poverty for example #theres other shit besides racism at play but u get my point #ugh #rant #dv