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batwynn · 3 months

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Ok so since my last post about Palestine on this blog*, which I spent multiple days writing to try to make it as clear as possible where I stand and how I feel about both what is happening and how people are using their couch activism to do nothing but get internet points against other people on the internet, I’ve received a bunch of ‘go girl give us nothing’ kind of anons praising me for ‘not taking a stance’ or yelling at me for ‘not talking a stance’.

Which, for one. No. Just because don’t talk about everything that I do to support important causes does not mean I don’t do anything. I’m not posting my donation receipts online for your approval.

I’m also… I’m genuinely lost as to how that was the message received. I know I’m autistic af, but don’t feel like that’s what I said at all and I can’t figure out why that’s what people got from it.

This will be another long post with basically the same information as the last one, but put more bluntly. If you are still struggling to understand where I stand, I genuinely don’t know how to help you with this anymore and I’m not spending more energy hashing it out for you.

I thought I said, pretty explicitly, that I think colonizing entities and terrorism is bad. That genocide is bad. I thought it was very clear that I don’t support the murder of many thousands of people—tens of thousands of children. I included the USA in this previous statement explicitly because we are backing a genocide, yet again. (If not, you know, directly doing genocide against people ourselves.) I expressed clearly, I thought, that I did not support anyone killing innocent people, as a reminder to the ‘what-about-ers’, who like to say that people who don’t agree with a genocide ‘cheer on’ what the Hamas did to random citizens. I cant 100% say I know enough about the Hamas and their desires to tell you much more of my thoughts about that. It’s been a constant struggle with misinformation, in general, but a lot of it surrounding them and their beliefs/actions.

I thought it was also pretty clear that I am so far removed from this that I’m constantly aware that me saying anything could be based on wrong, outdated, or mistranslated info at any given point. I’m catching up as fast as I can, continuously educating myself, and voiding years of propaganda from growing up in this shitty ass country with its shitty ass education propaganda system. I mean a lifetime of messages directly from the media, our politicians, teachers, etc. to not pay attention because it’s ’not our problem’ as a country and there’s ’always a war there’ so ‘don’t care about it’ and ‘don’t react.’ Which is part of the reason why I made the original post, because I do care and I am reacting, and it does matter.

So, I guess I have to say it again, because as hard as I tried to get the message through last time, it apparently got lost somewhere.

I do not support the ongoing genocide of Palestine. I do not support the crimes against humanity that I have seen happening there. I do not support murder and terrorism. I do not support the country I am forced to live in, and its involvement in this. (USA)

I do love my Jewish and Muslim friends. I do not believe in a bigoted hatred against either religious grouping based on the actions of some people. I support the Jewish people standing up for Palestine. I do want peace. I do want healing. But I am also aware that peace and healing is something heavily owed to Palestine for many years now, and that it can’t be achieved until something massively changes in how the world and Israel treat them.

Now, if this statement is not clear enough or is said the ‘wrong way’ or isn’t ‘right’ or just isn’t what you want to hear. I’m sorry. I always struggle with communication, and I’m genuinely not good at this. I tried so hard with the last post, and I was still told that I was doing nothing and saying nothing. The only thing I can ask is that you give me the smallest amount of kindness and understanding, and assume that I am trying to communicate compassion for people suffering. Give me the benefit of the doubt, if you can, that I just fucking care about people who are being hurt.

And lastly, please keep your ‘what about’ bullshit out of my inbox. I can’t address every single thing, all the time. I can’t know every single thing, all the time. I’m aware of multiple horrific things happening in the world right now and how important it is to pay attention to them. I do share and talk about them on my side blog* that is dedicated to that kind of thing, but this one thing in particular is something people keep coming to me about in my inbox here and I’m addressing it this one last time.

*Again, my main blog here has always been mostly about my art and projects, and after years of people outright screaming at me to keep it that way and to not include any current events, political, or ‘too personal’ posts I’ve long since moved most of that over to my side blog. Many of you already follow me there or know what blog it is. I am not sharing it again because I’m tired of having personal life things I share being used to hurt me. Also, one last reminder that you can’t have it both ways. You either want to know my personal stuff and political stuff, or you don’t and only want to see my art. You don’t get both. And this will be the last time I address this here.

#I’m not saying this again #palestine #important #tw: genocide #tw: murder #tw: islamophobia #tw: antisemitism #Batwynn Talks #blacklist the previous tag to never see personal or political posts on this blog #as always #again #this is the last time #if you genuinely want to know what charities I have donated to or recommend #for yourself to donate to or to signal boost #message me #I’ve got a few posts saved with lists of them #but one or two that I donated to were GoFundMes that reached their goal or were more personalized and ‘small’#so those aren’t generally on the big lists #and finally #I’m begging you to take your time to read this thoroughly #and sit with what I’m saying for more than a minute #and grant me the understanding and compassion that #I am trying to express care and love for people suffering #and please do not twist my words into something its not #if this is not possible for you and all you see is hatred or whatever #i can highly recommend some intro to reading comprehension books and education materials

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demcnxdrcwned · 2 years

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●°• Rules, Guidelines, etc. •°●

1. 18+ only. If you’re not or your age isn’t on your blog, I’ll probably soft block. You’re welcome to come back when you are though. Mun and muses are of age.

2. Chances are, there will be triggering content on this blog or content some people might not be comfortable with or like. I don’t use readmores by default unless my partner uses it / it’s requested but I do my best to tag using [trigger] tw ( ex: death tw ) for specific things or default tw for general nsfw ( smut, nudity, etc. - things you probably wouldn't want someone to see / read over your shoulder ) or things that I feel should be tagged but unsure of how. If I’m not tagging something you need me to, let me know and what tag to use. Otherwise, by following / interacting with me, you accept the risk of doing so.

Note: I am not a mind reader and will not be in tune with your thoughts and feelings. If we’re writing something you’re not comfortable with, TELL ME. You might think it’s obvious but if I continue writing it, clearly it’s not to me. It’s just as much on me to do my best to be mindful as it is for you to communicate your boundaries. Also I most likely won’t be perfect in adjusting so I would appreciate any patience you can spare and politely pointing out what I’m still doing to make you uncomfortable.

3. Fiction is fiction. Writing problematic content does NOT equate to condoning those actions in reality. Writing a problematic ship, plot, and / or muse does NOT equate to condoning that behavior in reality. Writers can do with their muses as they like. It’s their muse. So don’t go policing someone else's writing. Just don’t interact with content you find problematic / offensive / etc. Use tag and content blacklisting. Use unfollowing and blocking. You control the content you consume and decide to interact with. That’s your responsibility. We’re all here for a hobby, so just stick to things you will enjoy. I myself find some things disagreeable but that’s the other person’s writing, not mine. No need for harassment. Applying the same thing here, a bit of a repeat of the previous rule, by following / interacting with me, you accept the risk of doing so. If you don’t like the content here, DO NOT FOLLOW / INTERACT.

Note: Tagging requests apply here too. If you want me to tag a thread or other content, let me know. If I miss a tag, let me know. No need to be rude. Just “Hey could you tag [post/content] with [tag]?” or “Hey you missed tagging [post] with [tag].” is perfect. Then I’ll tag with [tag] tw. Similarly, you may request I use the alternate face claim of a muse for our threads should you be uncomfortable with seeing the current / default one. If there is none I have selected ( I don’t really have any for the moment ), or if you prefer, you may also request I not use any face claim at all for our threads. But it’s ultimately my decision.

4. Mun does NOT equal muse.

5. Anyone is welcome to answer open starters or send memes / starters ( specify muse or at least narrow down if you can - makes the process faster ) but I do prefer plotting and with mutuals ( so it’s clear we’re both interested in writing together ). Please just be considerate when reblogging memes. Refrain from spamming my activity with it and / or never sending one in.

Note: This is a sideblog so follows will come from my main, lilxmcrtes.

6. You’re welcome to hurt the muses however you want. Just don’t forget there are consequences. Likely unpleasant ones.

7. Discord for rping / plotting / ooc is available to mutuals that ask.

8. Please don’t reblog my ooc posts if you’re not making a conversation with me out of it. Reblogging just to reblog makes me uncomfortable. Thanks!

If you’ve read these, please give the permanent starter call(s) a like / comment to show you have and want to interact. It really helps to know your muse preference to kick off interaction. If you follow and don’t, I’m less likely to initiate ( if at all ).

More to come as needed. ( Last updated 8/24/22 )

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phoenixfell · 4 years

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Protecting Yourself & Creating a Good Experience

An unfortunate post necessitated by recent events. The unfortunate truth of reality is that we, as non-psychic human beings, are unable to determine with certainty the motives of other humans around us. If someone claims to have good intentions but are hurting you, are they simply presenting themselves poorly or are they lying entirely? This is a question you can never truly answer, but here I will guide you through some ways to protect yourself while being kind to yourself and others.

You may reblog this if you’d like.

Although this post was created specifically in response to the turmoil in the Avatar: The Last Airbender fandom, it’s not specific to this exact situation and the purpose is not to take a side. The purpose is to encourage everyone to do their part in ending hateful behavior and crafting a good community.

Contents:

0. Don’t send mean asks to people 1. Install an IP Tracker on your blog. 1.a (How to) Install an IP Blocker on your blog. 2. Curating your Experience 3. Making First Contact 4. Analyzing a Message 5. Fiction as Fiction VS Fiction as Reality 6. The Author’s Duty 7. Echo Chambers & Lateral Thinking 8. Accepting Differing Opinions 9. Good Intentions (Pave the Road to Hell) 10. Being Mean is Fun (so do it in non-harmful ways) 11. Morality (Personal, Community, and Legal)

0. Don’t send mean asks to people.

You know, I saw a post some time ago on the internet that basically said: Why do we see so many posts teaching people how to avoid being raped and virtually nothing telling people not to rape others? So, as obvious as this may sound, I’m going to give you a gentle reminder to not send mean asks to people.

Perhaps you are angry. Perhaps something else is bothering you. Perhaps you honestly feel like you are doing the right thing. These feelings are entirely valid and I understand. However, being mean to someone else on the internet is not going to solve anything. At best, it’s going to get you ignored and at worst, it’s going to actively escalate things.

If you feel down, depressed, or upset, consider this service: https://www.crisistextline.org/

US and Canada: text 741741 UK: text 85258 | Ireland: text 50808

It’s a confidential service that will help support you.

On the other hand, if you feel like you genuinely have a bone to pick with someone, take a step back. Get a cup of coffee, or tea; watch a YouTube video, and later on in this post we’ll discuss cooperative problem solving, the importance of word choice, and how to deescalate a situation.

1. Install an IP Tracker on your blog.

This is a very simple and completely legal process. The easiest way to do so is to sign up for Statcounter. This is a website for market and visitor analysis, but it does IP tracking for free, which is what we’re looking for. The site will even guide you through installing it. However--do not post it into the description. In my experiences, this does not work. Instead, click Edit HTML, search for <body>, and paste it directly underneath that.

For this to work most effectively, make sure that you have the Timestamps extension enabled within the inbox in XKit. If you do not have XKit installed, you can find directions on their Tumblr page, here: https://new-xkit-extension.tumblr.com/

1.a. (How to) Install an IP Blocker on your blog.

Although Tumblr claims to give you the ability to IP Block through the inbox by blocking anonymous asks, many people have expressed doubts that it actually works. Therefore, here’s an explanation showing you how to do it yourself. There are three steps to this, all taking place in the Edit HTML section we’ve left off in last section.

Directly below where the web analytics code above ends, paste this:

Directly below the previous command, paste this:

function ipBlock() { var ip = userip; //example: "0.0.0.0", "5.5.5.5", "3.3.3.3", var bannedips=[ "155.555.55.55" ]; var handleips=bannedips.join("|"); handleips=new RegExp(handleips, "i"); if (ip.search(handleips)!=-1){

window.location.replace("http://www.tumblr.com"); }

} </script>

You can customize this script in a few ways. First, bannedips needs to be the ip(s) you wish to block. You can add more by separating them by commas and enclosing them in quotes, as the example shows. Secondly, in the window.location.replace line, you can insert any valid address. Here are some suggestions I give people:

Tumblr homepage. Basic and effective.

A link to a Google search of something, e.g. How to not send mean asks on the internet

Your own tumblr blog, so they get stuck in a refresh loop

A similarly spelled but nonexistent blog, to give the illusion you deleted/moved

Finally, add onload=“ipBlock()” to your body tag:

That should be everything to get it working. If you want to test it, click the link in step two, copy and paste the IP address that is displayed into the bannedips, save, and visit your blog. If it’s working right, you should get thrown off.

If you don’t want your IP Block active, just remove step three and return your tag to <body>.

2. Curating Your Experience

Although Tumblr itself does not allow the functionality, there are ways to ensure that certain words do not appear on your dashboard. XKit has a blacklist feature which will hide posts containing certain words. Also of note is the wildcard feature, which is accessed by adding an asterisk after the word, ex.

nsfw -> Only blocks exactly that word and that tag nsfw* -> Will block any word or tag containing that phrase

However, I would like to gently notify you that there is significant research that actively avoiding content does more harm than good! Only you can know what is best for you, but there is a such thing as excessive avoidance.

3. Making First Contact

If there’s anything you take from this post, please let it be this one thing:

Always be kind. At first. Then tear them a new one if necessary.

The inevitable happens. As far as you can tell, you’re minding your own business on your blog. Your ask box lights up and you perk up, wondering which of your friends is reaching out to you.

Instead, the message is nasty, condemning you for your support of your favorite ship and the theme of your blog.

You’re upset, of course! And you have every right to be! You put a lot of time and effort into this blog and your ship, and to have someone so coldly butt in--you can feel the frustration mounting! Tears are glistening and your body trembles as you type up a strongly worded essay and--

Stop.

It’s okay.

Take a deep breath and step away from your emotions for a minute. Your emotions are valid-- but so are the sender’s.

Instead of starting a fight, be kind. It may hurt. You may not want to be, but I promise you it’s worth it. Here’s a template response:

Hi, anon. I’m really sorry that you feel this way about [thing] and will gladly take it into consideration in the future. Could you please tell me more about why you dislike [thing]? If you’d like to take some time to gather your thoughts, I’d be happy to discuss this issue with you.

Let me confess something. I don’t suggest this out of pure kindness. I suggest this because their response will tell you what you need to know. Remember how the intro talked about how people’s intentions are incredibly hard to figure out? This is a little trick I like to use to get them to play their cards.

There are three possible responses: They respond angrily, they respond kindly and respectfully, or they don’t respond at all.

In the first case, you may get something that resorts to expletives. They may call you names. They may tell you to delete your blog or any other amount of nasty things. It’s very likely that your very attempt at kindness will anger this person! This is a troll/bully whose sole interest is to get you upset and get themselves attention. At this point, you can safely delete and ignore the messages without any guilt.

In the second case, you have a person with a genuine grievance who just happened to address it poorly. Both of you have a duty to humanity to resolve the problem respectfully and politely. You’ve avoided escalating the conflict, you may learn something new and you may even make a new friend!

This also applies to reaching out to someone for the first time. You see someone doing something you don’t like. Oh, it just makes you blind with rage!

Again. I’m going to advise you to stop. Take a deep breath. No one responds well to name-calling and being condemned. There’s a few techniques you can use (see if you can spot them in the template message):

Listen to their opinions

Actively ask to hear their opinion

Ask for clarification

Validate the way they feel

Avoid casting blame

(These techniques work a lot in real life, too!)

Again, there are some genuinely scummy people in life! But, there are many, many more ignorant people. A gentle pointer goes much further than yelling and screaming.

4. Analyzing a Message

We’ve all been there. We’ve gotten a message and we’ve panicked--do they hate me now?! Is this a troll message or genuine criticism?!

Again. Relax. Push aside your emotions and focus on the logical words as they appear before you. Ask yourself if you are reading a tone that doesn’t exist. For example, not everyone puts active thought into choosing between “ok”, “Ok”, “okay”, “Okay”, “ok.” etc. Sometimes an ok is just that. An ok.

Break the message into parts. Find the logical structures and decipher them piece by piece. Someone who throws some very hurtful words into a message may indeed have a point, despite coming off as very crude. Accept that different parts of a message may mean different things. The world is very complicated and multifaceted. Try to avoid sticking labels to things.

5. Fiction as Fiction VS Fiction as Reality

I’ve seen a lot of arguments floating around recently that seem to think that these two ideas exist in a vacuum. It’s simply not true. The ideas are entwined intrinsically--Fiction is both fiction and reality. Fiction was created to mimic reality yet extend it far beyond what can happen in the confines of reality. What happens in reality impacts fiction and what happens in fiction impacts reality.

This is undeniable.

Both of these ideas exist, and as the author it is your duty to figure out what that means for you.

You cannot hide behind Fiction as Fiction to ignore your responsibilities as an author.

You cannot hide behind Fiction as Reality to promote censorship.

Both of these ideas are far too simple for the complicated world we live in. A complicated concept requires complicated solutions.

Every word you write has an impact on the people that reads it. This is the very definition of writing. We use writing as a tool to share emotions. Extend empathy. We use writing to make people cry, to make people laugh, to make people angry.

To deny that this impact exists is to deny what writing is.

But censorship is not an option. Censorship prevents these stories from being told, and quite frankly, no one should have the right to decide what story should and shouldn’t be told, regardless of what is in that story.

What is the solution then? There is no easy answer.

6. The Author’s Duty

When you put words before another human being, it becomes your responsibility as a moral individual to give your best effort into ensuring that those words have a positive impact on the individual.

This doesn’t mean not making them cry. Or not making them upset. It means ensuring that the morals you impart on them are sound and logical.

How one achieves this is up to you.

In general, tone makes all the difference. Writing murder in a positive light versus writing murder in a negative light can drastically alter how the audience perceives your scene.

Empathy, too, can help sway your audience. If your writing must involve racist police officers stopping a young black man, make sure you delve into how unfair this is, how terrifying it is, how this needs to change. Do not normalize it. Do not let it go by without a somber note indicating your awareness of the topic.

Sometimes, the solution is to simply avoid the issue. There are certain topics that only some individuals should write about, and that’s just how it is. This isn’t to say that you can’t write about it, but keep that writing private.

Most importantly, do your research, and ask for help and keep an open mind. It’s a grave responsibility and you may not do it right and that’s okay! Everyone is capable of learning. Everyone is capable of changing.

7. Echo Chambers & Lateral Thinking

An echo chamber is a phenomenon where an individual’s exposure to certain topics becomes self-enforcing because they don’t see, or actively avoid, differing opinions.

Echo chambers are also exactly what happens when a rift this massive opens in a small community.

When Orange blocks Green and starts posting about it, all of Orange’s friends decide whether they agree or not. The overwhelming majority, due to peer pressure, will agree. Many of them will then block Green and the users directly associated with them. In retaliation, Green will defend themselves. Because Orange’s group had already blocked Green, Green’s friends only seen Green’s point of view and will rise in response to the perceived slight.

What results are two heavily biased groups of users that refuse to communicate with one another and many individuals swept into the mess because they don’t wish to be isolated.

Even worse, it turns a complicated and multi-faceted issue into a binary issue. Either you agree with Orange or you agree with Green. The world is not this simple.

Instead, I would encourage everyone to practice lateral thinking of their own accord. I would encourage you to make your own decisions, rather than blindly supporting or condemning the people around you. Everyone has their own opinions about what is or isn’t okay, and that’s perfectly fine. Even your closest friends will have different opinions than you.

8. Accepting Differing Opinions

Once you’ve accepted these different opinions (good on you!) what do you do now? Simply put, the choice is on you! There’s a few options:

Quietly accept it

Respectfully debate it

Avoid it

Escalate it

The first two are pretty obvious, and the third one is where blocking people and the blacklist comes in.

The fourth one is extreme and only recommended for activities causing active, known, measurable harm to other people.

This involves actively seeking a legal entity to handle the issue.

Being mean to people on Tumblr is not a solution. Tumblr is not a place to pursue a justice agenda. There are bigger issues in the world, and I encourage you to find ways to make a difference that will actually be fruitful. Donate to charities. Extend yourself as support to victims. Contribute to research.

Changing the mind of strangers on the internet is not a good use of your time.

9. Good Intentions (Pave the Road To Hell)

This has been a phrase for a very long time.

What does it mean?

Well, I’ll offer my own interpretation.

It means that people often become absorbed with the idea that they are doing the right thing and forget to be mindful of the true consequences of their actions.

It doesn’t mean to not do good things. It means that good is relative and not everyone will find your actions good. It’s important to keep an open mind and realize that just because you think something is good, doesn’t mean everyone agrees.

10. Being Mean is Fun (so do it in non-harmful ways)

Yeah.

It’s okay. You can admit it.

Being mean is fun!

If it wasn’t fun, people wouldn’t do it! In fact, this very blog was created because I found that writing the character being mean was very enjoyable and cathartic!

So, if you find yourself tempted to be mean to people in your life, maybe find another way to get those emotions out. Hell, people on tumblr just might appreciate you taking up a nasty, villainous character that’ll tear their character up...

People love angst. You can take this bad thing and twist it into something good.

11. Morality (Personal, Community, and Legal)

Bringing this long post to a close, I would like you all to end by thinking about what morality really is. In particular, I’d like you to think about morality on three different scales: Your personal morality, the morality of the community you’re in, and morals as described by laws.

You’ll find that these morals don’t overlap.

Or, at least they shouldn’t. Please revisit section 7.

Being aware of morality in these three ways may help you determine how to proceed when going forward.

Do I personally agree with this? Does the community I’m in agree with this? Do the laws have anything to say about this?

None of these are right. Everything has different morals, and it’s up to you to find the exact opinions that fit you.

Don’t let people blindly tell you how you should and shouldn’t feel about a topic, and don’t let people bully you into changing your morals to fit into their perceived moral high ground.

But at the same time, be open. Extend yourself to new ideas. If enough people tell you that something is wrong, it just may be time to listen.

Be you.

Be unique.

Be safe.

And above all, be kind.

Have a nice night, everyone. I hope we can all work to a brighter future.

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lilxmcrtes · 3 years

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●°•☆ Rules, Guidelines, etc. ☆•°●

1. 18+ only. If you’re not or your age isn’t on your blog, I’ll probably soft block. You’re welcome to come back when you are though. Mun and muses are of age.

4. Mun does NOT equal muse.

5. Anyone is welcome to answer open starters or send memes / starters ( specify muse or at least narrow down if you can - makes the process faster ) but I do prefer plotting and with mutuals ( so it’s clear we’re both interested in writing together ). Also please just be considerate when reblogging memes. Refrain from spamming my activity with it and / or never sending one in.

6. You’re welcome to hurt the muses however you want. Just don’t forget there are consequences. Likely unpleasant ones.

7. Discord for rping / plotting / ooc is available to mutuals that ask.

8. Please don’t reblog my ooc posts if you’re not making a conversation with me out of it. Reblogging just to reblog makes me uncomfortable. Thanks!

More to come as needed. ( Last updated 8/24/22 )

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umbriis · 3 years

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●°•☁ Rules, Guidelines, etc. ☁•°●

1. 18+ only. If you’re not or your age isn’t on your blog, I’ll probably soft block. You’re welcome to come back when you are though. Mun and muses are of age.

4. Mun does NOT equal muse.

Note: This is a sideblog so follows will come from my main, lilxmcrtes.

6. You’re welcome to hurt the muses however you want. Just don’t forget there are consequences. Likely unpleasant ones.

7. Discord for rping / plotting / ooc is available to mutuals that ask.

8. Please don’t reblog my ooc posts if you’re not making a conversation with me out of it. Reblogging just to reblog makes me uncomfortable. Thanks!

More to come as needed. ( Last updated 8/24/22 )

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blodreina-noumou · 5 years

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Fandom Etiquette 101 - Top Five Rules For a Fun Fandom

When you first enter a fandom, there can be a lot of unspoken expectations you might not be aware of. Fandoms are self-policing and self-moderated, so certain “rules” form about what to post, how to tag, and how to be respectful to other people in your fandom, even if they don’t agree with you.

Whether or not you follow these unspoken “rules” is up to you - however, be aware that some people may unfollow you or block you if you aren’t willing to help keep the fandom a fun, low-stress place for everyone.

Here are some very basic things you can do to create and keep a fun fandom experience on tumblr:

1 - Tagging

Use tags liberally! Tumblr has a blacklist feature. This allows people to censor posts with disagreeable or triggering content from their dashboard. If you’re going to vent your negative feelings about a character, ship, or your show/movie/etc in general, be sure to tag it #antitopic. For example, if you wanted to complain about Disney, it would be polite to tag your post #antidisney or #anti disney. (My understanding is that tags which include spaces will appear in the search results for that topic - so ideally, you want to use tags without spaces. However, there is very little consistency about this across tumblr, so it’s your choice. I personally use both now, just to be safe.)

What do you not include in your tags on negative posts? The character or show. To go back to our previous example, complaints about Disney are better off not tagged as #disney. That way, people who just want to reblog positive content don’t have to wade through a lot of hate to get to it.

2 - Self-Censoring

In more extreme cases, it may be considered more polite to avoid mentioning the topic at all within your post. This is especially helpful if you’re talking directly about shippers or stans that irritate you. For example, if you are posting about a ship you don’t like, misspell the ship’s name - i.e. C/exa, Rey/o, De$tiel, etc. This also prevents hate from showing up in the search results for a topic. You can be salty and complain all you want, just try not to put it in the search results. Most people know to search anti posts if they want to rant.

Additionally, don’t be afraid to tell your followers a little bit about you in your blog’s header, or in an FAQ post. This lets people check out your blog and decide whether or not they want to follow you. If you know you’re going to be posting a lot of complaining or venting or criticism, make note of it somewhere people can see!

Finally, don’t add negative comments to gifsets, photosets, moodboards, or positivity-specific posts/meta. People work hard on those things because they love those characters, and it can be really disheartening to see negative comments in the notes. Make your own post!

3 - Unfollow, Block, and Scroll

Someone in your fandom getting on your nerves, and you feel like you want to confront them about it? Hit that unfollow button instead! See a blog that you know will bother you if you interact with it? Block ‘em! See a post that you don’t agree with? Scroll on! You don’t need to fight every fight. Sometimes it’s just better to live and let live. If you really gotta vent, make your own post.

On the flipside, celebrate your favorites! Mutuals, blogs, characters, plots, and ships! Try to be as positive as you are negative, or at least take a little time away from salt-blogging to acknowledge the silver linings. Leave compliments in the tags or on the posts themselves! Follow the people your mutuals follow, if you also like them. Form little communities and you will be a much happier blogger.

4 - Anon Responsibly

Ideally, you never want to use the Anon function as a way to spread hate or negativity. If you disagree with someone, message them privately and see if they’re willing to talk with you. If they aren’t, including if they just don’t respond, respect that and move on. You aren’t entitled to anyone’s time, and no one else is entitled to yours. Be polite, seek out rational conversations, and don’t take the low road when you’re expressing your feelings - never resort to personal insults or putting someone down. In fandom, ultimately, we are discussing fictional topics, characters, and moments. Always prioritize real-life people over made-up ones. This includes sending any sort of hate or negativity to actors, creators, or writers, and also creators of fanfiction and fanart.

5 - The Golden Rule

The long and short of it is - your fandom is what you make it. You are in no way legally obligated to do any of this, and plenty of people don’t. But if you’re having trouble making friends, or feel like your fandom experience has gotten too stressful or toxic, there is one very simple thing you can do - treat others the way you want to be treated. Nobody likes to see people talk endless shit about their favorite things. Everyone likes talking about the things they love. Post accordingly, and you’ll be amazed and how fun this “blue hellsite” can be.

There are others for more specific situations, but these are the top five most common ways you can make your fandom a better place. Feel free to add anything else!

#not the 100 #stephspeaks #fandom bs #fandom #saw some confusion so I figured this might be helpful #tried to keep it non-specific enough for any fandom #tbh I have absolutely broken ALL of these rules before #both knowingly and unknowingly #so don't be too hard on yourself #'they're more like guidelines than actual rules'

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kingofthewilderwest · 5 years

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you know... i only got to be in the httyd fandom for a short while but i never knew it would look like this? i mean, the httyd3 criticism. it even occurs on positive posts that got me clearly scared to ever stumble into one ;__; my previous fandom's only negative parts are the cringy memes but not this. and its been draining me a lot. i've blacklisted the tags already but post replies wont really help on that so u__u im really lost right now. sorry about this kinda-negative ask...

First off: Don’t turn this post into whining about any problems with the HTTYD community you might have. This is meant to be an encouragement to our friend here, not a sounding board of negativity or a place to perpetuate any negative vibes you might have.

Hey there, friend! Please don’t feel sorry!

I understand what sorts of posts you’re worried about and what you’re seeing with unsolicited negative replies, and I’m not going to downplay that you’ve had these experiences. Those are real experiences and I’m very sorry it’s bogged you down emotionally. Negative comments can come unexpected, but as you’ve been doing yourself, there are ways we can take control. We aren’t “helpless” in our online experiences and we aren’t subject to a ticking time clock of “they’re going to get me in something negative.” We don’t have to be suspect to the whims and emotions of the random, unimportant grouchy-ass - someone who’s a small bugger in a sea of positive experiences we can have. Their opinions are meaningless drivel that have no bearing on what’s actually important to our lives. We can block tags and people, we can learn who to avoid, we can find the right people to hang out with, we can learn how to not give a flip for what some Random Childish Sore-ass Josephine thinks (who we can block in half a second and not deal with the rest of our lives, problem solved), and we can surround ourselves with amazing humans that provide us a powerfully awesome experience celebrating together the material we love.

If it helps to encourage you: you’re not going to have to be dragged down into unwanted negativity, friend. I’m not saying this to pretend like any part of the internet is faultless. But from personal experience, I’m saying that is not the core of the HTTYD fandom, nor the majority of its members, nor its actual atmosphere, nor the typical sorts of interactions you get in a day-to-day experience with the fandom. At all. That’s not anywhere typical HTTYD fandom personality.

I know it can be hard, confusing, disorienting, or anxiety-inducing to enter a new fandom on its own. I don’t know what your experience is here, but I know for many people, when we first enter a new fandom, we sometimes tend to see bad sides because we don’t know anything about how to navigate it yet. Sometimes a small vocal minority of upset people skew our experiences, and make us think that what we’re entering is a lot more negative than the actual community is. This isn’t to excuse the few people who’ve been making negative posts, but to say that the fear and experiences you have aren’t going to be typical to your time hanging out with us.

You might be getting odder waves because the new movie’s come out, admittedly, but at least from the circles I’ve been in, it’s been either polite (and tagged) constructive criticisms, or outright exuberant screams of excitement. I’ve gotten a few very rare negative comments that have been unsolicited, too, so I haven’t been exempt.

As I’m sure you may know, most of fandom is finding its core good circles. With HTTYD, honestly, I’ve found far fewer toxic circles than most fandoms I’ve been in. You’re in good company, friend, and I hope you make friends here; there’s lots of long friendships I’ve made here on tumblr from people because of our shared love of Dragons. I for one am thankful to have you here and would love to create a very safe space on my blog that is free of drama, free of anger, free of rudeness toward anyone, and full of positive hype for the things we all love.

I’ve been extremely active and involved in the HTTYD fandom since 2014. If this helps, friend: I’ve found this is a very ongoingly positive community and one of the most positive fandoms I’ve ever been in online. It’s a young fandom, so with that comes some people just learning how to socialize, or people who get scared over things that we later learn is the natural safe course of life... but I find it a lot... purer and more thoughtful and considerate... than other fandom circles I’ve engaged in myself. As with any group of people, it’s got some of its controversies and challenges, and there will be some rare people you’ll learn to block, but all-in-all this is a REALLY awesome group of human beings with a lot of creativity, energy, and love for dragons.

Whatever part of the internet we go into, let’s not let a small subset of people define a large group of people that really isn’t like that. They are nothingness, meaningless whispers gone from the wind, in the powerful ocean of dragon love that we here can create. And I for one will pull around me everyone who wants to have a positive time and positive time alone!

#httyd fandom #httyd #How to Train Your Dragon #ask #ask me #awesome anonymous friend #I hope this comes off as encouraging and empowering #not dismissing you at all - but bringing up the power and might that a positive community can bring!#a small few whiners literally aren't worth paying attention to #it's easier for some of us to figure out how to blink out than others #but I do honestly believe #this is one of the safest and friendliest communities I've been in across the interwebs #Anonymous

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poptartmochi · 3 years

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blacklist tags

welcome! 🦐 This page is dedicated to all the tags I use, or try to use, so that people can blacklist them. If you need anything added to this list, please please reach out to me and let me know- I am more than willing to add onto it! Additionally, if I miss something that you need tagged, firstly I apologize. For most of this blog’s life, I never tagged anything and that’s made it difficult to get in the swing of things/ know when or what needs to be tagged. Please reach out to me and I will tag specific posts + try to be more aware in the future.

Notes for the fellas down below:

Anything with a slash means that I use both tags to cover the same topic: ie eye contact/staring -> depending on the context or how the post makes me feel, I may use “eye contact cw” or “staring cw”

If something on a post sticks out to me and I feel it may need to be tagged, I’ll tag it then but I may forget to tag it on following posts/add it to this list. If you need to avoid it, again, please let me know!

Everything below is the exact wording I use in my tags- for example, csa will never be tagged as child sexual assault but either csa, csa cw, or csa tw.

that said, here are the tags!

sriracha.txt (personal tag, I talk a Lot + sometimes ppl get sick of it! i get it tho <3)

food

long post

silhouette

eye contact/staring

unreality (not the best at tagging this right now.. please let me know if I miss things)

rapid movement

flashing

eye strain (ditto previous parenthesis)

bugs

blood

gore

body horror

child death

grandmother death/sickness

murder (i use this for irl murder, not fictional)

genocide/ethnic cleansing

sexual assault/harassment

csa

rape/rape mention

police brutality (i also might be beginning to tag police in general? but idk yet.)

racism

misogyny

misogynoir

us politics

us stuff (general usage. mainly for non-us followers who’d rather not see U.S. stuff on their dash ^^)

final reminder, if you need me to tag something, let me know!

#mobile nav

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staticzap-blog · 5 years

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Rules

Before we go any further I just wanna state that if you break one of my rules once, it’s not that big of a deal! But only once. Repeated offences or the breaking of different rules practically back to back is a big deal.

I’m not quite sure if I’m going to do a three strike thing or if I’ll just punish when I’m fed up with someone breaking my rules. In addition, these rules are bound to change as time goes on. Now for the actual rules in no real order!

This blog, is semi-selective/mutual only. Depending on what’s up, I may RP with some non-mutual blogs, but for the most part I’ll only do mutuals when it comes to threads.

The way I write for my threads is always in third person. And I always start a new paragraph after a line of my muse talking. Just the way I write, even I don’t know why.

I may not always nail it, but I do try my best to have proper grammar in my posts, when they’re supposed to be taken seriously of course. In the event I don’t have proper grammar or anything like that in a serious post it’s either due to a lack of sleep or I just didn’t catch the mistake before posting.

I hold the right to not RP with certain people and have the right to drop threads. If I do have to drop a thread I promise to tell you before I do. If I haven’t replied to a thread in two, maybe three, days always feel free to shoot me an IM politely asking me if I’ve seen your response. Nine times out of ten I forgot or have just been preoccupied with other things.

The length of my threads varies depending on RP partner/response. One liners will get a one liner reply out of me, a reply with two or three paragraphs will get two or three out of me, etc. Although there have been times I’ve replied to something with a length that was longer than the partner’s reply, usually thanks to muse for that thread. Like most people on here, I do also want some effort put into replies and to at least come close to matching my length if possible.

I love shipping. I will ship most things. Never force me to ship something though, talk about it beforehand or use an ask meme to have something develop.

I hold the right to have my muse not find interest in your muse though.

I am free to crossover with every conceivable fandom/muse that can be found on here. Just be warned, I might not know everything about it.

If I ever reblog an ask meme, please, send it/something from it in if you’re gonna reblog the post from me. If you don’t want to, which is just fine and understandable, go to the source. If the source is deactivated, then go ahead and reblog from me, I’ll understand.

Never try to drag me into drama. I promise you, it will do the situation no good, and it will do me no good.

Anon hate will either get deleted, responded to with a snarky comeback, or not be treated seriously at all. If you’ve got a problem with me, take the glasses off and talk to me on your actual blog. If you don’t have a blog, then why are you wasting your time with me?

I want to keep this blog as apolitical as possible. This isn’t the place I come to for politics and other stuff of that nature. So, if you could be so kind and tag political posts with “politics” I’d be very happy and grateful to you for it.

I am a male mun that goes by the pseudo “Burning”. If that is a turn off for you, I hope you can work through it and maybe get back to me later on. If not, well bye I guess.

I am also Bisexual. So much like the previous rule hope you work through any ill will towards Bi people and get back to me, if not bye.

Almost, but not always, time I don’t interact with a new mutual is because I’m an anxious nerd. So if you want to interact with me, please approach first. If you’re just as anxious, I’ll wiggle my way into interacting with you.

I have no triggers myself, but if there’s something that you need me to tag so you can blacklist it please let me know.

I’m never, ever, going to reveal my age to anyone online. It makes me uncomfortable in various ways. If we meet in person one day far off in the future, then I’ll tell you if it comes up. But as of right now, I’m not telling anyone. With that in mind, I am above the age of consent.

I often shitpost memes. It’s fun and I like it, if that’s not your sort of thing, I often tag them as {Dump Shit}/{dumb shit} so you can blacklist that tag if you want.

Gore will probably be present on this blog from time to time, but I will do my best to tag everything accordingly.

Never be afraid to ask me to tag something so you can blacklist it, I understand that sort of thing quite a lot. If I happen to miss a post that should probably have a specific tag, also don’t be afraid to bring it up to me.

For any smut rules, check out this link.

That is all I can currently think of. Like I said at the top of this list, things are bound to change in here but I will post about the change when it does happen.

Now then, seeing as how you’ve come down this far why not send me “Zap me baby!!!” into my inbox to tell me you’ve read my rules? It’s not needed and for the most part I’ll assume people who follow me have read my rules, but you can if you want to.

#text post #Zop Stop (ooc)#;rules

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hey! i wanted to say i respect your position on not getting involved in discourse and not posting it here and wanted to know if you had any advice for how others can follow suit? im not involved in discourse and dont go seeking it out but i still end up seeing a lot of it on my dash anyway and id rather not. ty

Hello anon, thanks for the question.

Mainly what it comes down to is a lot of blacklisting, unfollowing, and blocking without remorse. I’ll break it down into the different ways the discourse comes up and how you can avoid it.

If someone you follow has suddenly started posting discourse that you

agree with but still don’t want to see, blacklist or ts whatever discourse tags they use; if they don’t use any tags send them a polite ask requesting that they do. If they say yes, blacklist said tags. If they refuse, unfollow them.

disagree with but don’t consider it to be so terrible that it’s a dealbreaker, follow the above steps. if their opinions ever do get to a place where you feel that they are a dealbreaker, unfollow them. if it’s particularly severe, block them (which will automatically cause you to unfollow them as well)

disagree with and consider to be so terrible that you never want anything to do with the person again, block them immediately.

An issue you might encounter (or are possibly currently dealing with) is having to reconcile finding out that someone you have followed or known for years and liked and even respected actually holds some really disgusting views. The fact that you liked them and previously had a high opinion of them can cloud your judgment and make you hesitate in unfollowing/blocking them even when they start posting things on a regular basis that cause you stress, harm you emotionally/mentally, or just otherwise make your dash a shitty place to be. From experience I can tell you that hesitating in unfollowing/blocking these people is only prolonging the inevitable. They’re not going to all of a sudden stop thinking disgusting things or posting about them and you’re not all of a sudden going to stop being hurt by those things. The fact that you liked having them on your dash before does not change the fact that you dread having them on it now and it’s what’s happening now that matters. If you want to unfollow or block someone and the only thing holding you back is how much you used to like having them on your dash, consider this your permission to unfollow them immediately and find new people you’re more suited to.

If someone you follow has started reblogging discourse in order to call it out and you

agree with them but don’t want to see, block whoever they’re calling out and blacklist whatever discourse tags the person you follow is using. if they don’t use tags, ask them to politely. if they say yes, blacklist said tags. if they refuse, consider whether this untagged discourse is worth unfollowing them over. if it is, unfollow them.

agree with them but are torn between not wanting to see the discourse and wanting to be aware of gross people on tumblr so you can block them, be aware of your mental health at all times and whether or not seeing these things on your dash is getting to be too much. if it is, follow the previous bullet point. if not, blacklist the name of the person/people being called out and then block them.

disagree with them but not so terribly that it’s a dealbreaker, blacklist whatever discourse tags they use. if they don’t use tags, politely ask them to. if they say yes, block said tags. if they refuse, unfollow them.

disagree with them and consider their opinion to be so terrible that you never want anything to do with the person again, block them.

If discourse has suddenly started showing up in tags you track/frequent that you

agree with but don’t want to see, blacklist the discourse tags the poster uses; if the poster does not use any discourse tags but frequently posts things you DO want to see in the tag send them an ask politely requesting that they start using discourse tags. if they do, blacklist said tags. if they refuse, decide whether you care more about seeing their other posts or not seeing the discourse. if it’s the latter, blacklist their username or flat-out block them.

disagree with but not so terribly that it’s a dealbreaker and the poster frequently posts things you DO want to see, blacklist the discourse tags the poster uses; if the poster does not use any discourse tags, consider asking them to start using them. if you do not want to ask or do not feel comfortable doing so, blacklist the poster’s name. if you ask and they agree, black list said tags. if you ask and they refuse, blacklist the username or block the poster.

disagree with and consider to be so terrible that you never want anything to do with the person again, block them. even if they make really pretty edits or awesome art or whatever, it’s not worth it.

And in general it’s a good idea to blacklist or block:

the actual word ‘discourse’

any ___ discourse tags (e.g. ‘fandom discourse’, ‘ace discourse’, ‘bi discourse’, etc)

the words/tags ‘exclusionist’ and ‘inclusionst’ + ‘exclusionists’ and ‘inclusionists’

anyone with the word ‘discourse’ in their username or blog description

anyone whose blog seems to be 100% solely dedicated to discourse

anyone with the word ‘aphobe’ in their username or blog description

anyone who posts discourse in positivity tags or other non-discourse tags

anyone who refuses to tag discourse

anyone you see suicide baiting, sending death threats, or otherwise harassing ‘discoursers’ or just random people they disagree with

Beyond all that, you just want to start following people who have the same stance on this as you do and are dedicated to not getting involved and not giving a platform to some of the toxic, abusive voices out there. If you want to engage in serious discussions about some of the issues that discoursers (badly) touch on there are plenty of blogs around who do it in a calm, rational, well thought out, and non-reactionary manner. And if you want nothing to do with any of those topics then there are also plenty of people on tumblr who are very solid about not posting about them at all. It’s just a matter of finding them.

#asks #replies #Anonymous #discourse //

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expose-brynhildrking-party · 7 years

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an open letter to howl/roy/pluto

@brynhildrking @brynhildrkink @expectaance @fef14leo @childoftomes

and their friends, if you please.

i will preface this post with a complaint to the fandom: i cannot believe that you are excusing this kind of behavior. you have been watching silently for months as you just follow @brynhildrking aka @expectaance / @fef14leo / @childoftomes and enable people like howl/pluto/roy to run rampant with their transmisogynistic bullshit, bullying minors and non-minors alike. half of you send your “ilus” when troye @shroudedvallite makes a post calling you all out on your silence but lmfao wyd? we can’t believe this shit still hasn’t sorted itself out since last spring. i don’t want to hear from any fucking apologists, so you’d better pick a god and pray if you insist on encouraging howl’s nasty behavior. the problem is that people who associate with howl choose to either turn a blind eye or kiss howl’s ass whenever they’re called out on something legitimately harmful as though howl is simply the victim of anon hate. do you know what you are doing? you are being an enabler. you are being an apologist. you are defending howl on principle alone.

this is not to say that you must demonize someone or drop them immediately when they're called out about something, but a GOOD friend and good person does not validate someone when they are clearly harming others. howl has only rejected the voices of victims while acting like one in turn. in response to valid concerns, howl gets defensive, picking and choosing which arguments to refute (with nothing but red herrings, at that) instead of acknowledging that they have hurt others. and you guys come to their defense. do you see how alarming this behavior is and why it needs to stop?

these issues have boiled to the point where they need to be exposed in rougher fashion. understand that howl has been approached before―not via catty anons but through private, civil confrontation. when asked politely by a friend to consider their problematic handling of xyz issues, howl tossed back a vague apology stating "yeah, i’m sorry about that, i can fix things", but at least howl had seemed receptive to the criticisms. however, they immediately lost all credibility by CONTINUING the same behaviors instead of improving where they had harmed others. in fact, howl proceeded to bully minors/duplicates along with perpetuating their misogynistic/transphobic practices. the point of this post is to stress our absolute frustration―callouts are a last resort. regardless of your inevitable principle to discourage “drama”, you should take this post seriously and not dismiss it as inflammatory anon hate. the purpose of a callout is to bring issues to attention and educate others on them once somebody is harming other people in the community and willfully refuses to listen. none of this is petty bashing against howl for the sake of bashing, and if you dismiss victims speaking up as “drama” or simply “arguing”, you need to reconsider your morals. furthermore, nobody should encourage anon hate or inflammatory behavior―we certainly do not.

howl, you listen up: i’m not as kind as mod green over there and my phraseology will not be as forgiving, but you WILL be receptive to the content of this post. i don’t approve of blind bashing nor anonymous hate, and that is not what i am encouraging with this curtly-voiced post. however, we have been patient enough with you only for your toxic ass to remain stagnant; you have only continued to harm others and willfully ignore your past mistakes/multiple callouts rather than learning from them. i will NOT go gentle into that good night; i will NOT pat your ass only for you to spit out another meaningless “yeah i can fix things” and i will NOT hear from any of your enabling friends who want to defend you on principle alone. if you want to refute, we can talk about the actual issues, but take responsibility for what you did and don’t even think about bringing another fucking red herring into my house.

this post was a long time coming. in it i will be directly quoting your past response to mod green’s earlier callout. and i’m sorry i have to do this but i cannot tolerate transphobia, misogyny, transmisogyny, bullying, theft, incest/pregnancy/lactation/do-i-need-to-go-on fetishization, and Hypocrisy to boot so you know what? @ either of the writers of this post if you need someone we’re Money Face @munifice and @voidsung from spring 2016, AKA two of the many people who have had to softblock you on NUMEROUS occasions until fucking hardblocking you because your ass kept refollowing and breaking our rules by sending memes/liking starter calls/etc. but you didn't address that part, did you? in fact, you don't address a lot of things. if you're going to make a statement about your previous callout you can't just cherry pick your arguments and sweep the rest of your wrongdoings under the rug. but looking good and presenting yourself as a victim matters more than owning up to your shit, right?

"i tried to be mature about this and move on" you're implying that You're Mature, howl? this classic zinger from problematic folks is 9/10 an arrogant, thinly-veiled copout when you don't want to deal with your shit biting you back in the ass. a better translation: "i want to ignore people i have hurt with my actions instead of acknowledging what i did." don't act as if you're on some pedestal just because the newer/unknowing people in fates came to your defense out of principle or because callout culture is demonized by the ignorant half of tumblr.

-- i cannot tolerate when someone has gone through old posts that do not reflect me now.

you try really fucking hard to sound relevant by stressing timestamps as if we’re being sneaky, but we know you didn’t post any of those things recently and those receipts were not posted to imply immediate correlation with your previous callouts but to expose the harmful things you HAVE done. to reiterate what @voidsung mentioned, you think we had the fucking stomachs to sift all the way back through your blog lmao but these caps were taken and stashed as the posts/content came out; the thing is, people have been fed up with your shit since AT LEAST june and you know what? WE were the ones who let it go until we heard you were still being fucking nasty and therefore these receipts are still relevant to an extent.

i’m being fair with you by saying to an extent because everybody makes mistakes; a year is a great period of time and many of us have bettered ourselves since 2016. do some of these receipts not reflect who you are today? okay, let’s talk about it. here are the issues:

INCEST

i’m going to take a snippet from mod green’s callout:

and here is your response to it:

i am completely compliant to tag things, and honestly, i have refined my blacklist to catch most things that would trigger me into a panic attack so other people do not have to worry about tagging things. i honestly do not mean to forget tags but it occurs from time to time, but i am typically very good at remembering triggers and approaching triggering content.

this is not really my problem with you. you said you’d tag things so that’s fine; tbh i didn’t really perceive your tagging policy as harboring an aloof attitude. my beef is the incest. i think THIS is where you are arguably too passive considering the subject content. if we call incest an elephant in the room, this implies that the issues of shipping it are understood, but it still seems like you don’t understand the gravity of what you’re playing with for the sake of your m/m.

i hardly ever mention leo’s infatuation outside of dm’s for coping reasons, i hardly ever mention leomarx period; and if it even appears on this blog outside of my /ruleslong page, it’s tagged with #incest cw

leo is my only muse that i would ever write incest with, and it is because leo is messed up and dealing with trauma and it would be me coping by writing it, but chances are, i will never write leomarx on this blog.

you say “chances are i will never write leomarx on this blog” with the implied “so it’s okay” as if that wishy-washy bs absolves the real problem here. THE PROBLEM LIES IN THAT LEOMARX IS EVEN A THING LMAO and do you think that just because you also want to justify yourself with “leo is the only muse i’d ever do this with” it makes everything fine? you have to understand that this doesn’t mean anything to other people. do you think that vaguely crying “coping mechanism” makes everything fine? people like you cheapen this term for abuse survivors by slapping its label on harmful practice and expecting the rest to be a picnic in the park. excusing yourself by saying that leo is “messed up” is both an invalid defense and an ableist one. trauma is nothing to take as lightly and as sloppily as you have been doing in your writing. if shipping incest really comforts you, that might be fine for you, but understand that it is still harmful; you cannot force this on other people nor react defensively when they call you out on it.

you like to jeer other victims who are upset with your romanticization of these things, and i just wanna ask why you think that’s okay? you do this in some condescending ass manner by saying “i’m an adult; i can tell between fiction and reality” which is really fucking funny because you seem to use your leo id as an excuse to VAGUE AND BULLY leo duplicates. you only detach yourself from your muse when you are called out on problematic handling so that you can play the old “muse=/=mun” record. YOU VAGUE AND BULLY ANYBODY WHO CLASHES AGAINST YOUR PERSONAL INTERESTS WHILE CALLING YOURSELF AN ADULT. but we’ll further elaborate on the bullying later. back to the incest: if you just pull out excuses for your incest ships and act all fucking catty about the offended audiences, you are not truly acknowledging the problems with the content and are therefore unfit to be handling it. you are being insensitive and harmfully careless, which is the recurring problem in your blog management.

but you know what? there’s even more behind this. when i was on @munifice i distinctly remember an unpopular opinion meme circulating around, during which you had sent others the corresponding unicode symbol + the optional topic to discuss, regarding (in verbatim) “the blatant incest in fates”. this implied beef with kamui/royals, which i had actively been writing and posting on the dashboard. you were rather vocal about kamui/royals and kamui/azura. i quoted one of your posts in verbatim below:

further testimony on this from others: keep in mind that all these skype logs are not some sort of recent salt fest but scattered from multiple people at the times you exhibited the mentioned issues. if you really want me to dig back for the specific stamps i can, but i don’t think they’re relevant.

in response to leo/marx:

(if i have two different colors in one screencap it’s to represent different people within that screencap--i just want to make clear that overall these testimonies are not just two people represented by black and red)

so lmao you diss kamui/royals but will ship leo/marx. don’t be a hypocrite. furthermore, i want to point out that not only did you proceed with leo’s jp incest implication, but you modified this so that instead of CAMILLA, a woman, leo’s crush would have been on MARX, a man. this is really fucking shady considering your abhorrently misogynistic history with fates women, which i’ll touch on later.

so i’m going to ask you: along with being an incest apologist, why did you bend everything for the sake of leo/marx? because to a lot of people, it comes off as m/m fetishization.

you also claimed you would write the “blatant incest” between leo/kamui. however, this is clearly limited to MALE KAMUI because you love to fucking bash femui in your free time.

and i’m really fucking tired of your misogyny, you disgusting m/m fetishist.

by the way, you have written leo/xander as well as leo/m!corrin. i’m sure we can find more receipts if you’re not willing to admit to this, but some of us distinctly remember you writing nsfw content about leo/xander as well as A “GENDERBENT” XANDER LMFAO

[The particularly explicit NSFW parts have been censored]

TRANSMISOGYNY

you didn’t cover this enough when it was addressed.

leo is pansexual panromantic but has the umbrella label of gay. my typing style has gone from past tense to present tense, and one of the screencaps ( again, without a date, nothing from my blog is accompanied by a date to when it was posted ) is from a past tense, [IRRELEVANT RED HERRING] as well as on the callout post that was made by a fun little blog [isn’t it? the blog wasn’t my idea but i think it’s a cute approach to exposing transphobes and the like] dedicated to calling me out contains internalized transphobia against himself. talking about leo’s internalized transphobia towards himself ( a man in a woman’s body - that is leo talking about himself, not leo talking about a transgirl/woman )

the way you have handled your trans portrayal has offended so many other trans people that it should have been a red flag. if a marginalized group is hurt by your actions, it is not up to you to decide that you haven’t hurt them; it is up to you to educate yourself and respect what others of the group are saying. inter-group issues Exist. being trans yourself does not preclude you from doing transphobic/generally harmful things and it most DEFINITELY does not exempt you from being called out because of said behaviors. you pass off all of your transphobic receipts as “leo’s internalized transphobia”, but this is not an excuse to take it ooc. your ooc behavior and your rules had suggested that YOU AS A MUN did not consider trans women as valid women. you are seriously all over the place with misogyny. occurrences below:

you ask people to tag cishet ships and bash any ships involving cis women shipped with men solely because they are cis women, as you did in the above tweet.

you asked @vilebrand to tag their azura/leo--not out of valid ship discomfort but SOLELY BECAUSE AZURA IS A CIS WOMAN. yes howl this is fucking misogyny

you repeatedly pestered vilebrand, encroaching and making a Vague Post directed at them (and possibly others) by saying “i can’t really see leo with a woman” yet you shipped your (then) homosexual portrayal with trans women. you wrote in your rules that your leo was gay but “wouldn’t mind a trans girlfriend” and stress that you only care for “het” ships if they’re trans, as you did in the one of the above tweets. do you not see trans women as “real” women? do you only care about their genitals? do you only care about ships where there’s dick involved? because that’s exactly what it looks like.

you litter your writing with gendered slurs like c*nt and so on, consistently dehumanizing female anatomy but always fetishizing it, as well as other female bodily functions such as lactation, pregnancy, etc. for the sake of m/m smut.

you change the jp incest from camilla to marx. and yet:

you have supported “genderbends”, which are inherently transphobic. see here if you need to educate yourself on why.

this is all inexcusable transmisogyny that transcends whatever you want to pass off as your muse’s problem. there is only so much that you can pin on ic=/=ooc. your muse’s internalized transphobia is one thing, but the way that you as a writer are handling it is hurting trans people. you need to fucking reconsider your authority on these things.

this isn’t about invalidating identities or anything like that. however, your authority on the situation is to be questioned. first off, it is entirely possibly for members of a marginalized group to be racist/misogynistic/___phobic to their own group. this still doesn’t make it okay, and being trans does not make you a monolith. individuals and their varied experiences are valid, but the simplest concept is that you are not supposed to hurt other people, howl. if multiple trans masc. people have been discomforted by your handling, why have you not stopped to even consider their concerns? you are not a monolith. please note that we are not trying to voice for trans people themselves―with the express permission to convey their dismay, we’re including multiple testimonies.

as for your latest disgusting drabble in which you deadname Leo repeatedly and use his abuse by his mother and his dysphoria as fodder for your oh so romantic ship angst,

“sarcasm for the last part” lol. sarcasm whenever you respond to people who disagree with you, including victims, and passing it off as anon hate.

“leo’s trans status and my ships are not related” you literally used his deadname and trauma as the entire Basis for a ship drabble, but okay. you literally fetishize his anatomy in your nsfw content so often it makes people sick, but okay. your romantic little drabble triggered and disgusted people - Trans people, such as the trans masc. person who sent this ask (who we know personally but did not incite to send the ask -- they did this of their own volition after being infuriated by your drabble). i don’t appreciate that YOU assumed they were assuming you’re not trans. unlike YOU, howl, they actually read people’s pages, so your hypocritical ass may want to calm down with the attitude in the tags.

-a message from @vilebrand, a trans person who writes trans leo WITHOUT fetishizing him and using his trauma for ship fodder and also someone you’ve harassed and Copied. The former accusation was touched upon in the section regarding your misogyny and resultant vagues and the latter accusation will be expanded upon in this next section.

COPYING / MISTREATING DUPLICATES

Hi, @voidsung here. While I did not participate in the writing of the first callout on this blog, I did mention in the tags when I reblogged it that you copied a friend’s icons. Apparently this alone was enough for you to put my url under “users you need tagged” on your blacklist, as well as yotou who You were harassing and vaguing. Is that all it takes to get on your blacklist? Lucky for you, I’m giving you a Real reason to feel anxious around me now in co-writing this callout. Back to the matter of copying icons --- your response to my accusation was to claim the following:

the psd I’m using was a gift, i can’t remember from who at the moment

Actually, no it wasn’t. It was vilebrand’s psd. Despite the fact that vilebrand Did post their psd as a resource for mutuals, most people who used it Asked first and changed it up bc theyre, y'know, Original. You however did not ask at all and just Took it and slapped it on your own icons and didn’t even bother asking if vilebrand was okay with it (news flash: they werent !) and, to a Lot of people, you switching to the Same icon style, in addition to the fact that you made a trans leo after they’d already gained popularity as a trans leo, made it look a Lot like you were trying to copy/piggyback off of their leo. That’s not to say anyone owns trans headcanons, of course, but considering you not only copied from vilebrand but also followed them and then started sending them messages despite them not following back, pressuring them in to returning the mutual, in addition to the fact that you accused dastardking of copying from you simply for having a similar headcanon, this hypocrisy cannot be overlooked.

A comparison for those who need it [top: vilebrand’s icons; bottom: howl’s]

and yes, you have very recently changed your icon style but this was the style you used for months and does not excuse the copying.

the only decent trans leo stuff is what You’ve written, huh. Saying what you’ve written for trans leo is Decent is really flattering yourself considering it’s disgusted and upset so many trans people in itself, but also fucking bullshit since you copied from and harassed an Actually decent trans leo resulting in them becoming uncomfortable on their own blog.

once again, you really have a fuckton of vitriol and mistrust towards duplicates despite blatantly ripping off and harassing a leo when you started your blog. the hypocrisy never ends !

VAGUES / MISTREATING OTHER USERS / USING MENTAL ILLNESSES AS EXCUSES

the user i vagued about was yotou, a ryouma that long since left the fandom. back when i first joined the fandom, i was still fighting to get somewhere in terms of writing. they had a leo that was inactive at that point in time, and i assumed it meant for ships, which i was not seeking at that point. when i first started to write for leo, i did not ship leoma - leokumi was my main ship and i wanted to develop leo with a potential friend, but instead of even looking at an au, i was declined any interaction all together and therefore vented.

lmfao it’s about time you outright admitted to vaguing @yotou considering you kept gargling gigi’s name in your mouth.

if you think you have any room to complain about gigi when you didn’t fucking read her rules, think again. “i wanted to develop leo with a potential friend, but instead of even looking at an au, i was declined any interaction all together” why are you making yourself sound like the victim here? we saw your half-assed apology and jsyk if you’re going to apologize to gigi for “dragging her into drama”, first you need to acknowledge what you really did: YOU VAGUED HER and YOU SHOULD NOT JUSTIFY THIS AS “THEREFORE VENTING”. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHERE YOU WERE IN TERMS OF WRITING. FURTHERMORE, YOU NEVER READ HER RULES AND OVERLOOKED THE DETAILS SHE HAD SPECIFIED.

context: the aforementioned meme was a ship meme asking for a list of pros/cons regarding a romantic relationship between your two muses. but honestly is this finally enough?? to tell you?? that gigi had been looking for revelation interactions?? your leo is post-birthright. you asked for threads between the two kings, not any au. it is natural that she would decline and you are in no position to act as if you have been wronged for neglecting to read blog policies. time after time you act so entitled and you don’t care if you hurt others for it as long as YOU get what you want. someone on anonymous had even called you out on this after you posted a bunch of positivity for selective blogs. you did a 180 and preached “it’s okay to be selective!!!” etc to defend this right for your blog, but hadn’t you just thrown a fit at gigi for it?

GIGI HAS BPD TOO, YOU FUCKING EGG. GIGI ALSO KNOWS HOW TO OWN UP TO HER ACTIONS AND APOLOGIZE FOR ANY SQUICKS. AND GUESS WHAT!!! ON TOP OF ALL THAT, GIGI ALSO READS OUR RULES PAGES!!!! Because gigi is ACTUALLY the adult that you like to praise yourself for being despite your immature ass behavior. bpd doesn’t give you a get out of jail free pass to be fucking vile towards others. neither does anxiety, which you’ve also used as a scapegoat to justify your harmful actions. this is not me invalidating whatever mental illnesses you have, but rather a wake-up call: you need to stop hiding behind MIs every time you wrong people and actually take responsibility for the things you have done, because this insults ALL people with mental illnesses. you do not own up to your actions and instead have consistently blamed it on "my bpd's a bitch" or "sorry that i had a fucking anxiety attack but ___" in response to being approached by people you have bullied/harassed. if you feel as if your MI may impose a serious problem to your relationships, you really need to help yourself. you cannot be so entitled as to think others are responsible for everything you do/inciting your reactions by not giving you what you want. this savage anon summarized your ass in less than fifteen words and had us all jumping for joy.

there’s your beloved timestamp, by the way. we can only hope that you’ve learned from your mistakes by now, but given all the recent testimony and receipts, that doesn’t seem to be the case.

DISCOMFORTING MINORS AND BREAKING PEOPLE’S RULES

among all the things people have called you out on, this is something else you must have forgotten to address. because you’re trying to focus on timestamps and maturity, right?

most minors will reveal that they are such in their rules. naturally this is for everyone’s safety. i don’t know if your policy is any different now, but you yourself had said that you would not follow anyone under eighteen. many minors began complaining that you followed them despite this rule, which was one of the first indicators that you did not read rules pages.

PEOPLE HAVE CONSISTENTLY COMPLAINED THAT YOU DID NOT READ THEIR RULES. what’s worse is that YOU KEPT REFOLLOWING EVERYBODY EVEN AFTER THEY HAD SOFTBLOCKED YOU. but lmao “[we] should just shut up and block [you] if [we] have a problem” with your fucking transmisogyny and incest?? WE HAVE. some people have had to deal with this 3+ times.

and lmfao don’t even think about blaming this one on “trying to get somewhere with my writing” because THAT DOES NOT GIVE YOU LEEWAY TO PESTER PEOPLE FOR INTERACTIONS. you’ve sent so many inbox asks to non-mutuals and liked their starter calls. you’ve made minors uncomfortable whether it’s by re/following them or sending them nsfw/writing it in your replies to them. YOU DON’T READ OTHER PEOPLE’S FUCKING RULES. you just blatantly break them and still think yourself entitled to interactions and the like?

i suppose you’ve changed your blog policies by now, because i hear you’ve been bullying/affiliating with minors in particular. now we get into the newer dirt, which i’d also like for you to explain. you and other group chat mods have been ganging up on people who politely express their opinions if they should so contradict yours; you proceed to take your tantrums to the dash and vague them. what makes you think that any of this is okay? apparently there have been multiple callouts and occasions where people have tried to confront you about your harmful actions. however, you have not acknowledged these previous callouts. you have still not taken responsibility for your actions nor have you made ANY visible effort to change, to correct your mistakes.

also watch me use trigger tags !! right now!! grow up, come forward and talk to me privately if you have a damn issue with me.

lmfao no howl, you fucking grow up. stop painting yourself as some victim for two fucking seconds and actually consider the criticisms that others have been offering. if you want to solve the problem, stop dismissing the people you’ve hurt on the premise that this drama tires you or that your mental illnesses do not allow for you to change your harmful behavior. nobody is fucking asking you for anything more than some acknowledgement, proper apologies, and modifications to your behavior.

If any others would like to come forward with receipts/anecdotes about how howl has harassed them, bullied them, and/or otherwise made them uncomfortable, the ask/submit boxes on this blog are open to them.

#brynhildrking #expectaance #fef14leo #brynhildrkink #childoftomes #incest /#gendered slurs /#transphobia /#transmisogyny /#misogyny /#daddy kink /#callout #callout post #drama /

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【☆】I can’t sleep and there’s a number of reasons as to why I can’t sleep so I thought it would be easier to just talk about it here. It’s related to some asks I obtained on my roleplay account from someone who is apart of The Arcana Fandom as well as RPC. I wish this didn’t affect me much but unfortunately it’s affected me far more that I’d have liked it too to the point of I have no motivation to roleplay in the slightest. This is me just writing and talking about it, trying to sort my head out and get out what’s been bothering me about this all. You’re not required to read this as it’s simply me just needing somewhere to outlet my thoughts.

However. if you’re reading this then strap yourselves in because this is a bit of a long post I must admit and it will be hidden under a read more to save your dashboards.

Recently my multi-muse roleplay account was subject to a hate/guit trip anon. The second one that is. The first one is on an archive of the blog. Both where on the same matter of how I ran my account and wasn’t ‘open’ to interacting with people and I was the sort of person this individual despised just because of how I ran my account.

For people who don’t know, a multi-muse is an account where you write at least two or more characters. I myself was and still am a private, selective and independent account which essentially means, I don’t belong to any groups, I am selective on who I wish to interact with due to past experiences and for my own comfort and private essentially means I will only interact with mutual followers.

I responded to them, the first ask back around the start of January. I was polite and clarified things to them that they had accused me off. (You can find the ask and response to it here). In the end, I stated that they could speak to me privately if they had more issues. They never did. What they didn’t know however was that I actually knew who they where. How you may ask? Well they unfollowed me around the time I got the ask on my previous account. As well as that, I had an ask from their main account, directing me to their side roleplay account related to The Arcana fandom. Clicking on their profile revealed I was blocked by them.

It was clear to me that just because of how I ran my account, I had single handedly annoyed this person to the point they felt it was necessary to send me an anon stating this and then proceeding to block me either to ensure they didn’t have to see me again or read my response instead of talking to me like a civil adult? I’d have happily spoken to them privately if they revealed themselves so the matter didn’t have to be brought out to public and everything could have been kept private and I’d have explained the reasoning behind why I ran my account the way it’s ran.

We fast forward two months. It’s now March and I’m slowly getting my remade multi-muse more active all while completing KH3 and the entire Spyro trilogy. Everything is going fine as I’m taking my time and doing things my own pace to stop myself from getting stressed out from a hobby... Or so I thought.

The person who blocked me on my previous multi-muse had gone and refollowed. Only this time they didn’t send an ask stating they had a side roleplay account. A part of me admittedly thought they where a bit dumb for following me after the anon they sent on my previous account. And I hadn’t changed my url in the slightest. It was the same url that I used previously before I moved to a new account and my penname was the same too. The only difference between the two was that I had updated my mun face claim icons with a new PSD, removed a bunch of muses and updated the theme.

I can admit, I should have possibly blocked them when I remade, but I am not a confrontational person and try not to block unless it is absolutely necessary. All I had done was blacklist their urls and muted their account as well (something doable thanks to XKit) so I wouldn’t see any of their posts in The Arcana RP tag for my own comfort.

So it was safe to say, I wasn’t going to follow them. I didn’t wish to follow them the first time and after that anon they sent I definitely wasn’t going to follow them. A part of me knew that they had to be following for a reason. Like, why follow me after the crap you pulled almost two months ago? But I also didn’t want to go and block them in any way and cause more issues.

I shared a meme, asking people to state the truth and what they liked about me and/or my writing and what they didn’t like about me and/or my writing and do it on anon. I got not one but two asks that where... Unpleasant. The ask with them can be found here. I was asleep at the time I received them and no one had unfollowed me so it was clear it had to be someone who followed me. The ask is very long if you decide to read it and I apologise for that.

It wasn’t too hard to figure it out really. When the ask I received in January being similarly worded as the new asks in March. Them stating they have a side rp account was their down fall I must admit as I knew exactly which of my followers at the time and I tend to always keep note of which followers do have side rp accounts for my own reference. Plus from what I had experienced with them previously via anon, it really wasn’t a surprise.

I won’t repeat everything I said in the most recent asks. Honestly there’s no need for me to do that. But I made my point and clarified everything once again as well as saying that some of the things they said where toxic behaviour. I also stated multiple times I had a pretty good idea who they where and in the end, asked them to simply unfollow me. The ask wasn’t even up five minutes before I was unfollowed by them so to me it’s clear they didn’t read it or did they expect such a long response. I proceeded to block both their accounts just for safety.

I shared a meme, simply wanting to know what people thought of me in the end. It was not a free pass to send guilt trip anons or extreme hate. It was a meme that was there to state what you liked about me or didn’t like about me. Same with what I did with my account and writing. Did you like what I was doing in general.

It wasn’t permission for someone to be a coward and hide behind an anon. Say vile words thinking they got away with it. But no they haven’t. Because if you’re going to send hate they you aren’t going to want to do things to get caught. Such as blocking and unfollowing when sending an ask or practically told to unfollow me when you see your ask responded and not in the way you where probably hopping. They’re blocked now and I will keep on blocking them for my own comfort so that they no longer attempt to send any form of hate or guilt tripping again. All I can hope is that they decide to grow up and learn from this, that this isn’t acceptable behaviour to treat someone. Especially if you wish to write with them.

Somehow, this ask has still affected me because I’m still thinking about it everyday and it’s killing my motivation to write. I know it shouldn’t. I’m not offended by the words in the slightest. I’m more disappointed that the person didn’t speak to me like an adult and actually think this is acceptable behaviour if you encounter something you dislike within the RPC.

I hope that this passes soon enough as I do wish to write again. I’m just upset that I’ve realised it’s about these asks sent by a coward in the end.

#; the space garbage has crash landed! (mun thoughts)#((im not adding fandom tags lmao #im not wanting to cause discourse #but i do need to get these thoughts out #mainly so i am not bottling it up until it becomes too much #for myself to deal with))

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