#even the sex wasnt about the sex!!

[pickled-flowers]

Watched Saltburn yesterday and all I can say is if your takeaway from this is Oliver is bisexual you are wrong

#this movie is queer in so many ways but im so sorry none of these sex scenes were about sex #it was purely about power! #saltburn spoilers #i guess #i would love to discuss it but also my friend's reaction threw me off so much #that movie was interesting but all the sexuality was not about sex #even the sex wasnt about the sex!! #we need more asexual and autistic movie critic #idk what world my friend lives in but thats not me #im just being dramatic sorry im passionate about art and it frustrates me when ppl are surface level about it #especially this movie! like theres so much thinking that went into it!! #and it is a queer movie! definitely! but also ew rich people #also there was like one fat person in the whole movie that was. a choice i guess #anyways

[the-meme-monarch]

special hell of wanting to reblog an art post for being otherwise funny and including your favorite characters but being so so very almost comically sex repulsed and so not wanting to reblog it bc there's nsfw text and you can't get past it

#🧡💛🤍🩵💙i hate it here🧡💛🤍🩵💙 #words from the monarch #disclaimer i love being aroace. just wish i wasnt sex repulsed to the point where i cant even read someone make a joke about it bc it mak #it make me feel physically ill

[fleshdyke]

#csa warning for tags #ughhh ik i was just talking abt this but man. Man. constantly bullied as a child + raped as a child is a brutal combo huh #completely irreversibly fucked up sense of intimacy. i dont want to have sex with anyone i dont care what ppl think of me looks wise but i #also care more than anything and want people to want me so bad #like when ur only experience with anyone at all finding you desirable is being raped at 6ish. fucks u up man #was constantly told by everyone i knew that i was undesirable from day fucking one. i was always the one ppl would dare their friends to #'ask out' bc everyone thought i was that bad. i never had those rumours of 'some boy likes you' without people laughing in the background #all of my friends. even the ones that were also weird kids and bullied etc etc always have stories of other kids having crushes on them or #whatever. and i just never had that. it feels like i missed out on something important #i want to be pursued by a guy i hate i want them to not leave me alone. i want to feel like im in danger. and i know how fucking disgusting #that is but i cant help it. like i feel like thats the only way im going to feel normal and wanted like theres not something inherently #wrong with me. and i know how dangerous that is but its not like it matters anyways bc still no one likes me at all. #and i know how stupid of a thing it is to obsess over like what am i 9 years old? but i just cant get it out of my head #like idk i feel like the only way im going to actually feel desirable at all is if someone tries to rape me again. or if i feel like i have #to worry about someone raping me again. i know i wouldnt feel that way if someone was like. nice about it. #bc if someone genuinely liked me and was a decent human being about it i wouldnt be able to see it as anything other than faking it for pit #i wouldnt be able to believe it. even if i wasnt waiting for them to drop the joke and start laughing at me i would always think it was jus #an act bc they feel bad for me. the only way i could ever think it's genuine and that i'm desirable at all is if someone sexually #harassed me. like idk how to explain it but thats the only way i could feel desirable at all #bc it's the only way i've ever been desirable. when i was a kid. #and it terrifies me so bad bc i know how fucking disgusting that is and how self destructive it is #but i still feel like i dont even have to really worry about being assaulted. bc i still believe im completely undesirable at my core. #i dont believe i could be desired so i dont believe i have to worry about being raped. bc no one would want to anyways #rambles #vent

[laesas]

Do you guys ever think about Ken's devastated expression when he sees Kinn alone in the parking lot? When Big, who would have followed Kinn to the ends of the earth, isn't with him?

#what I'm asking. is do you think that this is the first time he fully realises that Big might die protecting Kinn #like there are things you know logically but havent settled into your bones #i realise this is a delulu post for a ghost ship but like. #this (presumably) wasnt even Ken's fault. But Kinn was in danger. and Big took a bullet for him. Would fully have given his life for Kinn #like. do you think there was a point where Ken realises that hurting Kinn and putting him in danger could almost certainly kill Big? #the best part is that when Big dies he's not on Kinn's detail. Ken steps up as Kinn's head bodyguard and that keeps Big safe! #Big is out of the picture. Now if Vegas moves ahead with anything to do with Tawan or anything to hurt Kinn - Big is nowhere near #he's guarding the one sibling that has nothing to do with the family and doesnt even *like* his brother?? why would Big ever be involved??? #listen one thung about me is that i WILL overanalyze the stupid gay sex mafia show for crumbs of misinterpretable artistic merit 💀 #kenbig #bee.txt #kpts

[intergalacticaquarium]

Just saw somebody say that Eddie obviously gets ass bc we all want to fuck him and I'm just gonna say I don't think that rural Indiana in 1986 had a concept of the poor little meow meow yet

#eddie munson x reader #again i just feel like the fact that he makes himself as unfuckable to the people around him as possible #is one of the things that make him so sexy #and what makes fics even better bc the reader loves him for all the things that make him unfuckable to others just like we do #is that not what love is all about? #also im deeply into this dichotomy of fandom and how there is absutely 0 in between from like ultra experienced sex god #to silly little dumpster goblin experiencing human contact for the first time since he came to this realm #what about the second one wasnt hotter to all of you #eddie no bitches munson #i have a tag for it now

[theforgottendaydreamer]

me when i realise that i've been thinking for, like, a good hour about how great i am and that i am actually the only one who's ever right about everything, which can only mean ✨️manic episode✨️

#im checking my lil list. yes. it all checks out #my question is: why #i wasnt feeling that great earlier #which yeah may have been a sign #well. i was just being a jerk to everyone (only in my head) by being full of myself and self righteous (again - in my head) #the only thing that's missing is craving alcohol. i'm not - i'm actually a bit queasy rn so the thought isn't even appealing #and i'm being surprisingly rational about all this #it can only mean that i will either pull an allnighter (past 1am and i'm still fully awake) or sleep n wake up fully berserk #okay i kept on checking the list and i've been thinking about dangerous sex (for me. never for others). that falls under careless behaviour #fuck.

[fleapit]

sorry to bother you but this is bothering me a lot. so user txtttletale took a screenshot of your post and made your statement "what the fuck happened to t4t???" out to be "these guys always just want to fuck us".

figured you should be informed about this

(context) apparently she has bad takes pretty often, so i'm not surprised to be completely honest with you, but i just want to say:

if you GENUINELY think i was referring to having sex here, you are purposefully misunderstanding my point.

T4T is not just about sex. it also applies to friendship, and love, and community.

that should be obvious lol.

#i wasnt even going to respond to this but honestly im so sick of people #misconstruing my point #she wouldnt have done this at all if i didnt have he/him in my bio and its the same fucking “all men are predators” bullshit i keep seeing #this isnt about sex and its not about fucking you. #its about solidarity against people who want to MURDER US #asks

[handsomegentlebutch]

My 3 little cousins were baptized today. "Triggered" is kind of a strong word but being in a catholic church again... I'm a little fragile rn ngl.

#butch speaks #it was hard not to shake as i held J over the basin to have the water poured on his head #when he was cleansed of sin. as if a little kid could ever knowly or intentionally offend a so-called loving god #the words came naturally to me #but they meant nothing #i remember when they used to mean something. when i begged gods forgiveness for my sin (being a lesbian) and tried to pray the gay away #i remember how much i wanted to die bc i could never truly embrace the sacred #i STILL deal with the complex of catholic guilt. its a very real thing. its hard to shake #i cant help but wonder if the catholicism ingrained in my brain is why i have a hard time with casual dating n sex #fun fact: there was a point when i was a teen that i got REALLY catholic #i prayed everyday. i talked to my patrin saint (st agnes) every day. i wantsd to become a nun #the thought of marrying a man mad me more sad than feeling like an alien did. so id marry the church as a nun. #not the way to hide being a dyke when ur fam is catholic btw LMAO #the first priest i knew was father joe. i loved that guy. he was so kind. friendly. briming with love. #he was one of my biggest references for what a good person was like #he talked about gods love a lot. how its for everyone. no one is exluded. ever. #he used to look right at me when he said stuff like that. a few other kids too. all of whom grew up to be queer #then father joe passed away. our church merged with another church. father jeff was the priest there. #he was kind but not as kind. he talked about hell and sin more. he looked at the same kids father joe did. #but the kindness in his eyes wasnt there. #that wasnt for us. #my family wasnt even THAT catholic #i went to church every sunday i did vacation bible school and catechism classes and youth group #i was an altar servant and in the choir #i even used to speak/understand a little latin #imagine how much worse id have been if my mom could have afforded catholic school lmao #grateful to have grown up poor in that regard #hm. actually... reading my own tags. mayne we were pretty catholic actually. #fucking hell. #i need to have lesbian sex in a church before god and everyone. mayeb that would fix me.

[transsexualjoanofarc]

sometimes people have the tendency to conflate ‘this portrays bigotry’ & ‘this condones bigotry/is itself bigoted’

#me.txt #📔 #specifically ☝️ im thinking about an article i read that argued cruising 1980 was homophobic because (cw) one of the opening scenes involve #a cop sexually assaulting a trans sex worker & later when the woman reports it the cop she talks to ignores her & claims shes lying #(later in the film he sees that she wasnt & he had been wrong all along by the way) #& the argument was because it showed how the police hurt queer people it *checks notes* supports the cops hurting queer people? #which isnt remotely the case? #because rhe fucking Point of the scene was to establish how the police are the true villain even though the protagonist is one? #my point is. people act like protagonists doing a thing is equivalent to the story that theyre in supporting the thing #or protagonists being bigoted is equivalent to the story itself being bigoted #like have you considered that the actions that you consider problematic or story that you consider problematic maybe i dont know says somet #ing about what the story is trying to SAY & the POINT the author is trying to make instead of crying about someone PORTRAYING OPPRESSION

[angelsaxis]

AND that brings me back to that weird ass "marriage was a Job for rich noblewomen what if she tried to make it work instead!!" Post because again that's just. Completely ignoring the already abysmal rights for women in that time period. Women were not considered people. They got married and were the man's property, legally. He had the right to do whatever he wanted to her. Idk about ~European~ society but in lots of other places women couldnt even initiate divorce. Why would she be able to? Property doesn't really have legal rights. Divorce is still forbidden in the Catholic Church. She owed him sex because that was the Man's Need and Right and she was literally a vessel for his pleasure (this still exists today in the Church). She owed him children, preferably sons, because she was in a Heterosexual marriage contract in a patriarchal society. Any man that truly loved and respected his wife and valued her regardless of reproductive capability and the requirements of the marriage contract was an anomaly. Quite literally going against the norm. If a girl or woman was learning she'd be getting married and was devastated it was because of the objectification and loss of autonomy. Ik today it's portrayed as a desire to frolick in fields and a desire for romantic love to be the foundation of marriage rather than money but from what I've read over the years the legally permissible violence in heterosexual marriage was, unsurprisingly, a MASSIVE TURNOFF to getting married.

#angel posts #its not even just in medieval/older europe or the west or wherever the fuck #you read about arranged marriages in other countries and cultures #and the point a lot of the time isnt even unifying two families its like #repro and sex rights for men #and the likelihood that the woman would be beaten kr neglected or otherwise harmed #wasnt even out there it was the nirm #*norm

[faunandfloraas]

inadvertently stopped using my freckle fade cream without thinking.... right around the time i started making gifs of felix.... coincidence?

#positive influence..... #i do wonder sometimes how jarring it must have been for he and lil chris to go from australia to korea #bc i copped shit for being pale and freckly as a kid #i have a core memory of this girl talia wearing a country bumpkin costume with these cartoonish freckles drawn on and she pointed at me #and was like Lol im jessie haha and i was like Okay so you want to fight?? #another time had to do some speech and when i finished and had questions from my classmates and two boys just asked me why i was pale #and why they could see idk i guess my bloodvessels in my legs ??? i didnt even notice like i was just like UHHHH idk ask about my topic #had so many instances like that and they werent terrible but it did make me insecure #like in the 00s here being tan was /it/ you had to be nice and tanned- go lay in the sun and ignore we are number one in melanoma deaths #like it was so consistently the thing... prob why i have so many freckles bc i didnt tan in the sun i freckled #but in both felix and chans aus photos they were quite tanned! #so imagine going from Hey go lay in the sun and get nice and brown ya pale fucker to Do Not Do That. Be pale as a ghost #white as fuck twilight vampire printer paper ass complexion or else you arent the beauty standard must have been so...... odd #idk beauty standards are so fucked and stupid #at least for me it was just like mean it wasnt like systemic. still wasnt nice but its not damaging the same way #but yeah I imagine some of the cultural differences must have been jarring and weird #like when chan said he was glad to get sex ed in australia bc it was comprehensive here and its not something i would have thought about #but yeah he went to school here and there he would know #idk must be hard to be an idol and straddle that line of not wanting to cause any ripples but having your own ideas and beliefs #oh i'd love to talk to him off the record lmao #dont take this as anti korea sentiment btw like australia is also wack #it just must be interseting and sometimes hard... #wow these tags are long SORRY

[termagax]

how did the notes on that post get so quickly filled with like the three worst demographics of people. even if i otherwise agree with your opinions on kink if you start going off about the Dumbass Shit Idiot MINORS at every opportunity i think youre weird and should shut the fuck up

#lile lol im soooooo sorry teenagers are obnoxious do you want me to call your mom for you like. its not the fucking end of the world #the other two worst demographics on that post are slur url havers and kids :/ #i generally block minors anyway but if the post is about sex i double block minors #even tho the post wasnt ABOUT THAT the god damn slur urls turned it into that AGAINST MY WILL. god #i just wanted to poke fun at a bad take can you not make this into a moral crusade against Teens Who Are Wrong Online

[ruthlesslistener]

not to keep vagueposting about animal welfare discourse, but i happened to run into one of the blogs that was shitting on scout for their cow husbandry and the shit they were saying was so fucking stupid...it was something along the lines of 'rabbits aren't social animals because their wild ancestors have a social group set entirely by mating/the HRS tries to force you to bond rabbits unnecessarily and is a peta-affiliated organization/its unnecessary to spay female rabbits because the 85% association between uterine cancer and not spaying is only supported by two studies', all of which may make sense for breeding rabbits is complete and utter bullshit when dealing with pet rabbits.

Rabbits are indeed social animals that grow anxious when alone and should have SOME form of companionship most hours of the day. This does not have to be another rabbit, and the urging to establish a bonded pair is typically done for people who are OUT OF THE HOUSE most of the day. HRS and shelters don't 'force' pairings, they encourage them because having someone around 24/7 isnt always viable in American households. When I tried to get Celeste bonded because I was worried about her welfare (this was when I was 14 and new to rabbits), both the HRS and shelters talked us out of it because she very clearly did not care about other buns, and didn't need to be bonded because there was always someone around them. But if you're a singular person who's away from home most of the time, then yes you need some sort of partner animal because it reduces stress in your rabbit.

Those social structures are ofc going to be different if you have unfixed breeding animals, but the core aspect of it is still the same. Rabbits are social animals. They are comforted by the presence of others around them, form bonds with other rabbits, and feel more secure in groups. Just because they are more territorial when unfixed (as they should!) doesn't reduce the fact that they are social prey animals, it just means that you need to keep them in different conditions than you would a fixed creature with less hormonal urges

The HRS is not aligned with PETA. They denounce affiliations with meat breeders because they're entirely based on improving the welfare of rabbits that are kept as pets. I can see why some might feel offended on their stance against meat rabbits, but rabbits are still primarily viewed as livestock, and after hearing enough comments about people wanting to eat my rabbit, I can understand why they'd be so clear on it. People are assholes about pets that are commonly viewed as feeder animals.

There is indeed a high risk associated between UNBRED unspayed female rabbits and uterine cancer. This is supported by several studies on animals with similar breeding lifestyles by multiple veterinary institutions. You won't notice it in your breeding females because the risk is SPECIFICALLY for unbred animals, aka most pets. So yes, spaying is necessary for your doe's health if you do not intend to regularly breed or have stopped regularly breeding

Even if there wasn't a very real danger to their health, you'd still need to get them fixed to reduce behavioral problems. Unfixed rabbits are much more territorial, destructive, and aggressive, making them more difficult to keep in a home environment. They will growl, they will lunge and bite (and rabbit bites are not something you want to fuck with- I have scars from Celeste's nips), they will piss and shit to mark their territory and it WILL be pungent and unsanitary even if they are litterbox trained. They can still be cuddly with you, sure, that won't reduce their value as pets, but a perpetually sexually frustrated and territorial animal is not fun to deal with and is arguably unethical for the rabbit. If you want a pet rabbit, you need to get them spayed. And I say this from personal experience- Celeste wasn't spayed when we got her, but after she did get spayed, she became much more manageable and less likely to bite. She was still manageable beforehand, but afterwards she was a hell of a lot more relaxed and not stressed

There's nothing wrong with having significantly different husbandry because you are a meat/fur breeder; unfixed animals have different temperaments, different needs, and are typically kept in different conditions that are more economically and behaviorally suited to turning a profit. But those care requirements change drastically when you have only one to two fixed animals in a home environment, which means that you cannot pass judgement on pet care requirements when you're a meat breeder, and visa versa.

#lets also not forget that this whole discourse started bc someone said that culling goat kids at birth based on sex felt wrong #and some meat breeder took it as a personal attack even though rabbits and goats are DRASTICALLY DIFFERENT ANIMALS #yes hard culling rabbit kits is necessary. but its also not a massive fucking waste when they have huge litters #if you're breeding an animal for meat and they only have one or two at a time over a span of some months then its a MASSIVE WASTE #but anyways this is about rabbits and yeah. im bitter bc i miss celeste and the holier-than-thou attitude got to me #i dont have problems with how they keep their rabbits but i do have problems with them applying farming rules to domestic pets #if you have multiple unfixed rabbits in an outside hutch then yes you need to keep them seperate to prevent breeding and stress #but they're still fine because *they know other rabbits are there* #they can see smell and hear them #if you have ONE rabbit in a home environment it NEEDS companionship bc its alone #if its unfixed then no it cant be another rabbit but it can be you. if its fixed then thats when another bun is an option #and yes they are intensely social and rabbits that do accept a partner benefit massively from it have you even seen bonded pairs #they groom each other and flop together and spend all their time with each other its def. a mutually beneficial pairing #celeste just didnt need it bc there was always someone home with us so she saw other rabbits as a threat #but if that wasnt the case then it would have been different #they arent dogs or cats!! you cant treat them as such!! #and for the record the husbandry needs of unfixed vs fixed animals is a Thing for all other pet species #or at least most of the

[thekricks0krickass]

idk why you all have posts where people make sex jokes and Neil’s like “I don’t get it” cuz he’s ace but like the thing is I’m Ace and ask anyone in my class and they’ll tell you I make so many sex jokes, like I’m staring at everyone like this 😏

and thats because I know what it means, being Ace doesn’t mean you don’t know shit about sex, like yeah maybe the reason Neil doesnt understand sex jokes is because he was never exposed to these sort of things but like c’mon he’s gonna know stuff Nicky is literally his Cousin in law.

#ace people know about sex #not being exposed to and not understanding something because of your sexuality are two vastly different topics #and one doesnt even make sense #aftg #neil josten #asexual #andreil #andrew minyard #nicky hemmick #all for the gays #Like remember the line why does roland thing you're tying me up #he understand sex jokes people #he just wasnt into sex before

[rebellum]

concept: me, several months ago, going to get my second monkeypox vaccine, and tbh putting it off for a few months because the experience of getting my first dose was so uncomfortable. I walk up to the first person I have to pass by. when she says "UM you KNOW this vaccine is JUST for gay men, RIGHT?" in a really judgemental way, instead of the real awkward response I gave, I instead say "oh, yeah, my boyfriend calls me a faggot during sex, it's all good."

#actually my second dose was pretty fine? #my first dose was AWFUL #i'm in general v open about my sex life but i HATED having to talk about my sex life with random healthcare professionals who said the #vaccine was just for gay men #ALSO BECAUSE. IT FUCKING WASNT? #IT WAS FOR MSM. SEX WORKERS. AND PEOPLE WHO HAVE SEX WITH MSM OR SEX WORKERS OR WHO OTHERWISE BELIEVE THEY MAY BE IN CONTACT WITH HIGH RISK #POPULATIONS. #ALSO LIKE. TRANS WOMEN. #it was so viscerally uncomfortable and I almost decided to not even get it in the first place because i was worried about something like #that happening. i was just like. well everyone else in the comm is probably getting it i bet herd immunity would protect me. #but also it felt irresponsible to go to queer orgies and pup play meetups etc without the vacc #my boyfriend DID have to actually order me as my dom to go get the second dose tho lol