#even when they're your wife

[catman-draws]

How do you break this kind of news

#homestuck #rosemary #kanaya maryam #rose lalonde #homestuck fanart #catman draws #is this meme still relevant #every so often i think about these girls and their biology shenanigans #that was Not a euphemism #aliens will always be weirder than expected #even when they're your wife #and like i know kanaya had that whole talk about the matriorb and stuff with jade #and kanaya technically had the ability to see baby rose #but did rose know about grubs #was kanaya not extremely confused to see a baby and not a larva #it will never not fascinate me that trolls Are Not Mammals

[ljfoxie]

Another defeat, Lou found it entertaining!

LOU: I told you Dale, she can’t be challenged so easily!

Dale trying to take over as pack master didn’t go according to plan!

#ts4 werewolves #tug of war gone wrong again #you cannot defeat the pack master #even when they're your wife #Dale is a loser #Lou Howell #Rory Oaklow

[theygender]

The more I learn about judaism the more I wonder where tf christianity got all its bad shit. Why is divorce a sin in christianity when judaism has recognized the right to divorce for nearly a millennia and has codified religious laws for it. Why does christianity consider sex to be dirty (to the point where puritans considered it a sin to enjoy having sex with your own spouse) when in judaism it's considered holy and it's a literal mitzvah to have sex with your spouse on the sabbath. Why does christianity consider it a sign that you're faithless if you question your religion when in judaism that's considered an essential part to developing your faith. I'm probably stating the obvious here but I still can't get over the fact that there's no historical basis to any of this shit before christianity started, it's like christians just said "hey guys what if we took the torah and built a new religion around it but this time it was actively hostile to human life"

#rambling #disclaimer this isnt about individual christians im speaking about the religious trauma i experienced in my own life etc etc #these are just a few examples that I've noticed but they're definitely something #the part about sex in particular shocked me bc sex is pretty much viewed as actively evil in a lot of christian denominations #like you should only do it to create children and if you take pleasure in it (even if its with your own spouse) youre a dirty sinner #there arent as many examples like this nowadays but if you read puritan laws about sex it's like #you're allowed to have sex with your wife basically 10 times a year but you have to be fully clothed with the lights off #and you cant have sex on a holiday or a sunday and you cant touch each other and you have to try as hard as possible to hate it #literally WHERE did that mindset come from?? like for real #in judaism having sex with your spouse is basically considered a celebration of everything holy #and if you have sex on the sabbath (the holiest day in the jewish calendar—above every holiday) #its considered TWICE as holy #make it make sense #this is one of the things people mean when they say that lumping judaism in with christianity as 'abrahamic' religions is meaningless #theyre literally nothing alike #the only similarity is the torah but thats only half of the christian bible and one third of the jewish one #AND christianity interprets most of it completely differently from how judaism does #im tired #greatest hits #hall of fame

[mummer]

just saw asteroid city last night, pls explain the proposed significance of the kiss!!

answering this publicly hope thats ok! cant do a readmore im on mobile *****asteroid city spoilers below beware*****

i dont remember anyones names so this is gonna sound partly unhinged. okay so the edward norton playwright and jason schwartzman actor (not character, in the black and white parts) are lovers right. tbh i thought this was kind of a gag and forgot about it. but later we find out that the playwright died 6 months into the production. i didnt make the connection that THAT’s why the actor-jason has to suddenly leave the stage and freaks out backstage about how he’s not sure he’s Doing it right. hes not talking about acting!! because he himself is literally grieving his lover while he’s playing a character who’s grieving his wife written by his lover so obviously it’s too much!!! actor-jason is trying to find meaning in his death through his writing but there isnt any meaning in death [gerris drinkwater voice] which is what the play is trying to say anyway. he doesnt think he’s performing grief right even in his own life!!! (and tbh it’s the 50s so he wouldnt be able to perform grief publicly anyway!!!!) the play starts with a car accident… anyone would search for some hidden meaning there, some sign…. so when he talks to margot robbie outside it’s not really about finding the CHARACTER’s motivations it’s about the actor himself being able to process the playwright’s death! and adrien brody director was probably also dealing with that too (him and norton seemed to be good buddies) so the whole “sleeping backstage” thing gets a bit sadder maybe? maybe everyone else got this in the theatre and im just stupid lol but crazy making stuff to me!!! the whole story is about sublimated gay grief that cannot be expressed?!?!

the tweet that caught me onto this was here which posits that the playwright’s death was a suicide but i think that’s pretty stupid and unnecessary because the whole thing about the play asteroid city is that death is random and meaningless. im pretty sure that’s what the alien represents— a shocking and absurd event that isnt outright evil or menacing, not something anyone can predict or make sense of, it’s just a thing that happens to you out of nowhere, it doesnt mean anything. he’s a little black figure, he’s death! giving and taking! aagh

#you’re the wife who played my actor :( #posthumus #asteroid city #imagine youre in love with a playwright and he writes a play before he even meets you about how you cant get over his death which hasnt #happened yet. id go insane too #im going to see it again to see how this informs the whole thing because its driving me crazy #rewatching the performances knowing that they're performing people performing. augh. #remember when bryan cranston accidentally appears in frame. rending my garments #also ‘you cant wake up until you fall asleep’ confused me a bit but then i remembered that the margot robbie scene was supposed to be put o #as a dream sequence and it makes sense now. thanks #aliens are the new fairytale monster symbol of death. the ultimate Unknowable #EDIT okay i read the wikipedia summary got some facts wrong adrien brody is sleeping in the theatre during rehearsals so its not because of #the playwright’s death he’s just like that.

[kirby-the-gorb]

we are about an hour into rare disease day in my timezone! (it's always the last day of february, whether that's the 28th or the 29th.) the true prevalence of mast cell disorders is unknown, as they are often misdiagnosed or ignored. and mast cell activation syndrome, the most prevalent kind of mast cell disorder, only had diagnostic criteria laid out for the first time in 2010. so whether or not it's truly rare is really up in the air!

(personally I suspect it is just aggressively underdiagnosed but I'm not a research scientist or diagnostician right now. and even if it is rare, it's gonna be a lot less so than it was 5 years ago as certain respiratory infections are known to trigger it into visibility. that's what happened to me when I got mono at the end of 2015, further compounded when I got covid in 2022.)

all chronically ill people face a lot of hurdles when it comes to seeking diagnosis, accommodation, and treatment (all of which can be severely complicated by any intersecting marginalities), but rare diseases present a special challenge.

for example, I have an immune disorder. my immune system does not like being alive, my mast cells are way too jumpy and throw a tantrum over every little thing. you'd think an immunologist would be the one to treat me, right?

I've had 6 immunology referrals rejected in the past 9 months alone. multiple major immunology clinics in my major city tied to a major research university outright refuse to see patients with "mcas" written anywhere in their chart.

after 8 years of being debilitatingly ill, and suspecting it was immune mediated for 6, and getting it confirmed beyond a shadow of a doubt by the bone marrow biopsy last month, I will have my second ever appointment with an immunologist. another 2 1/2 months from now. the first immunologist lied to me about the reliability of the one available blood test, when I first came up with the hypothesis by myself 6 years ago, and forced me to abandon my (correct!!! now proven!!!) hypothesis for 3 entire years while we wandered around lost and got nowhere other than even more thorough process of elimination.

okay, well if my immune system is attacking me, maybe it's technically autoimmune? that's the rheumatologists instead of the immunologists, what do they have to say? dick all my dude, I don't have rheumatoid arthritis so they just shrug at me and go "idk, fibro? I don't know why you're here" and send me home with nothing. (I literally had a rheumatologist say to me, verbatim, "I don't know why you're here." buddy it's your job to read the chart and decide if I get seen or not, you tell me. at least he had a snazzy outfit.)

being chronically ill can be a terrible struggle no matter what, but a disease that is perceived as rare, accurate or not, adds a whole new layer of bullshit. (and of course there are much much rarer diseases out there, with even more hoops and dead ends and struggles and all-new layers of bullshit that even I don't have to deal with!)

anyway I'm having a shit time and using this awareness day as an excuse to productively bitch about it 👍

#it is okay to reblog this btw! #I know sometimes ppl get skittish when posts seem personal #(but I also know a wall of text is not Aesthetique™️ which like fair it's your blog yknow?) #kirby #swearing #long post #daily kirby #my art #digital #hal laboratory #nintendo #rare disease day #mcas #mast cell activation disorder #one time my wife took me to a gathering with her (at the time future-)doctor friends #and they were asking me about what I do and stuff and I was like 'oh I'm disabled' #so of course they're like 'oh with what?' basically #so I had to explain that we didn't know #and *why* we didn't know #and they seemed deeply disquieted that it could take even that long to find answers. #(this was coincidentally 6 years ago.) #it's a good lesson for them to learn early.

[bumblingbabooshka]

My baby's just fine. She knows all of her rhymes. [Patreon | Ko-fi]

#bea art tag #comix #Tuvok #Asil #st voy #star trek voyager #star trek voy #st voyager #Asil not wanting to speak to her dad...too many emotions...what's the point? Why should I? #This is from the timeline in my head where she becomes a priest and undergoes the kolinahr because her anguish over losing her father #is too much #I typically have all his children being adults by the time Voyager returns with the youngest having been a teenager when he left #But AAA.....oh it DOES hurt the heart good to imagine that his youngest was only a child...comes back to nearly an adult. AGH. #And it'd probably hurt a lot...Tuvok obviously values teaching as a means to bond with children (see: Innocence) #<- And his relationship to Kes in some respects though she is NOT a child. I just know that teaching mental discipline would be high on a #Vulcan parent's priorities #The thought of Tuvok missing all that childhood development...he knows it'll go fine without him. He trusts his wife and his community but #it still must hurt...to see your child grow so much without you. Even more so because as a Vulcan their childhood is such a vanishingly #small part of their lifespan. They're a child for like 18 years out of their potential 200. #happy tuvok tuesday!!!

[brookheimer]

okay. i need to rewatch the episode probably but i think my current feeling is that i like most of it a lot (rome, ken, the siblings not getting ceo, etc), think the tom ceo makes sense from a logical/character perspective but not sure how i feel about it from a broader more thematic lens (altho i'm leaning towards fine with it), and am very mixed on shiv's ending because i think it's well-conceived and meaningful from a broader thematic lens (shiv becomes her mother, the cycle always repeats, etc) but doesn't quite make sense to me from a logical/character one -- it could've worked, it could've worked brilliantly, but it was far too rushed and forced. it makes sense as an ending for shiv, but not her next step. i'm largely talking about her decision to return to tom, not her decision to vote against kendall (which i think should've been executed better and given more space but can understand given her character, mostly). i'm fine with it as an ending for shiv, but what i'm struggling to stomach is the way it played out -- it didn't feel like a choice the shiv we know would've made. it's an ending that makes sense thematically and for her character arc, but not a decision that makes sense for her character at present. that's kinda where i'm at right now

#long shiv post talking ab this upcoming lol #bc so far i haven't seen like any shiv takes i've actually agreed with #it's either entirely anti ending or pro ending #whereas like. to me the ending works as an ending for the character. it's tragic dark devastating but it works and works well #but shiv making that choice does not make sense for where she is right now. it was rushed writing that forced an ending on her #that would be a satisfying ending but not a satisfying character choice and thus NOT a super satisfying ending #could've been EXTREMELY satisfying. but shiv wasn't there yet. her fatal flaw is blowing up good situations when she feels she's being #disrespected -- she's respect > power when it comes down to it #even tho she thinks she wants power more she NEEDS respect and is unable to stay quiet or make the smart choice in the face of disrespect #or men thinking they're superior etcetcetc. so her making a choice that allots her power (wife of CEO) but is the singular least respecting #outcome imaginable (meekly returning to your husband who betrayed you and stole the job you've been fighting for your entire life right out #of your grasp alongside your closest ally/flirt guyfriend who tapped him to do it explicitly to fuck you over because you're a pregnant #woman and thus inferior to the man who inseminated you -- and EVERYONE KNOWS ALL OF THIS! everyone knows you're the daughter of #the previous CEO and on two separate instances were meant to be CEO and now the weak man you married publicly betrayed you TWICE #but you still meekly return to him and place your hand in his and have his baby like the good pawn you are...) #that does not make sense for shiv. if we saw some development on the power > respect front or had a few more scenes or episodes developing #shiv as someone who would choose to become her mother (powerful and rich yet a disrespected pawn) over literally anything else #given her fundamental fear of being disrespected than maybe this would've made sense. it could be a great meaningful devastating ending #but it's one that just does not track for shiv as we know her right now. #ok tags got long as always sorry LOL i'm gonna write a longer thing explaining my hashtag thoughts bc i haven't seen much i agreed w on thi #front yet oops. ok bye 4 now tee hee #succession #succession spoilers #casey shut the fuck up about shiv roy

[seahydra]

Guy with one face

#atari.txt #I ALWAYS draw him with this face man. But it's because I think of it as like her default resting expression hfjsj #One of those characters that's always smiling very eerily even when they're pissed. You know the type. He's like that #Additionally the only time it's genuine is when he's around his wife but the change is so subtle it can barely be noticed #Anyway thankyou to my mutual ro 🐻idont have the right EMOJI AHHH it was your tags that made me stop and think about her expressions fhsjd

[mmmthornton]

Stan when any of his guy friends don't pay attention to him for five minutes: uwu i'm just a sad wittle boy 😢

Stan when his girlfriend wants his attention or any kind of communication whatsoever: um okay 😒 needy b*tch

#south park spoilers #stan marsh: the new randy! #south park #i don't want to seem like i automatically HATE it when a south park character is an asshole or a misogynist #because that is ...the only explanation its just blatant misogyny he doesn't like her as a person he doesn't even like her as a girlfriend #he just wants her to be there when HE wants her #and thats fine in a comedy! you can do that!.....if you make jokes~ #if i want to watch a guy be a jerk to women for thirty minutes i can go literally anywhere i don't need to go to a comedy show for that #like i'm HERE because the egg-shaped construction paper babies are terrible and it makes sense when they're written as like kids too #instead of just the mouthpiece of a bitter old man who hates his wife probably #because when you don't make jokes about it or even care about the story you're writing...that's just what it is #it doesn't seem like the person writing it is even having a good time exploring this side to Stan or any of the characters #so whats the point? why am I here? i don't want to watch your rough draft of your woman-hating agenda #its just not good but its not even not-good in an interesting way its in a boring old man way #which is the REAL crime in entertainment

[im2tired4usernames]

I hate that I literally just do not trust any of the older folks in my family to do right by anyone

#if i have learned anything from my grandparents parents uncles and aunts it's how not to treat children and spouses #i hope I'm a good wife to my wife and that i never put them through pain I've seen people put their partners through #i hope i never treat any children in my life like they do #i hope my possible children my nephews and nieces and my siblings always know they have a home with me #EVEN if I'm mad or disappointed in them #even if they scream how much they hate me i hope they know i love them I'll still feed them and make sure that's safe #i hope the people in my life never have to question of they're loved or safe with me i hope i can provide for them so they never have to go #with out something they need and then some to spoil them i want these people loved #i don't want my daughter to think because she talked back to me or is dating someone in not super found of that I'm goin to throw her away #i hope all the kids in my life always know I will try to take care of them as best i can no matter what #not trusting your elders to love you sucks ass not trusting your partner to love you through the scary bits of life sucks #i know so many men who just leave their spouses or cheat on them when they're wives get cancer #that's one thing I'm glad my dad did everything he could to try to let my mom know he loved hwr when she was here at least #i didn't understand or like some of the things he did but qt least he stayed with her and loved her then #unlike some people I'm regrettably related to #i hwar people at work talk about their spouses also one lady wants her husband to die #and it makes me sad i hope to God. my wife never has to question how much i love them i hope they feel loved and special forever #i hate how people treat the people they say they love the most i hope i am not like that i hope i never ever get like that

[loverboybrightsideghost]

i love house and wilson's relationship so much i'm obsessed with it. they each developed opposite defense mechanisms: wilson is a nice guy to anyone and everyone so he can keep everyone around him happy even at his own expense, so he can never fail them. house is an asshole to everyone so they can't get close to him, so they can't hurt him. but then they meet, and since they're each other's opposites, their whole "i'll be nice/i'll be a dick" doesn't work on each other. in the end house and wilson are the only people that can ever fully, forget care about, but know each other– but of course they care about each other a whole lot too. wilson can really be an asshole (and honest) to house which he can't be with almost anyone else, but wilson is the only person house will truly be kind to (or at least the only one who he hasn't and won't be pushed away).

#MAYBE I DONT WANT TO PUSH THIS UNTIL IT BREAKS #of course to some extent wilson being an ass arojnd house is also his being what house needs him to be but also shut up #house md #bluebird.txt #they're soooooo codependent <333 #'you're all persona' #AND WILSON'S DEEENSE OF BEING WHAT PEOPLE NEED HIM TO BE DOESNT EVEN WORK #JUST LIKE HOW HOUSE'S DEFINITELY DOESNT WORK #because that's why wilson's been married three times. he prioritizes his partner's happiness over his (and on top of that he has chronic 'i #can fix them') so he does everything he can to suit their needs at the expense of his #which makes him resent them #and inadvertently pushes himself away (TO SPEND TIME WITH HOUSE) #and on top of that once he's made his wife sufficiently happy once he's 'fixed' her then he doesn't really care anymore #i mean he does care but he doesn't subconsciously care ya know. like he starts drifting away at that point bc that's how he knows how to #have relationships: with himself doing everything to make them better to make them happier #so once that's gone he kind of neglects them without noticing #and BOOM that's how you get a nice guy three times divorced #LIKE. dude. when house's dad died and wilson finally came back and was like 'i don't even have a choice at this point #about being your friend or not.' #hdhfjrbgmdkcje #'if you're attracted to the shine of my neediness-' '[wilsons grins]' '...i'd be okay with that' #WHAT ARE THEYYYY LITERALLYYYYYYYY #worlds most homophobic gay men fr <333333 #oops. house megapost over here #[runs away]

[magical-girl-04]

I would be SO content being a housewife the rest of my life and yet here I am at uni becuase I can't talk to girls for the life of me 😭

#rav speaks #honestly cooking cleaning maybe looking after the kids #it sounds like work that i could enjoy #and it would be to my own schedule!! #i could listen to my music while i work #wear nice long skirts to go swish swish swish as i sweep the floor #have a nice meal waiting for my wife to come home to and listening to her day at work and gossip and whatnot #having a completely free shedual so thst when she has time off we can go on nice dates #hanging out with friends on the days when they're free from their jobs #if i have kids taking then out to the park after school #being there for them and doing fun things #even sitting at the kitchen table doung hw with them #i just want that life so bad #😭😭😭 please if your a girl around 18 in scotland who would love a loving housewife to take care of you while you're at work #hit me up

[moinsbienquekaworu]

You don't understand. My little guy. Constant. My little guy.

#my curious little guy #my guy who turns into an owlbear 80% of the time and into a spider or a deep rothé the rest of the time #the 'cursed to put my hands on everything' line is the root of a good half of their decisions #they always the annoying questions. they touch the cursed items. they eat the dubious food. they lick the spider. #always ask* i forgot a word lol #the rest of their personality is trying to be nice to people and Persuading #persuading people with money to part with it. persuading people to give them info. persuading shopkeepers to give you freebies #we gotta justify that persuasion proficiency! #they're not an intimidating guy! they don't lie... much. they just Look At You and then you're telling them about cheating on your wife #and they're nice to people of course. buuut if you're going to be an asshole first.... #they made that goblin kiss their feet y'know #my constant who is probably chatty because i make them do the rounds at camp & talk to all the companions every evening #even when they don't have anything to say. just. go over. say hi. #'well met.' 'speak.' 'i did miss that face you know.' 'soldier?' 'lay of sorrows guide us. did you want something?' #and then we leave because i don't want them to stay at camp or join me on the road #BUT i talk to them! i say hi! i have to be nice to them!! #my constant who's been wearing armour that makes them look very broad shouldered and manly and menacing #but who really is Some Druid. Some Potter! as in they do pottery. it's their job. #who should be wearing fun little outfits where the armour class doesn't matter #i want to do something fun with their hair and their horns in my drawings #since the game doesn't give you As Many Options As The Sims 4 With 4.6gb Of CC #wow i have a ramble tag now #wow i have an ocs tag now

[hella1975]

very hot of the kitchen staff yesterday to fuck up every single thing ever. like yesterday's shift was fucking HORRENDOUS there was zero communication between the supervisors and the chefs and the kitchen was just super understaffed and my boss had me MANAGING the food pass (like yes im very capable and good at my job and hot and sexy and have spent so so so many gruelling hours working the pass that i can do it in my sleep but i am still NEW) with the only other person on it to help me being some 17 year old boy who has NEVER had a job before and it was his first shift (like he was nice and i dont begrudge it him bc we all start somewhere and god knows my first job i was a terrible worker but still he had no initiative for anything to do with the catering industry and it was a Very Bad Day to have a first shift). so the thing with the food pass is that the waiting staff are in their own sections right and they'll take the food orders and deal with the customers, BUT if you're on pass then you're the one who gives the customer their food, so despite not being the one to take the order or being the one to make the order, any complaints go directly to you and it's just super shitty bc you're like my brother in christ i have no idea what you're talking about. like a mistake in the order either comes from the waitress writing it down/sending it out wrong OR the kitchen making it wrong, neither of which i had any control over yet the staff on pass are the ones who get the brunt of it. like i had a good 20 orders come back bc the kitchen kept sending them out cold or making them wrong and complaints either went to me OR the kid who would then - naturally, again no hate to him - bring them to me and either way it was very much My Problem and i have never been closer to smacking a customer in my LIFE

#this one lady's food was cold and she wanted it sent back #and the annoying part of all of this is that i immediately want to hate on the customer for making my life difficult #but they were honestly in the right like where i work is super expensive you want to get your money's worth when you go #BUT THEN when i did the usual 'im so sorry ill have the chef remake it for you can i get you anything on the house in the meantime' shit #she just really dramatically put her cutlery down like 'no i think we'll cancel the entire order and go somewhere else >:(' like HUH #and it was so frustrating bc her bloke was reasonably nice like he kept acknowledging that it obviously wasnt my fault #but they still dont seem to realise that being angry and shitty with me even if it's not directed at me #while simultaneously three other tables are doing the same thing on a ten hour shift #is really fucking draining #like i KNOW it's not my fault but no matter how many times you're saying that #i still have to fix this bc your bitch of a wife is having a hissy fit over a sodding beef sandwich #and this one lady complained about her lamb and wanted the entire thing redone #and in the meantime my manager told me to get her a free drink on the house #so i offered and she - with the tone of someone doing ME a favour - was like 'oh just knock the bottle of prosecco off our bill' #LIKE WHAT? you cheeky fucking bitch i offered you ONE drink bc you're fannying about with your food #and you want me to knock off the £20 bottle of prosecco? piss off #like i need u guys to understand that when shit hits the fan in a restaurant it is almost ALWAYS either kitchen or management #who have fucked things up. but who is on the front lines? the waiting staff #and customers apparently dont have the thinking skills to realise that the teenage girls they're releasing their frustrations onto #actually aren't responsible for their meal #BUT there was a silver lining bc while kitchen and management stabbed each other the waiting staff really pulled together #like it was a real solidarity moment and made me really feel part of the team which is always nice when ur still Anxious and New #and one of the managers literally came over to me and two other girls at the end like 'thank you for being here today we needed you' #and that was just really nice #i also felt really accomplished bc it WAS shit but i also managed the pass really well like i couldnt have done a better job #like i know shit was hitting the fan but i knew nothing i was doing was adding to it if that makes sense? #doesnt justify the fact i only had a 15 min break on a ten hour shift but still. swings and roundabouts #hella slaves to capitalism