#i even see other trans men do this...cmon

[nachosforfree]

i'm exhausted

#i even see other trans men do this...cmon #em draws shit #art #doodle #emmit #vent #like...its so clear that you dont see trans men as full men. even if you want to you still subconsciously see us as something else #deconstruct your subconscious transphobia or else

[faggy--butch]

is it just me or is the "trans guys are just some boring guys and they make lame music and trans women are cool and interesting and make loud music" jokes almost like. an excuse for why theres not that many trans guys who are popular content creators or musicians or actors or authors or what have you. like blaming the invisibility of trans men on being "boring" and therefore not doing anything rather than oppression.

not to mention the example of music being that people have heard of one singular trans guy who works in a genre they dont like [people really love to act like cavetown is like specifically bad or cringe but thats just what most indie pop/rock/folk sounds like] and theyve heard of a handful of trans women who make hyperpop that they already like [and laura jane grace of course] and its really telling on themselves. theres trans guys making hyperpop and trans women making ""lame ukulele music"" and both of them and nonbinary people making music of tons of other genres. like. cmon. it reminds me of xkcd 385.

also i dont think these jokes are intentionally malicious or anything [most of the time] but it also feels sort of weird to be joking about how boring a group of marginalized people are. im not going to act like its the biggest deal in the world but its sort of low level bullying, innit? and i imagine having this weird expectation to be "cool and interesting" isnt fun for trans women either. its nice to get to be lame sometimes.

Yeah it's super weird, especially because it's repeated over and over, that part is the suspicious part. I even saw it on reddit a few days ago in one of the ftm subs. I do think it's like blaming the lack of trans men artists on trans men being "boring" instead of, you know the bigotry, the erasure, the inequality I think it's also a weird expectation that we all HAVE to live up to what other people think of as "cool" like if we're all not making hardcore metal and being as "SICK" as humanly possible, we are failing at transgender music and therefore are the reason trans men aren't represented as artists enough, which is ummm. okay.

why can't we make soft love songs about being bugs, or whatever. What happens to trans women who don't live up to the metal hardcore aesthetic? Look at Dylan Mulvaney. She made a dumb cutsie girlypop song and everyone acted like she is the founder of misogyny herself. So not only are we ridiculed for the music we make, we're trapped in transphobic expectations of what music we can or should make.

If you expect all trans women to make metal, you'll only see trans women who make metal, if you expect all trans men to make soft music, that's all you'll find! because that's all you looked for! Another thing is like, Oh all trans women music is cool and hardcore rock and roll, but trans men music is dumb and cutsie ukulele music? I wonder what gender those genres are normally associate with? Uhoh we're doing a sexism maybe the person making the joke doesn't have malicious intent, but the joke itself sure does.

#asks #transandrophobia #transmisogny

[soup-mother]

Wish ppl would fucking shut up with the "if a place doesn't accept trans women/amab nonbinary ppl then it means they just see trans men/nb's as women!" like yea sometimes but also consider maybe some people actually just fucking hate trans women and will accept other trans ppl but not trans women? transmisogyny exists in trans spaces like fucking cmon. like the ppl saying that shit on the post I just reblogged when it's explicitly about how even other trans and queer ppl, who accept other trans and queer ppl, will still be transmisogynistic. stop fucking trying to make this about you holy fucking shit just shut uuuup. care about the people actually being fucking mistreated and not about how actually transmisogyny is bad because it disrespects you when you really think about it. just fucking shut uuuuup please for the love of fucking god.

"yea i know they called you a male socialised rapist but like can we talk about how that means they see me as a girl???? 😢"

Like i just really fuckin need people to understand that some places just genuinely do respect trans ppl other than trans women. like it's not actually some secret misgendering of you it's actually just transmisogyny!

#my post #transmisogyny

[maledistributionsystem]

The way you portray masculinity is one like nothing I've seen before. I love how self indulgent it is, it feels so real and so beautiful, so kind and warm, scrolling through this blog feels so safe and welcoming. With masculinity and males being so vilified as a concept within queer spaces, this feels like an oasis, somewhere to rest my head and embrace my masculinity wholly and accept myself in a whole new way.

Thank you for contacting the Male Distribution System Bark Line. Tip: Sub-Q shots wont pinch as much if you've just bathed/showered. Your message is in the queue...

Hey nonny, this means a lot to me. It genuinely does. I really know what you mean, i been seeing that shit for a few years now. It's hard because, I understand, I do. It's the same side of the coin for why people of color will say we don't like white people, when we really mean the social concept of whiteness.

It's still led to a somewhat alienating experince online though. Where are the straight trans men? The millenial and older trans men? Where are the stealth trans men? The "average joe" men? The men who started transitioning before I was born? They see the hatred for men as a gender and the conflation of induvidual men with the consequences and dangers of the patriarchy, and they leave. They blend into cis spaces because they're so certain they aren't wanted here in the community. And i understand them too, because if i was a little older i might've stopped trying already.

I've seen how much those men hurt too. Some seem to endlessly face imposter syndrome from being stealth in cis spaces, and some like me are just desperate to find one spot, just a single space, where any and every action a man takes is not evidence of his horrible ulterior motives and where there is no pressure to hide evidence of my transness.

I want men like us to feel comfortable somewhere. I want men like us to have reassurance that we haven't betrayed the women around us. I want men to have places to openly talk about what makes them feel masculine and secure in our manhood, where we can talk openly about the ways we're rebuilding a healthier, better, concept of what that looks like for us. I want a place for those freshly 18 year old "boy??" types to look and see that there are masculine men who are happy and love ourselves and each other and know that it's very possible to not be a bad man, and being a good man doesn't have to include femininity if you don't want it to.

Sorry this is rather long. This ask just. really means a lot to me. it does. Everything i've just described, on top of not even being fucking white, has made me wonder if i'll ever find more men like me.

I have a handful of asks in the Bark Line all thanking me. When the very first blogs of this type first popped up, i thanked them too. We're so excited to see eachother, and that makes me feel warm inside.

So cmon man, take a seat, have a beer. or don't, i don't mind lol, as long as you're comfortable and having fun. Let's celebrate embracing who we are, let's celebrate being the beautiful men we are.

#Bark Line #I really do adore yall sayin things like this. i truly didnt know there were so many. i aint know how to find yall.

[pinkandpurple360]

https://www.tumblr.com/crooked-wasteland/726843568652697600/how-many-times-does-a-writer-have-to-poorly-write

I feel Millie had so much potential, this would have been such an interesting take.

I think it might still be explored since Sallie May is coming back soon in season 3. Hopefully Millie’s non too because she’s a favourite of mine just for being a mom who is actually alive, and for having a personality.

But damn is it sad to see a main character not get focus until over halfway through the shows runtime. I’m sorry but more than any other character Moxxie just hogs the spotlight. And Loona gets very very little, even though Loonas episode was about her and another big female character, it was so focussed on male approval and male feelings that it was just plain ridiculous. Just like Vias episode was about male feelings. Why not have Loona and Bees rivalry be about Bee being rich and social, versus Loona growing up poor and isolated. That’s the only reason they’re so different.

Bee: “Don’t be so awkward girl! Let your guard down! Forget your worries! Being all nervous like this is just silly!”

Loona: “That’s rich, coming from someone who’s never had to put up her guard, living in a nice big house like this at the top of the food chain, where you don’t even have to work a day in your life I’d bet!”

Bee: “what’s that supposed to mean? You think I don’t have pressure! I was nice enough to let you come here to my home you little—“ but then Bee notices Loonas slightly scared face and stops herself…and there we go. This ain’t hard. Bee got mad at a compliment ffs.

I think the accusation that Millie’s mom is abusive is kindve…much? She clearly states that Millie gets too violent and carried away, seeing red, and she’s unlike Sallie who can keep her cool and hide things better. That’s not good either, but it’s not like Millie’s mom gave her different treatment for no reason. And it’s not idk “trans privilege” or whatever op was implying. (??) Isn’t that what the scene was trying to say? Millie goes too far and makes a mess? She’s very intense. And man I wish it was Millie who gave that speech at the end to get her own parents approval, not fuckin moxxie. And people are going to lose their shit if Viv doesn’t rewrite the lines about Mills being afraid moxxie will find someone better and “she should just jump”

These below, are all such facts. Viv needs to stop writing women and let another woman do it, because her own very deep misogyny is cartoonishly 1950s, it is coming through at every turn. There needs to be more non-Viv non fujoshi female presence in the writing team, grow up and stop calling this a show ‘about boys’ , it’s 2024. Since Viv has said herself that animation is a male dominated field, she should be the change she wants to see in the world.

“Women are just sadistic angry bitches and men are really delicate inside and need to be taken care of” stfu…some women are mean, some are soft, some men are tough, some men aren’t. Cmon. It’s 2024 soon.

Also:

STOP. KILLING. OR. ERASING. MOMS.

#helluva boss critical #misogyny in writing

[42spideys]

“ Real men don’t cry. “

Pairing: Toji x Black Trans Reader (ftm)

Contains: harsh words, cursing, transphobia, drunk toji, hurt with comfort

Genre: Angst

This isn’t proofread and I am really sleepy so please enjoy my first fic on here! (I’ll make a happy one I promise)

He came home drunk again, it didn’t surprise you anymore, it was just your nightly routine. He loudly opens the door on the verge of falling over, you guide him to the bathroom so he can bathe and vomit in peace, then you both get in the bed. Tonight was different however, very different.

Toji came into the door once again and you were there as usual, but you were sitting at the dining table just staring at the man standing in the door frame. “Toji, when is this going to end. I’m fucking tired.” You said in a defeated tone, he’s been stressing you out for the last three months. He stared at you like deer caught in headlights, “the fuck ‘dya mean…I’ve been nothin’ but good to ya.”

You left out a scoff that let made Tojis jaw tighten, he didn’t see what he was doing wrong and it was driving you crazy. How could he not see how this was wrong? Was he this dense when you met him? He just walked up to you and tried to kiss you like nothing was wrong, you turned your head away from him in disgust. “Get the fuck off me, just…get the hell off.” Toji stared at the pained expression on your face, tears threatening to escape, he clicked his tongue in disproval.

“I thought you weren’t a girl, so what’s with this pathetic face?” He grabbed you by your face till you locked eyes with him, “Real men don’t cry.” Toji let go of your face and pushed passed you to go lay down, you sat there mortified. You felt ashamed, embarrassed, and violated. What did you do to deserve that? You did nothing but help him, love him, and care for him.

You decided to sleep on the couch that night, you refused to be anywhere near him. You held the blankets close to you, your face was hot and your throat was sore. You didn’t realize you fell asleep until you felt Tojis hand on your face, you harshly slapped his hand away without opening your eyes. He let out a small grunt before poking your nose. “Hey, cmon big guy why’d you sleep out here? The bed is lonely without ya.”

You sat up without looking at him, he glanced up at you seeing your puffy eyes. He felt his heart ache, he hated seeing you like this. “Do you seriously not remember what you said to me last night?” Toji looked up at you puzzled, what the hell were you talking about? He started to think back on last night, thinking abt the night he came home. He bit his lower lip trying to figure out what you meant, it finally hit him.

“Real men don’t cry.”

Toji looked up at you in desperation, he cupped your face with large, scarred, shaky hands. “Hey hey look at me prince, I ain’t mean it I swear. Please look at me ‘m sorry, please look at me.” You look him in the eyes with a lifeless expression, you saw his eyes fulled to the brink with tears. “Please baby ‘m so so sorry, I won’t drink no more, please forgive me. I’ll treat ya the prince you are, please I’m sorry.”

You hugged his head close to your chest, both of you sobbing into each other. Soft “I love you’s” poured out of his mouth, he held you like he was going to lose you if he let go. “Fine, I’ll forgive you. If I even smell a drop of alcohol on you were done, and you have to do whatever I want for a week.”

Toji smiled up at you and kissed your chin softly, gently stroking your kinky curls.

“Anything for you my prince.”

#toji fushiguro #toji fic #toji zenin #toji angst #toji x reader #toji x black reader #toji x trans reader #jjk fanfic #jjk x reader #jjk angst

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

something I’ve seen a bizarre number of people not get is that the bigotry towards transmasc people is in fact misogyny like. the people doing it do it bc subconciously or otherwise they don’t see trans men as real men they see them as women. and that doesn’t make them women like holy fuck the people I’ve said see that after people point out that bigotry towards trans men and transmasc people is based off misogynistic talking points is bizarre like. there are plenty of men oppressed in part due to misogyny bc no one system of oppression doesn’t impact the other. marginalised men have misogyny used against them the same way marginalised able bodied neurotypical people have ableism used against them. and i think dismissing talk about it as “oh people are claiming they’re oppressed bc they’re men!” is so insidious and cruel because. trans men and transmascs are oppressed because they are not seen as men, and even in more progressive communities as inherently seperate from “real men”. it is bc of patriarchy and misogyny and shutting down discussion of it without realising it comes largely from the same place other misogyny and bigotry in general does isn’t helpful. like. some of it has just circled around into being misogyny again like i've seen people talk about fucking “afab privilege” which like. think for a second about that like. no. that’s not how it works that’s just ignoring shit like abortion rights cmon. think critically for a second. the idea of trans men being innocent uwu babies? misogyny.

[nerdylilpeebee]

You said "No they don't. Men get lynched just on an accusation of rape, and you expect ANYONE to believe they "get away with it"? Please."

Look up how many rapists are convicted on google. Different sources will have different numbers, but plenty of men get away with that shit. Women too of course, but your arguing men don't get away with it. Brock turner was guilty clear as day and only got 6 months, so there absolutely is a reason for women to be pissed about this issue.

You also argued false accusations are worse than rape, but plenty of church leaders, starts, politicians kept careers, but all victims have trauma, cmon now.

How many are convicted is irrelevant. You don't have to be convicted to not get away with something.

Regardless of lack of conviction, unless a man is rich and powerful, he will have his life ruined by the accusation. Even if he's proven innocent in court.

So no, men do not get away with raping women. They don't even get away with being proven innocent of raping a woman. There are consequences. Just because they aren't what you want them to be does not mean they get away with it.

And being pissed about the issue and claiming men "get away with raping women" are two different things. You can be mad the law doesn't punish rapists harshly enough (hell, it rarely punishes female rapists at all, let alone enough, so men have even more reason to be upset about that than women do) without trying to insist male rapists just get away with it. They demonstratably don't. If ANY rapists "get away with it" it's female rapists. Most of the world doesn't even legally define rape in a way that lets women be guilty of the crime, and women being falsely accused does not result in the same shit as when men are. People are far more likely to believe the woman didn't actually rape than they are to believe a man didn't, even when there's overwhelming proof he didn't do it.

And considering false accusations result in ruined lives and sometimes even straight up murder, yes, yes they are more important to care about than physical harm even if that harm results in trauma. Your trauma is not comparable to someone fucking dying, or having their life completely ruined over something they didn't even do.

And to answer a question in your other ask, at least I assume it's yours cuz it's phrased pretty much the same:

I was accused of being a pedophile online. I am also a trans woman, who had countless people see and acknowledge the accusation was false. I even had all my "victims" come forth saying the accusation was false. Regardless of this, I lost a few online friends because of the accusation, and despite it being proven false it is STILL spread around like it's true. The people spreading sometimes even refuse to admit they're wrong even when given proof it didn't happen.

It was purely an online accusation, so it's not the same as what men go through with accusations of rape irl, but that alone is a demonstration of how these accusations never fucking go away. If this was an accusation irl, I'd likely have been hurt or killed even with proof I didn't do anything. Triply so because I'm trans.

#tvp discourse #long post

[menalez]

related to the ‘no actual lesbian characters’ point this always bothered me in degrassi and I’m not even close to being a lesbian, so I’ve watched up to season 11 and I’ve had spoilers for the other seasons + next class (which had the stupid representation of the non-binary character but n e ways) the first named lesbian character introduced was Alex and she had originally been dating this creepy loser but out of no where she became a die hard lesbian after she and Paige became an item which felt just... so forced. I feel like since they made a lot of steps to include a gay male character they were like “oh shit where’s the lesbians” and then rewrote the most futch coded character to be a lesbian, which is... fine I guess but they never even touched on the fact that she was with the moid so it felt like a plot hole they could’ve very easily covered up. I did appreciate how in her stripping story arc they never tried to frame it as empowering like other teen shows (like she’s a literal child?????) and she never expressed any attraction to the Johns which I was rlly scared of. And this was in like 2006 so probably better representation than others at the time. And with Fiona Coyne I also felt like they written her in to be shoehorned as representation since they had already written full character arcs for another gay male and a trans man character, speaking of that the first hint they gave to her being a lesbian was her dating Adam (previously spoken of tif) and solely dating her because she was female and she could obviously see that, and saying “you’re like the best of both worlds” which feels like a cope, and Adam getting super mad about that and breaking up with her. A gold star for the terfyness and representation of butch characters atleast? And later she went on to date multiple other random femmes, I haven’t watched up to the point of her other relationships so she could’ve very well have been botched but :/ Fiona felt more shoe horned than the others because she had literally kissed her brother in a previous episode which... m yeah. And imogen which had been interested in another male character before being given a lesbian character arc, like it’s so lazy... the comphet storylines must be so tiring and is probably to some extent why the master doc exists. Like so many shows have fully fleshed out, researched, and focus grouped storylines for gay male trans etc characters but for lesbian characters they slap on lipstick lesbianism to a random b character then say ‘that’s enough activism for today 🧚‍♀️’

OH MY GOD i was thinking of degrassi too and didn’t wanna say bc i thought no one would know what im talking about. yes the thing with alex was literally so annoying. like the thing that bothers me is they will have these het or bi characters then all of a sudden they’re lesbians and their history with men is not explained at all. they just try to act like it was no big deal. alex was with that piece of shit guy for like at least a year and they were constantly kissing and looking very into each other. they couldn’t find a way to make sense of that for us??? cmon now. but i recall fiona also showing interest in men and then ofc all of a sudden she’s also a lesbian but at least they slowly tried to make sense of that. wait until u get to another one of the lesbian main characters they got in next class. fr it’s the worst one imo. i don’t remember fiona’s story too well but looking at her wiki:

3 ex boyfriends and kissed another guy, the uncensored one is her trans ex boyfriend that u mentioned, and i don’t recall any of this being explained. i don’t remember her showing any discomfort with them either. iirc she seemed very into them?? if they had put any thought into her having been w men, they would’ve shown her not looking into it and perhaps trying to avoid being with them or SOMETHING but they never do that. ever. like. ur right degrassi’s lesbian rep is horrendous. there’s only one character who iirc is a lesbian that is represented decently but shes a side character and isnt that prominent on the show so.. there’s that at least.

also isnt imogen openly bi?? she basically said she’s into ppl regardless of sex

[transfemstarscream]

Other trans guy here and big agree!

Also since you already tbh call out a lot of the stuff thats badly done Im not even remotely worried about the stuff I tend to see like: infantilizing us into helpless “babie beans“ 🥺🥺🥺 or fetishizing us or making us just “dysphoria dysphoria oh I hate myself UgHHHHH all I do is hate myself “. (I have dysphoria but cmon ppl that doesn’t define us even if it’s apart of the struggle for some) It tends to be those extremes i see the worst of. Or can be ONLY headcannoning feminine men as trans (and this is a feminine trans guy myself talking here lol). Making us into helpless litol creechures with no substance, overly self hating/hateful in general, or walking fetishes are all very frustrating to see. just don’t do rcd*rt and stuff I mentioned and you’ll be fine! 😂

genuinely wouldn’t expect any of the above from you tho even in the slightest. Keep up the good stuff!

i always appreciate input so thank you! i never liked how transmasc or trans men are treated by fandom, so i don’t like to overstep my own boundaries. i just don’t want to do the extremist opposite where i end up portraying transmascs as Misogynistic Scary Men Who Hate Themselves and Like To Hurt Other People because they’re Men. that’s why i prefer to see if other transmascs share a transmasc headcanon for a character so i know whether or not it’s comfortable to headcanon one as such.

[cindysnuts]

I can’t say I’m a big fan of the whole “just call me a slur” trend on tiktok right now. Like even though it’s a real good and punchy finisher for your joke, and I have to admit I’ve found it funny, it’s kinda emblematic of a hatred of anything soft or joke-y regarding their gender, ie saying “I’d rather you call me a slur than ‘theydy or gentlethem.’” Like cmon it’s just a cute and kinda funny thing to say! Let your guard down a little lol.

However, I cannot fully condemn the trend either, because I do see where it is coming from. There is a large trend of these cutesy nicknames infantalizing gay or trans people, which can be frustrating for the young adults just coming to term with what their gender and sexuality are, relative to each other. Not only is being belittled very frustrating at that age (which is an age group very common on tiktok), it is even more frustrating when it comes at an angle that specifically infantalizes your queer identity.

And that’s without mentioning the infantilization that trans men have to put up with, and, from what I’ve seen (though this is kinda speculation), amab enbys have to put up with too. Something about being seen as a “diet man” makes people belittle or infantilize these trans people in order to circumvent their own feelings on men and toxic masculinity? And I think the discomfort that comes from being treated like they’re either going be “dangerous men” or else the less threatening “UwU precious baby they/them bunny” is definitely a valid response to this stifling dichotomy.

And let me be clear here that it’s not really anyone’s “fault,” because our society just has a Man Problem, and we all know it, so these sorts of things are bound to arise. For the people who actually make those tiktoks, well they aren’t all just fun hating pessimists, they’re also people who are upset with how “theydy” or “gentlethem” lowkey genders them, or how it can infantilize them against their will! (Tho they probably should stop saying to call them a slur, tbh. like, I get it, but your whiteness is showing; you should probably not keep doing that lol. I’m not as familiar with how it could be interpreted by nonwhite people, and/or their exact feelings on it, so I can’t really expand upon it from that angle too much. But, as a white person, I can definitely recognize the white privilege that is necessary for you to be able to say something like that.)

And for the people who say “theydies and gentlethem,” many are enbys themselves who think it’s cute or funny, not just cishets who don’t understand and want to belittle you. I would just say to them, yknow, don’t ask people if you can address them this way or that, just let them lay out on their own terms what they’re comfortable with! If they ID as a “theydy” good for them!! If they say “use they/them pronouns ONLY! Do not get cutesy with my gender please” then good for them too! You have to respect both because you have to respect others!!

#long post #use of queer #talking about slurs #I think I’d rather you just call me a slur #just some thoughts I had late at night and thought I’d write them down #cause I’ve seen people reblog in support of both ‘sides’ quote unquote & I just wanted to sort of reconcile that #feel free to discuss just know that I’m shit at responding!!! aksbsksbsksbs #also I’m verrry sensitive to rejection so if you have any comments or critiques please just make them constructive!! lol #also ty for reading this far 🥺🥺💖 even if it is only just future me that reads this again lol #but if it’s not then ty!!

[heathn3s]

I will rank all Evens and Isak because I'm bored, thank u very much (without Skam It, NL and Austin, I didn't see it)

EVEN:

SANDER ; yeah 3rd season still is on, but this men in killing me. I always had this problem with Evens, that I couldn't really get myself into their charm? Like it was so weird for me how fast Isak character would fall for him or get interested, but jesus, I GET IT NOW-- and he is also absurdly good looking. He steals every scene for me, that's it, I can't get over him.

JOANA ; yeah, she does that for me too. Maybe it's because I'm mostly into girls, that Joana was so ridiculously interesting? And cmon, her style is greaaaaaat. I felt for her hard, actress and character, lol.

DAVID ; fuck I love him so much!! It was first time in Skam, that I felt so... Crazy? Because what the fuck is happening? He is also the most different Even I guess, and I loved trans storyline, his character, how fucking charming and sweet he was. It's different vibe than the rest of Evens, but still, he was SOOO good.

EVEN ; so yeah, OG. I didn't like him at first lol. I never trusted him too? So most of original season I was like NO THAT BITCH IS LYING DON'T TRUST HIM-- THAT A FUCKBOY IF I EVER SEEN ONE. I know that Even is The Even™️ for everybody, but yeah, not my favourite. He got fourth place because he didn't do any shit in season 4, so I guess he and Isak we will be happy forever, thank u very much.

ELIOTT ; I still fucking love him, lmao, but just like with Even - I don't trust this little rascal. Also his vibes was so strong in season 3? Like Jesus. I can't. I completely get his stans, just not my type lol

ISAK:

CRIS ; yeah. She was so fucking stunning the whole season, the best outfits EVER, and the whole season was just so good for me because of her. I love her with every fiber of my being and would die and kill for her, yes. Also jesus, the end of her season, when she was standing with Joana and kissing and the song was in the background... I still die a little when I think about it.

MATTEO ; ugh, I love this boy. Little gremlin. He is really close Cris for me, but something is just missing? They are also really different characters, so I guess that's it. He is like a little bottle of suffering in the big, sad boy, whatever that may mean. Idk, I just like him.

LUCAS ; he is soooo fucking good! I have this problem with France, that it seems the most... "TV drama-like" for Skam, but still, Axel is probably my favourite Isak actor. I'm so happy we will see more of him, lol.

ROBBE ; a baby. Again, I guess he is different from other Isaks? He is really good main, just... I guess he sometimes seems just so blank to me? We still have three full weeks of him, so I guess maybe it will get better. Idk.

ISAK ; well, I guess I have the same problem with og Isak that with Even? He is great, just... Something is missing? I started watching original Skam when it was coming out, but I never liked it, so I watched original after I saw Skam France for the first time... I don't know, he is good, great, funny, just not my favourite.

So I guess my favourite Evak is Joana and Cris, then David and Matteo with Sander and Robbe at second place, Eliott and Lucas third, and original Evak at fourth. I love them all, but... Yeah.

#skam remakes #skam france #skam españa #skam spain #skamverse #skam wtfock #wtfock #druck #skam og #skam #don't kill me please i love them all #but i think it pretty unpopular that original Evak is my last favourite lol #and that Crisana is first

[sundrenched-smilez]

trans pride asks: 2, 6, 11, 12, 17, 24, 32

2. what does your name mean (either literally, or to you personally)

so!! in bee and puppycat, there’s a charcter named cas, and she’s rly cool and i love her hair. so i wanted to also go by cass, but wanted a unique name, so for longform i chose cassette!!! i forget what gave me that idea, but i love it so much and it’s so me, and retro, and i love it. it means the world to me to finally have a name that suits me and feels good n natural c: 

6. what’s something you’re most looking forward to in your transition (or something that was your favorite part of transitioning)?

havin boobs baybee!!!! ive always wanted the n now i Have Some n im v happy :~)) i want bigger ones, like just enough to have cleavage, but i’m sure ill get there eventually

also my skin is suuuuper soft now, it’s amazing

11. if you’re on hrt, what changes suprised you the most?

im lactose intolerant now?? idk if thats bc of hrt or not, but i wasn’t when i started. i dont think. 

better orgasms but still not as good as id like!!

12. what gives you the most gender euphoria?

being seen as  vry/completely androgynous, like ppl just cant tell??? my gender, n i love confusing them. >:33 like even other queer folks have had trouble telling, n it gives me Such Power. it’s rly amusing n pleasing

17. who’s your favorite trans character? or do you have any characters you headcanon as trans?

alex fierro from the magnus chase series!! she always blurts out whenever her pronouns change, and it’s rly lovely and not like, forced? she’s just unabashedly her

24. any trans role models?

not any real ppl unfortunately. alex fierro is good, idk any like, trans folk that i look up to, off the top of my head? mb u in some aspects tbh? ur rly rad, seem like u live a good life, and ur fun, sweet, great to be around <3 <3 not to gush, but also to gush a bit

32. which gender roles or cis beliefs do you find most ridiculous?

that women don’t know anything, it’s so dumb. i also dont get straight relationships or straight men. gender reveal parties/gender reveal junk in general. like ppl r literally making u pay hundreds (presumably) to know which roles ur gonna assign 2 yr baby, i hate it!!! 

gender = hair thing? like ive gotten misgendered one way, n then they looked up n was like “oh sorry maam, i didn’t see your hair” like what???

that or ill b wearing like a croptop and cutoff shorts that r dangerously close 2 showcasing my pretty lil ass to the world, n have a bra on to accentuate my boobs, and ppl STILL think im a guy, like wtf wtf r they on,,, cmon,,, 

cis ppl frustrate me so much,,, grumble grumble

ilu tysm for the distraction!!! also pls msg me abt pirates of the caribbean, i wanna watch them n ik ur the Prime Person to screem w abt those movies bc u love em

[candyclan]

Coming out letter to my mom. (FTM) At the start of my transition, I wanted to go by a name that started with an “A”because my birthname did. All the rest of it is basically the same.

THE TRUTH:

I didn’t scream “I am a boy” at my parents. Honestly, my mother (specifically) controlled a lot of what I did, who I hung out with, and what I wore as a child. I believe she has/had an idea about what she wanted out of a daughter since I was born, and really just lived through me. I think she eventually had to give me room to make my own decisions, later in life. I didn’t come out until I was 16, although I had spent 6 months prior to even coming out thinking about my gender identity. I was extremely sheltered. I want you guys to know that I didn’t know what being transgender was until I was a freshman in high school and met my best friend (who is STILL MY BEST FRIEND TODAY) who identified as Non-binary gender fluid. I had never really met someone AFAB that lived to be anything other than female. With that came the knowledge that sometimes, men don’t necessarily have to have penises and I can wear whatever I’m comfortable with. I used to be religious in middle school (raised Christian) but I never found god. It never made sense to me how so many people can put their faith in other people’s ideas of what god is (the Bible) but not listen when their real CHILD comes to them and tells them that they feel uncomfortable in their gender identity. I also came out as bisexual in middle school, after meeting a girl I had a fancy for. To which my mother sobbed and cried and asked how she had failed as a parent. I remember loving pink, it was my favorite color. Pink, purple, blue. My top 3. Now it’s blue, pink, purple but basically the same. I had a pink room, loved hello kitty, let my mom curl my hair with little curlers at night so I could wake up and be somebody different the next day. My brother played with carebears and my Barbie dolls more than I did as a child. I remember a toy gun and handcuffs. I was fairly experimental as a child, I did: Girl Scouts, swimming, piano, soccer, ballet, cheerleading, and more honestly. I always got “boy” toys at McDonald’s (I mean cmon they’re cooler) I just was kinda everywhere. I feel like that’s easier for someone AFAB to be. My brother was harassed by my family for liking girly things but I was never shown that I couldn’t like stereotypical “boy things” by extended family. My mother however in the line at McDonalds I could never forget, turned and looked at me (baseball cap backwards tank top and shorts)and said “So, what?” “Are you batting for the other team” implying that because of the clothes I liked to wear I would be a lesbian. My mother (like I said, kinda controlling and extremely narcissistic) when I was allowed to cut my hair super short for the first time I was 16. Afterwards she has said things like: “but you’re so pretty how could you have cut your hair” “you looked so nice with long hair” I never felt akin to femininity. I was actually VERY uncomfortable with it. I hated being the “weaker” gender. I never wanted my nails painted. It was torture. I acted like makeup and and nail polish was torture, the hairbrush was my enemy. I used to just put my hair up in a low ponytail every day as I got older. I knew she’d never let me cut it all off. Basically, other than wanting to grow up strong and tough and not liking to be treated like a female, I was female. There were parts of being female I didn’t really have a problem with, and honestly that’s why I didn’t come out for so long. I wasn’t in a house or raised by people I knew would accept anything other than me being their “little girl” I was a daddies girl. So between my lack of understanding of where my feelings towards my gender roles were coming from, being encouraged by my family to be girly, not being exposed to gender diversity (or anything queer), and my controlling mother, I remained in the dark about who I was.

TRIGGER WARNING:::(abuse)::::: I was never close with my mother, and actually hated her growing up. To this day she is the most judge mental, self-centered woman I know. My father was funny, charismatic, and lost his shit sometimes. I like to say, 90% of the time he was amazing. We made jokes and could literally finish each other’s sentences. But honestly my father, 10% of the time was abusive. Most of my abuse in my life was covert (narcissistic abuse from my mother) and verbal/emotional/barely physical abuse from my father. He’s 6”3’ 350 lbs and very loud and scary, especially to a young child. He punched a hole in my wall, he threw a remote at a wall and shattered it to pieces, he threatened to kill my dog with a baseball bat in front of me. Which I swear to god he would have done if I wasn’t holding my dog, protecting him. These moments were few and far between, but they were riddled with insults and almost always left me with less than I started with. My father did spank my brother and I, and one time he clapped my brother so well that he left a purple hand mark on his butt. My mother told my father she’d take us away if that happened again. My father never left marks. He never had to, he was so big and would just get up in my face and scream at me. He made me feel helpless. Because he was invading my space I felt physically threatened, and he never actually had to touch me and leave bruises because that threat was already implied by invading my space. I was so young, but I always knew my family wasn’t right. Finally at 16, I stood up to my father for the first time. I didn’t care if he was bigger than me, I didn’t care if I would lose, I was willing to fight for me. Anyway, long story short the police were called because we were screaming at each other in front of his apartment building. I’m not going to say I didn’t fuck up as a teenager, but I never deserved the pressure and the abuse he was dishing out and had dished out my whole life. I knew that. I cut him out of my life just after turning 16, by then I had been questioning my identity. It became easier after leaving my father to fall into who I was. My father is FAIRLY religious and my mother claims to be but she never talks about god, she never prays, and now that my father and her are divorced I don’t think she’s been inside a church since. Losing my father was a lot, despite his abuse he and I were really close and had really similar personalities. The reality of abuse isn’t “well, now I see them as an abuser so now none of that good stuff is left it’s all tainted” I had to struggle with losing someone very important in my life at a young age, for myself.

Arguments against me being trans:

My family has been a bit divided in responding to me coming out. By now, it’s been about 4 years.

My mother and her side of the family are in denial. They don’t understand how I can’t be a “lesbian that just likes boy things”. They don’t use my name or pronouns.

My father, what little communication I have with him now, is bewildered. He and I had a discussion this past Christmas where I brought up what his abuse did to me mentally and he apologized but then tried to say “well what about your part in all of this” and said that I was hanging out with crazy depressed people, cutting myself, doing drugs, (I was smoking weed and I’ve tried acid like once piss off) and was sneaking out. Yeah. I did do all of that BUT GUESS WHAT. IM 20. I go where I wanna go. I fuck who I wanna fuck. I smoke what I want and guess what? It’s not any different from when I was 16 except now I don’t have parents up my ass telling me what to do. His argument basically was that I need to own up to what I did too and that fucking angered me. You don’t apologize and then go “well what about you” that’s not an apology. That’s deflection and honestly I don’t think I need to apologize because my parents were super controlling. I was just trying to do what I wanted and they didn’t like it. He and I have talked about me being trans and he pretty much thinks I’m certifiable. Doesn’t use my name or pronouns.

My brother: Ethan, my brother and I have always been close. He’s 17 now, and he had a different reaction to me being trans. Of all of my family he was the most receptive to my pleas of gender dysphoria and he suffers with anxiety so he gets stuff. But alas, after asking him if he’d call me by my name and pronouns (after 4 years of being out) he thinks that I am the one that has an issue with society. I told him I was starting T soon and he said: “Hrt won’t lessen all the things that come with being transgender. If you feel like doing hormones is the best for you then do it, but from a logical standpoint I think there just needs to be more thickening of skin” he claimes that if I try hard enough I could be fine living as female. Doesn’t use my name or pronouns.

None of my family supports me. None of my family understands. And none of them ever will. I have been out for four fucking years. I can’t tell you how frustrating family rejection can be. I have cried so much at the idea of not having a supportive family. I feel like I was ripped away from a beautiful life somewhere and thrust into this mess.

Honestly though, it doesn’t matter, the world keeps spinning and I keep finding people who love and accept me for who I truly am. I have made peace with my family’s lack of acceptance. It’s made me stronger and more compassionate towards others. Made me want to be better than them. I am actually going to start hormones soon, and on top of other fears I have, will be cutting my family out of my life. I can’t be 25 with a full beard and getting misgendered by my family. I can’t do it. They may feel like I’m going too far, that I don’t have to do this, but I do. I’m not doing this because I didn’t get too much attention as a kid or my mom favored my brother over me, I’m not doing this because it’s cool, I’m not doing this because I’m bored, I’m not doing this because I hate myself or anyone else. This is AFFIRMATION. Sometimes, cutting people who can’t see you for who your really are out of your life is affirming too.

Guys, girls, people, keep your head up. Things get better, I know. I thought life was never going to get better so I know that’s what it can feel like. But it does. Never ever let someone control your life or who you are. You’re beautiful/handsome/amazing! You deserve to be comfortable in your own skin and to love who you are. I am getting there, we all are.

Love,

Tanner M.

[republictrooper]

So Bioware came out with its ever-so-often “we didnt completely abandon Mass Effect, I promise” thing, and it’s gotten me thinking. If we got more Mass Effect, what would I want? I know in part what I probably don’t want. 1. No Prequels. Stop the Prequels. We do not need to know what happened as much as we need to know what happens. Even if you liked the ME3 ending (I didn’t), it leaves so much up in the air about the future of the galaxy that I’d rather see how it keeps going, how things advanced.

2. No more Andromeda games. Honestly, I liked Andromeda more than most, and I think it deserved DLC, but I think it really blew the biggest thing it needed to do, which was make the people fleeing the Milky Way refugees instead of colonists. Right now, between the way it grossly mishandled its queer characters and the way that even the most pro-Angaran runthrough still has heavy colonialist overtones, I think it’s best to just leave it, maybe tie up its remaining storylines in a novel or side-story. Andromeda is, in the end, a depressing story of a “hero” who’s only a hero because of cybernetics and who their dad is, bumbling into a royal mess in which the old races of the galaxy have reproduced pretty much every major fuckup they made in the Milky Way, and you’re not allowed to fix them more than superficially.

(At the very least, if you make another Andromeda game, let me get rid of Tann. Kill him, send him to mine Eezo on that exploded prospective Turian planet, whatever, just get him out of power before he completely tanks everything with his old school colonialist bullshit).

So those are the two biggest things I don’t want, what DO I want:

1. Possible non-human Protagonists. Pull a Dragon Age Origins/Inquisition and let the PC Choose their race, with each having a unique origin. I’d prefer Turian, Asari, and Quarian for the non-human races, personally. One of the great things about science fiction and fantasy, to me, are the monsters and non-humans, and I like exploring more non-human perspectives. Also, seriously, there is no reason everyone wouldn’t know what Quarians look like, there have to be photos and movies at this point. Just give us unmasked quarians in the sequel, whether because the Geth helped cure them or they researched their way to better antibodies or a compatible home planet.

2. Treat your damn gays better. While I appreciate the Jaal fix, I mean. Cmon. It took a dedicated campaign to get enough gay options to finish the 3-romance achievement, and of the two original options, one was a stereotypical depraved bisexual that required you to kill the only major black woman character in the game but also basically ended once his planet’s quests were done, and the other had a storyline that revolved around the straight woman friend to the point of homophobia. WLW got more options sure, but mostly because of the “hur hur lesbians” angle for straight men, and for the umpteenth bioware game in a row, the butch-coded woman was ragingly and emphatically straight. Then of course, for trans woman, the implied trans leader of the expedition was killed offscreen, and whatever other story might have been about her died with the DLC, and the other trans character was a sidequest person who immediately deadnamed herself and implied the Milky way was incredibly transphobic. And ME3 was barely any better, especially if you didnt save Kaidan in ME1.

So basically, write more gay stories, write better gay stories, and hire a wider variety of queer writers to write them. 

3. Treat non-white characters better. Allow places where asian, hispanics, africans, and other races exist not as random faces, but keeping their unique cultures and outlooks instead of being absorb into some pan-earth miasma that ends up look weirdly like standard western American/Canadian culture. Hire non-white writers to help you realize this. No more letting that one white guy write the black squadmate into weirdly racist corners. 

4. Let me tell an actual optimistic story. I’m tired of all these dead ends, I’m tired of bureaucrats ruining everything, I’m tired of being unable to save people. Let my next character be a hero who lets the Geth and Quarians live in harmony, who saves the Rachni and confirms they were mostly misunderstood and are willing to live in Harmony with the other races of the galaxy, who gets the Salarians to leave the Krogans ALONE for once.

Anyway, that’s what I want. Let me play a gay alien. Let my non-white friends play and see characters who look and ACT like them. And for god’s sake, let me imagine a somewhat ok FUTURE. 

#mass effect #bioware critical

[bullshitallergies]

Agitation, in List Format.

1. People who think the two party political system is working and/or actually believe that there’s any less corruption or privatized corporate sponsorship or personal greed and lack of ethical code to be found in one party or the other.

2. People who believe that things can be changed from within the system without restructuring the whole system.

3. Gay men who feel like they have some sort of pass to grab female friends simply because they are homosexual.

4. Single folks who are constantly posting “men are this” “women do this” memes just because they feel rejected and lonely. As if things are black and white when it comes to interpersonal relationships.

5. Getting real tired of feeling like I’m classified as a TERF just because I don’t believe that transwomen represent and encompass the full spectrum of female existence. They don’t. Reproductive rights are not a trans issue, they are a women’s issue.

6. Folks telling people what is or isn’t appropriate to post on social media. I’ve seen at least three people today alone posting memes chiding people for revealing too much or complaining about personal problems when they are also guilty of it. Let people have their fucking forum.... which leads us to:

7. If anything should be censored on Facebook it’s how many times a day I have to see your ugly ass selfies. Ten a day should be plenty for even the most desperate and thirsty people seeking plebeian level validation from internet strangers.

8. People who shouldn’t be drug dealers. Like, cmon not everyone is gonna be Scarface but would it kill you to be on time and deliver what you promise? I’ve had shit so weak today elementary school kids are complaining that they didn’t even feel a rush. Fuck.

9. People being Fucking disrespectful in my house! Don’t come by without calling unless you’re a bestie. Trap somewhere the fuck else. Contribute to the house if you need to stay for a night or two. Don’t steal my shit. Follow my rules. Be respectful of us and of my neighbors. IF I ASK YOU TO KEEP IT DOWN THEN KEEP IT THE FUCK DOWN. Stop dropping everything and then acting like somebody got you, you high, forgetful, accusatory motherfuckers.