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number1girl · 2 years

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I don’t follow celebrities so I have very little idea what’s going on with Johnny depp but I’m really confused why everyone on tumblr is so adamant that he’s the one in the wrong when everywhere else the opposite opinion is popular? like i don’t get it

yeah i’m not sure, I think it’s because tumblr has always been the “social justice” website lmao, so maybe there are less totally shameless men’s rights activists on here. or maybe it’s because the bot farms depp and his team have been using to orchestrate a smear campaign against amber heard are more active on twitter. but still, there are pleeeennntttyyy of depp supporters on this website too.

can’t blame you for not caring about celebrities, but this case is imo pretty important in terms of the legal and cultural precedent it’s setting for victims of abuse, and also in terms of what it’s saying about the rampant misogyny in our society right now.

long story short, johnny depp, 48, married amber heard, in her twenties (previously, he dated winona ryder when he was 26 and she was 17). he abused amber physically, emotionally, and sexually. there is extensive evidence of this. if you wanna learn more about how abuse works and what causes it (because there's a LOT of misinfo going around right now) I highly recommend the book Why Does He Do That?.

in 2016, she successfully filed a restraining order against him, and came forward with allegations of abuse. they divorced, and he had to pay her seven million dollars in the settlement, which she pledged to charity. they made a joint statement agreeing that neither party had made false accusations for financial gain (ie, depp wasn’t denying the abuse). he continued to be one of the highest paid actors in hollywood (he’s earned millions upon millions since amber first made her allegations), and didn’t lose any roles as a result of the allegations.

then, The Sun, a UK newspaper, ran a headline calling him a wifebeater. Depp took them to court for libel, in a country where it’s VERY hard to lose a libel case. It was supposed to be an easy win for him, but he lost, with a judge ruling that 12 out of 14 incidents of alleged abuse were proven "to the civil standard” (the other two were ruled likely, but didn’t have enough evidence to be proven). So - he’s now a court convicted wifebeater, and because of this, he was dropped from the new harry potter movie (but still paid!).

Amber Heard also wrote an op-ed where she identified herself as a survivor of abuse, but didn’t mention Depp by name. Depp is now suing her for defamation, in Virginia, where less strict anti-SLAPP laws make it easier for him to manipulate the court system for his own purposes. He’s claiming that her op-ed is the reason he lost movie roles/his career is in a downward spiral, even though, as I mentioned, he was dropped from the harry potter movie because of his OWN failed lawsuit. (also, he's an alcoholic and a coke addict, and people haven't wanted him on set for years because he's a menace who often can't shoot scenes because he's too drunk or high, costing studios lots of money, and is overall difficult to work with). he's also claiming that amber was the abusive one, which is patently not true. her use of violence (which she has been open about from the very beginning) was in self-defense; his was to control, dominate, and torture her. (and no, she did not cut his finger off).

I’ve made a ton of posts about this and im not gonna rehash all my opinions on this one ask lol, but you can search my blog or google (take everything with a grain of salt, though, because like i mentioned, depp's PR team has been pushing a scarily successful smear campaign against amber). @justiceamberheard is also a great source. But put simply:

#im just assuming this ask is in good faith lol #depp v heard /

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cloudysarts · 21 days

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what's with the bold choice to make blitz forest green and remove all animal traits from his facial anatomy

hes green because in my rewrite, all imps are colored from the rings theyre from!! ive also switched up the colors from how canon is. blitz is from envy, so hes green! hes ""green with envy"", if you will. millie is the only member of i.m.p who stays red!! as she is from wrath.

this isnt a rewrite thing i just hate how imps look in canon LMAOOOO. i dont even know if id call the facial anatomy ""animal traits"" ?? theyre just noseless (as are most of viv's humanoids) and are weirdly long and stretched out. i dont. see what animal thats supposed to represent. lizards i guess? i read somewhere therye supposed to be dragon-esque/reptilian but i dont see it at all. i hate drawing it anyway so i just got rid of it.

#thanks for asking (assuming this was in good faith) bc i actually love talking about my redesigns :]#i also gave him hair because.....i dont.....know why he doesnt have any in canon.#it seems like none of the imps with the mark on their foreheads have hair. WHY #im not really asking bc i dont care. anyway you didnt ask but im telling you more things anyway:#his hair being black is not a mistake. my redes blitzo is trans!! ^^ he used to dye it but doesnt anymore.#the thick stripes on his horns are painted on #and. idk if this is true but i saw a 'fun fact' earlier that said that imps in canon descend from Satan? the wrath prince?#and they can EARN wings....?? i hate everything about both of those facts #so in my redes/write imps descend from fallen cherubs instead. and they ALL have wings #i just havent gotten to draw blitzs yet but he has them :) imps are flightless tho theyre just extra appendages lol

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joligarcon · 1 year

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i think that a lot of the discourse re: pronouns ("it's bad to ask for someone's pronouns but it's also bad to use they/them as a default" and so on) comes from an insecurity that binary trans people who are gender-conforming (by this i mean binary trans women who have a very feminine gender presentation and binary trans men with a very masculine one) in that they think if someone asks what their pronouns are, even in good faith, it means theyre not "passing" and that its just a polite version of the ol "are you a boy or a girl" and i totally see where these people are coming from because i feel this insecurity too but my honest opinion, and im sorry if this harsh, is that we need to get over ourselves and understand that many people ask us that question in genuine good faith, or default to they/them, simply because they know better than to assume what our gender is based on our appearance lol. hot take but ive been working on alleviating my dysphoria in ways that dont involve upholding the gender binary or cisnormative ideas such as the one according to which a persons gender always correlates to their gender presentation 100% of the time, and i think yall should too lol. it baffles me to see posts from other trans people, with hundreds of other trans people in the notes agreeing with the op, saying that if someone chooses to be very feminine its because theyre "clearly trying to communicate that theyre a girl" like where the fuck did we go wrong as a community that weve ended up upholding the very gender essentialist bullshit ideas weve been trying to combat for ages. no im not going to address every single nuance of this topic right now because this post is already super long and convulated as hell im sorry please dont yell at me. but one thing i will say is if youre going to ask about peoples pronouns dont just single out the one person whose gender is ambiguous to you because that feels shady and not unlike the "are you a boy or a girl" shit i mentioned earlier

#as a binary trans guy who considees himself masc i do have somewhat complicated feelings about this #because on one hand it feels great when people default to sir or he/him with me #especially because it happens so rarely lol people usually assume im a girl and that sucks #but on the other hand i know its wrong to assume that someone is a man just because they have a masculine presentation #or other things considered masculine like facial hair for example #because there are plenty of people with those things who arent men and dont want to be thought of as men #also im a mature adult who knows better than to throw a hissy fit at people when they ask me a simple question in good faith lol #sorry for all this lol this discourse Really drives me up the wall and i hate to see all the bad takes gain in popularity

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sugar-omi · 9 months

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Saw your last ask about the eloping and then was just thinking if the MC left with Mr. Wedding planner considering some of his lines in the DLC and the Taylor Swift song (and I am so sorry Cove I love you too but oof this went straight to my brain from all the angst and wanting on both sides)

ahhhh im,,, assuming youre thinking what im thinking n that is MC leaving cove to be w baxter bc that angsty idea came into my mind in the middle of writing that request and i have some ideas on it :(( listen to this playlist for the full effect 👍👍 ik a lot more songs i could add but i left it w olivia rodrigo n conan gray

tags : Angst (with happy ending for cove lol), (emotional) cheating, breaking up, your family n friends ar upset w you to say the least, your fam and friends goes low/no contact

synopsis : you leave cove to be with baxter, this is how everyone reacts.

[this is based off this post: "eloping with baxter", where alternatively you leave cove for baxter.]

*edited because i forgot to add derek's reaction.

please break it off before the wedding. if you leave him at the alter, cove would be thoroughly destroyed and your immediate family would prbly end up disowning you and/or going very low contact.

breaking off the engagement was and is a really hard thing, but you do it anyway to be with baxter

i wanna touch on how your family n friends reacts to the break up first...

well lets just leave it at cove's parents don't talk to you anymore and you are not welcome even near their house

in fact cliff even moves out of sunset bird because he's so distraught and if cove comes to visit, which he does and even moves in with his dad, he sees how sad cove is and it kills him

he regrets ever moving to sunset bird and asking you to be his friend.

cliff never forgives himself for this, even though it isn't his fault, he feels like it is and even if (and when) cove gets over this betrayal, cliff hates that this happened anyway.

cliff doesn't send you any text, he just blocks you

but if you send a text before he can do so, which is possible since he's busy comforting his son

then he responds like this..

"please don't text this number anymore. and leave my son alone. you've really betrayed him.. me too. i thought you were a good person y/n. i hope you're happy with him"

kyra leaves you a very scornful message and then blocks you

she refuses to waste her breathe or time on someone who hurt her baby

she starts by saying how much she loved you and everything you did for cove, but ends it with how she can never forgive you for leaving cove like this

"don't bother apologizing. everyone had their faith in you to love and take care of cove but you've really blindsided him. you're no longer family to us, leave us alone."

your family is very disappointed

even though they don't cut you off, you're distant and if you marry baxter, they don't come celebrate with you

your mom is surprisingly very tender about it and she is the one who misses you the most

she cries over your pictures when you were growing up, and when everything was perfect

she knows you're an adult and things happen, this is the way the cookie crumbles sometimes but the holden's were like family too and everything is just hard

she can't even look at cove when she sees him

once she even broke down crying in front of him, she could see the dark circles under his eyes and yet he still smiled at her and gave his best "hello"

cove ends up comforting her in the middle of the grocery store parking lot...

she doesn't leave the house for awhile. she's so ashamed and embarrassed because she can hear the whispers of the townsfolk

"i wish they were kids again..."

your ma calls to yell at you.

ma doesn't ever get mad, if anything mom was the "bad cop" growing up and did most the iron fisting

but your ma can't believe you'd do this. she understands that sometimes you fall out of love with someone or have deeper feelings for someone else but.. you knew cove for 15 years and you leave for someone like baxter, who hurt you?

shes just blinded with rage and sadness, even thought she's yelling she ends up crying

she tells you not to come around for awhile, she can't bare to look at you and look at cliff (and cove) the next day

"please don't bother coming home, you're not welcome here for the foreseeable future. i thought we raised you better than this."

your sister doesn't know what to do

she never expected this from you

she hugs you while you cry, you're still her sibling but she also can't forgive you so easily

she and cove weren't close, but definitely closer than baxter and she saw how much he loved you. and she sees how much he's hurting, as he's slowly gathering all his stuff out of your shared house.

she helps him pack his stuff and gives him a hug, lets him cry and tells cove that he's always been like family, and will always be

she watches him cry in his car before finally driving off and suddenly liz is so mad

all this upset and upheaval for what? a traumatized, flirty victorian-emo man who stayed for a summer and told you to fuck off and then came back 5 years later?

she doesn't yell, but between the quiet and half empty house, liz scolds you and flies back home the same night...

"i love you but i can't believe you threw this all away for someone you knew for ONE summer 5 years ago... i'm so disappointed in you."

lee is the one who comforts you the most when you cry

but you can see the disappointment in her eyes

she calls you a lot less, and she doesn't scream in excitement at you anymore. especially if you're with him.

one night, she even whispers into the dark room, having thrown a blanket over you and thinking you are asleep.

"i thought you were better than this..."

your friends are so surprised

they never saw this coming at all

im (not) sorry to say but you are now friendless :)

miranda is the one with the greatest fury

she leaves several voice messages where she is yelling and cussing you out...

"lose my number! i can't believe you'd leave cove for your wedding planner! someone who hurt you 5 fucking years ago!" "you need to get a grip on reality if you think you're gonna live happily ever after. screw you, you-"

terry is with miranda at the time so she cut off the last message before she could share her new nicknames for you

terry's disappointment is immeasurable.

he tries texting you and asking whats going on before he asks you to meet him for coffee

thats the last time you see him before he sends you on last text...

"i hope you're happy y/n... i really cherished our friendship but i can't trust someone who did this to their partner and one of my best buddies... goodbye."

derek is ready to fly over to cove immediately, and he does.

derek helps cliff get cove settled and calmed down, he even makes dinner while cliff helps cove at least get a grip on reality again...

"i'm so surprised you did this y/n... i thought i knew you better but i guess not... listen, i gotta finish dinner, cove hasn't eaten in a couple days. i'm sorry but cove is my best friend, i hope you're happier now.. goodbye."

cove is ruined, to say the least.

somehow he expected it though..

you were dating cove when baxter came that summer, but he saw how you looked at him... it was with a sense of longing. he supposes it was only a matter of time before you decided you wanted a taste of baxter ward, he just hoped it would never come...

you dated baxter that summer, and he saw how distraught you were when he left you so brutually.. cove thought you really loved him, that you finally got over baxter. but apparently he was wrong, you were just patching your wounds until baxter could put you back together...

you never dated baxter, but cove saw how you looked at him with longing and cove always wished you would look at him like that. i guess you just turned your eyes to him until you could finally have the one you wanted...

cove loved you so much, and now that you've broken up he feels like he'll never recover

cove's personality does a whole 180

if he was "warm", he's not anymore. he can't bring himself to smile and laugh and socialize when his chest feels so hollow yet like he's been stabbed with pins and needles...

if he was already "cold", i need you to imagine him being even colder...

he still says his "please and thank you"'s whenever its necessary, but anything other than a hum when affirming to the cashier that he found his groceries okay

or telling the fast food worker what he wants to eat, which he usually orders online in that case, then he doesn't really talk too much

everyone can see how distraught he is even though he tries to distract himself

he cooks meals from scratch, he even learns how to make bread just to keep his mind away from it all

he tries to surf or look for shells but it just ends up hurting more because he as so many memories of those things with you

his whole childhood was with you... you gave him a childhood and you're the reason he enjoyed life so much, you made him so happy...

cove really tries to keep his head above water but even with the love and care from his parents, he's drowning...

its like when he was a little kid all over again but this time he's the one going through the break up

sometimes he snaps at his dad to please leave him alone and he runs off to the guest room crying.

he's so overwhelmed, overstimulated in every way and hurt.

he feels like he'll never recover from this one

when he does "get better", its still a total change from who he used to be

he definitely keeps his friend circle tight and dating isnt even on the table, and wont be for a long time.

fuck it probably takes him another 15 years to get over you.

all he knew for the last 15 years of his life was you, and now he has to do without you so its hard.

some days he falls apart again, because things are so much harder now that he has to take care of himself in every way possible

you reopened his trust and abandonment issues...

he has a date with olivia rodrigo and conan gray (see above for playlist)

when everyone finds out you eloped with baxter they lose their fucking minds

your ma doesn't even text or call you. you can't even hear her in the background when your mom calls because she can't believe you'd elope to him after all this, no matter how much time goes by...

your mom feels hurt again. it just makes everything so real and she feels sick thinking that baxter is now her son-in-law

your sister calls to yell at you. its less than a 5 minute phone call, she just can't believe you married him...

lee doesn't bother sending any congratulations, doesn't even like your pictures on social media. the next time she texts you she blames it on work, and thoroughly avoids talking about baxter

you better hope miranda and derek don't see it.

derek was certainly the most peaceful when the break up happened, but he would definitely unblock you just to tell you how disappointed he is and he definitely cusses at you.

""i can't believe we were ever friends.""

terry is angry too, but he cries more than anything

he misses having all of you together, this just reopens the wound of how things turned out...

if and when cove finally sees or hears the news, if this happened soon after your breakup he would lose his shit.

if you elope soon after breaking up: it takes everything for him not to throw his phone.

he definitely goes to the gym for a bit to work out some energy. he's so sad but most of all he's angry

that should've been you getting married but you're with him instead.

if you elope later after breaking up: it hurts for awhile. but it doesn't tear him up as long as it did when you broke up

but the first night he does look at your smiling face and he misses you.

in the morning he's talking to his dad and he does realize that its better like this

that you just decided that baxter had everything you needed, and its not cove's fault

he hopes you're happy with yourself

unfortunately, this isn't a bad bone in cove's body to wish you ill.

but he does hope you aren't as happy with baxter as you were with him <3

if he runs into you for any reason, maybe because your moms finally let you come over or you happen to be in town or something

cove smiles at you...

it's unsettling

especially since this is the first time you've seen him since the breakup and its been years

you start talking a bit, you with very big eyes and a shaky voice

cove used to be so sensitive but now that he's in front of you again he seems so unaffected...

"y/n." "y-yes?" your heart is jumping in your chest... "i hope you're happy now." you pause, looking down and twisting your wedding band on your finger. "i dont know... some days i'm happy enough, but most days i.. i think about the what if's...." cove nods. somehow he feels satisfied hearing that, but he'd never admit it. "well i hope you can get over it, you made your decision so you need to make it work. goodbye y/n..."

in the end cove is so much stronger, of course he's still vulnerable with people, he's still a crybaby but the walls he's built around himself are high and it took a lot of therapy for him to get over the betrayal

when cove does start dating again and if he gets married especially, your mom's are in the pictures...

he looks so happy, so does cliff and kyra

if your mom's are in the pictures, especially the wedding pictures, it saddens you because you have no pictures of your family with baxter, it doesn't matter how many years go by.

hopefully you're happy with your decision <3

#our life: beginnings & always #olba #cove holden #baxter ward #our life baxter #cove holden x reader #baxter x reader #baxter ward x reader #cove our life #our life cove #cove holden x mc #cove holden angst #baxter ward angst #angst

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propheticscrewup · 11 months

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op you said you wanted to be asked about guapoduo so please go ahead do talk about them. go wild

THANK YOUUUU its actually mostly q!cellbit but theres guapoduo in there too because im obsessed with them

some guapoduo interpretations ige seen are very silly LOL. cellbit writes incredibly intricate characters and to assume his character lies flat as leaving him just ruining everything over a commercial and just wanting to have power with the federation is a poor faith idea of the character

when running off first, cellbit mentioned how he felt humiliated that nobody helped, how he felt that he was being used and manipulated and forgotten due to his work and everything he did meant nothing to the others and they did not respect him *at all*. so he ran off

weve seen q!cellbit agree with q!quackity that in order to beat the federation they have to think like the federation. this is the same idea quackity had but executed differently- there is no reason for an alternative treatment

the note of him cutting forever off when forever brought up bobby? cell already knew that had been attempted and creative blocks weren’t enough. besides, he wouldn’t want forever to get any edge in the fight when he was so angry at forever. that wouldnt do him any good

roier also is just not being interpreted as anything but echoes of that uwu cinnamon roll hes so nice trope. he knows what hes doing!!! you can see this in how he reacted to spreen and quackity betraying him!! he isnt an idiot

cellbit would gain nothing from manipulating roier regardless- roier would already move mountains for cellbit. manipulation wouldnt change that. he adores cellbit

q!cellbit isnt a saint, but to assume he’s immediately a one dimensional character that has no plan set up past “ooo power” is a disregard to his character imo. cellbit is incredibly smart to the point where he changed the rules of the server to benefit him. hes a good character!

#qsmp #guapoduo

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rainbowsky · 9 months

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Ok I am the turtle who asked about the breakup cpn, with the kadien and things. I have been told that is rude and hurtful and im sorry Mr Rbs, I do not want to cause you stress. I follow cuz I am autistic and I like that you are too but autistics still rub each others fur the wrong way sometimes just like anybody so im sorry if I did that. Have a great day and stay healthy and may YiZhan stay happily married and one day get to safely come out if they want!

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I don't even know what to say to this.

Who told you that it was 'rude' and 'hurtful'? It certainly wasn't me. I don't have a problem with people asking me honest questions that are in good faith. I answer all kinds of asks, regardless of my reaction to them.

I'm sure whoever said that to you meant well, but I don't want anyone putting words in my mouth. Whatever they said to you, that was their own perspective.

As for your ask, it actually did annoy me a bit, but not because there was anything rude or hurtful about it. I was annoyed because it contained things that are long-standing sources of annoyance for me (which isn't your fault).

First of all, you said "I know you don't believe kadian" which - honestly I've heard people say this before and I find it frustrating. I literally have a whole post that is prominently placed on my masterlist post, where I state pretty clearly that kadian is real. So when people say things like this it feels like they aren't paying any attention and are just making assumptions about me, or else they have poor reading comprehension.

I'm going to be really clear about this:

Being skeptical is not the same thing as being dismissive.

I am skeptical about a lot of candy and CPN, but that doesn't mean I don't buy candy and CPN. It just means that the candy and CPN I do buy is stuff I genuinely believe in - not because it's cute or makes me feel good (nothing wrong with that, but it's not what gets me excited), but rather because I've evaluated it and I feel (based on my own criteria) that it's well substantiated and real.

Contrary to another popular myth about me that also frustrates me (the ridiculous idea that I don't buy CPN and candy) - a huge percentage of my blog is devoted to CPN and candy, and in fact I think CPN and candy are pretty critical to turtledom.

I say this all the time and I hope it will sink in: it's never wise to paint with too broad a brush. Nuance, people. Not everything is black and white. Most things are grey. Just because I seem like a doubter on a lot of things, doesn't mean I don't have my own CPN, and doesn't mean I don't hold a lot of candy close to my heart, much of which I think is important and unwashable.

It seems like some people see a personality trait in someone and then try to extrapolate it across everything about them. Not only is it inaccurate, frankly it betrays a certain level of intellectual laziness. "Oh, here's the funny guy, everything's a joke to him." "Oh, here's the serious guy, he has no sense of humor." "Oh, here's the cutesy girl, she won't like this scary movie."

People are complex and often contradictory creatures. We shouldn't assume we have a read on someone just because we've picked up on a few of their character traits.

As for kadian - in my post about kadian I went to some pains to show that kadian is real, so I don't get why there's anyone out there who would think I don't 'believe' in it. In reality I think people who don't 'believe' in kadian as a concept are uninformed and out of touch. 'Not believing' in kadian would be like 'not believing' in slang acronyms like LOL and OMG.

Back to that 'broad brush' thing I just said - just because kadian is real, that doesn't mean a particular perceived kadian is real and intentionally placed. These things have to be examined in context in order to be properly evaluated.

You can refer back to my kadian post for all that.

On to the other, bigger reason your ask frustrated me.

Just Say No To The Turtle Binary

Your ask was about a 'kadian' you thought you saw in DD's post about being sick, and you felt it was evidence of a breakup.

Without realizing it, you stepped into something that bugs me about the fandom.

If you've been following me for any amount of time at all, you will know that one of my absolute pet peeves in this fandom is when turtles take everything GG and DD say or do as being deeply significant to their relationship. As I've said before -

👉🏻 almost nothing from or about GG or DD will actually be a candy. 👈🏻

I think the key to respecting and honoring their humanity is to love them as individuals first and foremost, and as a couple second. When we fixate entirely on their relationship we end up accidentally dehumanizing them and failing to recognize, respect and celebrate their individual achievements.

There are a lot of turtles in this fandom who take every single thing GG and DD do as either proof they are together, or else proof they are not together. And frankly, that doesn't make any rational sense.

If you've ever been in a long term relationship - or a relationship of any kind, whether family or friends - you should already know that almost nothing in our daily lives is about that relationship. Our day-to-day lives tend to revolve around work, school, hobbies and interests, other social interests and obligations. Almost nothing we do in our day to day lives is about any one particular relationship.

Just look at my own blog here. How often do I mention my partner? Almost never. But we've been married for years, and he's the most important person in my life. Why don't I mention him more? Because my life doesn't revolve around him.

GG and DD are no different. They are real, non-fictional human beings with busy lives and successful careers, and they have a ton of obligations and focuses and pursuits in their daily lives. Almost none of it is about each other. Why, then, would people be so ready to think that every post, every gesture, every clothing option, every decision, every goal is about each other?

Not only is that absurd just on the face of it, it's also absurd when you consider that the vast majority of things that ARE related to their relationship will never be made public for you and I to see.

Their lives are almost entirely focused on their careers. They work hard, they have packed schedules. They no doubt spend a lot of time connected to each other behind the scenes, via texts, video chat, etc. but most of their time will be taken up with their work, and with meetings and discussions with various handlers and brands and management and other career-related contacts.

It's going to be rare for us to catch a glimpse of something related to each other, because such things are going to be rare in their daily lives and in most cases shared privately.

So I am deeply dismayed when DD can't even call in sick without people assuming a break-up. It's not right. My god, let the man be sick for a day.

When it comes to kadian we need to remember that the context is actually more important than the numbers. What is the likelihood that any particular message is about something to do with their relationship? What is the likelihood that something important is going to be discussed or disclosed in that particular venue or format? What is the likelihood that GG and DD are going to send out key messages about their personal and private relationship in the timing of a Head and Shoulders ad?

DD is in the middle of promoting his new film, which - at the time - was just days away from being released. Can you honestly believe for one hot second that he's going to pick that time - of all the times in the world - to dicker around with cryptic, deeply consequential messages about his relationship? Consider his priorities, here. Consider the context and venue.

And have some empathy for the sick guy who was just trying to quell rumors that were flying about him.

When we evaluate anything they are saying or doing, we should be kind and empathetic about it, and on their side.

There were a lot of anti messages going around when he called in sick that day. People had all sorts of nasty theories about why he called in sick, including a theory that he was trying to generate sympathy to boost ticket sales.

Imagine that. Imagine if calling in sick to work made that big of an impact on your life and reputation? NO PRESSURE.

Like, woah. No wonder the guy never takes any time off anymore. No wonder he pushes through when he's got a sprained ankle or is practically falling over from exhaustion. The man can't take a day off without all hell breaking loose.

I expect that kind of thing from antis, but not from turtles. It's very disappointing.

A final note:

Another important thing I want people to fully understand and accept:

My failure to answer an ask is no commentary whatsoever on what I thought about that ask or about that person.

Anyone who has been following me for any amount of time at all should know that. I answer as many asks that annoy me as I do ones that make me laugh, smile or reflect.

In reality, if I don't answer your ask it's 99.9% of the time for one of these reasons:

I don't have time - I've been incredibly busy lately and have had very little time on Tumblr. Most of that time is spent scrambling to keep up with the content GG and DD and turtles have been releasing/discussing. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that this is pretty much always the reason I haven't answered an ask.

It's something I have already thoroughly covered, which can be found easily by doing even the barest search of my blog or browsing through my masterlist post. Given how little time I have for Tumblr, I'm not likely to spend much of it repeating myself.

It's a complicated question that will take a lot of time to answer, so the question ended up in my drafts folder as I pick away at it over weeks and months. My drafts folder is almost as backlogged as my inbox.

IT WAS NOT A QUESTION. I get quite a few of these. I've said this many times - my inbox is for questions.

Of course, anti BS, hate asks, etc. don't see the light of day, either, but that goes without saying.

If you've asked a question in good faith and it's not been answered, it's for one of the top 3 reasons on the list.

So, Anon, I found your ask frustrating, but I didn't find it 'rude' or 'hurtful'. And even though I found it frustrating, I didn't hold it against you because I know that approach is common among turtles. It's just a fairly standard part of the fandom that - while frustrating - I've more or less accepted as 'the way things are'.

So, no hard feelings. You didn't do anything wrong AFAIAC. I think you might want to do a bit more critical thinking than seems evident based on what you sent me, but you weren't rude or hurtful.

And to be clear, Anon: most of what I'm saying in this post isn't aimed at you. Like I said, I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder about a couple of things, and you were unfortunate enough to accidentally stumble across it. I definitely don't hold anything against you.

#fandom reflections #bxg perspectives #kadian #ask

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yesloulou · 8 months

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I mean if the rumours are true and he actually cut Michael off, I dont think Daniel would not do the same for Dax if he truly was unconfortable with his podcast or how much Dax talks about him. So maybe as with his relationship to Michael we don't really know if Dax is taking advantage of Daniel being a people pleaser.

Like I am all for babygirlyfing Daniel but he's been in the spotlight for a long time so I assume he knows where to draw a line when someone is taking advantage of him/his popularity.

anon i see where you're coming from! i also wouldn't say daniel is in a 'wanting to stand up for himself and say no to being taken advantage of but can't' situation, at all. for me their dynamics is more nuanced. (for mixing personal life with business). they're friends. on top of that dax obvi monetarily benefits from befriending daniel (views/publicity), and i think daniel has his reason to be there too (for starters the shepards are both well connected people). soo i too wouldn't say daniel is being taken advantage of, at least not like that

what i would say tho, (and this is my personal opinion although i do feel very strongly about it lol) is that daniel is the type of person who, when feeling uncomfortable/offended, he'd laugh even louder, appear even friendlier, as like a disguise.

exhibit a: him on that god awful misogynistic podcast blake somehow okay'd exhibit b: on dax's podcast when he realized it was an erotic novel about himself exhibit c: that time crofty asked him a stupid question during press conference. max could be seen getting more and more annoyed by the second. meanwhile daniel smiled bigger and bigger. and when max interrupted to defend him daniel was NOT SURPRISED AT ALL even though he had appeared totally ok with the question up until that point. he just made a face like welp i tried to be civil but i do have a boyfriend max that will bite your face off

it might feel counter intuitive that someone would try to seem even friendlier when they're uncomfortable but imo it's the same as when he wasn't sure if dax was joking about the existence of that erotica book, he said 'im very gullible' instead of something inquisitive. to me daniel's way of conflict resolution is to show friendliness and harmlessness in hopes of the other party returning his good faith. (which is also why mclaren was able to take advantage of him like that imo)

anyways, this is why i rlly don't like seeing daniel interact with this particular kind of people (people who take other people's sincerity as a sign that they can push for more. for example apparently dax now thinks it's okay to read that daniel erotica book to daniel on his podcast). ik daniel has been in the spotlight for a long time and im not trying to babygirlify him when it comes to serious topics, but i do think he's vulnerable in this particular aspect

#asks #*#also since we're talking about michael.. i feel like him taking that long to drop michael is telling enough 😳#daniel ricciardo #txt

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peachjagiya · 12 days

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https://www.tumblr.com/peachjagiya/747999049975742464/even-though-im-a-taekooker-theres-a-few-jikook

maybe i'm paranoid but this ask feels very jikooker-y? idk i just feel like it's odd to say you're a taekooker while simultaneously being "suspicious" of other moments, like does that not defeat the purpose? why would you even want to be a taekooker if you're suspicious of a different pair lol. just seems like a bait post to get you to admit they're "suspicious"

I struggle with this because I'm an optimist and I always want to take people at face value and assume the best. But I haven't been doing this as long as some people and I wonder if answering them in good faith is just making me look dumb.

It feels super paranoid but actually it's reasonable to assume that I don't just have an influx of seperate jikookers all in one day and that they're at my page because they've seen I've responded to their previous ask so it could easily be the same people. So I do wonder often if I'm just being baited.

Yesterday definitely felt like I fell into a trap so I think I'm just not gonna entertain Jikook content from here. I know that feels like I'm only willing to hear pro-TKK arguments but maybe that's fine. It's hardly like we're solving world politics here. They have their own spaces to analyse their content and have fun. We have ours.

Thanks anon 💜

#my asks

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triangulum-mori · 9 months

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how to: talk to artists

before i get into this, if you've said any of these, then im not mad. it makes sense you wouldnt understand how it feels to be on the other end of stuff like this. but please listen.

its been a universal constant that artists are usually well respected. cool! however some of the ways artists are complimented/spoken to are...really iffy, at best, and outright hurtful at worst. i'll be compiling all the ones i remember. artists, reblogs are appreciated.

DON'T: "wow, how did you do this in an hour? this would take me a whole day!"

this one isnt that bad but it can still be taken poorly. simply put, its kinda just stomping on the skill that an artist has built up to work quicker or not. some artists take a while, others don't, it shouldn't matter unless it becomes an issue.

DON'T: "your art is way better than mine!"

this one is pretty bad. the artist may feel as though they've been put on a pedestal, and can become uncomfortable due to that. even worse is if this person isnt saying it in a compliment way, but in a "i hate my own art" way and get upset. while i can understand not being confident in your own works, and i empathize with you as i used to be like that, PLEASE don't take it out on artists. we dont want to make you upset, so if posting art near you makes you upset over the quality and effort put into it, we may not want to post these works around you again.

DON'T: "can you draw me?"

no. just don't. please don't beg artists to draw you, your characters, or anything else unless they specifically ask for requests. it can make us feel pressured because we dont want to hurt feelings, even if we don't want to. i promise you there are people with art requests open. ask there!

DON'T: "did you draw that?"

yes, i did. unless you think someone is stealing art, to which there tend to be obvious signs, assume in good faith the artist is the artist.

DON'T: "your character reminds me of.."

most artists hate their characters being compared to others. ocs are often very closely cherished by the creator, so unless they wear their inspirations on their sleeve, please don't compare. feeling like nothing we make is original is already natural enough, and saying this kind of thing makes it worse.

DON'T: "this looks bad/i hate this/(character) wouldn't do this/etc, etc."

unwarranted criticism, even constructive, isn't fun. some artists specifically seek constructive criticism, some don't. respect that. saying shit like 'this is bad' is not constructive and does nothing to help the artist either way. saying a character is OOC doesn't really matter, people can do what they want. of course, if, say, an artist got something major wrong, like a hand being backwards, most (but not all) would likely appreciate that being (GENTLY.) pointed out to them.

thank you for reading such a long ass post lol, feel free to add on your own experiences.

#art #artist #artists on tumblr #artists of tumblr #small artist #how to #digital art #traditional art #please just be a respectful person #we're not gods but we're not people you can hurl insults at either

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communistkenobi · 1 year

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re a recent post my hottest take on this planet is that you can be an amab transmasc but not an afab transfem. perhaps ive been inhaling too many of the website vapours. im afab transmasc btw

I think you can personally identify as literally anything you want in your own brain, but if you’re using labels that generally refer to well established community orientations you should probably like, be aware that people will (reasonably) assume that when you say you’re transfem you are referring to something broader than your own individual experience with gender. so things like “afab transfem” becomes illegible at the community level and don’t really make sense when talking about group experience vis a vis transphobia. so like if you’re discussing your gender in public I find it counterintuitive and counterproductive to use those labels

and I’m sympathetic to the limitations of language. like as a similar example I am effectively heterosexual, but calling myself “straight” doesn’t exactly feel accurate, because the word straight comes with a lot of social baggage, including the assumption of you being cisgender. straight in this context is hegemonic not just with regard to sexual orientation but also the gendered role you occupy in society. and like I tried for many years to be cishet and it didn’t work, so like “heterosexual 2” is sort of how I feel. but like, in a public forum if I were to be like “I’m not actually straight because I’m transgender” that sounds pretty transphobic lol. so I guess my point with this is like. idk if you want to have a discussion with more than just yourself, you need to be aware that these community labels refer to more than just the thoughts in your head.

and on a less generous note, that particular ask came from a transmisandry blog, and I am hesitant to take a discussion about the complexity of labels in good faith from someone who equates “transmisandry” with transmisogyny. I do not trust that person’s intentions when discussing what terms like transfem actually mean. you feel me

#asks #even old new york was once new amsterdam #eh the middle argument is sort of weak. I’m having trouble figuring out what I’m trying to say #like feel free to disagree with everything I’m saying obviously but I’m on shaky rhetorical ground imo

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bloodydeanwinchester · 1 year

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3 things!! Favorite bands, favorite spn eps, favorite movies

hiii thank you for the ask 💜 i am assuming that you are asking my top 3 for each of these things so here goes...

favorite bands: the florence + the machine, lord huron, the lumineers

favorite spn eps: 11x04 baby, 6x20 tmwwbk, faith 1x12

favorite movies: honestly im not even sure i have 3 favorite movies ummm i always really loved the movie garden state, ummm there's this movie that isn't even really good but i loooove it so much called adult world, and then ummm father of the bride i guess? idk that is my moms favorite movie and we watched it soooo much growing up and because of that i am very fond of it too. wow yeah i just don't watch that many movies i guess? lol

anonymously (or not) message me (3) things you want to know about me.

#jenna.ask #ask game

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bubblyernie · 1 year

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Hi! I hope its okay to ask but what is Erill's relationship with his cosmic horror patron? :3c

Omg absolutely okay to ask!! (Also I’m so sorry but you asked about OC lore and I verbally threw up like fifty paragraphs)

Short answer is this super vague comic, it’s Complicated. But it’s love.

Long answer is (It’s so much backstory I PROMISE it’s relevant) hope my dm doesn’t read this lol it’s got stuff I haven’t told him in it)

The one thing that Erril did know from his parents was this very like. Cult/small town mentality of you succeed your parents craft. Which makes sense bc yknow very very very few people (none) on the top of the mountains where he lived. Dad was a mortician, he had to pick up the craft bc people more often than not Died on the journey up (one of those It’s paradise on top but only to those who survive the trip kinda legends) and he just doesn’t know any better at all. He’s also a cleric (as was his father and father before him) of secrecy, imagine a lot of Final confessions and shit like that. Not great for a child with no other influences.

So the one thing Erril has, even when everything went to shit (his fault, ditched his BFF on a mountain left for dead oops kinda like how his parents did to him not outta malice or anything just. Idiocy and cowardice) The One Thing He Has is faith. If I can compare it to anything from Greek love mythos it’d be mania for sure (he’s not like a crazy devotee cultist- or, maybe he is)

He LOVES his god with what emotionally ability he can. He doesn’t understand that though he sees what he’s doing as like, “he’s a cleric, of course he’s like this”. His understanding of love is so childish and shallow, but also so biased. He assumes marriage is — and this is why he packed up and bolted when Winnie confessed — bearing child and then running off to spend your life together, cough cough. It’s also, and he understands this but won’t accept it, deeply parental which he did GET from his parents, they always encouraged his success and treated him well when they were around. Like a child who tries and tries for their parents approval even for a sliver of affection — that but make it a duty. It’s one of those “if my patron asks, I will, because she’s all I have and I respect her authority over my actions. If I’m not useful to her then what am I?”

Anyway to make a long story even longer, left for three years (yay start of the campaign here!!) fuckin Uh wild ass turn of events kept rolling double crits on d100s found out he’s a prophet (doesn’t want to be but his destiny is trying to reach him about his fates extended warranty) and also had to See her (the god) and you know how that shit melts your brain. Went from kinda melancholic and soft to Jaded and angry and aimless. Errils so fucking broke after that shit he got frustrated and threw like a cleric tantrum of like OH YEAH IF IM SO IMPORTANT WHY WONT SHE ANSWER MY QUESTIONS????? Tries to gouge out his eye and his god is just like okay quiet down small man, look at me

She, again, god of all secrecy, asks him what he wants to know. And Erril (idiot) says “do you love me?” And her answer was like Lol Mmh nah, that’s one of your silly mortal things. I do require you tho. And Errils been repeatedly throwing this tantrum over and over trying to earn her respect, because at the end of the day, sure she needs him, but he NEEDS her. And he wants her to need him as much as he needs her and his hubris thinking he can even achieve that will probably destroy him sighs (yay corruption arc)

He keeps fucking up tho he’s a terrible secrecy cleric. Can’t heal can’t keep his mouth shut, all he does is roll nat 100s and aces religion checks but in practice he’s ruined what good grace he has because he opened Pandora’s box and can no longer be oblivious. Ah the allegory of the cave is strong in this one.

Fucked up spider mommy god and her little bitch boy who bites the babysitter (the warlocks), has to be kept on a child leash. Arrogance of like “I’m ur prophet boy I’m allowed to do this I’m going to say that!!” And everyone in the religion is just trying to get him to pipe down and drink his apple juice

#erril #ocs #oc

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