#just some friendly conversation

[edge-oftheworld]

real talk though how much of their success was facilitated by the fact liz hemmings sees 'child with adhd' and thinks 'future world renowned musician' and just invested so much love and time and money into nurturing not only her own child's ambitions but also these two kids he brought home from school and the table drummer from her year 9 math class of 2009

#she's one of my heroes fr #she believed in them so much #this is exactly what every kid growing up neurodivergent needs #and she's a teacher. she knows things!! it's not blind optimism #liz hemmings #5sos #5 seconds of summer #luke hemmings #ashton irwin #calum hood #michael clifford #neurodivergence #adhd #i'm not a doctor #neurodivergent acceptance fr #long before there was a mainstream conversation about it #some people just get it so instinctively and let's appreciate them! #disclaimer this post came almost entirely from thinking about ashton's artist friendly episode. i'm not here to armchair dx ppl #i chose to post it bc we can all do with thinking a bit about what we're seeing before we judge people for their adhd traits #or infantalise them or whatever and i think the fandom is ready #again i'm not here to say who does and doesn't have adhd i don't know that. but i do know its traits and i want to call them what they are

[utilitycaster]

Queueing to make it clear this isn't a one-time thing or vagueing a specific person and more an irritating trend, but: if you have speculation or a personal wish for a story, that is always totally cool and you can and should post about it to your heart's content but it is pretty irritating to post it on other people's theory posts unless you can construct a logical argument and relate it back to their theory.

You want to see a guest character return? Okay, pitch me how this is related to my post, and why it would make particular sense within the story. You think a ship is going to happen? Great, say something other than "Um, I have eyes" on my post if you want to reply to me. You think this campaign is going to go on until level 20? Do you have an argument other than "I want it to?" Then give it, otherwise this would really be better suited to you making your own post.

You don't need an argument in your own post! I think it's wise to have one if you have any interest in convincing other people (and indeed, I tend to find that if there's a lot of MAN WOULDN'T IT BE COOL evidence- and argument-free posts in the tag for something I wasn't already inclined to like, it will make me feel more unfavorable towards it), but if you're posting for yourself and not to make a point you can and should just say what you want! You do need one when you're shoving it onto mine though because now I'm going to get all the people responding to you and I don't want them. Also when people do this and I don't care for their theory I tend to hide the reblog, or I just make the post nonrebloggable if it takes off and I'm sufficiently annoyed, and now no one can see or respond to the theory because they didn't write your own post and I'm in control! Writing your own posts is great! Please, if you are not directly responding to the content of an original post but rather going off on your own tangent, make your own post instead of getting on theirs.

#If you sit on my lap on the bus (what is tumblr but a giant bus) and thrust your headphones in my ear unannounced you're getting pushed off! #queue #i think some people doing this are like. trying to be friendly and have a conversation but here's the problem #if you respond with like. hey. i disagree. a lot of them get REAL pissy so it's like ah you don't want a conversation you want a yes-man #and also like. the way you have a conversation is by responding directly to other people's points not just saying your own thing. #i mean. i recognize i'm saying this on a website where people act AFFRONTED if you write a post that actually contains an argument #instead of shrieking and florid prose that makes rupi kaur look like langston hughes #but like. learn to write a good argument and to respond to people based on what they said not what you already thought. #and learn to accept that writing a convincing argument =/= people will automatically agree with you #either bc of multiple valid interpretations bc there is a subjective dimension or bc one or both of you are stupid

[vitos-pink-shirt]

Ok but what about the first time Vito sees an alligator?

#I know he didn’t live under a rock #but maybe he’d heard about them #or some overly friendly gas station clerk recognizes his accent #as from out of town #so they warn him about the water ways especially at night #and he’s an awkward guy so he just forgets it immediately #trying to escape the conversation #and he forgets until one night he’s standing at a dock #smoking a cigarette trying to clear his head #and some how he sees the eyes or hears the low rumbling #idk I think he’d shit himself #they’re kinda spooky when you aren’t expecting them #vito scaletta #mafia ii #mafia iii #pink shirt posts #maybe

[exandrianpunk]

"yes well sometimes the pursuit of knowledge knows no morals"

i want a dinner table conversation between Prism, Caleb, Essek, and maybe Yussa for good measure. they should just chat for a while, it would be good for all of them

#i just think theyd enjoy eachothers company #some friendly wizard-huburis conversations #prism grimpoppy #caleb widogast #essek thelyss #yussa errenis

[the-amber-droid-dreams]

I JUST MET A QUEER TUNISIAN COUPLE OUT IN THE WILD HOLY SHIT. i was starting to thing id just never meet other queer arabs esp not tunisians and id just have to deal w the cultural alienation in exchange for getting to live in canada and having. rights. BUT. BUT BUT BUT

i just met a married tunisian sapphic couple and ;;;;;;;;;

they want to meet again next week !!!!!!!!

#the fucking WHIPLASH when i heard them randomly start speaking tunisian arabic i just STARED and they asked if i was afraid of their dog #and i was like NO but are you tunisian ????? 😭😭 #WHAT THE FUCK AAAAAAAAA A A H #i hadnt had a friendly arabic conversation in so long.... #and then i watched THE fucking best drag show ever. two of them werent drag queens they were drag kings or some other misc category i think #i am always sososososo happy when i see geneder diverse drag performers ;;;;; #this is such a day <3 #amber actually saying stuff

[arty-cakes]

good grie what is happening in hatchetfield

#NEW STARKID MUSICAL DROPPED IM 10 DAYS LATE 💀 #i just finished it its so chaotic and probably my new favorite LOLL i know its an over the top parody but it reminded me of highschool #we never had any killer ghost jocks or anything. ours were so overtly friendly #one of them started up a long conversation with me by the microwave because i asked him if he ever got a concussion #he explained the rules of football to me and i still dont get it. but he was cool i like that memory. i wonder where he is now #anyway this musical was great and yknow how some live shows have a boring audience like they never clap or anything #this audience was so enthusiastic i loved them and im holding back on how fun the characters are just go watch itt #i havent watched blackfriday yet but maybe some day. and maybe thats why i had no idea why they cheered when the lords showed up

[readymades2002]

i do love analysing media and art and unfortunately this is where i am most confident talking and i am very bad at stuff like: talking normally and like a person fostering relationships in the world with other people

#it is easy for me to go on and on about media and art and themes and i love doing it #and ive had a lot of discussions that live in my head months if not years after the fact because of it #but it is also easy for me to hide behind because anything actually personal and friendly means #i have to be myself if i want it to mean anything and i want to do it but well i do not like myself #and i dont know how to interact with people as a person and not as a thought process. and it is both lonely (for me) #and DEEPLY annoying and offputting (for the other parties) #attempted to start a conversation with a friend id like to know better the other day and im pretty sure #i immediately scared him off by going on about the mechanics of a game and how they tie into the narrative and its good #for paragraphs. its so. UGH!!! UGH!!!!! #i want to connect with people i want to talk to people i want to engage in conversations with people so badly #but this is the only way i know how to do it. im fun if you want a quick and lively discussion about something niche youre interested in #but as soon as thats over...whats left? i dont know where to go after that #after that i am just some guy who is tired and in pain and doesnt draw much these days. looks at birds sometimes. BORING #annoying background character

[rubenesque-as-fuck]

I hope you decide to go, this seems like the kind if thing you'll think about/regret for a while if you don't

I'm going to try to just go about my day normally and see how I feel this evening.

#anon asks #friendly anons #some of the trepidation isn't even the event itself it's all the steps to get there #like gotta pick an outfit and do i wear makeup and then gotta drive there find parking (hopefully near venue but it's a Saturday night so) #then when I get there god i am just so bad at striking up conversations i immediately feel as though my very presence is burdensome #but if i don't try somehow then I'm alone forever so also not great #The Depressies have just been heavy lately despite my efforts and it makes me hyperaware of my lack of connections

[monster-noises]

I love second hand book shops, I got to them frequently and always leave with Something and have a good time just peakin around

But i gotta say

It's one of the Worst spots for me in terms of imposter syndrome

I feel like everyone's uneasey with my presence as though i'm a stranger who just stumbled into their inner sanctum and they're.. they're gunna let me stay but they're gunna be weirded out the whole time and breath a sigh of relief when the Strange Unwelcome Freak Leaves

It also happens at record shops and sometimes at small antique shops or cons+festivals

Just this immediate foreboding of being Angrily Tolerated in a Space I Don't Belong

#monster noises #it's Incalculably stupid because 1) it's a store. anyone can go in there. #and 2) in all those locations... I do beling there!!!!!!!! not even in the sense of point 1 where it's a retail location but like!!!! #Book shops Record shops Antique malls Cons... are all like super 100% right up my alley nerd shit these Should be like '''''my people''''''' #which is i think a strong contributing factor to this pervasive feeling like #there's an underlying current of not just being in there to Shop but that i want the other people there to Like Me? I guess? #in our limited interaction? #i want them to see that i'm One Of Them and it makes me nervous #because whenever i am trying to be a Part of something i Immediately feel like some kind of isolated hollow fraud #like i'm worried that i not only Look like a poser #but that i Am #secretly #a Poser #so secretly that I don't even relaiE i'm a poser #it probably doesn't help that i also always have The most off-kilter interactions with the staff in these scenerios #it's never anything truly embarassing #but it's always like i try to be as nice as possible but their reaction is never what i expect #and it throws me off #it's a hard thing to pin down in words but like.. it feels like they are more than anything just Waiting for me to leave #if not from the get-go then from the moment i open my mouth to answer a question #and like idk !!! i'm trying so hard to be open and friendly and not just use canned response but also not be Too weird or too loud #and be engaged in conversation but it never works! #it's like i ooze some deeply unpleasant vibe and it turns everyone off me immediately when i enter their space #i'll see other customers having lovely conversations with staff and stuff and then when it's me it's like Cold #truly it does nothing for my self esteem #not everyone has yo or is going to like me but i really don't think it's too big an ask to not be scrutinized by store staff Constantly ;<;

[ibijau]

today I feel very lonely, and very stupid

#jau rants #I didn't want to do christmas with family but it still hurts to learn they organised it in a way that means of course I wouldn't go #aka my mother will be there because she's now been forgiven I guess meaning I'm now the one who won't go to family events #I also was reminded that I'm. Not good at becoming friends with people. #there's people I like and I wish I could be on friendly terms with them but if I do start a conversation then I feel awkward and bothersome #I just always assume people would rather do anything than talk to me. Partly because it has been true for a good part of my life ahah #also I did some stuff wrong at work and it's annoying and not helping with the general mood #anyway I want to cry but I'll go play zelda with a doll at my side bc I traded social skills for weird obsessions yay

[anothermonikan]

Have I told you guys about the fucked up dreams I've been having recently? I've been having some fucked up dreams lately. yeah <3

#sorry this is mostly about a dream I had yesterday and if I just say it it's gonna sound so creepypasta-y #like I have a lot of creepypasta-y dreams it's just how my dreams have always worked hehe #It wasn't fucked up because it was scary or anything it was fucked up because of how I felt in it #how to describe it...like I was like almost too calm and accepting of my fate #like okay previous dream context (whether this was context from another actual dream or just. lore my brain made up idk) #I got sentenced to execution. It's...really hard to describe the context without it sounding really silly. #like it was a part of some sick game that a person planned out and it all ended in a white maze room #I was told I could either choose to go free from a month and then be collected for execution or be trapped in the room forever but alive #and I chose to be executed. everyone knew. we all even had silly inside jokes about it ehe #like my friends were picking music out for it. it was really silly hehe! #but the person who came to collect me for execution was so striking. she was like. almost literally a doll #A big doll!! Like she was so so tall!! she actually shrank to be more my size as the dream went on. she was strikingly pretty #and kind. she was so kind #we walked around and said goodbye to everyone. she made friendly conversation. she guided me through how everything was going to go #god the tenderness of it all makes me sqee a lil aha. a little fucked up I think #it was self-inflicted you see. Rose bushes over a tall fence. that's why she was so tall. to help me over #I caught on pretty quickly that she was a person who decided to stay in the room instead of being executed #that's what becomes of them. they become subservient to the game master. they're made to collect the ones who chose to leave and die later #she told me that deep down she kinda wished that doing this for him would convince him to make her human again and to let her be free #I told her that it was bullshit and that he'd never do that. and she was like. yeah. but a girl can dream right? #another one of those dreams that have lines that stick out in my head as well...okay one of them was just really funny #'Hey guys' 'I'm being executed today :D' 'oh. okay!' #dhdhdh #'It's scary isn't it?' 'yeah. it is' 'Well. It'll all be over soon' #like gwah. gwahhhh #'There is something wrong inside of you' levels of impact on my psyche I reckon #me and the doll girl kissed a few times. it was weirdly quite natural. nothing intensive #but I think we both had an understanding that we weren't seeing eachother again and we cared about eachother #it was so greatly platonic and nice. yearning for something I will never experience aha ^^; #Idk if I even want to be in any sort of QPR but it was definitely nice in this dream

[jenahid]

#therapists #but we really do need this #because someone will say they are lgbtq friendly but that just means they watched will and grace some #it does not mean they're conversant in queer theory and issues #and i don't want to pay to educate you

[highlifeboat]

Elena, Max and Melony's relationship in a nutshell)

https://youtu.be/_c1Ie2zE3QM?si=P2ixMgdFkyQeK3Sd

This scene fits the daughters so much better though pfff.

Max, Elena, and Melony's relationship is more like... They get together to play cards every other week.

I enjoy the concept that all the spouses get along. Like, Max and Elena have genuinely good conversation, Elena and Melony sometimes hang out to play checkers or discuss books, Max and Melony are basically siblings at this point, they all pretty much gets on with Mia. The idea that they sometimes break away from their respective partners and hang out together is just really nice.

#i feel like elena would have maid friends too for some reason #like she just has a reputation for being friendly and conversational #(which is funny because bela probably doesn't trust maids. Not fully anyway. so she's always a little sus of them talking with elena #like in a ''she worries for elena's safety'' way #asks #horror lady00

[famewolf]

I had the most gender affirming convo last night. made a nerdy twink lookin' fella blush and stammer twice during an interaction at work

#[static] #my coworker hissing to me afterwards 'you're married! leave some for the rest of us!' lmaoo #i could tell he clocked me as queer and was striking up a conversation and was being *real* friendly #i like how rumbly and growly my voice has become over the years #i was literally just being nice but i know i come off as intimidating to some folks ... regardless it made me feel very Seen #fastforward to my husband saying 'we could have a twink boyfriend' lmaooo

[candied-cae]

Hey y'all- lemme get a little honest about white privilege and ignorance for a second. We're talking about me in this case. Bc I wanna send a thank you to people I've seen on Twitter discussing the use of the 'nickname' Calico Jack uses for Edward in fanfics.

I've been working on a reunion fight between Stede and Ed for weeks now and in my first draft of it I wrote something like: "Ol' *Nickname*, really is an evil monster down to his evil heart, right?" being said by Ed to Stede.

The intention was to use this nickname as the painful characterization it was in the show as a point for Ed to push how he was feeling. That he felt like all the blame was being unfairly thrown his way, like Stede was looking him as nothing more than the monster everyone else has seen, like Stede was seeing the same racist caricature that so many have assumed was all there was to him.

I thought this reasoning to use to nickname as the slur it was, was enough to justify using it. But when I started seeing the discussion of it, I started to get worried. Most of the posts about the use of the name were to not include it as a nickname, as it isn't really one. To instead replace it with "Beardie" or other things in a context of friendliness. But I wasn't really using it that way, so I wasn't sure how the input applied to the scene I was writing... But I chose to err on the side of caution.

I've gone ahead and re-written the line as: "’The ol’ Demon really is rotten, all the way through his evil fucking bones right into his evil fucking heart’, right?" to just use a different nickname, though the passage loses as bit of the point I was going for...

But - as a white fic writer - my priority is not to be "making points" at the expense of my POC readers.

Just food for thought in case other fic writers run into this sort of question themselves. Lines can be rewritten, even if they don't work in the same way as you as originally wanted the dialogue to go. But POC people in fandom deal with enough racism as is, I do not want to pile onto it in making this space further unsafe for them to participate in.

Remember, education is a never ending endeavor. There are more than a few times when lack of education will fail you. Listen and adjust, it something we all need to keep working at because adding to the suffering of POC's for one's own self interest will never be the right way to go about things.

#Thanks for coming to my TedTalk- #Uh- yeah #Am currently working on said fic some more and as I workshop on edit the reunion fight I wanted to put together something about this #white people - we need to be more comfortable about admitting times where we've been confused and figured out what to do #It is not evil to run into a conflict and need to spend some time to understand how you should handle something #And I think a lot of white people who have the best intensions try to act like we never run into these moments #where we see discussion and don't want to clog it with our lack of understanding so we kind of wait for more interpretations #that's at least how it went for me in this case #as most of the discussions were surrounding leaving the slur out of friendly conversations in fic #but I was needing input on using it in a different context to acknowledge it was a bad name and have Ed acknowledge it too #But at the end of the day - as a white person - to use what IS in fact a slur just to fulfill my own ignorant first draft? #It is not worth it #Our Flag Means Death #Our Flag Means Death Spoilers #ofmd #Our Flag Means Death Fanfic #ofd fanfic #Stede Bonnet #Edward Teach #The Revenge #Gentleman Pirate #Blackbeard #blackbeard x stede #gentlebeard #blackbonnet #Stedward #stedebeard