#problem by engaging with shows like this

[legal-poppy]

the fact that so many people (including those involved in the show itself) are ignoring the wishes of the victims' families to NOT have the worst parts of their lives dramatized just so millenial/gen z women can obsess over a hot guy playing a serial killer is a little disturbing

#its what sells #just like the bundy show with zac efron. #its downright disturbing that people are trying to say 'i know the victims families dont want this show to exist but evan peters is so hot' #that doesnt make it better. public obsession and romanticization of serial killers is what got us here. you are actively becoming the #problem by engaging with shows like this #and this is NOT to say that we should not write books movies tv shows or analyze serialists or their crimes. because that needs to be done #but the way shows like this are sensationalizing sexualizing and dramatizing such horrific acts because is FUCKING DISTURB #DISTURBING #you know you fucked up when you care more about money and fame than about privacy and accountability #evan peters #dahmer #jeffrey dahmer #dahmer netflix #monster the jeffrey dahmer story

[ahollowgrave]

Canon Outfits --

WHM & PAL BTN & WVR

(It's gotta have pockets!)

#Pigeon screens #Odette Hollows #Hyur #Middie #Midlander Hyur #posting these before noon on a sunday is probably a bad idea in terms of engagement #but I'm excited so!!! #The thing about Odette is that I dress her up in revealing things a LOT but really #she dresses like this 90% of the time #odette doesn't have a problem with nudity as she finds it something beautiful and therefore holy #however ! she DOES have a problem with being Perceived #so she tends to dress modestly #*I* just love 2 show off her cellulite and stretchmarks so u know!!! #but also god i love how these outfits look with her scaling #SHE IS SO SHAPED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #ALSO I KNOW! PALADIN IS PLD #BUT PAL!!!!! PAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[hauntedpearl]

afadshd I SAID I WON'T SAY ANYTHING BUT. hmm. okay. this is gonna bug me i need to get it out. i think we as a fandom just. forget some things about the show. the thing is, canonically, dean doesn't have an "Asian woman fetish" because the show does not acknowledge it as a thing that even deserves such terminology. every male character on the show is into that porn mag (remember that teenager sam bodyswapped with? proof enough i think if this random kid also had a copy of it. oh also! old vintage bab at the bunker 😐). it's essentially the only porn mag that's explicitly shown on screen on the show. like. THAT'S the issue. the problem is that the show normalizes fetishizing Asians to the point where the only form of East-Asian rep until, i guess, Kevin (??????like???god?????) is like. bab. sgfshsjd IT'S INGRAINED IN THE SHOW THAT BADLY. LIKE. IT'S FUCKED UP. like. essentially. the show is saying that if you're into women, you're into bab. which. hmm okay. i mean I'm not as offended as i probably should be when i sometimes come across it in fic bc i am a tired old asian woman and i filter it out for my personal enjoyment of things. (which. again. tired old person. im careful enough, but i just need white people to know that I am one extremely hardened and tolerant person who puts herself out there for conversations like this all the time and therefore is USED to it to the point of being able to shake it off pretty easily. but like. this is not the norm and IT SHOULD. NOT. BE)

(also engagement with fanfic and traditional media is like different for me but ig that's a whole other conversation. im so much more forgiving w fanfic.)

anyway. this is me just trying to tell you that bab is not an essential part of Dean's sexuality. it's not a personal thing for him, being fetishistic about Asians. Bab is the show being like that. it's the camera. ghostfacers effect or whatever. In a world where eric kripke is not one seriously messed up insane man, it would probably just be some skinmag with like. idk. naked cowgirls or whatever ykwim? like please don't think you're veering from canon when you remove it from your work/discussions/whatever. you're not. you're just ignoring it like you're ignoring other stupid stuff that the narrative normalizes for you.

also. i am not trying to coddle any white people, but i need you to understand that doing a racism ≠ being a racist. like i think a lot of you are afraid of owning up to racisms because you think you'll be branded a racist (in this case, a gun touting redneck who says slurs ig), and like. you need to divorce yourself from that kind of thinking my dudes. we all live in a white supremacist world (me, too, even in India so far away) we are ALL going to do some racisms some times. it's okay to acknowledge that and learn from it. like we are pigs in mud, some will get on you etc., the best you can do is like. see what went wrong. self-examine. reroute thinking to greener pastures.

OKAY STUPID LONG POST BUT YEAH

#i won't say anything about 4lw tho because i think it's more nuanced than that in case of that particular fic and it's like. okay whatever #like i kinda see what the author waa going for and im like ehhh okay whatever. #the thing is. im not terribly attached to it bc it was very smutty for me so like yeah it was cute but it's not Thee Fic or whatever for me #so im like SORRY BUT I DON'T CARE ABOUT HER IS THAT AWFUL 😭😂 #but because all this discussion came up. i wanna talk about the overarching problem. which is not one fic or one person or one anything #it's the construct of the show and it's how you as a creator of fan content engage w it etc #don't @ me too much about this im TIRED AND STUPID #tw racism #long post

[flamestar126]

I'm YOUR idiot.

#and he'll stay his idiot #“you knew what you were getting into when you said yes. this is on you now.” #he's married to him and makes it his problem lol #i like to think mandark loves to show off he's married. especially to dexter. #gets sad and pathetic when drunk when he sees dex have a ring and forgot they're married. now he's sobbing his rival is taken by “another” #married dexdark is just lovely to me. #mandark doing any and every task with having the need to flaunt his ring #being engaged to him is insufferable i imagine. #also drew that hand wrong and exploding myself now #was supposed to finish this on valentines day but got lazy. i had too much stuff that day anyway #i want to do comics again but my hands and arms are fucked. i lost feeling in them off and on the these days without doing much lol #your also looks weird like it's misspelled but it's not?? #dexter's laboratory #dexter's lab #dexdark #mandark #dexter #flame draws

[citnamora]

You ever have those two characters where the thought of them dating makes you sick to your stomach and the idea of them getting married turns you off completely from enjoying the media they're in? Because I do.

#sad aro shit #aromantic #romance repulsed #aros in fandom #fandom problems #I'm keeping the characters to myself so I don't accidentally poke the bear/s. the ship is by far the most popular one #but yeah the writing for them is suuuuuch an ick for me. I hate that they're canon and I miss when they were just besties #it doesn't help one of them got reduced to a lovesick idiot and the other showed like 0 interest up until midways through the 2nd movie #and it stinks because I really REALLY enjoy the franchise but it's hard to engage in the fandom when *so much* is centered around the ship #so in a way I'm kind of. falling out of love for it. and I wish I wasn't because I found so much enjoyment #and now it just feels like any other fandom where it's all about SHIP SHIP SHIP and ugh. I just. wish I didn't feel so alone in it #it also doesn't help that they namedropped the ship itself (HRRRK) and post about it alllll the time on social media

[guntapon]

me: ok that’s it. i am at my limit. no more high school bl dramas. no more enemies to lovers. no more secret crushes. no more bands or serenades or guitars or drums. i don’t think i have it in me to sit through it all again

my school president: 

me: .............. okay fine ONE more 

#help it's really cute #it contains tropes i've seen over and over again and yet there is still something special about it #i can't quite figure out what it is yet #but i like it #it's also way funnier than it has any right to be #if you've got me laughing out loud on the first episode when i am not even endeared to this show yet #then you're doing something right #my school president #talking to myself* #i would also like to state ftr that i don't actually have a problem with these tropes being used over and over again #IF they're executed in unique and engaging ways #like for instance i did not blink an eye at the hs backdrop in the eclipse because the show was so much more than that #and imo the school setting was important to what it was trying to do #my issue is when dramas (bl dramas specifically) cobble together a bunch of overused cliches and rely on them to carry the show #and never bother to dig any deeper than that #it's hollow and superficial #but my school president doesn't feel that way at all!!! it's good!!! and i am pleasantly surprised #i hope it keeps it up

[onewholivesinloops]

those two shots from the first episode of oniakashi showing satoko's reflection as her witch self, as she observes rena spacing out because of her home problems, and the second shot where she's presumably thinking of how she's going to inject rena at the nurse office struck me. satoko is so alienated from her surroundings after looping through her trauma for so long that it feels to her like everything is a 'dream'. she's so emotionally disconnected from the people she cares about as if she were separated by a glass wall. it's a literal interpretation of depersonalization/derealization.

satoko has now entirely compartmentalized the idea that she's doing anything bad. she's completely distanced herself from the violence she's committing towards herself and others. this is no different from a club game or one of her many traps. nothing is real including her friends until she's happy. until the reality wherein she can survive is within her grasp. everything else is a delusion and her friends are just pieces on the gameboard.

still, satoko gives rena the grief and remorse she doesn't give to mion, because rena has always fought against fate - the same fate satoko believes mion has not had to suffer through before that she and rena always do. satoko makes rena much like herself, that way they can be together in this.

rena's reaction to rina and her feeling that she has to kill rina in oniakashi is a parallel to satoko's reaction to rika and st. lucia as a whole. it's this sense that no matter what nothing can get better unless you commit an absolute. a certainty. others will not change or be better if you talk things out with them. satoko sympathizes with rena because she sees much of herself in rena.

it's different with mion whom satoko injects out of curiosity, the curiosity to see something she's never seen before playing out, but that's also an expression of her resentment towards mion - resentment because mion never had to go through what she and the others did while also being complicit in her ostracization and othering as a sonozaki in her mind. there's jealousy there. a bite of biterness. it's why satoko loses all the sympathy she had for rena when she's dealing with mion. satoko feels guilt over making rena go L5, but all of this is goes out of the window when it comes to mion. that's purposeful.

every fragment satoko weaves with eua is just another duel!!!!!!

duels are all about making Duelists and Brides relive anthy and akio's problems. it validates akio's horrible solution as akio is looking for the power to reinforce his worldview that enables his abuse of women and anthy. eua is the same. eua has turned her despair + loneliness into boredom and she sees the world as a stage to relieve that, but she only counts on the cruelty of the children of man. the savagery of the loops reinforces her worldview and validates her manipulation of satoko and her perspective of people.

satoko and anthy are also making them relive their trauma in a similar way, but they're more justified. satoko and anthy are trying to escape, find love, destroy themselves and their loved one. [REDACTED] from umineko is like them too btw.

the akashis are all about the thematics and parallels. gousotsu as a whole is. very utena!

#higurashi #higurashi gou #higurashi sotsu #satoko houjou #gamo.txt #those arcs aren't mere retreads they're different takes on earlier arcs with differences and those differences serve an important purpose!! #gousotsu is simultaneously a thematic remake AND a sequel #and to engage with gousotsu you need to engage with the former as much as the latter #gousotsu is a love letter to the survivors who want to improve but still need to lean on this feeling again enough to prop themselves up #it's a walk through memories and nostalgia for us and for satoko #it's revisiting and re-enacting and trying to understand because problems still exist in different forms #it wants to simmer in those feelings and thoughts #it wants to simmer in what makes things worthwhile to revisit once again #it wants to simmer in what truly makes something a remake #it's going through all of those events again but this time from the specific angle of what they mean for satoko #the entire show is satoko soaking herself in all these events and feelings again #the akashis are really fun concepts to me because they're all about being different takes on arcs from the original #oniakashi is all about giving you a more sympathetic take on rina whom i'd argue was handled a little poorly as a sex worker in the origina #and i like how it implicitly addresses some of rena's internalized misogyny in doing so #wataakashi is all about addressing how mion has always been passive/cowardly to a fault while also giving her an arc of her own #it's where sotsu messed up the most but it's still fun to chew on these concepts and i like what it was going for! #tatariakashi is the culmination of the critique of satoko being a damsel in distress in the original and a deconstruction of that #it's a critique of the message of unity and forgiveness etc etc and recognizing traumas can't be erased and happy endings are elusive #because the harm was still done #people don't want to admit that the world rika created covered up the original problems especially for satoko #who got the short end of the stick in terms of a real higurashi ending which is why they see this as a sick joke #sorry if this makes no sense to anyone i may be insane

[whentherewerebicycles]

a bunch of people have already registered for my mentoring workshop! unfortunately this means i have to plan and host a workshop aaaaaa

#i want to think aloud through it on here at some point #but i think i am going to structure it around the theme of cultivating student autonomy #because i think one of the primary goals of mentorship is to prepare students to be self-directed learners who can set realistic goals + #evaluate their own progress + reflect on what they've learned and what they still don't know #+ take initiative without sitting around waiting for someone to tell them what to do next #so i think we will do some thinking around like #when we have a student we think of as really capable or driven what qualities and behaviors do we observe in that student #and maybe ill also share some of the research on intrinsic motivation + self-direction + locus of control #which i think is all really interesting esp in light of the contemporary College Mental Health Crisis concerns #and then we will look at a range of tools + structures + strategies that i think are useful for fostering student autonomy over time #and maybe leave them with some core principles/guiding values that i think are useful when you are trying to like #avoid jumping in and doing stuff for kids #or solving their problems for them #idk i need to think through specifics a bit more #but i feel like on this campus #people do a lot of 'workshops' that are really not interactive at all #it's just someone talking from slides #and i kind of want to show off my ability to structure more engaging workshops #but idk. gotta think about how to do it well #and how to build in lots of opportunities for like crowdsourcing strategies too

[lonelysatoru]

twitter one piece fandom is so annoying like. it’s all just power scaling, calling random strawhat members useless, and zolu zosan debates like girl can you please be quiet and just watch the show

#idgaf who’s ‘stronger’ idgaf about power scaling #can you please just show me zoro like what’s da problem ion need all the rest of the rah rah thank youuu #text post #just ship wars and nonsense really #one piece #i hate engaging with most fandoms cuz why can’t we ever have fun yall take everything wayyy tooo serious or not serious enough #and don’t get me started on how bad they miss the plot on twitter. #it’s like we’re not even watching the same SHOW #just ranting sorry

[mihai-florescu]

In order to write good fanfic you need to have a level of respect towards canon

#even if its a fixit fic or au or crackfic you can still tell who engages with the canon material and who lives in fanon world #im not saying anything revolutionary here btw i just find fics written by ppl who dont even watch a show but like the idea of it- #an interesting phenomenon. a modern day fandom culture evolution problem

[chromaticroses]

sometimes i genuinely feel like i’m insane when it comes to online media analysis because like. i’ll come out of like the barbie movie or the newest scott pilgrim like “woof, that completely failed at what it was trying to do there, huh” and then i’ll come back on here to people celebrating it as this feminist masterpiece and i’m just left thinking. did we even watch the same thing???

#then i’ll talk to my friends and be like. oh no okay i’m not off base people just refuse to engage with media critically #i’ll look at a part of something and go ‘oof that was really a miss there’ and turn around and there are ppl acting like that exact thing is #the most poignant commentary they’ve ever read and it’s like. huh?? what??? no thats. thats the bad part??? thats the thing they got wrong?? #i don’t know man. i don’t know #sometimes ​i’m really glad we’re in the rvb fandom bc even tho i do see a lot of horrible media literacy most of the fandom is in agreement #the show has major MAJOR problems. i don’t feel completely awash in a sea of surface level takes and terrible analyses

[anghraine]

To complete the favourable impression, she[Elizabeth] then told him[Mr Bennet] what Mr Darcy had voluntarily done for Lydia. He heard her with astonishment.

“This is an evening of wonders, indeed! And so, Darcy did every thing; made up the match, gave the money, paid the fellow’s debts, and got him his commission! So much the better. It will save me a world of trouble and economy. Had it been your uncle’s doing, I must and would have paid him; but these violent young lovers carry every thing their own way. I shall offer to pay him to-morrow; he will rant and storm about his love for you, and there will be an end of the matter.”

I strongly dislike Elizabeth’s parents in general, so I have my bias, but I’ve always found this response of Mr Bennet’s pretty distasteful. His insistence that he would actually pay Mr Gardiner suggests that he could pay, so it’s very convenient that Darcy did it and will refuse to be paid, and tbh I think Mr Bennet expects the ‘ranting and storming’ to be entertaining to boot.

...I also think Darcy absolutely does not rant and storm about his love for Elizabeth to anyone except Elizabeth herself. My headcanon is that Mr Bennet makes his offer, fully expecting entertainment, and Darcy is instead dead silent and unreadable for several moments. It goes on just long enough that Mr Bennet feels a flicker of alarm that Darcy is actually considering the offer.

In reality, Darcy is trying to figure out a polite way to express how incredibly stupid this idea sounds to him when he’s marrying Mr Bennet’s daughter and has 5x his income, quite apart from the “other inducements” (than Elizabeth) that led him to act and would be in effect anyway.

#mr bennet is too cautious and clever to actually show that he's basically setting up a joke so darcy thinks he's serious #ish #darcy is too concerned about elizabeth's peace of mind and general courtesy to actually show how asinine this conversation seems to him #mr bennet: ... #darcy: ... #anyway darcy ends up deflecting via 'wickham is actually my problem bc of our history and my knowledge of him' #and mr bennet is not as amused as he hoped to be but at least he dodged paying half again his yearly income #to a man with 10k a year #they have later conversations during the engagement that aren't nearly as fraught but i think at this point it's just like #darcy trying to act respectfully towards elizabeth's family (as he said!) while mr bennet is like 'well. i'll take it' #anghraine babbles #austen blogging #austen fanwank #mr bennet critical #fitzwilliam darcy #otp of otps #jane austen #pride and prejudice #anghraine's headcanon

[liquidstar]

I'm glad the "Satire requires a clarity of purpose and target lest it be mistaken for and contribute to that which it intends to criticize" meme is getting critiqued in its usage because... While the sentiment itself is absolutely true... I feel like sometimes, perhaps, it's not a work of fiction's fault that you're personally bad at picking up on satire

#im thinking about how i saw a person say futurama is bad because bad things still exist in the future #and its like. thats the point though? #the joke is literally the idea that if we never learn and grow from these problems as a society these are the hyperbolic extremes #that they would come to etc etc #do i think it was all well handled? probably not. it had a 14 year run im sure it fumbled lots of stuff and has shit that doesnt hold up #but i feel like dismissing it entirely based on just- #''but bad stuff happens. and i want the future to be better so this bums me out'' is just dumb LOL like thats literally the point #theyre taking the problems of today and making them into crazy hyperbolic extremes to mock them THATS WHAT SATIRE IS #there is a clarity of purpose youre just bad at picking up on it. NIXON WAS THE FUCKING PRESIDENT IN THAT SHOW FOR CHRIST SAKE #WHAT ELSE DO YOU THINK ''AMERICA'S FAVORITE SUICIDE BOOTH SINCE ****2008****'' COULD MEAN? #idk. this site is bad media literacy r us why take it seriously. but i am. bc its frustrating #bc that quote on its own is sooooo good at explaining why some ''satire'' is bad and doesnt work #but ppl who dont know how to engage w media beyond a surface level have taken it and turned it into like #''this is bad bc i didnt get it'' ok. sounds like a you problem. #but posting this is scary bc im afraid itll be used for the other extreme .-.

[thresholdbb]

My P+ subscription just renewed, which means I have been on this Star Trek high for exactly a year now

#I really said 2023 is gonna be ALL ABOUT STAR TREK and it was!! #the Trek obsession went dormant then came back with a vengeance like November of last year #I went through an intense tng phase in grad school #looking back on the year I wouldn’t have it any other way #I got p+ and proceeded to speed run tng and ds9 #I savored voyager and when it was over we started our Sisyphean delta quadrant journey #somewhere in my mixed up brain I KNEW voyager would be a problem and I avoided it #I have been ruined for other media #LISTEN Picard isn’t the best show but it was precisely why I wanted to catch up #still have yet to finish tos tas ent and dis for shame #also it was half price last year I cry for my continually dwindling bank account #I am actually very grateful because I was lonelier and more miserable before I started engaging in fandom now I am slightly less so #plus going to stlv and making/doing cosplay for the first time a whole experience! #if we’ve interacted this year (and you read my tags) hi I love you #if we haven’t hi I am intense but love talking to equally obsessed mutuals #also lol at meeting the actors Garrett wang taking a picture of me and Picardo being like uhhh ok when I talked to him #jin maley and Michelle Hurd are absolutely lovely #terry ferrell was very very sweet and I shared an elevator (and hand injury story) with Casey Biggs #and I bumped into Rom his-real-last-name-is-hard-to-spell #and marina sirtis called me love I cry #hilarious but also so cringe what is my life #also thanks to Star Trek for the paradigm shifting very likely autism suspicion that I’m gonna seriously pursue in 2024 #ok I love you bye #melts into oblivion

[knowlesian]

okay though, i am sort of dying over the izzy’s like a little kid who feels like his friend was stolen away comment from con as much as i am the he’s too emotionally immature to identify love (and call it such) one.

the love thing is like... i think sometimes when we talk about izzy and love we end up at cross-purposes because we’ve all got a different working definition of love, and i’ve always fallen into the bluest eye camp where love is never any better than the lover; so izzy can love, in his izzy way, and not have it resemble any healthy definition of love on EARTH. 

which is why it’s so perfect he never labels it? izzy doesn’t do any honest introspection! if he did, he wouldn’t be fuckin izzy. so he just feels things, surges and ebbs of something he won’t name. dude’s got this ugly, thorny thicket in his chest, and to reach his own heart he’d have to thrust his hands inside the ugliest, sharpest parts and then own them, get to know them, and call them his own.

izzy’s not emotionally mature: his love is nameless and childish.

which is why the kid thing is perfect? because the way izzy deals with ed trying to change and stede... existing, the reaction of a child: they stole my friend. they broke his brain, they changed him; he’s mine, and they can’t have him.

( ‘that bitch stole my man’; not NOT an adult version of this same logical fallacy. )

because the adult truth is people do not get stolen. they make choices and new connections, and nobody cast a terrible spell over them to turn them into someone new: they just liked those people too. and it’s entirely normal to feel jealous and possessive over a friend, or long for people to be what we want them to be so they can love us like we want them to love us.

but lucius is the one who actually has that one right: people in love don’t own each other. nobody stole our man or our friend, and acting like they did does a disservice to everybody involved. 

god, i love that.

#look i know fandom Disc Horse tends to get... weirdly processed #so writing about why a character is not good at something or needed improvement or fucked up gets taken as being negative #we like us a compliment sandwich at best! #and then that crosses into weird binaries like 'if you hate the white guy so much shut up about it' #but this show crafted fucked up lil guys of varying flavors on purpose! #discussing their flaws isn't an exercise in negativity imo #but rather engaging earnestly #i really do not think the answer to the general izzy weirdness is 'shut up about izzy' but rather 'tilt the angles of examination' #or stede and fatherhood etc #because the ways in which these characters fail and fall short and fuck up is BEAUTIFUL #it's a growth narrative! ed and stede both needed to do personal development work #i love them for growing! i don't scorn them for needing to #i just feel like the point of the show is in part about being kind and honest at once #and how honesty lacking kindness is a problem but so is kindness lacking honesty #one is cruelty in a loud way: the other a slow poison #anyway i just really love these writers and the world they created

[kaladinpdfs]

moash theory 101 is a recommended prerequisite for this blog

#after you take moash theory you can take moash haterism 233 or moash apologism 220 #for best hater practice I feel like you have to have a base understanding of the guy you’re hating #otherwise like. just don’t engage in moash discussion you do not have to defend your thesis…. #especially on other people’s posts…. #like that’s the thing none of this matters moashcourse isn’t real but #it’s annoying that every time i make a Moash post on my other blog someone has to show up like #making up a guy to get mad at. #this wouldn’t be a problem if you took moash theory 101!!! or just made your own post!!!