#real ife

[grimeysociety]

can I ask why George has those wires on him? was he a premmie baby?

tw: childbirth

He wasn't premature, though he was a couple days early. Labor was only two hours, which is considered a very fast one. Because he didn't have enough time to prepare so to speak, he was born with fluid on his lungs and hypoglycemic.

It was heartbreaking for me and traumatising because I didn't get to have that important uninterrupted skin to skin contact with him. I only got to hold him for two minutes before they took him away. Then my husband went with him to intensive care while a bunch of doctors and midwives swarmed over me to suture and monitor me.

He spent a day and a half in NICU (and then was on the ward with me) but was otherwise fine. I haemorrhaged and lost 1L/34oz of blood so they gave me fluids but not a transfusion. We were both relatively unscathed though I did have secondary tearing.

The wires were to monitor his heart rate. I took the photo after he had the CPAP machine taken off once his lungs were deemed healthy.

tldr: he was "stunned" and didn't breathe properly at birth and had to stay in hospital longer

#real ife #anonymous #baby grimey

[paulinedorchester]

Some time during the first few days of January, 1974, my parents and I went to the Aldwych Theatre, London, to see the Royal Shakespeare Company's production of Sherlock Holmes, the 1899 play by Arthur Conan Doyle and the American actor-playwright William Gillette. (My research indicates that performances began on Tuesday, January 1st. I'm all but certain that we saw a matinée; assuming that Wednesday is matinée day in the U.K., as it is in the U.S., then this would have had to have been on the 2nd, as we would have needed to return to Chicago no later than the 5th, so that my mother and I would be de-jetlagged and ready for school on the 7th.)

This was the first time in more than 70 years that the play had been seen in London. It was a big enough deal that the R.S.C. put out a commemorative poster:

Look at this cast:

And here's a list of the people who were in the R.S.C. at that time:

This really was a golden age.

That was a memorable afternoon at the theater for many reasons, not all of which had to do with the play itself, or even with the performance.

The performance was very late getting started. Five minutes stretched into ten and then towards fifteen. Finally, someone emerged from behind the curtain to tell us that Trevor Peacock, who played Sidney Prince, had been in a traffic accident and wouldn't be arriving at the theater any time soon, so someone was going to read his part. I don't remember who this was: it might have been the assistant stage manager, Philip Hoare, or Stanley MacKenzie, one of two deputy stage mangers (the other was Diana Bruce). In any case, he was terrific. If you know this play, you know that Sidney Prince is a safe-cracker, and the substitute actor used the script as a prop, consulting it at intervals as though it were a user's manual for getting the job done.

We had main-floor seats. When the lights came up for intermission, we saw that the house wasn't very full (which, again, argues for a weekday matinée). Indeed, there were only two other people in our section and row — and one of them was Paddington Bear! Well, okay, it was actually a very large plush toy Paddington Bear, but there he was, in his own seat, next to a young woman. We asked if he was enjoying the play. She said yes.

#real ife #1974 #london #royal shakespeare company #sherlock holmes #a long post for sunday

[grazhir]

So... S24

New phone, and it's pretty much finished setting up.

I *think* I've managed to update just about everything that ever had a record of the old number. Worst case, by the time I get the next (“A new bill will happen on X date” for the old one I can just cancel that service.

It's definitely a bit different from the S10, but so far so good. Also, electronic sim, so no fiddling with jacking one in or out (though apparently it can handle a physical sim?).

[There's a reason I tried to use my Google Voice # for everything and anything.]

We'll see.

#real ife #samsung

[turtleblogatlast]

[ cw: nightmares / trauma / ]

Post-invasion, Mikey sneaks into Leo’s room and when asked by Leo what the problem was, Mikey just smiles and says since he’s awake and knew Leo would be too, he didn’t want either of them alone. Leo laughs and lets Mikey stick around, both of them clumped together on Leo’s bed, watching grainy compilations of old Lou Jitsu commercials on Leo’s phone.

Technically, Mikey didn’t lie. He just didn’t explain everything that led him to Leo’s room. He didn’t explain the nightmare of his arms burning up too bright, too fast, destroyed before Raph and Donnie have a chance to help. He didn’t explain how he woke up with a wail caught in his throat, phantom pain in his arms and chest alike chasing away any semblance of exhaustion. He didn’t explain how his mind made sure he knew, vividly, that if one thing went wrong with his portal, then he would have never seen Leo again.

He didn’t explain, and he didn’t have to. Leo knows his brothers better than he knows himself, and Mikey has always been easy to read. So it’s no trouble to let Mikey know that he’s still with them, that Leo is here and alive with everyone else. And when Mikey finally regains his exhaustion and falls asleep leaning against Leo, Leo simply maneuvers him into a more comfortable position and stays by his side.

He doesn’t move, doesn’t go to sleep - not that he could, anyway. He just mindlessly scrolls on his phone, the soft snores of his little brother filling the room. He stays in place, awake, because he wants to be sure that when Mikey wakes up again it’s to the immediate sight that Leo is alive and well and home.

And, if Leo’s bring honest, that’s a reminder not just for Mikey’s sake.

#rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt mikey #rottmnt leo #rise mikey #rise leo #portal pals #one of my favorite things about Mikey is how self assured he really is not only in his skills but in his sense of self #but no matter how confident you are how much faith in yourself and others you have anyone can be struck by what ifs #and trauma isn’t so easily brushed over #so I can easily see Mikey struggling occasionally with the notion that ah. I did it. but what if I didn’t. #bros the worlds best mystic warrior in part because he can do real miracles #but miracles are only thought to be so because they’re near impossible feats #and with the knowledge that he is capable of opening timelines…I wonder if a part of Mikey fears falling into one where he failed #now - Mikey is not one to get wrapped up in insecurity he really isn’t #but for something so important and such a possible fear? at the very least I can see his subconscious manifesting a nightmare or two #most likely more - he’s a kid after all #they all are #ANYWAY love this duo lol #almost positive I wrote something similar to this wayyyyyy long ago but bleh I’ll write it again idc idc

[carlyraejepsans]

i think i might be legit happy for the first time in my life.

i got out. i actually got out.

#and i mean unabashedly #fully wholly no ifs no buts no compromises. I'm out i have friends REAL friends like irl we hit it off so well in just a few days #we're all here cause we all love the same things i can hop on a bus and go anywhere i want in the city (ANNUAL BUS PASS FOR 25€. HELLO???) #i live on my own I'm meeting my roommate tomorrow and ik she's a sweetheart my professors are trans friendly the prices on stuff are decent #I GET TO USE MY OWN NAME. #i get gendered correctly even with long hair this is the first time in my life where i recognize myself in the mirror #this still doesn't feel real. if i think about it too hard i start to tear up #i think the local mutual aid group might even have resources to get started on hrt

[kiwioala]

cellbits chat canonically being the voices inside his head was both the best and worst thing he could’ve done to make chat canon bc sometimes they’re evil little shits but also every time roier comes around the chat just explodes with heart emotes and “GUAPITO” and i find that incredibly endearing

#qsmp #qsmp cellbit #it’s so funny to watch happen in real time too #bc one second everyone’s miserable and the next ifs just ‘’OMG !! GUAPITO <3322’’ and i think that’s wonderful

[ilostyou]

she really said i don't want you to say a WORD about This Man bc this is about ME but also here's this song about him!!!!!!!!

#i cannot believe this is real ife #dear john #eras tour lb #taylor swift

[istanbulite]

can i say i love that Heinrix's design is like a middle age man? he s not also like perfectly pinterest model handsome

#heinrix van calox #like...he looks like how i imagine a #man whove been doing what he s doing for decades to look #rogue trader #xx #ALSO STOP AIRBRUSHING HIM YOURE KILLING HIMMMM where r his eyebags where s his wrinkles binch #(lovingly) #he looks like he d be nice to hug #i find it interesting that the male li is Cassia who has her... oddities but lets be real she s v young and v cute #compared to Heinrix who is in fact not cute lmao (this is a compliment btw) #sort of a fresh air after all the...... ifs and vns...which i love but cmon

[bitchfendi]

plvsaa is craaazy cuz you have the drugged up and manipulated townspeople wake up, realize their lives are fake and are just “ no its okay, i can keep living like this”

#professor layton #plvsaa spoilers #personally if i found out my whole ife was a lie id first break down and second do whatever drugs they have in the real world #dont do drugs kids

[meimi-haneoka]

Every time I see the English translation of a certain Clear Card panel with Touyuki appearing on my TL I want to pull my hair because that line was mistranslated so, so badly and people are making speculations and going nuts about it in the tags and it's all based on something that doesn't exists because that's not what Touya says, not at all. Like, not even remotely. It's also so out of character for him to say something like that, I don't know how his fans don't realize something is off in that line.

One day I will compile those translation mistakes in one giant google sheet or something, I need to turn this into a mission because it's honestly so irritating to see how riddled with mistakes this localization is, sometimes to the point of messing with important parts of the plot. I don't see them releasing a decently translated edition in the near future, so it's all I can do to give back some respect to the story. Clamp are aware of the translation mistakes and how they change the perception of the story for the foreign readers, just as they are aware of the posts I've made about them over the years (they talked about this in a Space long time ago, and I still cherish that mention in my heart with pride). But there was basically nothing they could do at the time, if not suggesting the English readers to check the posts mentioning the translation differences. That's great and all, I'm glad I have their blessing but this is also not really how ideally one should read a story. My posts are long and filled with personal comments and maybe that would deter many people from checking out what a certain line actually says, so I need to find a quicker and easier way. Also, I started to do those only from chapter 40 onwards (and in the beginning I was way overzealous, I would need to revise) and this panel I'm mentioning above is part of the butchery they did in the first volumes, which weren't covered by my posts yet.

#sorry for the vent but everytime I see certain panels my blood boils #i love Touyuki they're soulmates and I'm all for their moments together but damn that line was really NOT IT #it's so maddening to think how little respect was used in the translation of this work #and how much of the translator's bias shows through shamelessly #this is also referencing to how people probably still believe Lilie had a thing with Momo #while being very much engaged to Akiho's future father #another terrible translation mistake that hinted at a wlw pair when there was none of it #as I always say headcanons are free real estate #and you can mess around with them however you like #but canon must stay canon and the translation has to reflect precisely what's been said in the original JP text #no ifs and no buts #people deserve to know the real story #not being lied to for the sake of inventing stuff or giving 'flavor' to things #that's not Clamp's story anymore #it's the translator's story at that point #me being mad about this shitty translation all over again was really not what I needed when I'm so tired after a wedding party #goodnight #please do me a favor and read this story in Spanish if you can read Spanish #Norma's translation is really WELL DONE #always grateful to Agnes Perez for actually doing her job with love #goodnight again

[sophieinwonderland]

i mean, in a sense, your home self might fit as an exile and your work self might be a manager and your party self might be a firefighter or something

but now that you do mention the literal roles in IFS, I haven't seen one anti endo mention them.... like ever

Right?

And the home self and work self are referenced all the time despite having no basically no role in IFS in what I've read.

It's like all the anti-endos are just getting their (mis)information about IFS from other anti-endos.

Just for reference:

I think if work selves and home selves were separate parts at all under this model, they would probably both fall under the categories of Managers most of the time. But I do think a "party self" being a firefighter makes a lot of sense.

#internal family systems #psychiatry #psychology #ifs therapy #parts work #ifs #syscourse #endogenic #pro endo #pro endogenic #plurality #systems #system #multiplicity #system stuff #real system #actually a system #therapy #mental healthy

[grazhir]

“Breaking News”

They've spent the entire morning (min. 2 hours now) blathering on and on and on and Belichick.

Could we have some actual news? Or is it truly that slow of a news morning? I could have sworn when I woke up that my phone reported another disaster, so how is a football coach more important than disaster and people (potentially) dying?

#real ife #“breaking news” #this is silly

[rimouskis]

For a team stuck in the same situation the Pens are, would it be better if: secure a high end prospect (top 10 protected) with a high chance to let more prospects play in the main roster next year or squeak in to the postseason with a late season heater but without a meaningful payoff?

why would you ask us, a sid and geno kissing blog, this

#this is a riff on the narnia blog meme #but uh honestly I feel like this is a question that doesn't have a real answer. everything's relative dude #and me pontificating on the what-ifs will not change what ends up happening verily!

[cargopantsprentiss]

All this time later I still don’t understand the conversation JJ and Emily have at the end of Cure before JJ has the meeting with Barnes. Like… what were the writers hinting at with that 😭

#I miss them so much tho like that was one of the last real *them* moments #but also when em’s like telling her she can always talk to her about stuff she can’t take home… uh… duh #you two have been close friends for how long #what are the what ifs and if onlys tho bestie 😭 #text #Rosie’s cm nonsense

[kimbapisnotsushi]

i'm still mad that the only reason hinata wasn't invited to the miyagi mock camp was because washijo was a little BITCH

#anabara was a real one honestly #i mean i GET it it's complicated #and hinata probably wouldn't have learned as much as he did if washijo hadn't decided to have him be ball boy #it is a very very tangled web #but also it kind of comes down to the principle of washijo still being a little bitch so like . . . #perfect perfect example of tough choices and what-ifs and the consequences of your actions and sometimes you have to be the bad guy #especially if you're the adult in charge #i both love and hate it so much #sou says stuff #hinata shouyou #washijou tanji #haikyuu #haikyuu!!

[muttween]

The rambling returns

Hey, i know i've been dead for a couple of months and i'm slowly coming back (i do have scripts in need of some honing here and there so please bare with me).

So, after seeing that Raya and the gang are included in Once Upon a Studio (as far as the photo shows) after pretty much thinking the ratld was once and done, my babbling theories returned once again, so here goes nothing.

Imagine if we're actually getting a sequel, except this specific sequel will be darker than what we expected, like slightly The Black Cauldron-ish but without awfully suggestive demonic black magic stuff and it will focus on the growth of Kumandra in general, except it will also focus on Namaari's past.

Think it through, as far as we know Raya was merely an once-to-become Dragon Gem Guardian, like her father and many others of her past family, like Benja mentioned.

Namaari on the other hand, we don't know anything about her actually, only that she's the daughter of the Chief (like Raya), a dragon nerd (like Raya) and a warrior princess with a furry sidekick (Like. Raya.) and that the dragon pendant might have some personal significance to her, that is, totally unrelated to Raya.

Thing is, what if the center of sequel is more focused about Namaari's growth a future chief of Fang in the middle of a new world, the world Virana wasn't aware of. You see i had this theory for a while now and i'm not sure if i ever mentioned before, but what if Fang was actually going through some messed stuff underneath all that shiny golden palace of power and mighty?

Hear me out, technically speaking Namaari never actually lied to Raya during their first meeting (she is dragon nerd, and a warrior princess, c'mon that was pretty clear in Spine) and i've definitely noted a shade of sadness in Namaari's expressions during the rice or stew debate before she shook her head and returned to their question game, there was something she was hiding in, but because Raya and Namaari just met, how could Namaari trust Raya with something as personal as the state of your hometown, as if it was entrusting us the audience instead to read between the lines of things that were never spoken to, like their entire dynamic.

The theory is, what if Heart had a hand in whatever happened during those 500 years of discord, think about it, the only land that is prospering in all of Kumandra, is also the ONLY land that has been possessing the gem for 500 years! That can't be a coincidence.

Like what if instead of Benja being that one plot twist villain of another story character, it was Raya's grandfather who was a complete monster, who had something to do about what was happening in Fang (in my theory, a curse and a war), we know this is a fantastical land of magic and joy but what if Heart's hoarding of gem has caused some significant rift between the lands, like you've never questioned why Spine (a forest tundra) is right next to Tail (a scalding desert) and that said hoarding might have caused some environmental/climatic unbalance, though it's possible Pengu's departure itself was sealing point for Kumandra.

What if the Heart family secret was riddled in dark rugs and Raya's grandfather was a man of closed-minded ambitions, who believed the mixing with other lands would later be the fall of their own kingdom, in this case Fang (like King Runeard) and that the growing development of this particular land would pose a threat to them, so he would do what must be done: solve the problem by the taking off the roots. I might be getting a bit too cliche here, but remember that one scene where Virana is telling the Fang children about the "how the mighty Fang rose from the ashes and defeated all the monsters that tried to annihilate them?" very well. (Yes i know that maybe she was mentioning the Druun and how Fang managed to separate themselves in their island following the attack, but there's a catch, when Raya introduce the Fang lands to us, that tower was already built, so maybe she was telling the children about a much more older tale. Also, as foggy as it seems, those silhouettes looked anything but Druun actually).

If that were ever the case, not only would it explain a lot but it would change everything we thought we knew about the movie because we would notice that trust issues also run deep in Namaari just like they did in Raya. What for Raya was betrayal, for Namaari it was retribution, as in "your family took everything from me, it's only fair your lands lost a bit too" and the cycle begins anew.

Coming back to the potential villain, this is where the darker path takes place, because it would showcase all the crimes Raya's grandfather and the council would do to Fang in name of their own "cultural preservation" (crimes these that would include mass genocide, attempted regicide and overwall prosecution, like that scene in Mulan about the village burnt by huns) and that's why Namaari's growth would be more significant, she wouldn't only be seeking Raya's forgiveness, she would seek the willpower to forgive herself by forgiving the land that has caused her and her home so much damage and sorrow, sealing old wounds between the oldest of rival tribes, restart and forgiveness. Hence why it was easier to betray Raya, specially if you got a good motive to do so.

With those aside, i like to imagine Namaari had a big family, some siblings like little brothers and/or sisters, maybe a long lost brother and of course a living father that was once the thread that connected Namaari and Virana, and her father was just like Benja, if not a little more down-to-earth but with him gone their relationship sort of deteriorated since. One night, let's say, he has the idea to welcome Heart to delegate potential long-term partnerships and peace treaties...until Heart decided to strike them, right in front of little Namaari's eyes. Not only it would explain why Fang runs through a whole logical pragmatism system and isolate themselves from the rest of the world, but it would also open doors to potential arcs, such as Namaari and Benja reaffirming bonds once torn by pride and showcase Namaari's internal struggle, of not being able to forgive because in this sense to her, forgiving is forgetting and she can't never forget. Fang's isolation and self-imposed autonomy might be a consequential metaphor of fear, paranoia and hatred. With everything going on, Namaari not only invalidated her own feelings to protect herself, but also restricted herself from grieving in the first place.

Needless to say, war erupts and Fang goes through a bloody crusading against Heart, a battle that would lead Heart away from Fang's territory and into their own rock island. Now, wouldn't Raya be aware of all of that? Not yet. You see i also like to imagine that Benja is secretly a guilt-ridden character and knowing how much Raya would be devastated to hear all of this, the path she was once so dedicated to achieve would be meaningless because there would be no longer honor to fight for, so for her sake Benja kept it busy with her training which was also the same time his wife was close to leave for good so yeah imagine the stress. Maybe the gem did have powers after all, but Benja didn't knew since he was busy with Raya, and because everything that had transpired between them and Fang, which i'm pretty sure Virana, now a widow, would kill him where he stood should he ever set foot in Fang again, wasn't aware of how big the damage has been done at the time. Not just distrust, but miscommunication would also play a role on the sequel.

And Benja, utterly disgusted at what his father and followers did, decided to not only shield Raya from the truth and allow her to grow in a better place, but to fix his old mistakes (again it might just sheer politeness, but don't you think it's a little too strange that out of all chiefs Benja would talk to, Virana was the first he went to?).

But anyway, maybe the main focus between movie would be the turbulent relationship between Namaari and Virana, tradition and change, whereas one side (Virana) out of fear or anger decides that the best way to survive is maintain and preserve certain habits, and the other one (Namaari) believes that in order to survive, one must accept change and let go of said habits when it's due, to move on to better future days or perish in the past. Noticing Namaari is likely going to be Fang's Chief in a newfound Kumandra it makes embracing change more necessary than ever, and that sometimes, is the only way forward.

Anyway sorry for this long rambling, but we're near the 100th anniversary, let's outta celebrate somehow.

#ratld #raya and the last dragon #ramblings #what ifs #Real long post #Ya'll i know i'm fucking screaming at the picture too JUST. LOOK. AT. THEM. LOOK AT NAMAARI SMILING OH JESUS FUCK #And she's right next to Raya! Oh c'mon they're fucking gay #zero surprises