#they don’t believe in personal space

[frownyalfred]

As someone from the Midwest I can tell you there’s no way Clark escaped the litany of Dads smacking him on the shoulder/chest as a young adult and going “Dang, you start working out or something?” to an awkward Kryptonian Clark who has never touched a weight in his life and thought he could get away with wearing baggy shirts and pants.

Now he has to construct an elaborate gym routine lie to satisfy the curiosity (and minor jealousy) of every dad who sees his arms flex a little too much at church on Sundays.

#it’s a thing #they don’t believe in personal space #they’ll smack your shoulder or back #Clark kent #superman #dc #dc comics #kryptonian biology

[drenched-in-sunlight]

i like ghostflower (hell I draw fanarts for them) but I’ve decided I like the version of them in my head more and will just stay away from the fandom in general cuz I’ve seen some discussion and they just make me go “what on earth are y’all on” 💀💀💀💀

#“miles will immediately forgive gwen when he sees she’s gathered a whole team to save him WHAT #he’ll save himself first then befriend Miles G. and Miles G. will start hissing like the cats when that team comes and Miles looks upset #like I firmly believe miles will only talk to Hobie and Margo after all that cuz they r the two that stand by his side thru whole that #like that take is so insane when Hobie is the reason Miles can run away in the first place and Margo risks everything to allow Miles leaving #AND HE KNOWS #u don’t even need a scale to see who Miles will associate with safety and protection more after atsv #also “miles keep getting up after he’s beaten down cuz that what Gwen told him to do in itsv is ALSO insane cuz WHAT #the thing she said when she and others were berating and crowding Miles for not knowing how to be Spider-Man just FEW DAYS after he’s bitten #?????? #THAT THING???? #not his mom’s words or his uncle’s or idk THAT’S HOW HE IS??? #*walk in the tag* *walk out immediately* #u don’t have to make them the only person in each other’s life to prop the ship up especially in this case cuz it makes no sense 😭 #actually the first point srl piss me off cuz that team was only possible in the first place cuz of Hobie and Margo and Miles laying #the groundwork by just being a sweetheart he is #charming and inspiring ppl so ofc these kids will rally behind him and team up to save him #ykno LIKE IN THE COMIC TOO??? #ppl just have to take the only thing I don’t like in the movie (miles suddenly obsessed over Gwen when they didn’t even interact that much #in itsv) and magnify it x100 in fandom #if she ain’t a gremlin girl that is trying her best to regain Miles’ trust but it’s a slow process and Miles needs space and time first then #I don’t want it

[laniemae]

I am going to take a break from milgramblr

[important please read]

ok now how do I start. Im going to take a break from tumblr for about a week. Things have been absolutely awful for me here since the very beginning of 2024, even if it may not look that way at times.

to retell the situation it happened with the new years gartic phone game, where someone made a prompt about a ship that made me heavily uncomfortable. To put it loosely it reminded me of an extremely bad experience with a fandom a few years ago when I called out a ship for being creepy and having a huge age gap but I was constantly dogpiled and harassed. It was probably the worst experience I’ve had on the internet and to this day I get really scared of people hating on me and I apologise for everything likely stemming back from the situation.

I tried to persist with the game but I got really upset and left. I expressed on my blog how uncomfortable I felt about the whole situation. Then this one person, who’s a prominent figure in the Milgramblr community, I won’t name them but I think you’ll know who, replied on my post saying that “it’s ok because…” in such an awful tone. It’s hard to explain but basically it felt really bad as they completely dismissed my feelings about the situation just to justify their creepy ship. And even worse, they way they responded was EXACTLY the same way that everyone else responded back in to at old fandom. At the point to I’d much prefer hate and harassment over that false positive attitude.

I freaked out and immediately blocked them and basically went into a panic attack. I was freaking out on my blog and just to make things worse I saw a post praising them and things got so bad. It was the start of the new year and I was on holiday and was supposed to do a bunch of things but because of that situation I was bedridden and couldn’t stop crying. I had so many nightmares about everyone here turning on me and the original incident and I still have them.

the way the person reacted to my situation was absolutely awful. After my breakdown they immediately went to their blog and started posting about how the ships good and you should praise it completely disregarding everything that happened. I’ve always been uncomfortable with them but this pushed me over the edge. And later on I got in contact with someone who was (presumably) trying to help me and we decided to see if that person could make an apology. But they took way to long to even think they gave any attention to the situation and the apology itself didn’t feel that genuine.

This person was still posting about it and didn’t change their pfp and title despite how bad it was to me and they did not do anything at all. Again I’m not naming anyone but I highly recommend you do not support them anymore. I said I’m going to be leaving for a while but if you want clarification on who it is you can just ask, I’ll check my stuff tomorrow morning before I completely shut off for the week.

I don’t know who it was but there was even a throwaway account hating on me and saying awful things. I didn’t care that much as things had already gotten so bad for me that I didn’t care about the opinion of an anon. But like I said, the sickly positive response that person gave was way worse than actual hate.

and that’s only one part of the story. Another thing happened much more recently with the person I mentioned who was trying to help me. They were the first person I followed on Milgramblr and the person who inspired me to join and make all these theories, so with this and them helping me I really looked up to them. It was a few days ago I think but they posted something on their account about that person and wanting attention to them. I expressed my uncomfortable feelings about the situation and they didn’t do anything about it. Instead they decided to KEEP POSTING about it, like constantly and me getting more upset at the situation and how they responded made it clear that they didn’t care at all. I blocked them and we were mutuals for a while.

It’s been a month and I’m still suffering very badly. I’m not constantly crying as I was when it first happened but it still pains me. I’ve been feeling incredibly distressed on this sight knowing that the original person hasn’t done anything about it and they’re still very close. No matter how much I block them or blog tags I still see them in reblogs or bought up. I had to exclude anything relating to the earbuds collab from my milgram archives as it gives me back really bad memories to the pfps involved. I just can’t feel safe in this place anymore and especially that no matter how I feel, nothing has changed since when it happened and no one’s even actually trying to help me or change things.

I’ve just been feeling so bad that I’ve been going days without eating. Just because I can’t be bothered to get out of bed. The only solace for me is sleep but even that’s not good enough as I might have nightmares and I often feel much more tired afterwards. Things are changing for me as I actually have to get up and do something now and it’s surprisingly going kinda well, but that has nothing to do with this situation.

just to note I will be continuing my milgram archives series, I’ve scheduled quite a few posts for this week so they’ll keep going. For me I’ll completely cut off all activity for this week, and may return on Wednesday.

it’s just. I hate how nothings changed. I want something to happen but no one’s helping

#I don’t know how many people will see this #i don’t even know if people will care about this #perhaps I just come back and everything’s the fucking same #I’ve been considering leaving the fandom because of this and I guess this would be to see what’s it’s like #If it’s better to stay or to leave #I’ve blocked so many people from this situation it’s hard to believe #people I thought I could trust… #To say it once again #If you know the person I’m referring to please unfollow them and don’t support them #I can tell you if you ask for a while #And just seeing all the praise the fandom got with people saying the fandom is such a nice and wholesome space is sickening #It was right after what happened and it’s just awful seeing people say that like they don’t care about what happened #They even started a minecraft server which I wanted to join #But avoided like the plague when I realised it was the person who started the original prompt #There was also a thing that happened recently where someone drew all their mutuals as cats #I ended up seeing that person in one of the cats and knowing that they followed them I instantly unfollowed #The cat pfps just make me so uncomfortable as it constantly reminds of the situation #It sounds stupid because it is but I’m at the point where any little reminder can set me off #But it’s not as bad as the collab pfps which I just can’t look at anymore #Although it’s only with a few characters that really make me feel that the art style in general just gives bad memories #To what I said earlier I don’t know anything about the person the originally made the prompts stand on this #I don’t know if they’re purposely ignoring me I don’t know if they even have no idea this is happening but I’m worried #I’ve also had experiences with a bunch of people I used to follow blocking me #And I’ve talked about it here but no one pays attention

[binkus-bonkus]

I love that people can project onto characters but as soon as they start to force those projections onto me or others is when it’s a problem.

Like zelink are siblings or sheik is trans or zelda is a man or Link is trans or Link is gay.

Like that’s great!! Put your identity into the characters you love! OC-ify those bitches.

JUST DON’T FUCKING FORCE IT ONTO EVERYONE ELSE. YOU’RE NOT COOL YOU’RE AN ASSHOLE AND YOU’RE TAKING AWAY THE ABILITY TO CREATE AND PROJECT FOR SOMEONE ELSE

If you can project these things onto characters THAT AREN’T YOURS TO BEGIN WITH so can everyone else.

So respectfully shut the fuck up and let others cook and project and find identity in the characters that they love without you forcing your opinion or your identity or your projections onto them.

I’ve always found it weird when others gatekeep characters they don’t own. Don’t do that shit. It’s weird af.

#I see this a lot in the zelda fandom tbh #and it’s really discouraging sometimes #I love projecting onto characters and giving them traits and personalities i can be more emgaged with or can relate to #but when bigger creators in the fandom space start pushing their agendas and calling other fans stupid for not believing the same opinion #that’s when it becomes a problem #just because I don’t believe that Zelda is trans doesn’t mean I’m stupid #stfu actually #let me have my opinion without pissing people off because yours doesn’t align with mine #maybe this is just a tumblr thing lol #or maybe i need to find new zelda enhoyers to follow

[dykedvonte]

If Ulysses has a million haters, then I'm one of them. If Ulysses has one hater, then I'm THAT ONE. If Ulysses has no haters, that means I'm dead. If the world is with Ulysses than I’m against the world.

#this is slightly joking but like also not but also like am mixed on Ulysses on many factors #infuriating because i sympathize with his pain but it’s like #he is a well written and fundamentally flawed character whose hypocrisy I found doubly in #black characters I can tell were designed by white people with a semblance of an understanding of activism and bipoc oppression #but not enough for the character to not feel like hand holding for the majority white audience #plus personal grips with the whole twisted hairs thing and reference to slave braiding patterns #Ulysses irks me as a black person on a weird personal level and I can go into debt on why him being black is a big detractor for him to me #like he continues this cycle of distancing himself from his roots before remembering over and over again through his actions #he leave so much in his wake that the courier ends up correcting or helping like in honest hearts and old world blues because he’s self #righteous in a subtle way even to himself that he believes he stand out of his one man rule when he does not play an active hand #saw a post talk about how you choose to continue moving through his story and can leave at any moment and this it is partially your fault #but what of the oath that is set before you and is forced to take that he set up #I do not have to walk it but when I do the steps are not my own but those taken for me #you have to go out of your way to change it which is not something he expects because he’s playing by a story he’s been perpetuating in his #head about you two and the effect one man has when he’s continually been that one man more so than you as many of his actions directly lead #to the one you go through also the irony in the flag he continues to bear being the real reason he has no home #like he reps it when the package is likely enclave and thus use the same symbol #also still can’t get over how anyone could have delivered the package and he tries so hard to act like it was the couriers destiny or fate #when this was the one case of chance and that once man was likely a enclave engineer and how it’s really is never one man #it the process and he’s so annoying about it like he’s a cool character but if you don’t believe in his philosophy or already went through #these ideas cause they are very common talking points in poc especially BIPOC spaces he’s just old hashings and stunted #fallout #fallout new vegas #Ulysses you upset me but I’m like I feel you could be better if you weren’t so incessant #I don’t think I ever want to make a serious post stating this about him just because I’d start yapping and it’d never get finished #ulysses fnv #fnv ulysses #lonesome road

[reflectionsofgalaxies]

Okay so it turns out the brilliant Tangelene Bolton (creator of Warrior Nun’s stunning soundtrack, including Beatrice and Ava’s beautiful theme) has read Avatrice fanfiction.

Every time I think I can’t love this cast and crew more- 💖

#oh and the lovely person who tweeted this is one of the core people we have to thank for the OCS newsletter btw #seriously this cast and crew is just. . . ✨ #they blow my mind #*insert that one KTY mind blown pic* #so dedicated so passionate and so kind! to keep interacting and fighting with us #going far beyond ‘just a job’ #it’s also their pleasure and it shows #people like William don’t stand to benefit from the show being renewed necessarily #and people like Trisán and KTY don’t get paid for doing the little interviews online or in Twitter spaces and things #they’re literally just doing it matters to them and they believe in it and mostly they see how much it means to us #and I think that’s just so cool #anyway I’m exhausted from work so I’m rambling #Warrior Nun #Avatrice #Tangelene Bolton #Avatrice Fanfiction #music score #composer #Spotify

[zainmalik]

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#i had a good cry #let all those feelings out #things got too me too quickly and i felt overwhelmed #i’m much more calm now #my friend and i had a conversation that put a lot of things into perspective #she’s a g/aylor so she’s gone through her fair share of bullshit too #it’s bad that this is getting to me to the point i have a breakdown #and it’s because i have a parasocial relationship with him #at the end of the day we don’t know him personally. we don’t know what goes behind the scenes #and maybe distancing myself a bit from the whole personal aspect of him would be better #also something else. we all have a parasocial relationship with him #la/rries. antis. solos. the people that spend their time hating on him #we all care so much about what he does to the point it gets to us #i still love him and his music and call me crazy but i’m still going to his shows and buying 28op #and i’m gonna play the hell out of lt3 when it comes out #because i enjoy his music and his work. and to me that’s all that matters #whatever his personal life is. whether h and l are still together or broke up or it was just a fling. that shouldn’t matter #don’t get me wrong i still believe in la/rry. nothing can stop me from believing it. but it shouldn’t take so much space in my life #i’m still gonna stream his music. i’m still gonna blog about him. i’m still gonna be his fan #i’m still gonna gif him #but i’m gonna work so hard to make it healthy #somehow i’ve managed to do that with h already #so yeah just lots of words #treating this site like my personal diary aksjsjksjsjs #also @ parasocial relationship anon. somehow i feel offended by it but that’s a me thing not a you thing. and it’s true #logan.txt

[toxoplasmewsis]

What is with people thinking they can like… Shame me into changing opinions. “Oh it’s so cringe/embarrassing/cunty you think this” do you… do you need all your opinions approved by the council? Do you ever get to think for yourself or is that reserved for like… someone else? Have you ever had an opinion that was different to the people around you? You people are pathetic and your lack of character isn’t my problem. Grow a spine.

#like I saw the stats and it lead me to believe what I believe now #males are more violent I don’t want them in my spaces I don’t care #I don’t think they’re lesbians #I dont think they’re women #cotton ceiling is fake #prostitution is not empowering like #boo hoo my opinions are cunty they’re born from research and personal experience I don’t need the councils approval

[fogwitchoftheevermore]

hey people who make taurtis angst having to do with evo. very interesting note about his whole… deal with evos that you might not know if you didn’t watch mini muka’s pov.

he stops logging onto the server long before the dragon fight where grian is taken as a watcher. however, when the evolutionists are going through the listener’s maze and find the portal to the final update (1.12), muka shows an animation of them jumping through it, and taurtis is in the animation.

in the event any of you want to do something with the implication that he was still… there, somewhere. or at least, that the listeners managed to find where he was and take him to the finale.

#space rambles #evolution smp #taurtis #i’m personally ignoring this. seeing as taurtis is in that animation but pearl isn’t. #and choosing to believe he was intentionally left behind in an update like jimmy almost was #and the listeners just never bothered to collect him #but there’s definitely something you all can do with this. have fun. #idk i don’t read much taurtis angst i feel like most of you knew this #but in case you didn’t. an offering.

[ladysansalannister]

are u a zionist?

No.

#do ppl just see ‘Jewish’ in my bio and decide to ask me this question???? #asks #anonymous #i don’t feel comfortable in antizionist spaces bc of the antisemitism #i’m pretty much a post-zionist or a non-zionist bc i don’t believe jewish ppl should be forced to leave #which imo would constitute ethnic cleansing #and again i feel more comfortable identifying that way bc of the antisemitism i have personally experienced in antizionist spaces #antizionist doesn’t equal antisemitic but the movement has allowed it to flourish

[five-thousand-loaves-of-bread]

words have meaning ya know

#so yeah anyway next time someone sort their skittles by color they can choose to call themselves OCD #“i just dropped my slice of cake i’m so depressed i am going to kms’’ #oh and narcissistic abuse! we can bring back narcissistic abuse now! because according to this person’s logic we can now! #‘‘i have bad chronic pain today so i can’t walk today but im going to call myself paralyzed & paralysis #even though i don’t have paralysis and i can walk today for emergency fire evacuation and i can walk tomorrow :) ’’ #‘‘because it’s more validating for me to call it paralysis ❤️and take away space for people w paralysis’’ #if any of this sound ridiculous it’s because it fucking is #(to make it absolutely clear the previous few tags are sarcasm i don’t actually believe that) #ableism tw

[got7]

i think i’m extra nervous for this upcoming year. usually i’m just meh about the new year, but i foresee that im gonna have to make some pretty big decisions and take major steps in my life from this year moving forward and it’s scary im not gonna lie

#it’s basically just me transitioning a bit more into adulthood #last year i believe i was able to experience a lot of personal growth #especially in a short space of time #which honestly i didn’t even think would happen but it just did #i really hope that this year i can work on my weaknesses though and start becoming the person i truly want to be both mentally #and physically #i wish everyone a happy new year and even if no one has any resolutions thus far (i for sure don’t) #growth isn’t dependant on a particular time and can take place whenever #so don’t feel obligated to have everything planned out at the beginning of the year #ofc that’s no knocking anyone who has theirs planned out #anyways i wish everyone good health prosperity success and happiness in all aspects of their lives #j.txt

[deny3verything]

i love best friends. i’d love to have one someday

#usually i feel this way about romantic ships but the doctor and donna platonic soulmates have been kicking my ass recently #conceptually i don’t believe in soulmates but i do believe there’s at least one person for any other person who could #colloquially be known as soulmates for each other #i would love a soulmate. i would do anything to have a soulmate. but i think i would also be satisfied with a regular ole best friend #i just want. someone who loves and needs me as much as i love and need them #instead of feeling like i’m the earth orbiting and worshiping an indifferent sun #the sun has plenty of planets and space debris orbiting it. the sun wouldn’t know a difference whether the earth was there or not #i don’t have to explain to you what the sun means to the earth #i used to have a sun but i stopped talking to her because i couldn’t be in that unchanging situation forever #it’s been nearly three years since we’ve spoken and i think about her nearly every damn day #it hurts more than anything that we’re not friends anymore. but i think it was worse when my entire life was dictated by her #whether she even knew it or not #i have no idea if it’s better without her. it probably would be if i could get over her but i can’t. i’m not very good at trying #it would just be so nice to be in a binary star system. to have them orbit me in the same damn way #someone who’d be just as destroyed as i am over the loss of their sun #just someone who prefers me over everyone else. for once in my fucking life i want to be wanted #please

[hobisexually]

x

#i! feel! so! disconnected! from everything and everyone #and it’s so god damn annoying #I either feel nothing at all or everything at once and I can’t balance it #but if I take the time to sit with the things I’m scared of I’ll just keel over I don’t have time for it #Im just on autopilot moving ahead #because I have to! if I don’t my fear will win from me and that will Not be pretty #and that’s what I’m so upset about like I didn’t get something I really wanted #and it’s fully because of anxiety but the alternative is WORSE #and the people involved don’t KNOW I have anxiety but I can’t tell them either because it will make them look at me differently and I can’t #afford them to. I can’t let that happen and I think this is the first time I’m realising how much it holds me back even after uni #and I’m so angry over it dndndnd so so so angry and if they KNEW how much I had gone through no one would ever doubt my ability to — #bounce back and take charge of a situation ever again. they’d know I can do that. But it’s too private to share so now it’s up to me to #BELIEVE it and just show them but it takes so much out of me every time #and if it weren’t for the pandemic I would’ve been much further along and if it weren’t for my fucking burnout I’d have been further along #and it weren’t for my Fucking dad I’d be further along. I’m just so mad #so mad that I have to undo and tackle so much when people just sail through things but for me EVERYTHING takes effort #also I have not seen or spoken to my dad since December and I have a wedding he’s attending and I can’t get out of it #and I constantly pingpong between ‘its for the best I broke off contact I needed the space to heal’ and ‘I am a horrible person for taking #his only daughter away from him instead of talking’ #but I’ve TRIED the talking and he just never LISTENS????? and made me feel so unsafe in this world at all times #I’m constantly trying to undo all that and it’s exhausting and no one gets how much effort that takes and I can’t tell them either #like. not gonna unload my trauma on people but if they KNEW they’d get why I don’t always react optimally to things the way they do #aaarffggHhhhHHHhHhhh #also I’m not even enjoying festa I’m not tuned in at ALL and that’s also deeply upsetting but there’s no other way atm #Also. did a thing in PFPT today that. I feel complicated things and I’m just upset about the way my life’s been until now #its making me feel worse than I was expecting #oh AND I was on a trip with friends I’ve had for 16+ years and they all were so happy to be together #felt so connected with each other and it was familiar and safe and lovely they said #meanwhile I cried at 3am in the bathroom because I had never felt more alienated from them ever #I know who /I/ am and what I want and don’t want but the dissonance with the rest of the world….. what the fuck man. What is my place even

[rinhaler]

I have had the WORST separation anxiety since my friendship breakup I’m genuinely in a lot of distress most of the time and I’m clinging to my bf so much it’s actually a bit pathetic

#🧚🏽‍♀️ — luxe chit chat #ugh it’s really getting TIRESOME I just wanna feel better again!! #im kinda finding out new things after the fact and it’s just making my wounds open up n I can’t really heal or move on #idk what to say or do or think or feel it’s so stressful #on one had I’m like she’s going through a hard time she needs space everything will go back to normal eventually #and the other hand I’m like she hates you it’s over move on lmao #idk what I did idk if she hates me but I feel like it was more personal than she’s lead me to believe #SO long story short it’s after midnight and I just got to Kay’s house bc I don’t want to be alone for a second lmao #I’m just so hurt and bummed out I really miss her like crazy but I’m also angry that this happened it just seems so senseless #idk idk idk I’m trying to make sure she knows I still care about her and I’m here if she wants to reach out but maybe that’s wrong #idk what’s right I’m just doing my best and trying to be supportive n kind and understanding #ughhh this shit SUUUUUCKS

[chewwytwee]

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. People need to become more comfortable with making bad art, and people need to be more comfortable with accepting that their art isn’t good. I’m sorry, but sometimes art looks objectively bad (at least as far as the artist is unable to conceive of their artistic vision), and instead of constantly handwaving negativity and brushing critical feelings under the rug people need to develop skills to cope with and progress from those feelings. The VAST majority of art ‘advice’ I see pass across my dash is really just art positivity, where the takeaway isn’t any valuable information, but rather an admonishment for not being kind enough to themselves and corrections you can make to your behavior. It sidesteps the problem ‘I am unfamiliar with art’ and jumps right to addressing the symptom ‘I feel bad I’m unable to create what I want to create’. Instead of working to improve artistic skill and familiarity with creative tools, it tells the reader that they need to work to re-think their conception of artistic quality. There should be space for both of those conversations but they don’t exist to the exclusion of the other. Most art spaces online attempt to create an encouraging space through enforcement of post-over rules and discouraging critical feedback, but inadvertently creates incentives for people to write insubstantial filler so they can post their own work which discourages people who’s art isn’t as impressive or noteworthy because all of their feedback is platitudes. Art communities are consumed by a fear of alienating beginners, but falsely believe that beginners will be alienated by critical feedback and don’t realize that most beginners feel alienated by stagnation and uncertainty. Feeling bad at a skill feels much better than feeling as if you are incapable of improving at that skill, and the shallow insistence of magical thought as a substitute for practice is a self fulfilling prophecy which will make it so.

#.txt #long rambly kinda whiny rant about a thing that grindssss my gears #I kinda gave up on art a while ago lowkey because there just weren’t any spaces for me to get any applicable advice #people just invoke ‘figure draw!’ like it’s a magical phrase and not a skill you have to train #it’s the same trap beginner pianists fall into where they believe practice will inevitably produce good results #that’s false. it’s not true. you have to LEARN how to practice well before you can get better #you spend WAY more time practicing than ‘using’ any of your skills #I don’t like how difficult it is to find even one person who just says ‘here’s my daily routine for warming up and practicing sketches’ #for anything besides fucking… anime twinky