At this point I've convinced myself that I'm annoying to what used to be my main group of friends bcus
1) the roomie: must LOVE playing mind games with me because i can never tell if she's angry at me or not. I tell her Good morning :D everyday and she either doesn't reply or replies with a super annoyed tone. Which okay, not everyone can be a morning person! But sometimes I'll come home and she'll be playing games in the living room and I'll go "oh hello!" and she will straight up ignore me. She does that a lot. This is contrast to when she must be?? In a good mood?? Bcus she will have playful chats with me and smile and all that, but those moments. Well they feel rare.
And maybe it's just me??? But i would never treat her like that even if I'm in my foulest of moods so. It hurts. If anything, even if I'm exaggerating, it hurts.
Doesn't help that she's so dry in texts too. Like god just tell me u hate my guts and everything i do and go. At least i would know with certainty that you actually hate me and I'm not hallucinating how mean you feel towards me.
2) the faraway friend: stopped talking like we used to since they got a partner, and while genuinely good for them, i lost that part of our friendship and it hurt. Now months have passed so I'm like, whatever. But they used to be my go-to person to share my dumb Real Genuine thoughts and now i cant bcus. Well i know they can be annoying messages bcus I Am Me. And i thought they liked talking with me as well but since the radio silence between us exclusively then i guess. Maybe i wasn't such good conversation anyway? Ah man, i only feel this way on my side bcus i have abandonment issues and this has fucked with my head so much but overall, i have managed it! So really that's not their fault lol. But I guess it did feel like losing a friend. Anyway in this state of things i cant share my loud "OH HEY GUESS WHAT" occasional messages anymore bcus i don't think we are as close and now i am back to feeling shy with them. Thanks for nothing, broken brain. Genuinely, only a me problem.
3) la norteña: oddly enough i think she's the one I feel most secure in our friendship with agshjdjd she actually finished listening to the Malevolent podcast and we yelled about it, and the other day i had the chance to help her with an art project she had, and i felt happy!! The only sad thing is that we don't talk a lot 1 on 1 but at least i know they consider me a friend!!!! This feels like an absolute win. No notes except that i crave talking more to her bcus she's always been such a fun friend and now that we don't see each other physically i wish we could watch series together online and stuff. But idk i also don't wanna bother her a lot. But hey we ARE friends, that's something you can say.
So that used to be my main friend group, but maybe it's not anymore? I don't really want to let go because they're my besties from my university years but. Idk. Maybe this new friend group I've found in the office is a new phase in my life i should embrace???
I keep considering these people my closest friends but maybe. Maybe they're not anymore. And that's okay. People and relationships change, and it's not something negative. It's just life evolving around us, and you as a person blooming into a new version of you. It's not bad. It's okay. You're growing. Isn't that something to be proud of???
And you still have other university friends dummy!!! Ones you can 100% tell they're your friends and they like you!!!
Please. Seek and stay close to those that like you, for you. New friendships will always be on the horizon. It's okay snaily, you're navigating life. And it can be scary to see how you and others around you change. But it's okay.
You're blooming! You're blooming always!
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