#we love trauma boyfriends

[orangechickenpillow]

Hob hasn't gone swimming since they tried to drown him as a witch. He still gets anxiety whenever he's near the open water, especially when other people are around him and get too close.

Dream hates being naked. He's working through it in his own time (with Hob's occasional help), but he still gets panicky whenever he's undressed; it reminds him too much of his imprisonment.

#we love trauma boyfriends #........... am i going to write a fanfic about this....... #fuck #maybe i am #goddammit #dreamling #hob x morpheus #hob x dream #dream of the endless #hob gadling #morpheus #the sandman #tw anxiety

[beanghostprincess]

i like acesan because i believe sanji would fucking lose it with ace being a good brother. it would instantly make him fall in love with him. ace being kind to luffy and loving him to death would have sanji on his knees quicker than anything.

#honestly same #nothing makes someone hotter than being kind and loving to their family #is this just my trauma talking? maybe! #do i care? absolutely not! #ace is so boyfriend coded look at him he was made to be brother first boyfriend second and that's what makes him so great #he loves luffy so much i'm in love with him we should kiss #<- sanji thinks this #one piece #acesan #sanji #black leg sanji #portgas d ace #monkey d luffy

[katrinasis]

crying screaming weeping gnashing of teeth etc etc at the idea of john as a vessel. the holy man brings about the antichrist. gary gets sososososososo obsessed with the thought of it because he thinks it would be poetic, that the priest who ruined their chances with amy would take her place. like you fight gary in a room LITERALLY pre-prepped for the second death you just know this man was kicking his feet and giggling about this. john gets an extra hit during the fight because gary needs him alive. how do you open a portal to hell? sometimes, it comes walking right up to you.

john’s choice to doom amy culminates in him sharing her fate. he’s damning the world. it’s his atonement. god

#AAAAH!! AGHH #gary miller #john ward #faith the unholy trinity #i love the special mortis gif you get if you die to gary #sorry lisa we have your boyfriend/childhood friend/trauma bond the second death. yeah he has no face now #sorry he’s possessed we can’t do anything about it. yeah he’s like that forever now. sorry

[buddiesmutslut]

Saw a post that Tommy is Abby 2.0 & that feels SO REAL (older & more mature, introducing Buck to a different way of thinking, knows the job intimately, not quite as into him as he is into them 🫣).

I just hope Tommy leaves in a much better way, bc he gives off good vibes and I ADORE LOU.

#911 abc #evan buckley #tommy kinard #911 s7 #I’m an Abby hater until I DIE bc of the way she did my boy #The chance of Tommy leaving on an adventure and ghosting Buck is low but never 0 #Also I love the fan theory that our Tommy is Abby’s ex-boyfriend Tommy bc that’s hysterical #anyway Buddie endgame always #lou ferrigno jr #abby clark #oliver stark #also they talked about Buck getting off the hamster wheel & how these two relationship (Tommy & M*risol) #would be the last relationships before they get their shit together (in whatever way they’re planning for that to go) #& the imagery of that would be PERFECT. #Abby leaves -> Eddie is introduced & we see the friendship bloom & witness a huge growth in Buck #Tommy leaves -> Buck has learned about himself & grown more and is finally ready to take that next step w his husband lol #I don’t want Buddie this season though #Eddie deserves to have his own arc to understand his feelings & work through his sexuality and the trauma that surrounds that #I want Buddie of course but that only works if Buck & Eddie are both happy and settled in their own skin #I feel like I just ramble in the tags here is this right? is anybody even reading these or am I talking to myself? idek

[craycraybluejay]

i need a sweater or tshirt that has printed bold and in all caps:

YOUR TRAUMA

IS NOT

MY PROBLEM

#trauma #not my problem #tshirt design #literally do not trust anyone who uses the word trauma anymore thats how far theyve twisted the meaning #oh? you're traumatized? which ex boyfriend is it this time? #oh you regretted something you did with him despite being the one to ask for it and not indicating any discomfort or anything like that #oh so its his fault then #because um... youre 2 years younger #omg i know thats super wrong and illegal hes an evil groomer #he traumatized you so bad by... not taking you out to a nice restaurant on valentines day #oh? he's 'delulu' cause he had a crush on you? well that we can agree on #this blog is not a safe space for bitchy judgemental assholes with no sense of personal responsibility #over any of their actions #most insufferable trait ever #'its not my fault DX' yes it is? #abusers use that often. that its your fault and not theirs #that they treat you like that because you MADE THEM love you #or because theyre uwu traumatized #or because someone made them mad and its not their fault for acting like that #anyone who refuses to take blame for anything is a major red flag #if you meet someone like this. run dont walk away

[frecklystars]

Just finished a bartending shift and I’m so excited to use this money for more Barbie tickets. Looping Ken's gorgeous song I'M JUST KENNNNN (♫ AND I'M ENOUGH. AND I'M GREAT AT DOING STUFF ♪) about to jump into the car and drive to see the barbie movie again, because why the hell not!!!! I haven't felt this safe around any F/Os in so long, Barbie and Ken are fucking holding my hand through all of the bullshit and loving me so fully and making me feel somewhat like a person again

#MY NAME'S KEN! (AND SO AM I!) PUT THAT MANLY HAND IN MIIIIIIIIIIINE #I haven't felt any joy from F/Os in so long UNTIL BARBIE AND KEN 😭😭😭😭 #KEN SINGING ABT HOW HE WANTS TO BE LOVED. OH I'VE GOT U BABYGIRL #MY HORSEGIRL BOYFRIEND I'VE GOT U............... WE WILL FIGHT FOR EACH OTHER 💪 #love notes #LOVE NOTES 🥺🥺🥺🥺 IT'S BEEN A YEAR SINCE I'VE USED THIS TAG #I have ship tags for them too!!!!! SHIP TAGS 🥺🥺🥺 #my god i just feel a LITTLE BIT like myself again when i see this movie. im so relieved im still... here #im still Me im still Here im just!!! healing!!!!! that spark inside of me isnt dead its just Healing!!!!! #that part of me... that star in my heart isnt burnt out its just overshadowed by trauma #just imagine one year from now i hope im back to being myself fully again ;_; #this is the first time in so SOOOO long that i've felt so happy and safe with characters 😭 #thank you barbie and ken......... #oh here are my ship tags im so happy with them!!! #💕 I'll fight for you!! - ̗̀🐎🏖️✨ ̖́- #(that's for ken!! i'd want him to fight to protect me ;w; like in his song) #💕♫♪ ♡ You're the pink in my cheeks 🎀🌸✨♡ #(that's for barbie!!!!) #im wondering if i should make crush tags for the other barbies and kens...

[tess-from-neverland]

Me: making fun of Boston relationship with Nick Me: Realizing that I was the Boston in my last situationship My last situationship: THOSE POEPLE SHOULD NEVER LAUGH

#notice how i say situationship and not relationship #only friends #only friends the series #bostonnick #he would ask me if we were boyfriend and girlfriend and i would say no each time #just the fact that i say that we didn't break up because we were never in a relationship makes me laugh #but like #the guy before him was worse than boston #like he told me that he wasnt right for me #and that he felt bad #just to find out that he wasn't right for me because he went back to his toxic ex #anyway i love trauma dumping in the tags

[bylertruther]

season five isn't going to be the byler show because we all have brains and recognize this is an ensemble sci fi show obviously, but it is kinda funny to hear people argue that because the duffers specifically point out in their pitch that will is gay and gets kidnapped soon after realizing it, then in season one have everyone who isn't "in the know" assume that this occurred because he's gay, thus really linking this realization with his disappearance both supernaturally and also to those outside of the main cast. this means that you can't separate the two. there's more to it of course, but will being gay and the consequences he faces for that is intertwined.

not only that, but they then reveal his kidnapper to be will's perfect character foil--love vs hate, light vs dark, hope vs despair, optimism vs cynicism, freedom vs subjugation, light wizard vs dark wizard, etc.

vecna spends all of season four preying on those who are traumatized and "other". he enshrouds them in their darkness until they succumb to it and believe it to be true, and gains strength from their despair.

what does will spend all of season four doing?

he stays by mike's side and banishes his deepest, darkest insecurities by basking him in his light. he listens to mike's worries and his secrets and tells him no, you're wrong, you're absolutely wrong and here's why. this is who you really are: someone worthy, capable, and strong. don't listen to that voice in your head; it's lying to you, mike. he gives mike hope and a way out of his darkness. he frees him from the grips of self-hate out of the goodness of his heart, not because he stands to gain anything from it.

vecna uses people's darkest and scariest memories to trap them and will uses one of mike's happy and safe memories to help him.

vecna gains strength from pain and rage and will gains strength from love and acceptance; acceptance that he felt from mike all his life and then acceptance that he specifically received from jonathan in the back kitchen.

time and time again, season four made sure to show us that they are two sides of the same coin and will's story cannot be extricated from mike and his romantic love for him, so like... season five is not going to be the byler show, but it also ... kind of is going to be the byler show lmao.

if season five is going to feature will then automatically it will feature mike and if it features them then it will pick up on their unfinished plot from season four and if love and acceptance are vecna's weaknesses and love and acceptance are what byler feel and receive from each other then... how is it not the byler show?

obviously other stuff is going to happen because they're not the only two characters in a romance show, but like ... to act like season four [for them] wasn't all about their relationship, the unsaid things that sit between them, and how will's love for mike is not only what made him able to finally say i love you to eleven for the first time but also precisely the love that he was trying to get from her, and that somehow that isn't going to bleed into season five and be resolved and be the exact kind of love and acceptance that will defeat vecna because will's otherness is rooted in his queerness and season five is literally his coming of age and also he's the focus and we'll be exploring his relation to everything because he is In Fact Actually connected to Everything and always has been is just .... weird. and nonsensical.

#mine #like. it isn't but it literally is the byler show idk wht to tell u man. every ending has a beginning and will is that beginning. #his disappearance is tied to him being gay. his otherness is BECAUSE he's gay. his first trauma was homophobia. #milkvan is bones bc mike said ily due to will's confession but will's confession does not apply to eleven. she doesn't feel that way. #she TOLD us and mike she doesn't feel that way and they showed that with how they ended the season. when mike realizes what he's been #searching for has been right beside him all along paired with will being in the most danger he's ever been in.. do you really think it #won't lead to some realizations? when their season four plot was literally their relationship being built up? when s4 showed u how #every problem that mike has with eleven is nonexistent with will? when they told us that the one person mike can't lose is will? will's #weakness is the trauma tht stems from his otherness and once he receives that love and acceptance vecna won't have anything #to draw strength from in him. and since this is stranger things we KNOW that love will defeat evil bc it always does. like. what's #not clicking. not every single second of every single episode is going to be byler falling in love being boyfriends and no one is saying #that lol but to act like will's gayness is not inherently tied to the plot and his coming of age and like will being a focus doesn't #automatically make mike a focus too especially since he's 'figured some stuff out' but still has more stuff to realize it's like. i just #don't understand tht sentiment. they cast will knowing he was going to be a big component of st. the show started with him and it ends #with him. and they said in s4 that mike is the leader guiding everyone. n tht without heart [aka mike] will would fall apart. #literally what is not clicking someone explain it to me bc i don't understand. 🤨📝🧐

[lisbonsteresa]

[vibrates at a frequency only dogs and dolphins can hear]

#I NEED TO YELL ABOUT IT AGAIN #he said 'before we get to the latter half of the season and i start acting up let me remind you i am a great friend and pseudo boyfriend' #it's not just that he does it completely unprompted it's not just that it's proof of how much he cares for his cbi girls #it's how focused it is on lisbon - underrated theme of this season is how much good lisbon brings out of jane #not in a 'good influence' kind of way in a...their history and the way they care about each other... #his love for her brings out the love he has for others (idk don't make me pull out the dawsons creek quote) #it's lisbon's delighted surprise when she learns what he's done #(she loves seeing him help people because she knows how much he loves it even when he tries to bury it under bluster and jokes) #it's the way she thanks him so sincerely (it's the way her 'thank you' here sounds so much like her 'thank you for the letters') #it's the way he's been shutting himself away for like half this season but here he is sitting in her office waiting for her #so he can spend more time (flirt) with her and it's another quiet cute little moment for them #it's the way you can see glimpses of the person buried underneath all that pain and trauma and history #the person that he could grow into if he lets himself heal in a post red john world - a person that could be really truly happy #(and it's the fact that with the benefit of this rewatch i know for sure he DOES grow towards it's just delightful thanks for indulging me) #tm

[hussyknee]

Listen I love Ellen and Oscar but

June Claremont-Diaz 🫱🏽‍🫲🏻 Princess Bea

↓↓

✨ Parentification Trauma ✨

#listen I know there's many reasons this happens even with loving parents #but it's incredibly psychologically damaging to have to fill a parent's shoes for a sibling even if you're legally an adult #because your brain doesnt give a shit how legal you are #it just knows you're prioritizing playing a parental role when you need to be focusing on yourself #my most intense parentification trauma years was between 17–22 #it broke my heart that June left her boyfriend to be with Alex because she knew she's the only one who would prioritise him #and Bea pumping the brakes on her mental health spiral because her baby brother didnt have a functional parent left #granted that may have saved her but having to claw yourself back to sanity bc you have to take care of someone else is seriously non-ideal #and yeah I know that their brothers were worth it and they dont regret it #but they have so much reason to be burnt out and hold their mothers to account good god #women arent caretakers and protectors because we're just built naturally kind. it's because we get left to do the nurturing and caretaking #until it becomes second nature #for my part being a big sister is fundamental part of me and caretaking and protecting and nurturing is who I am now #but the inability to ever put myself first and take space when someone needs me #the inability to turn off the kindness tap even when it's running blood #the instinct to fix things and take responsibility for everyone #it's all incredibly damaging in the long run #''southern goodness'' baby that's the gender conditioning ideal #do you know how much repressed pain it takes to be that kind and gentle #firstprince #june claremont diaz #bea fox mountchristen windsor #parentification #child neglect #emotional neglect #feminism #gender conditioning #knee of huss #rwrb #red white & royal blue

[thedreadvampy]

I fucking love my friend!!!!!!!

#red said #I've been staying with my friend since Thursday night #they are one of my two amazing trauma-bonded pals from way back when #the Gay Goth Goblin Gang #as we have renamed the groupchat since everyone came out #and we have just had a chill fuckin time. we haven't really done anything other than that they had a gig on Thursday #which slapped btw #since then we've just like. sat around. watched cartoons and Auntie Donna. listened to the Trump arraignment. #talked a wee bit about trauma and mental health #most of the time we're hanging out on the balcony while they smoke up #uhhhh we went to their friends house and watched dont hug me I'm scared. we went out for wings. i met their boyfriend #these sorts of things. super chill super low key. #anyway i am in my way to bed and i gave them a hug and thanked them for a lovely weekend and they said #'thanks it's been nice to have a couple of days free of anxiety' #and i just. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ i love them so much #tbh last time i saw them one on one (cause the three of us catch up most Christmases) i was kind of a mega ultra me #mess. like i had been in therapy for like 6 months and i was in the break it down phase of breaking myself down and building back up. #and we were smoking up with their friends and they were talking about a stag do they'd gone to back home that my ex had been at #and my ex. I have. Experiences. that I'm fairly sure my friend is unaware of or they would NOT have been talking positively about him #so last time we were hanging out i was attempting to hide a full blown ptsd attack while also trying to be Charming to Strangers #cause i wanted to talk to my friend about the thing that i was dealing with but i was too scared to 🙁 #this time has been REALLY nice. like super nice. #i haven't gone into close detail on anything but we've chatted broad strokes about a lot of both of our Shit #which is also what i found talking to our other bestie. we're all in a place where we can support each other without depleting ourselves. #and with enough distance from our teenage selves that we can joke about the whole nonces-hanging-around-14-year-olds thing #and in their case the violent homophobia thing #idk this is all getting really negative sounding but it's not negative!!!! i just love them!!!! #I'm really happy i made some time to come and just Be With My Friend for no reason with no structure other than Hang Out #it's nice!!!!!! i like them!!!!!! #also holy shit leeds has some good food

[upsidedowneggo]

PROTECT MIKE WHEELER! ✊✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿

so true my dude. Hope he shows up in season 4 at some point cos he hasn't been here yet. There's a dude who looks like him but he doesn't have any of his like, personality or characteristics or energy or like any of the previously established character development associated with Mike, so like if Michael Wheeler could show up at some point that'd be swell.

#stranger things #st4 #mike wheeler #LOOK i did like the season i thought the storytelling was great #but i think the characterisation really suffered for the sake of plot #also like the hawkins gang is immaculate but the cali gang is a hot mess #i understand why the hawkins gang are doin the things theyre doin and theyre compelling and interesting #cali gang is nothing #this love triangle shit is so stupid #like yall want byler so bad but i think your overlooking that it requires will to steal his sisters boyfriend??? #like its a mess and also like objectively the most boring possible plot for any of these characters #mike will and el are some of the more compelling characters on the show who have experienced the most trauma and upheaval #and i think this teamup could have been really interesting from the perspective of mike's anxiety over percieving himself as the caregiver #to el and will and too a degree i think they see him that way as well but hes also just a kid and he cant be there for everyone all the tim #like if he looks out for everyone who looks out for him #especially cos weve had seasons worth of content regarding will and el's trauma but we've never explored that with mike #but instead of doing any of that were doing more surface level relationship bullshit that we've already done #like i lowkey think this season broke will and mike as characters a bit like when you get to a point where they watch a man die and then #bury the body and they have no significant reaction to that YOUVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG #like how is that not an extremely traumatic event?? but no we just move past it i guess??

[straightfromthetorturedpoetsdept]

i could cry with happiness i'm so happy i feel safe enough to be creative again

#like i did the math out #it's been over a decade since I had this type of writing energy #and a lot of it was a trauma response i think #my writers block i mean #but my boyfriend and I have created the safest of spaces for each other where we can be little weirdos without judgment #and it's been so freeing for my mental health and my general mood #like nothing gets to me anymore and it's because he loved me enough to trust me with my own life #and it's showing up in the writing ideas and characterizations i'm coming up with for all sorts of novels #writing chronicles #unmasking autism chronicles

[serialunaliver]

there was a tiktok I made a while ago basically saying "your abusive ex boyfriend is more likely a misogynist than a narcissist" and while most people agreed some said I was victim blaming(?) and that I couldn't know what their ex is like, and while obviously I don't, every fucking person describing their narcissistic ex is describing a typical misogynist. ask yourself, is this behavior you associate with narcissism directed at women or does he treat his male friends the same way? is his general functioning in life impaired?

many people don't seem to know this, but a mental disorder is NOT based on symptoms alone, it's based on how much the symptoms actually impair you in daily life. most people could look at a list of mental disorder symptoms and identify either themselves or someone else with them. as far as a narcissistic personality, we all know people who appear more self absorbed than others, but this is typically subclinical narcissism (presence of narcissistic traits without significant impairment of functioning) which is not a disorder. there is also a misunderstanding of what npd is. a narcissist is not a supervillain invincible to emotion. npd is a defensive reaction to trauma that lead to deep insecurity and fear of being seen as weak or vulnerable. so narcissists aren't actually "in love with themselves" at all and often are diagnosed when seeking help for other issues such as substance abuse resulting from their struggles.

this focus a lot of abused women in online pop psychology have on narcissism is particularly concerning because it completely glosses over misogyny which is literally a huge factor in violence against women. people really only know misogyny as a surface level thing. they don't know it can lead to family annihilation, for example, and is one reason most family annihilations are committed by the husband. it's always "this man is a sociopath" "this man is a narcissist" when the man's behavior is driven by ideology. I am so fucking tired of everything being tied to mental illness and left at that. you know what this leads to? courts "fixing" abusive men by...giving them anger management therapy. guess what? it doesn't fucking do anything because the problem isn't mental instability leading to anger, it's targeted, purposeful abuse. we are getting nowhere

[puppidy]

Flatmates annoyed and a bit passive aggressive because they didn't tell me about the rule. Apparently we're meant to message the group chat when doing a load of washing because it takes so long - the reason why I didn't know this is a rule is because no one ever does this. Ever. I know I would have asked about it.

And like yeah I under that blanket smelling bad is sensory hell and another person's sheets being crusty is yucky but I hate not being able to shower, I have to have a shower to be able to shave. If I need to be accommodating your sensory needs then you should be accommodating mine.

#Not actually actually annoyed #Okay am annoyed #But like #It is what it is #And this is just a miscommunication and double standards #Communication is the key to resolution #And we do communicate #Just #I got villianised because I reacted annoyed to being told that I broke a rule that no one followed and wasn't made clear to me #I love my boyfriend but just whenever I'm annoyed he immediately goes into appeasing trauma mode which makes it difficult to communicate #So I'll be hurt and emotional but have to put the feelings on hold to comfort him #Starting to get annoyed by my bf slightly belittling my trauma and encouraging me to use my dad's money for uber eats #Like bitch I have told you several times I want to be free of his influence #I don't want to need him #But holy shit does 300 every two weeks help or emergency ubers #But that means he gets a say in what I do how I do when I do where I do #I offer to pay him back for something and he'll refuse to give me his bank info #I'm gonna ask my sister next time that happens #And yes #I know I'm complaining about a pretty good issue to have #But I'm so sick of being coddled #I think that's the right word? #I've had several health complications throughout my life and my parents are overly parental about it #Ugh #Venting is good #Some stuff in here is hyperbolic