#whatd you ask?

[a-romantic--aromantic]

tell me more about your experiences in real life aro spaces please *big pleading eyes*

okay so i am notoriously bad at answering asks because i’m on mobile, but i figured i can take a crack at this one

so i actually wasn’t in explicitly aro spaces, but due to the culture in my area, most lgbt individuals didn’t feel that they needed to use the pride spaces to have the ability to express themselves or feel safe. this very quickly led to queer spaces and clubs being full of aspecs. due to luck, i found my queer club was about 30% aro at the start, and about 50% aro halfway through. the more discussions we had about romanticism and amatonormativity and trying unpack and discover what romantic attraction meant, the more and more people in the club realized that romanticism didnt apply to them in the stereotypical or normative sense, and more and more people came out as aro. there were lots of conversations that included us just pointing out “that sounds like demiromantic” or “is that romantic attraction?” when people said something that sounded like a very aro perspective.

i also didnt join the aspec club at the university nearby because im not a student, but im always really tempted. im curious what a space intended for aspecs is like.

within my experiences, our aro circle was pretty large, and being open about queer identity and connection with our aro identity and community led to me knowing more aros, because you get excited if you overhear it in public, and the more people know about it the more people come out.

my aro circle did have a lot of dating in it, still, but that was because they were all aro4aro if that makes sense? a lot of people realized they were demi. and a close knit aro circle opens up nicely for aro identity being respected And developing romo attraction.

i’ve mentioned before that ive dealt with an exclusionist/aphobe irl, and that im annoyed their “romo aro” flag shows up in google. this person was actively a “chronically online” and “discourse” kind of a person. they held a lot of colonial ideals, were fairly ableist, and pushed a lot of people’s boundaries. this person was one of like 3 that were openly aphobic on campus, and all three of them gave off the sense that they were there to start arguments, not to engage in having a community of any kind. they were ultimately ignored by all the other allospec queer members. by and large, everyone accepted us in their queer spaces, and our “pride alliance” never once suggested that we didnt belong. we spent a lot of time talking about what mattered to us and how our queer identities impacted eachother, and how our communities intersected in various ways.

when the aros broke off to interact independently, our aromanticism was rarely brought up, it just was something that was a fact. we could talk about our struggles with our aro identity, they watched my blog grow, and we always chose activities that were friendly to the folks who didnt want to see romo stuff. ultimately it performed more as a tight friend group than as any sort of overarching activity to participate in. ive found virtual aro communities are pretty similar.

i dont know if this helps at all, but i do want to say you’re not alone in your aro identity, and you’re probably not even the only aro in your area.

for stats, i know:

7 arospecs in highschool , 2 aplspecs

10 arospecs in my close friend group in college , 2 (different) aplspecs

8 arospecs from my pride alliance (not in my friend group), 1 aplspec not in my group

4 arospecs in passing in college

an honestly unknowable number of arospecs from my old job, where ive been recognized from this blog before. these were mostly arospec and queer teenagers that were in awe of seeing a queer and arospec adult.

ive also made multiple online friends in fandom spaces who were not arospec or questioning arospec who recognized me from my blog, and, including both irl and online dating, have dated 9 aros/arospecs, and had qprs with 3 (tho ive had qprs with non arospecs too).

we aren’t an insignificant percent of the population. there’s honestly quite a lot of us and you shouldnt feel alone in this community. because theres so many of us, every aro community you join or create irl will be a little bit different. i live close to an aro organization that is in the nearest major city, and im thinking about volunteering and getting involved there, too. if you want to try making an irl aro community, honestly the easiest way to do it is just to be out and proud. they’ll come to you or you’ll help them realize it.

anyways i dont know if thats what you were asking, but thats everything i have in my brain for now. hope this helps.

💚💚🤍🖤🖤

-ghost

#aro spectrum #aro #aromantic #grey aro #aromantic spectrum #arospec #aro spec #aro pride #aromantic pride #safeforaro #safe for aro #aro community #aromantic community #irl aro spaces are good #aro spaces #hey bees #whatd you ask? #they speak #rambles #aromisia mention #aphobia mention

[venbetta]

Fnaf-related thing to draw: Glamrock Freddy and Gregory at a movie theater to see the FNAF movie (and Glamrock Freddy having to disguise himself in like a trench coat or something cause who let this giant bear into the theater).

Hehe I love that idea, lowkey...

But what if...

...they snuck in-

#fnaf security breach #glamrock freddy #gregory fnaf #doodle #ask #...whatd you expect with those two?

[yashley]

"She's so charmin', y'know! She's just so--"

#critical role #imogearne #imogen x fearne #ygifs #IMOGEN GETTIN LOST FOR A SECOND IN FEARNE'S GAYZE AND SHE STARTS STAMMERING Iiiiiiii #fearne making imogen blush but imogen JUMPS on the FIRST distraction from that is SOOO good 2 me it's like ooook #she literally literally immediately is like ANYWAY and it's SO good y'all just had a moment and you literally are like UH SO WHATD YOU SAY #I just want to chew on it I just want to study it I just want to take out a mortgage with it and really have holiday card memories with it #you have a 6ft faun you keep reminding everyone is hot leaning towards you teasing you to choose between her and you what - don't lose it?ok #being able to fluster even stressed out imogen like that power trip alone I hope she starts to chase that feeling #the FOREVER GONDOLA RIDES is what I'll title the fic of fearne constantly flirting with imogen just to try to fluster her #and imogen's just like I don't think I should be alone with fearne and everyone's like all right makes sense #and she’s beetred cos she wanted them to ASK WHY so she could try to have a dialogue about Thinking? Fearne is Flirting #but she's like that with everyone!!!!! and they all are like yeah that's true and imogen just is like . of course ! ! ! and they squint #like you knew this why do you seem disappointed all of a sudden and imogen vax-es out of the room #it's NOT that she LIKES her LIKE THAT it's NOTHIN I'm watching it cos it's like this is happening while also not happening pretty gay

[francy-sketches]

straight up, when whats-his-fuck got eaten by vhagar, i was like "whatever" and went off to make dinner.

damn and you watched a kid get eaten and was like

#asks #anonymous #that's crazy man #cant relate I was watching that scene like those annoying bar people. my cocomelon fr #not bc I gaf about luke I just liked the scoobydoo dragon chase sequence #whatd you have for dinner btw

[ferretwhomst]

Most of these are jokes btw. I hope you don’t get offended hdbdudbsus

- either really colorful and distinct fashion style or wears school uniform to pajamas 24/7

- bulky ass phone

- starting drawing when you were like. four

- fatherless

- ass sleep schedule (canon) (it is 3 AM. I better not be getting an answer until tonight…..)

- loves video games

- gay (canon)

- brown yellow and blue lover

okay that’s all I got. do with this as you will dhgcushssj

august. august. you joke but you don't realize like. most if not all of these are canon lmfao. let's see...

- either really colorful and distinct fashion style or wears school uniform to pajamas 24/7 ✅ close enough! my entire "fashion sense" consists of tshirts and patterned shorts. my favorite set is one which makes me look like kid stan. it's just. it's just a red and white striped shirt and blue checkered shorts. i'm so boring LMFAOO

- bulky ass phone ✅ if you consider "bulky" to mean "not sharp enough that it can fucking slice your fingers off" then sure! tbh the cover and popsocket adds to the bulk. but eh

- starting drawing when you were like. four ✅ DING DING DING one of my earliest memories of drawing is from when i was super little. don't even remember how old i was, i must've been like three or four. my mom took me to the office with her and i just snatched some highlighters and paper from the printer and started drawing rlly shitty pandas <3 <3 <3 <3

- fatherless ✅ NO COMMENT LMFAO

- ass sleep schedule (canon) (it is 3 AM. I better not be getting an answer until tonight…..) ✅ I AM ANSWERING THIS AT 4:50AM IN THE FUCKING MORNING

- loves video games ✅ FUCK YEAH i had a 6 month long team fortress 2 hyperfixation at one point. i still occasionally rehyperfixate in short bursts. other than that i like portal and terraria and. of course. minecraft :3 there are more ofc but those are the main ones that come to mind rn

- gay (canon) ✅

yeag

- brown yellow and blue lover ✅MOSTLY YEAH! i love brown and yellow so much. warm colors enjoyer over here. (if you couldnt tell from my art HEHEHA) and yk i LIKE blue. i don't actually dislike any colors. but i'm not Obsessed with it yk

#WHATD I TELL YOU EJDJKDKS #asks #ask game #friend tag <3 #ferret rambles

[suenitos]

I have so bad rsd i feel like crying and apologizing for being an asshole anon even though I haven’t even sent anything but I still feel like it’s me. I’m the only anon on this site. Lol sorry

LMAOOOOOO im sorry anon dw about it 😭 youre always welcome here... Heart

#i feel the exact same way when ppl vague anons even though i normally just send non anon asks like fawk whatd i do.. its ok........ ily #youre always welcome here well unless you come in with that bs that the other anon came in with out of nowhere #anon.txt #ask.txt

[demadogs]

reread all the vegas chapters from the goldfinch and listen…. ive always thought the movie was pretty good. just the sheer fact that they didnt straight up change any of the plot earns them a solid B, but man theres so many amazing scenes i wouldve loved to see.

#boris telling theo about his conversion to islam and his name meaning the moon and his mom telling him the moon follows you everywhere #theo asking boris if the moon looks the same in russia at 3:00am when theyre both still awake in bed together passing a cigarette #they should have shown more that boris literally lived with theo and they always shared his bed every night. theo called it ‘our bed’ #the movie kinda made it seem like that was just a sleepover they had but that was every night for months #bc boris’ father was so bad and bc they didnt wanna be away from each other #and more of them completely laughing their asses off not being able to control themselves #theo spraying boris with xandras perfume and boris saying ‘whatd you do to me you whore’ classic. #boris kissing theos bloody hand!!!! god i wish they showed that #the kiss in the book was way better too like at least the movie had it at all but it was better in the book #im cool with them ditching kotku tho but jealous theo wouldve been fun to see #ok i gotta shut up #the goldfinch

[swampghouls]

also had the weirdest experience at work today.

#i was in the back doin my pull n i hear over the headset one of my baristas tell me that some guy needed to see my store key for the locks?? #n i just was like. HUH. UH. NO????? #so i went out there n was like. what are you here for????? to this random bald man n hes like oh im a DM we were looking at the locks #n i need to see your key to see what brand of lock it is and i was like. UM. no?? Who Even are you again????? #n this man is like oh i dont have my business card there in my car n im even MORESO LIKE. OKAY. UM. NO I CANT DO THIS?? #this random bald man pulls out his DRIVERS LICENSCE n is like look my name is ____ im a district manager #i just look at him n go. okay. i hear you. im still gonna call my store manager bc this is sus as hell. im not gonna give you #my STORE KEY random bald man #WHEN MY SM PICKS UP SHES LIKE. WAIT. WHAT? WHO? n im getting more and more sussed out liks boss lady im gonna need u to come here if fhis #man isnt whp he says he is n also get OUR district manager out here #but she jus goes. okay. hold on. let me call __ (our district manager) n this random bald man is like. oh look! here! shes (dm) is calling #he talks to her n hands me his phone n it IS my DM n im like. i can show him my store key?? okay.... shes just like yeah. hes legit hes real #just a pain in the ass n im just like okay sorry bc it probably wasnt supposed to be a whole ordeal for him but iM LIKE. MAN. YOU JUST ASK #FOR THW SSV N THEN ASK SAID SSV FOR THEIR STORE KEY LIKE. but hes like. dont worry! dont be sorry you did everything right lol it was a very #weird thing to ask for. n like. YEAH thanks random bald man were om the same page! he did end up giving me his business card lol #but yeah. that was. so weird. n i just was like. 🧍‍♂️🧍‍♂️ #my sm called me afterwards n was like. you talked to dm? whatd she say? n i go. just that hes a real person lol idk smtg abt the locks #shut up danny ur dumb

[pro-crastinate17]

i just read dsg what the shit

HI CONGRATULATIONS IM SO SORRY LMAO

@jamescarpenterhooper your influence is spreading hkldhsblkjdsf

#ask box #dog sees god #words from my weird little brain #WHATD YOU THINK I NEED TO KNOW #(no actual pressure im just curious hsdlkbs /gen)

[gemkun]

stinky

#* ✦ 𝐈𝐈. ❮ asks ❯ ⸻ ❝ #whatd i ever do to YOU #actually i am a little smelly from sweating all day #shower time

[a-romantic--aromantic]

what does aspec stand for? I mean for the expanded meaning

mn i dont know all forms of attraction to list them all, but i think aspec is anattractional and agender umbrella term. lately the use including agender is fading out of popularity.

some anattractional identities i can think of are:

aromantic asexual aplatonic asensual afamilial analterous aqueerplatonic (*separating this one from aplatonic has a fuzzy history and is often times included under aplatonic, especially due to many aspec folks having the opinion that queerplatonic = queering the platonic as opposed to an attraction type. this has been a topic of debate for at least 4 years, and there doesn’t currently seem to be a consensus other than “different people define attraction and relationships differently” which seems to be the final answer) anattractional [and then under this line i found searching for the anattractional definition] aemotional atertiary aphysical (*im not sure its relation to asensual or not, as stated i came across these by accident) asocial and probably more but alas i am not all-knowing

Usually aspec at this point is shorthand for aro/ace, and the inclusion of aplatonic is becoming more and more popular. there may be an upcoming push to recognize it as anattractional rather than listing aro/ace/apl (etc.) but that remains yet to be seen. historical use explicitly includes agender.

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tldr; what youre seeing is probably shorthand for aro/ace (maybe apl) but the definition and historical use is a lot broader than that.

#whatd you ask? #what’d you ask? #whats up bees

[t4tdanvis]

Gene just going “hm.” and making two kids appear would not be the strangest thing to happen in mystreet honestly.

this would somehow be less insane than like. half the shit that happened canonically

#🪻.txt #ask box #im sure i have a fanfic somewhere where children just magically appeared #ive written weirder #gene just goes 'u know whatd be funny. if i had kids' snaps his fingers and two children appeared #aphmau please pay me to write a video for you /j

[beachbummrr]

everyonee who asks me what i got my bf for christmas im so sorry for the long winded ramble i give. i am just an aweesome gift giver..

#when people ask whatd you get ur mans they usually don’t expect a detailed retelling of buyingg eberything #but its integral u must understand

[tiredstressedemotionalmess]

HI MARZ DID YOU LIVE

I DIDNT IM NOT UR SPEAKING TO A GHOST RN I AM HAVE FUCKING DIE

#asks #YOURE CRASHING BUT YOURE NO WAVE MARTY DO YOU UNDERSTAAAAAAAND #I AM SO NOT DOING WELL #I FORGOVE THEM FOR NOT GIVING ME YOUNG VOLCANOES BC GENUINELY WHATD THE FUCK

[sodrippy]

VAL HIIIIIIIIHI what did u think of the ending >:3c also the season in general bc whejwkwjewkksnajf that was a journey like. wowowowowowoww prelim post watching thoughts are like i think the ending was thematically coherent/made sense but i personally feel kinda left wanting more😞 like u have all this crazy shit happen and ur telling me u don't have a chishiyalike character (or chishiya himself<3) piece all the clues and hints together for u </3 but ANYWAY i enjoyed the season in general a lotttt <- sucker for death game genre in general. the chishiya games. insanity those were my fav i think

HIIIIII HI i enjoyed the season soooo much, literally the chishiya games, i love him so much like. yes bestie!!!!! cant believe he got three minutes group time and then was put in time out alone again, but he really can carry his own scenes/games alone so its ok. i really loved the king of clubs citizens as well they were really cool and sure theyre trying to kill the main guys but in a chill way? a fun way?

episode 7 was soooooo 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 like it was so intense and fucked up and sad but in such an engaging gripping way like. oh my god. oh my god!!!

the end half of the finale was so funny to me!! she really just fucked w them for an hour telling fake stories huh? tbh i think it took arisu a litttttle too long to snap out of it i was like. girl we dont have TIME for this! help!

the actual ending hmmm im like. i understand they need to kind of wrap the plot up in a way that grounds it back to the real world, and usually i find those endings/reveals kind of disappointing, but i think at least it was done in a more novel and interesting way than Just "ok wake up it was a collective dream...." or whatever which was nice! BUT you still have the intrigue and potential of the joker at the end so its like....ough will there be more...though to me, the way they did all the little moments between the characters after, or just reuniting w loved ones, was done really nicely and warmly so id be okay if this was the End of the series yk?

#ask #dongfangxunfeng #alice in borderland spoilers #alice in borderland #again by god i hope anyone whos avoiding spoilers gets this filtered im sorry if not 😭 #literally though last night i went to bed at 2.30am bc i spent about 2 hrs just. lying down thinking abt the whole season #wait whatd you think of chishiyas backstory i was genuinely shocked he had a job #like to me he just exists in this time and space or perhaps employed as a customer service rep who is mean to you

[darkkitty1208]

ur vibes: youre like super british in a way idk how to explain it but also kinda nerdy and sweet

Anonymously message me what vibes I give off and why you think that

WOW, Nonny. I did NOT know it was that obvious. 😂😂

#what th gave it away #was i that obvious??? whatd i do that broadcasted that fact lmao #thank you for the ask! <33 #ask #ask game #anon