#women are not allowed in the club

[rubiatinctorum]

I get where people are coming from when they say Diaspro in Winx lost the plot for the sake of being turned into a minor villain and that's all once Valtor enabled her to do what she did in S3, but I feel like that was a reasonable narrative choice. It's only a love potion at that point (while I could go on all day about the ethics of love potions, of course, a later season has her straight up trying to do direct murder). She's a noble, guards will do her dirty work, and I understand that she would feel like getting revenge on Bloom while getting back together with Sky. She was promised a position — romantic AND political — she nearly had and then it was taken from under her by a random fairy who wasn't even "supposed" to be in the running. I don't think what she did was nice, but it makes sense for the story and for her character for her to want to reclaim her position in the way she did. Sky's love was an accessory, in part, to her political ascension, and thus he is again rendered accessory and accomplice by the love spell. And, sending guards after threats seems to be the thing to do in the magical universe if you're a disgruntled noble, so it's probably not unfamiliar for Diaspro to have seen occur before or want to do. It's not a uniquely rotten response any more than Radius' behaviour towards the monster (who, he didn't know it, was Stella). If we fault her for this action rather than only the intention behind it, we need to examine how the worlds in Winx Club deal with threats to their monarchs in general, which sounds interesting but I frankly don't have time for tonight. Diaspro did wrong, but she didn't do uniquely wrong there, and Eraklyon has the punitive security structures in place to have enabled that.

Diaspro's later appearances seem to flatten her motives and the symbolism behind why her relationship with Sky was important and what she does about it (who cares what Diaspro's political aims are and how her status might reflect how she deals with problems, the audience needs to see Bloom thrown into fire I guess), but I feel like seasons 4-8 weren't really that good anyway, so I can't even claim this as a fault of the writers doing Diaspro specifically wrong instead of them just doing the whole show wrong at that point. It might be related, and it might be a coincidence, but a lot of the writing choices seemed to become more flat to me right around when the art shifted to that lifeless godawful Flash simulacrum of S1-3's art.

Also like... idk but if some long-haired hottie wizard in a sick coat and contemplative eyeshadow told me he could help me get my promised chance at both romantic and political success back, I'd at least hear him out, yknow, see what he had to say (<- don't trust me I simp for Valtor)

#rubia speaks #winx club #winx #diaspro #winx diaspro #not supporting women's wrongs but parsing them in context #actually you know what. love u bloom but i have a diaspro apologism streak in me #love potion BAD AWFUL ROTTEN but the guards? we need to interrogate the king about that one i think #and make ur guards pass a basic test on the obvious visual difference between a fairy and a witch idk :/ #is diaspro entitled to sky's love and the political position of being his wife? no. does it narratively make sense for her to be mad? yeah #is her position of having been given the expectation of a certain status and result and having it 'undermined' a compelling one? yeah! #i think there's a lot to say about expectation vs reality and the burden of unfulfilled unsealed commitments in Diaspro's situation #and the societal structures in Eraklyon that allow her to act outside of due process because she's big mad as long as the king is cool w he #how the nobles protect their own class and interests even when Sky is acting unusual from VALTOR'S FUCKING MAGIC DAMN #now if she could just drop the magical coercion and the classism and the witch slander.......... #interesting how that arc makes Bloom almost an underdog when... babe.... ur a Princess. #Sky's not out here marrying a commoner he's courting a princess of another world #.... sociopolitical views of Domino by other worlds? Bloom acting vs not acting the part of how a princess acts on Eraklyon? #Bloom as a Lesser Princess because of the condition of Domino? #Association with the Winx and Alfea in general making of her a symbolic commoner? #much to consider about Bloom's 'underdog' role compared to Diaspro in the Eraklyon Engagement Era

[hedghost]

find it so so funny that everyone seems to want united to win this weekend because they don’t want chelsea to win any trophies… except for united fans… because we don’t want skinner to win anything

#like i know it’s support your club through thick and thin #but i literally cannot support a win if it means a prick like skinner gets to stay #i will not allow this club to disrespect its women’s team like that #skinner out #so yeah i hope lauren james scores a hat trick #for the good of our team

[starlit-mansion]

it's kind of wild that jessie gender used the word transandrophobia in a youtube video. i've never seen that happen before. people gotchaing you know who for blatantly misgendering rebecca sugar and nate stevenson was the most callout of actual transmasc or afab transneutral erasure i've seen from the video essay space in memory, and even that was mostly just to pad out the callout post

#it's nice to hear literally one transfeminine person self-reflect on the way people talk over trans men in the youtube literati sphere #but. to be fair. a LOT of people called the lack of visible trans men out during hbomb's mermaids charity stream years back #there was a lot of scrambling to find transmasc guests towards the end. like.. irrc just tweeting out for guests #and then idk i don't think it moved the needle at all after that #(but also i stopped watching cpoints during the middle of her 'being cancelled for nonbinary erasure' era so idk if she changed) #other than that... in the mask off vid in l.e.'s final yt days she apologized for saying trans men have it easier than trans women #citing (as everyone seems to) elliot page finally showing the world that trans men are treated like dogshit #which uh. hm. i get that saying that doesn't call anyone of lesser visibility out #but frankly i'm shocked that she spent so much time in HER fandoms seemingly without ever encountering trans men lmao #(that's a joak. i remember it was way less visible a decade ago. fandom spaces were very girls club back then) #i'm rambling now lol #it's... a little wild that the misgendering was assigned to misogyny alone if i'm being honest. it was literally in the misogyny section #and it was about classing them as women to say that they were ALLOWED to show 'nonthreatening' wlw stories

[tedhugheshater]

normal people support female separatism <3

#saw the news with my dad and he often criticised feminism etc yk he’s an average middle aged man #and there was a case of this raped french athlete by her coach as a teen #and he started ranting about how that’s why he didn’t allow me into certain sports clubs as a kid because there were male coaches #and my mom agreed and then they continued saying how women specially girls need separated spaces #because ‘those monsters are out there’ etc #based family #and honestly idk much people who would disagree irl like yeah i mean sure most don’t support #full on female separatism but basically everyone does to some extent #that’s just. being normal and acknowledging women are oppressed lol #female separatism #mine

[ephemeral-winter]

haven’t even started my new job in rare books yet and already i am being asked to join private clubs for bibliophiles. this is both deeply hilarious AND everything i’ve ever wanted out of life

#if i could be an Edwardian man of letters with rooms at a Cambridge college I would #so the idea of joining a private club is simply perfect to me #especially now that said clubs allow women to join 🥴 #rare pic of me in the wild

[vanilla-voyeur]

White feminism exists to retool progressive language in service of white supremacy

#white feminism #white supremacy #The ideology of white feminism =/= white feminist people #I pointed out terf language being transphobic perisexist ableist and racist #Without even hinting at how misandrist it was cus that would never get me anywhere #But it hurt a white cis womans feelings so I must be in the wrong #Doesnt matter how gently I coo that surely her desire for #the perfect progressive language for a wombyn born wombyn club doesnt have ill intentions #It mustve been about having an inclusive space to talk about womens issues #Heres a suggestion for how to do that without being a no boys allowed club echo chamber #Anything that makes a white cis woman sad is patriarchy

[mellomadness]

sometimes I wonder if I should take a gender studies class just so I can bitch every day about how an imaginary boyfriend is often seen as a requirement for a woman to feel safe enough to have fun at a club, or the idea that an imaginary person with a fake “claim” over me has more influence over predatory men than my own voice saying “No, I’m not interested, get lost”

#venting #hnnnnng the double standard is really really making my teeth hurt recently #(in that I’m grinding my jaw at the mere thought of this particular breed of injustice) #I honestly miss going out with my friends. I miss going to bars and clubs and enjoying the night #but I wanna go with my friends and leave my boyfriend at home for once #he gets to go out and enjoy himself all the time with his friends and they never even have to deal with unwanted flirtation #meanwhile I go out in a tshirt and jeans and get fucking catcalled or flirted with just fucking getting groceries #and it’s not a narrative on beauty or anything. it’s about men’s perception of women #specifically predatory men and men who don’t realize they’re BEING predatory #perhaps it’s because I’ve been going to this fucking gamer school for far too long #and I’ve interacted with so many socially inept/incel men from there #who don’t know what no means or dont take women seriously when they do say no #or they literally cannot read between the lines of a woman politely declining their advances #‘but she was being so nice to me’ yeah bc if she wasn’t you’d either call her a bitch or try to force her anyway #anyway. I’m angry #im tired of living in fear of morons #I’m tired of not being able to go out on a Tuesday night and just walk the town with my friends #specifically my femme friends #we should be at the club!! instead we’re trying to make sure the group is like a school of fish so we’re less of a target #and like. I could talk about this on twt or reddit but. cmon. let’s be real here #MelloMoans #really does feel like we’re going backwards when it comes to gender equality and feminism #especially with the influx of the whole sigma male/high value male bullshit #I understand how it came to be I really do but that plus the whole pick me girl thing is just another toxic view of gender identity #and all it has resulted in on both sides is a wider degree of separation between the genders #therefore allowing both extremes to dehumanize every one that doesn’t identify as sigma male or not like other girls YET AGAIN #(and therefore also opens up the door for dehumanizing lgbtq+ folks but. let’s be real. that hasn’t really gone away yet :/

[twoheadedlesbian]

I think it’s fascinating how discussions on “antimasculism” are almost entirely reliant on denying the existence of conservative men (or even just deeply misogynistic men) and the role they play in perpetuating patriarchy—because the goal is not to uncover the roots of these issues (that would mean holding men responsible for their actions) the goal is to redirect axis of oppression.

Like was Donald Trump “antimasculine” when he said women shouldn’t be in the military because their male counterparts raping them would be “inevitable” ? Does he think femininity is superior, genuinely?

So much of rape culture specifically is men arguing that they are “naturally” predatory in order to justify their violence towards women—which isn’t true. But it’s the argument they’ve been trying to make for literally centuries because they benefit from it, not because society holds women and femininity in higher regard. Do the men who perpetuate this rhetoric hate men and masculinity? No.

This argument is particularly insane because (ignoring the fact that black and brown men face unprovoked violence on the basis of their race, not their masculinity) who is inacting violence against them? Like are the police who kill black men feminine? Are the white supremacists?

The fascist who target black and brown men with violence are the same ones who who label men as “naturally predatory”, all while lament the idea that leftists are “attacking”, masculinity or “feminizing” men. These are masculine men perpetuating this, but “antimasculism” or any other form of MRA rhetoric relies on the idea that men are hapless victims of Society™️ so they generally refuse to a knowledge when men themselves perpetuate this rhetoric.

They look at racism and misogyny and transphobia and homophobia and think “this is feminists fault!” like it’s literally insane. Women are (and should be) held responsible for the ways in which they enforce misogyny & patriarchal standards on other women, but the common denominator (besides antifeminism + misogyny) between all breeds of MRA rhetoric is the idea that men can’t/shouldn’t be held responsible for the roles they play in enforcing patriarchy because “it’s not their fault, it’s Society™️”, and in turn they have to almost completely ignore the men who loudly and proudly embrace the misogynistic, patriarchal rhetoric MRAs are trying to rebrand as “antimasculism”, because acknowledging these men shatters their entire argument.

#MRA rhetoric is inherently worthless because it seeks to victimize men rather than solve their problems #+ it’s based on resentment towards women for being ‘allowed’ to have a movement dedicated to uplifting us #ignoring the fact that being an oppressed group of people who need to fight for our rights isn’t like. a fun club of privilege #these people want the same Vibes as the feminist movement but without any of the actual work that comes with it lol #on: feminism #antimasculism #men’s rights activism

[itsnotewell]

I really wish I was allowed to love women.

#honestly at this point this line of thought is a form of self harm #but also I know the Queer Community rules #Its pretty unilateral on here that trans women are not allowed in the lesbian club

[boingboingo]

people when men punch holes in walls and make hundreds of stories about intense violence and toxic masculinity:

people when a teenage girl enjoys tomie a bit too much: OMG everyone nowadays romanticizes mental illness for women and wallowing in self pity!!

#people when women express a full range of human emotion #doesn't matter that tomie is a HORROR #literally every media that depicts a woman as insane is a thriller or horror hello #double standard much? #men are allowed to tweak out for millennia but as soon as a women is a little weird everyone goes bananas #not excusing bad behavior but how come we only notice this when women do it #franz kafka #tomie kawakami #junji ito tomie #black swan #mitski #perfect blue #romanticizaton =/= depiction #double standards #american psycho #now whose fault is it that women turned out this way bro #fight club #clockwork orange #internalized misogyny #misogyny

[anotherpapercut]

Missouri Republicans are trying to classify any place that hosts drag performances as sexually oriented businesses. why

#i mean i know why #but seriously why #i cant figure out what the implications of this are? these places are generally already 18+ clubs #is this just to be able to say drag is inherently sexual? #are they trying to use this to criminalize drag story times and stuff?? (which are rare in mo as is) #ok yeah so theyre trying to criminalizes 'cross dressing' you could be charged with a misdemeanor basically for being im drag in public #i think this is mainly just going to be an excuse to criminalize trans women #i think this is definitely going to end up at like cis women not being allowed to wear pants #but i think theyre mainly trying to make it so they can arrest trans women for existing in public #god

[delusionalinsecurewreckpiningphd]

I studied politics for 6 years so that I can answer my brother question about why Oppenheimer needed that security clearance hashtag ididsomethingwithmydegree

#oppenheimer #also they need that security clearance to be able to access information #often time the us will retain security clearance for experts who may not necessarily actively work on anything for the government #but when the time comes when the gov need their expertise on something urgent or top secret #that clearance will allow the expert to read it #otherwise they cant and the gov need to speedrun getting them cleared #its formality #also kinda nice to see sgt. malarkey back in action #also also again not liking how they treat women character #feels too much like a boy only club #and really the othering of the only two female “character” in the movie #personally like this movie but not enough to recommend to other #kinda like guilty pleasure lol

[t-lostinworlds]

ppl in america really be suing for the pettiest/shittiest reasons ever lmao

#there's a court case in california #from a man who sued a country club #for guess what #WOMEN ONLY golf tournament #and he's suing he as a /man/ is not allowed to join #like....bro #the country club even offered an alternative saying #they have another event for valentine's day which he can join #but he said NO i want to join this one :( #why is it only for women :( #you're discriminating against other genders :( #the way i had to look away from my computer jfc

[magna-bratta]

Ok what is UP w Scotty’s love life??

First we have Who Mourns for Adonais, where my boy just throws himself at a god willy nilly for poaching his girl, and Kirk has to remind him to be professional several times.

Then in Wolf in the Fold, we get this from McCoy:

“Don’t forget, the explosion that threw Scotty against the bulkhead was caused by a woman. […] Matter of fact, considerable psychological damage could have been caused. For example, his total resentment toward women.”

First of all, wtf. A girl causes an explosion and you come to hate all girls??? My dude??? Even saying it’s due to head injury is a bit much, I don’t see traffic accident victims coming to hate all cars? And the prescription is to hang out with girls until you stop hating them??? What kind of 60s sexism is this???

Then The Lights of Zetar opens with Kirk saying:

“When a man of Scott’s year falls in love, the loneliness of his life is suddenly revealed to him. His whole heart once throbbed only to the ship’s engines, he could only talk to the ship. Now he can see nothing but the woman.”

So the takeaway here is:

1/ Kirk and McCoy are very concerned about Scotty’s personal life. Not only because they’re his friends, but also because he’s vital to the ship’s operations and

2/ He’s a fucking powder keg, and it’s somewhat to do with his age. Devoting 2/3 of his life to a ship leaves him pretty immature romantically. Even if the hatred in Wolf was caused by a concussion, his behavior elsewhere demonstrates that he gets so intense about love that he forgets self-preservation, sound judgement and his usual sense of duty.

No wonder these two have to babysit him. My man goes 0 to 60 in 3.5. He’s very sweet to his love interests, yes, but his total devotion makes him a liability.

#at least we haven’t seen him display incel behavior #IRL when someone is this intense about women the flipside is they resent when women aren’t as intense back #Wolf can be considered a subversion in that sense #we’re set up to expect him to hate girls enough to kill them but he doesn’t #but honestly? #the way Kirk jumped to his defense in that ep rubbed me the wrong way #yes in this particular case they’ve known each other a long time and ultimately they’re proven right #but IRL that’s just boy’s club behavior #powerful men covering for each other pulling strings to get special treatment #the fact that he’s caught red handed and still allowed to sit around talking alone #if he’d been in jail the next murders likely wouldn’t happen #we’ll just push the age gaps and him not believing Mira to the side those are typical for that time and other characters as well #I notice this stuff cause Kirk and McCoy bring attention to it #they know this is A PROBLEM w Scotty #they actively keep track of him and intervene when necessary #IRL this kind of red flag can turn really bad reallg quickly #but in Trek it only goes as far as being possessed by the Incel of All Time

[harryseyebrows]

absolutely no one asked for my album ranking but here it is anyway

1. satellite: this is subject to change but it’s the one that is most likely to get stuck in my head. the production on this track is fucking nuts. i love how dynamic it is

2. late night talking: a very close second spot, but it actually tied for first. it’s really just a fucking banger

3. daylight: it’s cute! fun! very earnest in his signature boyish way

4. music for a sushi restaurant: as my sister described it ‘a glee/pitch perfect wet dream’ that i do not disagree with but am also somehow not bothered by. again, it’s fun and light and a little nonsensical a la watermelon sugar

5. as it was: i can’t tell if i just have stockholm syndrome or not bc this song is literally fucking everywhere, including very obscure targeted ads, BUT it’s warranted bc it’s a bop

6. grapejuice: not really standout for me but it’s tolerable to have on in the background while doing stuff

7. boyfriends: i don’t care to try and parse out what perspective he’s singing from bc i think that angle is fucking boring and some of u need to relax but his voice sounds nice and the harmonies are good

8. daydreaming: has the vibe of a song i might have heard in a forever 21 circa 2015 while desperately trying to find any article of clothing that didn’t have awful screenprinted phrases or studs on it. overall does not do it for me at all

9. cinema: a bit heavy handed in the miss swift 1989 ‘james dean daydream look in your eye’ style. unlike daylight, this song lacks his vaguely depraved desperation that we have heard in songs like adore you and only angel and instead get the absolute lame ass “do you think im cool?” pick me boy nonsense. i am bitter and im allowed to be a bitch about it

10. matilda: idk who matilda is and im sorry the situation being discussed is quite a bummer, but this song simply is not my cup of tea. im also not a huge fan of people airing out other peoples childhood trauma for their own gain cough ed sheeran cough

11. love of my life: i have listened to it exactly once and that was enough. i cannot even begin to tell you what this song might sound like from memory

12.

13.

two tracks i will not even mention by name bc the lyrics make me feel violent and i think he needs to spend some time in like….detention. or be sent to the fucking moon bc jfc

#it’s a big skip album for me tbh #i think it’s really cohesive in a way that I was yearning for when he made hs1 #bc that was really all over the place and you could tell he wa trying really hard to be taken seriously by Men Musicians #and that whole boys club bullshit #fine line is still that bitch #so well rounded #tbsl is still his magnum opus in my opinion #sonically Harry’s house is Good #but it sounds like a lot of music I’ve already been listening to for years now #which I’ve actually been curating a list/playlist of #and this is not to say that he is copying or anything like that #there are only so many notes and chord progressions and keys #i just still think he didn’t do anything groundbreaking with this album #and that might be unfair bc he’s allowed to simply make music he likes that is enjoyable to listen to #expectations were high all around I think #bc he’s gained a lotttt of popularity recently #and bc the jump from hs1 to fine line was pretty significant #lyrically I really think this is not his strongest by any means #to me I just feel really stuck with the way he talks about women #as in i fucking hate it lol #oh well #jfjdkdkdksks

[beefcake007]

I’m still mad about something that happened on tiktok last week and I want to do a post about it and explain an aspect of transphobia I’ve observed.

A cis user made a video asking that trans people share more banger music that they make, but clarified saying “by trans people, I mean trans women” because trans men only make that “sad ukulele” music. There was much discourse, he doubled down and said trans men couldn’t take a joke, other trans people threw the offended transmascs under the bus, or insisted that they can also make club music, yada yada.

I want to know if the queers who haven’t been queer as long as I have know that this exact drama was had with gays and lesbians. Do you know that some transphobia is repackaged homophobia and lesbophobia? I feel like that’s something we should be allowed to say and examine without someone shutting you down and insisting you’re conflating the gays and transes.

But yeah, for decades the joke has been that gay men are the fun flamboyant ones that make good art and dance music, and that lesbians are angry and dress ugly and make sad folk music. It’s pretty much an identical bias and resulting disrespectful jokes.

And it’s shit! I’m not going to let anyone, let alone a cis person, get away with transphobia just because it’s directed at trans men. It’s rude and harmful to devalue our art, and our art doesn’t need to be easily consumable to you. We’re allowed to be pissed and offended when you write us off, minimize the harm you’ve done, and exclude us from the conversation. It’s obvious when you only tolerate the queers who can serve you, and that you don’t actually care to listen or learn about our lives, struggles, and art.

#transphobia #anti transmasculinity #transgender #transmasc #trans man #tiktok #lesbophobia