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#tw bestiality #misinformation #debunking myths #stigma #sti #std

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Tips That Can Save Your Kid’s Life.

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Is it wicked not to care?

what do you mean? /genuine question

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tw physical abuse, child abuse, angry vent

got to know our father physically abuses our brothers. he still does it. we hoped he stopped after us (me & brother). but no. he does it again.

wanna hit him. wanna take brothers away from him. wanna rest of family be fucking normal & make him stop.

hate being helpless. hate not being able to protect them. hate hate hate.

am fucking tired of relatives. who think it's normal to physically abuse children. who are okay with it. who are okay with him. hate him as much as possible & wanna shake other relatives out of their fucked up values.

physical abuse isn't punishment. physical abuse isn't upbringing. physical abuse is fucking abuse & have no excuses.

#tw abuse #tw physical abuse #tw child abuse #tw family issues #tw family abuse #tw vent

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Heard some important information on Twitter today, and thought I’d post it here for anyone who may not have heard it. This is actually a thing, devised by human rights organisation called Karma Nirvana.

Reblog to save a life?

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NPD tags are filled to the brim with people repeating the mantra of "narc abuse" not being real and while it's true, it isn't real, we've gotta focus on offering actual help to pwNPD. Destigmatizing NPD is great but let's talk about how to fucking handle it too.

With that being said, here's my contribution on how to prevent/lower the likelihood of a narc crash:

Journal or tell your closest ones about your emotions, even if they feel miniscule. Every negative emotion counts. This might seem obvious but pwNPD are very prone to ignoring our emotions in favor of getting supply. Look, I know you "can handle it" and "only weak people have emotions" but you're a person and you have fucking emotions. It's more embarrassing to handle the post-effects of your crash than to try to prevent it, trust me.

After a crash happens, reflect on what actually caused the feeling of insecurity/distress that led to it. Sometimes it's other people, unfair criticism, or both plus our inherent feeling of needing to match a social standard. Try to figure out what caused it and either distance from the trigger or find a way to limit its access to you. Maybe next time, you will be more prepared for the oncoming emotional flow.

Limit who can criticize you. I guess it's harder for those of us with public pages online but actually limit who the hell has a right to critique you. Not everyone is a good critic. Some people will tell you shit just to upset you. Sometimes people won't be obligated to give you any attention at all. It fucking sucks but limiting the number of people who have the RIGHT to affect you might help. For me, it was a rule: What I think and what my FP think matters, everyone else can disappear.

Find means of reminding yourself how great you are. Do you need to admire yourself in the mirror? Reread that sexy post you made? Look at your art again? Check the notes on your favorite aesthetic post? Do you need to reflect on how many people have admired you over lifetime or, maybe, how many compliments you heard last time you did XYZ? Be fucking vain.

Overall, narc crash isn't something that one can entirely predict or prevent, but it's how we react to it that matters. Warning your loved ones that you require attention/supply, taking care of your damn body so you don't overexert yourself for others, and being mindful of your own emotional reactions might help.

Not everyone is going to have the mental capacity to stop themselves from overreacting/communicating poorly, but as long as you learn from your past mistakes you should be fine. Good luck.

P. S. I hope you're all big boys and know I do not mean this to be some sort of universal advice. It helped me, and maybe it will help you too.

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you don't have to be happy or grateful.

correct pronouns usage is basic respect. should she be grateful for you because you use her correct pronouns? no. are cis people grateful for usage of their correct pronouns? no.

so you don't have to be grateful too. you don't have to be happy. you don't have to deserve basic respect. you don't have to beg people to respect you. you don't have to tolerate their disrespectful behavior.

she should be grateful to you for being so patient and letting her be around you while she disrespects your pronouns. (you don't have to but you do and it takes your energy).

you don't have to be grateful or happy. you don't make any discomfort by asking to use your pronouns. you don't make any discomfort by having fucking rights. and you absolutely don't have to be happy.

and also. in general. you don't owe someone any feelings. you don't have to feel correctly and so on. you can have any feelings about anything. you can't choose what you feel. and you don't have to feel appropriately and so on. you can feel whatever you feel. and it's valid. it's important. it's okay.

The other day, my friend walk talking about me and actually used they/them pronouns for me. And yay! That's great!

But the way she said it was very hesitantly, like, "Oh, they??? can already do it by... them...self?" and she kind of side-eyed me the entire time. I could tell that she still saw me as a girl, despite me coming out to her a year ago.

It's been a year since I told her that I used they/them pronouns and even still she doesn't really seem to care. And we see each other nearly every day. I understand her messing up right after I came out, but a year? I expected her to be able to find it normal by now to not call me "she," but apparently it's still hard for her.

And that hurt me.

But at the same time, I feel like I should be grateful. Like, she used the right pronouns for me, and most people don't, so I should be happy that she did it right, right?

I know that having my pronouns be respected is something I shouldn't have to earn, but part of me feels guilty for not being happy.

#lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtq+ #they/them #agender #transgender #transneutral #enbyspec #trans

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Speech. Speech feels like I’m drowning constantly, like I’m treading water. The water seeping into my mouth and lungs as I gasp for air. Splashing around, treading for an escape from the blue water. AAC gave me a life vest. The water around me calm and tame as I simply float around without a care in the word. Speech is drowning. AAC is floating.

Before AAC, I would constantly have meltdowns. Constantly felt like I was fighting against myself. Fighting against my own body. I was constantly frustrated, people around me were constantly frustrated. My head buzzes constantly, like it’s on steroids. My mouth slow and timid, like someone has put a straw in it and told me to talk through the straw. I call it brain mouth disconnect. Not everything I’m thinking, or want to say, comes through that straw. The straw is too small. That’s why I use AAC. Like a bird with an injured wing, AAC bandaged it together. Making me able to fly again.

AAC is freeing. I’m the bird, AAC is the bandage.

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here’s to disabled people who can’t speak/struggle to speak. wether it be a physical thing, mental thing, or both, it’s okay. you’re not any less a person for it.

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whatever it is you think is a skill or ability that everyone has: not everyone has it or will ever have it

sometimes people can't do thing. that's just how it is

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"so, you don't feel sexual and romantic attraction"

"yes"

"and you don't feel platonic attraction"

"yes"

"and you are in relationships"

"yes"

"and what's the basis of your relationships?"

"pure evil"

#joke #aplatonic #aromantic #asexual #aroaceapl #aplaroace #evilpunk #villainpunk

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Help me buy my aac tablet!

If can’t donate please reshare!

Hello, I’m Amy! I’m a minor with autism and a speech impairment. I’ve gotten to a point in my life where speech only irritates me and sends me into a shutdown. AAC was my only form of communication during times like this and I need that back for my health.

My family can’t currently afford to buy one and because of my age and disabilities, I can’t work. Originally I was using my phone and tablet as an aac device but having the app on my phone wasn’t working anymore. My tablet recently got broken so both options are gone.

My goal is $260. This will pay for the tablet and app. App want meant go on sell some time around October 15, this would be best time buy both

Cashapp: babyfaceslider

PayPal: Spooksforsammy

(Boyfriend manages account; is his just using since can’t have own)

Will maybe open commissions get more money.

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Apparently it’s Developmental Disabilities Awareness Month? Who was going to tell me?! Anyways. Happy Developmental Disabilities Awareness month!

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think abt using we/us instead of i/me because it feels more comfortable.

feel somewhat rejection to "i" pronoun (towards ourselves). don't understand why. maybe trauma response. maybe something else. so are going to try we/us, maybe it will fit better.

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REBLOG IF YOUR BLOG IS A SAFE SPACE FOR AROMANTIC PEOPLE AND IF YOU THINK THEY ARE VALID

I am Aromantic but i wanna see how ppl think we are valid

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please don't use words like stupid or dumb as insults. and especially don't use words with medical context like idiot and other outdated diagnoses for intellectual disability.

our society is extremely ableist towards intellectually disabled people. a lot of discrimination against neurodivergent people is directly based on (mis)conception that they are stupid. a lot of problems that are pointed by neurodivergent community (like infantilization, talking with caregiver instead of individual themself, presuming incompetence, shaming for inability to complete tasks or understand something) are based on assumption that they are intellectually disabled. n the problem here is that society is awful towards people with id.

a lot of neurodivergent self-advocacy is based on "we're not stupid, we're just smart in a different way/not accommodated enough/etc." because being stupid in this world is seen as a huge failure. n it's incredibly ableist towards people with id.

i mean, some neurodivergents are smart but think in different way/are not accommodated enough/etc. and they deserve to be accommodated. but there's nothing wrong with not being smart. being stupid should be seen as morally neutral thing. being stupid doesn't make someone less valid or less important. being stupid isn't failure. being stupid is just a way of being.

people with id deserve respect n support. people with id shouldn't be infantilized and diminished. people with id shouldn't be your metaphor of being less important, bad, or evil. people with id shouldn't be ones from who you are trying to distance yourself n your community to "deserve" respect from neurotypicals.

you shouldn't call bigots stupid (and use anti-id slurs on them). you shouldn't call bad politics or billionaires stupid (and use anti-id slurs on them). you shouldn't use stupid and synonyms as insults.

n PLEASE don't use anti-id slurs at all. it hurts to see these words everywhere.

n also. address your internalized ableism abt being stupid. i feel it too. a lot of us do. it's not your fault because we all live in society that convince us being stupid is bad, but you still need to process these thoughts n feelings. it will make you feel better AND will help you be more inclusive n attentive to intellectually disabled people.

#am not actually intellectually disabled but feel need to say this #so listen to people with id/intellectually disabled people first and me second #intellectual disability #developmental disabilities #neurodivergent #ableism

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am so sad abt how it's hard to explain things shortly.

usually don't put any additional meanings in my words. if mean something, say it. if don't mean something, don't say it. trying to use words as directly as possible. trying to say only things that wanna say.

but often are misunderstood. if don't make 100500 disclaimers abt 'don't mean this or that', people imply mean that. when have never said that directly. am so tired of this necessity. am so tired of being misunderstood. hate to be misunderstood.

also sometimes maybe don't get connotations of some words? don't know but seems so. because can't understand what's wrong with words. what was incorrect. why was misinterpret. why someone dissatisfied by my formulations.

like after all say the same fucking things with more disclaimers n saying that doesn't mean this or that explicitly (when never said it from the very beginning), all seems be ok.

why do i have to say that don't mean something, to everyone understand that don't mean it? /half-rhetorical (don't really ask for explanation, but if you have it, will listen).

#kinda vent #autistic #actually autistic #actually neurodivergent