#social dysfunction

[starlight-bread-blog]

Me: Why don't I have friends in the new school? I wish someone talked to me :(

Me when someone talks to me:

#tales of ba sing se #the tales of ba sing se #zuko #prince zuko #atla zuko #fire lord zuko #firelord zuko #atla #a:tla #avatar: the last airbender #avatar the last airbender #avatar aang #zuko x jin #atla jin #fire nation #atla book 2 #the tale of zuko #anti social #social dysfunction #socially awkward #socially inept #social life #socially anxious #socially exhausted #introverts #introverted #introversion #introvert

[knogue]

Whiteness is hypersensitive to its own value...

Whiteness is hypersensitive to its own value, which means that whiteness is hypersensitive to the presence of anything which threatens the value of its particularity. Whiteness is sensitive and vigilant because it must constantly survey the landscape for anything that threatens the myth that organizes its being and its activity. Whiteness is a project of devaluation—the devaluation of everything that threatens its specifically ‘white’ sense of value. To create its own particular value and sense of worth, whiteness must devalue the very thing that gives it shape and meaning. The activity of maintaining a specifically ‘white’ identity is the activity of devaluing everything that is not ‘white,’ as the presence of the not-‘white’ threatens ‘white’ value. This is why people scream and get out of the pool, why they grouse and frown and move to a ‘better’ neighborhood, why they wanted ‘whites’ and ‘coloreds’ to use separate water fountains. To use the same water fountain, the same swimming pool, or to send their kids to the same public school to be educated alongside alleged inferiors threatens the value of so-called ‘white’ identity.

Whiteness is a social convention, and ‘white’ is the name of a conventional relation between human beings that adheres to a standard that transcends them. Because it is above them, it cannot be found within them or among them.

Whiteness is a system of signification, measurement, and evaluation that seeks to affirm human being as a material substance in accord with a myth rendering that substance as something other than human, i.e., either as god or as animal. In this mythic structure of binary value, the species is divided into god-humans or human-animals—the rightful citizens of a heavenly earth, or the criminal intruders to be kept at bay and confined to hell.

#whiteness #white identity #race #antisocial #social dysfunction #myth #fiction #unreality

[thejamesrf]

Rebalancing Society: The Role of Community, Equality, and Capitalism in our Future

The Double Bind In the ongoing conversation about the structures and systems that govern our societies, there’s a recurring element that often stands as the elephant in the room – the profit motive. It’s a mechanism deeply rooted in our current capitalist framework, but its impact reaches far beyond simple economics. Contrary to what some may argue, it is not the profit motive itself that is the…

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#capitalism #Change #community spirit #economics #philosophy #principle of equality #profit motive #redefining civilization #reshaping capitalism #social dysfunction #socialism

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd) #because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autistic Love Languages

Autistic Qualia

#autism #actually autistic #autistic love languages #stimming #special interest #parallel play #sensory processing #social support #executive dysfunction support #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #feel free to share/reblog #Autistic Qualia (Facebook)

[desultory-suggestions]

Sometimes when we are afraid we have to center ourselves. Take deep and slow breathes, remind yourself who you are, and where you are. Feel the world beneath your feet and know you are connected to earth and it will hold you steady. Now go make that phone call you’re avoiding, I see you.

#suggestions #recovery #suggestion blog #social anxiety #pda #positivity #self love #mental health #self care #phone calls #avoidance #task avoidance #executive dysfunction

[mckinlily]

One of my favorite things about writing Shiro is I can always, always make him kind.

He’s not perfect or flawless, but if I need him to be gentle, he will be. If he needs to be patient, compassionate, soft, anything, I can always write him that way.

What’s more is his kindness is not weak. If he needs to be brave enough to say “I love you”. To say “I’m sorry.” To put aside his own anger or hurt or pride to help someone else. To take a hard look at himself and decide he needs to change—He will do that.

If he has to brutally fight someone to protect the innocent, he’ll do that too.

Shiro’s kindness is not always the same what is nice. More often than not, it requires an incredible amount of determination and bravery to be possible. But he will always find that strength when he has to.

Don’t get me wrong, I love me some deeply flawed, messed up, mean characters. Variety is good in your diet.

But there’s also something so unique and refreshing about Shiro. He’s fierce enough to fight god and gentle enough to soothe a child. He has the confidence to lead the scared and the weak, but none of the ego to domineer over them. He cares and he tries and he tries, and even at his worst, he’s still kind.

I just—I just really love Takashi Shirogane, ok?

#I love shiro #what else is new #but maybe after reading a lot of batfam content #and all their mess of trauma and dysfunction #and unhealthy male socialization getting in the way #it’s just really nice to go back to a character who yes definitely has trauma #but none of that toxic masculinity #whose concept of true kindness matches mine

[onemillionwordsofcrap]

This is your reminder that doing the thing will always be less painful than avoiding the thing. I just made the phone call I've been avoiding for 24 hours and it's such a weight off my shoulders like damn

You and your brain have my personal permission to now do the thing. Go forth and do the thing

#executive dysfunction #ADHD #social anxiety #etc.

[exclusivelyhomosexual]

I really don’t understand why people text back immediately.

Like. If I’ve taken 5 days to respond to your message (which is usually the case), do you really think I want to hear back from you immediately?? The amount of forethought it takes to respond and then they just BOOM text right back.

And ofc I’m allowed to have boundaries and not respond immediately back to their immediate response. But unfortunately I care about what people think of me a little too much.

Like please just let me be disabled in peace for a minute 😩😩😩

#texting is not for live conversations #i firmly believe this #audhd things #audhd problems #audhd #neurodivergent #adult autism #neurodiverse stuff #adhd #self diagnosed autism #adhd brain #autistic adult #autism #adult adhd #social anxiety #procrastination #executive dysfunction

[knogue]

Whiteness is an excessive performance...

Whiteness performs a belief in its own difference, and this performance is necessarily excessive. It overcompensates simply because it seeks compensation for something that is not actually missing. Or, it overdetermines belonging according to an imagined identity to cover up the fact of that identity’s failure to become concrete, and the correlated failure to belong in a tangible, concrete way. ‘White’ activity posits belonging, but demonstrates non-belonging insofar as identity can have no concrete object and actual embodiment. Whiteness strives to make concrete the myth of its own belonging, a myth that relies on the presence and the perception of that which does not belong. Therefore, whiteness needs the one that does not belong in order to lend solidity to itself, but cannot extend its sense of belonging to precisely the one it depends on to recognize itself as distinct.

#whiteness #white identity #race #myth #fiction #social dysfunction #dysfunction #narcotic #social narcotic #anti-society

[macospersonalhell]

idk if I’ve said it before but je antis are so funny. “it’s bad because he’s his boss!” and Jon was Martin’s boss?????? “it’s bad because it’s abusive!” my brother in Christ it’s a villain x hero ship. I thought gay ppl ate that shit up. we’re gonna be canceling Batman and the Joker for whatever gay shit they got going on

#sorry gang I’ve just been confused for forever #where does the discomfort come from #AND JMART IS DYSFUNCTIONAL TOO?? #Jon hates Martin and canonically tries to get him killed in s1 😭 #let me have this ok #jonelias #I miss discourse in the JE server but also I’m too socially awkward to engage again #bleh

[knickynoo]

At what point in time do you think the original timeline McFly family started being dysfunctional? I’m sure George and Lorraine were fully in love at first, and Lorraine even still in the 80s seems to look back fondly when recalling how they fell in love. But I do wonder when exactly it started to go downhill, when they started having kids? Just with age? Or maybe it was never really great to begin with before Marty got involved

This is a really interesting ask, and it's something that I've thought about a handful of times. The Twin Pines McFlys fascinate me.

As for my own headcanons about when the dysfunction started, I think it was always there. Dysfunction within families is complex, though, so it likely ebbed and flowed and morphed over the years. Some thoughts! (hehehe, analysis and theories incoming)

I 100% believe George and Lorraine were fully in love at first and are even still in love when we meet them in 1985. It's just that life has beaten them both down in various ways, and they've lost touch with each other and fallen into a pattern of being resigned to (and maybe even comfortable with) all the disconnect within their family. But there's no mistaking the fondness with which Lorraine begins her story of how she and George met and the way it shifts to such sadness within just a few seconds. Her question of, "It was the night of that terrible thunderstorm, remember, George?" is such a clear bid for connection with him. A hope that he'll smile and recall that night and join in on her story. That's what Lorraine wants! But George doesn't even acknowledge her (not on purpose, I'm sure; he's just so wrapped up in watching The Honeymooners), and you see Lorraine gradually deflate from there.

It's so sad because you can see the emotions shift so suddenly in her! That first gif still holds such affection as she recalls their first kiss. It's like she's a girl again, feeling that overwhelming sense of love and all the possibilities for their life together. But then it changes. She's brought back to reality and all the unhappiness, the disappointments, the realization that life isn't what she imagined for herself.

By the last gif, she's a woman who clearly feels trapped. Now stuck with this guy for the rest of her life. And what makes it so awful is that you can TELL Lorraine still loves him. She longs for that happiness they once had, but it takes two people putting in effort to make a marriage work. She can try to reach George all she wants, but if he can't be emotionally present, it isn't going to work.

Also, I'm sure that George loves Lorraine as well, but he's got a whole plethora of issues that just. Haven't been addressed. George has no self-worth. He's meek and lets people walk all over him and is so completely anxious about everything in life that he's mostly shut down. He's trapped too, with no way (that he can see) to change things. So he does what he can to survive, which consists of doing Biff's bidding and retreating to an inner world at the expense of shutting his family out.

I don't think things were always to this extreme, though. For a while I'm sure things were okay, maybe even good. They were young and in love, and while George was still George, I don't think life had defeated him yet. They got married, really established their little life together, and I can see them as both having hope. And even if there were moments that seemed shaky or hinted that things might be difficult down the road, it was easy to brush it aside. They were still finding their footing, and they were young and had their whole future together to make things better. In all honesty, Dave probably got to experience the "best" versions of his parents for the first several years of his life.

However, each year and every hardship (big and small) likely chipped away at the McFlys and brought about additional dysfunction. I don't know if Biff and George started working with each other right out of high school or if they came to work those jobs later on, but I'm sure that was a huge factor. It offered no escape from Biff for either George or Lorraine. Just a predictable cycle of George having to do whatever Biff told him, Biff invading their home whenever he pleased, and everyone having to watch George immediately tuck his tail between his legs.

As I said, I think things gradually kind of unraveled in their house. As the state of their family became more solidified, Lorraine likely began drinking more and withdrawing. I do think they still had their good days, though! Moments that brought them together and where they felt that happiness they once shared (I mean, they had three children together, and it's clear Dave, Linda, and Marty ARE loved and were raised well.) But the state of the McFly household is probably all Marty has known for the majority of his life. I can see situations arising where maybe Dave has told him, "They weren't always like this, you know."

Dysfunctional as they are, George and Lorraine really are trying. I think they can absolutely see the cracks and the flaws—perhaps even the potential damage being caused to their children—but they just have too much brokeness inside themselves to do better. So, they do what they can, which for George involves trying to protect his children's feelings by discouraging them from taking risks. He doesn't want them hurt or sad or disappointed, and his solution is to have them form shells around themselves. Better to save yourself from all the headaches life brings.

Lorraine does her best to protect and guide her kids by way of warning them away from the very things that brought her to where she is in life. We see this manifest in the form of criticism mostly when she's talking to Marty.

Lastly even with Lorraine seeming as downtrodden as she is, I can see her clinging to the possibility of change. Hoping and praying that eventually, George would say enough was enough and stand up for himself. He'd put his foot down, step up as a husband and father, and things would become what she always wanted. She was the one always telling herself, "Someday. Someday..." until the point we see her at during the dinner scene, where she knows that "someday" isn't going to ever happen. Things are just the way they are, and she has to deal with it.

This was a lot, but I have a lot of feelings about the McFly family and how they operated in their day to day life. Especially the implications of the McFly sibs (Marty in particular!) being raised in such an emotionally disjointed environment. Ugh, those gifs of Lorraine make me so sad. The whole thing is sad.

Thanks for the ask, though! I want to write another Twin Pines McFly fic now.

#asks #back to the future #bttf #no but i could write a whole series of posts on Twin Pines McFlys #and how just that one short scene displays such a sad‚ tense home life #no cohesion. no true connection #checked out dad and depressed mom #& their oldest son who doesn't seem to have his footing in life‚ daughter who feels isolated & frustrated with a lack of social life #& youngest child who's anxious & so incredibly sensitive to rejection & feels directionless & has exactly one (1) stable adult in his life #growing up in that environment does things to you!! #and then Marty is thrown into a Better Timeline with very stable and well adjusted parents but he still was raised with the dysfunction!! #that's still part of him!!! how does he cope!!!!?? #losing my mind eric stoltz was right about the ending!!!

[lets-zofifi-stuff]

I just opened my mailbox. And sent an e-mail. I survived. Barely.

#that's it that's the post #zofifi's post #personal #social anxiety #executive dysfunction

[hornetposting]

Any ND headcanons? I personally see Hornet having sensory processing disorder (sensory overload) due to spiders’ intense sense of touch.

hornet and her siblings have autism bec i said so <3 heres some doodles i havent posted here LOL

which yeah unfortunately does come with sensory overload :( i think she also has adhd which is how shes so good at keeping her routine at being protector of hallownest despite presumably having to do this all by herself for so long and shes managed to develop really good coping mechanisms

#answered #anonymous #my art #she reads as socially awkward sometimes tbh #handing out autism to my fav characters bec im also autistic #ALSO the task system in silksong is like catnip to my executive dysfunctional brain #complete task and get reward? HELL yeah

[in-sufficientdata]

my ass trying to fight my insomnia and executive dysfunction to get a good night's sleep

#mine #not twitter now but tumblr #star wars #sw #memes #social media #executive dysfunction #insomia #reposting everything from my twitter feed #i'm about to delete everything so get it while it's hot #tweet: 2022 #molly made this

[runawaycarouselhorse]

Today was absolutely lovely, I forgot how peaceful it is to actually engage in my hobbies and special interests; just sit around, watching old cartoons. Felt calm and happy and managed to be more focused after. Felt sleepy at night like I've had a full day. This is nice. I need to keep doing this.

Also, mama cooked quince with cinnamon and it's so cozy warm, it reminds me of apple pie. Tasty...

I was sad earlier, because I hadn't gotten to go out of the house all vacation (since it relies on others also being in the mood to go out, otherwise, I won't be able to go...), except once to a nearby park for the swings, and it's nearly over already, but it's okay, if I can have peaceful days like this, and just relearn to actually unwind, so I won't be perpetually burnt-out or too overwhelmed to focus.

#wish my executive dysfunction wasn't so bad I have trouble starting even pleasant/for fun activities #but this is soooo much better than aimlessly scrolling social media discontentedly #personal #I do have to stop convincing myself going back will mean I can go to the mall and other things more likely I will just be at home a lot #I can't even call a taxi #maybe I'll have the energy when I go back to actually go out for reasons other than (grocery shopping) and (buying winter socks) this month