#spoon theory

[something-existing-somewhere]

Sorry I Spent all mY spoons this week already and it's fucking Tuesday. We're heading to the knives

#actually spoonie #chronic pain #fibromyalgia #actually mentally ill #chronic illness #aroace agender #spoonie #chronic fatigue #disability #actually disabled #chronic disability #spoon theory

[steadfastpetrel]

the sun mourns in vain for the white-throated rail: a comic about disability and the unwanted able-bodied grief for past selves.

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION:

Page 1: The sun holds a white-throated rail, a bird with a red head, a gray body, and a white throat, in its hands. The sun speaks in a tone represented as sorrowful pity through a drippy speech bubble.

Sun: Looking at you makes me sad!

Rail: What?

Page 2:

Sun: Looking at you makes me sad!

The sun stands with a hand clutching its face.

Sun: How miserable it must be to be flightless! Don’t you yearn for the skies? Don’t you wake up grieving you’re still on land?

Page 3: The white-throated rail looks down in frustration in the hand of the sun.

Sun: (speaking off screen) I’d simply perish if I were you!

The rail speaks, looking down. Pink flowers bloom towards the bottom of the page, petals and pollen blowing in the wind.

Rail: Why do you put your words in my beak and your grief in my feathers? Am I not beautiful?

Page 4: The bone of a white-throated rail is positioned against a colorful galaxy dotted with flecks of stars.

Rail: Am I not adaptability in action? Am I not evolution in motion? Do you mourn the days you weren’t a star? Do you mourn when the sky was cold, how unbearably hot you must burn to keep embracing it every day?

Page 5: The sun looks at the viewer.

Sun: Why would I? That was then, this is now. I am content to be in this state.

Page 6: The rail looks up at the sun off-screen.

Rail: Well…So am I.

#disability #disability comic #disability poetry #fibromyalgia #spoonie #spoon theory #ableism #poetry #comic #comics #visual poetry #cripple punk #chronic illness

[syladelphia]

it’s fibromyalgia awareness month so I just wanted to say a lil somethin’

ig post here (includes full caption)

#fibromyalgia #fibro #fibromyalgia awareness month #walking cane #walking stick #offset cane #flowers #disability #actually disabled #mobility aid #ambulatory cane user #digital art #chronic disability #spoonie #spoon theory #chronic illness #sorry for all the tags lol

[fibrofox]

🥄Spoon Stop! 🥄

Take a spoon or two to complete any tasks you need to finish soon. Reblog to give your mutuals a spoon

#spoon theory #jokes

[mami-chaos]

Normalise mourning the life you may have had before chronic illness took over.

#chronically ill #chronic pain #migraine #disability #disabilties #functional neurological disorder #fibromyalgia #spoonies unite #spoonie strong #spoon theory #chronic fatigue #chronic illness #chronic migraine #spoonie struggle

[phireads]

Please reblog if you can so I can get a larger sample size

Feel free to put any clarifications in the tags (I’d be very grateful) <3

#mine #polls #not books #disability #disabled #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #physical disability #physically disabled #spoonie #spoon theory #cerebral palsy #mobility issues #physically impaired #christine miserandino #spoons #out of spoons

[4spooniesupport]

A real, unbutchered pain scale.

Based on this, my base level of pain is a 7. Sounds pretty accurate

#chronic pain #spoonie #chronically ill #chronic illness #disability #disabled life #mental illness #invisible disability #disabled community #mental heath support #chronic disease #spoonie support #no spoons #spoon theory

[hell0mega]

a lot of people reblogged that spoons poll from me with tags along the lines of "i have adhd but I'm not disabled" and i want everyone to know that adhd is in fact legally recognized as a disability in the usa. you have a disability/are disabled if you have adhd. or autism. or ocd. or depression. or anxiety. etc

these are all disorders. they disrupt our lives and make it harder to navigate the neurotypically-built society we live in just like physically disabled people existing in our able bodied-built society. they are disabling to your every day life and therefore are disabilities.

i say this because disability activism is for all disabilities no matter how invisible or "easily dealt with" because it's not a contest to see how disabled one can be. you're not disbarred from calling yourself disabled because "it could be worse" or "i deal with it well enough" or are "low needs" that doesnt make you NOT disabled!!!

don't sell yourself short and think your disability isnt "bad enough" to call it what it is. you deserve the help, recognition, and protection just like anyone else!

#adhd #autism #disabled #disability activism #spoon theory #i say protection just cuz it is protected under the ada but like. good luck pricing that's why you got fired/didn't get hired #but at least it's THERE. it's legallyrecognized as a disability #i searched 'mental disabilities' and adhd was FIRST lmao

[clownrecess]

You are not gross, or bad, if you struggle with hygenine. Its okay! Last night I brushed my teeth, which was a big achievement for me! Whatever achievement you made, I'm proud of you. And if you didnt make an achievement, I'm still proud of you. I love you so much, and your ability to take care of yourself is irrelevant to that love. /p

#actually autistic #neurodivergent #mental health #self care #spoonie #spoon theory #save your spoons #low spoons #autism #multiply disabled #spoonies #self love #self care reminder #neurodiversity #neurodivergent and proud #disabled self love #disabled positivity #disabilties #trans youth #disabled and queer #transmasc

[copperbadge]

Upon taking my ADHD meds in the morning...

[ID: A photo of a box of plastic spoons with the label "Premium Spoons" on it, referencing the disability activist concept of spoon theory; in one corner is the brand logo, an arrow angling upwards labeled Up&Up.]

#sam has ADHD #spoon theory #medication #adderall

[spookietrex]

I am valid even when my small victory is that I took my meds that day.

#pots syndrome #living with pots #fuck you pots #potsie #pots #spoon theory #spoonie #actually spoonie #my spoons are running low #low spoons #ehlers danlos problems #ehlers danlos zebra #hypermobile ehlers danlos #ehlers danlos syndrome #hypermobile eds #fuck you eds #eds zebra #fibro problems #fibromyalgia #disabilities #physically disabled #actuallyautistic #actuallyautism #actually traumatized #actually disabled #disability #chronic health issues #chronically ill #chronic illness #chronic pain

[ashwolfe3450]

#spoonies #spoon theory #spoonie #dnd #mental health #actually disabled #chronic illness #ehlers danlos problems #fibromyalgia #fibrolife #fibro things #ehlers danlos syndrome #hypermobile ehlers danlos #invisible disability #chronic fatigue #pots

[liberaljane]

Low on spoons, good on knives.

Graphic of an orange cat tucked into bed while holding a knife with its tail. Text reads, ‘low on spoons but good on knives.’

#art #feminism #feminist #illustration #graphic #chronic illness #spoonie #spoon theory #chronically ill #disability justice #cute #cat #sticker design #circle

[autisticdreamdrop]

outside around people for an hour?? gonna need 2 days to reset

#our memes #our edits #my sweet piano #meme #memes #sanrio #sanrio meme #sanrio memes #autism meme #autistic meme #autism memes #autistic memes #spoon theory #spoonie #my sweet piano sanrio #sanrio my sweet piano #autism #autistic #asd #actually autism #actually autistic #autie #autism spectrum disorder #autism spectrum #autistic spectrum

[rainbowchihuahuabunny]

That chronic illness feel when you are in so much pain but you don't have the spoons to get up and get your pain medicine so you just lie there. In pain.

#chronic illness #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #chronically ill #ehlers danlos syndrome #pots #potsie #fibromyalgia #spoonie humour #spoonies #spoons #spoonie #spoon theory #spoonie pain #low spoons #gastroparesis #fibrosucks

[chefkids]

Spoon Theory

This is arguably the single most important The Bear meta post I will ever make so please bear with me.

The first spoon we see in the entire series is when Carmy takes Sydney's spoon to try her stew. This is right after he cut his hand from not being able to find his sharp knife, and before he has to meet with Natalie to get Mikey's jacket, which was stressing him out. She "gave him a spoon" and a bit of positivity when he needed to calm down and get some energy by knowing at the very least Sydney can cook well.

Needing a spoon is needing help. When he hands over the brigade to Sydney he is waving around spoons the entire episode, when she really needed his help and his "spoons". Later on Sydney is not afraid to just ask him for his help.

With the risotto she gave him a "spoon" that would help the restaurant, that brought in a good review and customers, but he didn't have enough of his own "spoons" to deal with it as he was stressing out over the window that just got shot through and the IRS needing the missing tax returns. Right before trying the risotto Carmy had told Richie he is afraid of something good happening. He is afraid of Sydney and him doing well, because the better it gets the more it will hurt him when something goes wrong. That is why he keeps self sabotaging the restaurant and doubting Sydney.

After Sydney quit, she is still using her spoons for mental energy to make sure Marcus is okay and to try and figure out her next steps career wise. Carmy grabbed a spoon to open the tomato can lid, which he really didn't need because he could've just used the can opener, and then found the money. When he finds the money they both know they would be fine on their own, she could find another job, he could fix up The Beef. But they still need each others emotional spoons to achieve their passions, so he reaches out and she comes back.

In Season 2 she did need his "spoons" to help create the menu and decide on the details for the restaurant, but he barely gave her any because he was still so caught up in his past trauma and the literal and metaphorical forks in his life.

Fixing the table really didn't physically need more than one "spoon"/person. But he needed her there to work through his mental block. With the inspiration food tour, she did it on her own and she didn't physically need him for it, she needed his emotional spoons.

When they are not communicating well with each other and Carmy is trying to reach back and be involved again, he gets as close as he can to her spoon without actually using it.

And now the dark side of spoons.

The originator of spoon theory has lupus and first came up with this theory at a restaurant to explain what it was like living with the condition to a friend. They could've easily said Sydney's mom died of cancer or an accident or anything else. But this is all so intentional, out of all the things it is Lupus. I don't want Sydney to be sick as much as the next person, but Lupus is a chronic autoimmune disease that has higher likelihood of developing when you have a family member with it, and can be triggered by environmental factors such as stress. It is an invisible illness and Christine's own handle is butyoudontlooksick, which could really explain Sydney and what she has going on behind her walls that people can't see. She has been a rock to so many people and over exerting herself, but there might come a time soon when Sydney will genuinely need other peoples "spoons", especially Carmy's, because she's all out.

Now that Carmy said he is choosing to give Syd his focus aka his "spoons", will he actually be able to follow through?

Read The Fork Theory next

Read The Knife Theory

#spoon theory #the bear meta #the bear #sydcarmy #sydney adamu #carmen berzatto #chefs kiss #syd x carmy #platonic and messy #charged and sexy #carmy x sydney #christopher storer #joanna calo