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Seeking ideas on how to protect and cleanse negative energy from homophobic family.

My partner and I are getting married later this year and we’re so excited to celebrate with our loved ones 🥰

However, her family is extremely religious, conservative, and homophobic. While we didn’t have high expectations for their reactions, the majority of her immediate family will not acknowledge or accept our relationship. Her grandma recently sent a horrible, nasty letter in response to our wedding invitation, preaching at us, calling our relationship a sin, and blaming us for hurting the family by simply living our lives.

We normally have strong boundaries with her homophobic family members, as they’ve been fairly hateful and manipulative in the past, but for some reason this letter hit me particularly hard. Her many family members celebrate every other couples’ milestones, but because we are gay, they will neither acknowledge, celebrate, or support us. And instead of keeping this to themselves and minding their own business, they try to poison us with their hate and dissuade us from our love and all the joy it’s brought us.

I don’t get it. So sad.

Anyway, I would love to hear from couples who’ve faced this in the past and how they cleansed and refocused their energy.

#wlw #queer #lesbian #wlw love #baby witch #witchblr

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Reflecting on the first two weeks of 2024. Adding to my “in” list. Takeaways:

I’ve spent too much of my life doing what I thought I was supposed to do or had to do, rather than following my joy. I want to tune into the present moment and enjoy life rather than always focusing on the next goal. Enjoy the journey. There will always be more goals and more urgent tasks. Other things are often more important. I want to treasure the little things, the movement, the time with loved ones, the glimmers, especially when the world can be so dark.

#wlw #adhd #queer #coffee #eldest daughter #eldest sibling #eldest sister #overachiever #workaholics #burnt out #gifted kid burnout

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Queer kids deserve to become queer adults. To grow up supported. To go through adolescence finding themselves, instead of going through their 20s grieving the years they weren’t safe and had to pretend to be someone else. To be safely queer before financial independence. Wanting queer youngsters to not have a lifetime of conditioning and trauma to unpack isn’t child abuse, it is literally the opposite. Queer kids deserve to be safe.

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Chai latte for a cozy Saturday morning!

#wlw #cozy aesthetic #warm and cozy #coffee

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I will hold space for you.

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Gonna stop calling myself 'weird' and replace that with 'interesting'.

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According to these "individualists", taking advantage of people who have to do things for you in order to survive does not count as relying on other people.

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Sometimes I have to remind myself that prioritizing my joy in the face of oppression is one of the best forms of protest and self-love.

#queer #wlw

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Thou shall leaveth me the fuck alone

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Patriarchal Masculinity and Mass Shooters (via @rethinkingmanhood)

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After spending most of the day doing whatever I wanted (like sunbathing and hammocking in the backyard with a book, cocktail, and my pup), I found myself reflecting on my struggle to find and prioritize myself. Growing up queer and with ADHD (and being very unaware of both), I felt so much pressure to fit into boxes that were unnatural, even painful, to me. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t be the person I was told to be. What made me feel most myself, most alive, wasn’t important - unless it went along with those societal standards. If it didn’t, it was shamed. Even now I struggle to stay in touch with my truest self, my joy, my desires. What should be most sacred and important to me is often an afterthought within my life, and often still unacceptable to those around me. I want to change this. I want to treasure my joy. I want to know myself, what makes me feel most alive and most myself. I want to be my first priority - my true self, my joy, not fickle expectations of society. And I want to be courageous enough to not let others’ disapproval affect my loyalty to myself.

#queer #lesbian #wlw #adhd #self love #reflectingonlife

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Hi hello good afternoon I am supplying you with wlw book recs because we all deserve them. Please reblog with your own recs because I’ve only been reading sapphic books for a few months so haven’t covered loads of amazing ones, and hopefully this can become a massive rec list of wlw books :)

Also please please please check the TWs for all of these so that you can stay happy, healthy and safe 💗.

Fantasy:

- The Priory of the Orange Tree: [“We may be small, and we may be young, but we will shake the world for our beliefs”] Look I know you’ve all heard of it. Now read it. Swords. Queer women. Queer women with swords. Dragons. Castles. Battles. Many many many pages of beautiful words. There is nothing missing from this book.

- Cinderella is Dead: [“I don't want to be saved by some knight in shining armour. I'd like to be the one in the armour, and I'd like to be the one doing the saving.”] Fuck the patriarchy. Dystpian. Gay. Fantasy. Cinderella is dead (wow). Badass main character. Fighting for rights and fighting for eachother. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

- Girls of Paper and Fire: [“Instead of disappearing, she makes me feel reappeared. Reimagined. Her touch shapes me, draws out the boldness that had been hiding in my core.”] We said learning to heal! We said finding safety in eachothers arms! We said fighting the oppressive government! We said fuck the patriarchy! We said fantasy women with swords! We said (kinda) enemies to lovers! We said please check the trigger warnings for this book!

- A Dark and Hollow Star: [“The number one law of the universe is choice, after all — bad things happen to the people who take that option away from you.”] Fantasy that actually uses the words bisexual and lesbian and gay and genderfluid!!! Urban fantasy. Four main characters: two mlm, two wlw. Swords and monsters and fae and powers and tension and fate. Read for the pretty cover, stay for the characters.

- Gideon the Ninth: [“I cannot conceive of a universe without you in it”] This book is dark and horror-y and gory and weird as fuck. This book has skeletons and necromancy and a huge weird haunted house and everyone dying under mysterious circumstances. This book has enemies to i-dont-even-know-what. You will not know what is happening in this book but you will love it. Trust me.

Dystopian:

- We Set the Dark on Fire: [“Maybe this was trust ... Giving someone the power to ruin you, betting your life on the belief that they wouldn't.”] once again, repeat after me: fuck the patriarchy. Rebellion. Enemies to lovers. Dystopian world where every man gets two wives. Guess what happens 👀

Contemporary:

- The Henna Wars: [“I've never really thought about having a type. I guess my type is....beautiful girl. Which is a lot of them. Most of them? Pretty much all girls”]. Girl dealing with the aftermath of coming out to her parents has a crush on a girl who is competing against her in a school competition. Main character is muslim, bangladeshi and lesbian and love interest is black, brazilian and bisexual. Just read it. Don’t do it for me. Do it for yourself. You deserve to smile.

- Her Royal Highness: [“PERRY I’VE FOUND AN AMERICAN!”] Look this book may be cliche and predictable and a little ridiculous at times but it made me unfathomably happy so I don’t care. Scottish boarding school+royalty+an american. Enemies to lovers but not im-gonna-stab-you enemies to lovers (which ive read my fair share of truet me), more like why-are-you-so-unbearably-irritating enemies to lovers you know?

- Written in the Stars: [“I’ll break into your apartment and move everything three inches to the left and fuck with your flow, okay?”] Good, solid contemporary new adult romance. Enemies to lovers. Grump x sunshine. Actually has a sex scene (this might not be everyones thing i just noticed wlw books often skirt around them so thought id point it out). Ugh its just so cute.

- You Should See Me In a Crown: [“When I open my mouth, everything happens so fast—the way I can feel her everywhere, the way my hands steady instead of shake where they tangle in her hair because I’ve maybe never felt so grounded before, so rooted in a moment”] What happens when a black queer girl tries for prom queen in a weird, cliquey prom-obsessed school? What happens when one of the other competitors is the unabashedly gay cute new girl? This is what happens. Guys. Guys. Guys. Read this one oh my god. I say this about every book but seriously READ THIS ONE. So so so so so good. Everything you could ever want in a queer coming of age book.

- The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo: [“You do not know how fast you have been running, how hard you have been working, how truly exhausted you are, until someone stands behind you and says, “It’s OK, you can fall down now. I’ll catch you.”] I know you’ve all heard this but you’re about to hear it again. Queer women in the 50s? Sign me up! Sign yourself up! Buy this book and then read this book! Freak out about this book! Cry about this book! Tell everyone you’ve ever met to read this book! Cry some more about this book! Make this book your whole personality!

Thriller(?):

- The Girls I’ve Been: [“There is no normal. There is just a bunch of people pretending there is. There's just different levels of pain. Different stages of safe. The biggest con of all is that there's a normal.”] Thriller. Guns. Menstrual cups. Con artists. That awkward moment when you’re stuck in a bank robbery with two murderous men, a child, your ex boyfriend and your current girlfriend. Not romance but has romantic themes (established relationship). Coming to terms with childhood trauma and abuse. This book is short but deceptively heavy with the themes it deals with so, again, please check the TWs.

Ones on my TBR:

- Last Night at the Telegraph Club

- The Miseducation of Cameron Post

- A Memory Called Empire

- This Is How You Lose the Time War

- Girl, Serpent, Thorn

- This Poison Heart

- One Last Stop

- She Who Became The Sun (omg i want to read this so so so badly)

- The Weight of the Stars

- These Feathered Flames

- Honey Girl

- The Chosen and the Beautiful

- She Drives Me Crazy

#wlw #wlw books #sapphic book #sapphic books #queer books #lgbtq books

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Man should’ve fact checked before getting wrecked like that

#women #feminist #beauty #art #sculpture

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i hope you remember it’s very human and normal to crave affection, human interaction, attention and love. you’re not “too needy” or “too sensitive” for wanting to have your emotional and social needs met accordingly. 

#wlw love #reminders #mental health

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she's so good for my soul. 💛

#wlw love #lesbian #soulmate #queer #sapphic #wlw