#How to be your authentic self

[calltoamentor]

The Cracks in Good Damage

Diane Nguyen is one of the most complex characters on Bojack Horseman. Her journey both as someone overcoming a lifetime of trauma and as someone who wants to live by her creative passions take her through a process that many creatives relate to.

Yeah, but I’m not writing a book to have fun. If I don’t write my book of essays now, I never will.–Diane Nguyen, Bojack HorsemanIt is not often we find a character who so perfectly encapsulates the struggles of being a creative living with trauma and depression quite so thoroughly as Diane Nguyen from the Netflix series Bojack Horseman. Starting the series as a ghost writer, using her voice to…

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#Bojack Horseman analysis #Change #Create your life #Creating While Depressed #Creative Blocks #creative process #Diane Nguyen #growth mindset #How do I create abundance #How to be your authentic self #How to move forward #letting go of the past #personal growth #trauma #trauma Recovery #Traumatic Response

[lt-cmdr-titties]

i'm still emotional about all of spock's life trajectory basically being that of a pendulum wildly seeking equilibrium in a confusing world

he swings back and forth from emulating extreme logic to poorly hide his emotional instability as a kid to embracing emotion and even cracking jokes and laughing to once again valuing logic (but this time he lets himself still fuck with people and maybe his eyes show a fuck ton a glimpse of emotion if you know how to look for it) and then finally in the movies learning that emotion and logic are not conflicting forces and he embodies both and coaches others to do the same and just AUGH

#spock's laughing and joking phase feels a lot like the phase i know i and a lot of other baby queers went through right after coming out #where literally everything you buy must be rainbow and you thrive in rainbow capitalism and all that. it's reveling in the opposite extreme #of what you had to go through for so long and it's so important in the journey of learning how to live as your authentic self #star trek tos #star trek snw #star trek aos #star trek tos movies #star trek the motion picture #spock #spock cha'sarek #spirk #mcspirk

[aroacettorney]

what got me so insanely angsty about the relationship between ludger and casey is that it's not even subtext. it's literally in the text that are their own words.

they canonically enjoy the other person's company.

they canonically believe the other person is one of a very few who could understand them.

they canonically understand each other, from personalities and capabilities to behaviors and thoughts.

ludger canonically regrets ruining their relationship.

casey canonically wishes to mend their relationship.

they canonically want(ed) this relationship.

#the only thing that really is subtext is that ludger even now still lowkey yearns for it as well #just similar to how he lowkey enjoys teaching under the pretense of playacting #will there ever be a day sayren finally frees me from this suffering 😔 #every time ludger cites the reason why their relationship can no longer work out its always how he thinks casey should think about him #but unfortunately for him casey being the girlboss as she should will think and do whatever she wants #barely related if you squints but #it sure is funny that ludgers authentic self gradually leaks out day by day and becomes what his supposedly fake identity is known for #and vice versa #something something... and yet a trace of the true self exists in the false self #if at one point your fake identity becomes one with your true self then can we still say it only is a fake identity? #are you a man dreaming of being a butterfly or are you a butterfly dreaming of being a man? #aro ludgercasey propaganda #selmore's undercover husband

[horrorgirlreads]

People mention Carrie being an autistic horror queen (she is) but I don't ever see anybody talk about May (2002)

#mine #horror movies #may 2002 #i watched that movie whan i was 13 and it hit me in ways people just couldn't understand #and the way it shows how people can say theyre ok with you being your authentic self #but then you unmask around them and they get freaked out #cinematic perfection #this movie is underrated af

[romantichopelessly]

literally the catch 22 of making urself less to keep people around you directly leading to people leaving u bc you’re not opening up to them 🧍‍♀️

#like !!! I’m trying to be what YOU want!!! I’m sorry you didn’t want me like that and now you’re mad I’m fake ?!!!??!! #I’m trying so hard but I don’t think I have an authentic self to live confidently as #bc everyone says the only way to rly be happy is let go of expectations and be your real self and find your real people #but I don’t think I have a self tbh #I think I’m a collection of experiences and expectations and I don’t know how to return to the origin point #oh well I guess!!!!! lost cause! #‘you can’t give up everything for someone and call that love’ WELL WHAT IF ITS THE ONLY WAY I KNOW HOW TO LOVE ?! #yeah I’ll never have real love bc I only expect to love and not be loved #but let’s be entirely real. you can’t love a mirrorball ! a set of masks ! a changing thing ! #and yeah I know it’s my fault I’m like that but it’s fucking impossible to stop #how can I take chances and live authentically like ??? what the fuck that goes against my like. core being. #idk I’m making it sound stupid but UGH #and then I just become upset later that they don’t love me the same. maybe it’s bc they don’t know me. like sure. they never asked. #but I never told. #i talk sometimes

[succubusapphic]

i mean it really theres something so masc and sexy about a transmasc or butch or whatever you identify as that owns their softness their hardness their smoothness their roughness everything people think mascs "shouldnt" be and when they take that and theyre outspoken and confident about it especially (not required bc i will take just as much joy in building you up to feel that way yourself) but especially ESPECIALLY when they do what they do and they encourage others to do what they do too and not fit some toxic masculine energy. something so empowering to others about being yourself unapologetically it just makes me want to leap into your arms and call you the handsomest hunk i ever met

#being yourself and building others up to be their most authentic happy self too is the sexiest shit ever #but also if youre not there yet let me tell you how good youre doing and how masc you are and let my femmeness by comparison #fuel and empower your masculine energy #trans mascs and butches of all kinds i love you #not just trans mascs but butches getting comfortable with the masculinity they felt villainized for #any and all kinds of mascs and butches #sighs dreamily and kicks my feets #mine #femme4masc #femme4butch

[cosmic-kaden]

Oh right I totally forgot that AD literally took lessons on how to drive a bus for his character as he didn't want to pretend he was doing anything or being distracted on how he "should look" operating a bus and mess up his lines because he'd end up over thinking the bus thing.

He deadass was like "screw it, I'm gonna learn how to drive a transit bus." and I think that's so cool??? Hi???

#'cause Paterson is a transit bus driver! #I understand though like you probably don't want to be thinking in the back of your mind how to operate or attempt to operate a bus #while also remembering your lines. that sounds incredibly stressful. I think it's cool that he got lessons/got certified to be able to #actually drive transit. Not only that but of course it makes scenes where he is driving 100% more authentic! :D #not self ship #cosmic liveblogs

[muu-kun]

#; ♡ ; okay to reblog #muu has admittedly been describing is self perceived melancholy and isolation regarding it #as being comparable to the circle drawn around Sadness in Inside Out due to others finding his emotions to be Too Much in capacity #and that as such he has thus been persistently trying to make himself very very small in spaces #so that maybe perhaps someone would soon be able to reside in the circle with him just until he gets to where he feels he is supposed to be #muu has also stated on numerous actions that while he is adamant about self healing he is not necessarily of preference #to not have the assistance of peers and their feedback and he tends he show it most predominantly in asking them to hear Everything #about himself in the form of the big box because one he wants assurances at the end of it all but also because he Has to be explaining #his processes of thought and general state of where he is now to people so that they may go Oh so that why you do the neurotic shit you do #but it really be hard out here when you don't know how to self advocate for a persistently emotionally present romantic partner #you don't really have any friends and you are either God awful at making new ones or you don't want to try for reasons of either #feeling scorned past close friends of yours have left time and time again OR #because you don't know what version of yourself is the Real one or the Good one or the Authentic one so you avoid socializing #until you can properly answer that dilemma but in turn you've left yourself with 1 person to seek out and talk to #but with that comes the existential dread of either a this person is also going to leave me or #b I am in fact so totally codependent on them that it isn't fair to be my sole research for assistance that I ought to fend for myself #but what do you even do to fend for yourself when you don't even know how to Advocate for yourself?? #you devise a plan to shrink down and provide no indication to those around you that you are struggling with anything #that perhaps shriveling yourself down like that will allow for people to find you tolerable enough to be around #and that their presences will patch up every interpersonal wound in your system until eventually what you are faking has come true #; ♡ ; inner thoughts

[sonknuxadow]

Giving sega the hardest glare rn for ANY kinda Pride themed cosmetic for Frontiers I'm on my knees cause imagine just like. That impact of that

im not expecting that but i feel like its not impossible either. put a rainbow cape on that beast

#we already know that theres frontiers dlc planned for june. since one of the thigns on the content map was sonics birthday #so maybe. you never know #asks #corporations arent your friends etc etc but #from what ive seen sega Does make an actual effort at lgbt allyship. at least more than a lot of other companies anyway #they dont just change their logo to rainbow for june and call it a day they actually donate to charity and stuff #which is a good thing #its funny how every time sega acknowledges the lgbt community homophobes and transphobes start losing their minds #as if they just started doing this. even though theyve been doing it for a while now #and the one thing sonic hates is oppression and hes all about living life to the fullest as your authentic self. like come on

[calltoamentor]

Being Yourself in Public

Let's talk about going almost no-contact, ending a long-term relationship, being single and living alone. And what it means to actually upgrade your life.

“That’s not normal.”“You’ll never get a job like that.”“The nail that sticks out gets hammered down.”“No one will want to marry you if you look/behave/think like this.” These are just some of the phrases that I and many others spent much of our youth hearing. That if we weren’t a very specific, highly consumable and curated version of ourselves, if we didn’t keep the part of ourselves that would…

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#Alt fashion #Alt-fashion #Be yourself #Being Single #corporate goth #Endings #Generational trauma #historybounding #How to be your authentic self #how to leave a toxic workplace #how to set boundaries #j-fashion #Life transformation #Normalcy #transform your life #trauma #Traumatic Response #Work #Work In progress #Work In progress Wednesday

[loveoaths]

writing a novel about ensign eli vanto and isb agent aleksander kallus having a fucked up “friends with benefits without the friendship” relationship back in the academy. what’re you up to

#i love talking about repressed men and queerness in hostile environments and choosing survival over freedom and authenticity and fear #and sexuality and sensuality and angry angry angry young men burning their mouths with the secrets under their tongues #how hard it is to be not straight in places that don’t want you. how you can never be your full self when even your closest friends can’t #know that part of you. when hiding becomes your way of being #and then how earth shattering and painful and humiliating and hopeful and wrathful it can feel when you meet someone and they immediately #clock you and you clock them! that’s kallus and vanto baby! #ships passing in the night! #walkie talkie. #rarepair tag. #rarepair of the day. #eli vanto #aleksandr kallus #agent kallus

[feedingicetothedog]

i officially have the vampire chronicles brainworms bc i'm reading the vampire lestat rn and i keep thinking back to when the first trailer for the amc show came out and ppl were like "um......lestat only kills BAD ppl >:(" bc like......that's not true at all. yes, when he first gets turned, he's like i have to create a system for this or i'm going to lose my mind (which bads news bud you already lost it) and he only kills thieves and muggers and stuff. but then he has his mental breakdown in renaud's theater and says, and i quote:

"What sublime idiocy that I had dragged that paltry morality with me, striking down the damned ones—seeking to be saved in spite of it all? What had I thought I was, a righteous partner to the judges and executioners of Paris who strike down the poor for crimes that the rich commit every day?"

and then later that night he eats a beggar woman and her child while they're seeking shelter in a church (and trying to get him to a doctor bc he's covered in blood and they think he's injured) and says that their blood tastes better bc of their innocence. and then louis says in iwtv that lestat saw them (vampires) as beings akin to god who acted as independent agents doling out life and death at their own discretion. and this is something i find so fascinating about lestat as a character which is he is always constructing some sort of self mythology, some code or story about himself to define himself and then he carries it around until it begins to chafe and then he completely throws it away and recreates himself in hopes of eventually manufacturing an identity that makes his existence have some sort of meaning. bc that's really what he's looking for, a version of his story/life where everything is profound and nothing is simply (cruelly) by chance

#i also think a lot about him talking about the commedia dell'arte and how if you know your character then you don't need a script #which is basically what he proceeds to do when he becomes a vampire: he fabricates this character that is lestat and plays it #and bc he knows what he's hoping to achieve he doesn't need lines it's all improv it's all a show #but like all performances that kayfabe can get super tiring and he just wants to stop performing #but he's forgotten who he is outside of the performance so he just has to make a new self and call that one authentic or real #and there's an interview w sam reid where he says that it's hard to say if lestat actually relishes in killing or if it's an act #i love liars ❤️ #lestat de lioncourt #tvc #vampterview

[diari0deglierrori]

Just a quick poll because.

#what I mean by that you feel comfortable sharing just anything with them #like being your most authentic self #idk it feels weird I can’t go over a certain (don’t know how to call it) #like do you get what I mean? #I’m friend with my sisters best friend #but I couldn’t tell her just anything that crosses my mind because I know she’ll share it with my sister #and idk there are things I could say to a friend but that will have to stay between us #I can’t be worried they’d tell just anyone in my family you know #and I mean I do share stuff with her but I just have limits #she shares a lot though but she also has a more interesting life than me so she does have more to share #she’s also older #but one thing that does bring a certain barrier to what I can tell her is that she’s a christian #not the hardcore kind you know #she’s more open than a loooooot of people I know *cough* unlike my relatives *cough* #but that means I could never tell her certain things about me #I did share a lot about one subject that’s like a big ?problem? for me #my relashionship with a certain someone in my life #or the lack of it hah #but also she was there when a lot of things happened so I know she understands #anyway I’ll stop before I overshare too much but yeah #so #i always told myself I couldn’t be a close friend of someone that is also very close to some of my relatives #idk I just can’t #they could be casual friends but not more #not to gatekeep someone either that’s their own choice to make but do you get what I mean?? #so anyway answer pls I just need to know

[zordonmlw7]

I think no amount of acting in line with my morals will change the fact that I'm a fundamentally messed up person

#like yeah actions are more important than thoughts and scree the policing your thoughts like a puritan #but fundamentally I also follow my morals to the point of being like #disingenuous with people #because I think that's how I SHOULD react #and like #idk #how do I be authentic to myself when sometimes .y genuine self #just does not care #even though morally I believe it is right to care #shut up zordon

[starpros-sunshine]

helloooooo i've had a blast talking to you more, you're genuinely so friendly and like that one time i said, you make me feel less scared to be myself. that thing where authenticity influences others positively

i think you've always had that vibe like before we were mutuals you used to spam like my posts (i was a little confused because we didn't follow eachother) but it always felt warm and i'm really grateful to know you now!! you're very cool and have many wonderful thoughts. thank uuu glad you're here :)

!!!!! This is so sweet waugh stop being so nice to me I'll cry /lh

But yeah samesies talking to you is very fun!!! I'm like. This close to falling asleep so this probably doesn't come over the way I intend it to but yeah I can only reciprocate that sentiment <33

#Your thoughts are also so good!!! #I get so bashful when people say they're glad I'm here it's so silly but just. idk it's a phrase that gives me emotions #ALSO THE SPAM LIKING YEAH I REMEMBER #that was because you followed me and I wanted to follow you back but you know how it is with mental stuff that makes you need like #3+ months of mental prep to accept a new person in the tiny circle of people I'm gonna interact with regularly #it's not fun I wish I could follow people back more easily but my brain won't let me sobsob </3 #but I'm glad i followed you back you're so nice it's so <3333 #the oomf feeling but the positive variant #again I could add the name tag but wheres the fun on the anon part with that #anon #oh and the authenticity bit that's so sweet I don't really understand how I of all peoplr managed to do that but I'm glad to be of help #not in a self depreciating way because there's been enough of that but more of a ''I don't even know what I did'' way #felt like I should mention that

[bybdolan]

i really love and relate to how you’re able to praise and criticise bc obviously no one, even celebrities are perfect

Thank you! It's something I have kind of "cultivated" (there is no real right way here, just what I am comfortable with) over time because I am somebody who has a lot of sympathy for celebrities and their situation, simply because I engage with most things on a level of empathy for the individual, but I can also recognize that creating a persona and marketing yourself a certain way is part of their job and, as a result, am aware that I am not their friend and that there are situations where my sympathy might be exploited. Nevertheless, I just don't like to brush aside the negative sides of fame + since I am comfortable with the amount of energy and money (<- pretty much none) I spend on celebs, I just don't see why I should be overtly vigilant about the things that they tell me instead of trying to be empathetic because after all these are also regular humans. A general rule of thumb I have for criticism though is that I try to focus it on aspects of a celebrity that very clearly exist in a context of an exchange à la "money for goods", e.g. the quality of shows, the music, aesthetics (e.g. album art) – it is the only place where I understand a sense of entitlement because it is literally about the things you get for YOUR money.

#Fashion falls in a bit of a gray area where i mostly look at it from a career lens or how it makes use of a person's financial resources #But i keep in mind that ppl also just. Want to feel good in their clothing. #Idk! #I just think fame is so abusive and messes you up a lot #And constantly performing screws with your authentic self or whatever #But i feel that too! And i still think that things i say are accurate to who i am #So i just find it easiest to assume it is similar to some degree #Ask #Anonymous