#Too sociable

[ante--meridiem]

To socialise or not to socialise, that is the question.

#Looked at two places I could move out to & they are complete opposite vibes in terms of socialableness #Both have roommates ofc but one gives me a lot more of my own space & it seems like I would barely have to interact with them at all #So I'd be left pretty much completely alone. Which is usually the dream #And ngl knowing the other people there would keep to themselves & have no interest in knowing me is especially relieving #Given the whole thing that pushed me to move out in the first place #The other has extremely small & cozy vibes. Owner's stuff all over the place #By cozy I do mean cluttered #The girl I met with there (not the person I'd be renting from) gave me a tour for five-ten mins #And then the next 30 mins-60 mins we spent chatting over tea #Someone more sociable than me might call it instant bestie vibes #Which. Has been something I've kind of very much been missing/yearning for irl I will admit #& from the sound of it the person subletting has the same vibes with her #She says he's 'interesting' and 'I'd like him' #From the combination of her description and the clutter I'm getting eccentric professor vibes #Which is generally a good vibe to me #But I am even more skittish of renting from someone t #Too sociable #After prev landlord #Though I want to trust othet tenant's vibe check. Because it might actually be very nice to have some kind of real life friends #It's also a very different kind of sociable than prev landlord #She was 'chatty and gets you to open up easily' sociable & it sounds like the other guy will be approximately the same #& also 'repeatedly assures you can ask her to stop if she's being too much' sociable. Which is always a relief #Meanwhile prev landlord was 'wants to know why you're not relaxed & tells you you should be without doing anything to help you be' sociable #'gets very pushy about finding time to talk/hang out' sociable #'teases you for being awkward' sociable #None of which were the real issue with him of course. But they didn't help & I can't help but see them as red flags in retrospect #I'm currently leaning towards 'to socialise' because it was a very cosy vibe & I do feel starved of irl friendship just a bit #But it could either be very good or very bad #& I don't want to risk very bad again #Anyway. This has been missives from a pizza shop I ducked into to charge my phone before I go back to being lost in a snowstorm

[whetstonefires]

You know what I realize that people underestimate with Pride & Prejudice is the strategic importance of Jane.

Because like, I recently saw Charlotte and Elizabeth contrasted as the former being pragmatic and the latter holding out for a love match, because she's younger and prettier and thinks she can afford it, and that is very much not what's happening.

The Charlotte take is correct, but the Elizabeth is all wrong. Lizzie doesn't insist on a love match. That's serendipitous and rather unexpected. She wants, exactly as Mr. Bennet says, someone she can respect. Contempt won't do. Mr. Bennet puts it in weirdly sexist terms like he's trying to avoid acknowledging what he did to himself by marrying a self-absorbed idiot, but it's still true. That's what Elizabeth is shooting for: a marriage that won't make her unhappy.

She's grown up watching how miserable her parents make one another; she's not willing to sign up for a lifetime of being bitter and lonely in her own home.

I think she is very aware, in refusing Mr. Collins, that it's reasonably unlikely that anyone she actually respects is going to want her, with her few accomplishments and her lack of property. That she is turning down security and the chance keep the house she grew up in, and all she gets in return may be spinsterhood.

But, crucially, she has absolute faith in Jane.

The bit about teaching Jane's daughters to embroider badly? That's a joke, but it's also a serious potential life plan. Jane is the best creature in the world, and a beauty; there's no chance at all she won't get married to someone worthwhile.

(Bingley mucks this up by breaking Jane's heart, but her prospects remain reasonable if their mother would lay off!)

And if Elizabeth can't replicate that feat, then there's also no doubt in her mind that Jane will let her live in her house as a dependent as long as she likes, and never let it be made shameful or awful to be that impoverished spinster aunt. It will be okay never to be married at all, because she has her sister, whom she trusts absolutely to succeed and to protect her.

And if something eventually happens to Jane's family and they can't keep her anymore, she can throw herself upon the mercy of the Gardeners, who have money and like her very much, and are likewise good people. She has a support network--not a perfect or impregnable one, but it exists. It gives her realistic options.

Spinsterhood was a very dangerous choice; there are reasons you would go to considerable lengths not to risk it.

But Elizabeth has Jane, and her pride, and an understanding of what marrying someone who will make you miserable costs.

That's part of the thesis of the book, I would say! Recurring Austen thought. How important it is not to marry someone who will make you, specifically, unhappy.

She would rather be a dependent of people she likes and trusts than of someone she doesn't, even if the latter is formally considered more secure; she would rather live in a happy, reasonable household as an extra than be the mistress of her own home, but that home is full of Mr. Collins and her mother.

This is a calculation she's making consciously! She's not counting on a better marriage coming along. She just feels the most likely bad outcome from refusing Mr. Collins is still much better than the certain outcome of accepting him. Which is being stuck with Mr. Collins forever.

Elizabeth is also being pragmatic. Austen also endorses her choice, for the person she is and the concerns she has. She's just picking different trade-offs than Charlotte.

Elizabeth's flaw is not in her own priorities; she doesn't make a reckless choice and get lucky. But in being unable to accept that Charlotte's are different, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with Charlotte.

Because realistically, when your marriage is your whole family and career forever, and you only get to pick the ones that offer themselves to you, when you are legally bound to the status of dependent, you're always going to be making some trade-offs.

😂 Even the unrealistically ideal dream scenario of wealthy handsome clever ethical Mr. Darcy still asks you to undergo personal growth, accommodate someone else's communication style, and eat a little crow.

#hoc est meum #pride and prejudice #elizabeth bennet #charlotte lucas #meta #charlotte is a much less sociable person than lizzie #so avoiding her husband most of the time and not seeking out his company is more viable for her! #she also has more patience for people being wrong #partly i think because she kinds checks out and lets them get on with it which lizzie isn't too great at even with her mother #people have different needs like that's a thing okay #marriage #spinsterhood #pragmatism #like if elizabeth had to listen to collins talk for a few months straight she would be nearly insane with rage #he's not just a low-quality man he's a man designed to be the worst for her specifically #also note that because jane's marriage is elizabeth's fallback plan #darcy screwed her over personally by interfering between her and bingley #she ofc does not bring this up how could she #but it's intensifying the anger during the hunsford rejection i think

[pippuns]

the only thing that could have improved SVSSS is if shen jiu was in the background providing scathing hateful commentary the entire time. i want to see him and shen yuan eat each other alive <3

#svsss #shen yuan #shen jiu #shang qinghua #og shang qinghua #pippart #im so interested in the tragedy of sj's whole thing #like there's the obvious bit #with a guy who gets replaced by someone else and its obvious that the new guy isn't the old guy #but no one really cares to look past their initial misgivings about the situation and just accept it #both bc of false rumors about the old guy but also bc he's just. really too wounded to connect with other people in any meaningful capacity #but im also just soooo interested with what shen yuan does with shen jiu's life #because its literally objectively better #he doesn't get tortured to death #he has friends. his disciples love him. his martial siblings rely on him. his reputation is improved on all accounts. he finds love. #he's more sociable and he trusts other people more and other people trust him in turn #but in order to get this result you have to completely divorce the old goods from the new #its a similar reason as to why im so interested in kris's whole thing in deltarune #is this something sj could have gotten on his own if someone had reached out to him first? #was sj ever in a place where he could have accepted a hand reached out towards him? #or was he always doomed to be his own downfall? #anyways. i am very normal about the media i consume. #obsessed with the stranger vibes of svsss SO much #hello fellow tma enjoyers that podcast permanently changed how i evaluate characters #hello tumblr exclusives you get the benefit of seeing my deranged thoughts in the tags #bc im too shy to just tweet this out

[sergle]

honestly? no collar + no chip = no owner fr fr. i like sometimes cats get out when they arent supposed to and their collars get ripped off. understandablw. but like. if u have an "outdoor cat". and it does not have a collar, and it does not have a chip. how the hell is ANYONE supposed to tell ur lil guy apart from a stray??? literally how??

for real!! sorry, no owner! this cat has no evidence of being someone's pet! no collar, no chip, no missing flyers, nothin!!! and there's nothing to differentiate a missing cat from an outdoor cat from a friendly stray from a dumped/abandoned cat. They Are The Same.

#like there's no Stealing there. it can't be called stealing it's called rescuing #and people are so annoying about this too #many a cat/kitten I've found in my life who are just so easy to handle #like they take very little work to break the Fear Barrier before they switch into being sociable and snuggly and easy to handle #and people are like OMG IF IT'S FRIENDLY THAT'S SOMEONE'S CAT!! YOU MUST'VE TAKEN SOMEONE'S CAT #the HELL I DID there's never a chip or so much as a missing poster. don't you think I already checked! #if this is someone's cat then too bad beech!! but also people SO dramatically underestimate the friendliness of stray cats #just bc a cat doesn't have an owner doesn't mean it isn't socialized. a cat can be homeless and friendly at the same time #people pet and feed strays all the time. just bc it isn't fully feral doesn't mean that it has a place to call home #sergle.txt

[hollowslantern]

#also dont tag as ship cause idobt like it sorry 😭 #tf2 #i think theyre buddies but they cant hang out too much because their personalities arent too compatible #so they have to find situations in which scout is less rambunctious and sniper is more sociable #or else scout gets pissed about talking to a rock and starts provoking him for reactions #and sniper gets pissed that he wont stop talking and starts thinking in a johnny bravo voice 'wonder if i could... hunt him for sport 🤔'

[thewastelandlosers]

Looking at me with them big ol' eyes

#he stares so much and gets so close into your space #i love the thought that he's purely and naturally a space invader and doesnt realise he needs to keep a sociable distance unless told too #im guessing other companions get up in the LW space too but i dont have them do i wouldnt know #so i just see it as a Charon trait and other companions know what personal space means #Charon would be 'personal space for me but not for thee' #Charon #Fallout #Fallout 3 #Fallout Charon #Fallout gameplay

[hearties-circus]

Belly rubs for the goggy?

#al art #pokemon #pokemon rby #arcanine #go right for it! she is sociable after all #unbelievably lucky that she has that mark too

[cienie-isengardu]

No offense but Cyrax always gave off a new recruit vibe compared to the other members. Seriously he seems a lot more...normal than the other Lin Kuei and seems more...open minded compared to the others. I feel like Cyrax was a fair bit older than the regular Lin Kuei enrollment when they found him(probably late teen to young adult) and since Cyrax wasn't as indoctrinated they just shoved him with Sektor to keep him grounded since Sektor was more obedient of the two.

Cyrax and Tomas Vrbada have no confirmed or hinted biological ties to Lin Kuei and as Botswanian (African) and Czech (European) respectively, both came from culturally different backgrounds than the majority of the clan members (Chinese/Asian). We don’t have much details on how each man was recruited and at what age they joined. However with Tomas, we at least know his reasoning for joining the Lin Kuei, as his official BIO stated “it has been Smoke's hope that through the Lin Kuei he will discover his past--and the origin of his power”. About Cyrax we don’t even know the reason behind his choice to pledge his life to Lin Kuei but there was a clear boundary that he did not intend to cross:

“I chose to serve the Lin Kuei. But I will not surrender my free will! [MK9]

Like you, I too assume he joined at much older age than majority of adepts started their training (either like Sektor from birth destined to be Lin Kuei or like Bi-Han & Kuai Liang kidnapped as a young children), however I would argue with the new recruit vibe, as Cyrax presumably was already well-proven top fighter to take part in Mortal Kombat Tournament and he too was steeped in Lin Kuei beliefs - like the disdain for Shirai Ryu clan

“Your inferior clan is dead. Soon you will join them.” [MK9, Scorpion Chapter]

or once considering Lin Kuei as the honorable clan

“[...] He has contemplated leaving the clan, fearing that it is no longer an organization of honorable assassins.” [MK9's Cyrax BIO]

The last one is especially something that Cyrax shared with Kuai Liang, as the younger Sub-Zero for a long time did not realize how deep Lin Kuei’s evilness run even though he worked for the clan as an assassin himself all his life:

“When I finally killed Sektor, I discovered the Lin Kuei had not sacrificed it's honor with the Cyber Initiative. We had abandoned it long before.” [MKX’s story mode, Scorpion Chapter]

So, I’m not sure if Cyrax was that much more normal (mentally healthier) than the rest as he clearly was influenced by Lin Kuei teaching. Though I assume between Sektor and Bi-Han, it is no wonder Cyrax feels like the most normal Lin Kuei to be around because the story mode allowed him to express emotions and fight for his own humanity. In contrast, Sektor is withdrawn and obey-at-any-cost while Bi-Han has this lone wolf vibe due to barely interacting with anyone, even his own comrades. So in that case alone, Cyrax is the most sociable one, no question about that.

Frankly, compared to Sektor, no one of the named Lin Kuei is even on that level of indoctrination, however what is worth to point out, Kuai Liang in original and alternative timelines was brought to Lin Kuei at young age and was trained to be an assassin his whole life yet even with so long-lasted indoctrination he always rejected C.I. Project. Despite his loyalty to Lin Kuei, he would rather abbadon the clan than allow anyone to turn him into a machine, not to mention rejecting the “no friendship rule”, both in the case of Tomas and his own brother. He, Tomas and Cyrax share that trait, no matter the differences of their backgrounds or amount of time spent with Lin Kuei. 

Did Cyrax presumably joining Lin Kuei at an older age influence his stubborn commitment to individuality and humanity?  Definitely. But I think it is also the fact he was not alone in believing that C.I. Project was a wrong decision, as at least Smoke and Tundra supported that belief. Was Sektor paired with Cyrax to keep in check the man’s independence? Yeah, that sounds very likely, especially since original timeline mentioned this

“[...] In the guise of fighting alongside his Lin Kuei comrade, Sektor's orders are to watch and report on Cyrax. Sektor's reports will decide whether this is the last mission for Cyrax." [Mortal Kombat Gold’s Sektor BIO]

As human Cyrax was already questioning Grandmaster’s plans, I would not be surprised if Sektor was tasked with watching and reporting his comrade's behavior to the Grandmaster. 

#mortal kombat #cyrax #sektor #my replies #lin kuei #i don't think any of the named lin kuei were okay one way or another #but anyone between sektor and bi han probably will give the vibe of normal and sociable person :D #let's just agree that cyrax tomas and kuai liang are too stubborn for lin kuei indocrination (bi han too on his own way) #poor sektor being stuck with this bunch for like forever in lore

[loverboybrightsideghost]

yeah upon more thought. a little worried abt the wicked movie.

#mixed feelings on ariana grande. #i'm not blocking the movie's existence out of my mind anymore at least and im excited that it may have potential to be cool #if they don't fuck it up and the recent movie musicals are not reassuring me that it won't get fucked up #but partially i am hoping that bc its WICKED one of THE musicals of all time that they won't ruin it that much #but either way the movie does LOOK good visually i think #i'm hoping it's just that the teaser was short but glinda's character in particular is really worrying me #specifically as she's played by ariana grande. it looks a bit like she's Conventionally Attractive Sophisticated Woman (by 2024 standards) #rather than the bubbly obnoxious sociable and honestly immature (at least in the beginning) character she is in the musical #maybe i'm just worrying too much bc the trailer IS short and honestly seems to just show hype for #the Big Dramatic scenes mostly #eh. it's a commercial. of course they're gonna show the hype stuff. #just deeply deeply hoping they don't fuck this up bc i love wicked with my entire being and i would hate for it to be a shitty movie #bluebird.txt #also if they cut march of the witch hunters i will riot #actually ill riot if they cut any single song #you're making this musical into a two part movie. You Can Afford To Put Every Song In There. #don't be cowards please let this movie actually be good 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 #wicked

[heroisdraw]

hiiii.. um my inbox is open if anyone is curious abt my art or want to talk abt things i've drawn for or anything like that...

#personal #(dont feel forced to say or do anything ofc tho) #sorry i am just like. in bad and lonely spirits lately lol... #im envious of others who get to interact and chat w followers ;_; #even tho i havent made myself a very sociable person #im sad that i've failed to connect or make friends w ppl/artists in other communities #everytime i go in tags i feel like squidward looking out his window meme #i want to have fun and be included too ;_; #but i dont know how to befriend or leave a lasting impression on others around me... #cries

[bitchfitch]

Like, a lot of autistic people had the experience of their peers in school intentionally trying to exclude them from the group. and that's one of the things that's treated as a universal experience.

Growing up I had the exact opposite problem. I have extreme issues with being noise adverse, especially to things like the sound of breathing, chewing, and talking. like, being in the room with someone chewing gum is physically painful. And that made school hell. But I also have the disposition of an elderly, concussed, golden retriever. so all that sorta suffering was just internalized under a veneer of droopy amicability.

the one time I could escape Auditory Hell was during the lunch period when I could leave the group to find a quiet place to sit alone. Without fail. no matter the grade, no matter what else was happening, Someone would come over and invite their friends over to sit with me so I wasn't sitting alone. Didn't matter the town Didn't matter grade or school. I Could Not Escape. and I was too autistic to connect that the extreme discomfort I was in was because of the people around me, and that I could in fact ask to be left alone.

And like. I appreciate it. I get that they were trying to be friendly. but by god, in hindsight it's amazing I didn't bite more people as a teen

#my dream house is underground bunker no one else knows the key too #im not a sociable person #Like. I appreciate it when people talk to me and try to be friendly. But #I was bullied relentlessly. The people trying to be nice made the days So much more miserable than the bullies bc i was too autistic #to give a shit. #Like i knew they were trying to be mean. it just. didn't bother me. not nearly as much as 'nice person breathing slightly too loudly' #anyways they should ban gum on tv

[prolibytherium]

My best friend keeps floating the concept of us moving in together and I'm like. Desperately trying to find a nice way to say "That will end in murder-suicide, probably"

#Our autisms and like. Attachment styles clash so so so so so so so so fucking bad #Dude is VERY needy and sociable and I am the absolute polar opposite and tend to get mean when hovered around too much #2 bedrooms wouldn't even begin to be enough #Also he has a normal-ish sleep schedule and is very sensitive to noise whereas I am up til 6 am every night listening to albums or #on an endless rewatch loop of BRBA/BCS while I draw #Honestly it COULD work in theory with proper boundaries and I can't pretend I'm not tempted because it's like 'ohh we could afford to #maybe rent a small house type situation that would be nice'. This is the devil talking

[fictionadventurer]

I need to tell you about Lucretia and James Garfield.

They met each other in high school. James came from a very loud, emotional, touchy-feely family. Lucretia came from a family where you never show any emotions ever. They were interested in each other, but had a rocky courtship because James was this gregarious guy who got attention from several women and Lucretia was Shy Introvert Ice Queen Extraordinaire.

At one point, James, who is kind of needy when it comes to emotional matters, laments that Lucretia doesn't really love him. Lucretia responds by handing him her private journal, which contains several years' worth of entries where she's pouring out her heart about how much she loves him.

James is like "....oh."

That is a fanfic trope just waiting to happen. Classic Imagine Your OTP material.

(The rest of the story is less heartwarming than that fanfic setup would imply, because they get married even though he didn't love her, and spend the first several years of the marriage apart because of the Civil War and his work in Congress. He only falls in love with her after he has an affair with another woman and confesses, and he finally understands how awesome she is when he sees how strong she is in her heartbreak. Then they are both madly in love with each other for the rest of their marriage. Which is another type of fanfic material, I suppose.)

#history is awesome #presidential talk #i have adopted lucretia as a special favorite #james rubs me a little bit the wrong way even though he seems to be a decent guy apart from the affair #he's just a bit Too Much #but i already liked lucretia's personality in the love story #and when i learned she dreaded being first lady because of the social obligations #especially coming after two very sociable first ladies #i adopted her as a special favorite #i will always adopt the introverted ladies who get overshadowed by the extroverts

[laugtherhyena]

Oc doodle dump from an instagram story game i did

#i think this is the first time i draw hina not smiling #but that's cuz her and Cherry came from the “song you associate with the oc” prompt #and her's is Vidaloca by Tuyo which is. not a very happy song but fits her character immensely #Cherry's was Free bird so i wanted to give him a silly pose #others prompts were sweetest oc (Hitaru) artist oc (Jiro and Akemi. Hitaru fits that too tho) Most sociable oc (Samantha) #oc and a color you associate with them (Mariana + purple flr obvious reasons) and favorite oc (Mari and Dagger hehehe) #hyena scribles #oc #csm oc #Hina Akiyama #Cherry #pkmn oc #Elite four Samantha #Skullgirls oc #stuck together #Dagger #Alessia Ambrosia #Mariana #Sdra2 #Hitaru Nijiue #Jiro Nijiue #Akemi Nijiue

[kakujis]

most of my friends r overseas or in completely diff timezones as me, so sometimes i feel like im just sitting here waiting for hours until i see a certain someone log on and im like “hey there stranger!!!” but like… in full caps

#imagine im wagging my tail btw #certain someone is plural btw #okay ive spent too much time on here today i should log out for a bit !! #i am too sociable to have all my friends in diff timezones this is so sad #pibby speaks

[lohstandfound]

Dumb deities au concept

Someone comes up with the brilliant idea to put Jake and/or Brooke in charge of some social media content, especially around this new exhibition

The problem?

Brooke has almost zero idea how to even work a phone properly and Jake doesn't understand social media

It becomes clear very quickly after watching Brooke and Jake attempt to make videos that maybe the 'youngest' out of them are not actually the best option

#lohst.txt #bmc #be more chill #jake dillinger #brooke lohst #deities au #awkward tiktoks are how Michael finds them #This is 100% inspired by tiktoks of museum people talking about their collections and preservation and restoration #Jake has had more important things to worry about than mastering social media #I like to think this takes place in the few weeks following Brooke's 'mysterious arrival' as Jake's partner/assistant/whatever lie they tell #Jake finally seems to be more sociable and the two of them could bounce off each other #So in theory it seems like a good idea #In reality not so much #But I think eventually Brooke would figure it out pretty quickly #Messing with Jake's phone while he works #As Brooke gets more comfortable being free she begins chatting to Jake's coworkers #(her coworkers too. She's just somehow become part of the team but no one complains. No one really knows what she does but no one complains) #I'm losing my train of thought #And I feel like these ideas are going to start becoming not coherent #And it's late so I'm going to stop now