#YOU DONT OWE PEOPLE SHIT

[stiffyck]

friendly reminder to not pressure artists for more stuff :)

friendly reminder that asking someone when the next update for a fic or a next part of a comic or any series someone is making for *free* in their *free* time will just put pressure on the author :)

just leave a nice comment or a nice tag. tell them you like their work and leave it :)))

#holding back so much rn #you have no idea #anyway to all my writer friends: update at your own pace. dont stress it. its YOUR fic that youre writing IN YOUR FREE TIME FOR FREE!!!! #YOU DONT OWE PEOPLE SHIT #YOU DONT OWE THEM A SINGLE UPDATE #stiff talk #anyway. yep. take that as you will #stiff angy

[andoutofharm]

i have a special kind of annoyance for people who say fall out boy (or any band!) look “sad” or “bored” because they’re standing still while playing or have a serious expression like. just say you know nothing about them and also have zero respect for neurodivergent people and/or people who’ve had surgeries that restrict their movement and go

#sorry idk if it’s the neurodivergent part of me that’s like !!!!!! THEY DO NOT HAVE TO PERFORM EXPRESSIONS FOR YOU !!!!! #or the fact that like. i know about joe’s back surgeries and that he has explicitly stated why he doesnt do all he used to on stage #also deeply irrtates me when people pick on pete and say he’s ‘clearly so bored’ because he has a concentrated expression while playing #he does not owe putting on a big facial expression or anything to ANYONE just. please stop. #anyway i got a comment on youtube and its the same shit i see from this kind of person so often #and . i wish we would just leave people alone. both joe and pete have explicitly stated they’re having a great time #just fucking let them do their thing. they dont owe you a big fake performance to prove it.

[smytherines]

you tried girl

#spies are forever #tin can bros #owen carvour #curtwen #agent curt mega #fuck governments all my homies hate the government #dont trust chimera but i sure as shit dont trust the cia/mi6 #really all my headcanon about this show boils down to 'the cia is actually horrifying and does catastrophic harm to global stability' #and that if your government is hunting gay people down and you are gay you do not owe them a goddamn thing

[reel-fear]

MIKE BLOCKED ME ON TWITTER FOR ROASTING HIS DUMBASS RESPONSE TO THE GRAPHIC NOVEL STUFF!!

grown ass man scared of the 19-year-old queer being mean to him over his public meltdown more at 8.

#ramblez #little white boy sad? U sad bc nobody likes you? Bc u constantly make a fool of urself and show off ur distaste for ur fans? lmao #this is one of the greatest things to ever happen to me imagine how mad he'll be when he finds out the fangame Im making has queers in it #hes gonna have a whole other white boy meltdown on main KJSNFDGKJHFGKJHGKJHSDFGSD #hes so fucking sensitive maybe just get off of social media Mike this never ends well for you #batim #batdr #bendy and the ink machine #bendy and the dark revival #and look Im joking around about this but it really is sad that the bendy devs cant handle this kind of critique towards their decisions #it seems despite the backlash once again they are choosing to ignore their fans which is yknow upsetting #But hey ig if the devs being awful was a dealbreaker for this fandom I wouldve left a long time ago and I havent #dw Im not going anywhere <3 #also if anyone else here was also criticizing Mike maybe check his acct to make sure ur not blocked now since apparently #old habits die hard and this is certainly a pattern with him KJHDSFKGJHSDKFGJHDFGSD #also look before anyone asks yes I was kinda mean to him over this but to put bluntly if hes gonna be this dismissive to his fans concerns #he deserves it. Theres this persistent attitude esp in bendy fanspaces of being defensive of the devs #and I dont know why they have been extremely horrible people every single chance they get #and its very hurtful to see how many people would rather tell me to be kinder to the people who broke the heart of a child me when they #dismissed any ideas of putting queers like me in their stories than to realize Mike n Meatly bring this bad attention to themselves #to put bluntly I dont owe them kindness not until they at least apologize for the shit they did which they still havent #mike hasnt even addressed his vent poem in the code of BATDR let alone the other shit he said n did #so no I will not be kind to him ever hope this helps!

[disabledidols]

Everyone here if your reminder to unfollow mutuals that post things that cause you anxiety, homicidal rage, deep depression and/or intrusive thoughts. The Internet is YOUR place, you don't owe your mutuals anything.

#mod posts #I've seen people talking about blocking people which is good and amazing #BUT it also goes for mutuals #they dont own you and you dont owe them shit

[nicxxx5]

a coming out post should be filled with responses of love and congratulations

kit’s is full of apologies

i’m so fucking upset and angry 

#heartstopper #heartstopper tv #heartstopper series #heartstopper netflix #kit connor #kit connor deserves better #alice oseman #osemanverse #fuck you who forced him to come out #seriously fuck you #celebrities are fucking people #its their PRIVATE LIFE #celebrities dont owe you shit #nick nelson #charlie spring #narlie #nick and charlie #charlie and nick

[jelicoxoxo]

I find it odd how people are really critical about autistic people NOT getting diagnosed or choosing self diagnosis over professional, especially in a society/economy that does NOT like us.

If you don’t want a diagnosis, thats fine. if you do, thats also fine. stop letting (most commonly privileged) people who can only think of their personal situation tell you what’s best for you.

#jelicoxoxo #autism #audhd problems #self diagnosed autism #self diagnosis #self diagnosers #leave autistics the fuck alone! #leave poor people the fuck alone! #poor autistics dont owe you shit! #you aren’t entitled to my medical history damnit!

[the-stage-manager]

You're right, Astarion would be a terrible father *kills his wife and child*

#astarion #im so fucking done with this fucking fandom #i got completely chewed out by someone on discord #because i posted some stupid fic on the server about astarion accidentally getting his transmssc gusband pregnant #“hope your boy is excited to be a single mommy” fuck you #fuck you #you dont get to send me nasty DMs because im not adhering to your rucking ideas #i dont owe you people jack shit #im literally hurting NO ONE by writing fics about astarion being a good dad #IF YOU DONT LIKE IT DONT FUCKING READ IT DUMBASS

[possiblytracker]

coughs loudly. scheduling this post for slightly later today so i have time to get lunch and not chicken out before it goes up

firstly i gotta apologise for dropping off the face of the earth. in hindsight it was creeping up on me for a long time I just didn't think anything of it/had enough stuff going on to ignore it for a while, but ive been wrestling with pretty abysmal mental health that just kinda hit me like a truck back in august. i wont get too much into it but things just ground to a halt and in the span of a week or so it legitimately felt like i stopped being a Person- i just stagnated, felt like i lost the ability and will to do anything or enjoy things or create like i used to, all my energy went into keeping it together in front of my family, and it made me way too anxious and ashamed and guilty to want to show my face. like who would want to put up with my stupid bullshit, right (wrong! that idea just made me unbelievably worse and i regret it extremely, but my anxiety was going extremely unchecked at this time). i don't think i've ever been that depressed before and i didn't at all know how to handle it or begin to claw my way out

fortunately, a combination of getting exercise + touching grass regularly and new enrichment/hyperfixations to latch onto like an orphaned duckling are very recently kicking some life back into me so to speak. who wouldve thought. and now where i used to still feel stomach-turning dread and paranoia thinking about getting back on tumblr and discord a week or two ago, it finally feels like i can handle dipping my toes back in. i'm making this post first bc i know most of my friends will see it, and that feels less taxing than explaining myself a bunch of different times over and over and dragging it out, but ofc i will try and get back into conversation when and as i can (askbox and discord is still best to reach me if you wanted). i'm just really sorry, and I hope you can forgive me, for making you worry or otherwise

i'm not sure what to do from here (i'm considering maybe moving main blogs to a clean slate eventually? this one will still be here i couldnt bear to get rid of it, i've just had it since i was 16 there's Baggage attached) but i'll be trying to ease my way back into relative normalcy before doing anything big ofc. in the meantime i will be vaguely floating around here again. see you around and thank you for your time..

#cryingcat.png #god i hope tumblr doesnt send out a stupid notifcation to all followers that i posted i dont know what the time limit for that is but augha #here i am tho either way #vent/ #i have missed people the entire time it is very hard to describe how stupid and cowardly it feels knowing i Could come back at any time #but also being utterly paralysed and afraid to do so. like surely i could just suck it up and i Tried but i am so so mentally unwell #i need to work on how fucked up my freeze/flight response to stress is really bad it ruins my life but i am still too unemployd for therapy #so my broke ass just has to deal with unpacking my own shit for 2 months/j #anyway the point is even tho i am getting better somewhat irl ive still been struggling to pluck up the courage to come back online #but i can't keep it up forever and completely shut down just bc it makes my anxiety superficially feel 'safer' #so here i am. feeling slightly less full of dread. bc i at very least owe it to everyone to let you all know im not dead or something idk #and i also owe it to myself to not be miserable on purpose forever!! #now i just have to get everything unmuted and wait for this to post see you on the other side

[hiveswap]

Im going to fucking throw up

#i hate posting about how im insecure abt my drawings because that just makes people rb them out of pity thats annoying as shit dont do that #but then i try for hours to draw something and its honestly not important to me but by the end im pretty pround #so i post it knowing no ones gonna give a shit #and yeah pretty much thats what happens #and i feel like shit bc no one owes me attention ffs #and i know it isnt anything special and i should have drawn something actually interesting instead of another portrait #and i complain to my mother and shes like #'well this is something a child would have drawn it isnt good' #and im like oooh i should kms got it #like obviously im the one who craves validation without putting any effort into making it actually cool #so this is like no one's fault and im self aware of it and it drives me INSANE #and i need to vent this but it will make someone go pity rb all of my stuff and it's gonna feel like shit bc i hate begging for notes #like you know if someone wasnt going to reblog why beg them to. thats not them actually liking the art thats bullshit guilt tripping #i dont even need exposure i dont sell any drawings exposure is useless to me i dont even know what i want #i just want to make something that people like what the fuck

[literalite]

drum roll...

#im sick of people sending rude as shit asks and dms and comments to my friends. the server was made in early february. it was a #public server for literally like. seven fucking months fghjkl it is not my fault you guys didnt want to play fucking among us to begin with #get a grip fdghjkl we dont owe you shit and the fact that we're even sharing anything with any of u at all is nice enough as it is #amongussy #scylla 06942 #ts4

[kxllerblond]

Happy Tuesday everyone, I will now be unloading unsolicited opinions about the RPC.

People take 'This is a hobby!!' way too far to the point you are not taking into account other real people also exist and are only thinking about yourself and it can come across as scummy and self-absorbed and a lot of people use the 'just a hobby!' to excuse this shitty behavior and an inability to communicate with other hobby enjoyers like adults.

No one should get mad at people for dropping threads or not being active, but it's also super shitty to just ghost people and go 'teehee just a hobby so you aren't allowed to be upset!'. Like, yeah, you have limited time and a real life but so does?? everyone else on here?? It's super not cool to just invalidate people who are upset their limited time is, in their view, being wasted.

Obviously, I'm not defending people that don't just unfollow or block and move on and who get passive aggro about it all. And I'm also not calling out the people that don't do much but are like PRESENT to some degree even if it's just ooc shitposting.

I mainly mean the people I see who refuse to do threads, to answer asks, to communicate when stuff is being dropped to some degree, to participate and be social in any capacity and then get kinda pissy when no one wants to send them shit anymore. Like you are entitled to exist and participate in this hobby as you see fit....but it is a social hobby. You HAVE to give to get and if people pin you as someone who only takes, they're going to stop giving. None of us have little meow meows that are so interesting that we can just expect people to frolic to them and gush about them and shower them with interaction without some sort of reciprocation.

And, frankly, I don't think there's room to complain when that happens. You can't have your cake and eat it too in this scenario. You can 'this is just a hobby!' your way through things how you like, but you also have to realize the consequences of that and you can't be upset when they come down on you and your blog.

#like I KNOW there are ppl here i am chill with who do not interact with me as often as before because i am a notorious thread dropper #and not everyone can do that short thread. drop. new thread. drop. manner of rapid rping #and thats FINE. i accept that consequence. #and there are ppl im chill with who i dont send memes to much anymore because they never answer them or never return the favor #doesnt mean im mad about it doesnt mean i fault them for it. ppl have lives. but that the consequence and it involves me redirecting my tim #and energy to send memes to ppl who DO engage in return etc #there's just been this sudden surge in like....entitlement ive noticed. and it's just sort of co-opd what used to be a message #directed at ppl that were being demanded to reply to things the same day etc like it was a legit /good/ message #now you cant even like unfollow someone without them being like ITS JUST A HOBBY HOW DARE YOU UNFOLLOW hostility because someone is choosin #to take their business elsewhere so to speak so they can have fun with this hOBBY. its so...weird ykno #we dont owe anyone anything but a lot of ppl forget the second half of that which is #yeah but other people dont owe us anything in turn either #cw long post #cw negativity #well i mean only if you see urself in this post i guess OOP. otherwise man idk #dont get pissed at ppl for not hobbying to ur speed or standards #but also dont be surprised to learn ppl are different and have different paces and shit and WILL move on #if theyre not getting enjoyment out of the pace you're hobbying at #ur not entitled to their attention just like they're not entitled to urs ykno

[apricusapollo]

imma let god fix it. because if I fix it, I'm going to jail.

#this had 22.2k likes. #and people in the comments were literally NAMING THE FICS??? #y'all are soooo fucking weird #fanfiction writers don't owe u shit and if u don't like it — CLOSE THE FUCKING TAB!!! #“but criticism isn't forbidden!!!” it is when you're simply being an asshole to somehow who used their free time to create something #AND SOMETHING THEY DONT EVEN EARN MONEY FROM???? #you can criticise published books and arts in museums because those CAN be criticised #but ao3 fanfiction??? written by a complete stranger who you don't even know the appearance of?? #who gave you the fucking right #this simply is all about moral and being a decent fucking human being #but this was made by marauders fandom tiktoker so who is even fucking surprised. #fanfiction #fandom discourse #marauders fandom #**someone not somehow jfc #(arts in museums?? artWORKS in museums girl r u dumb)

[arcadequeerz]

I just do not give a single shit about lg-bt-q disc-ourse anymore.

#Cade.Txts #sorry i jsut do not care. #i dont give a fuck about what flag someone does or doesn't use #i dont care about what people call themselves. stop trying to decide shit for othrr people #shut up and fuck off n leave people alone. u dont havr to 'understand' to be respectful #Idc if people use the blue 'gay' flag who cares. use whatever flag u want. #shut the fuck up about mspec gay people we're doing nothing wrong n if i have someone try n start #some shit w me about how i personally identify i will maul them through the god damn internet. shut up. #eat shit. i dont owe a explanation to u about why i'm abro ply gay n if u demand me to explain #im going to tell you to fuck off. #who the fuck cares what people call themselves. u might not like being called queer or whatever n thats cool #but some people do and thats nit a fucking slight aganst u. #and i say 'you' as just in general i guess. this isn't pointed at a specific person. #i dread pride month every year because people r going to throw some shitfit about something snd i jsut #i dont care. can we care about shit that fucking matters instead. #if u legimately call urself a exclusionist in 2023 your a shitstain and do nothing for the community. #grow the fuck up or get the fuck off the internet. #sorry i saw shit n i got mad lol. i'm so tired of peoples bullshit. worry about shit tht matters n not #how someone else identifies or what someone calls themselves- or what flag someone uses. #i'm just going to be unabashedly full of rage now. #i'm queer n trans n im pissed the end.

[daydadahlias]

what are you getting us for ashton’s birthday

some respect for fanfic authors as people will be first on the list <3

#ashton would want me to sass u <3 #so i do this in honor of his birth <3 #no but fr this reeks of entitlement bestie and idk if ur trying to be funny or not but if u r the joke is not landing #and if this is the same person who sent asks to another author asking for stuff for ashton's birthday pls know it's just not ok #it is *rude* baby. #like this is just genuinely very not okay. and i dont know how many times fanfic authors are going to have to tell readers that. #u genuinely cannot just go demanding authors for or expecting things from them. i dont know *where* this sense of entitlement is coming fro #like also ? the tone of this is so ? #i have no obligation to give you anything baby. #i am sort of just shocked by this #bc i was like 'it's his birthday hehe' and i was really quite happy about it #and then i got this and my mood tanked instantly. i am not ?? here to *give* you things like i owe them to u. r we clear?? #and ik this just happened to another ash author too and like guys cmon?? i dont know how u cant see how this isnt acceptable #i mean readers have been entitled in the past but this last year is just... fucking insane. like i havent even been answering some asks #bc the shit i get is just like. sometimes so ridiculous it doesnt warrant a response. and ik im not the only one. im truly at a loss #fucking 40 kudos to 1 comment ratio on ao3. and yall think im gonna give u smthn bc u think u deserve it? u dont. #i dont know how u thought this was ok to send to an author who shares stuff entirely for free. like absolutely unfathomable to me. #and like i love my anons guys i really do. but a lot of people are coming in *expecting* things or demanding things from me. that's not ok #and u need to cut that shit out. now. #upsetting me on my fave holiday too :( how could u #this better have fucking been a joke that's all im fucking saying. #bc it's 1 am and im pissed. #pigeon #anon #sorry if im meeting this with an absurd amount of vitriol or whatever it is people say abt me but cmon guys #i dont know how u typed this out and thought 'yeah this is ok to send to someone <3 doesn't make me sound ungrateful and entitled at all' #fr guys u need to be respectful of authors please. treating us like people and not content machines <3 would be a really cute first step <3 #not here for ur entertainment. here for mine. and u get to read some of the stuff i write. bc i like sharing #but the second people start being a dick to me. im gonna stop sharing my shit #so be nice to me and other authors if u want anything at all

[butchniqabi]

its 2am but i think more people need to recognize that yes you can change and no longer hold the bigoted beliefs you held in the past, BUT that doesnt mean that people from the groups you degraded, dehumanized, or called slurs have to forgive you or want to be around you, yknow?

#por ejemplo: a girl in hs who was antiblack as hell and called me the en-word (hard -er) #messaged me a year or so ago and apologized and genuinely seemed like less of a piece of shit #and its like cool. good for you really. im glad the black people you meet now and in the future #arent at risk of being harmed by you! like genuinely thats good and congrats on the change #while my forgiveness is lukewarm its like #no i dont want to be your fucking friend after you called me a nigger??? #like you are not Owed my friendship. forgivness OR trust. if i wanna give that i will! #anyways i just grow weary of the 'why cant you just be nice to exnazis? :(' like lol