#but as i grow up in fandom spaces

[natjennie]

sorry I really don't know how to shut up but I think it's possible that a lot of the takes that are like. "ouagh but they should've stayed together forever what happened to them being family 😭" are kind of mm. immature? naive? like have you never had a family member move out? have you never had a sibling go off to college? have you never moved away from a best friend? your family doesn't stop being your family if you don't live together. you don't stop loving people if you're not right next to them. I thought this was the "I keep a part of everyone I've ever met with me" website. what happened to the "I learned how to ride a bike from my best friend's dad when I was 7 and we don't talk anymore but I think about her every time I ride one" like. so much of growing up and being an adult is losing people. in every conceivable way. you grow apart, you talk less, you don't visit as much, you move away. that doesn't make them any less important to you. it doesn't make them any less family. it doesn't make the love any less real. something being over doesn't cheapen the fact that it happened. a show ending doesn't make the rest of it not worth watching. "it's a sad song, it's a sad tale it's a tragedy, it's a sad song but we sing it anyway," right?

#idk i havent like checked peoples ages or w/e #but as i grow up in fandom spaces #the more i realize that sometimes people are just young #and i think maybe some of the like. hatred/disappointment of this episode comes from a young point of view #a very idealistic 'we'll be together forever' perspective #WHICH. i mean. was literally addressed diagetically #kitty. who has been called out for being naive and immature and idealistic the whole show. #says 'maybe they'll decide to stay' #and cap. someone who has been a reality check and a voice of reason throughout #says 'they wont kitty' #like. they addressed the fact that it was immature to believe they were always going to stay in the show #i mean... #whatever im just. do you guys really not get the fact that it was always going to be like this? #bbc ghosts #ghosts spoilers #hadestown #for the ref

[kr-yoongi]

Did some scribbles at work to tide me over <3

#hopefully this makes up a little for the lack of art !! #I want to get back into drawing for a fandom space again and I do really enjoy Merlin I just have to find the tiiiime it’s so frustrating #especially when I have so many other things to do ): #don’t ever grow up it’s H3LL #Merlin #merlin Fanart #Colin Morgan #Damon Albarn #traditional art #kr_yoongi

[the-incident-on-show-day]

okay okay but. hear me out. lister bird gets to be a little genderfluid. as a treat.

#personally i hc him as not caring #like he's fine with he/him pronouns bc they're not incorrect or anything #but a they?? a spicy she?? now that's exciting #and rowan's always talking abt how liking to wear skirts and shit doesn't make you any less of a man #and lister's like agreed but i would also like to be Less of a Man #idk the idea of the whole sexiest man alive thing and the whole fandom trying to stick him into this box of male heartthrob #he's just there to vibe dude #and wear eyeliner and grow his hair out bc he wants to look like an 80s rockstar #OMG AND HE STARTS POLE DANCING AS A WAY TO FUCKIGN #GET IN TOUCH WITH HIS FEMME SIDE AND RECLAIM HIS SEXUALITY #IN A SAFE SPACE #anyways #shutting up now #lister bird #iwbft #i was born for this

[ineffectualdemon]

Fandom elders talking about shipping discourse: Back in my day we imagined people fucking both ways! In the snow! And we liked it!

#disclaimer i am old but not a fandom old #i was more fandom adjacent growing up #or more precisely i was in straight cis man dominated fandom spaces mostly #which is a very different experience #and not a good one really #fandom #fandon thoughts #clearing my drafts

[cozymochi]

What do you have a interest in besides twst?

A LOT OF THINGS but im not really one to concretely “list fandoms” as some folk may choose to do on their blog description cuz it might give the impression that whatever is listed are the ONLY things i like 😩 i like lots of things

That SAID THE MAIN THINGS I TEND TO PUBLICLY CYCLE THROUGH ARE— this, YuGiOh, and Dragon Ball. Twst just infiltrated that bubble because i am a simple person who is not immune to pretty characters…

…and i SHOULDNT PRETEND THAT IM NOT

#cozy texts #i also am a Sonic loremaster as comes with the territory of growing up on than instead of mario and i know thats so #so so… so so sO cringe to say in an online space but hey i never interacted with that fandom #at least twsty is scratching is finally something i like that hasnt been over for years lol

[dykekakashi]

also based on a discussion w sb recently i feel the odd need to let y'all know whatever ship name i use for a ship doesn't indicate top/bottom preference ... i don't get that ... never will and i think it's weird sorry ......... i just use whatever is easiest for me to pronounce in my head

#nothing wrong w set dynamics to me. to be clear #not wveryone is a switch hate to break it to y'all and there's no #need to be weirdly diplomatic abt sex HOWEVER #why ship name should indicate top/bottom preference is beyond me. i didn't grow up in the cultural space of yaoi fandom sorry

[thisliminalspacedaydreams]

Hi it's me again with a tutorial on clicking out of a fic you do not enjoy. I hope it helps!

Hope y'all have a good day

#and stop fucking hurting my friends you douche canoes #I like their writing #I like them as people #I like them period #can you stop making my friends leave the fandom space #grow the fuck up #and click OUT #fanficwriter #fanfiction

[bluejayblueskies]

i've often yearned to be in a romantic relationship, from when i was pretty young to now even though i now recognize that i'm aromantic and it's not something i actually want when push comes to shove. and this probably isn't anything profound, but i've started to wonder recently if i'm actually yearning for a romantic relationship or if i'm yearning for a deeply meaningful, intimate, and loving relationship with somebody who i can trust and show all the parts of myself and know that they'll always be on my side and spend the rest of my life with, and society has just told me over and over and over again that i can't have that without the romance

#now i know what you're thinking: #'hey jay you talk a lot about queerplatonic relationships and how they're important #and you talk a lot also about how friendships are just as intimate and loving as romantic relationships' #and yeah i do! recently i've been involved in fandom spaces where we talk about these things (like malevolent) #with a lot of other aspec people who share their own experiences (esp. with malevolent with the aro!arthur headcanons) #but i've always been really bad at actually integrating that stuff into how i go about my own irl life #and tbh ... even if it crossed my mind before i never really thought it was a realistic thing to want yknow? #the thought of 'well who's going to give you what you want out of a relationship and be okay with it *not* being romantic' #has definitely crossed my mind many times #but idk! i've always just really wanted that One Person Who Will Be With You Always that i saw growing up irl and in media #and that i still see and love and want #and i still don't know if i personally will ever find somebody who i want that with who won't be looking for romance #but it's finally started to sink in i think that what i want and who i am are not two conflicting forces #i can want all the things that a romantic relationship has to offer (minus the romance of course) *and* i can be aromantic #and these are two things that can coexist #and that real people have! and that i'm seeing written into media! (malevolent my beloved) #it's just helped me wrap my head around all of this a little bit better #personal

[nijuukoo]

I've been here since your ARR days on deviantart. It's been so fun watching your art shift and improve. Thank you for bringing us along on this journey!

that's an incredibly long time, good lord LOL thank you for your support across what feels like time and space ♥

#I love how watching people grow up in fandom spaces comes in increments of fandoms or platforms. #it's not “i knew you since you were this tall!” it's “i knew you since you were completely obsessed with that one thing!” #ask

[merry-the-cookie]

GUYS!!!! GUYS!!!!!!!!!!! i commissioned the incredibly talented insanely cool and radical jay @tacogrande​ to draw my favorite dudes and im so happy loOK AT THEM........ ashtons lil smile 😭 michaels sleepy eyes 🥺 all of it so gorgeous

pls go give her a follow and check out all her socials and if you can commission her i cannot recommend it enough, i mean look at this dreamy lil portrait 🥺🥰💖💖💖

alt version under the cut cus yea i got tWO VERSIONSSS

jay has been an inspiration to me for so many years since i was a wee little teenager and ive learned soooo much from them and to commission her again after so long whilst still being a huge fan of their art felt like a full circle moment hehe will definitely do again <3 maybe complete the 5sos set dfhjGHFD

#my goal in life now is to get as many people as possible to draw mike and ash gfhjkHDFHJAGHJDFGHJDFGDHJF #me trying to keep myself from gushing too much about jays art in the post #very hard 🧍🧍🧍 #fr tho i commissioned them for the first time in like 2016 for my fav glee trio and then my fav tokyo ghoul characters in 2017 #this is long overdUE!!!! #its been incredible seeing her art grow through the years and im always in awe of her flowy lines and stylization of people #honestly my thought process for the commish was 'i wanna see ashton in jays style' gfhjkGHJFDGHJDF i just knew she would draw him good ehehe #and the coloring style!!! and the palettes!!! so pretty im so #always looking to their art for inspiration!!!! #ALSO jay was the first 'big artist' to give me time of day if that makes sense gfhjGHJFDGDFJ like i vividly remember them being such a cool #person in the glee fandom esp if u did fanart cus a lot of big fanartists would only share other popular artists #and jay was out there giving space and attention to us lil guys startin out #i know it sounds a lil stupid but it meant everything to my lil 17yo self! built up my confidence like crazy #forever grateful for that!!! #ok i have rambled enough gfhjkGHJGDHFJ SORRY i just rlly appreciate jay and if u got the means id defo encourage you to commission her <3333 #michael clifford #ashton irwin #5sos #mashton #5sos art #EDIT ALSO JAY BOUGHT THE FIRST KEYCHAIN I DID EVEN THO SHE DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT DEAR EVAN HANSEN a real one fr fr

[saturnsoda]

Ok do you guys think when shadow was created, he slowly grew up like from a tiny kid/baby creature to what he is now or do you think he never grew at all and has stayed the same ever since he was created (physically)

Personally I like to think he grew because I think the idea of a tiny baby version of shadow running around is so funny to me.

#I don't think he started out baby as in infinit #more like a toddler #i don't think he would grow up like a normal child #like once he hits sonics age he stays like that physically forever. #cuz hes immortal. idk #sonic the hedgehog #shadow the hedgehog #sonic adventure 2 #sonic fandom #sonic headcanons #sonic 2 #sonic adventure battle 2 #sonic movie 2 #sonic movie 3 #maria robotnik #gerald robotnik #space colony ark #shadow the ultimate lifeform #the ultimate life form

[squiglylines]

Some essays I feel I can absolutely write as an ADHD/autistic diagnosed in my mid-twenties:

how to make friends in real life (I actually did write a guide for a friend starting university and very anxious about it)

How to make friends online & general accepted online etiquette

Expanded "how to make friends irl" for different settings: school/university, work, out and about daily life, and even if you don't feel you have much opportunity to meet new people.

Some general and adaptable social scripts for: necessary but scary phone calls, family gatherings, wanting to start or stop a social interaction when you're not sure how, etc.

Something I feel like I can help with but don't feel comfortable claiming authority in - how to approach your parents about mental illness/neurodiversity in order to start a constructive dialogue (my knowledge applies only to parents who feel something may be wrong and want to help beyond changing behaviors they are frustrated or worried about)

Something I do feel more confident about is helping parents of the above category open up a constructive dialogue with kids with mental illness/neurodiversity. Again stressing I'm not a professional but I have personal experience and some experience with other people on both sides of this dialogue.

Some tips on how to ask for help when you feel like you have an untreated issue but don't know who or how to talk about it

And now for something completely different and another one I actually started writing - a guide to creating and maintaining an offline fic library. Doing this saved me some heartbreaks in the past over deleted fics and also I may be slightly paranoid about digital data security but that's a whole other rant.

a guide to commenting positively on fics and art. there are some fantastic guides and tips out there already but I have some thoughts of my own to add about ways to get started, finding ways to verbalize your thoughts, and tips for making sure your comment is indeed positive.

These last ideas I don't feel I have enough grasp of to actually write something that would be helpful for people who don't share my brain, but one day I might write: tips for drawing/painting when you have "can't-see-the-forest-for-the-trees" type brain wiring, and tips for dealing with perfectionism *especially* when you have a history of achieving perfect-ish results (is this what people refer to as gifted child syndrome?)

Anyway if you have any interest in any of these topics I have lectures rants locked and loaded that I would love to share.

#i hope this doesnt post before im done #have i ever actually posted on tumblr before? i dont think so #i mean i posted some art stuff but not a text post i dont think #if you came across this post and want to talk about any of the stuff the offer to chat is genuine! #i might actually write a thing one day about growing up with adhd and barely-detectable autism - i have Thoughts #also about relationships and how they form online and irl #the relationships we form with people who create stuff we are a fan of and 'consume' (hate that word) fascinate me #i dont feel like i have enough experience in fandom spaces except as an onlooker/lurker #but the things i saw and my experiences pre- and post- actively participating (and also how that change came about) #and the ways in which fandom as i grew up with since the late 00' and the kind of online culture surrounding non-fandom creators today... #yeah i have some Thoughts #maybe one day I'll write an actual thesis

[kurokoros]

stumbled upon some drama today and all I’ll say is that I hope all of the early 20 somethings that mock the 25+ crowd for having hobbies and being online end up miserable

#one day you're going to be bullied online by 19 year olds #and you know what? #that'll be a natural consequence of your own actions #I work with speced middle schoolers that are better behaved than some of you #also jesus if you don't like the self insert side of the fandom just don't interact with it? #i went like ten years in fandom spaces without ever coming across reader insert fics #grow up #alisha babbles

[lurkercrow]

Is it bad that when i saw the end of Tangos video i laughed cuz i thought it was a Ferris Bueler reference? I think i’m now considered old in mcyt fandoms because I’ve havn’t seen anyone else talk about it??? I didn’t realize it was angst until i saw all the sad posts and art made with it gosh

#team rancher #double life spoilers #double life smp #i’ve been here too long #god i rlly did grow up in mcyt fandom spaces and now i’m *old*

[touchlikethesun]

i don’t care how mainstream fandom gets, fandom has always been and will always be the domain of the freaks. and that’s something mainstream people in fandom need to understand. sure we’re all allowed to enjoy things differently, but you can’t come into the freaks’ house, and get mad at the freaks for being ourselves and demand we change, it’s literally our house. fandom has always been and will always be for freaks and you have no right to complain. if you don’t like it then literally leave. go back to doing what all the mainstream people did before.

#other people have said this better than me #but it’s 4am and i saw something that pissed me off #fandom is supposed to be my safe space and i can’t stand when people who didn’t grow up with fandoms #who didn’t grow up weird #come into my safe space my space to be myself #and demand everything change to fit their sensibilities #to be clear #i have no issue with people being new to fandom or ‘popular’ ppl being into fandom #i have an issue with the entitlement of some people to expect fandom Which Has Always Been Weird to stop being that #fandom is weird!!! we are freaks!!! in the absolute best way possible!!! #if you don’t vibe with that please keep your opinions to yourself or just leave #fandom culture

[vhvrs]

vaguely bouncing off friends talking abt ppl needing to remember the ages of characters when examining the way they approach the world n themselves to say i neeeeeeeed ppl to realize w me jayce n viktor are implied to be late teens early 20s (19-21) in their bios pre the machine takeover and its a precarious time when yeah you're an adult but youre also prone to really reckless behavior you dont quite understand the consequences of, especially if you are say two loner weirdos with emotional problems and no social practice. also that jayce n viktor are even by the end and actual canon barely mid 20s not the middle age fandom attributes to them.

#ig its a thing to consider when fandoms populated by mostly that age range but once ur out of it it becomes v clear how much of #a not adult u are n how u have an insane amount of growth ur now forced to deal w on ur own #sorry this is why im v fixated on their academy versions the growth n ideas n subtext there is so rich... #besides adding figuring out gender bullshit n if ur in love w the guy ur spending all the time w or not #not that u dont also grow so much later i think ppl stop considering how ur constantly evolving #n they r both constantly evolving in their current spaces but #i juat woke up lol #u can take this any way u want i just more ppl thinking abt this w me bc its worth examining #i think young adult mindsets get kindve ignored a lot in favor of like. kids or full adults