#disabled sole

[group-call]

yes you support disabled and mentally ill people with nasty, mean, ugly, or otherwise "bad" symptoms. but are you normal about physically chronically ill people who's physical condition directly impacts their behavior and psychiatric condition? are you normal about physically chronically ill people who literally cannot repress, hold back, or regulate aggression, mean statements, or anger/rage episodes? are you normal about physically chronically ill people who legitimately cannot regulate any strong emotion whatsoever? are you normal about physically chronically ill people who have "bad" behaviors that would be unreasonable, cruel and unfair to "punish" because it's the almost equivalent to punishing them for something like having pain? are you normal about people like us? we exist.

THIS IS ABOUT PHYSICAL, CHRONIC ILLNESS, NOT SOLELY MENTAL ILLNESS. IF WE SEE YOU DERAILING MY POST YOU WILL EXPLODE INTO A TRILLION PIECES.

#⚠️ steven yaps #⚠️ this is about PANS/PANDAS/BGE/AE and other AEs but if you arent in this and this applies to your condition you are allowed to relate #⚠️ otherwise do not derail. this is not about solely being mentally ill #cripplepunk #crip punk #cpunk #physically disabled #physical disability #chronic illness #bge #inflammatory basal ganglia encephalitis #basal ganlia encephalitis #brain damage #brain damaged #autoimmune encephalitis #AE #PANS/PANDAS #PANS #PANDAS #PANDAS disorder #PANDAS syndrome #PANS syndrome #autoimmune disease #autoimmune disorder #pediatric autoimmune neuropsychiatric disorders associated with streptococcal infections #pediatric acute-onset neuropsychiatric syndrome #⚠️ throwing this into the did tags for reach bc we also have did lmao #did system

[chronicbitchsyndrome]

i am majorly not a fan of how a bunch of disability tumblr is retiring "abled" in favor of "able-bodied," especially in contexts where it makes no logical sense. "able-bodied people have no idea how miserable it is to rely on SSI" for example. you are directly implying something about the lives of intellectually disabled people, people with downs, nonverbal people, etc, and i don't like it.

#that ones especially confusing in context bc its like. 10x harder for people with solely physical disabilities to get on SSI #than it is if you have a profound developmental disability i.e. downs or autism

[hazel2468]

Something that I need people to understand, especially on this hellsite. Is that oppression does not depend on who you actually are.

It depends on how the world sees you.

If the world sees you as X identity. They will treat you as X identity, whether you are or not. If the world sees that you are not X identity, but they can use the oppression of X identity as a cudgel to make you act the way they want you to? They will use it.

Oppression is NOT dependent on who you actually are. It depends on how the world sees you. It depends on how people see you and what they decide to put on you because of that.

Oh. And when someone experiences a form of oppression that is NOT based in the reality of who they are? It's still that kind of oppression. It's not "misdirected"- it is still that kind of oppression being leveraged to maintain the current social climate.

#this is specifically inspired by all those annoying people #who think that trans men cannot experience sexism or misogyny #but let me tell you as a queer disabled Jew that shit also hits me on SO MANY other levels #oppression depends on how the world sees you #and honestly I think so many people are resistant to that idea because it is a fucking SCARY one #if oppression is based solely in who you actually are #then it's easy to say that certain things don't happen to certain people and there are rules to oppression #and like #I understand that is comforting to some but.... that isn't true #the only rule to oppression is that it will be used to keep everyone in line #and it will be swung at anyone and everyone in order to do that #and who you ACTUALLY are does not stop oppression from happening #sometimes it actually even makes it fucking worse

[uncanny-tranny]

To people of loved ones with poor memory:

It might be frustrating when they forget something (especially if it's important), but I can guarantee you that they are already beating themself up over having forgotten yet another thing. You don't need to rub that shame, embarrassment, and humiliation in deeper than it already is.

It is scary to forget things. It's humiliating to be told that the only reason we forget things is because we think nothing is important, that we're selfish and callous. Our brains are being pulled in every direction at the same time. It's impossible to keep track of this shit every picosecond of the day.

People like to conceptualize memory issues as a matter of lesser intelligence, that we're too stupid to even remember [minor detail]. I've noticed, though, that all of our brain power is kept toward other things - keeping ourselves alive, remembering a different thing, trying to regulate emotions or other disorders. Nobody seems to care that our workload is at least twice that of the "average" person's, I guess because they often don't directly notice it, or it doesn't directly affect them?

It's fine to be upset about the situation. You can't help that reaction, but you do not have to be cruel to people with memory issues, no matter the cause of it. Whatever they forgot might have been important to you, but there may be other things in that person's life that required their brainpower.

#disability #memory issues #memory loss #i've noticed that with a lot of conditions and issues that people are sympathetic up until it's a long-standing or chronic problem... #...people are sympathetic if you occasionally forget your lunch at home or you forget your great-great-great aunt's maiden name... #...but when it's chronic... when you forget your name or you forget where you're going or you forget something important daily... #...it becomes a you-caused issue. when it is the occasionally ill-remembered item that's a brain fart... #...it's something you can laugh off and forget... #...but if it's chronic it ceases to be a problem that's caused by other forces but is SOLELY caused by you... #...YOU are the one who CHOSE to forget these important things... #...that's what compounds the shame and grief and self-hatred and fundamental mistrust in ourselves and the world around us

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

Source: The New Our Right To Love ; A Lesbian Resource Book - edited by Ginny Vida

#I bought this book solely for this photo because it makes me so happy #lesbian history #lesbian intimacy #lesbian positivity #disability positivity #lesbian love #gnc lesbian #lesbian fashion #image #photo #lgbt #lesbian #personal

[fromtheseventhhell]

I don't think anyone who believes Arya is focused on revenge has ever actually read her chapters, it's just been one long game of telephone where people repeat a take they heard so they can pretend they know what they're talking about

#arya stark #asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #and usually the evidence is that she's with the faceless men?? when it's been made clear she's with them because she has nowhere else to go #this isn't even subtext it's literally just what written plainly on the page but people still have trouble understanding it #Arya's focus has always been to return home and to her family and that hasn't changed + won't change in the future #if she truly wanted to hunt down the people on her list then why hasn't she ever thought about doing so?? #or thought that she wants/needs to stay with the faceless men so she can learn their skills to take revenge? #people act like we don't have direct access to the character's thoughts and try and fill in the blanks based on assumptions and vibes #I challenge anyone who thinks this to give me any actually evidence to prove that Arya is solely focused on revenge #need idiots who lowered the curve of their english classes to stop speaking on complex characters they can't seem to comprehend #like Arya isn't the one poisoning a disabled child cause she was told she'd benefit from it worry about that instead of speaking on her

[aimlesswalker]

I just want to be some guy

As a trans man, I don’t really feel like I belong anywhere in the lgbt+ community because I’ll never be attractive to anyone (which is why I ID as queer but even then I feel outcast) and it…. it really hurts sometimes. I’m simultaneously too masculine and not masculine enough.

in the men who are attracted to men spaces, most people when they see me think I’m a twink because of being short/small and/or for being trans/nonbinary. They think I’m hairless, feminine, boyish, submissive, etc. I’m…. at this point in my life I am really really not. Testosterone has made me male and everything that entails. I’ve gained (healthy! good for me!) weight and my stomach sticks out, I’m covered in body hair, I am partway to balding. All the things that are conventionally unattractive about men. All the things that are demonized in trans men. I’m too masculine to fit their idea of a nonbinary person. But masculine in “the wrong way”. I have to either be muscular/fit or small and hairless to be wanted here. I don’t even count as a bear, you’d probably just call my shape a “dad bod”. This isn’t just some vague feeling I get in these spaces- people have legit said to me “oh I love twinks” or “oh I love femboys” and I have to awkwardly explain that no I’m not one actually. I’m not what they want me to be. And I’m really tired of people placing that expectation on me- that I’m a slender hairless twink who is submissive and likes bottoming. Just because I’m small and/or trans. so gross. 

and then in the women who are attracted to men spaces well… they’d never look twice at me. I’m short and not at all muscular/toned/fit. Again, I have gained weight, am hairy, and halfway to bald. Bedsides not being conventionally attractive- they usually want a man who can “provide”. I am disabled and can’t work. I can’t drive. I can’t give them flowers or pick them up for a date. I can’t be any of the things they’re looking for in a partner. Being disabled makes me seen as “less than”. Being dependent on other people is a trait that is endlessly mocked in men. I’m not masculine enough. 

so where the fuck does that leave me? I’m not even going to talk about how being aromantic in queer spaces alienates me further. I love testosterone, I love what it’s done for me and how I feel healthier on it. But like. fuck. I don’t feel like I’m ever going to be attractive to anyone. I never get to feel pretty or handsome. I never get to feel happy about my appearance anymore and that makes me so sad. I used to derive so much joy from picking out outfits and accessorizing and applying glittery make up. I’m too sick to leave the house ever so I don’t do those things anymore, besides the fact that I *can’t* present feminine anymore without risking my safety. People would assume I’m a trans woman and act accordingly because they see a man attempting to be feminine. I am fully man and fully nonbinary, but I never get to exist as both at the same time. I can’t be feminine without people invalidating/forgetting my manhood. I can’t be masculine without people invalidating/forgetting my nonbinary-ness. I’m too masculine for nonbinary spaces and too nonbinary for masculine spaces. I just…….. I get incredibly sad about this.

And people generally don’t care??? the sentiment seems to be that trans men who are masculine, who pass, who are stealth, etc don’t belong in the lgbt+ community, shouldn’t be in lgbt+ or queer spaces. They’re not wanted there because of being masculine. These spaces are only for “non-men”. But the second you talk about your struggles as a trans man as a reason for why you should be included, you get pegged as an owo twink femboy to most people. It’s always one or the other (demonized or infantilized) and I’m really fucking sick of it. It hurts. I just want to be some guy.

#transmisandry #transandrophobia #trans masc #nonbinary #trans male #transgender #disability #fey talks #idk how to tag this at all #i hope this will resonate with some people #i've completely given up dating at this point although i dont want to #i just dont have the energy to sift through 99% of the people who want nothing to do with someone like me #I dont feel like I have any community at this point in time even in online spaces #i dont feel like I fit in anywhere and it is incredibly isolating #i wish i could see myself as handsome or attractive in any capacity #can we please stop shaming men for being bald and hairy #can we please stop infantilizing disabled men #can we please stop calling all trans men twinks or femboys solely bc they are trans #sometimes i want to stop T just to be accepted again #but i cant i need the T for my health issues #does being both man and nonbinary at the same time make me multigender?

[hotwaterandmilk]

I'm still not well so this isn't going to be articulate, but I wanted to say something anyway.

In the wake of Grease: Rise of the Pink Ladies (amongst other titles) being purged from streaming I've seen countless posts saying "This is terrible, we need to stop this practice -- they might purge a good show next!" and yeah, for sure a lot of titles being impacted by streaming purges/lack of physical media/a decline in archiving right now aren't going to be remembered for changing the world.

However, I think it is vital that we fight to preserve these titles for their own sake not just because "What if next time it's something we actually like?!" There is value is preserving things widely regarded as "bad" not just because I have firm beliefs about the absurdity of taste, but because who gives a shit if something is deemed "good?" Actual human people put their time and energy into realising these artistic visions. Even if the results are arguably not "good" or "popular", should the efforts of these artists be lost to the sands of time? No, no they fucking shouldn't.

I share a lot of art on this blog from titles very few people consider culturally important or valuabe. However, I don't look at the things I collect & share like that. Even some of the most objectively absurd titles I own are still pieces of art that were developed, published, and consumed by humans in the real world. Whether they've turned out to be broadly memorable or not is irrelevant because they existed and that in itself makes them worthy of preservation so that others can choose to familiarise themselves with them long after the original creative team is gone.

So yes, we should all be trying to preserve the media that's important to us and not let corporations try to stamp out every trace of a financial (though not necessarily artistic) misstep. However, it shouldn't take the threat of something we, personally, like being taken away to stir us into giving a shit.

Even the demise of less admired works should concern us and make us start to burn copies of Grease: Rise of the Pink Ladies because it might not mean anything to you or I right now, but to some kid in 20 years it could be a seminal experience that leads them to follow their dreams. Or it could become a cult classic that people reflect on at watch parties years in the future. Or it could continue to be a footnote in the history of television that nobody really cares about.

Ultimately I don't think it matters what level of value we arbitrarily assign to media now or in the future, we should be trying to preserve as much of it as possible so that generations from now people can enjoy the option of engaging with these titles should they so wish.

#personal #idk i just feel strongly that even trash should be allowed to exist #and all of us be able to access it if we so choose #some of the most meaningful film experiences of my life have involved B movies and other “low” culture properties #i'm not well enough to even start rambling about high and low culture and the rich #but as an audience we should be able to select what we want to consume #and we should be able to access it regardless of local laws or cultural norms #that's why the efforts of archivists and media preservationists from the lost media wiki to the louvre are so important #“but this spongebob ad had no impact on society who cares if it is accessible or not?” #you can't determine the value of something based solely on your own experience with it #so yeah spongebob ads and episodes of wheel of fortune should continue to exist #and so should the trashiest shoujo manga in the world #god and i haven't even touched on how disproportionately things like this affect work by artists of colour #queer artists and disabled artists #it's super fucking shit and i refuse to let streaming take away these media choices #ok back to my covid sick bed

[anfisawheel]

#disabled #paraplegic #paraplegic girl #wheelchair #paraplegicfeet #brockentoe #cast #pretty para #castedleg #women #bare toes #bare foot #footgoddess #pedicured toes #toe rings #lick my toes #beautiful soles #foot domination

[icannotgetoverbirds]

y'all.

cannot recommend these enough for my cripplepunk besties! they're an incredibly effective deterrent and are very sharp. I will warn it takes some strength to get them on and off, and it's pretty easy to get got by the spikes in the process of doing so, but aside from that i think these are perfect for keeping ableists' hands off your wheelchair!

#byrd chirps #cripple punk #crip punk #cpunk #cripplepunk #physical disability #c punk #physically disabled #cripple posting #my only complaint is the lack of customization options #the only options available are solely functionality-based #i want them in pretty colors! #but other than that 10/10 would absolutely buy again would recommend

[morzowo]

so one character got to learn how to live again, how to reenter society after traumatizing event that will forever impact his life, got to heal and rebuild his relationship with his family even estranged father, reconnected with his old friends and was able to create reliable support system of people that also grew throughout this healing process and now can understand him more and be there for him, got to graduate and start his own business and now can even give inspirational speeches to help others

and the other one had to leave two closest people to him that were his only support after his family death bc 'friends' he had before weren't type of people worth reconnecting with, move out of his country abandoning everything he knew his whole life just to * checks notes * start a job he didn't really want and the main reason he needed higher pay was to establish financial stability for one of two people who he had to leave and that no longer wanted to be with him

okay yea okay sure both cases are about personal 'growth'

#last twilight #to clarify it's more about time skip and the talk at the end of part 2 bc yea ofc mhok also changed throughout whole series in general #the fact that 'growth' for mhok was equal to getting a job just doesn't sit well with me #his sister killed herself bc of their financial problems and then they put sole responsibility on him for providing for himself and day #and it felt like it was about more than just day's disability #like ironically his mechanic friend offered more support and understanding than most of the other characters #what kind of 'growth' is uprooting yourself and leaving everyone behind when you are still in vulnerable state and need someone to rely on #it would make sense in other story with other character but here it just hurts #i do have some other problems with the series as a whole but nothing that wasn't said already #everyone is angry at part 4 but end of part 2 was the breaking point for me #moving out for work is extremely lonely and alienating experience especially when it's not even to a country you particularly care about #what is the lesson here with mhok's plot line? #to completely isolate yourself to heal from your trauma somehow without anyone close to you? #and oh yea job being the most important thing for 'personal growth' actually? #in hotel in hawaii nonetheless... #i'm getting so tired of these series not being able to stick the landing fr

[brionnne]

note that i will only ever call mithrun "stupid" jokingly. by "stupid", i only mean "frustrating behavior that i am immensely familar with". seeing him do something that makes me groan aloud, closing my eyes, sighing "stupid (affectionate, mournful)". like when he fucking... his dumbass "i don't want to [use the bathroom] right now, so it's fine." oughh. i know you! i know you! that's not how that works!!! and he's smart!!! he's so smart... but god, god... he's kind of an absent professor. he's kind of a cloudcuckoolander. i love him dearly. he gets called a dummy, a little idiot, and i flick his forehead, a little bonk of hard-heads, like "try again, idiot. that's not how bodies work." and "ooh, 'that's not going to work'. yes it is. shut up, stoopid. stubborn little man, my god." rolling my eyes forever.

#mithrun #i'm not devaluing his intelligence #i feel like both can be true - that someone can be really smart but also take really stupid actions conversely #i fucking KNOW i do all the time #and i don't think there's anything particularly wrong with the word #it's not that his intelligence is compromised in any sense or that i think he's incapable #and it is solely #the fact that he is a stubborn little guy who doesn't listen and just goes 'that won't work' / 'i don't want to' / etc. #like... BUDDY... #buddy BOY #dummy #you are NOT a good judge of this ok? #zip ya lip little man #i know what you are #and i ain't fuckin listening to ya! #god. 'that won't work'. blah blah blah. okay sleepy. see you next panel. #fuckin knew that was going to happen #'i'm not tired' (his body stops working and he doesn't know why) #oh. OH. you're NOT? buddy i KNOW what happened ok? you need some fuckin rest #like - i'm gonna kick your legs out from under you + you're going to fall gently into bed + i tuck you in and smooch you #but i also fucking complain because OF COURSE YOU'RE TIRED ! you bastard ! go sleepy bye #it's his poor decisions and i know why he does them - because he doesn't know - but by god #it's also a little like please... listen to yourself... #on the one hand he doesn't know and never will #on the other hand ... you have been awake for hours and hours without sleep... please get some rest... #but yeah as someone who forgets needs and has little sense of that it is like... objectively a stupid experience #and i don't say that with judgement in my heart but it feels REALLY stupid when your body does something and you don't know why #it's not the disability though that makes me say as much - it is fully the fact that he is SO STUBBORN! SO STUBBORN!!!! #you say you're not tired and fall down? hm? then maybe you are? i know you don't know but whatever. let's get you to bed boy. ok? #caring for him + shaking my head like i get it so much but you gotta sleep! 'this won't work'. ok liar... i already know it will.

[t4tozier]

please feel free to elaborate in the tags! i know gender for many people is not as simple as one of these labels or the other, but please choose the one that fits you the best (however you define that)

feel free to take this sister poll as well!

T*RFs and abl*ists do NOT interact 🔪🔪🔪

#testing a hypothesis bc i started feeling and presenting much more masc than i’ve felt in months #after i was diagnosed but only after i was diagnosed and i’ve had symptoms for a year #and just curious to see if this resonates with anyone else #i identify broadly as queer but tend to flip flop between presentations and genders #also censoring bc idk if it’s still a thing but ik ppl in those sectors used to look up the phrase with the sole purpose of being a troll #tumblr polls #disability #lgbtq #queer polls #actually autistic #spoonie #chronic illness #chronic illness posting

[frog-sorta-speaks]

Accommodations shouldn’t only be respected when you’re on good terms with the person. I mostly text to communicate, and my parents are fine with it. Until I’m in trouble, which happens to be one of the times I find talking hardest.

Just because you are mad at someone doesn’t take away their deserving of respect- it tells them, and others you care about in their same position- that your support is conditional. That the second they do something that upsets you that support and respect is gone.

If you dislike someone, no matter the reason, that Never gives you the right to be ableist (or any other kind of bigoted) towards them.

#shoutout for this post idea goes to my parents for forcing me to use oral speech while chewing me out of missing hw #gotta love that executive dysfunction #/sarc #disability #actually autistic #semiverbal #semispeaking #aac #<- technically- I mentioned solely texting to communicate #frog croaks

[uncanny-tranny]

It's okay to be angry at your body, especially when it's disabled or in pain or anything. In fact, it's imperative that you allow yourself to feel these "negative" feelings so that you may get it out of your system, at least temporarily.

#disability #hate that the way my body naturally developed is causing pain i hate it #like my body compensates (usually) for the differences it has but it only compensates to a certain extent #i'm grateful that it has yes but also... it's still painful and it makes me fearful that it only gets much worse after this #this was inspired by disability but it doesn't solely apply. i don't think this is a unique experience to one type of person ig #not feeling in a place of good will rn and grrrrr

[bottomoftheriverbed]

But what will happen of you get a wheelchair? Won't you make yourself lazy?

I will go on long walks after not being able to for nearly 10 years despite desperately wanting to.

I can go out and properly enjoy nature and the sunshine without being in a lot of pain or having to worry about massive amounts of payback. I'm planning to go on a 10+ mile walk tomorrow there is no universe in which that is possible without my wheelchair (even if i was healthy it'd be a bit of a struggle lbr)

Maybe without wasting a tonne of energy walking everywhere i can even rest up and have more energy to potentially go for the odd walk that isn't wheelchair accessible.

#i hate the way doctors look at mobility aids solely looking at them 'making you weaker' rather than that maybe i can have the ability to go #and enjoy life #disabled #cfs/me