in addition to that, remember how i found out my ex has a kid through his whatsapp icon??
(the kicker is, i only looked at it because my fucking grandma told me on the phone: oh you know how i kept his number, because I always thought...* well looking at his new picture I might just delete it now...)
well at christmas i wanted to send myself some pictures i took with my mum's phone (with permission of course) and what do i see? she TEXTED HIM MERRY CHRISTMAS. we broke up over three years ago! ma'am this man didn't even send you a fucking condolence card when dad died! he does NOT get a merry christmas!!
so I told her that. she was a little snappy about it, which annoyed me because sorry, this is -my- old heart break, I'm not texting your exes either?? (or my ex's parents for that matter) but then! she said: but I DO wonder what kid he's holding there...
and I was like mum, what the heck, that's obviously HIS kid, what other child would that be
and she was SO CONFUSED. MOTHER! WHAT
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me: i love resident evil!
also me every time i think about the characters:
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something that i am really tired of in lgbt / trans spaces is just. the implication that people can't have complex relationships with masculinity and maleness. the idea that masculinity and manhood are rigidly fixed, that there's only one possible way to express masculinity and manhood, and that only femininity is complex, only womanhood is flexible and malleable. it really does feel like a lot of online lgbt spaces have this idea that the only "real" kind of masculinity or expression of manhood is the traditional patriarchal idea of white abled cishet masculinity, and that any other expressions of masculinity and manhood are not actually real masculinity / manhood and that not being traditionally masculine is exactly the same thing as being feminine.
it's just exhausting, because it shows that so many online lgbt spaces have swallowed this ra/dfe/m-lite idea, and it makes existing as a genderqueer trans guy completely tiring and unfun. like i have a complex relationship with my own masculinity, specifically because it is non-traditional. i feel like my masculinity is flexible, with certain aspects being very butch and certain other aspects being more open to alternate expression. but the thing about it is--i don't consider myself feminine. i don't have any kind of ties to womanhood. i might dress in a vaguely effeminate fashion if given the chance, but i'm not about to put on a dress and wear lipstick, you know? and i want to see more trans (and hell, even cis) characters who have deep and sometimes contradictory relationships with manhood and masculinity, where they aren't treated as these utterly rigid and inflexible categories that allow for absolutely no introspection or boundary-pushing. sometimes i want to see Transgressive Masculinity. the idea that only femininity can be Revolutionary and Transgressive is such r/ad/f/em shit and i am sick of it. Give Me Complex Masculinity.
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watching nearly every male character in house of the dragon operate with maybe one braincell between them, tywin lannister i miss you so much
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