#even grown ups deserve it

[littlelykan]

I wish I was treated like I was physically little.

I wish I was greeted with a smile and a kind word by adults who didn't know me. I wish my shyness was seen as cute and not 'weird'. I wish my mistakes were corrected gently and forgiven. I wish I was carried to bed as I grew tired and tucked in with a kiss. I wish that when I grew frustrated and cried it was met with "aww, it's OK" and not sneers and laughter and "why are you acting like a baby? Grow up." I wish that when I got overwhelmed it was understood that I needed some quiet rest and I wasn't pushed to keep going.

I know lots of adults didn't give these graces even when I was physically little, but even the little bit that I got made it just that much easier. I'm still so small in such a big world, and it's just gotten rougher as I got bigger.

#sorry for lowkey venting lol #I just wish there was that gentleness afforded to kids yk? #even grown ups deserve it #sfw agere #sfw age regression

[pandoratheprocrasticreator]

The picture of edas friends as children, reminding us that all these adults, allies and villains alike, were once children. They were abused and indoctrinated by the same system that some of them are using to abuse and indoctrinate kids now. A few of them like alador and darius were able to see whats wrong and fight for a better world. But people like odalia sided with the emperor until it was too late because thats the only thing theyve ever known. And then it cuts to adult lilith and raine and shows how a lifetime of living under this system has sapped the joy out of them. How as kids they never would have thought to make their last stand against they system thats been there their whole lives. Its the lifetime of trauma and the perpetuation of the cycle of abuse for me

#the owl house #toh #shut up pandora #kings tide #thats why i dislike everyone saying that x character got redeemed or dont deserve redemption or smth #bc in toh redemption isnt the point its what belos has been doing with his christian guilt #the point is that everyone has fallen to the wiles of a cult leader #and many of these ppl would have grown up to be normal if not a little bitchy and dramatic #but because of belos they were manipulated into heinous things that they can never take back #and even though the world and their religious leader was the one to tell them to do these things #they still made their own choice to listen #because hard as it was to say no to these atrocities the choice was there as shown by the rebel squad #and if more people went against the emperor #especially the coven heads #he wouldnt have succeeded in the day of unity #but because belos was so persuasive and the coven heads and odalia were so obsessed with special treatment #they couldnt see the red flags and they almost caused a genocide

[wyvernne]

i keep thinking about how much blame i see being put on diluc about attacking kaeya and it drives me absolutely nuts that he’s painted unequivocally as the bad guy. i absolutely don’t think that is the purpose of that story at all. it’s about two kids, agonized by guilt and grief and horribly misplacing those emotions. kaeya went to diluc knowing it wouldn’t end well. diluc had just killed his own father. i feel like it’s wild to expect any sort of normal reaction beyond blinding anger. the point is, this is not meant to be a “who is in the wrong” backstory. it’s about two young men who, faced with a series of terrible circumstances, lost their last remaining familial connection. and in the current story, we’re seeing the clumsy, stilted journey the two make towards reconciliation.

#also if anyone has grown up with brothers #my older ones are best friends and have absolutely gotten into terrible physical altercations as teens #18 & 17 y/os do not have developed brains please 😭 #they do stupid and impulsive things all the time #mischaracterization of these two runs absolutely rampant #even though i half jokingly beef with crepus it’s obvious both of them had strong affection for their father #suddenly losing your only parent is unimaginable #they!!! were!!!!!! just!!!!!!!!! kids!!!!!!!!!!! #especially on kaeya’s side #this is absolutely a ‘i didn’t deserve my adoptive family to begin with’ guilt

[sysig]

Light and darkness, but mostly darkness (Patreon)

#Doodles #UT #Handplates #Gaster #Sans #Papyrus #Ft. Mercyplates! :D Yaaay #Unaligned made its way onto my Handplates playlist So quickly - it's such a Gaster song to me! #His connection to Toriel's riddle and his regrets and wanting to constantly go back on his decisions - positive and negative! #And depending on how you want to read it his relationship with Toriel as adoptive family as well - and definitely ''Will I create a martyr'' #That's you Gaster! It's you! #And that's not even mentioning how the bros fit in heck and gosh #Would definitely recommend - Unaligned by Natewantstobattle (for the 50th time recommending a NWTB song lol - they're good!) #Mercyplates! :D Yay!! #Sans and Gaster wearing father/son matching turtlenecks lol everyone is happy abou t this haha #It would be an interesting divergence from Papyrus defaulting to dark shirts to feel grown up :0 #Gaster was here first! It's a very teen thing to do haha #''My uncool dad and copying my really cool style'' while Gaster provided him with all his clothes from his own closet lol #Silly one of Gaster reacting to being punched in the face a la Mercyplates haha - you deserve more than that! #/There's/ the misery shower :) Have a nice guilty shower why don't you really ruminate on everything #Privately rattling his bones away from where anyone can hear over the white noise of the water falling #And finally a smoking smoke-goop post-void Gaster :) #I actually wasn't sure if I wanted that one to be voidy Mercyplates Gaster or not but I eventually decided on just regular classic void #Darkness everywhere! Inside and out! Soul dipped in it - outside reflects it

[jonsrightrib]

hey gang. remember that time Percy asked a god if he was broken and she said he was? can we go back to that?

#imagine. you are a child who lost his whole life in one blood-filled night. #you’ve grown into something that turned that into spikes pointed in and out. you’ve been a bad person and you’ve tried to repent. #you fuck up over and over but you are *trying* #and you turn to a goddess of fate to ask why you had to suffer the things you did and whether you would’ve been this bad anyway. #whether you deserved that night and every torment after. #and she looks at you; you’re choking in a pool of blood for this; she tells you yes. #you were always that broken. you are fucked. even god thinks so. #what are you supposed to do with that? #critical role #percy de rolo #cr #(sorry. I just am always thinking about that scene)

[radioactivecatboy]

something something the parentification of nicholas d. wolfwood. something something growing up too fast literally and metaphorically. something something never getting to be a kid even when he still had a body matching his age. something something wolfwood forcibly growing into the role of caretaker emotionally and physiologically. something something the dichotomy that is also a reflection. it’s 5am u get the picture. i am going to lose my mind tho, if anyone needs anything

#wolfwood #jellyfish txt #trigun #this man makes me so fucking sad. thinking abt the bonus trimax chapter where he meets a girl he cared for as a baby when she's grown up #fucked up. she doesn't even know him #no one knows him #he doesn't allow himself to be known for fear of rejection but can't stop reaching out anyway #he's a killer he hates himself he loves children he's so kind he thinks he doesn't deserve kindness he's violent he's gentle he's scared he #lays face down on the floor. someone put me in the fucking microwave #it's the only thing that'll save me now

[jeysuso]

They talking. People are saying there's cracks in the Bloodline. Now listen, I know there's issues going on, everything’s been crazy. We got a Sami Zayn problem, we got a Kevin Owens problem, me and you need to defend these tag team championships, and on top of that, I know you got issues with the Tribal Chief, and I can't do this alone.

#jimmy uso #jey uso #wweedit #the usos #friday night smackdown #wwe smackdown #now listen. when i tell you i'm crying about two grown ass men #who i know aren't even feuding cause they travelled to the show together.... #don't judge me #i need jimmy to get away from roman #i need him to be with jey #i need them to not be separated #but i also need jey not to give up his own goddamn soul to be there for his brother #because jey deserves so much better #they're not just issues he has w/ the tribal chief jimmy it's TRAUMA. #sami wasn't lying baby you need to LISTEN. #i love them both so much #p.s jimmy does not get enough credit #that man can act his ASS off. that promo with sami? FUCK. #i wanted to gif that but i've posted so much today lmao #mine*

[majiburger]

i've been trying so hard to get along with my brother-in-law but oh my god my sister's type of men are sooooo exhausting

#yes we are back to venting it's just one of those weeks #it's kind of aggravating how patronizing he is and how he looks at the way someone lives and has like. 50 suggestions no one asked him for #and i did seriously consider his suggestions but they're all so redundant and dumb #and he's such a typical stem dudebro who thinks every other job in the world except his is easy #<- not even saying my job is hard it's just. he was so dismissive about tv anchoring - one of the most flustering environments to work in #and i know it's a stupid thing to get mad about but i'm sick of him i can't believe he's staying here a whole week #he's got such an air of 'i'm right and everyone else is stupid' that it makes me feel so anxious and small around him #this is not even touching the fact that him and my sister make each other WORSE #actually i have more to say: #i hate that he doesn't care about hurting my mother's feelings & he's def picked this behaviour up bc my sister doesnt care abt her feeling #and just. WHAT has my mother done to deserve this. she's a people pleaser this is going to KILL her and i hate that #eat your fucking vegetables like a grown ass man you're not in your mother's house!!!!!

[lunapwrites]

If you have a friend who goes out of their way to make you feel shittier while you're down:

1) that person is not your friend

2) they should be carefully and completely excised from your life, starting ASAP. (Not necessarily immediately, but when you can.)

#obviously some nuisance and context should be considered but like #but like. it shouldn't be hard to have compassion for others. #especially friends. #and even if you've got some hurt their actions are causing #there's a time and a place to address them #IDK just thinking a lot about that time i was receiving death threats #and my best friend at the time said i deserved them #and that was when they stopped being my best friend #but it took way too long for me to cut ties completely #and that was for someone I've grown up with. #we were inseparable since we were five. #but with time and distance i was able to see patterns #and they were never my friend. not really. #that was a slow severing over the course of decades #but i managed #i have better people around me now #you will too #lp talks

[juanabaloo]

There's something that always hits hard about these shows with teenagers, and for me teenage girls. You're watching. You get into it, you relate to them. You see them struggle, ofc they go through some shit bc it's a show. But they still have these moments right? Where they're just being themselves, aside from the struggle, or sometimes bc of the struggle. And it's like a cafeteria tray to the face, they were just kids. THEY WERE JUST KIDS.

And then I remember my own shit, my own time back then. And I've never been a vampire slayer or a witch or had to save the world or had to resort to cannibalism or had to murder an ex or stabbed my friend/enemy/crush in the gut with an actual knife or been stranded in the wilderness with my soccer team - but we all had shit right? We all went through some shit. And then FUCK, it's a metal chair to the face. WE WERE JUST KIDS. I WAS JUST A KID.

We were all just doing the best we could back then. We had our pre-existing trauma and family bullshit and we somehow stumbled through it and made it out alive.

So BRAVO to all of us. I mean it. CONGRATULATIONS! We were just kids, we were just fucking kids, and we made it, we did it. We survived!!!

In the words of Tenoch Huerta, talking about the little brown kids who don't see themselves represented, that only felt negative judgment... "pero vamos a empezar a sanar." (but we're going to begin to heal.)

#yellowjackets #btvs #tenoch huerta #i guess mild btvs spoilers too #the vibe of this is hopeful and triumphant #even if I'm kinda crying #right in the feels #this post sponsored by cafeteria trays and metal chairs #i know there's not a huge audience of yellowjackets AND btvs AND tenoch talking about colorism #but if that's you i see you #i think yellowjackets makes this super clear bc you see the grown up versions of the girls #s: yellowjackets #show reco #for both btvs and yellowjackets #this post dedicated to the fictional characters that deserved better #but still they survived #faith lehane #buffy summers #natalie scatorccio #taissa turner #shauna shipman #and also #willow rosenberg #misty quigley

[sevenyeargap]

practicing gratitude about this past year tonight and it IS actually helping?? a lot????????? unbelievable

#things im really grateful for: moved out and away! to the other side of the country! for a new job (first job!!!!!) which was terrifying but #it's been FIVE months and ive genuinely never felt prouder of myself for making it through!!!!! #and even though there HAS been some really really Bad Brain Days this job has allowed me to meet so many interesting people #and it also has allowed me to have a better view of my future; to understand what i really want to do; and given me the boost i needed to #work extra hard to get into my masters program (asylum and immigration law!!!) #ive also became less of a people pleaser and learned to stood up for myself more; get more accomodations and opportunities without stopping #myself to get them bc i didnt deserve them or whatever #i did SO many scary things that felt like pulling my own teeth out but 95% of these things worked out okay in the end #i even got a new job opportunity!!!! i was OFFERED a job????!?!?!?!???! can you believe it????!?!? #GOT MY AUTISM DIAGNOSIS #came out to my therapist! said a lot of scary things to scary people but i did it SCARED. AND IT WORKED OUT #ive accomplished so many things this year and grown up and healed a lot. sure there were bad days but - overall? #im so grateful im alive. im so grateful i got to meet so many wonderful & lovely people #(if youve read all of this please know that i love YOU and also i hope hope HOPE you had a wonderful year; or if you didnt then that the #upcoming year will be nothing but kind and supportive to you! 🌱🎀💫)

[rookflower]

Always gotta ask for my girls Squirrelflight and/or Nightcloud :)

#nightcloud #warrior cats #warriors #windclan #aaaaargrhghg i spent so long trying to get down a good pose for this one but ended up just having her sit #anyways previously i was never too invested in crow breeze and night as like. a group but nightcloud has grown on me recently #they werent characters i had super strong opinions on reading the books and then vaguely stayed away from when i like #first entered the fandom and realised how strong and varied the opinions on them were. not getting into that thanks #discourse is only fun when it's characters youre either invested in yourself or dont give a single shit about at all #but in hindsight a lot of nightcloud hate is just weird misogyny hjdfkljl #she really deserved better man #also im purple eyes nightcloud gang sorrryyyy i prefer the visual distinction of her crow and breeze all having different eyes #even with different body shapes/posture/fur length sometimes black and dark grey cats can be a bit hard to distinguish at a glance

[dykefaggotry]

us ten/martha girlies were in the TRENCHES back in the day I can never forget. at least now u can say u like martha without everyone throwing up and crying asking why you hate rose like. I'm so glad the fandom grew up a lil but I'm gonna be honest I don't think I'll ever be able to fully enjoy ten & rose bc of it 😭

#i hated ten/rose on principle that the fans wanted me dead for thinking martha was cool lmaoooo #and it's changed now like a Lot and the ten/rose girlies are everything to me #but I still can't watch their arc w out feeling the twinge of tweenage bitterness ngl #the racism was just out of hand on 2012 tumblr I don't miss it #it's not even the same ppl anymore and if it is I'm glad it seems like most of them have grown up and started some antiracist work lmfao #but I was a die hard martha and mickey deserved better fan back when that was evil to say bc ten and rose were THEEEEEE couple #and how could you possibly ever think they ever did anything wrong in their lives #clearly it was martha and mickey who were selfish and stupid and whatever else #GOD. WHAT A TIME TO HAVE BEEN ALIVE.

[alltimewhat]

being a schizophrenic th fan genuinely fucking sucks more than anything ever

#the way the Entire fanbase treats someone who is (supposedly) schizophrenic is fucking exhausting #TO BE CLEAR: i dont view it as like. an excuse for actions etc etc #but the fact that i feel the need to clarify that says enough about the way the fanbase acts about it #no a schizospec diagnosis (if thats what it even is) does not excuse grooming kids. believe it or fucking not. #and it also doesnt make someone inhuman or impossible to communicate with #and also you dont have to “save” or “fix” a grown man who needs an actual real world support system #that DOESNT JUST EXCUSE HIS ACTIONS (matt) #and ESPECIALLY you dont have to brute force send messages to him through weird and unusual channels that would like #very easily be seen as fucking threatening and scary to a schizospec person. if i had an account and a stranger was fucking #uploading shit to my account through a loophole to send me a message i would be freaking the fuck out #it would absolutely induce an episode #it just astounds me like. how a fanbase that is full of people who are like. autistic adhd etc etc. just absolutely refuses to treat #schizophrenia with respect or the care it deserves #also its even more frustrating seeing another schizospec person ALSO treating him like a zoo animal+studying him like a lab rat #just ignore the fucking guy block his account stop giving hiim attention stop talking about him #he uses the attention you give him to do the shit he does that ends up hurting people #can you people just acknowledge schizospecs as human and also use your fucking brain and stop interacting

[firefly-fez]

as much as I generally like the ending of brooklyn nine nine I don’t love what they did with Jake’s character. I feel like his friendship with Doug Judy and the way it ended was a missed opportunity for Jake to re-evaluate policemanship and what he’s actually doing at the 99th precint. Jake has always had a very childish, idealised perspective of a police officer. His character arc centres around growing up and maturing - it seems like such a missed opportunity not to have his persepctive of a police officer also mature, especially considering he’s had so many moments that might prompt him to re-consider. After he’s wrongly imprisoned, he struggles with the responsibility of arresting the right person for the crime. He makes a wrongful arrest and is guilting of intimidating an innocent person - and he feels remorse when he realises the subject is innocent, but feels justified in his actions when he thinks they’re guilty. All throughout his relationship with Sofia, they argued about the ethics of her job, because she was defending “criminals”. And yes, she’s a defense lawyer, she does represent clients that have commited crimes.

Even though the last season tackled police reform in a lot of detail, it stopped short of defending the idea that even criminals deserve human rights. Even as it represented Doug Judy’s bittersweet departure from the show, highlighting that he ended up in a life of crime because he couldn’t get his life back on track after being convicted of a minor offense -- Jake is sympathetic and helps his friend, but none of the team acknowledge with any serious depth how badly the justice system failed Doug Judy.

That could have been a catalyst for Jake’s character, but it wasn’t.

Although it’s rewarding to see Jake go from fatherless to the-father-he-never-had, and his dedication as a stay-at-home dad and everything that means to him, I don’t think it was the most rewarding end to his character arc.

Instead, I’d love to have seen him do a deep-dive into Doug Judy’s old case files after his arrest/escape. (He’d have to be cautious, so that no one picked up on what he did). To really take the time and think back on every criminal he’d arrested and how much it changed the trajectory of their life. To look at the arrest record of someone he’d booked as a first-time offender, noticing that they’d been convicted of multiple crimes since then...and wondering if he’d condemned them to a cycle they couldn’t get out of with that first arrest. Looking back on his career and everything he did, without that idyllic, childish, ‘good guys vs. bad guys’ mindset.

And after all that, he goes back to Sofia. Not to get back together with her, but to tell her she was right. Defending the human rights of the accused, even if they’re guilty really is the basis of their entire justice system. So he re-connects with her - to network and gain her advice.

Because he’s decided - he wants to become a defense lawyer.

#jake peralta #brooklyn nine nine #and THAT'S how you show he's grown up #jake has such an idyllic childish borderline HARMFUL perspective of a police officer #he's ALWAYS been the character with the good guys vs bad guys mentality #treating victims and perpetrators alike as if they're all in a movie and he's the hero #have him grapple with it #reflect on it #use doug judy's arc to rock the boat #truly look back on his life's work #and re-evaluate #because the police reform program holt and amy are working on is great #but it only focuses on protecting the rights of the innocent #even if someone is guilty #they still deserve human rights #jake needed to be the character to take a stand and say that #because HE is the character with the criminal = dirtbag mindset #none of them really show compassion to the guilty but Jake perpetuates the good guys vs. bad guys mentality the MOST #his actual character arc ending is borderline ableist imo #because the idea is that he has 'matured' into a proper adult #because he's RESPONSIBLE now #ill admit that his last goodbye with holt is touching #but it's hard to really appreciate it for me #bc like every single reason that he struggles with responsibility #is a symptom of ADHD #expecting a character to 'overcome' that through working harder #is just NOT POSSIBLE for someone with ADHD #the expectation that Jake should overcome his struggles (all of which are ADHD symptoms) #without ever having his ADHD treated/mentioned/acknowledged #ust rubs me the wrong way

[motormouthedfool]

Dear people with hyperhidrosis: let's hold hands. Lets high five. I do not care if they're sweaty. Let's hug. Let's cuddle. I do not care if your armpits are swamps and smell bad. You can take off your shoes and socks even if your feet are very sweaty. I do not care. You deserve comfort too. People with hyperhidrosis I Love You.

#sweaty #excessive sweating #hyperhidrosis #i have struggled with excessive underarm sweating since i was 8 #and as someone who has social anxiety and autism. that shit DOES NOT help the social awkwardness. #i really wish this was talked about more. i and many others have grown up ashamed of our sweat even though its out of our control #and tips to help it #75% of all my old shirts are badly sweat stained because i didnt know how to manage my armpit sweat until like a year or two ago #i am here to let all my fellow sweaty people know. YOU ARE NOT GROSS!! IT DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE UNHYGIENIC!! #YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS AND COMFORT IN YOUR BODY!! AND YOU DESERVE TO HAVE PHYSICAL TOUCH!! #i really needed this kinda positivity when i was younger #so i would like to spread it now #maybe i should post tips on what ive found that helps me with my sweat #i do not have much issues with my hands and feet so unfortunately i do not have much advice but i will be here to listen n support n learn #positivity #i forgot to tag that