#honestly amab ppl never got this

[aromantic-pantyanarchy]

hei!! as someone who has multiple wonderful ace friends i just wanna say that i hear u and understand u and that i find it very hurtful seeing ppl i deeply care about be excluded from our community specifically formed around the idea of love and acceptance.

i went through something similar when i got bullied out of a queer discord server i cared about alot for identifying as a non binary bisexual lesbian (now i just identify as queer because i dislike definjng myself into specific boxes)

they said my bi lesbian identity was lesbophobic, erased and invalidated lesbian experiences and that because im AMAB i was a creep for not clearly specifying that before telling people im non binary. i felt unwanted and guilty for expressing how i see myself, it felt like I was an alien :(

Ay wtf. It’s so weird how queer spaces will just recreate transphobic “aight but what’s your REAL gender” pressures. Like, one it shouldn’t matter if you are a dude, two you clearly aren’t.

I’ve never really been able to break into queer spaces that are only defined by being queer honestly, most of my discord servers are like, with people I connected to over something else (and then a majority of them turned out to be queer cause discord spaces are just like that).

Iunno, I totally get throwing your hands up and just being like “I’m some flavor of strange”, but it sucks you got beaten so hard by people who are supposed to be on your side. Hope you’re in a better place now.

[detransraichu]

It was disheartening when being trans got demedicalised, but so many people on here were cheering it on. Gender dysphoria is a medical condition. Gender affirming care is medical care. Everyone was comparing it to gay people being demedicalised but it is not VAGUELY the same. It’s just so frustrating that, politically, the side who would medicalise being trans again, is out of hate and not out of care.

EXACTLY!!! i'm so sorry if you're trans and saw that happen, that must have been annoying as fuck and just really dismissive of your struggles. it wasn't the case for most of history on the left, people would see it more as a medical condition afaik and transphobia meant more a mix of ableism and sexism than anything else. trans ppl as a whole were very respectful, and trans was a very specific term. i honestly feel like transsexual & transgender are vastly different identities nowadays. you can be trans in the sense of having a mental disorder needing treatment & accommodations, and you can be trans (usually nonbinary) in the sense that you're wanting to be androgynous to go against society and you want to reshape society and stop sex-based pronouns from being a thing and generally hate cis people. i've met people who said they literally were identifying as nonbinary (which nowadays is under trans) for political reasons, bc it goes against the evil gender binary and they wanted to confuse people. it's all an obsessive game for some folks (not all), or crossdressing/drag in a sense. tbh i sometimes wonder if nonbinary really should be under the transgender umbrella...? for a long time i saw ppl say they're nonbinary and still cis, they just used nonbinary to basically mean gnc/androgynous. that was a thing for the longest time, and transness was a totally different thing, though they were friendly together. they reallyyy seemed to have diff goals in mind

some would say being gnc falls under transness, and like yeah being gnc can be a big part of being trans obviously but also you can be gnc and not be trans and still face terrible sexism that even some trans ppl don't face!! gncphobia/sexism is its own issue. with transness you're basically looking to solve the initial gender nonconformity, you're looking to shift your body to look like the opposite sex... it's a mental illness treatment, though ppl get really heated when you call transness a mental illness, i definitely would've been a couple years ago... despite dysphoria literally being in the dsm. there should be no stigma around transness - transsexualism at least anyway, what does transgender truly mean nowadays? - being a mental disorder! it's such a disability accommodation type thing compared to gayness. it's SOOOO radically different. but trans activists often piggyback onto the gay rights movement bc it makes their activism seem more legitimate and above any criticism. any concern about it is transphobia, and transphobia is exactly like homophobia. many would even say it's worse. it's bonkers honestly!

ppl really rushed to add the t to lgbt but it always felt different, didn't it? one literally needs surgeries and hormones and accommodations, and the other is just harmless behaviors needing to be normalized. gayness is NOT a medical issue, or it never should've been considered as such. yet TRAs keep putting us in the same boat nonstop!!! and not just that but taking control of the boat and talking shit about those damn cis gays who don't want to suck dick or eat pussy or deal with a sexless opposite-sex relationship and keep bringing up stupid feminist questions like dumb bigoted bitches who have it way too easy. they normalize lying about their agab/sex in early or even late stages of dating, they're just against the concept of sex-based attraction or oppression or even sex existing!! which goes directly against how old-school trans ppl treated the whole thing. and that's also despite them using afab/amab (or tma/tme) all the time!! they repress even being their assigned sex/agab instead of learning to actually accept it as a part of themselves, which i recommend everyone to do, even if transitioned... they so often are against desensitizing themselves AT ALL to dysphoria triggers, and therapists who try are cancelled, when that is not the usually complex way that mental disorders are treated.

usually treatment is a journey, not just point A to B, and it should be seen critically. i've seen non-dysphoric ppl talk over dysphoric transmascs and transfems too! and if a trans person is more respectful of cis folks they're called a bootlicker. some of the ones being loud and obnoxious for all intent and purposes often live as vaguely gnc, usually straight people, but they yell about how queer they are aaaall day and act like they're more oppressed than boring gays or transsexuals. it's so bewildering! they're basically roleplaying as facing things they don't actually face irl. it's so weird. i'm sorry those ppl are ridiculing and derailing the very serious trans movement. they're literally setting trans rights back instead of helping themselves!!! i truly feel bad for classic transsexuals having to deal with non-dysphorics who don't stay in their lane, and for normie respectful trans/nb ppl of all kinds being shushed everytime

it would be SOOOO easy if everyone in the lgbtq community was just respectful of eachother's different experiences and didn't claim to be at the top of the oppression pyramid. it would be so much better if TRAs acknowledged that transness is something related to medical treatment and accommodations, closer to disability than trans rights, bc if they don't pass as the opposite sex ppl still have to pretend they're not noticing their sex anymore even though humans are literally built being able to tell. that's a disability accommodation honestly! it's avoiding someone's triggers, shielding them. people accommodate me being triggered by certain things due to cptsd too. but instead of being like "thanks for being kind and avoiding my dysphoria triggers" TRAs act snobby like it's a societal problem not a brain problem. and if you acknowledge their upbringing or ways that their amab/afab socialization is impacting your relationship w them you're gonna be responsible for them offing themselves?? and if you don't call every gnc person they/them you're a bigot. it's unhinged!

i'm sorry you deal with lunatics in ur community anon, i hope ur doing okay <3 it won't always be like this! people are peaking all the time and are becoming more open to complex discussions, i rly think so! i'd love to hear your thoughts or any other thoughts from trans ppl on here. i promise i have no hate in my heart for normie trans folks. so many trans ppl have been lovely to me, i have many trans buddies. it's just a very complex issue. i love discussing it out in the open for once! if anyone has thoughts abt this please lmk, i'm still learning <3

#asks #lay text

[viriborne]

On the point of tht last ask i sent and in ur tags, yeah its v common for parents of autistic kids (and also just neurodiverse kids in general)to not believe their kid is autistic bc they just think how they act is normal and tht they act tht way too when they likely are also neurodivergent and just never got diagnosed,whether it b bc of money or, because u said it was ur mother who doesnt believe u, afab ppl generally get later diagnoses if any at all bc of the earliest studies of autistic ppl were all done on boys, and even now some psychiatrist even today believe only amab ppl can be autistic and im sure a lot of older women may have autism and just not know it bc the couldnt get diagnosed with it and even then later diagnoses can be p hard to get in comparison to childhood diagnoses. Srry u probably know a lot of this stuff but i just think its a cool topic and idk . Anyways u seem cool and its definitely ok to say ur autistic but not have a diagnosis or at least i personally think it is .

Yeah it kinda sucks in general being afab and getting a diagnosis for…..anything honestly but there’s 100% a medical bias when it comes to things that are more behavioral and mental, especially since there was a whole genre of patent medicine made for “womanly issues” that STILL exists to this day. Posting this ask publicly mainly because it’s definitely something that needs to be acknowledged more and really the only reason I know this myself is because literally almost all of my close friends are autistic/have adhd lol.

#ask #anon #The whole ‘ur parents not believing you because they experience the same thing’ is generally true for all genetic disorders #literally had a physical disability since birth and STILL haven’t gotten a solid diagnosis bc for the longest time my mom thought #‘it wasn’t that bad’

[gooeykit]

A few months ago I got into a debate w someone abt like trans rights (which she claimed 2 endorse up untill we started talking abt trans ppl's right 2 compete and what have you BUT I digress) and she'd brought up the 'impeding on the woman experience' or whatever, aka ability to birth. Acknowledging that not every amab woman can give birth, that logic is still so dumb. A transman doesn't forfeit their womb and the ability to give birth, should they have it, the moment they come out. A transwoman also knows that they cannot give birth, which honestly tends to be a huge oart of the dysphoria. It widely isn't something forgotten due to that, as well. A trans man is frunctioning with something they've always had untill it's removed, a trans woman is coping on something they will never have untill there is enough medical progress in the matter. Where is anyone impeding? It looks a lot like nowhere, huh.

[natesspace]

Tachihara w/ trans reader headcanons

honestly, it can be interpreted as romantic or platonic, I'm just writing this for all trans lovers of Tachihara, he and we need more content, have some comfort

this part will be with reader who already transitioned (at least socially). if sb would like with reader pre-transition, let me know.

*disclaimer, I'm afab, so i'll be mostly writing it from my experience, but if any amab trans ppl wanna share some tips how to make my writing more inclusive, go for it!*

when you first came out to him, he didn't understand at all

he was completely clueless, like he didn't know a thing about LGBT+ comunity

after explaining some stuff to him (he gets it kinda quickly), he's kinda shocked

"wait, so u are saying that u weren't born [your gender]?"

he just never noticed it

he always saw u as who u truly are and it doesn't change

and u definitivly helped him realise he's pan (yes, it's my headcanon)

honestly, even before u came out to him, there where moments when u got misgendered and he stood up for u

to all the transmasc ppl, he will give u a lot of tips on how to look and act more masculine and yes, u can steal his clothes

he thinks u look really pretty in his jacket (no matter ur gender)

if u are transfemme, he would go to Higuchi and Gin for help

they will teach him how to bride ur hair

he will definitly go to pride with u, especially if u haven't been yet

he's the biggest supporter

at first, he might accidentally out u to some ppl, but tell him not to do that, he won't slip again

every time u feel dysphoric, he will be there and will tell u how amazing and strong u are

"u are the strongest person I know [Y/N], u had to go thru so much hardship to be here. just so u know, I love u for who u are"

knows all the comfort shows/animes/books

so when it's needed, you just sit on his couch and watch/read it

he buys small things that remind him of u, mostly key rings, sometimes jewelry

when u compliment him about the earrings, in the spam of next week, he'll get like two more piercings

he will hang all of the flags in the main room on the port mafia headquarters

starts wearing a pin with his pronouns because of u

FINALLY DONE. I hope u like it! if u want to request anything, my ask box is opened!

thank you for reading! <3

#bsd #bsd tachihara #tachihara michizou #tachihara x reader #bungou stray dogs #trans reader

[httpbryce]

martin del rosario & he/they/any / demi-man ‷ watch out , bryce sirilan has crash-landed into roswell !! they look 32 years old and celebrate their birthday on january 20. they are from bacolod, philippines, reside in tripp’s trailer park and are currently working as bartender @ wild pony. one thing you should know about them is they dress up in drag sometimes at planet 7 (for fun, not work). ‷ ( thia, she/her/they, 20, gmt )

HEY besties i’ve got another muse and i love them very much. info under the cut ( tw for discussions of homophobia and general lgbtphobia )

BASICS

full name: bryce sirilan

age: 32

birth date: january 20, 1990

ethnicity: mostly filipino (hiligaynon and bicolano), some amount of white heritage

sexuality: big bisexual... w/ a leaning towards women / fem ppl

relationship status: single 

languages spoken: hiligaynon (native), tagalog (fluent), english (fluent), bicolano (basic bc his mom never taught him properly)

pronouns: he/they (but they don’t mind other pronouns like she unless ur being a piece of shit and using them to mock him lmao)

bryce is the oldest sibling and would’ve been the golden child. he was smart and reliable and shit. the problem for his family? bryce was sure that they were Not Cishet from a very young age. probably since kindergarten. they did not like that

speaking as a queer filipino, i know that filipinos tend to treat sexuality and gender as interchangeable. if you’re amab (assigned male at birth) and turn out queer in any way (though honestly i’ve seen this concept be applied to effeminate cishet men too), you’re assumed to be a Gay Man.

and there’s nothing wrong with being a gay man ofc. bryce embraced it tbh, it was their first label. they also fit the usual filipino of a camp gay dude.

i mean, when he decided to change his birth name he considered “carey” bc mariah carey and he’s pretty sure he subconsciously ended up using bryce bc it was a subtle nod to britney spears. (bryce siralan does sound a bit like britney spears, doesn’t it?)

but that wasn’t who bryce was. he’d learn that later.

he abandoned his immediate family to follow his supportive aunt to the usa when he was 13ish? so yeah, he grew up here in roswell.

when he was in his late teens maybe, he met ppl who taught him that sexuality and gender are separate. if you ARE a gay man ofc and you’re campy and everything, there’s nothing wrong w/ that! but your gender expression doesn’t inherently determine your sexuality, he learned. and there’s a whole spectrum of lgbtq+ identities

in that period of time, they thought about it and realized that they were nonbinary and bi.

anyway, they could’ve pursued a hotshot career bc they’re brainy but they don’t want that life.

they grumble about their annoying, mundane job at wild pony sure but lowkey they’re very grateful for it!!! yeah sure it’s boring and stressful but it’s part of the charm for him. just being able to live a normal life is good enough for him

they have enough money to leave tripp’s trailer park rn and fend for himself (and just himself, realistically) but doesn’t want to abandon their aunt & cousins.

yeah he likes to dress up in drag and yes his fc has gifs in drag so tune in

he’s honestly more into women but is much more insecure about pursuing them romantically. for reasons he thinks are obvious -- society doesn’t rly expect a (demi-)guy who can walk perfectly in 6-inch heels to be into women at all.

they’d like to explore their attraction to women more, though. they’re attracted to men/masc-presenting ppl too though! and androgynous peeps.

on that 6-inch heels note: bryce is 6′0″, which is tall but not terrifyingly so. in heels he can be as tall as 6′6″ and seeing ppl get intimidated/startled by it makes him happy njansdjasdjn he’s a troll sometimes srry

“certified Best Kisser and thats why i dated him” --testimony from thee @nfldunn​ himself KDMSKNDJN

dating gunner in high school kinda left them with abandonment issues rip </3

anyway that’s all for now! pls do plot with us!

#roswellintro #flashing lights cw

[jay-kwellyn]

Hi Jackie! I'm so glad that I came across your blog recently! You're such a lovely person, inside and out, and I've been really enjoying your music! I don't know if you've answered this question before or if you're comfortable answering, but I was wondering: when and how did you realize that you were trans? I've heard quite a few trans people say that they "always knew," but I'm 22 and have only just recently started to question my gender. What was your experience like?

Thank you and dope question! I’ve actually been getting this question a good bit in my dms so If you don’t mind I’ll slightly edit my message to one of those dm’s.

The first clues that I had that I noticed were in high school. I was a super fit dude who thought his whole goal was to get super fit and have all the girls love him (yuck!). After I got fit I started to realize that I still hated seeing myself in the mirror and I never really understood why.

After a short stint working normal jobs I started doing circus which put me around a lot more ppl who thought outside the little boxes society tries to force us into (which honestly just means they did drugs 🤷🏾‍♀️) and I started having conversations I never knew the words for. I realized that I was actually just jealous of all the women I was attracted too. I realized I was jealous of things like them getting to be small or having hips and stuff. Things I couldn’t hope to have as an amab (assigned male at birth) person. I remember drunkenly telling my female training partners that I wish we could swap bodies and then crying about the fact that we couldn’t.

It all came to a head when I did a circus show that was about gender. Over the course of seven acts we told stories from the perspectives of 5 different gender identities. Cis male, cis female, non-binary, trans man, and trans woman. During the rehearsals for this show I got to hear tons of recordings of different people talking about their experiences with gender expression and how society treats you when you don’t fit in to a “perfect” little box. The stories that stuck with me the most were the stories of trans women. I won’t go too deep into those because honestly there’s a lot of trauma there and I don’t wanna start crying at 3 in the morning. But one major thing that was said was that the average life expectancy of a trans woman is 35. When I started to figure I might be trans, it was the first time I ever thought that I wanted to live past that (here come the tears anyway 😭😭😭) It changed my life.

During that show I decided on a new name. I came out to my mom. And then one day I decided that it was time to live as me and I didn’t care what anyone thought so I changed my name and posted it on Facebook. I was lucky enough to get an overwhelming amouny of support. Some backlash of course but the support outweighed the stupid things. I’ve been on hormone replacement therapy for ten months now. I’m starting to see myself In the mirror and I’m taking it day by day.

Everyone’s stories are different. But they all begin with a question. You’re already so far ahead for asking that question in the first place. The next step is to explore different gender expressions. Being yourself is something you have to work towards but damn it’s worth it. If people ever have questions about stuff like this feel free to ask! I’ll do my best to answer or I’ll try to find someone with more knowledge who can. Thank you all so much 💜💜💜

#trans #lgbtq #transwoman #gender #black transwoman #transgender #hrt #nonbinary #trans man #am i trans?

[sweet-suggestions]

All the asks for you now fuck you

Welp this is my own fault XD BUT STILL FUC U

1: The last person you kissed screams they love you, you say…

I’ve never kissed anyone so I’m skipping those questions 

2: Did you get to sleep in today?

yeah!!!!

3: You never know what you got until you lose it?

well yeah,,

4: Do you have siblings?

yeah!!! I have two older brothers

5: How many kids do you want?

I don’t know if I want children, if I do then one, maybe two

6: Who was the last person you held hands with?

One of my best friends, she’s basically my sister XD @flyingdinosaurr

7: Did you stand on your tippy-toes for your last kiss?

-

8: Do you think if you died, the last person you kissed would care?

-

9: Last person to talk on the phone?

In a call? It was kat. Just messaging it was the fuck who sent this ask :p

10: Did anyone watch you the last time you kissed someone?

-11: When’s your birthday?

22 march 200312: Remember the first time you kissed the last person you kissed?

-

13: What kind of phone do you have?

Samsung Galaxy s5 mini

14: Are you wearing jeans, shorts, sweatpants, or pajama pants?

Right now just a very big sweater so,, 

15: Are you a different person now than you were 5 years ago?

I fukin hope so, five years ago I was 10 XD

16: What were you doing at 4 am?

either sleeping or staring at the ceiling

17: Would you rather write a paper or give a speech?

write a paper most definetly

18: Are you lying to yourself about something?

yes

19: Last night you felt…?

sick

20: What’s something you cannot wait for?

either going to England this summer or going to America next summer

21: Ever told your parents you were going somewhere but when somewhere different?

I think so

22: How many hours of sleep did you get last night?

like?? 5?

23: Are you a morning or night person?

night

24: What did you get your last bruise from?

walking against a metal table

25: Do you reply to all of your texts?

usually yes

26: Your phone is ringing. It’s the person you fell hardest for. What do you do?

pick up, its kat. I call w her on the regular XD

27: Did your last kiss take place in/on a bed?

-

28: Anyone you would like to get things straight with?

I don’t think so

29: How many months until your birthday?

9

30: Favorite thing to eat with peanut butter?

nothing, I don’t like peanut butter

31: Did you like this past summer?

kinda, its not over yet tho

32: What were you doing before you got on the computer?

trying to answer this fucking thing on my phone

33: Your ex is sitting next to you, with their new partner. What do you do?

depends on the ex, one I wouldn’t want to be in a room with. any other id congratulate, I might be a bit salty but I wouldn’t show it

34: What is the last thing you said out loud?

‘I don’t know the months from my head’

35: Your mood summed into one work?

I don’t understand this

36: Are you doing anything else besides taking this survey?

listening to music and talking to a friend

37: What are your initials?

m

38: Are you a happy person?

not really, I try to be

39: Do you still talk to the person you liked 4 months ago?

yes

40: Where do you want to live when your older?

I honestly have no idea

41: Have you had your birthday this year?

jup

42: What did you do yesterday?

went to the store and talked to a few friends

43: What will you be doing tomorrow?

going to two stores where they sell some animals and plants

44: How late did you stay up last night?

 I don’t remember, I think around 4am

45: Is there anyone you would do anything for?

yes, multiple ppl

46: Is it hard to make you laugh?

sometimes yes, usually no

47: Do you believe ex’s can be just friends?

yes

48: Do you think any of your exes will eventually want to be with you again?

 don’t know, maybe

49: How many people have you had feelings for in the year of 2012?

I don’t remember

50: Do you wish your ex was dead?

one of them yes

51: Have you ever dyed your hair?

yup, lots and lots of times

52: Would ever take back someone that cheated?

no

53: Was New Year’s Even enjoyable?

not really

54: Bet you’re missing someone right now?

yeah

55: How would your parents react if you got a tattoo?

they wouldn’t give a fuck, as long as its not really ugly or badly tattoood

56: Sleep on your back or stomach?

my side

57: If you could move away, no questions asked, where would it be?

anywhere that isn’t here

58: What would you change about your life right now?

my view on life

59: Has anything upset you in the past week?

yep

60: Are you on the phone?

calling? no

61: Today, would you rather go forward a week or back?

back I think

62: Would you take $40,000 or a brand new car?

$40.000 definitely I cant even drive

63: Have you ever talked to someone when they were high?

yes, almost dayly

64: Ever cried while you were on the phone with someone?

jup, quite a few times

65: Have you ever copied someone elses homework?

that’s the only time I turn in homework

66: Are you the type of person who likes to be out or at home?

at home definitely 

67: Do you automatically check your phone when you wake up?

juuuup

68: Have you ever stayed up all night on the phone?

almost every night XD

69: Could you use some sleep right now?

probably

70: Are you going to have a baby by the time you’re 18?

nah

71: Does it bother you when someone hides things from you?

yes, im too curious for my own good

72: What’s your favorite color?

I like all colors

73: Have you ever slept in the same room with someone you liked?

ye

74: Have you ever been looking for something and it was already in your hand?

so many times

75: Do you get annoyed easily?

yea

76: If someone liked you, would you want them to tell you?

yes please, I don’t want you to struggle w it

77: Do you have a person of the opposite sex that you can tell everything to?

yes, I have one online amab (were talking abt sex right? not gender?) friend who I fully trust

78: Does anyone call you babe?

idk, one of my friends sometimes

79: How many people of the opposite sex do you fully trust?

like,,,,, 3

80: What do you prefer, relationship or one night stand?

relationship 100%

81: What color hoodie did you wear last?

im wearing a light blue hoodie rn

82: Is there someone who meant alot to you at one point, and isn’t around anymore?

yes

[queerfruitsnacks]

But you're guilty of a similar invalidation. Homosexuality, and heterosexuality, are not genital preferences, they're monosexual orientations. Sexual preference is an outdated homophobic euphemism to deny them legitimacy. Reducing homosexuality to a preference is a gross offensive invalidation. I'm a fan of queer to describe how trans sexuality isn't always straightforward - are you saying when a straight married couple has one spouse transition, they're no longer straight? Despite their attraction being the same and their sex and reproductive capability and legal status never changing? And when homosexual trans women are murdered by their male partners it's not an act of homophobia too because you'd police them as straight? It's complicated, for sure. But that's no reason to describe lesbians as genital obsessed because they're mad when other people alleged they can and should like penises. They're lesbians, they're never going to like penises or amab bodies and we need to respect that.

Hey, i never said i belief in sexuality being confined to genitalia preference. Im saying the person who has been attacking me believes that. I dont care if you do have a preference because some ppl do and some ppl dont. I can rock with anything so long as its not targetting or harassing people.

Also I understand if some lesbians only like the vagina zone but not every lesbian does. There are lesbians who ARE attracted to trans women, there are trans women who identify as lesbians. I DON'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THEM BUT THIS POSTER DOES. And honestly your last bit is starting to sound like them. If they want to define homosexuality by biological sex, fine thats on them. BUT DONT FORCE THAT ON OTHERS. You are not in the right to invalidate lesbians because they date trans women. You are not in the right to call a trans woman and a lesbian ciswoman a "straight" relationship because YOU believe in defining sexualities by biological sex.

I don't care what you are, im genuinely accepting of everyone. But this person IS trying to police peoples identities and experiences and thats not right. People aren't just dolls, you dont get to redesign their identities so that it fits your beliefs. Therefore your input into other peoples identities is wrong, not gonna tolerate it.

As ive said ive never described lesbians as genital obsessed. THIS individual is genital obsessed. Some lesbians date trans women, regardless of what they got down there, that doesnt make them any less a lesbian. So yes some lesbians can be attracted to that stuff, some lesbians arent and i could honestly care less. What we need to do is get over the fact that people sexualities/identities/genders are not going to fit around your beliefs and it isnt your place to invalidate them for it. Do not invalidate the lesbians who date trans women or the gay men who date trans men because you believe homosexuality to be strictly about genitalia.

#like god just shut up about it #if they identify as lesbian they are lesbian #if they identify as a gay man then they are a gay man #to believe that trans women dating men and trans men dating women is homosexual is transphobic and i dont tolerate it #cause at this point you are only considering the trans persons genitals and not their identity its just creepy

[anxietytwist]

Thank you for saying something in the "don't ask nb folk what their agab is" post about how it isn't cool for any gender to demand to know what someone's agab is. I saw you got some serious heat for it by a user. I think they're just a reactionary troll, judging by their blog. But, I wanted to seriously thank you for saying something. It feels difficult to speak out against genderization from other transfolk since it feels like nb folk are kinda expected to be completely in agreement (1/2)

[...] with all of their actions (and often nb folk are!) but the attempts at gendering or categorizing nb folk into afab and amab categories just doesn't sit right, since it's the same treatment cisfolk give us. Idk if that made any sense, but, it felt like my discomfort around being gendered from anyone of any identity was validated when you said something, so thank you ❤ -nonbinary anon (2/2)

I'm glad my words helped you, Nonbinary ppl need to support/defend eachother! ♡

+ I honestly will never get how hung up some people (including other trans folks) are on "what's in other people's pants" and/or "what arbitrary gender a dr. assigned someone else @ birth", it's just so uncomfortably invasive...

Unless someone is blatantly overstepping in a conversation about struggles a specific AGAB faces ... just don't!

It's creepy when Cis ppl do it; so of course it's creepy, & hypocritical, when another Trans (binary or otherwise) person does it.

And sadly that way of thinking rarely takes into account Intersex indaviduals in the Trans & Nonbinary community, who's relationship with their AGAB is sooo unique and varied...

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