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ijustsmackedmynewtattoo · 2 years

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[Social Control and the 80/20 Rule]

So I'm about to talk about Social Deviance in my next post and I'll tie that and this into Goffman's theory in their respective posts, but for now let's chat about Social Control and a fun theory my professor exemplified in class called the 80/20 rule. I do want to note here I briefly give examples of religious control through fear and that may be triggering to some with religious trauma so please proceed with caution.

The Two Types of Social Control

Self - Control: This is where we place the responsibility on the individual to follow the rules, and we ensure this through a few different ways, an extremely common one we see all the time is control through fear and we place that fear through things like mysticism found in paganism and christianity, "if you're bad you go to hell. God knows what you're doing and he's judging you right now," it sets the stage for religious compliance and compliance through guilt, karma, and conscience.

Man - Made Control: Control produced by man often seen in the Deterrence Model which is police, courts, jails, etc.

The 80/20 Rule

My professor had a fun little experiment for us, he proposed a question, "If I left $200 in my car with the window rolled down, who would take it?" Most people said no, quite a few cited God or their conscience. 3 or 4 people said that they either would take it or would think about it (for the record I wouldn't have taken it bc there would be too many opportunities for me to be seen). Then he asked, "If it was $2,000 and you could walk away scot-free no one would ever know, would you take it?" As you can imagine the number of people suddenly willing to abandon God's ethics increased but we still had a majority of the class saying they wouldn't take it. This is called the 80/20 rule, we can expect 80% of people to follow the laws based purely on self-control aspects, and for the other 20% we have man-made social control, especially for a $2,000 reason someone's morals might take a hike.

How Does This Tie Into Deduction and Goffman's Theory?

Remember that Goffman proposed that we are always displaying Latent personas to some degree and in my last post I said we could try to figure out why someone is putting up a front and where that front ends. It's no secret that people may pretend to be a little more morally upright then they are, and finding out if someone is controlled through the self or through man-made social control can lend us a bit of an insight into their internal motives. Internal motives can make a world of difference for deductive continuity. Example being someone sorting a series of books because their mom wants them to vs. bc they are deeply attached to those books. If we just look at the books and decide someone is a tidy person based off that alone we might try to start cramming other info to fit into a tidy-person box when the person isn't actually tidy at all, they're just doing it bc of the repercussions if it isn't done, then we've got a whole bunch of incorrect deductions. Bit of a ramble but I found this experiment interesting and thought it could be useful to keep it in mind. Social deviance is up next!

-Graham

#logical reasoning #deduction #deductive reasoning #sociology #80/20

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imaginethe-dragons · 3 years

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Boy With Luv (3)

summary: while maintaining your corporate office job at kim publishing house, you also have to try and balance your professional life with your love life. Can you keep both separated or will they collide?

pairing: eventual jeon jungkook x reader

genre: fluff, eventual smut, coworkers to lovers

warnings: suggestive themes, small bit of angsty jk at the end; as always lmk if there are any missed!

word count: 2.7k

part: 3

pronouns: she/her

part 2 here

"Y/n, it's seven," Joon said, standing behind you. At this point he was gonna push you out the door if he had to. You turned your head, but Namjoon was blocking your way back to your bedroom. So, you took a deep breath and moved to open the door.

"Y/n, your purse!" Taehyung exclaimed, running up to you with the small red bag that held your phone and keys. You smiled as you took it from him.

"Thanks, Tae. You're a life saver," you mumbled, kissing him on the cheek before pulling the door open to reveal Jungkook. He was dressed in what he would usually wear to work, a white dress shirt and black slacks. The only two differences was that he had a couple buttons of his shirt undone and his hair was slicked back There was a small curl that rested against his forehead. Long story short, he looked hot.

"Noona! You look beautiful," he smiled, holding out a bouquet of pink roses. You smiled, knowing that they can mean an innocent love, perfect for early relationship stages.

"Thank you, Kookie. Let me go put these in a vase. Come in," you smiled, opening the door so you could go to the kitchen, looking under the sink for your vase that your mom gave you. You couldn't find it in any cabinets.

"Y/n, what are you looking for?" Namjoon asked, peeking his head in. You looked up at him with murder in your eyes.

"I'm looking for my vase," you grumbled, standing on your tip toes to move some cereal boxes around. He visibly stiffened.

"You took it to Hoseok's when you moved in with him and I never saw you unpack it here," he told you.

"Okay, I'll call Hobi later. Can you take care of these for me until then?" You asked him and he was already reaching for scissors to trim the stems.

"You ready?" Jungkook smiled at you and you nodded. You waved goodbye to Joon and hugged Taehyung before exiting your apartment.

"Let me just text Hobi, and then we can get on with our evening," you smiled and Jungkook wrapped his arm around your shoulders as he led you onto the elevator.

"Take your time," he smiled.

"Think you can handle Jimin tonight or should I go tomorrow?" You asked Jungkook after getting a text back from Hobi.

"We can go by on our way to my place," he smiled, holding your hand as he led the way to his car.

"Who said we're going back to yours?" You giggled, just teasing him. You got into the passenger seat and buckled your seatbelt.

"We're not going back to yours with Taehyung there," he laughed as he started the car.

"Fair point." Jungkook rested his left hand on your knee as he began the drive to the nearby restaurant.

"You really do look beautiful tonight," he smiled, helping you out of the car. The compliment had your face turning almost as red as your dress.

"Thank you. You look handsome," you told him once you were sure you wouldn't stumble over your words. He rested his hand on the small of your back as he led you into the restaurant. The hostess perked up at the sight of Jungkook, but frowned when she saw you.

"Table for two please," he asked politely. She picked up two menus and led you to a booth. You slid into your seat, thinking Jungkook would sit opposite, but he sat right next to you instead. The close proximity made you turn red again.

"What can I get you started to drink?" The hostess asked, holding a pad of order tickets.

"I'll have a Coca-Cola. What about you, y/n?" He asked, focusing on you instead of anything else. You swallowed before deciding what answer to give.

"I'll be fine with water. Thank you," you smiled at the hostess but she just rolled her eyes. Jungkook pretended to stretch before his arm rested along the back of the booth, so close to resting on your shoulder that you could feel the warmth radiating from him.

"What do you think you want to eat?" He asked you, leaning in close to look at your menu over your shoulder. You turned your head to look at him with a small smile on your face, but his sudden position was a shock.

"I was thinking kimbap, what about you?" You asked, sliding the menu between the two of you so he could see more of it.

"I'm not that hungry, why don't we split kimbap? Or we could split kimchi?" He asked, trying to come up with ways to remain close to you.

"Sushi was your idea, so I think kimbap is the best option here," you nodded, closing the menu as a new waitress approached your table with two glasses.

"A water and a Coke. Are you two ready to order or should I come back?" The girl asked with a peppy smile and tone of voice.

"Just one order of kimbap with two sets of chopsticks please," Jungkook smiled as he ordered for the both of you. She nodded before walking away and Jungkook turned back to you.

"So, what happened to the dress I picked out earlier?" He asked, toying with the hem of the dress. His touch was electric and made goose bumps spread around your skin.

"It was a dress I bought for a party, not a date," you answered him simply enough.

"Now that I think about it. I wouldn't want anyone else seeing you in it," he whispered, ducking down so he could say the words next to your ear.

"Maybe some other time," you giggled quietly and he smiled wide.

"So, tell me how you met Hobi hyung," he suddenly said, pulling you into his side.

"You seriously want me to talk about my ex on our first date?" You asked, giving him a confused look.

"Well, if he's still in your life I wanna know," he answered, leaning back against the seat.

"I met him through Jimin. Hobi has been choreographing for him since a year after he debuted. Once I moved here for university I would spend my time doing homework in their studio until Jimin was finished with practice. Hobi asked for my number and then months later asked me on a date," you explained. Jungkook was watching you the whole time, tentatively listening to your every word.

"I never knew he was Jimin's choreographer," he told you. You nodded in confirmation.

"What other questions do you have, because I can tell you have more," you giggled at the way he was focused on the table now.

"How did you meet Namjoon?"

"I met Joon at BigHit who Jimin is signed under. He was there to pursue a career in producing. When I had told Jimin about it he put in a good word without having met him. So, Joon got the job as a result."

"So, Jimin's done a lot for you, huh?"

"Yeah, he likes to help wherever I let him," you chuckled. At this point, you see the waitress coming your way with food. The delicious aroma flooded your sense of smell as she set the plate in front of you and handing you each a set of chopsticks.

"Thank you," you both say to her as you begin to eat. Jungkook waited patiently for you to take the first bite.

"Now, how did you meet Jimin?" Jungkook asked.

"Well me and Jimin are both from the same part of Busan. We went to the same schools. And, unfortunately, our moms are best friends," you sighed.

"Why's that a bad thing?" JK

"Our moms had this fantasy of getting pregnant at the same time and hoped that their children would fall in love and make them in laws like some cheesy romance movie," you explained, poking at your next bite of kimbap. Jungkook frowned at this explanation.

"How does Jimin feel about that?" He carefully asked.

"We dated one year in high school, but it only lasted like two weeks. We just wanted to see if things felt right, but it didn't work out so we went back to best friends," you explained, laughing at the memories of that time.

"So you met Hobi and Joon through Jimin. How did you meet Jin?" He asked, knowing that you didn't end up at Kim Publishing House and got Chief Editor after only two years by accident.

"I was Jin's intern my last year of university. I met him through my journalism professor who had done nothing but brag about how much promise I had shown in her class," you said. Jungkook smiled at how eager you were to answer all of his questions.

"So, you're just well connected?" Jungkook chuckled, sipping from his drink. You nodded with a small smile on your face.

"I'm just glad that the job part was all on my own. Jin was giving me high praise when he read my articles from my uni's newspaper. I had a whole portfolio ready to go around to different newspaper and magazine companies but he offered me a job the day I graduated, just editing new authors and stuff like that. I was getting work done ten times faster than anyone else on our floor. The Chief Editor at the time was pushing towards retirement and had been giving me all of his work so Jin phased him out and gave me the job," you explained further, telling Jungkook about the year you had worked before he started at Kim Publishing.

"Where do you think you would've ended up if you didn't work at Kim Publishing?" He questioned.

"Probably Min Press. I had an interview the day before Jin offered me the job, but Yoongi was the one who interviewed me so I instantly turned it down when Jin called me," you told him. You went back to eating but Jungkook was frozen with rage.

"Well, I'm glad you took that job otherwise we'd never have met," he said, being completely sincere. Your heart fluttered and you turned away to hide the increasing blush on your face.

"Aw, don't hide your face, Princess," he cooed in your ear, making you giggle as you turned back to him.

"Shut up," you smiled as you both went back to eating, sharing laughs here and there.

You two sat for about an hour, just enjoying be in each other's presence. The last of the kimbap was forgotten on the table as Jungkook was currently telling you a story of him and his brother from when they were younger. It had you in a fit of laughter because of how vivid you could imagine it.

"And our mom just walked in and we both froze like we had our hand in a cookie jar," he laughed as well.

You both sat there for almost two hours, just telling each other anything and everything that has yet to be known in your relationship. You observed that Jungkook chooses to listen and observe more than he likes to offer his input. It was quite endearing. He asked many questions about your early childhood, trying to understand the Y/n you were before you had met. What he didn't expect though, is that you were a shy little girl who only ever talked to Jimin. He thought you to be outgoing all your life like the first time you had ever met. Over desert you discussed more of Jungkook's life before you met. It was nice to finally hear him gush about his life in Busan before meowing to Soul. His eyes were lit up like Christmas lights.

As you both finished your shared food, Jungkook told the waitress that you were ready for the check. She nodded and walked away for two minutes before bringing the black book back. You went into your wallet to at least pay for half, but Jungkook held your hand as he already slid his card into the booklet and returned it to the waitress.

"Kookie," you whined as she walked away.

"Never thought I would have you whining this early, Princess," he whispered in your ear causing you to turn crimson.

"Here is your card, sir. Have a nice evening," the waitress smiled at the both of you. Jungkook tucked the card back into his wallet as he stood from his seat, offering you his hand.

"I be,I've we have a vase to go pick up," he smiled. You held his hand as he led you back to the car. Once again, he opened the door for you and you smiled. As he began to drive, he rested his hand on your thigh, stroking the soft skin with his thumb. The movement caused goosebumps to settle over the area.

Jungkook parked near the BigHit building where Hobi's practice studio is and you could see his and Jimin's cars across the street. You began to get out and so did Jungkook.

"You don't have to come in," you told him.

"I know, but I want to," he shrugged, walking around the car to hold your hand. You led the way to the practice room and could hear some of Jimin's music playing from inside. You opened the door without knocking.

"Y/n/n!" Jimin said excitedly as Hobi paused the music. He ran up to you and wrapped his arms around you.

"Yah! Jiminie, you're all sweaty," you exclaimed, your face twisting with disgust. He pulled away and looked down at you.

"And you look beautiful. Where'd you go?" He asked as he took a sip from his water bottle.

"We went to dinner," you answered, gesturing between yourself and Jungkook. Jimin almost spat out his water when he registered what you said.

"Hey, here's your vase," Hobi smiled, handing you the piece of pottery. You carefully held it as you gave him a peck on the cheek as a thank you.

"Is that all you came here for?" Jimin asked, pouting in the process. You laughed at him which caused him to roll his eyes.

"Kookie bought me flowers and this is my only vase, so I had to swing by to grab it on our way home," you explained.

"Well, if the date is over, you wanna come listen to some new tracks I've been working on?"Jimin asked with a smile.

"The date isn't over yet," Jungkook cut in, causing Jimin to look over at him instead.

"Another day Jiminie okay? I'll take a look at your book Monday, maybe swing by the practice room?" You suggested, trying to appease your best friend.

"Yeah okay, that's fine," he huffed, turning to go back to his practice time.

"Party at my house Friday, you in?" Hobi asked as you both watched Jimin.

"Party at your house every Friday. Is it bring your own alcohol?" You asked, but he just chuckled before wrapping an arm around you instinctively.

"When is it ever," he answered.

"Thanks for the vase Hobi, but we have to get going," you told him, patting the hand that was around you.

"Okay, I'll see you around," he said, walking back over to Jimin. You turned to leave but Jungkook wasn't anywhere to be found. You walked out the way you came in and found him leaning against his car.

"What are you doing out here, Koo?" You asked as you approached him.

"You looked pretty cozy with Hobi," he grumbled. You rolled your eyes at his words. Even when you were just friends, Hoseok had always showed his affection physically even before you were dating. Hugs, wrapping an arm around you, maybe even a snuggle here and there during a movie night. It was just natural for the two of you at this point.

"Koo, there's a reason we broke up. If I wanted him, I would still be with him," you explained to him. You gave him the truth but cut out the reason why it had ended with Hoseok.

"Do you mean that, Y/n?" He asked, looking at you with tears brimming his eyes. It made your heart ache to know that just seeing someone else's arm around you made him this upset.

"Of course I do. Why don't we go back to my place so I can put the flowers in the vase," you smiled, leaning in to give him a kiss on the cheek.

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thank you guys so much for reading! i apologize for the short chapter but i haven’t felt up to adding more so i just decided to post this now. 💜

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#bts x reader #bts x you #bts au #bts #jungkook x you #jungkook #eventual relationship #eventual smut #fluff #hoseok #yoongi #seokjin #namjoon #taehyung #jimin #coworkers au #coworkers to lovers

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newamsterdame · 7 years

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ok so here's a question unrelated to writing(though i really fucking love all your kiribaku stuff, quote love unquote is my favorite out of all of them so far and i love the emotions, both casual and intense, that come out of your writing style. you're just VERY good with tone, sorry for the tangent), how do you exactly get into law school, especially if it wasn't your first plan or major (i'm a sophomore)? like do i need experience, when do i start studying for the LSAT, etc? things like that

okay, so first thing’s first, here’s a caveat on everything i’m about to say: i don’t know what your major is, what school you’re at, what your grades are, etc. everything about applying to any graduate program is really particularized, and the best advice i can give you is to go talk to an academic counselor about any future goals you have. they can look at your records and help you come up with a realistic plan of when and how you should be doing things in order to achieve your goals. your school should have an academic counseling office, and they are there for you to use! make an appointment, ask a bunch of questions, have them look at your records and give you specific advice. never just take my word, or the word of any other stranger on the internet, as given. this is your future, make sure you’re getting advice from people who know your circumstances and who are certified experts.

that all being said, here are some general pieces of advice—

law school apps are made up of some fairly typical parts, but these aspects are most important— GPA, LSAT score, and letters of recommendation.

the easiest way to get parts 1 and 3 without tailoring your life to law school is by taking classes you’re interested in, doing your best at them, and communicating with your professors. if you have a professor you really like, take another class with them. go to their office hours. make sure they know who you are. you don’t need to have this relationship with every professor you have, but you should known 2 or 3 of them well enough that they can write you letters, someday. when i applied to law school, i had letters written from professors in very different fields, and neither had anything to do with law. but they knew my work and my passions, and could express that.

it doesn’t matter what your major is. certain fields (philosophy, political science, etc.) are more common conduits to law school, but no major is a real bar to getting in. in fact, most law schools like having “diversity” in terms of undergraduate degrees in their incoming classes. i have friends who studied biology, physics, international relations, sociology, classics, archeology, history, english, comparative literature, creative writing… and all of them ended up in law school, somehow. so: don’t take on a major because you think it’d get you into law school. do take on a major because it is a field you enjoy, want to learn about, and can succeed in. much more important than your given field is how well you did in that field.

you don’t need legal experience to go to law school. i had never set foot in a courtroom before applying, and it didn’t hinder me. some people work as paralegals or intern at law offices, and i think that’s helpful insofar as it lets you get a grasp for how much you like the work. i don’t think most law schools particularly care, though. if you’re looking for a way to fill the summer, maybe think about a legal internship. but i wouldn’t consider this a must.

you should study for the LSAT when you’ve got the time to devote to studying for it. most people, and the trend is increasing, take time off (at least a year), between undergrad and law school. i graduated in june, spent the next couple months studying, and then took the exam in september and applied to law school that fall. while i was applying, i had a full-time job, but i didn’t have any other obligations. i wasn’t trying to balance studying for my undergrad degree with studying for the LSAT. a lot of people can do that, and are very successful! some people go straight through from undergrad to law school and are totally fine. but it wasn’t what i did, and i think the time off was good for me, personally. i also took a class for the LSAT to have structure, and literally spent at least 6 hours a day studying. i took it seriously. the test is dumb, but the score you get on it matters. you know you best— plan to take the exam when you will have the time to devote to it.

but some schools are starting to accept the GRE instead! this is perhaps a positive trend, but i don’t know much about it or how it’ll affect your chances. talk to an advisor about this, probably.

honestly, though, the best advice i can give is to take your time and devote yourself to your undergraduate education for its own sake. if you like what you’re doing in undergrad, the rest will come from that— connecting with your professors, getting good grades, etc. you need to take undergrad seriously, basically. and i would also recommend doing undergrad in a way that lets you enjoy the experience. it’ll take you pretty far. be proactive about planning ahead— go see that counselor! — but don’t stress too much. don’t take on things that will impede your success in core areas.

*this is all based on the american system because i have no knowledge of anything else.

**thank you for enjoying my writing, i really appreciate that!! and good luck with all this.

#quality reply blog #advice blog #lawyering

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