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yukishirostar · 3 months

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So people are talking about a post in the Zolu tag by a certain tumblr user in regards to their issues with Zolu as a ship. They shall be unnamed because i dont wish to bring attention to them and instead just want to focus on their arguments because they're not the first people to make some of these points and so this is also an opportunity for me to talk about these things (a tweet is going around on Twitter containing these screenshots with the username so you can find it there if you need to anyway).

The way this person dismisses the relationship between Zoro and Luffy as a result of needing to pair gay Zoro with someone is too laughable, they must be very fit in order to be able to do these mental gymnastics. I believe that many people who are going on about the Zolu scenes in the OPLA were already Zolu shippers who were familiar with the original story and are enjoying the moments because they were well, really good Zolu moments? And there is actually, shockingly, many good Zolu moments in the original story too which is why many people ship them. Wild, I know.

Then there's 'straight-washed Sanji'. Equally if not more of a bizarre thing to believe. I might make some people mad especially the Sanji stans out there who constantly insist on the 'repressed queer' narrative with his character, but Sanji is written pretty explicitly to be seen as a cisgender and heterosexual character. The way you say with your whole chest that Luffy is 'canonically' aroace but don't acknowledge that Sanji is 'canonically' cishet is beyond hypocritical. If you believe Sanji looking like a 'misogynistic straight man' is different from the way he is written in canon then maybe you should go back and reread/rewatch series with your eyes open this time. If you wish to headcanon him with the frankly offensive repressed bisexual/transgender cliché then go ahead, but that is clearly not the intention Oda has with his character.

There's also the fact that aroace people can uh. Be in relationships. Get married. Have children. Did it occur to you that many people who ship Zolu ship them as an ace couple or-

First thing I want to say here, as a trans man who is 'mlm', can other dudes stop with this idea that women or fem-aligned individuals enjoying homosexual relationships between two men is inherently fetishising or that as a masc-aligned individual your enjoyment of a ship is morally superior in some way. Stop pulling out your 'mlm/ transmasc / cis gay' card in order to justify why your ship is superior. Its cringe af.

But if we are to insist that 'cishet female gaze fetishising mlm' is going on then ironically Zosan fits that the better than any ship in the fandom. It being by far the most popular mlm ship means there is likely a higher proportion of people who identify as cishet women who ship it. Its also the classic 'two men who dislike/hate eachother and have a toxic relationship but hot sexual tension' slash/yaoi stereotype. Majority of Zosan I've come across is depicting Zoro as the masculine male man in the relationship while Sanji the effeminate twink that Sanji stans project themselves onto and they go crazy for the bickering that is apparently reminiscent to them of a toxic heterosexual marriage. Meanwhile every Zolu/Luzo shipper I've interacted with has been some flavour of queer and Zolu is closest to the 'falling in love with your same sex bestie' narrative that the majority if not every non-heterosexual person has experienced at least once in their lifetime. This is just my personal view of course, but I think noting a difference in perspective on this topic is interesting and reveals that at the end of the day this is totally subjective and based purely on anecdotes.

Also it's just a very weird point here that apparently OP has 'plenty of varied queer rep' (it actually doesn't have that many canonical queer characters in relation to its cast size but anyway) and other media doesn't so shipping aroace characters in gay relationships is valid in those but not in One Piece … HUH???? So you're saying if One Piece had 'less' queer rep, then Zolu would be fine to ship? Idek my brain hurts.

"I have black friends so I'll speak for the black community and get offended for them" (btw this person then proceeded to block aroace people who had issues with their depiction of aroace people).

Also if we're talking canonical depictions, the only thing Zoro has been canonically depicted as is also aroace, equally if not moreso than Luffy. So by your own rules, you can't ship a cishet (sanji) with an aroace (zoro), therefore Zosan is now invalid. Stop erasing Zoro's aroace identity bigot.

'Categorically wrong' makes me laugh. I don't ship Zoro and Nami but like, people can ship what they want to??

'The general public is aware enough of gay people and how to spot them these days' uh... firstly this sounds very homophobic. Secondly the general public (cishet ppl) are famously bad at recognising queerness even when its in flashing lights before them. Thirdly you make it sound like Zoro was going around on roller skates and booty shorts listening to YMCA and Madonna in the show. I do agree he was gay-coded but it was mostly because he had sexual tension with every man he interacted with, not for the strange reasons you pointed out...

Its kinda the elephant in the room too but like. These are just headcanons. You can have multiple headcanons and interpretations of a character's sexuality. I can see Zoro as aroace virgin one day and a gay h*e the next. I'm actually allowed, legally, to do that.

The way they think shipping Zolu is harmful to aroace representation when BOTH characters are closest to being canonically aroace than anything yet ship Zosan, label being anti-Zolu as some kind of pro-ace activism, and then proceeded to block aroace people for criticising their incorrect depiction of what being aroace is...

This was a lot of words to say that you don't like a ship. Just say you don't like it, and it gets in the way of the ship you like, instead of writing a virtue signalling essay to justify your reasoning. Please.

They had some more to say on future posts I'll just pick my favourite bits

They really have this narrative that Zolu is only popular because of OPLA and can't fathom that its just a popular ship in general and always has been huh. And they couldn't make it more obvious that they're totally salty about it ranking in the top 100 most popular tumblr ships, lmao.

Your classic case of 'self-identifying ally who speaks over the people they are supposed allies of'. Its a general rule that you feel the need to declare yourself an ally you're probably not an ally, actual allies know they need to just shut up and do the work. Saying 'this character's aroace' and 'I have aroace friends' actually isn't what allyship is, thats just accepting that ace people exist which is like... the baseline.

Calling a wholesome loving ship like Zolu an icky ship is a severe consequence of online brain (this person is 26 years old btw)

#long post #Zolu #Luzo #One Piece #response

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drdemonprince · 3 months

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I'm curious to know your take on the whole fujoshi pisscourse because I'm semi new to it and no matter how much the internet says I should be appalled that some cis women flick their beans to gay stuff... as a queer guy I simply cannot bring myself to care. I have experienced cis straight women in queer spaces being rude or even sexually inappropriate, especially to performers, but I just don't see the relationship between that and the girls watching gay porn. And I've also seen people argue that it's bad because cis straight women who are artists will write/draw stuff about gay men that's inaccurate... but again I don't see this as nefarious as the twinks on tiktok want me to believe it is, like who cares.

Yeah, I'm with you 100%. What a person gets off to is their business and no type of porn belongs to one identity group.

My gay male bestie in high school got off exclusively to straight porn -- he found the women in straight porn easier to relate to than the types of big, masc guys that get depicted in most gay porn videos.

I watch porn of any fucking gender combination because what I care about is the hypnosis and power exchange, not the people involved.

I know this couple of two trans women that broke up when one walked in on the other watching gay male "sissy" porn -- she considered it an insult to her own identity and worried that it meant her trans femme partner wasn't "really" a woman or didn't see her as one. It led to the disastrous, messy termination of a relationship of many years, and the entire basis for the rift was nonsense.

I like a lot of detrans kink / forced detransition porn because of my own insecurities and worst fears. It strikes a chord in a hot way. Before I transitioned, I looked at a lot of gay male porn especially of the silly fanfictiony variety because it gave me something to project my longings onto.

Lots of trans mascs are "cis female fujoshis" like that. And yeah, some cis women are too! They may like the escape from conventional gender role baggage, or they may have some latent gender-fuckery of their own that the fiction is allowing them to explore, or maybe they just like guys a lot and so seeing two guys together is twice as hot to them. No amount of discourse is gonna keep straight men from watching lesbian porn. So let's leave the girls to whatever gets them off!

(incidentally, I know a lot of lesbian fujoshis too).

We shouldn't be policing what others' eroticize. A person's identity has no bearing on what they might find interesting to look at or fantasize about. What matters in terms of 'protecting' the queer community is having guidelines on behavior.

The problem with cishet women being predatory at the club isn't that they're cishet, it's that they're groping people, getting in people's faces, and being rude. Anyone of any identity can do that. The only way we can prevent bad behavior is by having rules and procedures in place for dealing with it in anyone. Not by restricting which identities are allowed in the door -- that will only ever play out in a transphobic way and a way that's hostile to the questioning and closeted, and I'll have no part in it.

And certainly none of us have any business butting into what sexual thoughts play between a person's ears. There are no thought crimes. There are no emotion crimes. There are no arousal crimes. There are only behaviors that can hurt others, and if someone's actions are respectful and harm no one, their identity and what they get off to is completely their business.

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thedamnlesbian · 11 months

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Stupid Valorant pronoun/sexuality hcs that nobody asked for :D

These are headcanons, you don’t have to agree ^^!

(Warning, This is me getting used to the whole layout thing + I hc almost the entire cast as Polyamorous)

Brimstone - He/they - I have no clue what his sexuality would be - This man is a he/they in a “I use he/him but people can use they/them on me” sort of way

Omen - Any pronouns(including neos/xenos) - Polyamorous queer - I feel like Omen wouldn’t really care about what people call them, she has her likes and dislikes, but isn’t really concerned about his gender

Viper - She/it/they - Polyamorous Aroflux Lesbian - Librafeminine - Okay. This might be purely projections but I’m a firm believer that Chamber and Viper are more queer platonic partners than romantic partners, again, I might be projecting as I am aroflux myself but let me have this

Raze - She/they/art/ze/boom - Lesbian - RAZE IS A LESBIAN. NANOBOMB LESBIANS REA

Cypher - He/it - Polyamorous Bisexual - Trans man - This man is a bisexual. There’s no denying it. (+BONUS!!! Nora - She/they - Trans woman - Bisexual - I NEED MORE NORA HCS. AMIR AND NORA T4T FR!!)

Sage - She/they - Polyamorous Lesbian - Sage doesn’t look like a man liker I’m sorry(also might just be me projecting)

Sova - He/it/hush/owl - Polyamorous Gay - Trans man - Right so the neo pronouns are most definitely projections AHA . I love Sova so much he’s such a silly guy (I ship him with almost the entire masc valorant cast I shit you not)

Phoenix - He/they - Polyamorous Bisexual - I. I have no explanation for this. There is no way Phoenix is straight .

Jett - She/they - Polyamorous Pansexual - I ALSO HAVE NO EXPLANATION FOR THIS The entire valorant thing is gay as hell

Breach - He/it/flair - Queer - Trans masc - This guy’s gender is screaming.

Reyna - It/she/eye - Polyamorous Lesbian - REYNA IS A WOMAN LIKER !!!!!! SHE KISSES WOMAN !!!! I’M SAGE I WOULD KNOW !!!!!!!

Killjoy - they/It/xe/ze/she/bot/bit/robo/robot/nano/sys/com/tech/pix/pixel/exe/dot - Lesbian - Pangender - I’m so getting yelled at for this one . LISTEN. THERE IS NO WAY THE TECH LESBIAN IS CIS. IM SORRY BUT IM NOT SORRY . KJ’S GENDER IS ROBOTS.

Skye - She/they - Ambiamorous either Bi or Pansexual - Skye is so silly, idk if she’s bi or pan, but she swings both ways

Yoru - He/they/it - Polyamorous Bisexual - When I was first learning the game and didn’t know the names of the characters I called Yoru ‘the bisexual’, and that has been so ingrained into my mind that whenever I panic and can’t speak properly I go “AH THERE’S A BISEXUAL-”

Astra - They/she/star - Lesbian - Listen I know that Galaxsea is great but I love Astra, Skye and Harbour as a gay/bi/lesbian trio, also because I love to think of their dynamic as a siblings

KAY/O - He/It/They/Bot/Toaster - no romance - I feel like he wouldn’t describe himself as aro/ace? Mainly because he doesn’t care. The neo pronouns were given to it by KJ as a joke, but the neos ended up sticking

Chamber - He/it/gold - Polyamorous Pansexual - They guy is so desperate he will try anyone. Honestly the guy just wants to be loved but at the same time is terrified of commitment

Neon - She/they/shock - Pansexual - Neon likes everyone, I don’t make the rules(but I do)

Fade - She/they/dae - Ambiamorous Lesbian(or omni fem lean idk) - Fade kisses Viper all the time fr(Fearbite real)

Harbor - He/it - Polyamorous Gay - HE KISSES MEN !!!!!!! You cannot look at this man and tell me he doesn’t kiss men on a daily basis

Gekko - He/him - Bisexual - This dude swings both ways !! He’s definitely screamed to Reyna about his crushes :3

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anthony-1846 · 12 days

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can you tell me more abt ur turtles of you can?

Like wut r the turtles pronouns? Do they met April and if so how old is she? How old are the turtles? Is splinter present?

Feel free to answer no pressure! I love listening to ppl info dump 😋

Well, I have lots so say (also sorry for not responding earlier and sorry if there is misspelling or some sentences don't make sense). I'm still working on making all the designs so sorry if everything isnt really completed. Also this isn't really shown in the drawing I posted but their hands are sort of like Mona Lisa's in 2012.

Leo is 17, 6'2, and his pronouns are he/they, he is gay and trans masc, and he is based of a red-eared slider turtle.

Raph is 18, 6'6, he/him, bi, and he is based off of a alligator snapping turtle.

Donnie is 16, 5'11, they/them, and they are based off of a spiny softshell turtle. (They are also autistic)

Mikey is 15, 6'3, any pronouns, pan, and he is based off a mix of a ornate box turtle and a normal box turtle. (He also has ADHD)

I also have made my own version of Venus/jennika/Kirby and her name is Artimisa. (I don't really have much for her yet) All I have figured out for her is that she is 16, 6'2, and her pronouns are she/her.

Splinter is present but I haven't really made a design but I have some ideas in mind that I might draw soon.

I have made an idea for April and Casey. For April she would be 20-21, 5'4 (which is apparently the average height for women in the US), her pronouns are she/they, and she is lesbian. The turtles do meet April and I have a little idea how.

So April works at TCRI as a side job while she is at college and when she was walking home she accidentally discovered the turtles while they are trying to go back into the sewers. Donnie reacts by knocking her out (with brick or something idk) and they have to make her she doesn't tell anybody else about them so they bring her down into the sewers with them. That's all I have for that.

This April sketch was from a while ago and it's a pretty rough sketch so it's not that good 😭. I will draw an actually good sketch with colour soon for her and Casey.

I'm also thinking of names for my version/AU and my favorite idea is "Project Renaissance" which does need some explaining of their back story so I'm gonna do that as well.

TCRI would have little underground projects that were requested by the government and the general public didn't know about. One of these projects was trying to make mutate animals into anthropomorphic versions, the projects name being "project Renaissance" with the test subjects being named after Renaissance artists. Splinter is just one of the lab rats that the scientist name and Hamato Yoshi is one of the scientists working for TCRI on this project (I'm still figuring out the rest of that).

If you want to know more you can ask 😁

Edit

If your wondering these are their heights side by side

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ruthytwoshakes · 1 year

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• TF2 Class Swap - sketches are done! Just gotta figure out how to add a little more flair to their outfits. https://daffysbrainrot.tumblr.com/post/722513284945805313/howdy-everyone-i-got-super-inspired-by

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queenofalpaca · 3 months

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You ship Daniel/Quentin/Francis K? Me wanna ask what’s your hcs on their sexuality and gender identity

Well first off: my first ever ask! Woah

Alright, that out of the way, sexuality and gender hcs, let’s see. I’ll be honest, I haven’t really given it a huge amount of thought beyond ‘they’re all gay for each other’ but going off vibes… Francis strikes me as thoroughly gay, ngl. Daniel might be pan, I don’t think he cares about the equipment as long as the sex is fun, ya know XD as for Quentin… I wanna call him a disaster bi, but. Well there’s layers to this. Quentin is my blorbo of choice, which means he gets projected on in every way I can fit. Hence why he’s 100% trans in my heart. So, again, I’d live to call him a disaster bi, canon sort of gives me more gay vibes, and my projections want to make him some flavour of aro or ace… could be anything, really.

Now gender, I have a bit more personal experience with, so let’s see. Quentin, as I said, 100% trans. Trans guy, top surgery yes, bottom surgery no. He/him pronouns, 100% masc, because it makes me happy. Francis and Danny… honestly Daniel’s the blandest white guy in the comics, and I still haven’t totally figured out how I want to interpret him, but right now I’m gonna go with cis. Very securely so. As in he’d have no problem presenting feminine for fun, but he’s definitely a guy. Francis I usually make cis too, but there’s more flexibility there. He could be trans too. If I did go for it in a verse, I’d actually probably make him intersex, just for fun. Or nonbinary, that works too. He can have a little gender confusion, as a treat.

And that’s all the thoughts I can give you on this rn. Hope you enjoy? (is that what you say in this situation? I have no idea) I’d also love to hear people’s hcs on any of the three tbh (:

Thanks for the ask!

#quentin beck #daniel berkhart #francis klum #mysterio #my first ask #this was fun #maybe I should just become a mysterio fan-blog #or figure out how side blogs work…#headcanons

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golden--doodler · 5 months

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Here are some headcanons on gender/sexualities of some BB Characters (mostly just the main ones, but I’ll do a few side characters too, just for fun):

The Main Man Himself, Bob: I like to think of him as Cis and he’s already canonically Bi. Someone headcanoned him as a Trans Man, and that’s valid too!! But for some reason, I’ve always seen him as Cis. I just get that vibe from him. Maybe it’s because he reminds me so much of my dad and he’s Cis.

Linda: She uses Maxi Pads (which Gene sleeps on ☠️) and was pregnant, so she’s definitely AFAB. She’s probably Cis. I probably also see her this way because she reminds me of my mom, who’s also Cis. For her sexuality, I’ve seen headcanons of a few which I think are totally valid. I can see her as just straight, maybe being the token Cishet of the Belchers. I can see her as Bi. Her and Bob being Bi for Bi is such a cute idea. I also saw someone headcanon her as Pan, which I adore. But the Bi headcanon might be my favorite.

Tina: For her gender, I can see her as either Cis or a Trans Girl. Kind of leaning more towards Cis? Not sure. It can go either way for me. As for her sexuality, I definitely see her as Polyamorous. I mean, Two For Tina basically confirmed this with her wanting both Josh and Jimmy Jr. I like to think of her as straight and polyamorous, as she’s only really talked about boys so far. But I can see her as Bi too, tentatively. But I see her more as straight and polyamorous.

Gene: I definitely see him as Genderfluid AMAB and Bi, because I’m Genderfluid AFAB and Bi and projecting. It just makes the most sense to me, as he did have a legitimate interest in Courtney, but I just can’t see him as straight. It doesn’t feel right to me. Him being Bi makes the most sense to me. It’s hard to explain, but it just does. He seems like the type to just love people, which is why the headcanon of him being Pan I feel is valid too. But again, I like to project and say he’s Bi.

Louise: I can definitely see Louise as Nonbinary AFAB. It just makes the most sense to me. She’s definitely not Cis to me, as much as Gene is definitely not Cis to me. Some people have headcanoned her as Trans Masc, and that’s valid too, but it’s not my personal headcanon. Actually, one headcanon I also came up with is her potentially being Genderfluid like Gene, but Genderfluid AFAB, leaning more towards the androgynous side. It was short-lived, but I thought it would be fun. Someone also once headcanoned her as a Demigirl, which is very fun and unique, but I do see her as Nonbinary AFAB the most. That headcanon makes the most sense to me. As for her sexuality, someone headcanoned her as Panromantic Asexual, and that was very fun. I can see that. I can also see her as Biromantic Asexual, or just Biseuxal. But I like the Panromantic Asexual headcanon the most.

Teddy: I don’t know why, but I really enjoy headcanoning Teddy as a Trans Man who is also Bisexual. I don’t know why, but it just makes sense to me. And he’s definitely a Trans Man who takes hormones, but hasn’t gotten surgery because it scares him (he just wears a binder all the time or thick shirts/sweaters to hide his chest). And he feels very Bi to me and someone who lowkey has a crush on both Bob and Linda, but won’t really act on it, as he respects them and their marriage too much. And he knows he has a nice thing going with Kathleen.

Rudy: I love Regular-Sized Rudy so much. Some people have begun headcanoning him as a Trans Girl, and I think that’s super cute!! @br1ghtestlight mentioned him keeping his hairstyle even if he’s a Trans Girl, and I agree. That would be adorable. So I like to think of this as a cute possibility, but I can also see him as just Cis. As for his sexuality, I’m honestly not sure?? Could see him as maybe a Lesbian if he’s a Trans Girl, but I’m not sure otherwise.

Jimmy Jr.: I could see him as either Bi or Gay. @br1ghtestlight has also headcanoned him as Aro/Ace, and I can see that too. Him being either Gay and heavily closeted or Aro/Ace and heavily closeted both make the most sense to me. I haven’t thought much about his gender identity. Probably just Cis?? I don’t know.

Zeke: Zeke is definitely Bi to me. It just makes sense. He’s straight-up told Tina he had a crush on her, but he also seems the type to want to explore relationships with men when he’s older, and ends up just liking people. @ratguy-nico headcanoned him as Trans too. That’s definitely valid, but I’m not sure if I headcanon him as a Trans Guy. Honestly, I don’t know what I headcanon him as gender-wise. Maybe Cis. Still not sure.

Mr. Ambrose: Yay for Mr. Ambrose being canonically gay, or at least into men!! What an LGBTQ+ icon. I can definitely see him as either Nonbinary or Agender AMAB. He just seems like the type to not really care about gender or what people call him (I like to think he uses any pronouns too—technically prefers He/Him, but really doesn’t care). There’s hardly any Agender representation at all, so I like to headcanon him as Agender the most. He seems very GNC and would wear a skirt to school one day without any hesitation and no one would question it.

Mr. Frond: Some people have headcanoned him as a Trans Woman. Gender Euphoria Gloria lives rent-free in my head. I love it. But someone headcanoned him as a Trans Man, and I can’t get that idea out of my head. I love that headcanon too. I can easily see either one. But regardless, this man is definitely not Cis. As for his sexuality, he seems like the type to keep claiming he’s straight, but is really Bi. I say this because of his short-lived relationship with Gayle, which he seemed legitimately invested in until he cheated, and I love shipping him with Mr. Ambrose so, so much. They’re the ultimate awkward middle-aged sweater vest power couple. It’s incredible.

Jimmy Pesto: He’s probably Cis, let’s be honest (he just has that Cis Alpha Male Toxic Masculinity vibe). And he seems the type to claim he’s straight all the time, always being like “Come on, I like women, I was married to one at one point!” but he’s probably Bi and just absolutely refuses to explore that part of himself at all. Maybe one day, if he lets his guard down, he might. But honestly, who knows.

Calvin Fischoeder: He gives me a Cis vibe. But look at this man. This man is definitely not straight. Come on. You cannot look me in the eyes and tell me this man is straight. He probably does like women, considering his strange relationship with Shelby. But he’s not straight. He has such a weird sort-of crush and strange homoerotic tension with Bob it’s honestly insane. I can see him as maybe Bi, but because of the time period he grew up in, he couldn’t explore that at all. I can also see him as Gay and very repressed, and his infatuation with Shelby is just Comphet. I can see either pretty easily.

Grover Fischoeder: I have no idea why, but for some reason, I desperately wanted to headcanon Grover as a Trans Man. Don’t ask me why, because I have no idea. I just thought that would be a fun, random headcanon. I honestly don’t know what to canon his sexuality as. I can’t really see him with anyone, so maybe Aro/Ace?? I still have no idea.

That might be all the people I’m going to headcanon. This was more than I was expecting to do!! But in conclusion, the only person here I can maybe see as Cishet is Linda. But even then, I can just as easily see her as Bi or Pan.

But these are just my opinions!! There are so many different, lovely ways you can interpret all of these characters.

#bobs burgers #headcanons #doodler’s daydreams #this was so random but really fun #and also much longer than i expected it to be #it’s actually so fun to give gender and sexuality headcanons to characters #but i wanted to make it clear that these are just my opinions!! everyone has their own headcanons for these characters

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fabulouslygaybean · 1 year

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For the hyperfixation ask game: 📌💔🏳️‍🌈

ohoho here we go

📌 - how did you find your hyperfixation?

i basically went down a rabbit hole and eventually ended up here lol. back in mid september, i was feeling nostalgic at like 2am and decided to look up some tmnt stuff because i used to be SUPER into the 2012 series when i was in elementary school, and i saw some folks talking about rottmnt. some of it was about the great animation, and others were 30+ year olds whining about how different it was, and that was enough to hook me in lol. i found the premiere/pilot episode that nickelodeon uploaded to their facebook page, then i saw the trailer for the rottmnt movie, and i watched both seasons over the course of the following week.

💔 - tell us about one of your LEAST favorite characters and why you dislike them.

i don't like either of the sando brothers, unfortunately </3 i just think they're both kind of annoying, and not in an enjoyable way. i know they're more or less just one-off characters used to add more villains and such, so they're obviously not gonna be as well developed as the rest of the villains, but i just. don't like them very much :')

🏳️‍🌈 - do you have any headcanons that are important to you?

YES YES YES. okay so, like,,, im usually not super concrete about my headcanons and such bc i like playing around with this stuff, but i DO have some that stay pretty consistent:

leo - gay trans man w/ adhd <3 he/they, bc why not. plays guitar but sucks at it bc he barely practices (projecting onto him lmaoo). sneaks out of the lair to go to shitty concerts sometimes, both in the hidden city and on the surface. medic of the team, but tends to pass off the more severe stuff to donnie.

donnie - bi, queer, and masc aligned nonbinary (or agender maybe. kinda like both headcanons so i can't pick between them). they/he, but he doesn't really care about terms (masc/neutral are usually used by others, but they don't mind fem ones either). autistic, but idk if that counts as a headcanon since it was confirmed as canon recently? but yeah. loves plants and botany in general, even though tech is still his wheelhouse. second most capable when it comes to cooking (behind mikey, of course), he just doesn't do it very often. also sneaks out like leo does, but he usually just does stupid and/or mildly to moderately unsafe shit bc dude likes the adrenaline.

raph - unlabeled queer. he just doesn't feel the need to pick a label, y'know? he's just raph, and that works for him. folks usually use he/him bc it's familar, but he has no real preference most of the time, so any work. autistic + possibly some other flavor of neurodivergent. picked up knitting at some point and he sometimes makes gifts for his family. the only brother with a decently strict sleep schedule.

mikey - pan + either genderflux or demiboy. any pronouns, but his preference changes pretty often. adhd, dyslexic, and probably autistic. lots of vocal stims bc i like projecting <3 him + raph used to be closer, but they drifted apart a bit as they got older (they're still close, of course, but it's different compared to when they were kids). his favorite season is either spring or fall. despite how seemingly adept he is at handling other people's negative emotions, he SUCKS at handling his own. buddy tries to bottle that shit up and it does Not work out.

aaand those are my current favorite ones i think. ive got some, uh,,, slightly more embarrassing ones ig? nothing objectively bad obviously but. just might talk abt them in the tags bc i can <3

#asks #this turned out a LOT longer than expected but it was really fun to ramble about it for so long :'D #anyways. onto the Secret Extra Headcanons because im easily embarrassed and im too chicken to say them in the actual post lmao #so. i project onto these guys a fair bit. not to the point where they're unrecognizable but still quite a bit.#aaand i. umm. think it would be kind of funny if leo and/or donnie enjoyed the Devil's Lettuce. because yeah.#they're TEENAGERS in NEW YORK. come on. it's not uncommon.#im definitely projecting onto them bc i am also a teenage enjoyer of that shit but. i just think its fun to imagine. it ain't hurting -#- anyone. y'know? im just some teenager having fun projecting onto teenage characters.#ive got lots of more personal headcanons but they'll never see the light of day. those are between me and my notes app <3

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ghelgheli · 1 year

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🔥 - furries

oh boy. woof. i was initially overwhelmed trying to pick out an unpopular opinion but i realized. why settle for one!

yeah, furry stuff isn't all about sex for everyone. it would be fine if it was though. it is fine if someone's interest in furry stuff is purely a sex thing. in an AU where being a furry was all about sex, it would still be fine. trying to wash over the horniness of many (not all) furries in an attempt to defend is a waste of time. someone's investment in furry media can be for the exclusive purpose of jerking off and that's all good ✨

there are no requirements to being a furry. it's not an ontological state with necessary and sufficient conditions. you don't need a suit. you don't need a sona. you don't need an account on xyz website. IT'S NOT THAT SERIOUS. nobody gatekeeping furryness in either direction is worth your time. you can appreciate one piece of furry media every three weeks and call yourself a furry. you can follow three hundred furry artists and say you're not. it's not serious.

there is no essential political economy nor demographic composition to "furry culture" of any sort. there are commie furries. there are lib furries. there are nazi furries. there are lots of gay and trans furries and there are lots of cishet furries. furries are, modulo the sort of selection that occurs in filtering who has access to online and offline spaces where furry stuff might happen, basically just a subset of the general population. which is to say that being a furry is value-neutral, and is neither inherently "revolutionary" nor inherently reprehensible nor inherently gay nor inherently straight. there is no one furry culture, and subcultures and communities can differ just as much as with non-furries.

furry aesthetics are a site of ambiguity. this is hardly unique to the furrosphere, but people can and do derive pleasure from furry content that may not in design align with their orientations and that's fine. as a very masc trans lesbian, i enjoy a lot of mlm furry art because i can project my own experiences of gender on to what is depicted (caveat: there is also a lot of nasty transphobia and transmisogyny in furry subcultures trying to misread trans characters, just as in many other subculture)

a lot of furry wlw art by wlws is boring. sorry about it. it's beholden to the same trappings of desirability as any other art and snzzzz. there are many many gems of course (gammelgaedda lookin at u) but the median looks like it was arranged in a sterile room with artificial lighting and forced poses. tbc i am in awe of the technical skill that goes into a lot of this art. it also just makes me feel absolutely nothing at all otherwise. and before someone grabs me by my goat horns: im not saying this is a problem unique to wlw art, nor that wlw stuff is especially vulnerable to it. but I'm a lesbian and that's what I seek out most, so it's what I'm commenting on

you can have as many sonas as you want. some people seem strangely committed to one person one sona. you can be as polymorphic as you like. you don't have to choose.

people joke about furry artists making bank but: a lot of them undercharge. i paid something like thrice the listed price for my icon bc it was worth at least that much.

there's this one furry art style, with airbrushed looking gradients and broad rounded curves and painfully neat lines. sharp colour boundaries and hypersaturation. idk if I'm conveying this successfully but it's everywhere. and i cannot stand it it's so unpleasant to look at sorry 😭

#ask answer #fur #ok this is getting long im done. for now.

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faggotron9000000 · 2 years

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thoughts on queerness 12.15.21

saw someone a couple months ago say smth along the lines of “you have to stop thinking of straightness as an identity and start thinking of it as a power structure” so here’s some exploration of that thought

lets set aside Identity for a second and remember that whether you are Queer is not entirely up to you. even if straightness is how you ~identify~ and what you aspire to, other straight people will class you as queer if your behavior doesn’t line up with straight expectations. many people who are queer did not become queer as a political project-- they didn’t sit down one day and decide that straightness was an offensive concept and wanted to identify as queer instead. they just have needs and desires and aspirations that are not accounted for within straightness, and straightness has rejected them for straying off its fairly-narrow path; queer identity, then, is a way to name and own and celebrate the things we are punished for.

i had a friend recently ask me whether, if they decided to start identifying & presenting a bit more on the masc side of things, while being attracted to women as they always have been, whether that meant they “have to be straight.” i said, no!! absolutely not!! not just because ~you don’t have to identify any which way if you don’t want to,~ but because your life is already so far off the path of straightness that the vast majority of straight people would not consider you one of them, even if you wanted to be. “straight” is not just whether Tab A goes into Slot B, and is not just whether two people in a relationship happen to have a vaguely m/f aesthetic.

think of it the other way around-- imagine a trans woman who aspires to marrying a nice boy, having kids and integrating into a larger family. we push back against the borders of straightness--the ones that claim her biology limits what her life can look like-- because it’s necessary for straights to accept her as Like Them if she is going to comfortably live out her aspirations as a wife and mom. whether you think her aspirations are good ones or not, she should be allowed to do that if that’s what makes her happy!! this is why we fight for her.

but queerness (and transness, more specifically!) in 2021 is also an opt-in identity. i do think its #valid or whatever to be “politically queer”-- you learn about feminism and the political underpinnings of straightness and decide you don’t want any part of that mess, so you opt out, even if the biggest life change you make is a haircut or a pronoun switch. i think that’s great, like, i’m happy to have those people under the umbrella with me, we care about the same shit and are intentionally allied together-- but the last decade of queer discourse has shown that people whose queerness manifests subtly also often consider themselves oppressed to the same degree as people who cannot go outside without harassment, and i don’t fucking love it!! its 2021, banks put up rainbows for all of june, pete buttigieg ran for president, being gay (and, depending on a lot of things, being trans or nonbinary) is just not culturally that big a deal anymore. queerness is a profitable niche now, and overfocusing on one’s own identity ignores the pressures of race and capital and politics and community that push us one way or another.

my point is not to delineate between who is ~really~ queer and who isn’t, but rather just point out that queer identity does not carry with it a universal level of oppression-- that’s not a bad thing, like, we made it that way on purpose, but it’s disingenuous to use supposed “oppression” to justify flexing power and cruelty towards more-marginalized people. when push comes to shove, queerness is just not all that relevant when compared to other factors (whiteness, class, community, location on the map, etc) when we’re figuring out what power dynamics might be at play in a given situation.

to me, queer identity is less a process of ~discovering~ your True Inner Self, and more a process of laying claim to your aspirations. this is especially true of young/”unrealized” (for lack of a better word) queer people-- identifying as [queer, trans, anything-more-specific] is one part giving a name to the things you already do/feel, and one part trying to feel out the outlines of where you want to go instead. identity is often the precursor for action.

so where do you want to go? what are your aspirations? what are your needs that are not being met, your desires that seem unattainable, and what source can you trace those desires (and their obstacles) to? at what point do you move beyond looking inward and look outward, not only at your internal sense of identity but the context in which that identity is formed? i think these are useful questions for investigating how you identify, what you want to do about it, and where you imagine yourself to be in the existing political hierarchy.

thats all for 2day 💞

#gender #queerness #please stop calling it 'gatekeeping' when i have nothing you would want and couldn't give it to you anyway

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sorin-sunchild · 3 years

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Testosterone does not ‘turn you gay’.

Wow this is going to reach like, nobody, but I’m saying it anyway and I can’t believe I have to. Like, I just learnt this was a thing especially on TikTok and I’m appalled.

Going on T does not turn you gay! Going on T does NOT turn you gay! GOING ON T DOES NOT TURN YOU GAY!

Nothing short of intense psychological manipulation and mental breaking can turn a person from one sexuality, to another. ‘Turned gay’ just isn’t something you can be. It IS homophobic to say you were turned gay by T, because it directly conflicts with the idea that sexuality is a natural thing you are born with. In fact, it even hints that if hormones can turn a person gay, then something can turn a gay person straight! Because in your world, that’s how sexuality works! Now, I’m not saying that your attraction to men can’t have ‘suddenly’ or seemed to suddenly appear around the time you started T. Trans people often have a complex relationship with sexuality, especially if you’re only attracted to a single gender. So it’s not out of the realm of possibility that the increase in libido that T can and does give to a lot of folks who take it ( and you feeling more comfortable as a man/trans masc person) could have allowed you to explore your attraction to men and realise you have it when previously you thought you didn’t.

But that isn’t ‘becoming gay because of T’. That’s ‘realising you were gay, because of becoming your real gender, helped by T’s increase in libido side effect’.

If T made people gay, there would be no ace or bisexual or het men (especially not cis ones) and no ace or bi or lesbian pre-HRT trans women. We know that’s not true. I shouldn’t have to say to you why that misinformation is therefore, pushing a lot of the wrong buttons giving a lot of wrong ideas about sexuality.

It also seem a lot of people are actually turned off by the idea that T will make them attracted to men. This also comes off homophobic because you (a man, or a trans masc person) are literally going ‘ew I don’t want to be attracted to men’ simply because you don’t like cishet men (something tells me you’d be ‘ok’ with trans men) and you don’t get away with saying men loving men is gross just because you’re not cis and might identify as a trans masc lesbian or ace or something.

Also, ‘ew I don’t want to be attracted to men’ also includes other trans men. You don’t get to say they don’t count in your aversion to men without also being transphobic. So like, question where you’re going with this. And no, having cis man related trauma doesn’t excuse you from being allowed to project this imagine. I’m here telling you right now that if you’re not attracted to men and were never meant to be, T won’t make you. Just absolutely quit it and shut down everyone who does this. It’s so much misinformation, so much fearmongering and has so many goddamn problems.

#tiktok #trans #transgender #hrt #trans masc #transition #hormone therapy #taking t #ftm hrt #hrt testosterone #ftnb hrt

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this isn’t a proper discourse post, I Agree with a lot of what the op said but there’s specific things about it that get under my skin in a way that makes me want to talk about it, but I don’t want to engage with that post both because I don’t want to speak over the point that’s being made and frankly because I don’t want to be misinterpreted because of the point that’s being made in it.

so for context, I’ll just say that it was a long post about how a lack of engagement with women characters in fandom spaces is tied to misogyny. just be aware that I’m responding to something specific and not criticisms of this in general. (feel free to dm me if you want to see the post for yourself)

the rest of this is going to be rambly and a bit unfocused, so I want to get this out the door right at the top: it is not actually someone’s moral obligation to engage with or create fan content. all other points aside, what this amounts to is labeling people as bigoted for either not creating or engaging with content that you want to see, and while the individual may or may not be a bigot it’s not actually anyone’s job to tailor their fandom experience to cater to you.

fandom is not activism. it’s not Wrong to point out that a lack of content about women in fandom is likely indicative of the influence of our misogynistic society. and suggesting that people examine their internalized biases isn’t just fine, it’s something that everyone should be doing all the time. but saying that it is literally someone’s “responsibility” to “make an effort” by consuming content about women or they’re bigoted is presenting the consumption of fan content as a moral litmus test that you pass and fail not by how you engage with content but by not engaging with all of the Correct content.

judging people’s morality based on what characters they read meta for or look at fanart for is, a mistake. it Can Be Indicative of internalized biases but it is not, in and of itself, a moral failing that has to be corrected.

if you want more content to be created about women in fandom then you do it by spreading content about women in fandom, not by guilting people into engaging with it by saying that they’re bigots if they don’t. you encourage creation Through creation.

okay, now to address what Mainly set me off to inspire this post.

this post specifically went out of it’s way to present misogyny as the only answer for why this problem exists in fandom spaces. and while I absolutely agree that it’s a Factor, they left absolutely no room for nuance which included debunking “common excuses.” which, as you can probably guess, contained the things that ticked me off.

first off, you can’t judge that someone is disconnected from women in general based on their fandom consumption because the sum total of their being is not available on tumblr.

people don’t always bear their souls in fandom spaces. just because they don’t actively post about a character or Characters doesn’t mean that they see them as lesser or that they don’t think about them. the idea that you can tell what a person’s moral beliefs are not based on what they’ve said or done but based on whether they engage with specific characters in a specific way in a specific space can Only work on the assumption that they engage with that space in a way that expresses the entirety of who they are or even their engagement with that specific media.

what I engage with on ao3 is different from what I engage with on tumblr, youtube, twitter, my friend’s dms, and my own head. people are going to engage with social media and fandom spaces specifically differently for different reasons. you can’t assume what the other parts of their lives look like based on this alone.

second off, there can be other factors at play that influence people’s specific engagement with a fandom.

they specifically brought up the magnus archives as an example of a show with well written women. which while absolutely true, does Not mean that misogyny is the only option for why people wouldn’t engage with content about them as often. for me personally? a lot of fan content is soured because of how it presents jon. I relate to him very heavily as a neurodivergent and traumatized person, and he faces a Lot of victim blaming and dehumanization in the writing. sasha and martin are more or less the only main characters that Aren’t guilty of this, and sasha was out of the picture after season 1.

while this affects my enjoyment of fan content for these characters To Some Extent on it’s own (I love georgie, I love her a lot, but I can’t forget that she looked at someone and told them that they were better off dead because they couldn’t “choose” to not be abused), the bigger issue is fan content that Specifically doesn’t address the victim blaming and ableism as what it is, even presenting it as just Correct.

this isn’t exclusive to the women in the show by any means, this is exactly why I avoid a lot of content about tim, but it affects a lot of the women who are main characters. that isn’t the Only reason, there’s more casual ableism and things that tear him down for other reasons (the prevalent theory that elias passed up on sasha because he’s afraid of how she’s More Competent In Jon In Every Single way. which comes with the unfortunate implications of jon being responsible for his own trauma because he just wasn’t competent enough to avoid it) but that’s the main one that squicks me out.

of course not all fan content does this, and I Do engage with content about these characters, but sometimes it’s easier to just stick with content that centers on my comfort character because it’s more likely to look at his character with the nuance required to see that it is victim blaming and ableism.

it’s not enough to say that the characters are well rounded or well written and conclude that if someone isn’t consuming or creating content about them then it has to be due to misogyny and nothing else.

there’s also just like, the Obvious answer. two most prominent characters are two men that are in a canonical gay relationship, which draws in queer men/masc people on it’s own but the centering of their othering and trauma Particularly draws in traumatized queer people that are starved for content. georgie and melanie are both fleshed out characters in and of themselves, but their relationship with each other doesn’t have nearly as much direct screen time. and daisy and basira have a lot more screen time together and about each other, but their relationship is very intentionally non-canon because of its role as a commentary on cop pack mentality.

people are More Likely to create content for the more prominent relationship in the show and be drawn into the fandom through that relationship in the first place. I have no doubt that there Are misogynistic fans of the show, but focusing on the relationship and the characters that make you happy isn’t and indication that you’re one of them.

which brings us to the big one, the one that sparked me into writing this in the first place (and the last that I have time for if I’m being honest). the “common excuses” section in general is, extremely dismissive obviously but there’s only one section that genuinely upsets me.

without copying and pasting what they said directly, it essentially boils down to this: while they recognize that gay and trans men are “allowed” to relate to men, they’re still Men which makes them misogynistic. Rather than acknowledge Why gay and trans men would engage with fan-content specifically that caters to them they present it as a given that it’s 100% due to misogyny anyways. they present queer men engaging with content about themselves as them treating women like they’re “unworthy of attention,” calling it a “patriarchal tendency” that they have to unlearn.

being gay and trans does not mean that you’re immune to misogyny, being a woman doesn’t even mean that you’re immune to misogyny, but that’s engaging in bad faith in a way that really puts a bad taste in my mouth.

queer men aren’t just like, Special Men that have Extra Bonus Reasons to be relate to boys, they’re people who are more likely to Need fandom spaces to explore facets of themselves. and while you can Relate to any character, it feels good to be able to explore those aspect with characters that resemble you or how you see yourself.

when I first started actively seeking out fandom spaces in middle school I engaged with content about queer men more or less exclusively. at this point I had no concept of what trans people were, and wouldn’t begin openly considering that I might be a trans person until high school. I knew that I’d be happier as a gay man before I knew I could be a gay man, and that’s affected my relationship with fandom forever.

I engage with most things pretty casually, reblogging meta and joke posts when I see them, but what I go out of my way to engage with is largely an expression of my gender identity and sexuality. I project myself onto a comfort character and then I Consume content for them because that was how I was able to express myself before I knew that I needed to. it’s not that girl characters aren’t “worthy” of me relating to them, it’s that I specifically go to certain fandom spaces to express and work through my gender and sexuality. that’s what I use those fandom spaces For.

I imagine that I’ll need this crutch less when I’m allowed to transition and if I ever find a relationship situation that works out for me. but also like, why should I? it’s not actually hurting anyone for me to explore my gender and sexuality through fanfic until the end of time. nor does it hurt anyone for me to focus on my comfort characters.

fandom is personal comfort and entertainment, not a moral obligation. people absolutely should engage with women in media and real life with more nuance and energy than they do, but fandom spaces are not the place to police or judge that.

#discourse #I've been writing and rewriting this for 4 and a half hours instead of going to bed before 9 am #I already know that absolutely no one is going to read this so I don't know why I did this to myself #also I couldn't find a place to fit this in so I'm just gonna say it here #sometimes people just engage with fandom based on characters that they find attractive #and if that means boys then that means boys #it doesn't have to be more complicated than that

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hyperfixationtimego · 3 years

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Do you ever just. Take you. And place it onto your kin. And call it a headcanon? Like, I, on a regular basis, say I hc Kaede as a nonbinary lesbian because like i kin them so hard its not even funny and I'M a nonbinary lesbian i just ychvkghgh

OH YOU MEAN LITERALLY EVERY HEADCANON I’VE EVER HAD???

My relationship with gender identity and sexuality is very complicated, but I KNOW a lot of how I headcanon my faves come less from Vibes™️ and more just from how much I fucking relate to them :sobs:

I’ve given Leon my physical sensitivities (auditory & tactile) as well as my body dysphoria :’) + I gave him overwhelming empathy and compassion that he can only express in the stupidest, most socially unacceptable ways haha,,,,,,neurodivergency go brr

Kazuichi next uh,,,

Because I’ve been diagnosed with adhd (the diagnosis is currently being questioned bc my therapist thinks it’s possible that I either actually have bpd or an auditory processing disorder instead but can’t confirm until I see a specialist for it; not important, but wanted to be transparent abt my status) and because I see a lot of myself in Kazuichi, I headcanon him as having it, too! He’s easily distracted in-game, his emotions are volatile and heightened, and he’s a fucking moron when it comes to social cues HENWHSKSN like sir.....u are literally me.....

So naturally I was like :) and decided that he stims by biting things! I can also see him wearing noise cancelling headphones!! (I don’t have these, but they would literally make my life so much more bearable oh my god. I just use normal ones because they dull sound so it isn’t too overwhelming) AND if he doesn’t have something in his hands that he can fidget with he’ll fucking DIE /j

Kaito is also on the “[points] u have adhd now” train <3 the man wears clothes wrong and he’s hyperactive I fucking love him (honestly now that I’m thinking about it, he might have bpd as well/instead? Like,,,,,buddy,,,,,👀)

[Korekiyo Shinguji TW from here on]

I’ve given Kiyo quite a few of my harmful coping mechanisms ngl,,,,,I also hc them as a masc enby!! anyway the harmful coping mechanisms are pulling their hair and hitting themself in the head when overwhelmed or having an anxiety attack

I hc them as autistic (I’ve had so many labels thrown at me that at this point I tend to just look at a character that has whatever traits got me pinpointed as possibly having whatever diagnosis at the time and going “yeah that fits.” honestly Kiyo checks the adhd and autistic boxes from my perspective so 😩) and I’m literally obsessed with their behavior and thought patterns!!! They infodump all the time?? Like hello??? And the sprite where they touch their little pendant necklace thingie is a tactile stim no I won’t take it back it’s true!!!!!

[Korekiyo Shinguji TW End]

But dude yeah I totally feel that??? And also can I just say I fucking LOVE non-binary lesbian Kaede and I would die for them omg

yo we could be enby lesbian and enby gay solidarity, considering I headcanon most of the characters on this list to be an enby gay or a trans gay (like I said, my relationship with all that stuff is complicated and I’m hhhhh but generally whenever I really really relate to masculine characters, trans/enby gay is my go-to hc for them!! I feel like my label preferences switch up every five seconds but enby gay,,,,,,,the serotonin I’m getting from applying that label to myself is UNREAL on god??? tbf explains a lot ngl)

okay I’m done rambling because I’m 100% certain that nothing in this post made sense HDNWHDMD but anyways yes self-projection headcanons are my lifeblood and without them I would die ❤️

#danganronpa #ask box #headcanon tag #anonymous #dr #I feel weird tagging the characters for this one so I’m not gonna

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gascon-en-exil · 3 years

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It's still somewhat astounding to me that a single offhand comment about trans headcanons for a Three Houses character got me a torrent of verbose anon hate, all presumably from one very loudly opinionated person. I'm not going to bother responding to those directly or any of the many that will assuredly follow - although I am old enough to be amused by the thought that the same whining the troll makes about trans headcanons contributing nothing to fandom could have been ripped right out of 2000s-era discourse, except back then it was about gay headcanons/fic - but a combination of candor and spite has nonetheless prompted me to put my current project on hold for a moment and talk a little about why I would have trans headcanons at all, and more specifically the kind that I do.

I have in the past suggested that, while I generally identify as cis, my gender has become more fluid in certain circumstances over the past half decade or so. Sexual circumstances, to be precise, to the point that I do now describe myself as "genderfluid in bed" for men who display an interest in such things. The common term for that is feminization kink, and for the men who are into that it usually manifests in little more than a desire to see me in lingerie and/or the use of associated wordplay during sex (ex. calling my hole a pussy/cunt, expressing a desire to impregnate me). I can understand why that might be appealing for some men; gay men collectively have a bunch of hangups with regard to straight men, and while that more often manifests through lewd fantasies of celebrities or watching porn where allegedly straight guys jack off for the camera I can also see in encounters with those men a desire to in essence RP as straight men fucking women. I get that from some bi men too, men who have explicitly enjoyed my natural androgyny and in some cases have even used their sexual experiences with cis women to add some extra flavor to our time together. Obviously this isn't a thing for all or even most gay/bi men - and guys who are looking for more masc partners are unlikely to start talking to me in the first place - but anecdotally speaking there are men of varying self-identified orientations who are into feminized AMAB sexual partners.

Now of course this comes to what is probably a more salient question: am I into that, or is it just one of several types of kink I'm willing to engage in because it broadens my appeal? There's no shortage of that in my sexual CV; I've let men suck on my toes, piss on me, tie me up, flog me, on occasion done all of the above to them, and more - but I'm sufficiently aware of my own interests to know that none of those things really turn me on. Feminization however I do like, so much so that I've noticed that I'm more genuinely attracted to men who treat me in what I perceive to be a feminine way, who take the lead in social situations and in intimacy and who enjoy the contrast in our bodies (these men almost always being bigger, hairier, and hopefully more well-endowed). The concept of treating me as feminine alone carries a ton of culturally specific baggage. The French are traditionally perceived as a more feminine/effete culture in the English-speaking world. Créole women like my female relatives and ancestors are notorious for the way they control their husbands, lovers, children, and (back when we had them) domestics while still constrained by the bounds of patriarchal society. It is through them that I learned most of how I conduct myself around men both in and out of bed, that the easiest way to control a man is to appear to be controlled by him while simultaneously enslaving him to his passions - passions that I intimately understand because I too have a dick. Most of my sexual partners come from backgrounds very different from that, so they have trouble understanding how I approach sex even if I'm trying to form an actual relationship with them. Still, some of them try, and I enjoy it when they do.

I've had trouble opening up about this before on my blog, not because of any trolls (although pissing off trolls is always fun) but because I've never been quite certain of how welcome talking about this would be. Most of the content and resources by, for, and about trans women online I've come across has concerned lesbian trans women, or otherwise centered around trans women's relationships (sexual or otherwise) with other women. As someone who still conceptualizes my gender identity first and foremost in relation to my sexual availability to men, those resources are unsurprisingly not going to speak to me very well. General trans content on Tumblr and other fandom spaces is similarly of little personal appeal, with the users skewing heavily AFAB and therefore more likely to feature trans men. I fully understand why that is, and on occasion I've been known to enjoy M/M porn where one character has a vagina with no explanation. God knows I've fantasized before about having an orifice that lubricates itself, doesn't need to be flushed out before sex, and is naturally built to take a cock. The philosophy behind most trans headcanons does elude me a bit though, as it seems to me like it'd be easier to keep a character's canon AGAB and change their gender identity rather than the reverse. Apparently that approach is much less common, but I can safely say that all of the handful of trans headcanons I've had involve canonically cis male characters imagined as trans female and sexually involved with cis male characters - big surprise there, right?

I get the impression that my perspective could easily be considered antiquated in several ways: that I emphasize sexual activity over the more nebulous sexual attraction when it comes to discussing orientation; that I prioritize my sexual activity over my gender identity; that I believe there exists a liminal space between fem cis gay men and straight trans women, and that there is historical precedence for such a space in pre-modern/early modern queer communities; and that to the extent that I've internalized a feminine gender identity I do so in the context of my relationships with men. Again, a lot of that comes down to culture, to the myriad ways in which queerness in New Orleans has retained its own history and character independent of other queer cultures in the English-speaking world. Maybe some of it sounds outdated, or misogynistic (I've seen that criticism lobbied at drag queens, and it would probably apply here too), or most bizarrely of all transphobic...but it's all nonetheless a part of who I am, and at the end of the day the only people whose opinions on this subject really matter to me are the men who want to take me to bed. To quote a particularly fitting verse from "Sugar Daddy" of Hedwig and the Angry Itch:

So you think only a woman Can truly love a man? Well, you buy me the dress, I'll be more woman Than a man like you can stand

Indeed.

#Pointless rambling #My sexcapades

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kuromichad · 3 years

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also idk how to really explain it but many things, particularly in emo culture, at that time were like... schrodinger’s gay... it was like. you WANTED things to be gay but knew better than to like, believe it, and just the like willingness of pop culture figures to Play with it, and the experience of having fandoms or whatever be excited by it along with you, was basically good enough... i feel like even though i was literally into them at the time and was openly bisexual and also clearly now am trans i like didnt even really comprehend how like gay/gender mcr was until i. saw people talking about it on tumblr like it was kind of a moment of Huh... So it wasn’t like, entirely in my head... does that make any sense. idk how much this was like a matter of the culture at the time (yknow, back when we didnt have gay marriage or like, performative wokeness) objectively vs my own weird lens on it due to not knowing i was trans yet but. Yeah

i think maybe the part that’s difficult to untangle is that like, there is a distinction between ‘doing things that will get you called gay’ and ‘doing things that ARE gay’ and the category of ‘things that will get you called gay’ was so broad and volatile back then. so yeah there were loads of emo bands with dudes who would do ‘things that will get you called gay’ aka wearing makeup, tight pants, singing a certain way, having lyrics about your Feelings. but many of those dudes would let it be called Guyliner, and their Feelings lyrics were still always about girls (and still had the capacity to be misogynist and/or violent), and just generally you could tell that even though they were willing to get Called gay they werent. vs there were other people who didnt like, assert masculinity in the same way, and were noticeably more comfortable in that gnc emo Look than some other guys were (and didn’t abandon it when they got more successful lol), and had less-straight or actively gay lyrics... but like. idk i think at least to me it still just came off like... ‘well i like that these guys arent being distractingly tryhard masc’ and that was it, rather than registering as ‘oh this is gay for real. youre not just like hoping it is or projecting like it’s actually there’ lmao.

and so i think maybe if youre younger and dont Remember the 2000s like that, you look at the entire scene and youre like well none of these celebrities are like flag-carrying LGBT Activists now, so all of that was Intentional Corporate Queerbaiting, or something... or like that’s not even what that op is saying huh. like they think the specific purpose of mcr (or, im guessing, emo in general) was to like Steal Queer Aesthetics and sell them to the public...? and like, sure, the whole Emo Boys Kissing thing generated profit but in the form of convincing guys who did not want to kiss boys to just dress similar to boys who kiss each other. the only people who actually carried on that part of the trend were like. people with actual gay desires. everyone else was just like being cishet in their emo jeans and feeling very proud about how counterculture they were for letting people call them gay for wearing emo jeans.

and the homoeroticism and androgyny in emo didnt just. come from nowhere??? it wasnt made up by marketing. if you wanted to accuse a band of selling a gay aesthetic in a straight way you have to go WAY farther down the chain of influence, like when you would end up briefly seeing Guyliner on bands that were making like, cheap top 40 butt rock for dads, because it did eventually become like defanged enough that it was like ‘this is just the thing to do if youre Alternative’ but. actual emo, especially early 2000s emo, especially early 2000s emo boys who were actually willing to kiss boys, were not the ones selling it in a straight way... they were the ones who were (As many gay people are) trendsetting and interesting enough to prompt other people to (whether earnestly or not) take on similar fashion and behaviors in order to like, form community. and that community of ‘people with an Alternative and often gay fashion and music sense’ just happened to get big enough to turn into a money thing

and again, getting mad about emo queerbaiting in 2021 is just completely fucking absurd because everyone at the time was so like cautious and defeatist that even gay people who wanted it to be gay didnt like believe it might actually be gay. this is why i cant stand queerbaiting discourse like bro at the end of the day no matter what it’s just gonna be about You and what You’re bringing to it and you could very easily be overlooking some important shit that’s, yknow, actually there, in the course of chasing after some imagined perfect reward. *2000s internet voice* End rant!

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