#nothing against labels

[princessefemmelesbian]

Well would you look at this. 😵‍💫 Because obviously if you dare say anything as wild and controversial as “lesbians don’t like men, please stop using a label that hurts us and tries to force men into our identity” you’re a raging terf radfem transmisogynist. Because obviously ONLY trans women use the bi lesbian label and it’s not like there are transfem lesbians who are rightfully against the label as well or anything and it’s not like terfs use the label to refer to cis lesbians who date trans women and why can’t you just let people identify as how they want of course lesbians like men stop the infighting already if you disagree with me that lesbians can like men then surely that’s because you’re an exclusionist gatekeeper who hates trans women.

#lesbian #anti-bi lesbian #trans women #lesbophobia #the raging hatred for lesbians on this site is getting to an all-time high tall will stop at NOTHING to gaslight us and make us out to be #hateful terf bitches for our sexuality #how many times are we going to do this same old song and dance #no i will not calm down i will be taken seriously #you CANNOT be a bi women as a lesbian idfc if you’re trans or cis #lesbians do not like men and bi women shouldn’t have to ‘oick a side’ by calling themselves lesbians #it’s absurd maddening and sad how little y’all respect us #and trans women always have a place in the lesbian community that doesn’t mean that ACTUAL MEN DO #shit #trying to frame this as ‘well you must be a terf if you are against bi lesbians’ is a shitty move and you’re not being original or clever #go fuck yourself #trans lesbians exist and are valid and the bi lesbian label hurts them just like it hurts cis lesbians if anything it hurts them more so #and i will block ANYONE who supports bi lesbians it doesn’t matter if they’re a trans woman a cis woman a trans man non-binary etc idfc #stop trying to frame this as exclusionary radfem rhetoric #bi lesbian as a term DOES support corrective rape idgas what lesbophobes like you want to say about it #that’s all goodbye #sorry but this got me mad you do not get to use transmisogyny as a clutch to spout blatant ass lesbophobia #i’m so tired of this shit #blocklist #op

[themthistles]

i think that while micro labels can seem useful and affirming ultimately they're isolating and kind of an obstacle to your understanding of self. that's because you can never find a word specific enough. there will never be a label or two labels or even ten, twenty of them to perfectly capture and describe all of your thoughts, feelings, experiences, preferences, needs, interests, identities, etc. because you learn more and more about yourself every day and then you change and your wants and needs change with you. having to hop between labels, fearing that you don't 'fit' into a label anymore (both in your own and others eyes), worrying how soon your current label will wear out, questioning if you'll ever fully fit a single one. all that causes a lot of uncertainty and anxiety which could be avoided by just picking a more general thing and molding it according to what it means to YOU. because words will always mean different things to different people, you will never be understood immediately and maybe never completely by anyone but yourself and that's fine

#another thing is that micro labels often feel like they fracture the community unnecessarily #idk how many times i've seen fighting over hyperspecific ace labels and what they mean and if people described in them even belong #and honestly i think this discourse wouldn't be so vile and neverending if people accepted the idea of falling under general umbrella #and accepted that you can't describe complicated weird and wonderful act of human existence with a couple of words #you don't need to explain yourself to anyone #i know in our present pronouns/sexuality/gender in bio carrd era it feels like you have to but you really don't #people aren't entitled to a short summary of your inner world and you can't speed run connection #also feel the need to say: i have nothing against people who use micro labels #if you feel like your micro label describes you perfectly? i'm really glad and happy for you #i'm just expressing my own thoughts and feelings that come from personal experience with exploring these things #at some point i started doubting if i could call myself a lesbian #i thought oh i'm not exactly what a lot of people generally think of when they hear that word #oh they'll misunderstand and i'm not being my 'true self' i'll find a word that fits me exactly if i just keep looking #and then i found out being aroace is a thing and boy did that add a lot of anxiety and confusion to the pot #i didn't feel like i fit in with both communities wasn't lesbian enough wasn't aroace enough #but at some point i just got tired of trying to justify myself to others and to myself #identities aren't houses you live in they're more like seas or rivers flowing into one another #and spaces where they intersect are vague and hard to define and they shift and change and this metaphor is getting away from me #basically #words are complicated #but they're the only direct way we humans can communicate #it is what it is #so make art #a lot of it #oh also unrelated but if you ever tell older queer folks that they're using wrong words to describe themselves i am going to jump you

[ramenwithbroccoli]

some Janka funfacts about music, communication and the memories her past 'owners' i've been marinating in my head:

her favourite songs belong to either one of two categories: they have a lot of simple phrases used in daily life, or a lot of specific, complex ones

she focuses on the lyrics (since she can use them for communication) rather than the melody; when she played a recording of Chopin once, she deemed it a waste of time and memory space. she only uses classical music when she wants to "put someone on hold" (doesn't want to speak to them)

she can use words from different songs to communicate, but frequent changes take a lot of effort - that's why she prefers lyrics with full phrases she can use. when in trusted enviroment, she would omit some less important words to save her energy, but she usually makes this effort around other people to seem more intelligent and worth keeping around

a young man who bought her, Ryszard Szewczyk, recorded the alphabet to make Janka communicate with him letter by letter. it was extremely ineffective, as not only Janka got exhausted after a simple sentence, it also turned out she didn't know how to spell

hearing and the ability to play music helped her compensate not only for her lack of speech, but also for not being able to see. since the horn amplifying the sound is her face and she can hear quite well, when someone is in front of her she can locate them because of the soundwaves bouncing off of them, in the mechanisms simillar to those of a bat

she remembers people whose houses she lived in by their voice, how rough they were when moving her about and the music they enjoyed. her favourite was Mirka, who had a deep, soft voice and would sometimes talk to her when she was feeling lonely. Janka remembers her fondly, as the first person to see her for more than just an object or a curiosity

#gotta work on the lore. all my notes are full of doodles of janka's 'owners' (i really do need to find a better word man) #but i guess some of them would wear that label proudly. because she was nothing more than am object with no way to speak out or walk away #ramen try not to make a robot character mute to potray their struggles against dehumanisation and objectification (impossible) #hope im not boring you with lore. because theres gonna be a lot soon 😔☝️ #spg fanbot #janka #original characters #oc

[bandzboy]

apparently some of the d-day screenings in isnotreal are sold out and even after everything that people did like contact hybe and trafalgar releasing they won’t cancel the dates but it’s insanely disappointing that now that some of these days are sold out or almost they definitely don’t want to cancel anything because they just care about money and i honestly want people to sit with this information. this is not to say that you should give up on it! we need to fight until the very end while also being aware the fact that, unfortunately, they might not cancel it and that the backlash will happen

#a lot of people have been tirelessly emailing and dming these people #just so they would cancel the screenings #no one can say nothing was done bc it was #it’s just sad that once again they care more abt money more than anything #hybe is on board with ruining an artist’s legacy #probably going against everything he stands for #just to get money from genocidal freaks #this should enrage you #today is yoongi tomorrow it can be any artist under hybe #i just want people to be aware of this #and be prepared for the eventual backlash if nothing is cancelled #hybe boycott #hybe #hybe labels #hybedivestfromzionism

[radiyostatic]

i don't really consider myself therian/otherkin/whatever but ohhhhhh specied dysphoria is so real sometime.......,

#species dysphoria #furry shit #nothing against therians and stuff its just idk #dont connect with that label #im just me ok

[estrogenism]

At what point can an (intersex) afab use transfem? I’m sorry if this question sounds weird, I’ve been questioning using it, but I don’t wanna overstep.

listen, i'm vocal on intersex issues, but i'm not the arbiter of intersex or transfem identities. i can't tell you what labels you can and can't use. like generally speaking if you are an intersex person of any casab and you feel like transfem is a label that fits your experiences with your gender and discovery, then use the label.

if you're worried about people attacking you for it? i'm not gonna lie to you, there will most likely be haters because people can't be normal about intersex and/or trans people. but generally just block them and tell them to fuck off if they try to tell you that you're labeling your experiences The Wrong Way™️

#i have nothing against you anon but i won't be answering questions like this in the future /nm #i do not feel comfortable with people resting their decisions about what labels they should use on an internet stranger's shoulders #you don't know me. i don't know you or your experiences. you shouldn't be relying on my validation or decisions to identify how you see fit #lelei speaks ★

[jerich0two]

Holy crap I love your blog and art ur so funny

(Sorry I'm only just getting around to answering this ^^")

Why, thank you very much! I suspect most of the funny stuff comes from reblogs, but be careful anyhow, or you'll give me an ego ... /j

#jeri's ask tag #by the by #to anyone like me who likes to peruse askers' blogs now and then - be careful with this one #nothing against them at all but they haven't labelled their blog all that well besides the content warnings in their bio #and those are NOT the first thing you see #lordie #but thank you for the kind words nevertheless /gen

[aggravatedartist]

My two favorite Vexs!

So, funny story. I wasn't going to post these until I finished refs for ALL their alternate origins, but I haven't worked on Phantom Vex since June, so....

But yeah! Standard Vex and Wolf!Vex! I haven't made a new minecraft skin for Wolf!Vex yet, I don't think, but I do have some for their normal design if anyone is interested! And below the cut I'll put where I left the Phantom!Vex reference

#art #oc #oc art #minecraft origins oc #minecraft oc #minecraft #minecraft origins #vex #for clarity. when i label them as an origins oc. i dont mean the smp i just mean the mod #nothing against the smp! i loved it when it was running. but just so we're all on the same page #reference sheet #furry #furry art #sfw furry #furry oc

[grave-z-boy]

One of the main letdowns of the Merlin fandom is how rarely it is mentioned that Will and Merlin explored each other's bodies on numerous occasions

#merlin #will x merlin #just….everything about them very loudly screams friend who have fucked but are so close that it changes nothing #they could have been in a relationship if they wanted to but they were happy and content calling each other friends #and really didn't care about whatever label was stuck on them #So what if they made out against a tree in the woods who cares if their curious hands wandered #they were friends they were in love they were happy #will is my favorite character in the show and I will never forgive them for never mentioning him before or after that episode

[captainstarburst]

BTW ppl who arent human. PLEEEAAASE reach out if u ever wanna talk or chat or be friends especially talking abt that stuff id LOVE to please hit me up. i dont care what you are i just wanna make more friends with ppl who are beasts or objects or whatever

#captains log #if ur kin or alterhuman or have a delusional attachment id love to talk but a note: #i dont consider myself kin or alterhuman i dont have anything against those groups its just not the label for me #i dont like referring to myself in a way that refers to it in any other way than just saying I Am A Big Pink Furry #or any way that is blantantly saying “i identify as not human” bc like. it still feels like a tie to humanity almost? #i also experience it bc of schizospec stuff but i dont really use like the term delusional attachment either #i do not want to call it a delusion it is my reality and it is who i am #so im just a funny furry. nothing more nothing less #<- kind of an excuse to talk abt my thoughts on stuff but also probably just good to state so ppl dont accidentally call me any of that

[aparticularbandit]

I saw your comment in the tags on this post about how the below quote is exactly your sexuality:

“Picturing fanfic characters having sex? Great. Fine. Sexy. But picturing myself having sex with anyone, guy, girl, whoever, didn’t interest me. No – it was more than that. It was an immediate fucking turn-off."

As a fellow ace, your comment got me wondering how you feel about reading sex in reader insert (x reader) fics.

Obviously, judging by your tags comment, you’re OK with reading character x character sex. But what about fanfics that have character x reader sex? Is that also an immediate turn-off for you?

(Also, not sure if I missed you talk about this at some point before but are you aromantic too? Or just asexual?☺️)

I mean, I'm not a huge fan of reading sex in character x character fics either. Or writing it, which is why I don't write smut and very rarely read it outright; most of the time if it's in a fic, I skim or skip it, and I usually don't read fics that are meant to be pure smut. You start mentioning genitals or people touching them or putting them in their mouths and I'm out! It's just not my bag of tea. I rarely even drink tea! It's just easier to think about fictional characters doing the shindig with each other and then check out whenever I start to feel unconfortable. I can be okay with that!

I feel roughly the same way about reader x character stuff because, like, I know it's meant for you to insert yourself in the reader position, but I don't. Reader's just another character. Even when I write reader x character, it's more an exercise in writing a second person character, which I like because I like writing second person. I don't imagine myself in the reader's place. So it's still character x character, but the reader character is much more ambivalent in terms of gender/physical description/etc. They still aren't me. And again, as soon as we get to genitals being exposed and etc. - I'm usually out. It just makes me uncomfortable.

I'm biromantic lesbian asexual (specifically aegosexual (which is I can fantasize about characters and stuff but have a supreme disconnect when trying to imagine myself involved) and apothisexual (which is sex-repulsed)). I don't think I'm on the aro-spectrum, although I've thought about it. I don't think that's a label that applies to me.

#musings #anonymous #bandit answers questions #bandit #lgbtqia+ #that said #i will not be taking nonnie questions about my orientation seeking more clarification about my labels #i've had one of those before and it's not something i'm interested in discussing with an anon #i don't need to defend myself to you #but i'm open to potentially having that discussion with mutuals in dms #which is nothing against you personally nonnie! #thank you for asking! #just wanted to set that boundary now before it gets brought up again #^^

[wirtsroom]

today i learned about lesbian pulp fiction, and the book that popularized it in the west! it was called Women's Barracks, and it was so popular (selling over 4 million copies) and so polarizing (caused a lot of gov't officials to do something about the rampant "problem" of homosexuality) that it's now considered a controversial original bestseller.

and!!!! there was one publishing company that actually made sure their works were being published BY lesbians instead of just for the man viewing pleasure!!!!!!!! thats so cool

#u could argue about the dude thing tho cuz like. anyone can write any romance... and gender means nothing to writin skill #however as a label to do this in the mid 20th century as to actively go against the grain of objectifying... kind of cool!!! #idk why im defending myself Sorry im worried abt bad faith ig?

[4thbrighteststar]

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#no wait listen to me. listen to me #im south asian. my grandparents were muslim. my great aunt and uncle and their children and my parents siblings are all muslim #my parents aren't. they raised us without any religion. without even our national cultural ceremonies tied to islam #dont let yourself believe for a fucking second that has nothing to do 9/11 happening two years before i was born. two years before we moved #im south asian. my dad's first name is mohammed. when we catch a flight we get to the airport two hours earlier- #to account for the time it'll take my dad to be 'routinely stopped and searched' by airport security #routinely is right lmfao. it happens every time we fly #last time i was on an american airlines flight our checked luggage ended up across the continent and took two days to get to us #(my 12yo cousin gifted us an alarm clock that made an ominous ticking noise and we couldn't shut it the fuck up- #the luggage was labeled mohammed and coming from south asia. my sibling jokes it's a wonder we got it back) #im canadian. i cried my ass off to cfa tonight bc of how touching the story of a small town coming together to help a group of strangers is #(can't help thinking that never would've happened in a bigger city? but thereby lies another tale) #and god normally i hate 9/11 stories bc it feels like two sides of my identity being pitted against each other and it makes me so uncomfy #like as a canadian i should be sympathetic towards the states and at the same time im viscerally aware of the lasting prejudiced impacts #but cfa did it so beautifully #will never get over the 'thorough search' scene. 'you will never understand'. #the lump in my throat i get every time I watch my normally distinguished and tough and coolheaded father be pushed through airport security #how resigned he is to it. how he tries to stay dignified. how scared my mom gets every time. how rough they are with him #when he usually commands respect #and yet also the pride and the lump in my throat i got today knowing it was a little canadian town that made a difference #sigh enough out of me i just have a lot of feelings #come from away #team screams

[arch-i-techs]

What do you have against joe hills being tumblr sexyman?? /gen /nm

I'm mostly joking about the whole tumblr sexyman thing for the bit. The situation is very funny, and I think it's fun to take part in it as a "dismayed second party"!

However, I've been on Tumblr for many years now, and the term "tumblr sexyman" has largely lost its meaning among the masses, I think.

I'm no expert, my friend is the person you should go to in order to get the full details on Tumblr Sexyman candidacy (as wholly STUPID as that sounds), but there was a time when being a "tumblr sexyman" was, you know. Generally not a good thing, anon. It just meant you had a lot of people making self-cest AUs and... a lot of... interesting takes about the character in question (and by interesting, I mean completely and utterly destroying the character's ACTUAL personality).

So, the way we currently describe Joe as a "tumblr sexyman"? It's funny. It's silly, goofy, and hopefully lighthearted. I'll admit I don't have the most info about the situation, but I'm going to hope that it is since Joe is, in fact, a real person, and not a character we can mold and break. We play it up for the bit, because it's funny.

Uh... I kinda rambled there. TL;DR, I don't think Joe should be labeled a Tumblr Sexyman, but it's funny to pretend he is, and the situation regarding the sexyman poll is absolutely hilarious.

#ATD Answers #Text Post #Ask Post #Anon #Nothing against anyone that wants to label characters as tumblr sexymen #people have their own likes and dislikes and ways to have fun and thats a-ok #you have your own fun!

[srotd]

the bearded lady's what the barker calls me

but to you it's yes ma'am

#freakshow #dalton deschain & the traveling show #dalton deschain and the traveling show #rock #genius calls them po.p-pu.nk but i'm pushing back against that label there is nothing pop about this #also #concept album #Spotify