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[mymommyisapsycho]

Estávamos a falar e ela disse. Nos seus 17 anos. Qualquer coisa do tipo. Tu valorizas tanto ou mais as pequenas coisas do que as grandes. Ir connosco ao parque depois da escola. Comer fruta diretamente das árvores do quintal… Mas há coisas bem mais pequenas e simples que tu fazes é que têm tanto ou mais valor do que as pequenas e as grandes coisas. Tu aceitas-nos tal como somos. Não julgas e não criticas. Estás lá sempre para nós com o teu abraço. Contigo. Podemos ser nós. Tu és o nosso lugar seguro. #motherhood #safehaven #securebase #attachment #mymommyisapsycho https://www.instagram.com/p/CflbjeJsjfS/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#motherhood #safehaven #securebase #attachment #mymommyisapsycho

[responsiveparenting]

Being a secure base One of the factors that impacts how safe our child feels in our presence is the confidence we have in our parenting choices. That does not mean a securely attached child has parents who always make the most ideal choices. Rather, they are able to recognize which choices they make that resonate with their parenting beliefs and which choices may have come from a more reactive place. A parent who lacks confidence in their choices, never sure if they made the “right” choice, may not provide the secure base their child needs to develop a secure attachment quality. Developing confidence in your own parenting abilities is not something that happens over night, so be patient with yourself. Deep reflection, inner child healing and a reconnection with your intuition is often part of the process. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting Common Parenting question: “If I have anxiety does that mean my child will not be securely attached?” I have anxiety. It’s more about whether you are able to process that anxiety or if it controls your parenting choices. That’s where reflection comes in. We all question ourselves and many of us have anxiety but if you usually feel like you really have no idea how to respond to your child and THAT gives you anxiety, like ALL the time… then you run the risk of your child having insecure attachment. Unfortunately, telling anxious people that their anxiety might be harmful to their kids does not help AT ALL. If you are someone who is questioning how much fear rules your parenting, you may have to be really brave and begin the reflection process. Remember reflection is not over analyzing and shaming yourself. It’s how we process all these complex parenting moments. Edited to add: Lots of questions on how to do this… it starts with learning how to engage in regular reflection practice, without shame and guilt. Become a Responsive Parenting Community Member on Patreon and join us on a year long reflection practice journey. Link in bio #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingsupport #circleofsecurity #securebase #holdingspace #attachmenttheory #innerchildhealing #secureattachment #anxiousattachment #parentstress https://www.instagram.com/p/CTUef4ZnXS-/?utm_medium=tumblr

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingsupport #circleofsecurity #securebase #holdingspace #attachmenttheory #innerchildhealing #secureattachment #anxiousattachment #parentstress

[blindlove]

LAYERED CAKE. Constructing a layered cake is comparable to the ingredients required for constructing a meaningful romantic relationship. First there is the foundation or base to our cake, which in relationship terms is establishing a genuine and reciprocal friendship. Then there is the frosting or glue that is used to connect the cake layers together; this is more or less the similarities in one another’s values and ideals that creates a meaningful bond guiding your decisions as a couple. As each layer of cake is added, there is added complexity and vulnerability, but if your foundation is solid and your values align, you can continue to build higher together.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Homework: Make sure your romantic relationship is created from friendship, aligned values and vulnerability.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ #sundaysweets #couples #relationships #romanticrelationships #meaningfulrelationships #layeredcake #cake #frosting #fondant #buildlayers #buildhigher #foundation #securebase #friendship #values #ideals #vulnerability #complexity #buildtogether #connect #jackinthebeanstalk #goldeneggs #cakedecorating #birthdaycake #cakedesign #cakeart #cakesofinstagram #bekind #bewell #eatcake https://www.instagram.com/p/CZXsRbjJHjW/?utm_medium=tumblr

#sundaysweets #couples #relationships #romanticrelationships #meaningfulrelationships #layeredcake #cake #frosting #fondant #buildlayers #buildhigher #foundation #securebase #friendship #values #ideals #vulnerability #complexity #buildtogether #connect #jackinthebeanstalk #goldeneggs #cakedecorating #birthdaycake #cakedesign #cakeart #cakesofinstagram #bekind #bewell #eatcake

[blogbeblr]

(via Attachment Therapy)

Hard-to-shake beliefs about ourselves and the world are formed during the first thousand days of our lives.

https://joeldames.com/attachment-therapy/

#Attachment SecureBase SecureAttachment AttachmentTherapy OpenFocus

[lbcybersecurity]

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[mymommyisapsycho]

O que se vê. Quando vemos duas crianças sozinhas. Por exemplo. A brincar. É semelhante à linha de baixo da imagem. Parecem iguais. Mas. Há uma diferença gigante que as separa.

A criança da esquerda não tem ninguém que a esteja a ver afastar-se. Ninguém que a encoraje. Ninguém que olhe por ela enquanto explora. Ninguém que sirva de porto de abrigo se algo correr mal. Nem. Ninguém que festeje com ela novas conquistas. Se esta for uma experiência sistemática. Não é autonomia que a criança desenvolve. Mas. Sim. Um padrão de vinculação inseguro. Onde aprende que só conta com ela e com mais ninguém. Na vida. E. No mundo.

A criança da direita tem. Pelo menos uma pessoa. Que a vê afastar-se. Que a encoraja. Que a observa enquanto explora. E. Que. Está disponível para ser o seu porto de abrigo se algo correr mal. Ou. A figura com quem partilha as novas conquistas. Esta experiência não tem de ocorrer sempre sempre sempre. Mas. Se este for o padrão habitual. A criança desenvolve autonomia e um padrão de vinculação seguro. Onde percebe o mundo e a vida como acolhedores. Onde sente que é capaz de exprimir as suas necessidades e afetos. Tem. Assim. As ferramentas para conquistar todos os sonhos do mundo. Por mais tropeções que a vida lhe tenha reservado.

Se cada criança tiver. Pelo menos um adulto. Capaz de criar um vínculo seguro com ela. O mundo pula mesmo. E avança. Como os sonhos de uma criança.

#attachment #neglect #securebase #safehaven #mymommyisapsycho

[responsiveparenting]

What is more important for you, as a parent? “I’d better never catch my child lying” Or “I hope my child is never too scared to tell me anything.” “My child knows if they ever try to sneak out of the house, they’ll be grounded for life.” Or “I hope if my child ever needs my help, they aren’t so scared of getting in trouble that they don’t call me.” “A parents job is to push their child to succeed.” Or “I hope my child knows I love them, regardless of their accomplishments and success.” Let’s think about this for a minute…. Your child sneaks out of the house one night. You catch them…. You are furious…. You ground them for a long time, expecting that will motivate them not to do it again. Because your child has now been socially excluded from friends for a while. They decide to risk it again (they’re already grounded for life so what do they have to lose?). A friend picks them up and they go to a party. The friend gets drunk and A. Passes out B. Drives your child home drunk. Continued in comments…. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #raisingteens #parentingteens #trustyourchild #trustyourteen #securebase https://www.instagram.com/p/CRE8XJynDyR/?utm_medium=tumblr

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #raisingteens #parentingteens #trustyourchild #trustyourteen #securebase

[responsiveparenting]

Common Parenting question: “If I have anxiety does that mean my child will not be securely attached?” I have anxiety. It’s more about whether you are able to process that anxiety or if it controls your parenting choices. That’s where reflection comes in. We all question ourselves and many of us have anxiety but if you usually feel like you really have no idea how to respond to your child and THAT gives you anxiety, like ALL the time… then you run the risk of your child having insecure attachment. Unfortunately, telling anxious people that their anxiety might be harmful to their kids does not help AT ALL. If you are someone who is questioning how much fear rules your parenting, you may have to be really brave and begin the reflection process. Remember reflection is not over analyzing and shaming yourself. It’s how we process all these complex parenting moments. Edited to add: Lots of questions on how to do this… it starts with learning how to engage in regular reflection practice, without shame and guilt. I discuss this further in my latest e-book Finding Your Calm: Responsive Parents Guide to Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation PRE-ORDER NOW AVAILABLE!! 1/2 Price when pre-ordered. That’s right! You can pre-order now for only 5$’s!! Then, on February 1st, the link will be emailed to you. Just make sure to include your email in your information when you purchase. I won’t be selling it at this price again. This is a very special offer, for my wonderful supporters who just can’t wait for this sequel to the Guide to Survival Mode Plans. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingsupport #circleofsecurity #securebase #holdingspace #attachmenttheory #innerchildhealing #secureattachment #parenthood #motherhood #mentalhealth #parentlife #reflections #fatherhood #momlife #ptsd #childhood #secureattachment #anxiousattachment #letthembelittle #dailyparenting #childhoodmemories #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mindfulness #selflove #innerpeace #simplychildren #honestmotherhood https://www.instagram.com/p/CZUPrc_LauT/?utm_medium=tumblr

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingsupport #circleofsecurity #securebase #holdingspace #attachmenttheory #innerchildhealing #secureattachment #parenthood #motherhood #mentalhealth #parentlife #reflections #fatherhood #momlife #ptsd #childhood #anxiousattachment #letthembelittle #dailyparenting #childhoodmemories #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mindfulness #selflove #innerpeace #simplychildren #honestmotherhood

[responsiveparenting]

What are the signs of secure attachment? Many moments come together to build a child’s attachment framework, therefore, it can be hard to reduce such a grand concept to a few bullet points. However, the most clear sign, at any age, of secure attachment, is if the child (even adult child) goes to their attachment figure for comfort. But this is not all. Because attachment is reciprocal, the parents response matters too. Does the parent respond with calming comfort and acceptance? (SECURE) Does the parent seem to take-on their child’s emotions and become dis-regulated with them? (ANXIOUS) Or is the parent dismissive or critical of their child’s need for comfort? (AVOIDANT) Or does the parent cycle through different responses, typically ending with anger? (DISORGANIZED) J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #secureattachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #anxiousattachment #securebase #circleofsecurity https://www.instagram.com/p/CU-ABiOrYrG/?utm_medium=tumblr

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #secureattachment #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #anxiousattachment #securebase #circleofsecurity

[responsiveparenting]

“So holding space is just being there? That’s it?” It may feel that way, sometimes, but it’s more than that. It’s about sharing your calm and offering unconditional love and acceptance. This may involve very little words or actions, so it may feel like you are “just sitting there.” But your calm and regulated presence provides a secure base for the other person to get their emotional needs met, through connection and co-regulation. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #holdingspace #coregulation #unconditionallove #unconditionalacceptance #securebase #attachmenttheory https://www.instagram.com/p/CU8s_iILzSY/?utm_medium=tumblr

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #holdingspace #coregulation #unconditionallove #unconditionalacceptance #securebase #attachmenttheory

[responsiveparenting]

Being a secure base One of the factors that impacts how safe our child feels in our presence is the confidence we have in our parenting choices. That does not mean a securely attached child has parents who always make the most ideal choices. Rather, they are able to recognize which choices they make that resonate with their parenting beliefs and which choices may have come from a more reactive place. A parent who lacks confidence in their choices, never sure if they made the “right” choice, may not provide the secure base their child needs to develop a secure attachment quality. Developing confidence in your own parenting abilities is not something that happens over night, so be patient with yourself. Deep reflection, inner child healing and a reconnection with your intuition is often part of the process. J. Milburn @responsive_parenting Edited to add: Lots of questions on how to do this… it starts with learning how to engage in regular reflection practice, without shame and guilt. Become a Responsive Parenting Community Member on Patreon and join us on a year long reflection practice journey. Link in bio #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingsupport #circleofsecurity #securebase #holdingspace #attachmenttheory #innerchildhealing #secureattachment #anxiousattachment #parentstress https://www.instagram.com/p/CQ4AggTnsa9/?utm_medium=tumblr

#responsiveparenting #jmilburn #parentingsupport #circleofsecurity #securebase #holdingspace #attachmenttheory #innerchildhealing #secureattachment #anxiousattachment #parentstress

[responsiveparenting]

Posted @withregram • @wildflower_emotional_health Parents: We know it takes a village to raise a child. Your village, while not gone, is limited in its ability to support you right now. Family members can’t babysit, preschools are closed, schools had to put you in charge of remote learning, and playdates and social outings are cancelled. We know you are stretched beyond measure as you manage the myriad fears, challenges, and real concerns the pandemic has created. - Many of you worry that you are not doing enough for your children. As mental health professionals, we want to remind you that your kids don’t need perfect parents. They need loving, beautifully imperfect ones. Circle of Security model does an excellent job explaining what children need from their caregivers to thrive. We share this short Circle of Security video with you in hopes it shows you that you are doing MORE than enough. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6DhnbgRAOo - #mentalhealth #parenting #supportingfamilies #chicagotherapy #chicagotherapist #perinatalmentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #responsiveparenting #secureattachment #securebase https://www.instagram.com/p/CC0qS5hH7tV/?igshid=ictiayuenko7

#mentalhealth #parenting #supportingfamilies #chicagotherapy #chicagotherapist #perinatalmentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #responsiveparenting #secureattachment #securebase

[ecoamerica]

Watch the American Climate Leadership Awards 2024 now: https://youtu.be/bWiW4Rp8vF0?feature=shared

The American Climate Leadership Awards 2024 broadcast recording is now available on ecoAmerica's YouTube channel for viewers to be inspired by active climate leaders. Watch to find out which finalist received the $50,000 grand prize! Hosted by Vanessa Hauc and featuring Bill McKibben and Katharine Hayhoe!

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[lbcybersecurity]

HPE Security Fortify Software Security Content Critical Advisory Support

HPE Security Fortify Software Security Research (SSR) is pleased to announce the immediate availability of an update to HPE Security Fortify WebInspect SecureBase (available via SmartUpdate). This update includes support for critical Apache Struts 2 vu... from HPE Security Fortify Software Security Content Critical Advisory Support