#send me hate mail

[lacependragon]

It's like we've gone so deep into the "you can defy gender norms and still be trans" hole that we've wrapped back around to "it's okay to be a gay trans dude but you're only valid if you ALSO wear makeup and skirts and are okay with looking traditionally feminine".

That's it. That's where I'm at re: Tiktok and fandom at large. Both separately and together.

It's like people are like "if you like more standard gender norms then you're BAD BAD WRONG BAD EVIL" when no? For some people those norms are part of the desire to be more themselves. I love masculinity as a whole. I love its look. Its smell. It's feel. The way it prioritizes safety and protection. It makes me feel warm in a way femininity never does.

It's not that I think those feelings don't exist in femininity, it's that I personally do not experience them. But try to put that nuance on the internet, in fanfic or in general, and you get people coming out of the woodwork to tell you you're wrong and sexist and holding up traditional patriarchal norms.

And it's not that I think the people who do break those norms are bad. And it's not that I think trans guys who do wear skirts are bad. Not at all. A person is a person is a person. What you do as an individual is a mark of yourself and your identity. I would never, ever claim that you wearing a skirt is somehow invalidating my existence. That's stupid.

What I'm talking about is the online culture, particularly in fandom, surrounding this idea, this concept, of breaking gender roles and how it's the "only way to participate in them" according to a lot of fuckers.

And that's not even getting into how complex feelings for gender and gender norms and gendered things can be when you're trans and how it's incredibly unique from person to person and insisting that a trans guy is somehow transphobic for not wearing skirts or that a creator is somehow transphobic for not putting their trans guys in skirts--

Hey did you know that in my fic, The Weight of Living, when I put Weiss in pants prior to having him come out as a dude, no one had problems with it, but after Weiss was like, "I'm a dude", people actively told me that I was being "problematic" and "enforcing stereotypes" for saying Weiss needed short hair and pants to be a guy.

As if that wasn't. Completely missing the point.

But nah this definitely isn't a widespread problem or anything.

I'm at the point where like. If you disagree with this, go fuck yourself. I'm so fucking tired of the widespread and forced feminization of trans men.

Edit: oh so this entire thing just comes down to this generation thinking maleness is inherently evil. because TERFs. Got it.

#lace speaks #lace why do you make your rant posts not rebloggable #because one of them has 1200 notes #and is the reason half the rwby fandom continues to #send me hate mail #and make hate servers of me #and make it so i cant search my name on twitter #rant

[tgsqrd]

Tarkov just got wiped and i'm ready to make grown men cry. If you see RatGodX on your killed by list you know who fucked ya up. That's right! Im in the trees, the walls, and already have you by the balls fuckers! Muahahaha!!!!

#Tarkov #send me hate mail #bitch i know you wont #tambien muy toxica #the rat returns!! #give me all your loot you dont need it

[kirisaki-daichi-scenarios]

just discovered two wips i'd forgotten i ever planned. that makes five fics living out in purgatory now. someone better curse me or i'll never finish them.

#they're good ideas too #i'm just lazy and/or busy #if anyone wants one of the following #a jason drabble #a manager x kiridai sequel #a murderer hanamiya fic #a yandere yamazaki au #or a very strange furu au #send me hate mail #(that's a joke) #(do not do that) #(that is not motivational) #(unless you're fujimaki) #(fujimaki please acknowledge my existence xxx)

[ohhtobeagooner]

wanna do an ask game but idk what :/

#send me hate mail #but don’t be too mean because i will cry

[peevishpants]

when my sis visits me she's a Mr. Shakedown kind of menace

when i visit my sis i'm a Phoenix Wright Cross Examiner kind of menace

#menace recognize menace #comic #weiwei art #i love 2 journal thru comics #today on: Personal Comics! new episodes uhhh whenever i feel like it #if u know who my sister is u can send her funny hate mail #tell her to give me free stuff #tell her to give me her kotatsu #im joking about the hate mail please dont send her hate mail i love my sister

[puppyeared]

I love you when we haven’t talked in weeks and months I love you when I have 12 unread messages I love you when im not in the mood to talk. We’re still friends even when we spend time apart

#it’s like delayed parallel play to me.. or perhaps sending letters in the mail #when I wrote this it’s because I have this thing that is like. having too much of a good thing #like if I talk to someone and love them too much I burn out.. does that make sense?? is that a universal experience??? #so sometimes when I have to spend time by myself I don’t stop loving my friends I think #especially because when I burn out I feel miserable for no reason and my brain comes up with ways to hate people #like oh they’re probably spending time with other ppl you’re disposable.. they probably forgot about you #one time I thought that if my friends were getting married they’d forget to invite me and it became a fear I’m trying to get over #but the answer I came up with is to keep reminding people I exist to stay present in their lives #even if it’s not as often as I can manage or would like. idk #yapping #feelings

[morganbritton132]

i wonder how steve’s neurological issues and eddie’s career interact. like obviously metal music is not gonna work with seizures and migraines, so im wondering if steve ever feels like hes not doing enough, like he’s a bad partner who doesn’t support eddie’s passion.. Plus i imagine the overprotective fans who notice steve is never at any concerts and how eddie keeps joking about how steve despises metal music, leading them to go on a whole tirade about how eddie deserves better yadayadayada ☹️

I have been staring at this prompt since you sent it, trying to articulate what I want to say because it’s so good. I think it really opens up the door to talk about parasocial relationships and fans who overstep, which I find endlessly fascinating.

Fans notice things.

They notice things and they think that they knows things, and then they tweet about it. They make YouTube videos and TikToks, and they post to their Instagram stories. Eventually articles are written about it and those articles make it into the Facebook algorithm and then mixed into Steve’s timeline.

So, he sees it.

A fan posts about how there are virtually no videos of Steve at award shows where Corroded Coffin had been nominated. They say that he was uninterested or not supportive, but not that Steve was just terrified of Eddie being outed and his career ending. Being in a queer relationship in the nineties could destroy your career and Steve never wanted to do anything that would jeopardize the band’s success.

Even after Eddie came out publicly, his record label’s PR team told them not to be seen being intimate with each other. They could walk side by side, but they couldn’t hold hands. They could hug goodbye but not kiss. It wasn’t just Eddie’s career. What do you think is going to happen when parents find out a homosexual was teaching their children?

A fan tweets about how Steve is never at Corroded Coffin’s concerts and when he is, he just hangs out backstage. Fans quote tweet it talking about how Steve doesn’t give a shit about the music, but say nothing about the noise and the lights that cause him to have migraines. They say nothing about how terrifying the thought of having a seizure in a moshpit is.

And it’s not just that.

It’s not just that everybody thinks that he’s an unsupportive husband or that he hates Eddie’s music.

Eddie live-streams in the car on his way to pick Steve up from work, spends the entire time talking about how he’s going to take him on a date. When Steve gets in the car, he turns Eddie’s music down. That’s a TikTok about how Steve refuses to show any interest in Eddie’s hobbies. Eddie tells him what he wants to do and Steve says, “Not today.”

That’s a YouTube video about how Eddie is a doting husband and Steve is an ungrateful bitch, and not that Steve had a seizure at lunch and a migraine pressing against the back of his eyes. It says nothing about how Eddie knows this, Eddie’s used to this. This is how it is with head trauma, some things falls through and they pick them up when they can.

None of these fans know anything and it ends up in the ads and the articles that Steve sees on Facebook, and it makes him feel like shit. It’s everything that Steve was trying to avoid when he told Eddie to break up with him in ’87.

He told Eddie then that all this shit in his head was only going to get worse and it was just going to hold him back when the band was just taking off, and Eddie had refused to accept that.

He refuses to accept it now and tells Steve that those articles don’t matter. They’re written by morons that don’t know shit, but it doesn’t matter. It’s like the whole world is looking at them and telling him that Steve is shit at loving Eddie when it’s the only thing he thought that he got right.

#I always think about those ‘fans’ that send hate mail to people’s girlfriends and how it would come into play in this AU #this was such a good ask so sorry it took me literal months to respond #eddie munson tiktok saga #steve harrington #eddie munson

[missanthropicprinciple]

Just described Pacific Rim: Uprising to a dear friend like this: "as a stand alone movie it's fun and awesome; as a sequel it's a heartbreaking, atrocious, straight-to-vhs, pro military, mildly homophobic, piece of garbage.

#pacific rim #pacific rim uprising #please don't send me hate mail again #newmann

[cinnamon-phrog]

Big fan of fluffybird. However NOT a big fan of how Red and Duck treat Yellow when they're paired together.

#i love when they fight it gives them all depth but. i hate when they gang up on yellow for nothing #sending eachother e-mails but not yellow. calling him slurs. blah blah blah #and then just kind of ignoring YELLOWS perspective and going 'oooh how romantic' #it's just kinda :( to me #and if they ARE parental figures to Yellow i must say they're awfully shite at that point i'm Team Roy #dhmis #this is just a personal giope and i'm seeking people who might agree #i DO like fluffybird but it's two thirds of a whole to me personally #note i said PERSONALLY. please don't pick a fight with me for it because it won't change my mind.

[b4kuch1n]

IT ARRIVED IT ARRIVED IT ARRIVED

DESPITE EVERYTHING DESPITE MY CHRONICALLY CURSED INTERNATIONAL MAIL PROBLEM I AM STILL THE ZONE RPG

#bakuspeech #and I guess this counts as #bakuspecial #ouuuuuu #my art! on cards! characters I kinda got to build with my visuals!! #also upon getting this which I had mailed to the senpai's place instead of mine in an effort to break the curse we immediately #ran a game. that was supposed to be short. but ended up extending past midnigt #AND had to stop for the night before act 2 even begins #but. its SO fun. the game pieces do just the right amount of heavy lifting for u that it frees u up to make up Real out there stuff #like. we ran a game on the browser version. and while it was also Really fun it got stressful to make stuff up #now if we're stuck we just pick up cards #and like. idk for kinda the first time really? I get the appeal of roleplaying with someone else #I'm usually such a control freak about the stories I tell lmao #with the visual aids in this set I get to imagine the character dynamics so much more easily #like this time around the senpai picked the scientist archetype #and he made that guy a white guy with some means who has been sending people to death to serve his science #and my character's an asian guy who was with a pest control service (yes I picked the trevor henderson character lmao) #who got drafted into the bureau and works as like cleanup/fodder #so immediately I got to go like oh so I hate your guts. and you condescend at me #which turned out to be a Very fun dynamic to roleplay lmao #throughout act 1 we've made this dynamic steadily Worse. one of them envies the other into oblivion #while the other can now communicate with No one except his mission partner #and we're gonna craft the second act as chase. a predator and a prey. gods. it was SO fun #its so funny both of them were touting to be smart or good at their job. and then they went into the zone and Immediately got fucked up #this game really gives u that satisfaction and fascination with like. when things go wrong in way too thematically fitting and messy ways #lmao my contract's fulfilled I do not have to talk this game up. its just really fun. man I enjoy that so much #sadly my pool of english speakers who can play this game with me is not big #I'll try and find time to run a few small games in the near future... maybe during lunar new year #I was over at the senpai's today to toast out birthdays lol. to get that out of the way we've been planning something like that for weeks #weve been both way too busy. with different sliding scales of uh. how pleasant that busy's been

[presidentbungus]

dad engy is great and all but where’s the weird semi-ostracized redneck uncle engy. where’s the “buys a fish and kills it 2 days later forgetting to take care of it whatsoever and then turns it into a half-living cyborg abomination that wishes for nothing but death” engy. he sits outside and drinks beer and gives you good advice while he works on his actively decomposing muscle truck but he also thinks a little too fondly about guns, network cooking shows, and murder, in that order, and you feel like the only reason he hasn’t dragged you off into a field and put you down like a lame horse for being slightly too annoying to him is that you’re good family and you know not to go snooping around places you don’t belong

“he’s a great cook![cat emoticon]” well I think he’d start a fire after he puts a pot of macaroni on the stove and gets so distracted reading the box’s ingredient label and imagining chemical reactions that he doesn’t smell the smoke. medic asks him to feed his birds for ONE afternoon and he constructs a rube goldberg automatic bird feeder machine that topples over half of the base and he has to spend the rest of the afternoon swinging at doves outside with a net.

the only thing worse than trusting engy to remember or care enough to take care of your houseplants while you’re on vacation is to believe he’s capable of being responsible for someone’s physical or emotional well-being in any capacity, whatsoever. maybe including his own

#tf2 engineer #if you don’t like this post please send me hate mail #follow for more searing hot takes #tf2 #bungus headcanons

[destielmemenews]

"With many buildings reduced to rubble and shelter hard to find, Gazans are short of food, water, fuel and medicines. Their plight got worse from Friday night when phone and internet services were cut - followed by heavy bombing through the night.

"God help anyone under the rubble," said one Gaza journalist, who spent a terrifying night in a stairway building watching "belts of fire" as bombs fell and Israeli forces appeared to exchange fire with Palestinian fighters."

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#destiel meme #destiel meme news #world news #news #tw death #free gaza #gaza strip #gaza #palestine #free palestine #israel palestine conflict #israel hamas conflict #hamas #genocide #this is genocide #before any more anons send me hate mail i would like to express my full support for the people of Palestine #and i'm sorry to anyone that thinks these news posts are insensitive or in poor taste #i'm just trying to keep people updated

[crippled-peeper]

people get so mad when a trans person has a sexuality and isn’t deeply self-hating about it

#people hear about me sleeping with a cis man and literally send me hate mail over it. turbo virgin behavior #’waaah you’re a traitor!’ no im not im just gay you weird fucking asshole

[myfandomrealitea]

Every time you send me anon hate I'm gonna pick some real nasty fanfiction and get off to it.

#myfandomrealitea #sephiroth speaks #fandom #not discourse #proship #proshipping #fanfiction #ao3 #anti antis #your hate mail will be the direct cause of me cumming to 3k of kinky werewolf incest #still wanna send that ask?

[gothhabiba]

like obviously someone’s blog does not represent the totality of them as a person or their actions outside of their blog. however every time I’ve seen a post of this nature and looked on the OP’s blog, it is either a liberal Zionist (obviously this person in particular is not!) or else someone whose only or almost only comment on Israel’s unfolding genocide is to criticise the movement against it—

like 5-10 posts about an antisemitic phrase uttered by someone in the movement for every 0-1 posts about the genocide itself (especially posts that might be useful, such as ones sharing families’ fundraisers or lists of the locations of protests, &c.)—

surely this should be a bit more even-handed than that?

I think the wave of antisemitism that’s presumably going to be empowered by Israel’s false accusations and the difficulty they’ve caused with levelling serious accusations of antisemitism, is going to be devastating, & I’ve mentioned that before. it plays in perfectly with the idea of “well antisemitism is just fake oppression that doesn’t actually exist anymore, so any invocation of it is whining or geared towards obtaining some advantage” that’s already been very current across all parts of the political spectrum. I’m just not sure if this approach is… helping

#also please don’t send that person hate mail #it does the opposite of helping me or anyone

[lesbianfakir]

I have a very specific mental image of the kinds of outfits Fakir would wear if they didn’t saddle him with that ugly shirt, unfortunately this mental image is primarily Kurt from Glee

#you can send me hate mail for this post it’s ok #I’m dressing him for the early 2000s btw #princess tutu #my friend got sooooo mad at me for this #one thing about me is I fucking hate glee #would you guys still love me if I started stealing Kurt outfits for fakir #also someone ask me about the skurt I have cursed knowledge to share #fakir