#the parasocial relationship ever

[saltedcoffeee]

relapsed (thought abt xander watching david's shitty fucking tiktok lives after his family's death to cheer himself up and sending him fanmail that david opens and answers and it makes him cry so hard because he's so kind and patient with all the grieving sad questions xander asks him)

#the parasocial relationship ever #firm believer of the xander fully relied on david during his mourning bc he was too proud to tell anyone irl abt how bad he felt #david saw an onslaught of questions from a single acc w like no pfp n went phew guess ill help him not khs to feel good abt myself #yeah xander formed an unhealthy attachment to davids cheery persona which was the one thing that made him believe this world was good ig :/ #n we all know abt david 'is it rlly a savior complex or something worse' chiem #ik ure sick of my tags so sorry ok im done now by pookiebears #imagine a youtube outro here #drdt #danganronpa despair time #david chiem #xander matthews #xanvid

[robotcorsair]

me: idk, I just don't get parasocial relationships, famous people are just doing their jobs, it's not like we really know them or anything

dropout cast: hi

me: these are my friends and I love them

#dropout #college humor #dimension 20 #dropout tv #brennan lee mulligan #this is a joke it's a joke I don't really think they're my friends they're just people i think are cool #but it's probably the closest i've hat to a parasocial relationship #i would like to play boardgames with most of them though #so if you're on dropout tv and you're ever in brazil hmu for a boardgame night let's gooo

[heartscrypt]

azul is a little delusional but its ok

#twst #twisted wonderland #jamil viper #azul ashengrotto #jamiazu #azujami #ashenviper #jazul #azul x jamil #heartscribbles #these guys have too many ship names #azuls parasocial relationship w jamil is so funny to me #in my head hes like ''nobody gets jamil like me'' and jamils like What are you Fucking Talking About YOU DONT KNOW ME LIKE THAT #jamils lab vignette is the funniest thing ive ever seen #guy who is pretending to be normal vs guy who is absolutely not normal

[shitswiftiessay]

swifties and their parasocial relationship with joe alwyn, part 4

swifties are OBSESSED with calling joe alwyn poor, broke, homeless, etc. recently he was spotted on the london tube, which many celebrities have taken, and they used that as an opportunity to mock his lack of wealth… because he isn’t in a private jet with taylor anymore (as if it’s an absolutely SHAMEFUL thing that he’s not polluting the planet with private jets).

now, i’m just gonna quickly point out that joe alwyn is hardly destitute or “homeless”

but that’s not the real issue here. the real issue is: why the fuck do swifties think it’s ok to openly make fun of poor people?

swifties degrade joe for working at a yoghurt shop as a teenager, they call him “yoghurt shop boy” and “joebless,” they degrade him for using public transportation, they degrade him for (possibly) using coupons- god forbid! like, these are things that ORDINARY people do. Normal people work part time jobs as teenagers, use public transport, use coupons, etc. joe alwyn probably isn’t going to read your stupid tweets but you are literally making ordinary people feel bad with your bigoted classist bullshit.

#taylor swift your fans are disgusting #shit swifties say #parasocial relationships #toxic swifties #classist swifties #classism #joe alwyn #tw classism #anti swifties #nastiest fandom ever

[birthofvcnus]

ryan bergara is my wife and i would kill for him

#insert the ‘i love my girlfriend’ meme here but with ryan bc i love him sm #what a delightful little dude. absolutely love him #and shane. shane seems like the sweetest person ever i would also kill for him #‘parasocial relationships this parasocial relationships that’ have u considered that ryan bergara is my best friend. #ryan bergara #shane madej #watcher

[supergraphicultramoderngirl]

is it too soon for this still

#lol parasocial relationship? couldn’t be me #y’all have fun with that i will peacefully observe from my ‘only watches one video ever other month’ couch #the kwesi wolf is winning rn tho lowkey #try guys #mari is irrelevant

[loopsisloops]

I miss him.

#I just wanna hug him #I want to sit and talk with him for hours #to be able to sit down and understand one another #exist together and let everything else be what ever it wants to be #the parasocial relationship is parasocialing #loops has therapy tomorrow and is feeling emotions for the first time in days and really doesn’t want to feel emotions rn #loki laufeyson #loki #mcu loki #loki series #loki season 2 #loki angst #Spotify

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

i love driving on perilous roads at night when it's just me and my good friend Cars Behind Me

#oh cars behind me... we're really in it now... #the only parasocial relationship i ever feel or indulge in is the bond i have with cars driving behind me on a single lane highway #it was so dramatic and for what... #me leading the procession in the dark and fog and snow with my highbeams on. #them following behind me and taking none of the many chances to pass me when i offer them <3 #following me like lambs to their shepherd through the pitch black woods #WE FORMED A WARRIORS BOND ON THE ROAD THIS NIGHT. #we made it through the mountains Together!!! #the comfort of their warm headlights in my rearviews was Unparalleled #ah... is this what Company feels like... #absolutely unprompted #i. i may be mentally unwell im realizing #< twas a jest! i've known the whole time #ohhhh and its starting to rain real hard... yes... i need this... #AND I STILL HAVE MUCH HAZELNUT MILK TEA LEFT!!! HUZZAH!!!! #its so good. creamy and roasty and nutty. mm. #still next time i'll have to track down a different boba shop that has my favorite milk tea flavor. i miss it!

[yea-baiyi]

nailing my theses to the door: the way hua cheng acts about xie lian is precisely how those carefully non-toxic insane kpop stans behave. like “i love them and support them no matter what” and “let’s respect their boundaries” and “let’s raise a ridiculous amount of money for charity in their name” but also “every inch of my bedroom walls are plastered with their face” and “i spend hours every day getting into arguments online defending them against haters” and “i collected all 700 of their album photocards” and “i have them blocked on twitter so they can’t see my smut fics” and most importantly “if they end up dating someone i’d be devastated, but as long as they’re happy id support them no matter what”

#tgcf #hualian #my hyperfixation demon #tgcf meta #meta stuff #i have a whole au about this #but also as a veteran non toxic insane kpop stan #like. the way hc acts about xie lian is exactly just that #the parasocial relationship is real but he is acutely aware it is one sided #and he goes to great lengths to personally police himself against crossing any boundaries #that’s why i SAY. he tries so hard not to be toxic #but it doesn’t mean his obsession isn’t utterly insane and over the top. bc it is #but he’s self aware and tries to do it in a way that won’t hurt xie lian in any way #have u guys ever navigated the non toxic stan culture that exists on social media. it’s a minefield. the way they fucking talk #anyway

[revenantsamour]

I'll be there living my life, screeching with joy whenever I see anything Revenant related and I'll be like "Yeah, I love him sm. Maybe a lot. Perhaps an odd amount but it's fine" and then I'll see him animated in any capacity that makes him look alive (eg banners and official animations) and I'll have to take a deep breath like an old timey gentleman exposed to ankles for the first time.

#apex legends #revenant #revenant apex legends #apex legends revenant #revenant apex #revenant reborn #apex revenant #Apex Legends #Im not even joking #One moment I'll think “oh„ it's the neurodivergence” and then I'll see and hear him and glue my face to whatever screen I see it from in a #trance. It's not even funny #I am serious. #Actually that might still be the neurodivergence #But UGH #My most irrational parasocial relationship <3 #And the best thing about it is the fact I cannot and will not ever interact with him so I am free to delusion delight daydream my way #through my obsession <3333

[s-aint-elmo]

dug up this handy dandy graphic i made last year to explain my kukugumi hcs on a sliding scale of touch-starved to touchy

(reasoning under the cut:)

hikari & maya: self-explanatory. you don’t look at either of these two and think “well-adjusted.” i wholeheartedly believe that the closest thing hikari had to a hug before seisho was a mr. white pillow and the closest thing maya had to a friend was her idol saijou claudine, of whom she has all the bonus dvd content

junna: she’s a normal person. neither touch-starved nor touchy but she gets points for dipping karen out of nowhere, though i maintain that that was mostly for The Drama and not an indicator of her usual physicality

banana: she gives hugs which bumps her above junna but i feel like she’s more of an acts of service kind of person, ya know? also she probably rarely is on the receiving end of a comforting hug bc of her insistence to take care of everybody else, all the time. hop to it, junna!

futakao: literally always in contact with one another. the only reason they’re not higher is that they mostly just cling to each other (and banana, once, notably)

mahiru: she has four siblings and two children in the form of her roommates (one of whom she glomps on-screen), she has more physical affection than she knows what to do with. she’s bumped down in rankings because she’s a little more reserved than the next two menaces

claudine: she will whisper bonjour into your ear with no prompting, drape her arm over your seat while she slides next to you, make you believe she’s gonna kiss you with a hand on your cheek and a sudden closing of distance, spring a surprise waltz on you, hug you after battling through the school basement bogeymen on your first day of class to introduce herself etc. etc. and she will do it all with no shame whatsoever. i don’t think we acknowledge just how much of a cassanova kuro is just because she’s too often nerfed by maya but goddamn the effect she had on asami in overture, amemiya, lalafin and the frontier girls in the lovers’ bond story, even yachiyo in twenty faces--saijou claudine is canonically bitchless but if she knew what a work-life balance was she’d pull. that’s my manifesto

karen: she beats claudine by a slim margin because of the torpedo-like quality of her enthusiasm and the inescapable strength of her grip. if kaoruko had the lower body strength to drag karen across the floor in episode 6, karen would have held fast and let her do the dragging. 

#revue starlight #kagura hikari #tendou maya #hoshimi junna #daiba nana #hanayagi kaoruko #isurugi futaba #tsuyuzaki mahiru #saijou claudine #aijou karen #mine #yes the claires and floras are the extremes. i didn't plan this it just happened #little known fact masai and amemiya cast you according to how well you take a hug #i stand by baby maya having a parasocial relationship with baby claudine also. she's so lucky she has a million dollar poker face bc #i just KNOW that the moment she saw Saijou Claudine TM at the seisho entrance exams she felt the very earth beneath her feet reshape itself #into a world where she gets to breathe the same air as the burning star she had long been looking to #she was doing laps in her mind palace on her knees throwing sand in the air i just know it #(idr if it was ever confirmed when maya acquired those cds but i choose to believe she has been a fan for years reality is what i make it)

[furiousgoldfish]

Hi, just a little reminder to everyone who has attempted to message me or talk to me, and didn't get a reply or didn't get a reply they wanted.

I often have people messaging me expecting instant friendship and emotional support and talking to me as if we already knew each other. I don't think this is done with ill intent, but I do want to gently remind everyone that we are complete strangers when interacting online, and that I cannot grant anyone instant friendship; to me you are a person I don't know. I will talk to you as a stranger would. Even if you've been reading my words and taking solace and imagining a friend telling them to you, to me you are someone I've never met or known, and I cannot function as an emotional support on a personal level to strangers. It ultimately is not helpful for you to convince yourself that a stranger on the internet is your personal friend, or to push that stranger into trying to act the part; I am unable to fulfill this role. I am not emotionally well myself, and I do not have a support system, so being put in a situation where I'm expected to be one for a stranger feels unhealthy.

Another thing I'd love for everyone to remember is, that I don't have all of the answers. I love to help where I can, but ultimately I am a person in a lot of distress, trying to deal with multiple disorders without any access to therapy or even friends who understand what I'm going thru. I am isolated and posting on this blog is often all I have. If I knew how to get rid of trauma, how to deal with disorders, how to not be sick or in pain, how to evade abuse or how to feel okay, I would use this advice to fix my own life. But I am sadly, lost like the rest of us.

There are times where I am in too much distress to talk to anyone, if you sent me a message and it went unanswered, it is very likely that I was in a state so bad I could not communicate. I will usually recover from it within several weeks, but by that time I feel bad even reminding someone they've sent me a message, it feels asinine to try and reply so late. And it reminds me of the period where I felt bad looking at the message, unable to respond. I'm not ignoring messages on purpose. If you try again some time later, you're likely to get a reply, if I'm in a good state of mind.

However, if you send me a big number of messages at once, start talking about your issues without asking if it's okay first, send several messages without a reply and then keep sending them and demanding a reply, put pressure on me to communicate with you, try to guilt me into giving you an answer you want, or assuming I'm maliciously ignoring you, you've made me uncomfortable and I have to listen to my instincts and stop talking to you.

I am sensitive to anger, aggression, ranting, swearing, slur-use, and doing that in a conversation with me it will make me feel threatened. Because we're strangers, and any stranger acting like I'm an acceptable target to take their anger at is dangerous. We are not friends, and dealing with angry strangers is terrifying. In that situation I have to do what I would advise anyone else to do - leave the conversation.

The last issue is with people attempting to trigger me on purpose, pretending they need help then defending abusers, trying to convince me that all of my resources are harmful and doing nothing but damage, or trying to get me to delete my content, change my posts, advocating for abusers, siding with my abusers, telling me I'm a monster, insisting they're victimized by me unless I personally disprove my smear campaign to them, and generally trying to get me to lash out in order to post it online to claim I should be cancelled. That is the worst thing you could be doing to a traumatized abuse victim. I am a person, of course I sometimes say something wrong and not well thought and put out. That doesn't mean anything I ever do to help others is worthless and should be erased. And you will not convince me that my blog is useless or harmful. It helps me. And I am someone too.

#furiousgoldfish #why messaging me will sometimes have bad results #parasocial relationships #communicating with strangers forgetting they're strangers #i am scared of strangers online it is scary to be interacting with others #especially when trying to help you end up getting hurt and you just don't understand why it got so bad #that happens so often #and i have to be wary and have boundaries #and escape whenever i feel uncomfortable #even if it means someone will feel slightly bad #i don't have to bend my life so nobody ever feels slightly bad because of me #i need to feel safe #and i generally feel bad because of people who don't care how they're making me feel #because i only exist to get their needs met in their head #but i exist for me

[ratanarchist]

going to a mountain goats concert more like experiencing the infinite joys of being alive and the beautiful endurance of the human spirit with a crowd of middle aged men and some very obviously gay twenty somethings

#i went to the mountain goats concert! it was one of the best gigs i’ve ever seen!! #john darnielle is adorable he is my new best friend parasocial relationships be damned #the mountain goats

[shitswiftiessay]

taylor has a new man but all swifties can talk about is joe, joe, joe. they call him “yoghurt boy” because he worked in a yoghurt shop as a teen and they love to shame him for that because they’re a bunch of classist bigots. all they can think about is how joe must be feeling now and obsess over the idea of him being miserable. they check on him as if he is THEIR ex.

#shit swifties say #parasocial relationships #toxic swifties #joe alwyn #from what i have seen he has been happier than ever since the breakup #but that’s none of my business #classist swifties

[krobus-apologist]

Me: I’m blown away by the audacity to release this game in the state that it’s in. Every other in game day I run into an obvious dialog error that even I as a non-programmer know can be fixed by just by using proper bracketing. I regularly enter the mine & notice that several of the monsters are clipping through the floor. Hell, 25% of the furniture doesn’t even have the assets to allow it to be placed in game! And don’t even get me started on the mermaid kingdom not being finished and the Savannah not even being implemented

Coral island: ….you don’t have to play the game

Me: no I’m gonna play it

#coral island #the parasocial love hate relationship I have with this game is insane #I’m not convinced that the mushroom logs work or have ever worked #and the tall coconut tv announcement is a week late

[backseatloversz]

from Fall Out Boy Forever by Hanif Abdurraqib

#the jeff buckley -> pete wentz -> ryan ross -> influencing/relating to infinitely many other fans/artists thing always fucks me up #something something nothing of me is original i am the combined effort of everybody ive ever known (<- quote from invisible monsters) #(a novel which i read bcs theres a patd song about it) (and ryan likely got into palahniuk bcs wentz was into palahniuk) #(ITS WHATEVER THOUGH) #hanif abdurraqib #fob #god. my parasocial relationship/history or wtv with fob/pete wentz is so. long and complicated and convoluted. LOL #cowboy posts