#topic: Social Expectations

[shiroi---kumo]

Misterica’s White Prince :: Social Expectations

The ramble of the day is Social Expectations because once again I am brain rotting on this cloud like a fool and there’s just a thing I think I need to explain. 

Kumo will refer to “his station” every now and then and what he means by that is his place within the social hierarchy. In the the terms of Social Standing within Misterican society, Kumo was nearly as high as one could go.  He wasn’t just Second son, crowned prince and heir to the throne.  He was also  - Child of White, The Celestial Mother’s Holy Vessel.  

You know how we make judgements and assumptions about people in society when we’re kids based on how we’re treated?  

Like if someone treats you bad, you don’t really know any better and you just think it’s normal because you were never taught otherwise? Similar happened for Kumo but on the complete opposite side of the scale. 

Kumo was worshipped by his people. 

Kumo was worshipped by his people from a very young age because of the mist color he was born with.  He was met with near constant praise and told he was a holy being. He was worshipped by his people and I cannot stress that word enough.  When he accepted Tiamat into his form and became the Holy Vessel his title went from “Your Highness” to “Your Eminence”. Nearly everyone called him that. They called a teenager Your Eminence.  

So this is what I’m getting that. 

Kumo knew nearly no other way to be treated other than worship.  Kumo was raised in a situation where praise was constant and never ending.  Even if as an adult, he tries not to show that he enjoys being praised, he does. To Kumo, being praised isn’t just a kind gesture - it is a state of existence. He was raised in a never ending flood of praise and worship.  

He won’t outright ever admit to this, but there is a part of him in the back of his mind that expects this kind of behavior from other people. He expects to be praised in some way because he was raised not just to receive it but also to expect it.   

Kumo raised as A Holy Artifact in his culture. He was the Child of Prophecy and as such, that means whatever he did was judged excessively harshly - scaling one way or the other.  If he succeed at something he was praised to an extreme, if he failed at something he was met with extreme scrutiny. He was the Child of Salvation and foretold to save his people from a “great calamity” so they required god-like perfection out of him nothing less.

Not just that though. Kumo wasn’t just born the Child of Prophecy. He was born second son to Misterica’s King and Queen. He born within the space of Misterica’s Royal Court so that means he was raised to exceptionally high standards and he was expected to hold to them at all times. So now only does he hold himself to exceedingly high standards, whether he realizes he’s doing it or not - he holds everyone else to high standards as well and he will find disgust in what he considers poor manners. 

This reaction is involuntary and he doesn’t know he’s doing it. 

Kumo’s manners will shift depending on which persona is active, as in his manners are always present but they are more relaxed with some personas over others. His word choices will change and his body language will change with it. He’s always polite but he can become less or more so depending. 

Now as to what Kumo expects out of people - he understands that people are not going to praise him as they once did within the space of Misterica - there is a tiny voice in head that tells him they should. Living with Chaos took this need and desire for praise and affirmation and flipped it on it’s head and weaponized it to become the sharpest blade in the monster’s arsenal. For someone who’s love languages are Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch, Chaos weaponized them in every possible way it could and destroyed everything good Kumo knew about them.  

Kumo craves touch and praise and Chaos gave him both in reverse of what he was used to. Where Kumo knew soft touch - he was met with pain and torture. Where Kumo knew praise and worship - he was shamed and degraded for everything he was or could be.  

So when it comes to expecting things from others, one voice tells him that they should be treating him to a higher standard because he is Royalty and The Holy Vessel but there is another telling him he doesn’t deserve anything because he’s a monster and a demon and they should shun him and treat him like the beast he is. 

Kumo won’t ever say it, but he wants to be praised. It makes him feel loved and valued, and that praise can be anything from a compliment to “I love you” to a long (with permission) hug. He wants it, but he won’t ever express the need for it.  He doesn’t think he deserves it anymore.

#The Mist in my soul || Headcanon #topic: A Prince's Life #Topic: Tiamat #Topic: Chaos #topic: The Earl #Topic: Misterica #Topic: Misterican Culture #Topic: Misterican Royal Family #Topic: Misterican Religion #topic: Love Languages #topic: Social Expectations #tw; long post #tw; abuse #tw; manipulation #tw; gaslighting

[redbootsindoriath]

I was sitting around with my sketchbooks trying to choose who to draw and realized I’d never drawn Finarfin before.  Which makes sense because I don’t draw much of what went on in Aman, but still I decided it needed to be remedied because he’s a great guy.

And then this happened:

#fëanor #finarfin #fingolfin #the man the myth the legends #three shinies #my trash #is this actually funny or am i just tired #i'm sorry professor tolkien #/end classification tags #fact about me: dinosaurs are my favorite animal #i freakin love dinosaurs #my best friend already knows that if i'm getting heated in a conversation we can change the subject to dinosaurs and that'll calm me down #it's like magic #nothing else is like this #dinosaurs at their core are so un-charged with any social expectations #there is NO way they have any bearing on the previous conversation topic #so i can just immediately leave all the tension behind and be like ''DINOSAURS'' #anyway i should probably add some tags about finarfin too since he's literally what the post is about #i decided he should be pretty jacked because finrod and galadriel had to get it from SOMEWHERE #(and maybe the other siblings but i don't really have any headcanons for them) #and it felt weird to picture eärwen with a ripped body type so #finarfin got it #good for him #i can continue to picture the teleri generally leaner and more graceful #with the ñoldor as the swol hellenistic god types

[vaxxildamn]

very happy Matt decided to clarify his stance on the genocide of the Palestinian people rn. Pretty unhappy with the way he worded it, who he centered in his video, and disappointed to see the responses to it on Twitter.

kinda scared to even post about it bc CR fans can get so defensive about their favorite white people that they can often leave little room for criticism or nuance. but man I have thoughts.

#lemme just say. if you have a public platform that has set a precedent for philanthropic work. messages of positivity and love. #and have called attention to various political and social conflicts *in stream*. & whose employees and cast members are vocal #on socials about political topics #then it is NOT unreasonable for fans to expect them to address one of the deadliest orchestrated conflicts in recent history #a literal genocide is happening. thanks in part to the US. #it is good that they donated as a company and as individuals. so good! #but to everyone saying that publicizing good deeds like donations is virtue signaling or demanding CR cast to show their support is #or that activism shouldnt be all about what you post bc then it becomes performative #are kinda missing the point. and theyre not listening to palestinians at all #a huge issue with this conflict & the way its being received in the western world - ESPECIALLY the US bc of its partnership w israel - #is the sheer amount of disgusting minsinformation and propaganda convincing ppl this genocide is either not that bad or that its necessary #everyday citizens CANNOT change foreign policy. we cant do anything! #so what have Palestinians been asking us to do?? SPREAD AWARENESS ON SOCIAL MEDIA. MAKE PEOPLE AWARE. UPLIFT PALESTINIAN VOICES. SHARE LINKS #SHOW PPL THE TRUTH. #and yes its hard! its difficult to watch what theyre going thru. but we HAVE to. #i didnt rlly like matts statement. he said he didnt have the spoons to engage in the discourse. which i get. god i get it. #but ive also seen many many creators/influencers who are also disabled or whose families are directly involved gather their spoons to help #and no one was asking CR to harm themselves in the name of helping palestine. we only wanted them to spread awareness #bc the comments on their tweet about finally donating were full of mostly white centrist takes not able to see any benefit to donating or #addressing the issue at all. which is EXACTLY why CR should addresss it. bc they can reach so many who dont understand #but theyd been radio silent for almost 5 months. i didnt like that he didnt really apologize. i didnt like that he centered himself #i didnt like his lowkey flippant language either. saying all that.. ridiculousness in regards to a genocide not well worded. #but i dont feel right holding that against him. should he have thought it through better? sure but i get it #& unfortunately his parting message left a bad taste in my mouth - one of positivity & self care & hugging each other #nice important words but it didnt feel like he was talking about ppl who are affected by this conflict. but rather ppl who are watching #it just felt like a very white thing to say in response to this. we are not burdened and easily victimized bc of it #we are responsible. and so we must center palestinians. #if i were him i wldnt have gone in detail about how hard the palestinian genocide is for me to watch. #but thats just me #*CORRECTION: radio silent for almost 4 months

[justahopelessgreyromantic]

sometimes I think that I wish I wanted to be in a romantic relationship. but then I listen to my friends talk about dating and I remember, oh wait, no, I definitely do not

#todays topic: dances #first of all. expensive as shit #second of all. its like. expected that either right before or after the dance you're gonna go hang out together #that sounds like shit #like. my social batter would already be deleted from ONE of those #THIRD OF ALL !! most of the time its expected that one person is going to plan everything #like. yes. if you ask someone out i would assume you've got a plan #but for some whole ass date and a dance and tickets and actually ASKING ??? that sounds like a lot #and F O U R T H OF ALL !!!!! imo... kissing ew #aromantic asexual #aroace #arospec #aromantic #acespec #ace #asexual #aro

[thatscarletflycatcher]

The gifted kid to burned human disaster pipeline experience of someone calling you exceptional again and you just bursting into hysterical sobs as soon as you leave.

#It's been a night kids #not like the comment was about any great accomplishment here #I just forgot normal people don't just ask their ex-professors about sources to read about niche topics related to their specific subject #I sometimes wonder what my life would have been if I hadn't been #“full of promise - exceptional” when I was a kid #it's not that I don't know the downsides of that #my family never thought I'd have a romantic life so much so that no one ever tried to hide it #and it hurt all the same #But sometimes I fear we experience failure hardest when people expect great things from us #and if you are by nature a social affectionate person #it eats you alive when you fail #the hurt of having disappointed someone you looked up to and who put faith in you #much more than the wounded pride and defeat

[welcome-to-green-hills]

I live in constant fear of the sonjc 3 trailer that doesn’t even exist yet

Oh no! It’s okay honey! It’s gonna be a great experience. Besides, y’all will know when it drops when I start spamming posts and screaming like a psychopath 🤩❤️✨

#It’ll be okay! I think that we can expect more news about the third movie towards the summer months #I’ll do my part and stalk social media and look for things to share #mystery anon #off topic

[infizero]

every time i so much as think about that scene where light looks at porn magazines while scowling i go into hysterics its genuinely the funniest thing i've ever seen

#the funniest thing is is that i truly believe he thought he was being 100% convincing. that that's normal behavior for a completely straight #completely allosexual man #light is fucking awful and i hate him but also there's nuance to him. and sometimes i can get a little like. oh thinking about his life #before the series. specifically factoring in my headcanons about him being gay aroace and autistic and stuff. ppl have written some rlly #good fics surrounding those topics.... but yeah thats not even canon stuff but i dont care #anyways its not in a way of making excuses for how he is i just think it adds more to his character #hes total garbage but i think theres really interesting stuff with him when it comes to how he's.... VERY disconnected from others #just in general. he's like aware of how to act ''normal'' on like the most textbook surface level without being like. Aware enough to #be able to make it more convincing. and as ridiculous as it is i do see some of myself in him in that sense #also that person who said light and L is just autistic guy who's been masking his entire life vs autistic guy who's never masked in his #entire life. LITERALLY EXACTLY. genuinely perfect way to describe them they are both so similar when it comes to this #but the ways they go about it are very different. light has been playing the part of the perfect son his whole life. L doesnt try to change #himself for anyone and doesnt care when people think hes weird. both of them arent very socially aware and havent had any real friends #their whole lives. its such a fascinating parallel between them #i could go on a whole fucking thing about how light was pretending to be someone he's not around his family and at school and everything #long before he got the death note BUT. i wont. at least not right now #jesus christ how did i go from laughing about him with the magazine to this. my bad #derailed my own damn post. idk swagever #will say rq tho. watched a vid on youtube that pointed out how light expected his family to think nothing of the fact that he's gone to #such drastic measures to hide his diary when making the plan with hiding the death note which is like #that level of dedication would NOT be normal. so the fact that light expects his family to think nothing of it...... #i mean you could read that as light just once again being socially unaware. but it could also imply that light's family kind of Knows #he's hiding something and just doesn't address it. (he's gay. im talking about him being gay) #the video also referenced this comic that i didnt rb cause the actual premise of it (lawlight wedding) is um. #not at all my kind of thing. BUT it was light describing himself as a house with a basement when his family sees him as a one story house #and i thought that was such a cool analogy #ANYWAYYYSSSS i need to go to bed. thanks if you read my ramblings #serena.txt #death note posting

[ruthlesslistener]

girl help i was doing research on pcos and endometriosis and now my youtube keeps reccing me ivf clinics and pregnancy vlogs

#i'm trying to get RID of the motherfuckers not make them workkkkk #if you hear me talking more about preg/birth though then thats why. i have a sort of deep horror fascination with the topic #pregnancy is interesting from an evolutionary and social standard but also is like one of my major fears (parasitism) which makes it #fascinating #and then birth is like. an expected major hurt-comfort gorefest which can either have a happy ending or a not so happy one #ig thats why bloodborne is my fav horror game sjdhfg #it encompasses both that deep love and that deep horror #and the bloodieness that comes with creating a new life

[bcofl0ve]

'I always remind myself that my social media is a representation of one part of who I am, but not my entire being. That’s important when I’m looking at other people’s going: "Why is their life so perfect?" And then I remember I’m not posting some of the darker times in my life. You need to have grace and forgiveness for both yourself and others on how they portray themselves online.'

#her character in the shell movie is a young social media influencer so i expect a lot more woowoo social media talk from her #but it's a topic i like listening to her thoughts on so i'm seated! #mollie is studying for/taking law school finals queue #gossip time with mollie #kaia gerber

[cryptcombat]

I survived the presentation and it went alright!!!!

#i expected the prof who made buying his tiny book for 40 bucks mandatory be kind of a dickhead and he kinda was #he didn't have anything bad to say about my presentation #he was trying to nudge me to the right direction with very specific questions #not to be a special special girlie but i think i was the only whom he didn't tell to be more specific with my topic #it did feel like i was more prepared than the others #one negative thing i can think of is he said he didn't like the topic social media..... like ok how should i know #its still better than being told to start all over again like he did w some of the others lmao #i think the specific questions about the topic is the best result u can get with this guy

[peribirb]

oh no i am NOT huge on this new layout... this just feels like a coat of Twitter Paint tbh

#a UI upgrade is probably a good thing to do but this just feels really blatantly “We Need To Be More Like Twitter” #like all the side buttons are in the exact same place as on twitter come on #hot take i think a slight learning curve when joining a new website is fine actually they don't all have to act the same #keep tumblr unique and i don't just mean that as a “things were better back in my day” way #i mean tumblr needs to feel like a distinct website if it wants to actually stake out any territory in the social media landscape #i keep looking at the right side expecting to see horrifically transphobic trending topics #just because this layout tells my brain “this is twitter so watch out for Twitter Things” #i appreciate staff wanting to streamline things and like i said a UI refresh is good to do now and again but this. isn't working for me

[holyshit]

anons from earlier today ⬇️ (sorry for doing so much tag answering but it’s a heavy topic to me so i don’t want to get too... out there with it lol)

#'not ready' anon #oh yeah i completely agree with you 100% #it's a whole different beast and i really wish she was advised to put her socials on private bc it's gonna get brutal quickly :/ #so many aspects i don't like about this rip #'dare i say it' anon #yup exactly- it is a very uncomfortable choice in general from whoever was deciding this #and it doesn't surprise me that probably a bunch of men who are likely involved in this decision would not see how gross it is to actively #choose someone so much younger for him #like i fully expect they didn't recognize that it would be an issue because so many older men don't see an issue with dating women in their #early twenties #so it's very much a disappointed but not surprised moment for me lol #if they really thought this would be a good way to market to his younger fans- there are other! ways! you fuckers! #'answer in tags' anon #don't worry- you are very much entitled to feel that way and i totally understand where you're coming from #different topics are gonna hit different people harder and this is also a big Ick Factor conversation to me because of personal experience #so i 100% understand the feeling of needing to back off. even if this is not a breaking point for you i do always recommend taking steps #back occasionally to cool off and with that distance you can see whether you are still deriving joy from this fandom #or if the stress/things that upset you overrides it #also remember you are always free to dm me off anon if you ever want to have more of a one-on-one conversation about it! #i feel like i can at least give a decent ear since i have experience leaving fandom AND coming back lmao #asks #anonymous

[emersonfreepress]

What would the Emerson’s think of Gabe? As in what if one day Curt/Heidi brings Gabe home, would their parents approve? Seeing as Gabe is big on manipulation and keeping a strong/positive (?) façade

Love the story so much btw can’t wait to read more 😇

Kinda hard to answer this because there's no reason the Emersons would bring Gabe home in Book 1? Only thing I can imagine is a hypothetical dating context, in which case I can only imagine their parents having some very ugly, probing questions for them. None of the answers would be satisfactory — he's not important; he's not influential outside of school; he and his family are poor. Gabe could tough it out with them socially, sure, but he doesn't have the prerequisites to be taken seriously or noted in the first place.

thank you for reading <333

#diane might sigh with a tired look on her face and warn them to be careful when picking up strays #dave would probably sneer about wasting his time on this topic #remind curtis to focus on useful social prospects only #and tell heidi he expects whatever is going on to be short-lived and inconsequential; not as an opinion but an order #lol i am SO sorry for using tags like this i cant help it 😆😆😆 #lovely anon #answered #emersons #family talk #g cortés

[hyper-c]

how did serial experiments lain ever get popular with tiktok 4chan femcel type of people i do not understand

#serial experiments lain #honestly surreal #i found out about lain before that wave and yeah the fandom was about what you'd expect of a cyberpunk seinen anime #like what is it that attracts those types like how do they relate to it #also they simplify it so much like no lain wouldn't use 4chan this is not about being terminally online #like hacker culture fringe scientific/philosophical ideas etc are exploited in lain and this is like. #flying over the heads of the most of the newer fans who try to make it about 4chan or social media or mEnTal hEaLtH or whatever #edit: i am not saying that mental illness is not a thing in lain #just that it is not the only topic and viewing lain through a purely psychiatric lens is reductive #and this view i was criticising is usually combined with unnuanced view of mental illness which makes it worse

[wewontbesleeping]

this assignment I’m working on is soo hard bc the topic is like. highlight a surprising impact that a business (the one that you chose for a completely different topic for a different paper) has had on your community. like. am I supposed to LIE? because there isn’t a surprising impact that this restaurant has had on my community?????? what am I supposed to write about ??? it’s a restaurant???????

#Im so excited to be done with this class I HATE IT #and then I have to fucking take the next one next semester #also it’s a new restaurant too #so #like I genuinely am confused on what to do #especially because it’s like it has to be something you couldn’t find out from social media #like I feel like all of this fucking class has just been me being like I don’t fucking understand what you want from me #I don’t understand the prompt I don’t understand the topic I don’t understand the end result #and I’m probably thinking too much about it #it’s going to be fine I have an A so far #I don’t think even if I fuck up royally that I can fail this class #but I’m still like ?????? #I just want to do things right and make them good #but I don’t know how #how do I NOT SUCK at writing #I kind of thought this class would teach me how to write better but it feels more like I was supposed to already know #which was my fear about college #that they expect me to already just understand this stuff #thank GOD for my regular ass archaeology class #it’s like lectures and textbooks and LEARNING THINGS!!!!!! #not being tested on things I never learned but am somehow expected to already be good at

[gideonisms]

One thing about me is I will be normal for several days and then randomly every conversation I'm having is the most irritating conversation I've ever had

#*mercymorn voice* do not ask me for an opinion on the roadwork!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #it is ahead what more can i say!!!!!!!!!! #i do not know how many houses they are putting in the lot!!! i did not consult the construction company!!!!!!!! #shall i acquire useless information about my neighborhood in order to react to your conversational topics??? i'd rather die!!! #this is very mean so i try to tone it down. in my real life #i will also note that today i wished the employee at the gym a nice day and they did not respond which is fair I didn't want to speak anyway #but then my father wished them a nice day 10 seconds later and they did respond #what am i doing wrong? #is it my volume pitch body language tell me i am taking notes here!! #in nearly every conversation i *know* the other person is expecting some reaction from me they are not getting #i can see that after i respond there is a second they are still waiting for something #what is it??? what do they want. and the other rule is you can't ask! because you sound deranged and needy #but it's like. i am trying to give you what you want as part of this social contract i know that sounds sociopathic but #i am trying not to be a dick! every day i am trying! #what do you want??????? #ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!