#Playful Parenting

[hachama]

A big loud thunderstorm rolled overhead this evening after dinner. TH wasn't sure how to react. After making it into a funny game to rumble and stomp our feet after each thunder rumble, we switched it up. Now we're teaching TH to roar back at the storm.

It is the cutest thing.

#parenting #playful parenting #creating joy

[dropsofsciencenews]

Chimpanzee Mothers: Champions of Play Even in Times of Food Scarcity

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A recent study conducted in Kibale National Park in Uganda has revealed a surprising behavior among female chimpanzees: despite the scarcity of food, mothers continue to play with their young, playing a crucial role in the physical and social development of their offspring.

Kibale National Park is known to be the most densely populated primate forest in the world, with over 1,000 chimpanzees residing there. Researchers, led by Zarin Machanda and Kris Sabbi from Harvard University, began habituating chimpanzees to human presence in 1987, collecting detailed behavioral observations including climbing, feeding, grooming, and play.

Through the examination of 3,891 episodes of adult play recorded within the chimpanzee community of Kanyawara, researchers not only observed that this practice persists in adults unlike most other mammals, but also evaluated how adult play is influenced by diet quality. While play between adults and unrelated immatures decreased during food scarcity, play between mothers and offspring persisted, suggesting that this type of play was less constrained compared to play with other partners.

The observation that mothers continue to play with their young despite food scarcity underscores the crucial importance of play in the animal world and the extraordinary dedication of chimpanzee mothers in ensuring the well-being of their offspring, even in the most challenging times. This suggests that chimpanzee mothers play a crucial role in the physical and social development of their young, even when facing the threat of food scarcity.

That adult chimpanzees play to build relationships or support learning opportunities for younger group members evaluations of the potential functions and evolution of play are incomplete without considering its costs. The fact that chimpanzee mothers bear these costs even when ecology constrains other aspects of their social behavior primarily reveals a hidden cost of motherhood for this species, where, as with humans, mothers are important play partners for their offspring.

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#Chimpanzee Mothers #Playful Parenting #Animal Behavior #Primate Research #Chimpanzee Study #Motherhood #Playtime #Kibale National Park #Uganda #Harvard Research #Chimpanzee Community #Wildlife Observations #Parental Dedication #Chimpanzee Development #Food Scarcity #Wildlife Conservation #Animal Behaviour #chimpanzee #Play #News #Drops of Science #Natural Sciences #Science

[linusjf]

Margaret J. Wheatley: Aggression

“Aggression only moves in one direction – it creates more aggression. ” —Margaret J. Wheatley.

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#aggression #Anwar al-Awlaki #Boston Terrier #History #Margaret J. Wheatley #Menna #Playful Parenting #Religion and Spirituality #violence

[hualianisms]

on twitter here and here, forayuarchive has been talking about how LLH & FDB really act like an old married couple, and i couldn't stop thinking about it too. as a native chinese speaker, the level of informality, familiarity and bickering, in how FDB and LLH speak to one another (especially in the later episodes) are reminiscent of how bickering old married chinese couples are often depicted.

when FDB is angry/upset at LLH, he calls him "死莲花" - "Damn Lotus/Damn Lianhua". the way FDB says it is in a manner where you might imagine old spouses scolding one another when nagging/bickering (to clarify, it's not romantic per se, but it's extremely informal & familiar).

for example, in ep 35, FDB calls him Damn Lotus in the note he left LLH when he went to look for the styx flower. CN fanghua fans on weibo managed to painstakingly transcribe the note (see forayuarchive's tweet about it here with the eng translation) - it's extremely informal and reads like a short note a spouse/partner would write when leaving their shared home in a hurry.

i also still can't believe LLH calls FDB "xiaobao", it speaks for itself. 小宝 Xiao Bao (literal meaning is "little treasure") is usually something you call literal babies/children AND is FDB's family nickname for him so if you're calling a grown man that in front of his parents and his colleagues and strangers and literally everyone, then he's either your biological family or he's your bf/partner. (it's a level of intimacy that would make me feel embarrassed as a third party hearing LLH call FDB that in front of everyone😭)

and not to mention the deleted line of FDB calling a sick/unconscious LLH "xiaohua'er". (see video & meta of the deleted line by forayuarchive here, translation of the deleted line by ttiesanjiao here). xiaohua'er is so intimate, definitely something one might call a lover 😭

(*for more name meta, see forayuarchive's twitter thread meta about all the names that FDB and LLH call one another, and in what situations each particular name is used)

in any case these are NOT what a disciple calls his shifu or a son calls his dad. these nicknames are far too informal and familiar - no son talks to his father like that and no disciple talks to his shifu like that. (now, an angry spouse however...)

(there's also the fact that FDB explicitly rejects their relationship as being anything other than that between 2 adult equals - when LLH jokes that FDB should bow to him as disciple, FDB immediately rejects the idea, saying that he was only joking about wanting to be LLH's disciple, that FDB is too old now. he firmly sees himself as an adult equal to LLH.)

tl;dr within months of knowing each other, LLH & FDB act as familiar as an old couple 10 years married, skipping the entire courtship stage 😭

#fanghua #mysterious lotus casebook #fang duobing #li lianhua #莲花楼 #mlc meta #there's more to say about the names they use for each other but this post is alr getting long #sometimes i see ppl saying that LLH and FDB are like dad and son and um... well you can all interpret anything you want #im just saying that as a native chinese speaker the way they talk to each other is NOT shifu & disciple at all #(UNLESS IT'S THE MO RAN AND CHU WANNING KIND OF DISCIPLE AND SHIFU/SHIZUN) #its even less son & dad😭😭 (v much NOT son & parent dynamic like omfg even if a child and parent were v close they would NEVER talk to #their parent like that in chinese culture. NEVER. bc it'd be so rude that at that point ur rejecting ur dad if u call him like that) #(as in straight up not seeing that person as ur dad at all. rejecting them as a parent entirely) #(bc FDB does NOT see LLH as anything other than an equal) #compare FDB & his mom - he is v close to her. he is playful with her but still always calls her Niang ('mother') #edited the post several times im so sorry for how many times i edited this

[greymantledlady]

i couldn’t stop thinking about this post i made earlier about Jamie and his ‘dad’s’ mannerisms so i giffed it for comparison 💔 it’s so hard to watch but i love how happy and bouncy he is in the second one with roy compared to how beaten and afraid he looks in the first ❤

#jamie tartt #ted lasso #royjamie #roy x jamie #ted lasso sneak peek #ted lasso gifs #tw abuse #(just tagging to be on the safe side) #sorry everyone for the pain #the thing is! it's not an inherently abusive gesture #it's a joking playful little boxer's punch and if this was a healthy parent-child relationship it might even be sweet #but. it's NOT. and because of the abuse jamie suffers at james' hands the play punch is very much not playful anymore #and just plain frightening

[tofreezetime]

meetings of life

#nature #photography #sweden #nature photography #canon #photographers on tumblr #beauty #beauty of nature #nature reserve #spring #children #kids #play #playful #children playing #playing children #swan #bird #birds #swans #animals #animal #wild animals #wildlife #wildlife photography #ornitology #swan photography #beautiful swan #people #parents and kids

[thecatcrew]

Good morning everyone, please meet the newest member of our cat crew, everyone say hi to Sylvester!

#cats #cats of tumblr #catsofinstagram #cute cats #cats pics #beautiful cats #meow #my photography #purrfection #animals #tuxedo cat #black and white #sylvester the cat #cat mom #cat parent #cat life #cat world #playful cat #thecatcrew #good morning #cat whiskers #cat nose #cat paws #toe beans #cat lovers #cat ears #cat belly #cat eyes #happy cat #boy cat

[simmersofia]

#ken is definitely the more playful parent ✨ #sims 4 #ts4 #sims 4 gameplay #ts4 gameplay #sims 4 legacy #ts4 legacy #sims barbie legacy #business barbie

[caitlynmeow]

I love how in game Bela’s lines are so business like. You can tell she’s in charge and she’s very efficient because mama expects a lot from her and she isn’t there to disappoint.

Cassandra is the opposite she’s very playful and doesn’t take anything seriously. Her lines are literally “rawr” trying to scare Ethan while laughing and she literally says “play with me some more” like girlie is there to have a fun time while she’s killing the man-thing and she plans to enjoy it.

Daniela is… she’s playful, not really on the serious side either. She messes around with Ethan, drawing him into a sort of fantasy before she lunges in for the kill. Definitely more on the fun side than the serious one.

And I LOVE how genuinely surprised she is when he attacks. She just doesn’t understand why he would hurt her even when she’s trying to eat him.

#house dimitrescu #cassandra dimitrescu #daniela dimitrescu #bela dimitrescu #resident evil village #resident evil 8 #re8 #headcanon #babies #they’re literally the personification of first middle and youngest child #in this regard it’s bela bring the responsible one while her sisters are messing around #yes cass is efficient in hunting even better than bela but she does it while being all playful and fun and not serious at all #im sorry but she killed me with that rawr like girl 😭😭😭 #she literally was playing and having her fun while slowly killing Ethan #love that for her really #dani just want to be left along and do her own thing #but when things don’t go her way she’s genuinely confused and doesn’t get why things are happening like this #the poor baby isn’t used to disappointments like this and it shows #you can tell she is VERY indulged she gets confused when she’s rejected or told no #omg this tells you what kind of parent Alcina is she really spoils the hell out of her daughters #remember how the girls #ALL THREE OF THEM #grunt and stomp their feet in frustration when they’re not having their way???? #because their mama rarely says no to them they just get visibly upset when faced with that kind of thing #and I’m sure Alcina doesn’t see anything wrong with her parenting because her daughters are amazing lovely children and she’ll give them #the world

[imhereformysciencefriends]

@loturaweek2023 day 5: Runaways from Royal Nannies!

Melenor (named after her grandmother, in honor), Garrett (named by Coran, with a sadness Lotor now knew the man well enough to place), and Oria (a family name on Allura’s side) were supposed to be with their governess, right then.

As three small children ran giggling into Lotor’s legs, lifting his skirt cape around their shoulders so as to hide beneath it, he let out a huff of fond exasperation.

“And what, perchance, are you three doing here?” he asked them, the dignitary he stood speaking with giving an amused and knowing smile as he put their discussion of sewage on hold.

“Shhhshshsh!” Melenor urged, Garrett copying her and Oria copying them both with her chubby fingers.

“Oh?” Lotor arched his eyebrow. “What’s this? Are you hiding? Is that what you’re doing?”

The shushing redoubled, all three of them hissing at him louder than he’d spoken, and the dignitary lifted their pad to their lips to hide their smile.

A harried Altean woman with large muscles and hair pulled messily back in a bun rounded the corner, the sash at her hips fluttering with her rush. “Your Majesty,” she greeted, sounding somewhere between tired and defeated.

“Governess,” he returned politely. “I hope all is well, and the children are behaving themselves?”

More shushing from beneath his skirt cape, quieter now.

“About as well as they typically do, Your Majesty.”

“And where are my children, now?”

A tittering of giggles rose from beneath his skirt cape, all three pairs of tiny feet clearly visible, which the poor woman’s eyes landed on with something approaching exasperated fondness (heavier on exasperation, at that junction).

“I’m afraid I don’t know, my lord.”

“Unfortunate. But I’m sure they could not have gotten far. Perhaps they’ve gone to the kitchen again, I’ve heard there’s much to drink and snack on, there,” he gently prodded. He could look after the three of them for a bit. She looked like she could use a drink. And maybe a nunvill, but that wasn’t allowed while she was on the clock.

“A fine idea, Your Majesty, I’ll try there.”

She stalked off, swiping flyaways out of her face and leggings making a soft swishing sound as the legs brushed together, and Lotor waited until she was out of sight to lift his skirt cape to reveal the giggling children beneath it.

“You know, you really must stop causing her trouble,” he urged mildly, already fully aware that his children were unlikely to heed such words.

“We’re not!” Melenor insisted, “We just want to be with you!”

And quiznack it all if the little mite didn’t know she had her daddy wrapped around her finger. He sighed.

“I can’t imagine why. I’m not going to be very interesting, I have to talk about sewers, and pipes, and water decontamination, for hours. You’ll get bored.”

“Nuh uh!”

“Very well then, you may stay, but you must let me work,” he said firmly.

“Oh Lotor, you’re spoiling them again!”

Lotor and his children all looked up to see a miffed Allura approaching, and squeals of “Mama!” rang out as Lotor’s legs were swiftly abandoned for additional parental clinging.

“Me? My dear wife, never.”

“Always,” she accused, lifting Oria onto one hip and knocking a fist against the other. “You’re too indulgent.”

“But look at them,” he said, kneeling down and pulling Garrett and Melenor against his sides, squishing his face between theirs, “How can you say no to such faces, Allura?”

“Easily,” she said, giving him a flatly unimpressed look.

Lotor sighed. “Your mother is cruel, children. She is preparing you for the harshness of this world.”

“Where is your nanny?” she asked, ignoring his antics, and Lotor pouted.

“Papa sent her to the kitchen.”

“Then that is where we shall go. Come along, you three, your father has work to do right now,” she said pointedly, taking Garrett’s hand in the one not holding Oria and ushering Melenor forth.

He stooped to steal a kiss, which she indulged, and then continued herding them off while he stared after her fondly.

It was still such a joy, for him. To be a husband, a father, a caretaker. Someone whose children were not scared of him, not even at all. He would never have dreamed of running off from his Dayak and causing her the trouble these three caused their governess, and he would have never run to his father to hide from her. It felt good, that that was different for them. It felt right.

The dignitary cleared their throat and Lotor returned his attention to the subject at hand, putting thoughts of his children aside for the moment. He’d have plenty opportunity to indulge them all later.

#loturaweek2023 #lotor #allura #lotura #vld #fanbabies #lotura babies #vt #my writing #haro writes #i think Lotor would be the more permissive parent of the two after the end of his arc ngl #season 3 lotor would never but the more he's near Allura the more he softens down and realizes just how wrong his whole upbringing was #and he would delight in being indulgent and soft and playful #so allura has to pull up the slack about being strict but hes also softened her down a lot from her season 1 uptightishness #so all in all those three are ABSOLUTELY spoiled rotten

[mid-nightowl]

<3 5 facts for a celebrity au? (pairing of ur choice!)

hi tauria!!!! thank you for ask :) <3 <3 <3

this is a good one, but it was a challenge. now bear with me, we're gonna do a dickjaytim celebrity au 👀

Jason’s the celebrity (but like minorly?). He's a theater actor and is well-known in theater circles etc., but most people off the street wouldn’t recognize him. He’s a fan favorite on twitter/social media though, for being a scathing but good critic for new books and books-turned-movies. 

>>Tim’s the CEO of Drake Industries and a rival to Wayne Industries in Gotham (but like he doesn’t take it as seriously as he should to the despair of his board). His parents died when he was a teenager and after graduating high school early, just took on the company and does whatever he wants. 

>>Dick is an orphan and the ward-adoptee of Bruce Wayne. Same backstory as canon, circus kid adopted by rich Gothaminite. Bruce and him act more like older brother-younger brothers and act like Alfred is their father/grandfather figure. Bruce is CEO and offered Dick a position at the company but Dick would rather not. Unclear on what job Dick does in this but he’s not a cop (blegh).  

>>Tim and Dick are local celebrities, well-known and often chased by paparazzi, but Jason’s the real focus for this AU.

So, Tim’s a CEO and has to attend galas and rich people events, socialize and get people invested in his company (as well as prove himself a capable CEO despite being so young). He typically hates these events, dreads going, comes up with any excuse he can, but does attend some. He attends a theater play, expecting not to have to talk or socialize too much because it’s a play, and falls head over heels for the main actor, Jason. 

>>Tim sort of falls into being a stalker-y, secret admirer of Jason but Jason’s pretty smitten with all the nice, thoughtful notes and gifts he’s getting (especially compared to some gross ones he gets from Roman Sionis and other old rich dudes hoping to buy his favor). EXCEPT, Timmy’s not the only one in the running for Jason’s hand. 

>>Enter Dick Grayson. Dick was often third-wheel to galas and other events with Bruce and Selina, often exasperated and bored. But, so so similar to Tim, attends an event expecting to be bored out of his mind and is instead captivated by this stunning actor aka Jason. Cue the courting and gifts. 

And expectedly, Tim and Dick both start to realize there’s someone else trying to steal Jason and they figure out who. And this starts an epic rivalry over Jason’s heart. It starts with trying to out-gift the other, both buying Jason elaborate but meaningful gifts (rare books he likes, regular books, flowers and jewelry, donations to his favorite charities, etc). And it escalates rather quickly. I imagine Dick can be downright mean in this and Tim is just as biting, both unashamed in their rivalry and obsession with Jason. Anyways, there’s a lot of fun and hilarious stuff you could do with Dick and Tim fighting without physically fighting. (I’m giggling over them sniping at each other over twitter and Gothamnities just being ???? until Jason [Gotham’s adored theater nerd] chimes in and fans start having a lightbulb moment) 

Eventually, Tim and Dick’s rivalry hits a high point and the two tumble into bed together. And then they both decide they can just share Jason. Jason, of course, is oblivious to all of this. He likes Dick and Tim a lot, like a little too much, but won’t make the first move because he is a shy baby and then starts to think they’re only doing it as like a weird rich kid rivalry ritual and don’t actually care about him or his feelings. 

After Jason’s (inaccurate) revelation, he starts to pull away from Dick and Tim (especially when paparazzi and social media pick up on the fact that Dick and Tim seem to be “dating”). Dick and Tim take this as a challenge, and Jason (and his coworkers/friends) thought it was bad when those two hated each other, but Tim and Dick working together??? It is…terrifying? Impressive? Terrifyingly impressive? Jason’s already head over heels, but now he’s obsessed even more (but also overwhelmed and a bit light-headed at all the swooning he's doing, it’s a bit too much at times). I’m running out of steam here, but eventually Dick and Tim do manage to convince Jason that yes, they do adore him, and no, this is not a weird rich-kid rival thing. And Gotham breathes a sigh of relief when Jason gets caught leaving Dick-Tim's penthouse covered in hickies and wearing their clothes :))

#ask game #ladytauria #thanks again for the ask!!!! <3<3<3 #i def headcanon in this jay is kind of physically tiny but his acting make him feel larger than he actually is #but he still has some self-esteem issues from when he was a kid esp off-stage when he's not in a persona/mask #tim fell in love with jason's care/passion and his brain/tongue #(not to mention tim and photography esp capturing jason in the throes of his acting the imagery aesthetic and all that jazz) #i think jason tests and sharpens tim; reminds him that he loved learning; loved knowledge and information #tim and jason teach and learn from each other but in a playful way? maybe jason kind of reminds tim of living life outside of work #dick fell in love with jay's performance like dick looks at jason and it reminds him of his own performances at Haly's #and jason's heart&passion was so similar to dick's own #and dick hasn't felt that in years (not since his parents fell; not since he stopped flying) #and dick wants to chase that feeling; wants to hold and cherish it and jason brings that out of Dick so badly he needs it all the time #and then tim and dick fall for each other for their unwavering loyalty determination and drive maybe even matching stubbornness #like it is very much is a rival-to-lovers subplot #they end up really respecting one another and realizing they haven't had this much fun with another person since jason #and i also think there's a built trust in the fact that both of them know they'll fight and work to understand one another #okay this is a lot of tag rambles i will stop now lolol

[b0bthebuilder35]

#life #lessons #life lesson #lesson #life lessons #lessons in life #lesson in life #reality #capitalism #capitalist society #joy #playful #play #quality time #enjoy life #existence #justification #justify my existence #childhood trauma #winnie the pooh #christopher robin #life goals #live life #work #all work no play #spend time with family #spend time with your kids #children #raising children #parenting

[travalerray]

this kid is absolutely his jiujiu's nephew

#crying jl POV puts into perspective how insane everyone in the story is every single time #(not to say that the kid is normal but yk) #(there's a lot to be said about JL having to recontextualize a lot of things about JC's behaviour post golden core reveal with him having a #front row view to his uncle's specific brand of insanity regarding his shixiong and forming his own complex about the guy who killed his #parents and having to go through the agonizing realisation that it wasn't all that simple—because even if they did the people who all playe #a part in their deaths....they had been good to him. As for how the deaths played out...oof. He couldn't forgive them. But he couldn't hate #them either. And now he has to be the sect leader.) #(while it's true that JC was good to JL it's also very true that JC's feelings about WWX coloured his views about WWX very much as evidence #in the post Yi City argument. I think it's interesting how the trauma and misunderstandings take shape) #((also the stab. Easily one of the most heartbreaking events)) #jin ling #jiang cheng #wei wuxian #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #mdzs #mo dao zu shi #kk's rambles tag

[ben-the-hyena]

In order to refresh my memories I watched Avatar again and not only did I love it more than last I watched it (I was like what ? 13 ? 14 ? I get nuances better now) and it makes me understand the hate even less (it is not perfect and does have problems yes but COME ON at this point it's exagerate ! "Plot is cliché" no story is original anymore you know, "white savior plot" no because white savior implies saving "savages with "civilization" while here Jake Sully ENTERS their culture and becomes part of it, "CGI is common now who cares" why do you still care about Star Wars and Marvel then "there is only one Avatar and it's the cartoon and the movie stole its title" you do know the cartoon did not make up that word right?), I... absolutely love Jake X Neytiri. I already back then found their relationship natural, not forced and realistic but now that I understood and liked the film better, and now that in the meantime I experienced (and still am experiencing) love, for a reason I do not know at all their love story really speaks to me. Like, it makes no sense because obviously I don't live in the same place or in the same circumstances and I don't even have their personalities, but for some reason I really feel this connection and feel this is what I feel and what I want with the one. Their sex scene had me emotional for days and this is only because I realized all their relationship speaks to me. The trust, the risks, the obstacles, the connection, the love, the care... holy shit I will probably not draw or write about them a lot because they are less "fun" than a lot of other OTPs I have to experiment with, but these 2 for some deep reason I can't comprehend and has no logic hits in my soul and my heart and reminds me of the one dear to me and myself and what I want us to have. And now I am going to watch in a few days the sequel and I bet I'm gonna be just as emotional especially since they have kids now

#the fact making love is marrying in Na'vi and that Neytiri knew it but chose to because she chose him and not Tsu'tey aaaaa- #the deleted scene in which she pregnant aaaaaa THE WAY THEY ARE PLAYFUL AND EVOLVE WITH EACH OTHER AAA- #Avatar #moi #movie #jake sully #neytiri #love is here #i ship it ! #fandom #feels #parents and children #really usually sex scenes are either hot or awkward with touches of feels and cute. this one was ENTIRELY FEELY TO ME #i thought it was because I'm on my period but- no. it just... they just hit me deeply

[sexysilverstrider]

it dawns on me that pokemon is part of my life. like i will at least see pokemon on a daily basis. whether its the stuff i have the games i play the fics i read the arts i look the music i listen even the characters i think. pokemon basically becomes a part of me. idk i feel like thats something special. its not only part of my childhood but it follows me all the way to adulthood. i love pokemon 💕

#im gonna be broke when i go to the pkmn centers in japan lol #fafar yaps #i never regret the day my parents bought me a purple gameboy color n pkmn blue #...i think i playes blue #then yellow #then gold #then crystal #of course crystal being my fav childhood game n the one i have core memories of #i remember playing it secretly at night when im over at my grandparents hehe #i was so stoked to finally beat the e4 #n then shocked to realize im able to travel to kanto #it was soooo late at night but i just gotta finish the ship event to vermillion at least haha #ah pkmn #about pokemon

[erikatsu]

im so sad over itto wtf

#rant in tags #he just #he’s so misunderstood #he’s playful and fun but when you look past that.. he’s so lonely #people are SO mean to him. they throw beans at him during festivals. try to pick on granny oni. insult him to his face and behind his back #his village accused his family of robbery simply because they were oni’s #they threw ROCKS AT HIM #and he was forced onto the streets when his parents died. picking fights with anyone who bad mouthed onis #until granny oni took him in despite what he is #NOBODY SHOWED UP TO HIS FESTIVAL BUT US #people ridicule him for being childish or a bum when in all reality #itto is still very young in oni years and they don’t realize it #his very first thought when he got his vision was his family. his mom and dad and grandparents and granny oni #and he was so excited he told literally everyone the time of day #who gave him the time of day** #they look at him with distaste and mistrust right off the bat #and these things get to him. he knows people think he’s dumb or that he is evil #to the point where he believes it too #and he doesn’t fucking deserve that at all #he doesn’t. #he is so so warm hearted and caring and would go out of his way to help strangers and risk his life for others #he deserves so much better than what he’s been dealt #im literally crying why are people so mean to him #he has so much love to give and he hardly gets any in return #my heart hurts sm