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[delcat177]

If you're renegotiating once someone is in subspace, you're writing dubcon. I happen to think that's one of the joys of fiction, because no one can get hurt, but if your thing is making a facsimile of a real scene to make it totally consensual and you do not know how to do that, you might want a little bitty more research.

So, first off, this is not an attempt to kink shame (dubcon and noncon are great!) but I do keep seeing a thing in fics (I do NOT see this irl in kink spaces nearly as often) where like. A character will interrupt the flow of the scene to check consent

And I don't mean in an "are we still green?" Or "what's your color?" kind of way, but I mean. The author has tagged the fic and indicated via prose and/or author notes that they are doing their Due Diligence to make sure this fic is Righteously Consensual from top to bottom, No Question About It

And a character will ask for full sexual consent either directly or indirectly or renegotiate the boundaries of the kinks being practiced AFTER the sex acts have already begun.

Here's the thing: horny brain isn't great at making decisions! irl in kink spaces, there's often a lot of emphasis on negotiating BEFORE the scene begins, perhaps even with a space between negotiation and the scene if it's with a new/unfamiliar partner (maybe it's a few minutes while things are set up, maybe the partners negotiate a day or more in advance! It depends!), and not changing the parameters of the scene after someone is already horny or god forbid already in subspace.

Again, these are perfectly fine rules to break in fiction, when the author is aware of it (most characters are not going to be fully familiar with safe, sane, consensual practices and the traffic light system, nor would we want them to be!) but I'm increasingly finding fics where the author DOESN'T seem aware, which takes a normal fic (in-character, with reasonable but perhaps even somewhat dubious practices, which the author isn't emphasizing or preaching about) into Red Flag Territory (a character, OOC, yanking me out of the scene to behave like a PSA about consent instead of conforming to the horny tone of the scene, and perpetuating unsafe practices anyway)

If you are writing a master manipulator or someone who wants to have a gotcha, you totally said it was okay on a character they are trying to bone (which is well in the realm of non/dubcon) that's fine! This PSA is not aimed at you. But if you are trying to write someone who Cares Strongly About Consent, then perhaps be more aware of when is an appropriate time to escalate the situation (sexually speaking) or ask for consent!

#Fanfiction #The Discourse #Writing #Calm down study up #Stop taking fic consent so seriously please they are fictional characters and you can make them stop #It's the rare ability to have assumed consent #Because it is in fact fiction #Relax #Cool it #Fall apart in my backyard #Del yells #Kink talk #I will never have stoplight system in tswu #Because the first traffic light was apparently invented in 1917 #Meaning Maxwell has never seen one #They have their own coding #It's cute #I think so anyway

[delcat177]

You wouldn’t last an hour in the asylum where they raised me

#onceler #the onceler #Chocotiel #listen here cumslut #Peter Pan #Disney parks #That poor man #infinite chocolate #I was on the ground for chocotiel #It was amazing

[delcat177]

the beautiful original post by @garaks-padded-bra can be found here, with additions from @acrowbyanyothername, @starfleetshrimps, @imhaley, @ronzyponyo, @funnywormz, @deepestturtlepielover, @willowandthesagaofgayyearning, @summer-azure, and @spacetronomyfan

(as always, omagpies stuff drops on Patreon @/magpiecrown one month in advance, and there’s already a hefty backlog awaiting everyone 💗)

#Comics #Comic #Sandwich #Sandwiches #Community effort #community engagement #Well done lads

[delcat177]

sleeping positions that fuck up your spine feel so good for no reason it’s literally the devil’s deepest temptation

#sleep #My hips

[delcat177]

So earlier in art class today, someone drew a characters hands in their pockets and mentioned that hands are really like the ultimate end boss of art, and most of us wholeheartedly agreed. So then, our teacher went ahead and free handed like a handful of hands on the board, earning a woah from a couple of students. So the one from earlier mentioned how it barely took the teacher ten seconds to do what I can’t do in three hours. And you know what he responded?

“It didn’t take me ten seconds, it took me forty years.”

And you know, that stuck with me somehow. Because yeah. Drawing a hand didn’t take him fourth years. But learning and practicing to draw a hand in ten seconds did. And I think there’s something to learn there but it’s so warm and my brain is fried so I can’t formulate the actual morale of the lesson.

#Ego death

[delcat177]

I think now is a good time to remind people of The Internet Archive which has a metric shit ton of shows and movies for free and won't give your computer any viruses cause it's not a pirate website.

Or Tubi, which has a metric shit ton of stuff free with ads, and you don't even have to make an account or download the app. Same with Pluto, although Pluto is pretty slow.

Even YouTube has a lot of free stuff, and I don't just mean the official YouTube movie channel. I mean, there's a bunch of channels that upload movies you can watch without having to click a link to some shady website. YouTube also has a lot of audio book uploads too.

So don't worry about not getting brand new shows because there's so much media out there's that you haven't even consumed yet.

#tubi #pluto tv #tv #streaming #movies #streaming services #archive.org #My beloveds

[delcat177]

What a cute post, I'll just look in the tags and

My boyfriend's professor doesn't believe I exist, so I sent this email

And his professor responded with this

#Rollercoaster post #I knew at the signature ngl #Christian tumblr is interesting

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"Are you ok?" I'm actually tired bro. From the bottom of my heart I'm tired

#there it is #Mood #I have crossed three different deserts #I am bereft with calico sands #Ego death #I think the correct response here is hitting the 4/20 overstock and watching Donnie Darko #It's rarely a bad decision to watch Donnie Darko

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saw a poll on here where one of the categories was “I have over 300 hours in a single video game” and people were picking it and saying “I have way more than 300 hours!!” but they were all talking about games like ffxiv or overwatch where there’s a prolonged play element. that’s just not impressive to me. you’re SUPPOSED to have 300 hours in those games. what game do you have over 300 hours in that you absolutely should not be able to have 300 hours in? mine is the ace attorney trilogy

#we love katamari #I did everything in that game #I rolled up a million roses #I caught the giant rampaging cowbear #I wonder if it's possible to get 1000 cranes #I wish i had taken pics of my OG giant cowbear..... #Anyway #acnh #Just found out i spent over 615 hours on my main character ALONE #Hindsight is 2020 #Gaming

[delcat177]

Oh? Is this thing still working??

Thank you for all of your loving Thank you for all of your tears Thank you for all of your kindness Thank you for being here --John 4

#pecca vi #the skies we're under #tswu #writing #Generating... #don't starve #shotgun radio #hammer down #rabbit ears #fandomversary #don't starve together #maxwil #dst #maxwell carter #wilson percival higgsbury #woundson.jpeg #gdi maxwell #we do a little trolling #some switches never get set to OFF

[delcat177]

Motion Picture Magazine, March 1921

#the more things change the more they stay the same #Movies #Theatre #Cinema #People

[delcat177]

Greebo the weird stoner gremlin Sneasler would like to uhhhhhhhhh

#He is also a VESSEL for friend Raile #So like #That's something #Tumblr memes

[delcat177]

that’s all folks! I’m out of idea for more!

#Fine fellas #Fandom #That one fandom #The good one #I'm BEHIND sorry

[delcat177]

MASKING MYTHS BUSTED: “Masking = Acting NT.”

FALSE.

Autistic masking does not necessarily mean “pretending to be allistic/neurotypical," although you’d definitely be forgiven for thinking it does.

Non-autistic researchers have been referring to it as “camouflaging” for years, framing it as an intentional choice to suppress autistic traits and replace them with allistic ones in order to “blend in.” Doing an internet search on the term will return several similar results.

But now, Autistic researchers are in the game, and their take is much more nuanced and comprehensive than that. (Funny how that happens, isn’t it?)

They’ve found that:

- It CAN be intentional but is often subconscious and involuntary 

- It is a protective response to trauma and feeling unsafe 

- It is often about suppressing more than just autistic traits 

- It is about identity management and being able to predict how people will treat you, not just “blending in”

Some people will lean into being “the bad kid” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Some people will even act “more autistic” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Others still will do things to attract attention in controllable, more “acceptable” ways to avoid attracting attention in unsafe, more stigmatizing ways. Not because they WANT to be that way, but because it lets them predict people’s responses better, which feels safer.

Also, there are Autistic people who can’t “pass” for non-autistic no matter how hard they try. That doesn’t mean they’re not masking. They may actually be working hard to suppress A LOT, they just can’t do everything to neuronormative standards.

None of these people will be accused of “blending in,” yet they are still masking their hearts out. When we assume they are not, we miss all the harm that masking is causing them. But they are suppressing themselves and suffering the consequences of that just as much as any Autistic person whose mask successfully says, “Hey, I’m just like you!”

(For more on this, please see the work of Dr. Amy Pearson and Kieran Rose.)

#neurodivergent #neurodiversity #Autism #actually autistic #Excuse me sirs i am an autist #Masking #camoflauge #I survived the 00s on a cocktail of class clown and alien #It's a thrive state actually #Thrive states

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Ty for continuing to work on TSWU despite it all. I've been keeping up w ur work kinda off and on for a long time and seeing the update pop up when I checked the Don't Starve tag just. Thank you for continuing to work on it, I'm so glad to see it

Thank you so much for your kindness, ehe

It's been a long ten years...

#Tswu #Anon #Del starves #You are all Tock to me

[delcat177]

You have to recognize your capacity for harm. You cannot omit the harm you've done to others to remain "good." Anybody can be a bigot. Anyone can be an abuser. Anyone can harm anyone at any time even those who have been harmed themselves. The world is not made up of victims and villains only, this is life, not a Saturday morning cartoon and you are a human being who can or maybe even has hurt others and you HAVE to acknowledge that to learn to be better.

#perspective #psychology

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ARB TUMBLR CODE!!!

Tumblr Code.

#tumblr code #i like your shoelaces #call and response #cabal and cipher #giggity giggity geeks in love