Marisha's comment about how Relvin is one of those parents who ended up with a child they didn't know what to do with really gets to the heart of it, i think, and is such a good way to tie the fantasy element of Imogen's powers into things more tangible. because there are really a lot of parents like Relvin in real life, who have a child with the person they're happily married to and never expect to be left alone with the kid. or who expect a ""normal"" (read: cisgender and heterosexual, able-bodied, relatively neurotypical and obedient, etc.) child and end up with one who's ""difficult"", who demands more or different of them than what they believe they signed up for. and that's not entirely entitlement on a parent's part- many cultures' common frameworks of parenthood and child-rearing do not include space for these children. it makes sense that Relvin was unprepared. raising any child is difficult, and raising a child whose needs you were never taught how to accommodate, who the world is so cruel to, is even more challenging.
and yet. and yet, the person who bears the brunt of the harm in these situations will always be the child. they're the ones who have to live every moment of how the world treats them, without the support that their parent is supposed to provide them. and when asked to care for his child even when she turned out to be ""difficult"", Relvin couldn't. for entirely sympathetic reasons, of course. he tried, in his own way. i don't think he's a bad guy. but he's let his own broken heart bleed onto his daughter. he hasn't been able to give her much else.
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Kazui is soo sneaky lol. How do you think Ichigo and Orihime discipline him? (Or if they do at all)
oh, i think about this a lot honestly, and i've always guessed orihime would be stricter than ichigo on some fronts. that's not to say he'll never step in when needed, but i do think about his own childhood and how, after his mother's death, he probably just....shut down and tried to make things easier for his father out of guilt that he "took" masaki away from isshin, yuzu and karin. i don't think ichigo allowed himself to be "parented" much after masaki died (whether that means being soothed, or being disciplined). the kid that cried easily disappeared really quickly and became someone who was Tough ("you don't need to focus on me; yuzu and karin are the babies!"). when you think about it, a lot of ichigo's personality even as a teenager was just. him wanting to do everything on his own and wanting no one to worry about him ever.
as a father, i don't think he'd ever want kazui to grow up too fast or swallow back his own emotions, especially since ichigo IN CANON believes this about parenting:
as a result of that, i think ichigo is a little indulgent with kazui, letting him linger in childhood longer than he allowed himself.
meanwhile, i don't think orihime is overbearing about it but i do think she has certain expectations that she wants kazui to meet (not big ones, but i did read somewhere that he uses proper honorifics and there's no way he learned that from ichigo lol). i feel like she's the type to hand out a couple of warnings, but if those aren't followed then there are definitely consequences. orihime is gentle and loving and fun for the most part but she was also raised by a single father/brother, so parenting feels a little do-or-die for her as a mother (a kind of "all he has is us!!!!" mentality), but ichigo balances her out with his calm practicality and reminders that they aren't the only ones in his life, he has lots of adults who care about him and things will be fine, most things we make big deals about aren't worth making big deals over. i also think he's left the financial decisions to her since he's got no head for it while she is pretty practical about budgeting (since she's done that her whole life and he's had isshin take care of that for him and isshin wasn't very smart at it either😅)
i think they're both the type to sit down and talk about feelings, especially if they feel like kazui being sneaky is him "acting out" but i don't think kazui is an act-outer just yet (from what we've seen so far). he's just got an innate sense of curiosity, which i do think ichigo and orihime try to encourage even though they're both very protective, i mean. it's really nice that kazui gets to explore town on his own while orihime watches him with her fairies – a nice mix of freedom and security that you could only get if your parents were some of the strongest people in this universe.
it's also nice that ichigo works from home and orihime works part-time. kazui probably sees them both a lot and they both probably see each other a lot, which is a happy and healthy dynamic for a family like them to have. i always say this, but there's no one right way to do family (whether it's dividing up the chores or deciding who works and who gets to stay home/the need-want dichotomy, where some parents work because they have to, financially, while others don't necessarily have this obstacle) -> it's all just a matter of what works for the individual families, and the freedom they get to make these choices within their families. the biggest barrier to family isn't about who is the housespouse – the husband or the wife – but about whether or not the individual partners are able to fulfill all their personal and professional goals and be happy. most socioeconomists will tell you that the right to work for all genders isn't enough, that there need to be adequate parental leaves and provisions, that men need to start pulling their weight around the house and help out, that parents need community to raise their children and expecting parents to be superheros is a pressure that causes more harm than good.
but, magically, ichigo and orihime don't seem to struggle with any of this, since they seem to be doing fine with their set-up so far. i know there's been a lot of conversation about their post-canon life, but despite kubo's sexism i genuinely think ichigo would be a good, ideal husband, so it's hard for me to see either of them having socioeconomic/cultural struggles that most people in contemporary society (esp those in het marriages) do 😅 their biggest problems are all probably shonen-esque, like what are we going to do about that garganta that opened up in our kitchen? and not, say – how do we make ends meet this month while also giving enough time for our kid?
is it idealistic and almost utopian? sure. but it's a shonen and intentionally or not, ichigo and orihime do have a lot of good things going for them, because kubo probably doesn't want to give them real life struggles — just universe-shattering ones.
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Okay okay okay but Percy and annabeth in the show Annabeth starts out just following the new kid around you know routine shit and Percy is just so lost he doesn’t have his best friend anymore because he got snitched on his moms fucking gone and he fought a motherfucking Minotaur also apparently his dads a god and then she sees him explode a toilet and okay okay maybe he’s one of the big three let’s see him in action during capture the flag he has no fucking clue what’s going on his only friend is luke he’s in the reject cabin this weird girl is talking him and he has a pen that turns into a sword and also his old teacher is apparently a centaur and the weird girl pulled him away from his friend who told him that the girl is really smart so you know he follows her then she ducking abandons him in the middle of Nowhere and he just chills then he gets attacked by the bully girl and then their team won at capture the flag and then he gets pushed in the water and then he’s claimed by Poseidon and now they’re on a quest and then they get attacked by furies and then there’s Medusa and now they’re friends and now they’re in a train together and then they get attacked by echidna and then Percy is poisoned by the chimera and then Annabeth finds out her mother doesn’t care.
She was embarrassed by annabeths impertinence and so she has to save her two friends, one of which is poisoned. She has to sacrifice herself.
Percy finds out he got Annabeth in trouble. His only friends are gonna die because of him impertinence. He has to sacrifice himself.
A child of the big three sacrifices themself again to save Annabeth and Grover.
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