#Save Your Marriage Worksheets

[pedge-stuff]

God I just thought about an idea for pedro and reader, reading your last post...

They are in a relationship and live together. The reader is also an actress. She asks pedro to practice her lines with her. In the play, she is having a really long line, breaking up with the person ans leaving them... pedro can't continue... at night in bed they are cuddling and pedro talks about how he hated the feeling or the thought of the reader ever leaving

(changed this slightly, hope that is OK...)

bad acting (pedro pascal x gn/m!reader)

a/n: same vague universe as “marked,“ per usual.

thanks, as always, for everything.

(also I did that thing where I didn't save this on drafts fast enough and the whole fucking thing deleted so you could say im LIVID sorry if this rewrite felt rushed.)

summary: things get a little... too real.

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"You can't laugh."

"I'm not gonna laugh!"

Pedro hands you his iPad, script loaded on the screen. "I'm serious," you warn him, "you had to stop last time, the acting was so bad."

"Just read the sides, baby."

You know he isn't nervous about the audition— if he was, he sure as shit wouldn't be practicing with you. Those rehearsals are reserved for his coach, or someone who can actually talk him through the scene. This was just a formality, a quick read-through for some anthological TV show about people in failing marriages. Season 2 of Oscar's old Amazon thing. With the audition being on Zoom tomorrow, the whole process feels fairly relaxed.

"Should I read it in a lady voice? Will that set the scene?"

"Please don't."

"Scottish accent?"

"Babe."

"Hmm." You clear your throat loudly, for dramatic effect. Across the room, feet propped on the desk, Pedro rolls his eyes. He's got his cheaters on, but no script— the audition's supposed to be off-book. "From the first page?"

"You're stalling."

"Ugh. Ok. Here we go." Leaning forward, you scroll to the highlighted text on the iPad. "Stop, David. You don't know what you're talking about."

Pedro's posture straightens; ever the professional, it's like watching a switch flip. The humored lines beside his eyes, little crows feet that crinkle when he looks at you, disappear completely. His brow furrows, gaze darkens.

"Of course I do, dammit. I'm done with this, all of this. It's like living in a mausoleum, Emma. I'd rather. Do you remember what love even feels like? Because I look at you, and I just... don't, anymore."

"You don't mean that."

"I do! I'm so tired of this. Life with you is joyless. Every day, I come home from work and just sit in the goddamn driveway because I don't want to come in the house. It's hard to be in the same room as you. I can't bring her back, Emma, and I miss her and I'm sorry she's dead. But it isn't my fucking fault and I wish you'd stop pretending it was."

His voice cracks, just a little. You frown as he grabs the glass of water beside him, pausing to wait, but he motions for you to continue.

"That's cruel," you read, "and you know it. That's not fair."

"None of this is fair!" Pedro exclaims. "That's the whole point. It's not fair that our daughter is dead while the girl who was driving got to walk away clean. Life isn't fucking fair. But it's life. And you've sucked all the light out of mine. I can't stand you, anymore, I'm sorry. I just can't. It's not that we can't make it work, it's that I don't want to make it work. If I never see you again, it'll be too soon. Jesus christ, I hate every part of this."

"Are you done? Have you gotten it all off your chest?"

"Don't placate me! This isn't one of your stupid therapy sessions, Emma, you can't fix this with a breathing worksheet and a roleplaying exercise. Be fucking serious. Every day I wake up and I wish I'd never met you. At least then, she wouldn't be dead, because she'd never have existed. And maybe I'd known some goddamn peace."

The page ends there, and you glance up. Pedro has his head in his hands, eyes closed.

"That was good," you offer tentatively, searching for some kind of sign as to what his next move is. He's gracious about work stuff, but you're always a little afraid of mucking up his process.

When he looks up, his eyes are glossy. "Yeah," Pedro says, croakily, clearing his throat quietly before rising from the chair. He takes the iPad back, wordlessly, shuttering the case over the screen.

"Wanna do it again? You were spot-on, Pedge, but we can go over it again if you want to."

"No," he says quickly. "No, I'm good. I'm fine. It's on Zoom, it'll be easy. I'm fine."

Weird. Just a little. Before you can dwell on his sudden cageyness, he's up, headed for the door.

"I'm gonna walk the dogs. We can catch up on Bake-Off, when I get back?"

Pedro leaves before you can answer.

— — — 

No sooner have the leashes been hung back by the door, than Pedro is beside you on the couch, all hands and light touches. It's as if he can't bear to lost contact. You allow him to reposition you, reaching a hand around your waist as you reach for the remote.

"Good walk?"

He hums, tugging you against him. Settles, finally, once you're half-reclined, back against his chest, arm around your middle. You fiddle with the edge of his sleeve as the bakers fumble their way through the signature challenge.

It's not that the clinginess bothers you— he's like this sometimes, when he's just returned home, or you've arrived in LA, or met somewhere in the middle. Every separation leaves him want for touch. It's the one thing you can't give him, while you're apart.

But he's been home a couple weeks now, in between reshoots for a new project. Been home all day, in fact, in an orbit around you while you attempted to work from home. (A little too close, frankly, but you can't really complain.)

"You okay?" You whisper, as the timer runs down on the technical bake.

No answer. Just a tightened grip on your waist, and a firm kiss to the top of your head.

— — — 

It isn't until later, in bed and half-asleep, that you pinpoint the source of the tension.

You'd have thought he was already asleep, save for the soft carding of his fingers through the baby hairs at the nape of your neck. Deep, even breaths tickle your forehead; he's curled around you, arm draped over your back. Had positioned himself this way silently, looking a little silly brooding in his Muppet-patterned pj pants.

"We're never reading lines again," Pedro whispers into the darkness.

"Was the acting that bad?"

Your attempt for levity falls flat. He is quiet, long enough for you roll backwards slightly, to get a better look at his face. A deep-set frown has taken root.

"No, it..." He tugs you closer again, tucking your head beneath his chin. If he weren't so sad, you'd call uncle for claustrophobia; your nose is squished into his jugular. But you lay still, waiting for him to continue.

"It felt too real," Pedro concedes. He inhales sharply, and you can feel it against your own chest.

The kiss you press to the hollow of his throat, doesn't feel good enough. You wiggle, tilting your head to press one against his toothpaste-tasting lips. Whiskers tickle the corner of your mouth.

"Baby, I know you were... pretending." A thin line between placating him and treading on his professionalism. "If our pretend daughter died in a car crash, I know you wouldn't divorce me for being too sad."

"It's not funny." With a groan, he kisses you again, resting his forehead against yours. "I hated saying that stuff to you. Felt too real."

The bone-crushing spooning is making a little more sense, now.

"I love you, but you're a sap."

"Hmph."

You smile into the next kiss. "A very sweet sap, though."

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[raspberryconverse]

Being an adult means being real with yourself about your finances.

A huge pain point in my marriage has been money (which is totally common in relationships). We bought an old house and have had to replace literally everything except the dishwasher, dryer and most of the plumbing. We had to have half the house rewired before we moved in because it only had 1 owner and had cloth wiring. The plumbing is galvanized steel and some of it was connected to copper (big no no: there's a chemical reaction that happens and causes leaks). We recently had to have our entire kitchen drain replaced for this and the plumber wouldn't reinstall the dishwasher until we had it checked for mold, another $600 on top of the $4000+ we already paid for the drain. We had mold behind some wood paneling that obviously couldn't be seen on inspection. New roof, furnace, AC. Our drain tile system was put in backwards and had to be replaced. There was a huge flood last summer and we had 8" of water in our basement.

Needless to say, it's been stressful and we haven't even been here 2 years. And expensive.

I have always been terrible with money. I never saw good spending habits growing up, so I've always had the mindset of "I can buy it now with my credit card. It's fine." I know, that's not fine. But that's what I've always done. Some of it was definitely out of survival during my post graduating during a recession life, but I never really stopped when I started making decent money.

Anyway, during the pandemic, I found this bank called Simple that has the envelope budgeting system built right in. It was fantastic! I paid down my debts, I brought up my credit score. I was able to refinance my car loan to nearly a 10% lower rate. It was fantastic. Then, it shut down.

There was another bank that was similar to it called Envel. Basically the same concept. And it continued to work for me, but like Simple, they shut down.

I finally moved to Ally because they have these new "spending buckets." They sounded exactly like what I had with Simple and Envel. Except they weren't. Simple and Envel would distribute your money every time you got paid and put the right amount in each "envelope." Ally just puts the money in like a day or 2 before the due date you put on the bucket. This is not helpful. Yes, I could go through and distribute my money, but I don't always remember to do it. So... I didn't really do it.

Things got out of control again. I'm not saving anything. I buying shit that I don't need to be buying. We have things that are coming due with the house (the AC is the big one). It's not good. And my spouse is really stressed about it. And I'm just really embarrassed.

So I'm filling out a chart with my credit cards and their balances, interest rates and minimum payments in addition to a personal budget worksheet and meeting with my financial advisor soon. Yes, I have one of those. A friend sung his praises on Facebook, so I thought it might be helpful. And it was. I mean, he did get me to buy a bunch of life insurance, but I can meet with him whenever to look over things. I also love that he's about my age and while he's a straight cis white guy, he works with people and couples of all types (the friend who mentioned on FB him is a lesbian and married). We met with him before we decided to buy the house to see if we could swing it.

I did find a budgeting app made by a former Simple user which is basically the same as the bank, so I think that's going to work, but I really need to just sit down with someone who's not going to judge me and take a look at everything so I can get things back on track. It's really hard to admit defeat. It's really embarrassing to not be able to tell your spouse that your personal finances are in trouble and you don't know what to do. But I'm gonna talk to Brett and he's going to help me figure it out. And it's gonna be ok.

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[leorax51]

how much does online marriage counseling cost

In today's digital age, many couples are turning to online marriage counseling as a convenient and effective way to address relationship issues. However, one common question that arises is, "How much does online marriage counseling cost?" Let's delve into this topic to provide you with some insights.

1.Understanding the Cost Factors:

The cost of online marriage counseling can vary depending on several factors:

Type of Counseling Service:

Different online counseling platforms offer varying levels of services, ranging from basic text-based counseling to more comprehensive video sessions with licensed therapists. Naturally, the cost will be higher for more personalized and in-depth counseling services.

Session Duration and Frequency:

Counseling sessions can vary in length and frequency. Some platforms offer one-time sessions, while others provide packages with multiple sessions. The cost may increase with longer or more frequent sessions.

Therapist Qualifications:

The qualifications and experience of the therapists providing counseling services can also influence the cost. Sessions with licensed professionals may be priced higher than those with counselors who are still in training.

Additional Features and Support:

Some online counseling platforms offer additional features such as access to educational resources, worksheets, or ongoing support between sessions. These added features may affect the overall cost.

2.Exploring Pricing Models:

Online marriage counseling services typically employ one of the following pricing models:

Subscription-Based Pricing:

Some platforms offer subscription plans where users pay a monthly or annual fee for unlimited access to counseling services. This model can be cost-effective for couples who anticipate needing ongoing support.

Pay-Per-Session:

Other platforms charge on a per-session basis, allowing couples to pay only for the sessions they use. While this may seem more flexible, it can add up over time, especially if multiple sessions are needed.

Package Deals:

Certain platforms offer package deals where couples can purchase a set number of sessions at a discounted rate. This option provides a balance between flexibility and cost savings.

Sliding Scale Fees:

Some online counseling services offer sliding scale fees based on the couple's income or financial situation. This approach ensures that counseling remains accessible to individuals with varying budgets.

3.Factors to Consider:

When evaluating the cost of online marriage counseling, it's essential to consider the following factors:

Quality of Service: While cost is important, prioritize the quality of counseling services and the qualifications of the therapists.

Affordability: Choose a counseling option that aligns with your budget and financial circumstances.

Effectiveness: Ultimately, the goal of marriage counseling is to improve the relationship. Assess whether the cost justifies the potential benefits and outcomes.

In conclusion, the cost of online marriage counseling can vary based on several factors, including the type of service, therapist qualifications, and pricing model. By understanding these factors and carefully evaluating your options, you can find a counseling solution that meets your needs while staying within your budget.

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[selfhelp4all]

From Struggle to Strength: My Experience with 'Mend The Marriage' - A Review

By : mendthemarriage.com

REVIEW OF "MEND THE MARRIAGE" BY BRAD BROWNING

OVERALL: 9.7 / 10 EFFECTIVENESS: 9.8 / 10 FORMAT: 9.4 / 10 VALUE: 9.9 / 10

SUMMARY: Brad Browning's "Mend the Marriage" program is easily the most comprehensive and most effective guide to stopping divorce and saving your marriage. After reviewing a number of similar products, I recommend "Mend the Marriage" as the #1 choice for anyone facing a marriage crisis.

FULL REVIEW: When I first stumbled across Brad Browning's new "Mend The Marriage" program, I thought it would be more or less the same as all the other similar products for sale on the internet.  Boy, was I wrong. This is one seriously awesome program, and I'm confident that it will give anyone whose marriage is 'on the rocks' the best possible chance of turning things around and living happily ever after with their spouse.

First of all, "Mend the Marriage" is easily the most thorough and comprehensive guide I've seen (and I've bought them all). It leaves no stones unturned: you may think that your situation is unique, and that any book on the topic can't possibly address the issues you're facing. Well, with "Mend the Marriage", that's definitely not the case! Brad has covered every possible scenario and "what if," meaning that by the time you've finished reading the program, your questions are almost certain to have been answered in depth.

Not only is it the most comprehensive program, it's also the only guide we're found that actually provides hundreds of real-world examples on how to apply Brad's techniques. Brad's chapter on how to handle arguments with your spouse, for example, has a bunch of incredibly effective and innovative techniques that will resolve conflicts quickly and without any lingering hard feelings... and the whole book is full of this kind of stuff.  Brad calls these "Immediate Impact Actions" -- things you can do to make an immediate positive difference.

Perhaps most importantly, it's very clear that the psychological techniques recommended in "Mend the Marriage" have been researched and tested by men and women in the real world.  Brad Browning is an experienced marriage coach, and his time working with married couples facing divorce is very evident throughout the book. He also includes a number of "Ask the Counsellor" boxes where a certified couples counsellor weighs in on a variety of hot topics.

Brad claims that almost all marriages can be salvaged, even if things seem hopeless right now... and while that may sound unreasonable at first, I actually tend to think he's being completely honest.  It's no stretch to imagine that, as he states on his website, anyone who reads and applies his techniques is almost guaranteed to see dramatic improvements in their marriage.  The testimonials on his website are clear evidence that this program works, too.

What about the program itself? The core of the program is a 240 page e-book, professionally written & presented. There's also an audio version and an excellent 7-part video series, plus three bonus e-books and some handy team-building worksheets.

The best part? It's all available *instantly* from Brad's website... there's no shipping fees and no waiting around for the mailman, because you can download the entire program within 2 minutes of ordering. That's great news, considering that when you're trying to stop divorce and win back your partner's love, time is of the essence!

If you're ready to get instant access to all of Brad's sneaky psychological tips and techniques, head over to his website and watch the free video presentation now. Trust me, you won't regret it... and it might just make the difference between "divorced and lonely" and "happily ever after".  Wishing you all the best.

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Mend the Marriage [Honest Review] - Is It Legit & Does It Work?

Have you hit a wall in your marriage? Trust is the pillar of any relationship. And infidelity is one of the main reasons why most marriages end.  If you don’t take the time to work on yourself and reconnect along the way, you will find yourself completely off track. Mend The Marriage is an online course designed for couples who are struggling in their relationships. Created by Brad Browning, a divorce expert and relationship coach, the program offers valuable advice and techniques to help couples rediscover each other and reignite their passion. With the Mend the Marriage program, you can fix mistakes, stop toxic arguments, reignite your sexual relationship with your partner, and build a strong marriage that will last a lifetime. In this guide, you will learn that you will have to accept that you had a part in creating your marital problems and that you are the one making the changes to save your marriage. It’s a great chance to reflect on your marriage to date and the issues that actually brought you to this place.

The program offers a variety of tools for each step of the process. This includes interactive worksheets, video tutorials, audio, and reading materials. These tools will assist both parties in gaining clarity and understanding of the situation, which is necessary for rebuilding the marriage. In addition, Mend the Marriage provides unique content designed specifically for men and women. This includes advice on how to manage different scenarios based on the gender roles that are expected in marriages. With these tailored tips, both spouses will be better equipped to tackle their marital problems effectively. According to Brad Browning, there are 3 Marriage Murdering Mistakes many people do not realize it’s killing their relationship. They include:

Mistake No.1: Believing you can talk your way out of a marriage crisis.

Mistake No.2: Don’t beg or plead. Take the first step in rebuilding your marriage.

Mistake No.3: Reminding your spouse of all the problems affecting your marriage.

Mend the marriage will help you suppress all the negative emotions and make your spouse fall in love with your again.

Ending a marriage is extremely difficult, I know from experience. It's very hard to tell someone else when it's time to call it quits, or when to know it's that time. The first thing that you should do is making sure that what you want; you must be clear whether you want to leave or want to work on your relationship. Now you probably didn’t do anything that makes you a “bad” person, I’m not pointing fingers in that judging kind of way…  but you likely made a number of mistakes along the way that made your spouse lose attraction or a eroded the trust that made your relationship. When couple are going through a difficult time, they should not walk out of the marriage instead stay calm and make time heal any misunderstandings. Learning how to forgive is another paramount section of the course, which Browning focuses quite intently on to aid a couple’s recovery.  He really helps you get to the bottom of your own marriage and your own situation and helps you solve your own problems. It walks you through each step of the way to enable you to craft a strategy that works for you and your situation. Every marriage, including yours, is worth fighting for. Overall, Mend the Marriage aims to help couples save their marriages through a series of steps and materials to aid them in rebuilding their relationship. Nonetheless, it’s important to remember that the Mend the Marriage is not some magical hypnosis potion. While it gives you the privacy and freedom to access it anywhere, you really must commit to the program and stick to the concepts it teaches to guarantee positive results. You must practice what you learn from it!

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Documents Needed for an Uncontested Divorce in Florida

An uncontested divorce might be a great option for spouses who wish to save money, energy, and sometimes emotional trauma. In these cases, spouses need to agree on several legal, financial, and practical terms involved in the dissolution of the marriage.

If both spouses choose to agree on the terms of the divorce, they may even do so without the aid of an attorney, and file the paperwork themselves. We understand that legal matters can be a headache, so in this article, we’ll go through a quick review of the documents needed in an uncontested divorce.

It is important to mention that to file for an uncontested divorce in Florida, both spouses will need to agree on issues such as:

· Real estate and personal property division from the marriage.

· If there will be alimony to be paid and how much.

· Child support.

· Child Custody.

Uncontested Divorce Documents

The documents you need for an uncontested divorce in Florida will vary depending on whether there are children involved or not. In most cases, the following forms are required:

· Cover Sheet for Family Court Cases.

· Petition for Divorce.

· Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act Affidavit (if minor children are involved.

· Child Support Guidelines Worksheet.

· Family Law Financial Affidavit (It can be a short-form or long-form depending on the income).

· Marital Settlement Agreement, and

· Notice of Social Security Number.

Once these forms are completed and signed, spouses would need to file them in court. The way to do this is by providing a copy to the circuit court clerk, either by delivering hard copies or using the court’s electronic filing system.

After the petition for Divorce is filed, Florida has a mandatory 20-day waiting period before the final divorce decree. The waiting period can be waived by the judge if he considers that is just to do so depending on the circumstances. Once the 20-day period is over, the spouses may ask the court to schedule their divorce hearing, which is usually short.

Uncontested Divorces tend to be cheaper than traditional ones as there are no fees spent on lawyers, however, before filing for an uncontested divorce, be sure to consult with an experienced lawyer that will guide you and explain the best course of action for your and your family’s interests.

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[parsonsjessica1989]

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[anguianobrodan90]

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Out of Sight

Summary: Y/N has an unexpected dash of inspiration. Arthur doesn't require much convincing.

Warnings: Swearing, Smut

Words: 4,221

A/N: This fun little request comes from @sweet-nothings04​​. You're wonderful and I hope this meets your expectations. Thanks for the request - I can't imagine ever writing this without it! 🙈 Special thanks to @jokerownsmysoul​ for agreeing to beta!

If you have any thoughts or questions, please comment, feel free to message me, or send me an ask. Requests for Arthur and WWH are open!

Words didn't often fail Y/N, but the admission left her foggy, reminiscent of what she'd experienced after tipping over in a wheelbarrow race at a school fair. Her foot swung back and forth as she sat on the counter. Fiddled with the phone cord and twisted its beige, plastic curls around her fingers. Were there signs she'd missed? Was her gut right in insisting she was a terrible friend?

"Marriage counseling?" she repeated.

Arthur stopped filling his bowl with sandy, pecan cookies, alarm encroaching his features. She waved off his concern, mouthing "not us" before she spoke into the receiver. "I'm so sorry." With a grimace of understanding, he patted her knee and ducked out, sweets in hand. No doubt he'd ask her to elaborate. Not that she had anything to share. Not yet. "I had no idea you and Robert were having problems."

Patricia laughed lightly on the other end. "Neither of us have our bags packed." A whistle came from the background. Vague cheering. Then mild cursing about how terrible this season's Gotham Guardsmen's picks were. She sighed. "The little green monster's dropped-in since your wedding. Don't get me wrong. I couldn't be happier for you if you were my own sister."

Y/N wished Patricia was within arm's reach instead of all the way in Burnside.

"Next month we'll have been married thirty-five years," Patricia continued with a rare nostalgia. "We're a team, Robert and me. But we've both let things go, gotten old. I'd like the spark back before we lose the kindling."

Pursing her lips, Y/N bit back her qualms. Rebutting the steps Patricia had taken was uncalled for, and doubly so when she needed her support. Besides. Y/N understood them. She'd climbed them once, too.

When she'd begun to figure out the direction in which the weather vane of her life pointed, the comfort and confidence she'd shared with her ex-husband had started to wither. Transformed over the years into an awareness that her childish belief in love being enough was inaccurate. It was natural, she thought in hindsight. They'd wed at seventeen and twenty-one. But divorce had been uncommon back then, particularly in a small town in the Bible Belt. The night she'd moved in with a friend (a tactic to delay confessing defeat to her family), Jeff suggested they speak with a professional. Though her heart had known it was over, she cared for him. She couldn't deny them the chance to salvage their union, no matter how remote.

A solitary counselor was available, a disadvantage of rural living. The man claimed to be a pioneer in couples therapy, having begun his practice in the thirties. One forty-five-minute drive later and they'd found themselves squished into a leather loveseat in a smoky, cramped office. Diplomas and certificates covered the walls, the veracity of which she couldn't verify. Dr. Ellis's puffy pink cheeks and offer of sweet tea had been kinder than his approach.

Fountain pens and worksheets were provided with the mumbled instruction to answer honestly. But the questions had not fit her situation. They were for women who desired to be happy homemakers. To plan meals and do the weekly shopping. To nurse children and have dinner ready by six. Responsibilities and life stages that had given her mother purpose - a purpose that mostly eluded Y/N. Every comma and quotation mark inferred fault. And Dr. Ellis had read her responses like a disappointed teacher.

Somehow the filmstrips, accompanied by a crackling LP, were worse. Mr. Provider and Mrs. Housewife were featured. He consistently came home on time. She always wore an apron. The narrator's spiritless voice contrasted with the cheery soundtrack while matching Y/N's mood. A lively ping! cued them to advance to the next still, a duty switched between her and Jeff to practice teamwork. At least the sidelong looks they shared could still connect them.

The slides, the homework, the speeches. They all pointed to one problem: her. Her parents were a model couple. Didn't she know encouraging her husband in his livelihood was her job? That his main obligation was to invite her to share his success? She had to mend her ways. Make herself more attractive. Be grateful he displayed his affection by returning to her after a long day at the office; he could just as easily hang out at The Rusty Boot.

Not a little indignant, she'd stared at Jeff's profile. Downcast eyes betrayed his regret and assured she'd maintain composure, for his sake if nothing else. She fixed her focus on Dr. Ellis and gave the situation a good, long think. Jeff had never questioned her ambitions. Who the hell was this jackass to judge?

She'd covered Jeff's hand, rubbed his knuckle with her thumb. "You're the expert here, doctor. But isn't it possible neither party is at fault?"

"Mrs. Thompson, I've heard that misconception from many of my clients. It's never led anywhere positive. Now-"

"But what if they're both good people?" she interrupted, hanging onto diplomacy by a thread. Her resolve stayed, even as her volume lowered at the prospect of wounding the man she'd loved as a girl. "Good people who've grown apart?"

Dr. Ellis took what she'd learned was his usual position on the corner of his cherry desk. "You're mistaking natural sex differences for incompatibility. Not every husband allows his wife to work outside the home." His paternal smile hadn't diminished the sting of his words. "If you want your marriage to thrive, I'd advise a little more maturity. And I think I have just the book to help you."

Twenty tons of silence festered on the ride home, louder than the pulse beating her eardrum. Distress distracted her from noticing the run in her stockings. And it was drizzling. She cracked the passenger window of the Lincoln Continental, anyway. Closed her eyes at the bite of raw air against her overheated face.

"Look, I don't agree with what that guy says," Jeff started. He pulled at the gearshift and flicked the turn-signal. "Not when it comes to you."

As the car came to a stop, she swiped at her eyes. "I'm not going again." The press of a napkin to her palm prompted a mix of appreciation and annoyance. For his courtesy and that he'd detected her tears. "Do you even like being married to me?"

"Y/N-"

"Please." She flinched at his attempt to embrace her. "Don't spare my feelings."

Headlights from a passing car flashed in the cabin, revealing his stretched lips. He raked back his thinning hair. The quiet shake of his head when he moved to gaze at her was a relief. "I miss the girl I fell in love with."

She offered a slight shrug and pulled the corners of the tissue. "I don't like it, either."

His rapid blink softened her posture, along with the recognition that the dream they'd had was also out of reach for him. "I'm proud of the woman you've become," he said. "Even if she's not what I need."

"I don't want to be a lawyer's wife." A quiet laugh bubbled up. "The oral arguments are terrible."

He checked his blind spot and put the sedan back into drive. "I'll file the papers tomorrow. We can tell your parents and sister together. If you'd like." After some seconds, she'd slid across the bench seat and put her head on his shoulder, heartened by an affinity she'd nearly forgotten.

Counseling techniques must have evolved, Y/N considered. Perhaps Patricia would find help instead of blame. If not, tips in women's magazines were a tacky if economical alternative. She'd have to check the breakroom at work for forgotten issues.

She hopped off the counter and poured herself another cup of decaf. "Let me know if we can do anything. And how it goes."

"The first few sessions were great. I picked up a few booklets. 'Modern Marriage,' 'The Complete Woman...' Oh!" Paper shuffled as Y/N put back the milk. "'Enrichment & Exploration: Tips for Bedroom Fun.' I tried reading it with Robert the other night, but he left when I mentioned massagers and blindfolds."

"He's sixty," Y/N snorted. "Give him time."

Peeking around the corner, she spotted Arthur in his writing nook. He stood to stretch, then grab his lighter and pack of Stuttons. The low sit of his pajama bottoms was enough of a temptation for her to tuck her lip. An unexpected spasm tickled her abdomen. "Brief me on the blindfold chapter."

~~~~~

Nervous anticipation had kept her feverish for hours, ever since she'd bid farewell to Arthur with a "Save a smile for me" on her way out the door. His clumsy smooch lingered as she changed the date on her rubber stamp. While she cleaned the office refrigerator, she spent a good sixty seconds pressing a cup of expired yogurt to her flush cheeks. When the shoulder strap of her canvas bag gave out, she shrugged rather than cursed and settled the tote in her lap. With her plan in mind, the corners of her lips refused to relax .

After working the grand opening of the Gotham Mall, Arthur had the workshop she'd registered him for, a beginners' seminar for stand-ups. He'd be home right around six. That would give her thirty minutes to change into her mini nightdress with the ruffled hemline, dab musk oil behind her earlobes, and put on an LP. Dinner would be delayed - neither of them would be in the mood if they were too full. If she remembered correctly, they had a pizza in the freezer, the good kind with the real pepperoni and rising crust. She just had to figure out if she should wait in the bedroom or lounge on the sofa like a poor-man's Lauren Bacall.

As she unlocked the apartment, however, there came a muffled phomp-phomp-phomp. The unmistakable sound of a sink plunger. Fuck. This was the third time this month. Pushing through the door, she hoped the super had called a different plumber. It had taken ages to clean up the stray sediment left behind by the last one. Upon entering, Arthur's plaid bag came into view, next to his keys on the counter. A glance into the kitchen confirmed he was trying his hand at the repair. 

"Hey." Y/N hung her coat, glad her consternation was hidden by the wall. "What happened to your class?" she asked with deliberate playfulness. "Did they decide you were too advanced?" She crossed her arms and moved to the doorway. Tried to hold onto the tendrils of fading arousal by taking him in.

A pleased chuckle. "The instructor left a message." Phomp-phomp-phomp."It'll be rescheduled."

"I know you were looking forward to it." The rolled-up sleeves of his shirt and flexing biceps were having the right effect. She ambled towards him. "Let me help."

"It's fine. I had to do this a lot at my old place." The set of his jaw tightened as it gave it another go.

They went through the litany of usual questions. Arthur contently reported the mall had gone well, except for a couple of teenagers who'd given him grief at the start. ("Nothing serious. They were just kids.") Her nine-to-five had been quite low-key, she explained, and had allowed her to catch-up on a backlog of paperwork. ("With the new judge, we keep having to file motions for correction.") But when he asked about this evening, she mused and tapped her fingertips on the counter. Horny, annoyed at her thwarted plan, yet nevertheless itching to seduce him

Water streamed as he turned the faucet's handle, followed by his satisfied hum. He tidied up, then washed to his elbows. Grabbed the nearby dish towel and pivoted on his heel to face her. "What is it?" he asked at her lack of response. He wiped his hands a little harder. "I thought you'd be glad I'm already here."

Seeking to allay his concern, she scooted next to him with a gentle nudge. "You know I am. You've been running through my head all day." She scrunched her nose. "I just had this idea for a romantic evening and wanted to surprise you."

"Oh." Pink colored his chiseled cheekbones and his eyes softened. "You still could. I'd like that." Ardor sparked anew in her belly. Unfurled as he leaned into her, grin cutting across his mouth and straight into her heart. "Would ten minutes be enough?"

Her toes curled. His enthusiasm for her, for them, had a habit of sending electricity up her spine. "Better make it eight," she pronounced.

A sharp nod and a pat to her bottom later, he dashed off. Once the bathroom door shut, Y/N rushed to rummage in his workbag, delighted when she found her prize. She scurried to the stereo and put on one of her soul records. Adjusted the volume to a suggestion instead of distraction. Though the genre wasn't his favorite, it never failed to induce the swivel of his hips. Unbuttoning, unzipping, she made her way to the bedroom. Yanked off her tan skirt and jacquard sweater before carelessly tossing them in the nearby chair.

She'd just gotten settled on the foot of the bed when Arthur sauntered in. Clad in his white briefs and wrinkled socks. "That was five," she said and wadded her pantyhose to hurl at him.

He dodged it easily, stepping forward to gaze at her with hooded eyes, their clear green darkened with need. He licked his lips. "I think it was four." Without further preamble, he knelt between her legs. Scrambling up the bed, she kicked subtly against his hold on her calves. Bit her lip on a giggle as he crawled over her lap to smother her with kisses. She rested on the headboard and nabbed his red and gold Carnival tie from under her pillow.

He quirked a dark brow. "What, you want me to wear it?"

Before any reservation could resurface, she smoothed the broad neck of the tie over her eyes and secured it loosely at her temple. Hesitation floated through the air. Threatened to pierce the veil of desire that enveloped her. She wondered what he was waiting for. If he was wearing that wolfish grin he saved for the bedroom. Or if a modicum of anxiety had spawned. She had sprung this on him without prior discussion. The muffled music from the living room switched to the next song. She attempted to peek under the bottom of the makeshift blindfold, tried to make out more than a vague shadow in the muted light.

But then he sunk into her. Wrapped his arms around her shoulders and pressed her into the mattress. "If you're uncomfortable, tell me," he murmured into her mouth. "Please."

The implication of his request, albeit more loving than licentious, wracked her with want. She couldn't halt her shudder. Blindly, she reached to cup his face. "I trust you," she promised. To both him and herself.

His round nose dragged down the underside of her jaw. "Where'd you get this idea?"

The caress of his smile on the crook of her neck caused a delicious heaviness to settle in her center. "A pamphlet."

"On what?" He tugged at the knot between her ample breasts. Fondled her through the thin satin. "How to make your husband high-strung?"

She carefully skimmed the rigid bulge in his briefs with her knee. "It was actually on how to loosen him up," she retorted. He always loved it when she paraphrased one of his jokes.

Every hushed kiss, every whisper of him against her flesh was magnified. Forced her to concentrate solely on him, to pay attention to each move he made. His humid, hot breath teased her nipple, prompted it to pebble with a twinge. When she released an embarrassingly desperate whimper, he snorted lightly and slipped his palm to the middle of her back. Following his lead, she arched into him. His soft curls brushed her as he laved her areola, swirled his tongue around it, her skin coming alive at the contact. Weathered hands that had so eagerly learned how to touch her groped her neglected breast, rolled its peak between slender, nimble fingers. She fisted the pillow, tipped her head, and grasped his shoulder with a cry. "Arthur..."

Getting her going usually wasn't difficult. Especially when she'd been thinking about making love for an inappropriate number of office hours. But the suspense of not seeing where he'd next pet her, of every caress being a discovery, had her core already pulsing for him. The intrigue was a treat. The best case she'd ever worked on. His strokes walked a path to every clue.

His fingertips skimmed her inner thighs. Groaning, he hooked them under the waistband of her bikini, tugged until she lifted her rear. He pulled them off hastily. With a gentle pressure, he encouraged her to open herself to him. She did so gladly, splaying her legs without a hint of self-consciousness. The relatively cool temperature of the room hit her hot, swollen folds and she quivered.

Then there was an odd sensation at her clit. Scratchy. Rough like a canvas. And was that a corner? After a few seconds it was clear it wasn't doing it for her. And she didn't think Arthur was trying to wipe away her slick. Reaching down, she found a twisted bedsheet in his fist. She was relieved he hadn't run to the kitchen for ice.

"Not good?" he asked.

She softened the blow. "You feel better."

The pad of his thumb trailed over her patch of springy hair, a faint tease that sent a dizzying current racing through her limbs. She strove towards him but he didn't oblige. Rather, he took her hand and placed it on her labia. Guided her to dip within her inner lips. A short moan left her, at the sensation and the sound of his increasingly labored breathing, tinged by his deep voice. "You look like sex," he blurted.

Laughing, she halted. Whenever something brazen spilled from his mouth, however left-footed, she adored it. She clasped his sides. "What does that mean?"

"If I'd seen you in a magazine," he started, moving to settle over and straddle her. His hard-on grazed her abdomen, leaving a damp trail of his arousal in its wake. Even as she wondered when he'd taken off his underwear, her muscles tensed and she gasped. Playful pecks met her cleavage. "You'd be pasted on every page of my journal."

Her reply slipped out before discretion could take hold. "We better buy a Polaroid." A stitch of reluctance before she added, "Just keep them in your desk."

He uncurled her fingers and pressed her palm to his chest. "Touch me," he whispered, pleaded. Her pulse quickened. With an unhurried deliberation, he guided her over the peaks and valleys of his body. The lean pectorals she loved to nuzzle after a weary day. The freckled indent of his sternum. Downward, to the slightly loose skin around his navel, then the soft, toned curve of his abdomen.

Unable to resist, she stretched to chart the ridge of muscle leading to his groin. "You make me so wet."

He let out a bashful giggle, edged with excitement. The instant he rasped his next words against her forehead, she knew he was doing his damnedest to rival her. He pushed her hand to his erection. "You make me so hard."

She followed the bulging vein from base to tip, encircled him with a firm grip. The vibration of his harsh grunt rumbled through her and he jerked forward. Released her wrist to stroke her vulva and flick back and forth along her aching nub. Focusing on the satiny feel of his flesh, the heaviness of his length, she felt petite. Feminine. Powerful. Her hand glided between his legs, cupped the sensitive skin with care. His practiced rhythm faltered. The elbow beside her ear trembled.

While he was a captivating visual, one she missed, her imagination was determined to compensate for her lack of sight. Breathless moans spun her fantasies. Perspiration tickled her nose, woodsy and sweet, conjuring memories of his taste in her mouth. Then all at once he was inside her, going down on her, sucking at her while fucking into her. Impossible feats that nevertheless caused a fever in her brain. "Oh, god," she mewled. Her wanton writhing hastened. She ground against his thigh. "I want your cock in me."

He took hold of himself as she held herself open. The blunt tip of him slid just inside her entrance, a drop when she needed an ocean. She grabbed his hips and thrust upward, hissing as he stretched her completely. "You're fucking tight," he uttered through clenched teeth.

She smoothed her palms over his back, memorized each notch of his ribs. The odd angle of his distended shoulder. The strong tendons at the nape of his neck. He crushed her closer, until her mouth bumped his clavicle. She nibbled lightly, licked the salty sheen of sweat from its hollow, drawing her name from his lips and rapid bucks of his pelvis. "Fuck me," she said, a command and an appeal.

A creak came from above. She followed his taut arm to find he'd clutched the headboard. It occurred to her, then, that her inability to see had been liberating for him. Enough to let go of his inhibitions, to give voice to the bawdy, wonderful things he'd said, to not worry about his appearance.

She reached to swipe her clit steadily, relentlessly. Tears pricked her eyes as she became weightless. Her frame seized, and she came with a choked cry. She sniffled and laughed into his neck, overwhelmed by him. The way he made love to her as if he sought to erase her earlier trials and replace them with the present.

His throaty, punctuated groans, his fingernails digging into her ass divulged his approaching release. She ran her foot along his calf, relished in his body as its angles pressed into her. He balanced himself on his knees, snapping into her at an erratic pace. Then all at once he moaned sharply and went rigid, cock twitching. She cradled the back of his head while his essence marked her walls, closed her eyes when he sprawled on top of her.

Raking her hands through his loose waves, she swallowed thickly. Although she'd always enjoyed sex, exploring this way hadn't been conceivable with anyone else. Allowing that match to light, allowing herself to fan that flame had been unthinkable. She'd felt inadequate. Unable to live up to others' demands, especially her own. There'd been too many boxes to check. Revealing herself in that way would have been a demonstration of trust she wasn't quite ready for.

Being an established woman on equal footing with her partner wasn't something she'd believed possible. She'd been content to go without and find meaning through her work. Arthur had helped her augment that. She could be tough as old leather or delicate as gossamer without concern he'd see her differently. If expectations were left unmet, their easy discussions and compromises promised they'd never become resentments. They supported each other - authentically and as themselves.

For the first time, she knew she was loved for who she truly was. And she wouldn't have to change to keep it.

Choppy panting gradually ceased, replaced by leisurely, happy sighs. He skimmed her flank, then the curve of her hip. She tickled his midriff gently, only stopping when he reclaimed her lips and slid his tongue against hers. Tenderly, he loosened the knot at her temple. She blinked at the orange, evening light invading her eyes. When his came into focus, they were still dilated, a tad sleepy. And so full of affection her breath caught.

Cheek propped on the heel of his hand, he raised his eyebrows. "How was it?"

"You have to ask?" she chuckled, swatting his backside.

A stray lock tumbled towards her as he bent closer. "I wanna hear it."

"Wonderful." Her thighs tightened, keeping him within her. "What I've been craving all day."

His smile was a slow build, equal parts shy and deservedly smug. Then he stared at his tie. "I- I don't know if I'll ever be able to wear that again."

She snorted and looped it around his neck, secured it with a half-Windsor knot. "You're a professional, Mr. Fleck. You'll manage."

He rolled to her left and yanked open the nightstand drawer to riffle through its contents. "What else is in the pamphlet?"

"Hey!" She batted him half-heartedly, boosted herself on her elbow, and spooned him. "What if I had a surprise hidden in there?"

Undeterred, he huffed. "It wouldn't beat this."

"Patricia told me about it." He stilled and slanted his gaze her way. "I can get a copy."

At first, Y/N assumed he'd contradict her. That he wanted to keep their escapades private. But once a few seconds had passed, Arthur acquiesced with a smirk and snatched a nearby tissue. Wiped himself off and tossed it in the woven wastebasket. He reclined beside her, hands folded behind his head. "Okay. Just don't give away my whole act."

~~~~~

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[knybits]

more rambles im supposed to be doing my brain worksheet for anatomy class but fuck it tHIS ON IS A RENGOKU AU AHAHA 

so rengoku is a fire prince that has to travel overseas to a neighboring kingdom (yes he might have fire powers this is a rambling workshop hhh) but youre not royalty huehue yOUR A MERMAID 

ship crashes oh no you save his body and hes super warm for an average human so you dry out fast with him. nonetheless, you decide to stick with him to make sure he wakes up alive. id probs make your personality more like water (duh) in this fic bc youre a mermaid (duh) so while you go with the flow and youre quiet and kinda gloomy, his personality is obvi the loud and passionate kyoujurou that he is. 

but interaction with fire kingdom people and mermaid is forbidden due to like old legend reasons and when your parents find out they go apeshit and think that youve been harmed. fire kingdom people are usually aggressive (and the recent king shinjuro doesnt help with the stereotype) so your parents check you for injuries, but your heart is still warm despite the dark bottom of the ocean

so you strike a deal with the sea witch iguro (or shinobu idk bc iguro works with the whole snake/eel thing) so that you can walk on land and be human, but the problem remains: you cant stand high temperatures. so if you touch kyoujurou then youre fucked. his touch burns you but you bear with it because he makes you so so happy and ig drama will go down where he realizes that youre in pain whenever you two touch and he hates hurting you. 

true to the little mermaid story line, you and rengoku have to kiss if you want to be with him but now thats harder than ever if rengoku doesnt even want to touch you in fear of hurting you, so youll have to make him fall in love with you another way other than touching (and risk it all for a small kiss by the end or you DIE bc iguro is bitter about love bc kanroji is too dumb to realize his love for her)  

tanjirou, zenitsu and inosuke are the dumb servants of the fire kingdom that help you out whenever and they like the idea of the prince falling in love with you so thatll be some comedic fun. 

kyoujurou was supposed to marry distant princess shinobu (hence his ship travel) and now that tings are back on track she decides to go to the fire kingdom and you have to stop this marriage (maybe have a masquerade ball) 

i could end this sadly or happily this will depend huehue i gotta keep yall excited for this if i decide to actually write smh 

#ramble ramble ramble #fate fuckin speaks

[downsbeatrice]

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[asking-jude]

Need advice! My fiancé and I got engaged 4 years ago. We haven’t gotten married because I have a health condition & need to stay insured (long story; marriage would have made me lose my insurance at the time). Well, we live together & he has a really good job now & I’m about to finish school, & despite the fact that we can actually afford insurance now, he seems to have 0 interest in actually getting married. He changes the subject when I try to talk about it & is not being proactive at all!

Hi there, 

This sounds like an incredibly frustrating situation, and I’m sorry your fiance is avoiding this important conversation. This is definitely something that you need to talk about, even if he doesn’t want to. Marriage might not be something that is a high priority for him right now, but it is for you, and you need to make sure that he knows that. He has probably just fallen into the routine that you have created, and marriage might seem like a daunting step for him. Nevertheless, this will still be a difficult conversation, with you having to convince him that this is something that you need and not currently prioritizing this. Here are some helpful ways to prepare to have this conversation: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201406/5-tips-tough-conversations-your-partner 

https://nyctherapy.com/therapists-nyc-blog/how-to-have-better-conversations-with-your-partner/ 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/so-happy-together/201810/better-ways-communicate-your-partner 

https://positivepsychology.com/communication-in-relationships/ If you don’t think that he is interested in getting married, that could be a good place to start the conversation. You can start with an “I” statement about how you feel, such as, “I don’t feel like you want to marry me, and that is hurting me,” so that he understands your feelings without feeling like you are attacking him or being unfair. Here are some tips on forming and using “I” statements, including a worksheet that you can practice with: 

https://compassioncoach.com/blog/when-use-i-statements#:~:text=Use%20an%20%22I%22%20statement%20when,be%20simple%20and%20%22CLEAR%22. 

https://www.tonyrobbins.com/love-relationships/words-matter-you-vs-i/ 

https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/i-statements 

It could also be helpful to evaluate your feelings of marriage in terms of your relationship. It might turn out to be true that he doesn’t want actually to get married. And as awful as this will seem, you should try to prepare yourself for that potential outcome. Remember that it might not be about you, even if it feels that way. He may just be satisfied with your life together with the way it is, and he may not want to risk it changing. You should also ask yourself if you want to stay in this relationship if you are unable to marry him just in case. If he does tell you that he doesn’t want to get married, you should be honest with him if that makes you want to end the relationship. Hopefully, he will be understanding, and you should be able to come to an understanding. 

I hope your talk goes well. Good luck! 

Best wishes, 

Mikaela 

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[sad-goomy]

growing pains

so I also immediately latched onto the fun headcanon that Marnie is a Lona kid, and after seeing @aurantia-ignis‘s fanart and @trashyatt‘s fanart I got inspired to write whatever this fluff is

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Gladion never thought he’d settle into domestic life.

Not that the idea of marriage or home life were ever upsetting to him, but it was hard to imagine when his own family was so shattered and he spent so much of his life alone with Null against the world.

Of course, he also didn’t think he’d meet someone like Moon, and then he didn’t think he’d fall in love with her, and then he didn’t think he’d ever propose, and then he didn’t think they’d have children, and then, well...

All that to say that while he still finds time to travel and take on the occasional adventure, there are certain routines he’s grown to like.

One of them is coming home from work to find his daughter finishing up her homework at the dining room table.

She’s there when he opens the door, breezing through the living area to drop off his things as he greets, “Hi Marnie.” He just has a quick glance at her before he’s walking past, intent to change into something far less formal and ask Moon what she wants for dinner.

But then her “hi dad” comes out so much meeker than usual, and she hunches dramatically over her worksheet, her nose just an inch from the table as she keeps her eyes down.

Gladion pauses, immediately noticing the misstep in their little routine. He turns, about to ask what’s wrong, when he realizes that half of her bangs are missing. Immediately his brows furrow, and he asks slowly, “What happened to your hair?”

“Nothing.” It comes out far too quickly and she turns her head slightly away from him.

The dad voice doesn’t come out often, but he figures it’s more than appropriate in this situation. “Marnie...”

Finally, with a sigh of defeat, she puts down her pencil and looks up at him.

She’s wearing one of her favorite sundresses – Lillie got her this one for her birthday – and for the most part, her hair is intact. Except, of course, for the side that’s been shaved, just a little and just enough that it gives him déjà vu.

A life on the run flashes before his eyes, of nights spent alone in a motel room at far too young an age, of a hasty haircut to try and hide himself, to lose himself. The image morphs into a little girl in a sundress, running away from home and lashing out at the world and feeling every bit as scared and angry as he was.

When the silence stretches too long, Marnie fidgets in her seat, pulling her ace card, that iron-clad excuse to get her off the hook. “Mom let me!”

It snaps Gladion out of his thoughts with a hum, and too distracted by the anxiety overtaking him to give a proper response to his daughter, turns and walks towards the master bedroom.

Moon’s in her armchair by the window, the last of the sunset giving her enough light to finish the chapter of the paperback she’s reading. She lifts her eyes off the page when she hears footsteps, and looks up to see her husband’s face in disarray.  

“You saw Marnie’s-”

“Marnie’s hair, yes.” He sighs, going to their closet to set down his briefcase and shrug off his suit jacket. His voice isn’t particularly angry, too marred by the unwanted memories and fear as he asks, “Why on earth did she want to shave it like that?”

Setting down her book, Moon stands from the arm chair, explaining as she walks to him, “She wanted it to look like yours.” He turns, not soothed at all by the answer, and she gives him a soft smile, her hands running along his arms. “She wants to be like her father.”

He frowns, eyes flickering to the side and unseeing. “That’s what I was afraid of.”

Moon rolls her eyes, taking his hands in hers as she huffs a little laugh. “Yes, tapus forbid she wants to save the world and be the head of an organization focused on the welfare of Pokémon.”

“You know what I meant.” His gaze hooks onto hers, and she can still see right through him after all these years. Even if he didn’t speak another word, she’d pick out the unspoken fears. Still, he tells her (because he wants to tell her, feels better when he tells her these things, and he never thought that’d be possible). His voice is barely above a whisper, fractured by the self-doubt.  

“What if she got the worst of me?”

Marnie is a good kid. He knows this, but he still has the nights where he lies awake in bed wondering if he’s really doing this right – if he’s really any better than his mother. There’s a competitive streak growing inside of Marnie, a stubbornness that he knows at least partially comes from him, and it’s not much now but he worries it’ll bloom into something with thorns.

“Then all the amazing things she got from her mom will outweigh them.” Moon pulls him out of the downward spiral with a wink, and he gives a weak laugh. Her face softens out of the mischief, her impish spark replaced with a warm, glowing adoration in her eyes as she lifts a hand to cup his face, thumb running over his cheek gently as she says simply, earnestly, “She’s growing into her own person, who really loves her farther – who's a damn good dad when he isn’t overthinking a haircut.”

He leans his head down and she gets up on her tiptoes to place a kiss on his forehead, the last of his stress melting underneath the touch. “I know I worry too much.”

“Wouldn’t be Gladion if you didn’t.” There’s not a trace of bitterness or judgement in her tone, only the love and acceptance he’s slowly realized he’s worthy of. She steps back, gently tugging on the hand she still holds and smiling when he gives it a squeeze. “Now come on, I’m starving.”

They walk back out to see Marnie still at the dining room table, hands twisted into the hem of her dress and her papers tucked away into her school folder. She looks up quickly when her parents walk into the kitchen and dining room, her eyes searching their faces.

Moon hums at the sight. “You finish your homework, little Mareanie?”

She nods, too preoccupied with catching her dad’s eye to remind her mom that she’s getting too old for that nickname (after all, she’s eight, and that’s practically an adult). Her voice is small, and she lowers her head a touch as she asks, “Are you mad at me?”

In this moment, Gladion doesn’t think he could be mad at her if he tried. He never really was, just worried, and seeing her so concerned makes his heart clench. He’s quick to walk up to her, ruffling her hair with a lopsided smile as he says, “Just upset that your hair looks better than mine.” She giggles, smiling up at him as she fixes her pigtails. He detaches a Pokéball from his belt, holding it out to her. “Silvally’s feeling a little restless. How about you go play with him and your mom’s team before dinner?”

Her eyes light up, always delighted when she gets a chance to pretend to be a trainer, and she snatches the Pokéball from his hand, squealing as she runs off towards the door to the backyard. Moon and Gladion share a look, laughing as she opens the sliding door as quickly as she can, rousing her mother’s Pokémon from their evening nap on the grass.

However, before she steps outside, she turns, running back to wrap her arms around her dad, her eyes squeezed shut and a beam on her lips as she says with all the conviction she inherited from him, “Love you, Dad.”

He loses his voice for a moment, wrapping his arms around her and knowing that just for this moment, all is right with the world. “Love you, too, little Mareanie.”

And Marnie thinks that maybe she isn’t too old for that nickname after all, and Gladion thinks maybe he doesn’t mind this disruption to their routine, and Moon thinks the gene for dramatics definitely comes from the Aether side of the family.

#pokemon fanfic #lonashipping #mahinashipping #gladimoon #gladion x moon #gif #i've just been craving some domestic relationship lona #bc everything else i'm writing has them not together yet lmao #also i love marnie #and love that i've seen so many lona people also loving this little crack headcanon haha #can't wait for canon to immediately burst this but we're just having fun here lads #this is a little rough bc i wrote quickly and barely edited #also have close to no read on marnie's personality so this may be ooc? #i just love the idea that she really looks up to her parents and that's what ends up pushing her to go for galar's champion title #if she ends up evil #well.... #im a marnie apologist #and lol i love the thought of moon and glad catching wind that their daughter's up to no good #and showing up in galar like 'little mareanie have you started an evil team?? you're grounded'

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[whitestonetherapy]

Integration... (1.7.19)

On Saturday evening we were out with some friends in Haywards Heath.  The evening was really fun, but the conversation turned more serious at one point as the topic of ‘mental health’ came up.  This almost always happens if people know what I do for a living - an occupational hazard of being a therapist!  When it does (and it usually starts with someone saying something like:  “You know, I’ve actually been feeling really down lately…”), you usually feel a shift in the quality of attention around the table.  Surrounding noise fades away, everyone is suddenly concentrated.  This actually feels similar to Group or Individual therapy when there are moments of closeness - when something important is happening between people. People feel that these conversations matter.

I put this down to a couple of things (alongside hard-wired empathic impulses): some intrigue with the job of a therapist - a job that is carried out in the shadows and in secrecy.  Sometimes people express (usually with a laugh) an accompanying thought/fear I might ‘analyse’ them.  Then there’s the fact that many more people have mental health concerns than you might think.... and if they don’t, chances are they know someone who does.  It’s rare to get a chance to talk about mental health difficulties, and a therapist at the table opens the way to talk about something that is usually private or taboo.

Something along these lines happened amongst our group on Saturday night, and a friend (we’ll call him John) asked why his mood was so low and why his “mind was dwelling on negative things”.  This led to some interesting and different views being expressed (by people who know and care for John).  I was listening closely. The conversation reminded me again there are many ways of explaining ‘why’ we face a mental health difficulty.... and that there are also many different ways of working with people to try to help. 

A full answer to John’s question about ‘dwelling on the negative’ could fill a lot of books. Different schools of psychotherapeutic thought would approach this in different ways.  Some would focus on the link between thinking patterns and feelings/behaviours.  Others might look at the quality of relationships and attachment history of this person.  Some might view this as an unconscious ‘defence mechanism’ that needs to be understood.  Others might start with evolutionary biology. Some might prescribe homework and experiments.  Others would simply listen, and let John have the space to hear himself with very little therapist directivity. The list goes on.  

When I first meet a client, I tend to try and find the right ‘fit’ for their personality.  This means I draw from different theoretical backgrounds and integrate techniques and metaphors to try and really connect with the person in front of me.  Some clients would, at least at first, be more comfortable thinking of their problems as, say, stemming from ‘unresolved trauma’ requiring a deep exploration of the past.  Others might prefer to see their problem situation as a result of ‘thinking errors’ requiring CBT work to reduce negative thinking and with a worksheet to fill in.  

In fact, the way in which people prefer to 'see’ their own problems gives an important insight into their personality; how they see the world and make sense of their own life. It can shed light on their current difficulties – including the things that they wish to avoid.  

For example, I often meet people who primarily engage with life using their ‘head’ and approach most problems quite analytically without fully involving the ‘heart’ - and consequently experience a kind of flat detachment in life....   But then I also meet others who order their own experience of life from the ‘heart’ but with no appetite for using the ‘head’ - and so experience confusion, stemming from difficulty bringing order and coherence to many conflicting emotions and impulses.  

How people make sense of their own life is something I always listen out for in consultations.  I think that many people instinctively approach the start of their therapy in ways that embody and illustrate the dilemmas that bring them to therapy in the first place...  Consider here the client who arrives in therapy with problems making lasting relationships, but is dismissive of emotions and won’t talk easily about his past, and is more comfortable talking cerebrally about his life.  Or the CEO with a failing marriage who would like help with techniques to work 80, and not 70, hours a week.  Both have a strong preference for using the ‘head’ to engage with life and to solve problems in their relationships. But what is lacking in the experience of these clients?  Would you say these clients would benefit more from a therapy that encourages moving towards the ‘head’ or ‘heart’?  What would your instincts tell you would truly help?  

Imagine now the client who comes to therapy overwhelmed with difficult emotional situations in his life, including a pattern of rejection by highly critical parents. This client is so overwhelmed it is difficult for him to discipline himself to implement any strategies that might save him from self-destructive behaviours - behaviours which are worsening.  This person stays strongly with the ‘heart’ and feels the full force of powerful emotions in therapy sessions, but is stuck in the same dangerous cycle and seems to resist making any changes, however small.  What does your instinct tell you might help this person?  Would he benefit more from ‘heart’ or ‘head’ to gain more control of this unsatisfactory situation?

An integrative approach can be really helpful here.  It means it is possible to ‘match’ a way of working with each a client, but also as therapy continues to stretch that client into new ways of reflecting on their life and problems.  To use the same metaphor, this is about encouraging people to engage and link both their ‘head’ and ‘heart’, sometimes for the first time ever.   I think therapy has to be a space in which there is the potential for that to happen (although it doesn’t always). This means encouraging people to explore out of their comfort zone.

It’s fair to point out the charge against an integrative way of working is that practitioners might lack the rigour of fully understanding one pure theoretical approach when working with client issues.  I am not so sure.  We know that there are many things that matter far more in therapy than the theoretical ‘expertise’ of the therapist (although I think this matters too).  I would not want to lose the flexibility of an integrative approach in the service of theoretical purity. Bending clients to fit a theory is putting the cart before the horse.

The list of things I want to write a bit about on this blog continues to grow… as well as the Psychosis conference last week, I now want to write about why it is we often do dwell more on the ‘negative’ rather than the ‘positive’.  I hope I get the time in July/Aug for both.

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