#This was in front of other people btw

[whydooldpeopletalk]

Speaking as someone who's been outed many, many times, by both "allies" and homo/transphobes, some of yall are way too comfortable sharing other peoples' queer identities.

"But what if I'm trying to be funny?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm an ally?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is an ally?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if I'm queer?" Doesn't matter

"But what if the person I'm talking to is queer?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if the person I'm talking about is a stranger?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if it's really obvious?" First of all, ew. Second of all, Doesn't matter.

"But what if they didn't come out to me, I just figured it out on my own?" Doesn't matter.

"But what if they're getting misgendered?" It's just as easy to say 'actually she's a girl' as it is to say 'actually she's transgender and uses she/her'. If that person is pretransition, it's also easy to just bite your tongue and not say anything.

Unless that person has explicitly given you permission to share that information, you DON'T. No matter how certain you are that everyone is accepting, no matter how noble your intentions, it's not your information to share. Getting clocked sucks, getting outed sucks, and they're both an invasion of privacy no matter who's doing it.

#I told this girl I haven't seen hazbin the other day and she said 'you're gay and autistic how have you NOT seen it?!' and um. #This was in front of other people btw #im not actually gay or autistic either #Anyway. there are some things people say on tumblr that they shouldn't in real life. #lgbtq #gay #lesbian #trans #transgender #queer #bi

[llumimoon]

VOTE FOR TAYLOR AND I WILL DRAW FOR YOU

hi there. my name is Cal and despite already being knees deep in requests i WILL draw you a quick doodle of any character or oc of your choice if you can send me an ask showing me proof that you voted for Taylor DNDADS Swift in the alloaro showdown!! (he is unrelated to the singer of the same name)

HERE R SOME EXAMPLES OF MY ART:

THERE IS ONLY ONE DAY LEFT IN THE POLL!!!

VOTE FOR TAYLOR NOW! TURN THE ODDS!

@alloarocharactershowdown

#dndads #dungeons and daddies #dndads s2 #dungeons and daddies season 2 #alloaro showdown #propoganda #taylor swift dndads #art requests #LISTEN. QUALITY MAY VARY IM LITERALLY IN THE MIDDLE OF GRADUATING #BUT IF MY BOY DOESNT WIN I WILL EAT DRYWALL #also btw to avoid getting bombarded the screenshot HAS to show how much time was left in the poll when u voted #so sorry if u already voted for Taylor im tryin to entice other people who havent voted yet #im on my hands and knees PLEASE I NEED HIM TO WIN SO BAD #inspired bt twacn btw i saw ur post and was like I WILL ALSO FIGHT ON THE FRONT LINES

[dumbasswhatever]

looking for a replacement for duolingo and i am truly losing my mind at how far these language learning apps go to try to hide the fact that they require a paid subscription to learn just about anything

#i mean i guess i can't be mad at them. they're right it is only 15 minutes #anyways a few apps didn't even mention a subscription plan in their description at all...... good way to make people hate you i think #like just to be clear i'm not mad that these apps aren't free. i get that making apps like this takes a ton of time and money and knowledge #i just want them to be up front about it #anyways. trying memrise out now and i like that the lessons are smaller more bite sized but no placement test... only way to skip ahead #is to go right to intermediate... #btw yes i did scroll thru the rest of the lessons on ling and i am not misrepresenting things. every other lesson was locked

[betelgeusing]

marty hart's cyclical return to praising family as THE thing that keeps a man grounded, stable, and happy (specifically in pointing out that rust DOESN'T have a family) even as flashbacks show him spiraling into jealous macho violence as he lies to, mistreats, and destroys his family over the course of multiple affairs (by which he deliberately steps outside of and away from his family despite his wife's best efforts to get him to reconnect and step up to be the family man he sees himself as)

vs

rust cohle's repeated excoriations of the idea of individuality and personhood and the stupid self-centeredness and entitlement that comes with saying "I, a human being, matter to the universe, and the things I do matter", an ideology he carries for years and waxes poetic on for his interviewers as late as 2012, even as he obsessively works himself to the bone to get justice and resolution for the victims he's assigned and ultimately to protect children from the powerful and dangerous people who want to brutalize them

#true detective #so what if it all goes back to Melville and Milch. every great character spins against the way he drives #I know this is the point of their characters I know other people have said it before and better #but I go through it every time and this time Marty is hitting me extra hard. bc with Rust it's basically screaming in your face #Rust says humanity (without exception) is stupid selfish and vain and we're fools to convince ourself our actions matter #he then proceeds to take a job where everything he does matters SO MUCH. and to CARE about that job deeply and obsessively #but Marty... I've really noticed this time how Maggie calls him a coward multiple times in her efforts to pull him back to his family #and she's right because he's too much of a coward to face that gaining the sainted ''family'' hasn't fixed him! #it hasn't made him stop wanting to fuck other women #it hasn't made him the household hero the perfect father and husband the savior of the women in his life #he thought it would and when it doesn't live up to the fantasy he checks out completely #and even in 2012 when his marriage has fallen apart! he still lauds marriage and family as the thing that makes a man good! #despite all the evidence in front of him that he became WORSE after becoming a husband and father. he can't let the ideal go #he has good intentions at his core but he's obsessed with the idea of being a good ol boy and a family man #he shits on Rust for being isolated because he's scared to face the idea that he-- Marty-- would have done less damage on his own #sorry for the tag novel they make me want to bite. and knock their stupid empty heads together really hard #btw this show would be 75% less effective if they had not filmed on location. big brain move thank God for the TD S1 location scouts

[ghoulodont]

i dont like to hear things like "based on their name/image/etc i thought ghost would be sooo heavy and yucky but actually its normal music :)" umm you sound very closed minded to me

#like theres really no need to put it that way #i feel like 80% of people who say they like music just like whatever is put in front of them #which is FINE and you should enjoy whatever music you want to listen to #finding new music takes some degree of effort. like its a mental task to try something new at the very least #but that frame is a very clear indication that you have some sort of #either conscious or unconscious boundary that you really dont need to put out in the world like that #its not harmonious #come at it from the other direction #btw i know it might sound like im making up a guy to be mad at but i swear i see this in the comments of every youtube video at least once #i dont really see it on here

[moodr1ng]

"this social psychology experiment proves humans are inherently cruel and domineering!" "no this other social psychology experiment proves humans are inherently kind and cooperative!" everyone learn that singular experiments cannot be taken as conclusive proof of anything + consider that perhaps literally no amount of social psychology studies will ever "prove" any kind of inherent, all-encompassing moral truth about all of humanity and will only ever be an example of possible group conduct in certain conditions, in a certain culture and time, among certain people

#97 #sorry for the occasional random complaining about psych experiments #but truly theyre soooo irritating #bc theyre flashy and kinda fun to learn about so people know abt them quite a bit #but theyre never presented with like. #the necessary understanding of the scientific method or proper balancing of their claims to qualify what exactly they supposedly show. #so instead people are just encouraged to draw the simplest conclusions. #often misanthropic ones bc of how badly done many of these so-called experiments are (and i do not recognize many of these as experiments #due to the lack of application of the scientific method eg researcher intervention lack of control group etc) #(and not being reproducible quite often as well) #(imo shit like for example most infamous stanford prison experiment but also many others are just demonstrations.) #(not a scientific experiment. did not involve the scientific method. just some guy doing ethical misconduct in a basement.) #not hating on psych research as a field btw i literally would like to do psych research #however the way cherrypicked flashy and impressive or shocking isolated experiments are placed front and center in the popular understandin #of psych imo just misinforms the public greatly and often about like. yknow stuff you probably dont want to ingrain into people? #like. for example if you want to talk about the way perceived authority can lead many people to commit acts they morally dont agree with? #yes the milgram experiment is like a good thing to learn about imo. #however that experiment is like.. almost coupled in the popular consciousness w again the stanford prison scientific mishandling #and its conclusion is broadened to 'if given the chance all people will brutalize and abuse other people' #when the kindest possible interpretation of that mess is that if you take milgrams experiment but the researchers are in denial that #they are also inducing obedience to authority and also theyre using real people as the abused subject instead of an actor #and also every subject selected is a college aged white man whos interested in prison environments #then yes it turns pretty fucking bad. #but its not about the nature of humanity. its about an event of that obedience to authority leading some very specific subjects #who are not representative of the general population whatsoever #into behaviors which should never have been allowed to take place in an ethical research environment

[lgbt4077]

The Way Back - Erich Maria Remarque

#guy who’s only seen mash voice getting some real mash vibes from this #but this whole book is so perfect at articulating GFA’s whole thing #which is that the war was the worst experience of their lives but it brought them closer to each other than they’d ever been #to anyone #and now everyone was going to be split up and try and fail to fall back into civilian life with people who will never get it #this is the sequel to all quiet on the western front btw!!

[pulsar-1919]

God, reading about and listening to podcasts about queer history it's disappointing to see that people have been infighting about the same shit for years

#Harry Hay and the others had the right idea when they formed the Mattachine Society #but of course the conservative assimilation gays got into and drove him out #beacause Hay was trying to spread the word about queer history and the very real culture that was there #and the conservatives were saying 'oh no we're just like straight people! we have to dress and act straight!' #'also we can't have any communist links cus the lavender scare! even though the communist party doesn’t like gays either!' #anyways Harry eventually embraced his femme side and founded the radical faeries #(Michael and Emmet attend a gathering in queer as folk and it's cool af) #but yeah Mattachine was cool but it died for a reason #and got all but replaced by the Gay Liberation Front post Stonewall #the podcast is Queer Serial btw #there was a really fascinating episode with a radio interview of three self described transexual women and a cop #who was actually trying to help and promote their cause #(very rare) #but my god it's sad how relevant it still is today #queer history #lgbtqia+ history #queer

[reineyday]

imagining a billy & max role reversal au where billy is max's feral little brother who only loves one (1) person and it is his older sister who stepped in when no one else would

#rei rambles #stranger things #billy hargrove #max mayfield #like im thinking she didnt know at first but since billy's younger it's harder for him to hide it #when max gets confirmation in front of her one day--neil shoving him against the wall by his neck #for hanging with the wrong sorts of people--max steps in right away and ends up taking the beating. #they run away but eventually get caught and this is why neil moves them out to hawkins. #at first all they did was argue and yell at each other even as they were running away but billy saw that she not only cared #but unlike his mother she wasnt going to leave. in fact she was leaving her *own* mother for *billy*. #(the plan was to try to get the both of them to max's dad but they never got there.) #their road trip to hawkins is fraught but also has this tense sort of understanding of respect #and there exists a ride-or-die vibe to them that didnt exist before. #(btw max has a camaro bc she needed a car and took billy as some sort of parent-mandated bonding trip and billy chose the car.) #by the time all the upside down stuff happens billy's gotten to the point where he'd step in front of his dad's fists for max if he had to #like he used to do for his mother before she left. because he's starting to trust that max wont leave. #(also yes this is an au where the party is all teenagers and steve & co are the kids lol. el escapes as a teen and she's MUCH angrier.) #anyways this all leads to max with a baseball bat with nails in it in a junkyard and her tiny brother trying to get in between her and #a demodog lol. they yell at each other about it. billy is also the type to step in front of her when he doesnt trust someone and growl. #max is exasperated and annoyed and always berates him for it bc seriously she doesnt need protecting ESPECIALLY from tiny shitheads #but she's secretly a little fond about it too. just a little. #at one point they have a fight bc billy's like 'youre not my MOTHER you cant REPLACE HER' and max is like #'GOOD I DONT WANT TO BE YOUR MOM IM YOUR FUCKING SISTER' but billy will admit years and years later that she raised him. #she also clocks billy pulling steve's pigtails right away in the junkyard haha. #btw i imagine she's actually just borrowing the nail bat from lucas. mike is the one that shoots guns. #jonathan is the one that gets lost in the upside down with will trying to find him. #steve and nancy still date and break up but it's less angsty and more funny bc they're middle schoolers lol. #max to steve (secretly rooting for billt's crush): and she wouldnt stop talking about jonathan?? dump her ass! #also steve grows up less of a shithead too bc he ends up sideways involvwd through nancy through mike when nance gets nosy and finds a #superpowered teenager hiding in her basement. this somehow ends with dustin adopting steve haha.

[m00ngbin]

Sometimes I think of Chicken Little from the movie Chicken Little and cry bc he's just a kid and he's all alone and his dad is ashamed of him and he lost his mother and he gets bullied and harassed bc he's small and kind of strange and he's the only person in the world that knows that the sky is falling and when he tries to tell people they don't believe him

#I WOULD HAVE BELIEVED HIM #ALL THAT PRESSURE ON THAT POOR LITTLE KID #AND THEN HE HAS TO SAVE THE WHOLE TOWN FROM THE ALIENS #THE ENTIRE TOWN THAT OSTRACIZED AND BULLIED HIM BTW #EVEN THE FUCKING MAYOR #LIKE ARE YOU SHITTING ME?? #i wouldnt have done it #i would have just left them to get vaporized into the void #idk just after all that hes still so kind and he cares about everybody in that stupid town #AND THE SCENE WHERE HES LIKE BEGGING AND PLEADING WITH HIS FATHER TO JUST BELIEVE HIM #BC IF NOBODY ELSE HAS HIS BACK AT LEAST HIS DAD SHOULD #and he DIDNT #OH AND HIS DAD PURPOSELY SEPARATED HIMSELF FROM CHICKEN LITTLE BECAUSE HE WAS SO EMBARRASSED AND ASHAMED #IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY #idk chicken little makes me really sad #I KNOW THE DAD IS HAVING A HARD TIME I KNOW HES STILL GRIEVING HIS WIFE BUT OH MY GOD #YOUR SON NEEDS YOU. HE HAS NEEDED YOU AND YOU ARE JUST NOT THERE FOR HIM #i could have been a better parent #i could have done it i would have loved him the way he deserved #OH AND HE ONLY HAS LIKE THREE PEOPLE IN HIS LIFE THAT REALLY LOVE HIM COMPLETELY AND UNCONDITIONALLY #AND THEYRE ALL STRANGE AND OSTRACIZED JUST LIKE HE IS #the troupe of people that are othered finding each other. seeing their faults. and loving each other the way that they should be loved #will always EAT ME ALIVE #what was he. like 12? #if i had been in that movie i would have LOST IT if a kid that little had to go through and deal with all of the things that he had to #pretty much alone for most of the movie #i meam he had his three friends for half of it but theres a lot he had to do alone #i just watched it can you tell

[enekorre]

Nothing like friends knowing i have very limited free time insisting on coming over on a weekday and then leaving the house an hour later than they said. And stopping to fill up their tyres for some reason. I need to be in bed in 2 hours and i still haven't eaten bc they were supposed to bring food.

This is really on me though. I know they're always an hour late. That's why i don't coride with them when we go to our friends one town over despite the 40min trip.

Same friends that ditched me two days before our trip to see MCR in Germany btw.

#M #The mcr trip was even their idea tp begin with #Anyway i dont know why i still hang around with them #They can be nice but the guy is so apathetic he might as well be comatose #And the girl is chronically late and have 0 manners. #And i dont mean like 'ooh look at me i dont fart in front of others' she has that type of manners (i dont) #Like the 'no elbows on the table' manners. Things that don't really mean shit #I mean manners that matter. Like not asking your friends friend why she's lost her eye or your new friend why his arm doesn't work #Or arriving somewhat on time. Like within 20 minutes. Or keeping promises. Those kinds of manners #Anyway im just talking shit about them here to vent #I don't want to say this stuff to their faces and i dont wanna talk behind their backs to our common friends #So im just venting here #But honestly it's really annoying that they refuse to grow up and learn to act decently #Especially the girl has the mentality of a 15 year old #But then again she never moved out from her parents place so maybe that is hindering her... #These people are together and live at the girls parents btw no fault with living at home but i do believe it is heavily hindering developme #t for her #Urgh im so hungry where are theyyyy

[galactichelium]

New icon :3 It's just my Spl//atoon guy again but in a different pose + different background. And I also edited together 2 outfits to do the flannel with the gloves. AND I think I better edited the skin tone this time to further match my own. Not necessarily final I'm not sure I'm happy w the bg :/

#None of the skin tones in the game are exactly right bc none of them have the olive tones that I have #But even if they did. Most things that have olive tone options only have the One #And it's always darker than me bc I'm definitely on the lighter end of olive. My mum has tried saying I can't be olive bc I'm too light #(Neither of my parents have my tone btw. But some of my cousins do so) #But I definitely have the tone. Other people irl including someone w a more “typical” olive tone have described my tone as olive #It's funny when I take photos because my camera tries to make me more pink but sometimes it clearly gets confused #Like this just happened to me yesterday. My arm/hand holding the phone in front of me in the photo still had the green undertones #But the rest of me looked pink in the photo so it looked super weird 😭 #BUT YEAH that's a lot of rambling #Iron text

[cashclown]

.

#//this is unrelated to everything jsjfjs #//but i love. ships that start out as jokes. #//bc every time. EVERY TIME it becomes not a joke #//mamm and a certain rockstar ange-- *gets shot* #//generally i think any mamm ship would suck shit (it Does Not Care abt other people + is probably using its partner for money) #//its hard to get along with when it isnt putting up a front for publicity's sake #//but if someone is on its level. it'll still use them for money but also it occasionally SPENDS money on them (WOAH!!!!) #//and not in like an “investing in your future profitability” way but like #//“i thought youd like this dont ever say a fucking word about this to anyone bye” #//bc greed isnt JUST abt the money yk. its just mamm's main interest jsjfjdjfj #//anyway #ɪ ᴀᴍ ᴠᴇʀʏ ꜱᴍᴀʟʟ ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ɴᴏ ᴍᴏɴᴇʏ $$$ ooc. #//no reason for why i put this in the tags btw. just felt right

[yardsards]

the toh kids, ranked by how likely they are to just straightup bite someone, because the idea seemed very funny to me:

6: vee noceda. she would never bite somebody. like maybe in self defense if no other option were available, but she wouldn't like it one bit. she is precious and must be protected at all costs.

5: willow park. not bc like ~oh she's too nice~ bc nah, she's way more mischievous than the fandom makes her out to be. it's just that biting in particular doesnt seem like her MO. if seriously provoked or in self-defense, she seems more likely to use magic, kick, or punch. if play-fighting, she seems more like the tackling, headlocks, and noogies type.

4: hunter [insert last name(s) here]. (the 2-3-4 spots are all really close, btw). he is a little shit. he is absolutely not above biting someone in any context. it's not his go-to move but he'd absolutely go for it if the situation called for it. he licked luz's hand before, he's not immune to chomping someone's arm

3: amity blight. okay, she was VERY hard to place. i've been switching between 2, 3, and 4 for her. hear me out. she *probably* wouldn't bite for fun, BUT she would absolutely bite at even the slightest provocation. she's a little less likely to do so now than she was back in s1, but she's still pretty likely to bite. i feel it in my heart. also, youngest sibling. the girl bites for sure.

2: luz noceda. darius was correct in his assessment of her when the first thing he said to her was "promise not to bite anyone", cuz this kid DOES bite. she is very chaotic. she has no reservations about tackling people for fun. she's moderately likely bite for any reason: in self defense, when provoked, for fun, etc., so she's a pretty well-rounded contender.

1: gus porter. oh this boy ABSOLUTELY bites. we've seen this boy tear things up with his teeth onscreen. gus would not only bite in self defense; gus would bite someone for FUN, completely out of nowhere and unprovoked.

#eliot posts #toh #the owl house #not gonna bother tagging the character names bc this is an absolute shitpost #btw this is written by someone who was a MAJOR biter as a child and bit people into their early to mid teens #i was an absolute feral child #i would bite to win fights. i would bite if you touched me without consent and i was in a bad mood. i would bite if we were play-fighting. #(tbh i miss playfighting but you don't get much of a chance to do that as an adult unless ur a cishet frat bro #and ppl tend to view light affectionate roughhousing as flirtatious? like ew no) #funny story: this one time in my later teens i was playing hide and seek with some friends #and i was hiding in a big tub of plushes and no one could find me and the other players were helping the seeker look #and my best friend reaches his hand into the bin but not before shouting ''[seeker] i swear to GOD if they bite me-'' #i had never bitten him. i don't think i'd ever even bitten anyone in front of him #but he still instantly read my vibe as ''oh yeah this bitch bites'' #anyway he managed to not feel me when he was fishing around in there and everyone eventually admitted defeat do i won

[mayoiayasep]

girl with a completely normal attachment to his favorite fictional characters (if he sees someone genuinely badmouth them he feels sick)

#difference of a opinion learn to handle other peoples opinions i know i know please consider however that if you slander my favorites i wil #-consider pulling my spine out in front of you. btw. #its past 9pm here ignore me #nyx yells