#but people are literally just saying it as a buzzword

[doomed-jester]

If there's one problem I have with Across the Spider-Verse it's all the people who just learned the phrase "hammerspace" but don't know what it means so they're just throwing it out at random. They're very confident despite being frequently wrong.

#hammerspace is literally just the imagined space where cartoon characters pull items from #bugs bunny has a full barber's chair and wig that just appeared between shots? they were in hammerspace #a really good example is when Spider-Ham pulls out a literal hammer from behind his back in the climax of ITSV #but people are literally just saying it as a buzzword #i saw someone on tiktok with a spidersona that looked really cute and fun #but they said they had a “hammerspace mask” #literally what does that mean?? they mask goes into hammerspace when they're not wearing it?? #or if they take it off there's a pocket dimension INSIDE that functions like hammerspace?? #you can't just say shit #text post #spiderverse #across the spiderverse #into the spider verse #Spider-Man #spider man #spiderman #marvel #hammerspace #spider ham #pet peeve #bullshittery

[dirt-str1der]

I still get scared when i remember kiryu is canonically quite lean and not a fatty at all

#Yakuza loveblog #i really think hes a little tubby and a little shorter #stop making japanese characters taller than 180 .... #you can pick one guy in your series to make that height but not more than tao #two #like there should be a ratio of guys over that height to guys who are normal (160-175 range) #and i say this a lot but i like the idea of kiryu simply being a guy who can dominate the room by presence alone #like he shouldnt be a huge guy he should be above average but being six feet is literally (thinks of a social justice buzzword) whitewashing #fucking haruka is taller than me thats not why im mad i just think that nobody looks at the average height of a country before making their #characters. wait im going to boot up y5 again and see harukas height in comparison to the rest of the people because kiryus always like a #head taller than everyone and while its funny to see him towering over date i think its wrong for him to do that #if anyone tries to argue with me im going to your house and killing myself #sorry i dont feel that strongly about this actually wait i am trying to downplay it im freaking out right now #okay between then and now im okay now but it still makes me so sad

[batbluud]

not to get #Controversial but like some of you people sincerely need to stop acting like repackaged gender essentialism is in any way progressive because you add enough ""bad"" modifiers to it

#usually keep quiet online these days but i just had to block like 3 people for dogshit takes #just because you tack on 'white' 'skinny' or some other buzzword doesnt make it any less terrible. like #these things still apply to other groups its really obvious youre just using it as a flimsy shield to attack random people for no reason #we need to put 'amab' and 'afab' on the shelf until people learn to actually fucking use them for their intended purpose #which is to say if you arent a fucking literal doctor. dont use them #just saw a post that said pre t trans men are 'basically just blonde sorority girls' #how is this not just misgendering and gender essentialism. cus you tacked on some buzzwords to the beginning. #anyway stop looking for excuses to misgender trans men its getting really fucking aggravating #im so sick of take after take basically calling us 'whiny women' but dressing it up in frilly language to avoid flak. i see right through it

[capfalcon]

i think people should be required to do 10 hours of volunteering/community service every time they say the word "problematic"

#i hate it. i hate it. as someone who deals w social media and studies it for a living/career #i fucking hate that word #its like just one step away from people saying 'ive decided these things are all immoral' and lumping them all together #i understand why the word is used i just think its literally meaningless #problematic could mean conflict. it could mean important discourse. it could mean someone has had a negative impact #it could mean that what they said has harmed people #problematic means literally nothing #it provides no nuance no substance #and people throw it around like it means something when it doesnt #and they act like its this Terrible Complex issue when in reality #its just some fuckin buzzword people use to describe a myraid of much bigger much more interesting conversations #and you dont get to the heart of those conversations by throwing the word problematic around as if its some #Genuine label #ur not the social justice activist you think you are just by using the word problematic #and its so frustrating listening to people talk on and on about race and 'problematic' people and issues #idk man. shut up and go volunteer somewhere. #make a difference in your community. spend less time talking about old tweets or pedagogy and more time helping people who need it. #and its also. i also really hate the word problematic bc i feel like the only people who use it #are people who think the world can be divided into black and white #like go help build some houses or pack food for homeless people or garden at ur local park #make a difference and then worry about all this shit #actions speak louder than words #stop talking about how fuckin problematic it is that this guy hates queer people and actually go and help some queer people #etc etc. ugh.

[paragalago]

OP just assigned all non-Christians as leftists?

#The Christian hegemony is so strong people literally cannot imagine focusing on religious marginalization and just think it’s buzzwords??? #These cultural marxists get mad at me when I say Christmas is a secular holiday

[cats-in-the-clouds]

it’s important to try very hard to be as patient and understanding and reasonable as possible and i tell myself aw c’mon how hard can it really be to just chill out and be nice? but every now and it hits me again how we’re all being subjected to a mass gaslighting campaign and then i’m like ah that’s why i’m exhausted deep in my soul all the time. i’m being made to think i’m utterly insane for wanting words to have actual meanings so maybe that makes me a bit cranky y’know

#there really is just an attack on the art of human communication going on right now huh #man it’s so much easier talking to people about literally anything else other than transgenderism #even if it were the most controversial; vitriol-filled topic in the world #nothing compares to the exhaustion of going back and forth with a person because the two of you have different definitions of basic words #the exhaustion of you trying to use pronouns that the basic rules of the english language call for #becetse you paid attention in first grade #but being instantly shut down for it because no matter how hard you argue they do not care if you’re right #you get slammed for being ‘disrespectful’ as if they have a real definition of that word either #like you can’t even converse with someone else like that if the basic parts of the language are something that can’t be agreed on #but neither of you can even concede and agree to the other’s terms because that undercuts the point of the argument #it is a war over language itself and that sure does make communication with those on the opposite side impossible #like in other cases conceding and agreeing to use a specific word in conversation is totally fine and easy #i have no problem saying ‘fetus’ as opposed to ‘baby’ because those terms aren’t mutually exclusive to me. it’s fine #but i can’t say ‘trans woman’ when the correct term is man #i refuse to act like ‘transgender’ is just another simple adjective #as opposed to a buzzword that indicates that the following word is actually the opposite of whatever it says #it’s very tiring having to read through a message written in this kind of opposites day code and have to translate it to yourself first #but i’ll do it idc i’m not giving an inch

[inkskinned]

i got rickrolled today but it didn't work because i have adblocker installed, so youtube just told me i violated the terms of service. yesterday i was trying to edit a picture as a joke for my girlfriend, and google made me check a box to prove i'm human because i wasn't "searching normally".

it isn't just that capitalism is killing fun and whimsy, it is that any element of entertainment or joy is being fed upon by this mosquito body, one that will suck you dry at any vulnerability.

do you want to meet new friends in your city? download this app, visit our website, sign up for our email list. pay for this class on making a terrarium, on candlemaking, on cooking. it will be 90 dollars a session. you can go to group fitness, but only under our specific gym membership. solve the puzzle, sign up for our puzzle-of-the-month-club. what is a club if not just a paid opportunity - you are all paying for the same thing, which makes you a community.

but you're like me, i know it - you're careful, you try the library meetings and the stuff at the local school and all of that. the problem is that you kind of want really specific opportunities that used to exist. you are so grateful for libraries and the publicly-funded things: they are, however, an exception - and everything they have, they've fought tooth-and-nail to protect. you read a headline about how in many other states, libraries have virtually nothing left.

do you want to meet up with your friends afterwards? gift your friends the discord app. you can choose to go to a cafe (buy a coffee, at least), a bar (money, alcohol) or you can all stay in and catch a movie (streaming) or you can all stay in bed (rent. don't get me started) and scream (noise complaint. ticket at least).

you want to read a new book, but the book has to have 124 buzzwords from tiktok readers that are, like, weirdly horny. you can purchase this audiobook on audible! your podcast isn't on spotify, it's on its own server, pay for a different site. fuck, at least you're supporting artists you like. the art museum just raised their ticket price. once, they had a temporary exhibit that acknowledged that ~85% of their permanent art galleries were from cis white men, and that they had thousands of works by women (even famous women, like frida! georgia o'keefe!) just rotting in their basement. that exhibit lasted for 3 months and then they put everything away again.

walmart proudly supports this strip of land by the street! here are some flowers with wilting leaves. its employees have to pay out-of-pocket for their uniforms. my friend once got fined by the city because she organized a community pick-up of the riverfront, which was technically private property.

no, you cannot afford to take that dance class, neither can i. by the way - i'm a teacher. i'm absolutely not saying "educators shouldn't be paid fairly." i'm saying that when i taught classes, renting a studio went from 20 bucks an hour to 180 in the span of 6 months. no significant changes to the studio were made, except they now list the place as updated and friendly. the heat still doesn't work in the building. i have literally never seen the landlord who ignores my emails. recently they've been renting it out at night as an "unusual nightclub; a once-in-a-lifetime close-knit party." they spent some of those 180 dollars on LEDs and called it renovating. the high heels they invite in have been ruining the marley.

do you want to experience the old internet? do you want to play flash games or get back the temporary joy of club penguin? you can, you just need to pay for it. i have a weird, neurodivergent obsession with occasionally checking in to watch the downfall and NFT-ification of neopets. if i'm honest with you all - i never got into webkins, my family didn't have the money to buy me a pointless elephant. people forget that "being poor" can mean literally "if i buy you that toy, i can't afford rent."

you and i don't have time to make good food, and we don't have the budget for it. we are not gonna be able to host dinner parties, we're not made of money, kid. do you want some kind of 3rd space? a space that isn't home or work or school? you could try being online, but - what places actually exist for you? tiktok counts as social media because you see other people on it, not because they actually talk to you.

there was a local winter tradition of sledding down the hill at my school. kids would use pizza boxes and jackets and whatever worked, howling and laughing. back in september, they made a big announcement that this time, rules were changing, and everyone must pay 10 dollars to participate. when im not scared shitless, i kind of appreciate the environmental irony - it hasn't gone below 40. so much for snow & joyriding.

i saw a bulletin for a local dogwalking group and, nervous about making a good first impression, showed up early. the first guy there grimaced at me. "sorry," he said. "there's a 30-dollar buy-in fee." i thought he was joking. wait. for what? the group doesn't offer anything except friendship and people with whom to walk around the city.

he didn't know the answer. just shrugged at me. "you know," he said. "these days, everything costs money."

#spilled ink #warm up #“why did u tag it warm up” bc i wrote it off the cuff while drinkin coffee lol #btw the 30 dollar buy in for the dog walking is bc they pay the organizer a small pittance so she can #run fb ads and stuff and like she does put in a lot of work i don't mind paying her #but that's exactly what im fucking talking about like. #ppl can't afford to volunteer their time anymore and we all understand it!!! everything costs money for everyone! #like we didn't have to use to say ''do you mind paying me back for the stuff we ate'' #we used to be able to afford to feed our friends once in a while!!!

[laurelwinchester]

yeah the people in the supernatural fandom are way too comfortable talking about people's bodies and physical appearances. (most of the time people they don't even fucking know.) it's extremely inappropriate and it's totally wild that they either don't seem to be able to understand this or just refuse to accept it. not to mention the fucked up and bizarre responses they often have to being called out.

i don't know if this is the weird entitlement spn fans have (for whatever reason????) or just a side effect of being terminally online but someone needs to teach these people the lesson they apparently missed back in kindergarten, which is that we do not comment on or touch other people's bodies without their consent.

and no it's not actually okay to make people uncomfortable (and then laugh about it) because you seem to believe you somehow own their bodies. that's disturbing and you're fucked up. you're a fucked up human.

#don't even get me started on how fucked up it is that for the most part it's WOMEN doing this shit #like......the complete lack of self awareness is astonishing #and they always moan that they can say whatever they want about actors because they chose this #but i mean first of all that's a fucked up argument #and second of all their families and children did not and also you do the same thing to each other #a literal cult of bullies was just exposed and you learned nothing #jesus christ part or me wonders if they act like this in real life but let's be real they absolutely do #these are the people who do wildly inappropriate things and make everyone around them uncomfortable #and then turn around and pout and whine that they have [insert buzzword here] when they're called out on their shit behavior #spn fandom discourse #supernatural

[ssaltlicker]

People are really comparing people having separate identities to segregation you cannot make this shit up bro

#its un fucking real #sorry guys no ones allowed to identify as anything #by doing that youre automatically segregating people :( #people saying identities need to have meanings is not the fucking same as segregation lmao… literally what the fuck #god i hate it here #just because you hear the word separation. it does not mean that #i know people fucking love buzzwords but i promise like. context matters #people arent fucking saying theyre segregating sexualities lmao theyre saying that identities need to have meanings to keep people sane #people will be fine with bi and trans focused communities online #but god for fucking bid lesbians have one #just say you think all lesbians are violent monsters. thats what so many ppl here think

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[liquidstar]

look this site really is awful for ppl with OCD so i just wanna reassure anyone that you are not Tainted Forever for consuming a piece of media with questionable content. the fact that youre able to recognize it speaks to your critical thinking skills, which is good, certain depictions should be critiqued. but you dont need to ruminate on it to the point where you begin to feel guilty for simply witnessing gross or creepy writing choices. you dont have to vindicate yourself to the fictional tumblr discourser inside your head, saying that youre now a bad person bc you watched the wrong anime. your actual response to it still matters of course, but thats that and this is this. just seeing it is neutral, you didnt commit a thought crime. its literally fine.

IF YOU ARE USING THIS POST TO ONLY FURTHER YOUR STUPID PEDANTIC BLACK-AND-WHITE DISCOURSE TO GET A "GOCHA" OVER THE OTHER SIDE YOU ARE THE PROBLEM. DON'T USE OUR DISORDER TO VINDICATE YOUR BEHAVIOR. THOUGHT CRIMES ARENT REAL BUT ACTIONS STILL MATTER. PEOPLE WITH OCD ARE CAPABLE OF THINKING CRITICALLY ABOUT OUR ACTIONS AND RESPONSES, EVEN WITH INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS AND RUMINATIONS. TREATING US AS IF WE CANNOT, ONLY TO FORCE US TO USE YOUR STRINGENT UNNUANCED DISCOURSE OPINIONS ABOUT "PURITY CULTURE" (TRIGGERING TO THOSE WITH OCD) AS THE ONLY REASONABLE GUIDE DOES MORE TO EXACERBATE OUR OBSESSIONS THAN HELP US. YOU ARE THE ISSUE AS WELL. YOU ARE ALSO THE TUMBLR DISCOURSER INSIDE OUR HEADS. DO NOT USE US FOR YOUR DISCOURSE. WE ARE PEOPLE, NOT HYPOTHETICALS TO USE TO EXPLAIN IF YOUR FROZEN INCEST FANFICTION IS OKAY OR NOT. TREATING US AS IF WE CANNOT AUTONOMOUSLY HAVE OUR OWN OPINIONS ON WHEN MEDIA IS TANGIBLY HARMFUL IS ABLEIST. FORCING US TO ABIDE BY YOUR IN-GROUP'S SET OF UNEQUIVOCAL MORALS IS ABLEIST. ACTING AS THOUGH THE ONLY SOLUTION FOR US IS MINDLESS MEDIA CONSUMPTION IN WHICH "EVERY DEPICTION OF XYZ, NO MATTER HOW POORLY DONE OR EXPLOITATIVE, IS ALWAYS OKAY AND IF YOU DISAGREE YOURE ACTUALLY AN EVIL 'ANTI'" IS ABLEIST. THOSE ARE THE SAME BLACK-AND-WHITE MORALS THAT SEND US INTO OBSESSIVE SPIKES, BUT FLIPPED. A SET OF MORALS IN WHICH QUESTIONING THE IMPACT OF A PIECE OF WORK MAKES YOU AN "EVIL CONSERVATIVE PURITAN "ANTI"" DOES NOT HELP MORAL OCD.

YOU ARE THE DAMN TUMBLR DISCOUERSERS MAKING THIS SHIT WORSE FOR US! YOURE THE EXACT SAME BUT WITH FLIPPED BUZZWORDS! YOU'RE MISSING THE WHOLE DAMN POINT!

#the fictional tumblr discourser inside your head is like the opposite of critical thinking its just extremes #blocking that helps you form better thoughts and come to a better understanding of why said content can be harmful in said depiction etc et #and to be clear shutting off all critical thoughts is not the solution either bc then you end up with.... Those People #the ones who jack off to lolicon on ao3 and think its the same artistically as lolita x_x #this post is not a vindication for that sort of thing. or say like actively supporting an openly bigoted series or author #those are different things because they are actual choices and actions. you chose to respond that way #thats what i mean when i say your actual response still matters. as in your actions surrounding it

[juney-blues]

god some people really think "transmisogyny" is the latest tumblr discourse buzzword of the day rather than a word for the intersection between transphobia and misogyny that transfems so often face.

No transmisogyny-afflicted/transmisogyny-exempt is not a new gender binary, it is not "gender essentialism with extra steps"

it literally just means that there are people who are targets of transmisogyny and people who are not

it's not another word for trans man and trans woman,

it's not inherently saying transmasc people are evil

it is not "separating people based on genitals" (did you forget bottom surgery was a thing)

it is not "separating by agab" (notably basically every cis person is exempt from transmisogyny)

it does not exclude nonbinary people (though if you're nonbinary and don't feel it's sufficient to describe your experiences, that's fine, it's probably not meant to, some things are just meant for other people and that's fine, i wouldn't expect misogynoir to describe my experiences as a white trans woman)

god just read whipping girl, go read whipping girl

and if you think trans women wanting to talk about the specific ways they're oppressed (especially by other members of the queer community) means they're taking up too much space? either consider why you feel that way or idk, step into this car i have covered with hammers.

#juney.txt #transmisogyny

[jew-flexive]

like i love y’all, i do, but good god, goyim need to stop calling any bad behavior fascism. someone using a slur does not automatically equal fascism. non-fascists use slurs. using a private jet does not automatically equal fascism. non-fascists fly in private jets. fascism is a specific political ideology and methodology. not every asshole is a fascist. not every capitalist is a fascist. assholes and capitalists suck and are detrimental to society, but they aren’t fucking fascists.

#yes this is about taylor swift. #is she a huge pollutant? sure. #is that awful? absolutely. #is she a literal fascist? no what the fuck #like white liberals will literally throw around the word fascist like it’s nothing #that isn’t helpful!! #this is also about anyone who gets cancelled on twitter #sometimes people are just fucking assholes #if you need to call them a fascist to disagree with what they’re saying/doing #maybe you’re not as educated/progressive/sensitive to minorities as you think you are #stop using buzzwords to describe bad behavior. be specific.

[tatoasting]

Wrote a big rant on how the lgbt community sucks and needs to stop sucking up to The Straights and then I hid it away hehe now you will never know how angry and disgusted I am at like, most young people.

#one day people will let me identify however the fuck I want #literally so close to just saying it and telling people to deal with it or move the fuck on #esp being how I am and having so many moving parts to my identity I feel like it should be so easy to allow myself to just. be how I am. #trying so hard to avoid buzzwords in the tags is. oh man. #idk though whatever am switchy. anger is leaving. but I am still right peoples views on this stuff are really fucked up

[bogleech]

Have to be honest though, if you argue that some people might just have to die if terrorists are "using them as shields," well I do in fact hope you drop dead and I fucking hate you, I wish I could guillotine you myself actually, yet if you were the victim in that "human shield" situation I'd actually still fucking demand your safe return because that shouldn't FUCKING be the reason anybody ever dies anywhere on Earth.

I don't care if Adolf himself crawls back out of hell and tries to hide from gunfire behind some random passing civilian. I don't care if that civilian turns out to be a murderous rapist we have to put on trial and execute anyway; if they can in any way be considered a bystander dragged into the line of fire against their will then I do not forgive the military pig who had no idea who they were shooting through to get to the "bad guy." And we aren't even talking about literal human shields. That's a deliberately misleading buzzword. That's propaganda. "Human shield" is being used in the current genocide to mean people anywhere within even miles of where they say a tErRoRiSt might be hiding. Fuck you if you've repeated that scum sucking bullshit. If a serial killer hides "somewhere" in your neighborhood you did not just become their "human shield" you maniac. I genuinely hope you fry in hell if you're making those arguments and yet I would still put my own life on the line to save you from another government's bombs if it came down to it. My opinion is that you would not deserve it but your life is automatically more precious than my opinion. That's how society is supposed to work you stupid piece of shit.

#rape mention #death #nazis #genocide

[pastadoughie]

i am literally begging people to stop putting sexism and transphobia on my dashboard please fucking think critically abt ur internal biases for 5 secconds and please accept even an ounce of critisism without assuming that someone is attacking you unfairly

alot of you have extremely sexist beliefs that you dont recognize because within social media as a whole these are incredibly normalized, covering blatent homophobia and misandry in tumblr buzzwords doesnt make you not sexist it just lets you be sexist and homophobic and transphobic in a way that is socially acceptable and incouraged within a queer centric space

i keep seeing posts talking abt how people actively like artwork (writing, photography, drawings) more when they find out its of a butch lesbian and not just a dude, and like, if your opinion on a peice of media can change solely based on the gender of the person being depicted by it, with zero change to the character, then that implies an inharent bias against men like, just because its men doesnt mean it isnt sexism

same thing where people think that media depicting gay men is better when it explicitly isnt written by a gay man, like that implies a fundimental disrespect of the work based on the sexuality and gender of the author. if you like an artwork but then you find out its written by a trans women, and all of a sudden you think its garbage, you are transphobic, but when people try to point this same bias out for the works of queer men this is largely written off.

i know ppl will argue abt punching up and whatnot, and while i do in some ways agree with that overall sentiment, i think that we should be striving to uh, not be sexist at all, rather then just being misandrists instead of mysogenists, like, if you only care about sexism when it hurts women/women ajacent people then you dont actually hate sexism you just want it to harm a different group of people, you dont hate the system you just want to be ontop of it and benifit from it

misandry and mysogeny present in different ways, they arent a directly comparable thing, different people have things worse in different ways so its rlly hard to take a group and say "this group has it worse", like yes generalizations like that can help in an extremely broad sense, but the world is not black and white and this kind of shit is mindnumbingly complex, trying to act like there is some kind of objective scoreing system for who is more oppressed then who is just unproductive and harmful

and moreover, someone having it worse then you doesnt make you less deserving of trying to make your situation better, i dont experience racism and in many many many ways i have it easier then poc people, that does not make me undeserving of support and that doesnt make me complaining or trying to better my situation unreasonable

we can care abt the lives and want to better the situation of different groups simoltaniously, we dont have to stop caring about racism because we want to better transphobia

i get that transwomen have it rlly bad and i do not experience the exact same struggles as them, and therefore cant comment on alot of them, but so often i see erasure of queer men in order to give more focus to transwomen, and just because trans girls go through alot of shit doesnt make that ok

one thing that people have to recognize about misandry and specifically transmisandry that you dont really have to see as much with its mysogeny counterparts is that they have far more attention and people care far more about activism for queer women/women in general, queer mens experience and specifically the transmasc experience is very very very often erased and written off even by supposedly trans friendly and queer sorces, people care more about butch lesbians then they do trans men dispite the insane ammount of overlap between the two groups, when researching about historical butch lesbians alot of them are just, trans guys that people are misgendering and mislabeling as butch lesbians because ooooo woemennnnn

being transmasc myself i can say that like, the erasure of trans men is an extremely large issue, for large swaths of history the experiences of trans people arent paid attention to at all, and even looking at media coverage today, if people are going to talk abt transgenderism they are talking about it specifically under the lens of trans women

this is largely because misandry (specifically, people thinking that having cock and ball makese u somehow predatory) makes trans women an easier punching bag, trans women get more attention because they are easier for radfems (misandrists) to be bigoted against in a more violent way, if you assume all men and amab people are violent and predatory by nature then this makes justifying violence against trans women easier

and yea being a punching bag for the media is fucking hard but it does mean that activism for that group is much much much louder, more people are complaining about trans women so more people know abt the specific issues they face

but dispite trans men yaknow, also existing and recieving a shit ton of transphobia and erasure over history they dont get talked about as much, people hate us and are violent twards us but we dont nessasarily get the same outrage for our treatment

trans men are just as often get the dismissal for being women, and the outrage for being men as trans women do we just dont get as much support and thats really difficult! often people seek to treat transmasculinism as some kind of new thing like, i get the comment often that "usually its boys that wanna be girls" and its like, no. its not. its simply that people care less about us

i think that its really easy to misenterpret me here so im gonna just get this out of the way, i dont think that women have it easier then men in a broad socital sense, but also, i dont nessasarily believe that means that my complaints are invalid, being a queer woman is not a walk in the park, and neither is being a queer man, and both groups experience homophobia transphobia and sexism in different ways, so acting as if saying one is objectively worse then the other is unfair and reductive

i think that if we want to get anywhere in regards to making it easier to be trans then we need to talk about all queer experiences, you cant just, only care about trans women you have to care about all trans people, and moreover queer people in general, this means you HAVE to be vigilant about people wrapping up sexism in a tumblr buzzword packadge, you need to consume things critically and you are not immune to pipelines, people dont just wake up and become radfems you get continually fed more and more extreme idologies, being fed things that you 90% agree with untill you eventually become completely removed from the groups you were supposed to stand with

you can care about the oppression of multiple groups at once, and if you think activism in any way involves the erasure of a certain group then you have fundimentally misunderstood what youre supposed to be doing, queer men exist and they deserve support and respect and you need to be able to support and respect them without being like "ohh she is soooooo trransfemme coded" like. men can be queer and still be men, they can be queer and still deserve your love and support, i am begging.

also yes i am aware that outside of my specific experience of tumblr people fuckin hate trans girls and women in general and they dont feel the need to do this shit. but that doesnt mean what im talking about is not an issue and is not something that people need to change and address. if you find urself doing this shit you have got to reflect on yourself, you arent immune to transphobia or homophobia or sexism ESPECIALLY if you think that you somehow are magically immune. nobody is. no identity is. everybody is suseptible to this shit and it takes active critical thinking in order to combat it

#the beast speaks #i keep seeing this shit on my dash crying screaming throwing up i am begging people to get even a single ounce of reading comprehension #i get this is the piss on the poor webbed site but i try to have hope in humanity and every day i am disapointed further #retchid opinions