#but way more healthy since

[jinxed-sinner]

the effort that Stolas, Ozzie, and Beelzebub go to in order to minimize any power dynamic between them and their romantic interests isn't discussed enough tbh. There's inherently a power dynamic between a Sin and an imp, or a Sin and a hellhound, or a Goetian prince and an imp, not just socially but also just in terms of inherent abilities. However:

Ozzie assures Fizz that he loves Fizz for Fizz, and it's made clear that he's protective over him because of what the Greed Ring is like, as well as the kinds of merchandise Mammon sells of Fizz. It's not that Ozzie doesn't want Fizz to be independent; in fact, he very much seems to want him to be independent. It's that there's an inherent concern for his safety because Fizz is a celebrity in the Greed Ring that has sex dolls sold of him.

Stolas is afraid of there being a potential power dynamic between him and Blitz beyond the one that comes from him being more powerful than Blitz, and actively seeks to mitigate it by going to Ozzie and asking for one of his crystals so there's no potential for Stolas to be taking advantage of Blitz.

When Bee transforms into her full demon form to get Loona to check on Blitz, when she changes back to her regular form the first thing she does is apologize to Tex, who doesn't even seem to mind, but because that is a show of the inherent power imbalance between Bee and Tex, she apologizes anyway ("Sorry. Sorry, I know, I got a little spicy there. I just hope everything works out."). She even looks apologetic towards Loona.

I love how Helluva Boss treats these power dynamics. There's inherently a power imbalance in these relationships which should make them unhealthy, but the party with more power in each relationship makes an active effort to minimize the power imbalance. It's one of the reasons Ozzie and Fizz's relationship can be as healthy as it is, and it's one of the reasons Tex is so relaxed even after Bee transforms into her full demon form. Stolas and Blitz's relationship is currently toxic because they're stubborn oblivious boneheads who refuse to acknowledge their own feelings or each other's feelings, not because of the power imbalance (at least not inherently, or entirely). I think we should talk about it more tbh.

#helluva boss #helluva boss beelzebub #helluva boss vortex #helluva boss stolas #helluva boss blitz #helluva boss asmodeus #helluva boss fizzarolli #stolitz #fizzmodeus #idk bee and tex's ship name #ALSO i feel like an argument could be made for a similar power imbalance with lilith and lucifer #since lilith was a human and lucifer was a seraph when they met #same with charlie and vaggie (although with charlie and vaggie its likely more of a social power imbalance than a physical power imbalance) #either way i love that these characters can have healthy functioning relationships despite an inherent power imbalance

[ladyofthenoodle]

watching illusion again, i’m struck by nino’s speech about parents, where he insists that all parents are quick to anger for no reason. this is pretty consistent with his characterization in the bubbler and attitude towards gabriel in general, but the fact that he considers all parents to be the same way… nino, bud, is everything okay at home?

#i like the headcanon of nino having a happy family that adrien can get adopted into #but i’m starting to think canon is pointing in the other direction #and nino’s parents are shitty in their own way #maybe not gabriel agreste level #since nino is pretty well adjusted #but maybe scream and yell more than is healthy #miraculous ladybug #illusion #noodling #nino lahiffe

[goldkirk]

I DON'T HAVE TO LIE ANYMORE!

#I DON'T HAVE TO LIE ANYMORE ABOUT ANYTHING #IT DOESN'T HAVE TO OVERRIDE ALL OTHER PROGRAMMING EVER AGAIN #HA #MY GOD THAT FEELS LIKE TWO DECADES OF RELIEF #and I found out yesterday. that this year. next winter. it IS two decades. exactly. this is the year. every day i am shown new reminders #that keep me going in my mission to relearn to fully and instinctually trust my self #ever since [redacted therapist] asked me point blank and my IMMEDIATE response was complete disbelief #a firm 'you think there's any universe where i'd feel like i could trust myself? after my nonstop history of failures and being horrible?' #tone “No!” of disbelief #and a horrible way-too-harsh laugh that bolted out before I could strangle it off and stop it. #that woman never coddled my feelings any time I spoke something alarming or bullshit and that was so helpful to me #and the tone she let exist in her voice when she responded to me with a very uncharacteristic “Oh Katie.” #was so. so much more agonizing for me. than her responding with an immediate logical slam-dunk of the truth about healthy behavior and stuf #anyway ramble over i'm so tired. i've done so much trauma work this week i am Drained emotionally #now i see what the past several months but especially especially #the baffling (to me) infuriating out-of-control-speedrun-somatic-processing + every-health-condition-flaring slog that December and January #were for me when I hadn't expected anything to be wrong #...and the extremely specific way this certain zone and particular incident kept coming up over and over and over and over and OVER was not #a bug. it was a feature. thank goodness i trust myself for little things now bc that's the only way i was able to get to this other side #and look back and suddenly realize that my subconscious and body knew what they needed and had a plan in progress the whole time. just like #i rationally say I trust them to have and do. #and that perhaps maybe. for real for real instead of just TELLING myself hard enough a lie that i trust my self and i trust my body and tha #they always know their own needs and timing if really slow down and listen to them f u l l y #anyway. yeah. bye haha i need to stop oversharing on the internet #trauma evolution #shh katie #personal #my god. i wished for this day more than i wished for anything else my whole life. all these many many many many years. what magic. #add to journal #abuse

[befuddled-calico-whump]

realizing I have a weakness for the "give Heavily Traumatized Guy a surrogate daughter/little sister and they each learn to grow and heal with the help of the other" trope

#which in itself is not always healthy and i don't want to lean into the whole 'child has to become a therapist for their parent' negativity #but if it's played with healthy boundaries im all over it 😭 #or at the very least healthy boundaries are developed along the way #we've got skye and evyr #both were alone and she both gives him conpany and a reason to live #while he teaches her survival tricks and helps protect her #sahota and noor would be a much needed found family for each other #nabi and mel are the sibling variant but she helps him with emotional recovery and stopping blaming himself #and he gives her more insight into the real world since jin tries to shelter her #meta #calico is befuddled #tropes #this originates from when i was a kid #i was the Oldest Child so my bedtime daydreams were becoming an adpotive little sister to obi wan kenobi and helping him on missions skfbjfk

[novalagomorphinterstellardust]

Unfortunately this will never be finished BC I suffer with project halting depressive episodes. But whatever, here is what I had so far and I had fun making it. That's what counts. Some art is LOL, some I love. I wanted it to feel like a musical number more or less for ched to try to actually admit his feelings but in a more of less ched man bro kinda way. I still do have lovely lil thoughts about these two ending up together, even if it's not canon lol. I just want lil cheddy boy to have his dreams come true haha. I am a sucker for giving my faves what they wanted and were denied I guess 🤣

I just gotta know? I have an insatiable lust for what ifs.

#i keep on forgetting about this lol #ched #zulius #a project ill never finish lol #centaurworld #sorry if some is hard to read i often dont worry since if i was to finish it the text would be changed anyway and made more finalized #the text there now is more to keep the idea so i can flow through the panels without the complication of 'is it ooc' #since its off the story already it would be a ooc anyway but i always fear about that way too much to be healthy

[jinxofthedesert]

I recently got out of a toxic and unhealthy friendship on here. I had to be the one to end it; hopefully the other party decides to leave it be and not smear my name due to realizing it wasn't healthy and that I had to end it because of it.

Basically, if someone makes you start feeling like shit, from your life, to your goals, passion, and everything else, then it's not a rewarding friendship. And it's hard to sometimes see it in the moment. Because you want to think the best of peeps, especially ones you care about.

But sometimes the healthiest thing for You is to know when to put your foot down and end it, even if it hurts you and them. At the end of the day, you matter and what you're doing matters and no one has the right to make you feel shit for who you are when you're just living your life. Life is hard enough without adding peeps who make you feel that way or question how you live when, prior to them showing up, you were happy with all of it.

To anyone in a relationship or friendship like that, I hope, like me, you are able to take a stand and realize you deserve better.

I knew I was being manipulated but not how much until I talked to others close to me. I pray you all never have to experience such a thing because damn, you know you did the right thing, but feel so fucking guilty at the same time.

But your happiness matters. You matter. Please remember that.

#personal #me #had to make a post. it's been eating at me since I ended it #you feel so fucking guilty but know it was the right decision. #i feel happier and lighter #its weird cause I've met my closet friends on here who are so incredible and supportive and respectful and I am in return #so to have one spiral into....that....was hard. and hard to realize despite my stomach aching day after day trying to tell me that #this was a shit situation and I deserved better #if someone makes you feel like shit and makes you believe you deserve to feel that way: leave #just leave #block them #life is to damn short to share it with people who will only make it worse and and make you feel bad as a person #i have more self respect than that #and sometimes it's hard to tell cause I want peeps to get along and have a good time when I care for them #i like making peeps happy. it brings me joy. and I tend to do it naturally without thinking. #so it's hard to sometimes see when it's not healthy #i pray for anyone in a relationship/friendship like this #know you are worth it and no one has the right to make you feel like that. #when someone doesn't respect that you have a life and can't be there 24/7 and take it Personally when you can't....like no #I've had so many friendships on here that respect your time and realize messaging comes second maybe even third or fourth #and it sucks when the opposite happens and it just gets worse and worse. #And them using 'i used to be a therapist so I know you better then yourself' should never be an excuse for them putting you down EVER.

[crossbackpoke-check]

Why I Am Not Coming In To Work Today [abridged], Jess Zimmerman

part one | part two

#toronto maple leafs #HELLO EVERYBODY THIS HAS BEEN MONTHS!!! MONTHS IN THE MAKING BECAUSE i AM UNHINGED AND NEEDED THE PRECISE PICTURES THAT I KNEW I WOULD GET #like. seventy five percent of this has been done since the first time i posted this and while it has gotten better with time because #my narratives simply got more complex and there's so much of this that is For Me but don't worry i will explain but aLSO goddamn mitch coul #you have gotten married any later in the year. also willy you truly disappointed me by not getting an absurd haircut this year (now that #i've said this he's going to debut it on instagram like. tomorrow. but anyway that meant y'all got to enjoy my neuroses of #Loving Tyler Bertuzzi who is a goddamn leaf. the joys of having to wait to post this (was not a leaf at the time i started it) and anyway i #have at length i think had the breakdown about tyler in pigtails girl dad & how i got a bob & then tyler copied me which was rude. that's m #gender. ANYWAY starting from the top we got sheldon keefe documentation which was really just the personal decision that i wanted all the #coaching staff to be the markers in the poem/the bold & also at the TIME keefe hadn't re-signed &we thought it might be everybody out w/kyl #anyway the title of the scrap of an old lover's flannel is literally 'u think this is about sheldon & kyle NO it's about timothy liljegren' #bc. liljegren was on the marlies winning cup team & has had a contentious relationship w/keefe ever since & was healthy scratched in playof #& the narrative is sooooo. also at one point for the ryan o'reilly i was going to edit the stlb out of his grandma's shirt or cover it w/th #childhood dreams line but THEN i found the gio snapped stick one which was too perfect for 'crumbling copy' the ryan o'reilly To Me is so. #ur insane in ways u did not think for that one. like. how soft her hands were. his grandma you guys. he grew up a leafs fan. if he ever get #to lift the cup with her again i will lose my shit. the cup run a movie i remember nothing--OKAY the spezz one i knew i needed him stresse #but also i believe in the spezz/kyle narrative so. it comes up later don't worry ALSO SPEZZ FOLLOWING HIM TO PITT CAME AFTER I MADE THIS bu #the muzz tea one makes me a little sensy bc muzz was out with an injury for most of this season & it was a really scary spinal one & so yea #& then the simmer one just straight up makes me cry bc i love him so much & the work that he does for anti-racism in hockey means so much & #if you have that video open & watch it i promise you will cry i do every time it's so beautiful he had to be on comforted by beauty & sammy #boy is on the a man who doesn't know me because EYE remember the caps goalie tandems. baby lilya. the mo one is a little funny bc it is #solely due to wade's thread about mo rielly the coal miner homestead husband. that's why he moves to omaha also i think it suits him (quiet #OK NOW OLD MEN IN LOVE NARRATIVE this one's in contention for my fave bc it's spezz coping w/retirement fundamental meaningless of existenc #u heard abt tyler already that's for me the minchy picture was just too good i had found it earlier & i spent SO LONG looking for an empty #leafs rink picture for bathtub i have some cool construction photos but i wanted the melting ice ones (thought about tahoe lol) & the sprin #one i manip'd a lot bc i needed a spring picture bc playoffs clinch in spring & that one fit so coincidentally perfect bc it's 7 straight #seasons 7 guys so. :) & i KNEW i swore to god they did more milk advertising i knew i was gonna do this one from the minute i saw the poem #the milk patch & it took a hot minute BUT I FOUND THIS ONE this one's for funsies. AND THE PIC I WAITED SO FUCKING LONG FOR this is actuall #from kerf's wedding but i was like i know on god mitch is getting married this summer & that's about to be the drunkest shenanigans wedding #i'm waiting for the pics. & then i was BLESSED with this one which is beautiful & perfect & LOOK AT THEM. anyway the last one is bc

[symbioticsimplicity]

Y’all what if Lilith didn't choose to take a vaycay in Heaven? What if she got redeemed?

#if she got redeemed and it got hidden by Adam and Lute #then having Sir Pentious pop up in front of Sera and Emily would have been also to keep that possibility from being hidden again #not sure what deal she would have made with Adam in that case #other than maybe to keep the exterminators from cleaning house altogether once they learned it was possible?? #maybe give a double meaning to Adam's line about no one learning the truth??? #and it would make sense Lilith seemed by all accounts a good wife and mother as well as a good queen who wanted the best for her people #so it stands to reason she could have been redeemed especially considering her sin wasn't like...huge #maybe she got taken out during an exorcism since she wasn't technically hellborn she would have been fair game #and it would make sense that she'd want to spare Lucifer the pain of finding her dead so she slunk off somewhere??? #only to then find herself alive in heaven with no means of telling her family #it would also explain why she's just sitting alone on a beach instead of interacting with people when she's clearly a people person #she doesn't wanna be there so she'd rather be left alone #and if her deal was to help spare the rest of hell it would make sense as a perspective for having her go talk to Charlie #plus it gives a chance for her to be a rebellious little shit and tell Charlie her idea works and not to abandon it #if viv wants her and Luci to still be a thing and a healthy thing this would be a hell of an angle to hit it at #as well as giving Lucifer more motivation to take an active role in things #and maybe earn redemption for himself too?? #idk but i think that would be really interesting especially with the fans expectations leaning so far the other way rn #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel theory #hazbin hotel lilith

[messenger-of-stupidity]

They watered the plants that sat in the bay window, soaking up the sun that peeked through the clouds - as if playing peekaboo with the world below.

"Grow little ones. I want Anton to be able to come home to a place that is lively." They whispered gently, a finger stroking the verdant sprouts in one of their more fresh plants they had purchased from the nursery.

Anton would probably need the life around him if he came home.

No. When. They needed to stay hopeful. They would see their lover soon. They could be patient. They blew a kiss to the plants before moving to the other window where more plants waited to be watered. They didn't see the the dying fronds of the love fern as they went.

#you cant tell me that anton and his listener dont have a love fern #for those who dont know what a love fern is: #its a fern you get when you start a serious relationship #its considered bad luck for the relationship if the plant dies #since plants need an emotionally healthy environment when domesticated #hehe domesticated plants #messy rambles #redacted asmr #redactedverse #redacted audio #redacted anton listener #redacted anton #i fucking hate typing on my phone #i always make way more typos

[found-wings]

if phil ever makes chirps of content durring their hugs, ik damn well that etoiles lights up like a christmas tree because (either out loud or in his head) he's like "oh i know what that means !!! :D" from picking up avian tendencies with baghera - 💿

THIS, THISSS!!!!

Phil making lil happy chirping and cooing noises when he hugs people he trusts a lot, enjoys being around, etc. >>>>>>

Etoiles just getting so excited but trying to contain said excitement so he doesn‘t disturb the hug, but it‘s so obvious by the way his tail is aggressively wagging behind him.

Pls I need Etoiles to witness Phil in his birb arc

#birb arc being #Phil going entire bird brain and indulging much more in his instincts #but it‘s in a more healthy way since this is more natural - unlike being forced to a feral state like a certain au #code philza <3 #and Phil only speaking in lil birb noises & acting much more avian like #clinging to flock real #💿 anon #winged.rambles

[switchytransboy]

december sucks for me this year yo

i couldn’t make it down south with my parents to be there to meet my new niece and nephew after being born, but it’s for the best anyway bc i tested positive for covid due to a coworker not giving a fuck about others catching it, and i’d feel WORSE if i was with the newborn twins while i had covid

so bc i couldn’t travel down there, im alone in my house for like 2 weeks, then the day my parents come home is the same day i leave my house to go be alone at another house to dogsit

halo is busy with family things the majority of this month so can’t hang as much, and now me having covid soiled plans of spending this weekend together 🙃

so i’m just.. alone. for weeks. away from my family where i’m constantly wishing i could be bc i feel so left out and sad, alone for most of hanukkah, alone for xmas, alone for it all.

just sucks

#vent #covid probably making me feel worse emotionally too since i’m so sluggish mentally it’s weird #like i never felt this kinda weird foggy sluggish way it’s different #i barely feel sick tbh #i just feel enough physical symptoms for it to still suck #and the rest is just such a lack of energy and spoons #like way more so than usual #covid is weird yo #and december this year sucks #least i have therapy next week #the only positive rn is the twins being born and everyone healthy and i’m so happy for that #but so sad about the rest of the month tbh

[disniq]

Yknow if the speculation actually turns out to be true, I think Vigil is a pretty fitting codename for Jason

because what is this man if not the personification of mourning, a walking reminder that terrible things happen, the embodiment of "Look At Me And Remember"

#jason todd #I'm not gonna speculate because it's DC and we all know they rarely make logical choices #BUT #like i said in my tags on another post #Jason took the Red Hood persona as a weapon #it was a lure for both Bruce and Joker to get them where he wanted them in utrh #and editorial didn't think about after that because they weren't planning on him surviving beyond it #so he's just kinda been stuck with it since #and i don't mean that in a 'he should move on it's not healthy' way because ~comics~ #but more in that Jason is a character that places a lot of importance in symbolism #(see the whole of utrh; changing his mask to a muzzle after Bruce smashed his helmet; using the crowbars etc) #but the Red Hood was the crux of a plan that ultimately *failed* #his options were 1) get Bruce to kill joker 2) make Bruce watch *me* kill the joker or 3) force Bruce to kill me himself #and 4) *failsafe* BLOW US ALL UP #and he was 0 for 4 #i said i wasn't gonna speculate and here i am writing tag essays lmao #point is #the Red Hood name makes everything Jason does relate back to what the joker did to him #but a Vigil is about remembering the victims

[philsmeatylegss]

Today is like the last hot-ish day (not hot is wearing leggings without sweating) and good timing because girlie is having body issues more than normal

#I say more than normal because there has not been a moment that has passed since age 13 that I have not had body issues #it’s okay you can laugh it isn’t tragic when you think about it for too long because of the fact I was a child and so fucked up I was #was starving myself lololol #don’t even get me started on how I wanted to kms and was sh constantly when I was 14 and that truly just is devasting purely just tragic and #a waste of life lolololol #and it doesn’t matter how healthy I am now or how healthy I will get #I will never be normal #childhood trauma fucking rewired your brain in a way I cannot change ever lololol #no matter what restrictive ED’s don’t fully go away lololol #I want to have a healthy relationship and learn what love looks like and what healthy fights and proper communication looks like #but all I bring to the table is a shattered glass that I taped back together so like I can still hold water and I’m a whole glass but I will #always need this tape to keep me from breaking and I will always have cracks no matter what #wow this was a random rant😭😭 #rae’s rambles #delete later

[darkwood-sleddog]

Your personal discomfort does not = something is inherently bad or unneeded. Something being necessary and needed does not invalidate your personal discomfort.

That’s it. That’s the post

#dogblr #me sincerely @ everybody uncomfortable at dog sports #especially those that deal with other animals #I am pro hunting and pro culling invasive species here #and does that sometimes put me in situations that aren’t my comfort zone sure #doesn’t mean it is bad or unnecessary bc I ~feel~ a way #also since pride month in vermont is in September: kink and sex during pride. necessary. #thank u for coming to my Ted talk #people online really got to learn to deal with personal discomfort in a more healthy way #the world will not change to suit your comfort zones #and your discomfort does not necessarily mean things need to change #but said discomfort is valid to your personal experience in life in general #how is this a hard concept