#come help us do it ourselves!

[anendoandfriendo]

"Fuck your online discourse" actually, no, we do think the halloween DID flag shouldn't be used but it's not because of some bullshit like "waah it's just a recolor" it's because the system that created that flag is a huge fucking racist and ableist last we checked, and we never saw ant kind of apology for being racist and ableist to endogenic systems. We never saw them stop being anti-endogenic or anti-Black (because let's be honest, Black endogenic systems specifically would be the ones most affected and hurt by this).

Like, we know people have forgotten by now, but we were THERE just before TPA became a thing, when systems like The Entropy System were fully mask-off in their bigotry (we call anti-endogenics facsists because of the personal experience of having the not-pleasure of seeing shit like the above link lmao), and such other things. We used to be very visible on Twitter as an endogenic system who's seen this shit but it was kind of taking over 99% of our focus when we were working retail instead of working at home, so we ended up tapering it away.

#to be clear. this IS an actual opinion of ours. #it is also a vent & we are fully aware we will never be able to get people to stop using it entirely. #like that would be rude/mean at best we guess. #but we're kind of in that liminal time/space where we came out as an endogenic system pre-TPA but just barely. #researching niche bullshit was a REQUIREMENt for us...until it wasn't #which we thought was supposed to happen in your 50's -- not like...somewhere in the 20's to 30's range yall #we remember niche bullshit in the plural communities that you woluldnt even DREAM of if someone gives us the correct recall trigger if your #newer than like 2 years to plurality #“the plural pride world conference did not even exist yet and then existed within like two years of us coming out” levels of transition #we're so glad the kids will be okay but we're a kid ourselves if were using that metaphor. the older teen-quasi-parent specifically. :') #if were going with that metaphor/those vibes that is #we wont always understand but we do try to at least be kind #does anyone else remember that guide to “so youve slipped into another world” or smth like that??? #you had to dig for hours and hours if not DAYS/WEEKS and you could still be fucked #if your system friend did not also have it to share with you all #yeah that system popped in and said “hI” to us on our twitter when we talked about that there too and is glad people have been helped by it #iwrc that is

[lilacthebooklover]

if i die, i just want you all to know that being on here has been brilliant thus far. the communities here are so welcoming & the people are so friendly; i've made so many wonderful friends on here, and wouldn't have it any other way. this site & fandom culture have given me something to do in my free time & to be passionate about. it's let me meet amazing people from all over the world and feel liked. i hope this will be able to continue on for many many years, but if it can't, thank you for giving me all of the lovely moments & memories we've shared up until now :)

#thinking about death again #as one does #it's inevitable and unpredictable #and comes for us all #but while we continue to ask ourselves what the point of life is #the same applies to literally anything else #and why does there have to be a reason behind it? #your life exists. it's here. it's yours #you might as well spend it doing what you enjoy #and being with people you want to be around #because who knows if we'll get another? #i just #sometimes i wonder what my life will look like #so much atm weighs on my exam results #i'm 15 and stressed and the expectations are through the roof #but even if i fail everyone else #i know that i've at least been able to help some people on here #i matter to my family #i matter to my mutuals #and if i can keep helping people #then that's enough of a reason for me

[licorishh]

Hey as a super introverted but not shy person I'd just like to say the jokes about extroverts "adopting" introverts to "get them out of their shell" are actually completely unfunny and it just goes to show how little respect a lot of y'all have for the fact that we genuinely don't want excessive social interaction and that y'all are forcing us to do something that brings us extreme physical and mental discomfort because you perceive our introversion as a failing rather than as purely a difference in personality.

We don't need your "help" to socialize. We're not children. We're simply not interested in spending every waking second of our lives talking to people and being talked at in return.

#again i scream from the rooftops that there is a monumental chasm between being shy and actually being an introvert #a shy person is someone who's afraid of social interaction. an extrovert can be naturally shy. #a shy person can WANT lots of social interaction but simply have not learned to feel comfortable in social situations. #people who are just very introverted simply have little desire or capacity for excessive human interaction. #we're not “afraid” of it. we just don't enjoy it and it wears us out. #you don't need to swoop in and save us because we can't handle ourselves. we're perfectly fine thank you #extroverts are constantly demanding that we get out of our comfort zones but few of you are willing to make the alternative more comfortabl #if you're a very extroverted person please do not take it upon yourself to jokingly “adopt” introverts you meet. #it's not funny and it's not helpful. it's irritating that you perceive our quietness and low social battery as something that needs “fixing #we won't miraculously learn to love and be comfortable with excessive human interaction. that's not how we're wired and that's OKAY #i'm honestly getting so sick of the “the lonely introvert and the extrovert who adopted them” memes #i can guarantee you that if you are an extrovert who operates this way then your introvert “friend” is actually probably very uncomfortable #and just don't want to say anything because they think it would be rude to bring up the fact that they don't want what you want from them #this does NOT mean extroverts and introverts cannot be friends nor am i saying all extroverts are annoying or that they all do this #i'm simply saying that if you are very extroverted and you have a friend who's very introverted #then it's on you to be aware of your introvert friend's limited social battery and STOP pressuring them to just “put up with it” #don't spend every second with them constantly talking. be willing to spend some time just in the quiet. #be willing to let them bow out of something if they're exhausted and are low on social energy. #don't expect them to want to come to every meeting or party or get-together because it WILL drain them completely. #be willing to let them spend time alone when they need to to recharge. #letting an introvert cool off and recharge when they need to is ALWAYS going to make social situations less stressful for them. #PLEAAAAASE take their feelings into account and understand that they do NOT perceive social interactions the way you do. #most very introverted people do not find socialization relaxing or invigorating. they don't do it to unwind #they have to unwind AFTER lots of social interaction #that's about it. thank you and good night

[palms-upturned]

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#meg talks #suicide tw #nearly everyone i care abt rn is like so very suicidal rn and it’s making me. ghghfh #(IMPORTANT NOTE this is not me saying ‘’don’t talk to me abt suicide rn’’ i do not ever mind talking abt it ever ever #i am not ranting rn about not being able to handle the subject or complaining abt ppl talking to me abt it that’s not what this is i prommy) #im just. the realization that there are ppl who go their whole lives without ever thinking that much abt suicide #and then there’s those of who are disabled and/or queer and for us it’s just. a constant #for ourselves for our loved ones for ppl on the periphery of our circles like everyone we brush shoulders with #the amount of time we have to spend talking ourselves and others into just staying a while longer #bc it’s so fucking hard to conceptualize a future for ourselves for so many reasons #and even harder to make that future viable bc it depends on other people helping us #it just makes me want to fucking. idk! break something! #like how do you make people understand this if they’ve never been through it #and how do you convince them that it’s worth it to try and understand where we’re coming from #when their default way of thinking abt it is that you only get to this point if u do smth wrong or just don’t try hard enough #or are some kind of moocher trying to exploit ppl who ‘’work harder’’ #i fucking hate this so much #i just keep thinking about engels’ explanation of social murder #and getting so angry i feel fucking ill #people are fucking killing my friends and it’s like all i can do is like… #try my best to plug whatever wounds i can manage meanwhile the killer is still fucking stabbing them over and over #anyway. god. again none of this is to say i don’t wanna hear abt suicide or anything #i like to know and be able to talk abt it frankly #especially if there’s even the smallest thing i can do to help #im just like. suddenly hit w the disbelief of how many ppl go their whole lives without having these conversations #while me and my friends are having them multiple times a day bc it’s so fucking bad out here #insert disco elysium quote about the mask of humanity falling from capital as it kills your sweet courageous friends here i guess. #i just. wish things were better. how can people not wish that

[anarchonist]

I think a big problem in our culture is equating intent and effect, and this works both when predicting the effect and when determining the cause. It is important to remember that just as having good intentions does not excuse the harm one causes, so does someone having caused harm not always mean they intended to cause harm all along.

We are able to know our own thoughts, so when we cause harm we may easily downplay it because "that's not what I intended", as if that would make the harm go away. And when we judge others who cause harm, we similarly try to work backwards from the assumption that harm requires intent - and since we see the harm but not the intent, we assign intent somewhere where it may not even exist.

None of this is to excuse people who cause harm, but maybe to clarify that what we call evil is not some nefarious satanic mindset of ill intent, but rather a stubborn unwillingness to critically examine whether you might be causing harm even if you don't actively intend to, and even whether or not you truly care.

And the more power you have, the easier it is to distance yourself from the harm you cause and keep causing it.

#philosophy #evil #intent is not magic #on an unrelated note i do think this also stems from some form of christian tradition #as 'god created the heaven and the earth' forms this assumption that nothing would exist without an active will to make it exist #the anthropomorphic god who created humans in their own image is in a way linked this erroneous thought pattern #that reality is caused by intent #which is why the problem of evil exists #since the idea is that if god willed the world into existence and there is evil in the world surely god intended to put it there #but like #not to get all atheist in a post about philosophy but wouldn't it help us all to rid ourselves of these kind of mind traps #and yeah yeah my background is christianity and christianity is a major religion affecting western culture so #if you want to challenge me based on 'not all religions are like that' or whatever i don't care that's not the point #the point is the post itself the tags are for weird off-tangent speculations about where this mindset may come from #the actual point is about trying to disconnect intent from harm since those are not the same as cause and effect #intent doesn't prevent harm and harm doesn't require intent #anyway that was my random philosophical thought of the day #thanks for reading

[eldritch-araneae]

Fuck, ppl really must realise that not everyone around them is toxic and manipulative! No, the person not speaking to you after you set a boundary isnt toxic or manipulative, they just feel horrible about themself bc they overstepped, and they don't want to hurt you, and spiraling deep into their self-loathing. Stop assuming the worst and fucking communicate, instead calling them names they are not and remind them they're all alone and no one will help or support them.

Yep, saw a post where ppl dogpile a person with rsd, this shit is triggering as hell so I'm livid. That's just cruel!

#ara talks #vent #i feel so bad ffor the person bc i know how it feels and what will happened to them after hundreds of ppl called them toxic and manipulativ #and being told they must fix themself but it fucking impossible to do alone #yes you cannot help yourself without meds and professional help and ppl reassuring and encorading you #you cannot heal on your own you absolutely can't #so stop telling us how we must hole ourselves into corner dont come out until we fix ourselves and become perfect #you dont deserve me at my best if you cant handle me at my worst #rants over

[transgaysex]

sewing hard

#wind howls #i need to finish my wizard robe for tuesday bc it will be a costume prop for my film production class final #'ez arent you on week 7 out of 15. how come youre starting your final now' the teacher wants us to kill ourselves. hope this helps ! #i shouldve finished it way earlier anyway. i started this a bit before halloween. and couldnt finish it then bc i got covid. devastating. #but i just had to go run my mouth and tell my team that i have a robe cape of sorts that could serve as a shady witch's robe. aurgh !!! #what ever. i have a bunch of trims to do (one of the front trims is done but the other isnt. and then the sleeves. and then the bottom) #and the final line connecting the sleeves and whatnot and then its dobe #done* #i can likely finish it tonight. and really i should. because i have to dedicate my weekend to my accessory modelization assignment #worst comes to worst and i dont finish the robe tonight i can speedrun it on monday night but i would rather die than do that #so. wish me strength and luck. sewing is a lonely art

[ladynicte]

Adding Ashely into my pile of ASPD girlies together with Makima

I really think ASPD fits her so well though, like that inability to really connect with others, that inability to stop herself and do things accordingly.

That feeling of never fitting in even though she did have friends, of never being able to be fully liked by anybody else.

The lack of empathy of natural understanding for the direct suffering of others.

ASPD people like Ashley who never manage to become accepted into any group from early age who are too different for anybody else to really like and accept so they have to force their own group into existence or else they won't be able to survive on their own.

So Ashley sees herself forced to keep Andy with herself by all means possible, feels good when they are locked up together and he can't escape her, feels threatened by any other girl who could come into his life and astray him away from her, feels that if she doesn't personally isolate him he will end up running away from her.

Knows that she has to get her brother stuck with her because he's her only social circle and without him she won't make it.

#a very important bit of the ASPD experience is the fact that we are unable to mold ourselves into the normal human experience so we dont #enter into the group and as social animals thats very dangerous therefore ASPD people have got to create and control their own group #that wont abandon them and leave us to our own luck surviving and that's exactly where Ashley's codependency to her brother comes from #she depends on andy to be the only person not to abandon her be in her group and help her survive without him shes doomed #therefore she has got to do anything and everything in her power to make sure he can never get away from her #oh i love this two messed up codependent emotionally incestous siblings so much #the coffin of andy and leyley #Ashley #Andrew #Luna's meta #and #luna's headcanons #as well because Ashley being aspd is a headcanon but her codependency is just canon

[capyclub]

🙃🔫.

#this place is very much not clean at all #it’s not like actively unhygienic but still way more cleaning than you’d expect to do when moving in somewhere #also the reason for this delayed move is bc our landlord was remodeling the kitchen #…it looks the exact fucking same?!!!!! #all thats different is the floor which is whatever. I thought he’d at least change the cabinets but they’re still the same old and gross one #ones as before!!!! fuck my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #he said he could hire professional cleaners for us but he’s still not even done with the kitchen and it’ll be another 2 weeks before he’s #done so we can’t get the cleaners until after that so either we just live like this for half a month or we just suck it up and try to deep c #clean ourselves. but no matter how many times I go over the drawers and countertops the wipes still come up beige #i hate everything #ramblings #to be fair i hated my last place and I eventually came to appreciate it #hopefully it’ll be the same here. but just that transition period is so rough. at least that last place was actually clean!!!!! plus i had m #my parents to help me then 😭 #i want to go home

[mushtoons]

Do you have a Venmo or PayPal perhaps?

we do not sadly

#but its okay #no use in crying over the inevitable #might as well make the most of ehat we do have while we got it #push come shove we'll probably move back in with our parents which is....not ideal #but we spent 18 years in hell and survived we can spend a few months and crawl our way back outta there again >:) 💪 #the world cant keep us down #the horrors remain but damnit it to hell we're gonna stay silly!! 😤✨ #thank u sm tho #in what we only assume was a question to help #if not then ah we embarrassed ourselves but oh well!

[vamptastic]

every yom kippur i have a new, profound revelation about the meaning of the holiday and every yom kippur the following year i have a new, wildly different one.

#didn't go last year had a midterm 🙄 #year before i was like avinu malkeinu is a stern demand to god that in exchange for our worship suffering must end #and actually god isn't a man in the sky we all must respect but more of an alien being who also doesn't know what he's doing #and we as mortal beings must tell him whilst also respecting that he is something very different and in many ways greater than ourselves #and in relation to yom kippur that we must form a good example of how humans can be good and help each other #thus acts of great misery and destruction alà noahs flood are not necessary nor are tests of faith #but it is up to us to prove that #not just us but the world at large i suppose #this year... very different #this year i think god is the judge and we are placing our wrongdoings before him #sins for lack of a better word. although there is no punishment for commiting them #the crux being that. well it's right after rosh hashanah isn't it? #we are recognizing all that can go wrong in the coming year and evaluating what went wrong in the last one #so we are promising to do better while also informing god of such #it's more about how WE can prevent horrible things from happening than god #but god serves as the judge- the metric we use to determine if we have been doing right by others #thus the commandments the torah the judgements he's passed before #but also god is just the will of the universe so throw that in #it's. yeah. i don't know.

[davidtennantpussytulpa]

somehow i have reached enlightenment where i am free of anger. all it took is for my mom to be so so mad at my dad and everyone and everything else in the world all the time to do it

#like. my moms making a HUGE cake and a bunch of cupcakes for her coworkers husbands birthday or whatever #and i usually help her with baking bc we both really enjoy it #so yesterday we made all the frosting and i made soft pretzels bc we thought it would be fun to use to make the handle on the beer mug cake #instead of using gum paste so i made like 10 or so normal pretzels and two that we could try and use for that #so we all didnt want to cook dinner and left to pick something up. and when we come back i saw my dad had eaten one of the fucking #specifially shaped ones. i was like im not even dealing with this now im fucking hungry and ate #then after we were all done my mom finally saw and was like did you fucking eat the differently shaped one #and my dad was like lol yeah 🤪 and she was like we were fucking using that for the cake #and my dad isnt even like oh im so sorry or anything he literally just. oh lol if it makes you feel better i gave half to the dog 🤪🤪😋!!! #usually i would be so fucking angry bc /I/ was the one who made all the pretzels in the first place but my body was like no girl we have to #shield ourselves from how upset your moms about to be #anyways. my dad just came in to my room be like ughhhh should i make another batch. and i was like well you dont have to bc i made two #so i guess we can go with that and hes like ughhhhh no i guess i will so your mom wont be mad at me 🙄 #im just. im just so fucking tired of my dad doing all this shit to either intentionally or unintentionally irritate me and my mom and then #acting like hes being fucking crucified bc EVERYONE IS AGAINST HIM!!!! when he refuses to apologize or even acknowledge that hes done #anything wrong. like i get nobody in this fucking family is good at talking abt anything but he just is so avoidant things have been piling #up for YEARS. #ugh. okay. done i guess i dont know im just so tired. i feel like i have to play fucking marriage therapist to these two bc he refuses to do #anything to try and make their lives not miserable

[postalplants]

I dunno... I wish I could explain to people how I see the world and how some things about my world view could help them through what they're going through...

Don't get me wrong. I'm not a paragon of mental health or balanced thinking. I'm not. There are just some things and ways that I think that are healthy and useful skills.

#i dont know who i am right now. i feel more like veronica than kk... #anyways. as a system. there are ways that we look at the world. #like taking responsibility for our own actions and holding ourselves accountable for them. sure thats partly trauma but its partly healing #its so hard sometimes for us to not point out how helpful it would be for someone to stop & look at what theyve contributed to a #negative situation. because life is complicated and people are complicated. #and sometimes admitting that i did a shitty thing that hurt someone to that person AND to MYSELF is what it takes to repair things. #sometimes it hurts to admit to myself that i did something awful or even just kind of dickish. but i do. #and i dont know. i think its partly a self-humbling that comes with vulnerability but its also this... #honesty exercise. like. if you cant be honest with yourself then you cant grow as a person. #and i can be so angry at and hurt by someone and STILL say Yes I Did Something Wrong too. #and nobody read this and think im talking about abusers because im not. #if its an abuser situation then dont try to fix anything just try to survive and escape. #but on that note! lol. this has also helped me not feel guilty for being abused. #taking responsibility for MY actions and holding myself accountable for MY actions has made it easier for me to let go of responsibility #for things that other people say and do including when its shit that hurts me. #i dont feel guilty for things my abusers did even if i did something that triggered it or led to it bc they CHOSE to abuse me. #they didnt have to. but what they did isnt my responsibility. disobedience doesnt require abuse. my responsibility is what came after. #do you see what i mean? how that frees me? #and in doing this and getting better at it its almost like im getting better at seeing whats actually my fault and responsibility #and its making it easier to set boundaries because i see my responsibilities and needs vs how others actions affect me #you see? #yeah...

[staff]

A message from a few of the trans staff at Tumblr & Automattic:

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A few days ago, Matt Mullenweg (the CEO of Automattic, Tumblr’s parent company) responded to a user’s ask about an account suspension in a way that negatively affected Tumblr’s LGBTQ+ community. We believe that Matt's response to this ask and his continued commentary has been unwarranted and harmful. Tumblr staff do not comment on moderation decisions as a matter of policy for a variety of reasons—including the privacy of those involved, and the practicalities of moderating thousands of reports a day. The downside of this policy is that it is very easy for rumors and incorrect information about actions taken by our Trust & Safety team to spread unchecked. Given this, we want to clarify a few different pieces of this situation:

The reality of predstrogen's suspension was not accurately conveyed, and made it seem like we were reaching for opportunities to ban trans feminine people on the platform. This is not the case. The example comment shared in the post linked above does not meet our definition of a realistic threat of violence, and was not the deciding factor in the account suspension.

Matt thereafter failed to recognize the harm to the community as a result of this suspension. Matt does not speak on behalf of the LGBTQ+ people who help run Tumblr or Automattic, and we were not consulted in the construction of a response to these events.

Last year, the "mature" and "sexual themes" community labels were erroneously applied to some users' posts. An outside team of contractors tasked with applying community labels to posts were responsible for this larger trend of mislabeling trans-related content. When our Trust & Safety team discovered this issue (thanks largely to reports from the community), we removed the contracted team’s ability to apply community labels and added more oversight to ensure it does not happen again. In the Staff post about this, LGBTQ+ staff pushed to be more transparent but were overruled by leadership. The termination of a contractor mentioned in the original ask response was for an unrelated incident which was incorrectly attributed to this case. We regret that the mislabeling ever happened, and the negative impact it has had on the trans community on Tumblr. 

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Going forward, Tumblr is taking the following actions:

Prioritizing anti-harassment features that will empower users to more effectively protect themselves from harassment.

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We appreciate the space we have been given to express our concerns and dissent, and we are thankful that Matt’s (and Automattic’s) strong commitment to freedom of expression has facilitated it.

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#announcements #transgender #trans rights #trans

[areacode516]

thinking about deh again… like i think one of the things that makes deh age weirdly is that the latter portion of it is incredibly uncomfortable to sit through. and it doesn’t quite give you the full catharsis you expect (i.e full closure with all characters). so it gives you an exceptionally like. emotionally tense feeling. it’s so heavy. when i finished watching it the first time it took me like all night to process it and finally relax and sleep. i liked the discomfort a lot though, it’s rare that a story makes you sit through it and sit with it and doesn’t feed you the perfect happy ending.

the entire Moment of evan revealing everything to the murphys is like. not quite second hand embarrassment, it’s like. second hand “totally fucked” (spring awakening style) and second hand “i want to kms” (how can you not empathize with/have compassion for evan during words fail) and second hand pure desperation of wanting to be anyone else but yourself but also wishing you could want to be yourself.

but in the end the murphys DON’T totally fuck evan à la melchior gabor…like….because they got attached to him and still feel that attachment, because he helped them get closure, because they realize he was very troubled and the truth coming out could make him go out the same way as connor and they wouldn’t be able to stand the guilt and knowing they could have prevented it…again…that is SO compelling. it’s not even about redemption or forgiveness. his lies helped them, and if you’re really extraordinarily cynical, the lie (platitude) that you will be found (the original lie that evan was found by connor), that there’s always going to be someone who’ll come running also helps people…and it’s not really a lie if the musical itself found people, right….the layers of #ywbf in universe and out of it are insane and I honestly think a lot of them are unintentional considering. but i would argue those layers were originally intentional (since the original idea pasek/paul/levenson came up with was a cynical satire on parasocial grief) but layers later pushed away in favor of fully celebrating joyfully and optimistically their song and story and theme and audience at the time, removing the nuance, leading to the direction of the movie.

could deh the musical have said what it wanted to say with more sensitivity and grace? sure. but what it *does* say is worth accepting its messy conclusions for, because expecting things to be neat and tidy and perfectly moral is just another lie we force ourselves to present to the world that prevents us from ever finding each other.

#dear evan hansen #dear evan hansen analysis #dear evan hansen meta #evan hansen #i find it admirable that while making deh they originally wanted to make fun of these characters but the more they got to know them #the more compassion and empathy they felt for them. #every single character in the story deserves compassion. bc if they do not...there is no hope for the rest of us #i also think that the protrayal of mental illness as something complicated that does hurt people is actually valuable #its more damaging to pretend that the only people who deserve help are the ones who have never been mentally ill in the wrong way #the more walls we put up projecting false selves; the more it becomes impossible to tear them down and feel safe being *flawed* #if i had found deh earlier as a teenager at my most su/c/dal ywbf would have pissed me OFF lmaoo i would have gone #'ITS NOT THAT EASY!' but that undercurrent is there within the text when you *know* for evan its all a lie. #he wants to pretend what really happened didnt and move on with the rewrite like that but its not. that. easy. and he finds out the hard wa #the anguish will never end until we let ourselves be seen in all our monstrous glory and come out the other side caked in gore but Alive #i should make it its own post but like. every single chara in deh projects a false version of themselves to the world because they think #they have to. because they think theyre not allowed to show people their flaws and anguish and mistakes #'the scary truth is i'm flying blind' - heidi thought she couldnt let evan know this. #the truth is scary and uncomfortable #she tried to pretend she wasnt coming up short all the time - until she admits it in sb/ss - #and once heidi has allowed evan to acknowledge her flaws evan can finally believe she loves him #that he is loved despite everything he thinks is wrong with him. that she wont hate him for what he did. that the pain will pass #thats just an example #theres also more heidi analysis you can do in this vein with regards to her interaction with the murphys but ive already talked too much #meta #my.post #it takes vulnerability to begin to accept ourselves and others #i want like. to talk about the themes of the story with people #maybe thats too much to ask for in 2024 #if theres anything you disagree with here or would like clarification on please feel free to interact!!!!

[alagaisia]

Stumbled on a weird website for a work thing. With no other context, what is your response when you hear this phrase:

Context: this is a phrase used by the organization that founded March 18th as “Global Recycling Day”, on a page introducing their position that recycling/recycled materials should be thought of as the Seventh Natural Resource.

The six natural resources that they claim “we” tend to think of as the most important are: water, air, oil, natural gas, coal, and minerals.

#recycling #poll #natural resources #I really feel like right after air and water comes plant and animal life??? #humanity was around for a long time without doing much with any of the bottom two thirds of that list #what about like. clay. or metal? any metal? #unless both of those are considered minerals? I don’t know what a mineral is #I don’t necessarily disagree with what they’re trying to do by framing recycling as a resource we could be taking better advantage of #but I feel like they’ve made up a framework to go along with it so that they can have a catchy ‘seventh resource’ tag #instead of just going ‘hey we could think of this differently’ or putting any work into thinking of a different catchy name that makes sense #maybe I’m wrong. maybe everyone else on tumblr is going around like ‘i tend to think of the mitochondria as the powerhouse of the cell and a #also of six natural resources as the most important ones’ #but. that’s what polls are for #just say like ‘the earth has lots of natural resources that help us and also we’ve created a __ resource for ourselves: recyclables’ #__ can be something to replace natural. not manmade but like. anthrop-something maybe. you get the point. #they also on a different page said that recycling is ‘the front line in the war on climate change’ which like #i so fundamentally don’t see eye to eye with this mindset that leads you to think everything is a war on something else #also. strong language from a site that’s just saying ‘recycling is good for the economy’ and not promoting violence against the people respo #responsible for climate change denialism in government and corporate policy etc #‘women sitting at home knitting socks for refugees were on the front lines of WWI’ like. it’s important. it’s important and it’s taking care #of each other. but it’s not a war. it’s a totally different thing. your analogy is bad and your assumptions are unsound. #mine