#fairness for me but not for thee

[butchazepam]

interesting

#fairness for me but not for thee #trans males #sex gender and sexuality in sport by vikki krane

[furiousgoldfish]

abusers when they're cruel and unjust to you: well Life Isn't Fair, you better get used to it! You better learn how to deal with it sooner than later!

abusers when life is even slightly unfair to them: throw blame left and right, demand for everyone to go above and beyond to get them Justice and Fairness, claim themselves the Biggest Victim of the Entire World, never let it go, take it out on everyone else, never attempts to find a way to deal with it

#do as i say not as i do #rules for thee but not for me #psychological abuse #hypocrisy #abusers #emotional abuse #excusing themselves with blaming the world #but blaming you for when the world hurts them #someone else is just always at fault isn't it #they can be unfair but everyone needs to be fair to them or else #and not just fair but they demand to be treated special #and anything that isn't insane level of privilege is then deemed unfair

[honorbright]

tbh i don't even ship joplittle That hard but i have friends who do so like. i understand the appeal

whether or not you feel it's canon, the whole sadsack/competent thing isn't all that removed from canon (plus there are many, many people who do play around with that dynamic anyway! how can the sadsack become competent/in what situations, how does the competent one reach a breaking point, etc)

they don't interact all that much in the show, true, but they're very much in proximity to one another. we don't see it much in canon but a first lieutenant and a captain's steward on the same ship are going to be interacting quite a bit. and fandom fucking thrives on the unseen and unsaid, especially fanfiction

idk man the op of that post i rbed said that they still read joplittle fic and people are using it as an opportunity to hate on the ship so 🤷‍♂️ you could at least Try and understand even if your takeaway is still "i don't get it"

#berry posts #SORRY FOR BEING SALTY i'm just very laissez faire about ships #like i'm not all that interested in Thee most popular terror ship if only bc i feel like people have already explored it tenfold #and i personally have nothing to contribute but you don't see me hating on the ship bc of that #also those reasons are just off the top of my head if you have other reasons why u ship it feel free to sound off

[jlf23tumble]

Jen what do you think about the Louis ban on UK and US radio stations?

I think it demonstrates a singularly spectacular lack of reading comprehension and/or curiosity about current music played on UK and US radio stations

#even with a hella detailed view into the specifics around Louis that came out last week #the way someone's gonna read that as a ban?? #so i guess we can just say anyone beyond the current top 20 artists/songs played ad nauseum on any radio station across the land is banned #nobody's banning people--your fave's not the flave #i challenge thee to listen to 8 hrs of radio on UK or US airwaves and jot down what you hear #do it for a full week #see if you can see the pattern lol #this reminds me of that article i saw linked on twitter #about the musical mush pervading most music providing platforms #that and the fact that the 'test' described in that louis piece are nothing new--same vibes (same test!) for 20+ years #it's only getting worse with actual algorithms taking out the guesswork but yes this is the music landscape #it's just a funny-ass way to frame it #almost as if people don't understand the actual definition of the word banned #if you want to keep it in the one direction realm #niall's about to be banned #zayn's banned #harry was banned for a fair bit #i highly doubt louis's going to change what he's doing to chase radio 1 #and so! #he's not! #if it makes people feel more heroic to say their fave is banned well...join the club of successful artists currently banned #yet still producing incredible music and touring etc #rakin' in tons of cash #idk man i'm totally happy with my faves being 'banned' off radio 1 #but i also know it's the world's stupidest false flag of a statement to make lmaoooooooo #i'm a big fan of this struggling indie artist--her name's beyonce #haven't heard of her? well that's because she's currently banned from radio play on UK and US radio stations

[scare-ard--sleigh]

when you talk about the worst fandom, are you referring to the one that became something extremely toxic, or the one that you left very quickly Because it was clearly toxic, or is there another metric like 'did the most psychological damage' or 'turns out the creator was a n*zi all along so I can't even count it among my other experiences bc so many people chose to ignore it and proceed anyway and Fuck That!'

#silver jelly #in my heart there are 5 worst fandoms and i am talking about all of them when i am talking about Thee worst fandom as an abstract #concept . i know this isn't fair but we are all just amalgamations of our lived experiences you know what i mean . #and its like ok yes aot ignoring the imperialist shit was VERY bad especially as a jew but it just didn't have the same uhhhh je ne sais #quoi of all of my friends being sui baited by the most relentless block evaders ever forever in the tm fandom for [checks #notes] saying that a canon ship had viability . #i rp'd for over a decade an ended up quitting cold turkey bc those dbags were just soooo. like relentless doesn't cover it #it was ridiculous. it was the most vile shit i'd ever seen and im Not sheltered; i was in hs and kh and ffvii at their Primes #anyway i am inevitably reflecting and processing bc that's all my brain will let me do this time of year if im not like #fixated on Something and unfortunately im kinda not oooof

[bookcrazybby]

Lucifer being babygirl was definitely on the bingo card (he's not the first Lucifer that I like on TV and probably won't be the last) but oh bOY he's adorable--

#this is not fucking fair actually. this show has too many fucking tumblr sexy men archetypes it's fucking w/ me #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel spoilers #hazbin lucifer #also the staredown with Alastor? my knees are weak #hes just so fucking cute pls (meanwhile literally the devil its fine i simp for worse) #this show is like crack to my widdle baby brain y'all idk #but yes we have the OP and scary man #the kinda pathetic guy who tries to be cool but no #the one that gives off primordial vibes #and thee babygirl of all babygirls #help me

[asteralien]

currently trying to get regain custody of one of my favorite songs from an ended friendship and it's making me remember when we friend-broke-up and i said something and they responded like "wow you really are a writer" and it probably says a lot about how that relationship was going that that felt like the biggest fucking insult they could have said

#mythtakes #i was quitting writing before then i had planned it out and everything it was basically a planned creative suicide #and thee day i was like 'hey so i'm in this for forever if you want to keep trying but if you aren't then let's just end it' #i wrote two thousand words in a sitting #i sat on soooo many feelings in the name of being civil and fair but that was like. so very nearly the breaking point lmao #i dont know why it pissed me off so much

[criticalrolo]

As someone who will never meet a cowboy can you please tell us more about the qualities of god's special creatures?

they really do Dress Like That with the big belt, boots, and hats, but it is 1000% for practical purposes. they Don’t like talking to people they like talking to Horses and Cows and would prefer to be anywhere else but you’re not gonna find a slushie out on the range so you have to stop at a Maverik BRIEFLY

#the cowboys I’ve met did NOT want to talk to me #to be fair I don’t think they think they have much in common with little girls from LA or teenagers from Philly visiting their grandpa #they are Thee Ultimate introverts and those are the facts

[jazzzzzzhands]

If i finish these sketches, my heart may explode ;w;

#im so sorry my sketches are so light #woe my terrible handwriting be upon thee #plus i always like my sketches better anyways ;w; #wally darling #welcome home #whps #hairstyles #let me know if yall wanna give me cardiac arrest and make me finish these XD #jazzdoodles #sketches #i had to use filters to even see these cause i draw very lightly #hes so pretty ITS NOT FAIR

[caruliaa]

concerned mother voice: what happened to little miss perfect you guys used to love little miss perfect

#j remembered the existence of tht song #did the toh fandom j move on or did i j loose touch w all the toh fans i knew that were obsesed w it. that is thee question. #it was so popular tho like i remeber being kinda annoyed tht it was seen as offical property of the toh fandom #bc i always associated it w glinda who it does rly fit to be fair i think #also i remember *saying* it was a julia song but i dont beleive tht. it was just my way of going 'hey guys remember cs' to my friends #who had moved onto toh #i actually think that like. thts so evil actually bc like. literally just bc of the 'what? its totally platonic!' line #like no dont do that to carulia leave them alone. good carulia characterization that doesnt peg them as 'oblivious' get behind me. #i want to keep posting abt tht btw i was to open ppls eyes to how characterizing carulia like that is bad #amd like just removes the good dynamic they canonically have which is so much more interesting omfg !!!! #tbh sometimes i feel like ppl ships that way so that another character can point out all the moments they were 'soo obviously in love' #so its like playing a highlight reel of their most in love moments which is ig fair that thts smth you wanna do #but why not do smth like theyre reminiscing on their relationship tht wont have u dismiss their dynamic. yk? #sorry obvs tht cahracterization isnt always inacurate but for carulia it sure as hell is. #anyway. chess if ur reading this go listen to little miss perfect actually and tell me if it fits ur werewolf cheerleader character bc idk #but maybe it will !!! is she hiding being a lesbian or just being a werewolf. #flappy rambles

[winepresswrath]

I’m not at all in ofmd fandom but i gather events recently transpired and also there’s a healthy contingent of calico jack appreciators now. to which i say: good for you, i salute you, i’m sorry i missed you during my two weeks of poking around in that fandom, it is my most ardent wish that you flourish and propagate, remember to hydrate.

#my love of hyper dutiful balls of anxiety is not truly matched by my love of sleazy dirtgbags who vibe through life but you know. #i do love them #at my age from a safe distance #otoh the business with the bird did make me cheer for his ultimate demise #fair thee well calico jack technically you did die trying to rescue your old pal from both the british navy #and his questionable taste in men best exemplified by you

[emberphantom]

You know I really gotta take a minute to shout out and appreciate how tagging fics evolved on Ao3 over the years like -- so I’m going back and reading old White Collar fics and listen. I LOVE “older” fanfics like you know from before 2012 when we called gay shit Slash like that’s what I was raised on.  But I am truly so thankful that somewhere along the way we as a fandom society decided we need to like put so much into the tags now. Like please what are the tropes? What’s the over all genre? What are the VIBES? Like go girl over explain it to me so I know exactly what I’m getting before I even get to your summary! I’m fighting for my LIFE in the Neal/Peter tag bc most of the stuff is from before like 2014 and again I love it and I live for it and that’s where I came from but Most of the fics’s tags are just “Pairing. Archive Warnings. Slash. Single Line of Summary.” It’s FINE but LIKE I NEED to know the vibes man I can’t live like this. Are they mutually pining?? is it angst with a happy ending?? HOW did we do this? 

#to be fair a lot of these fics came from LJ where I remember people being WAY more descriptive with stuff like #that didn't always transfer to ao3 especially reposted work #idk someone smarter than me can dig into this more but 2010 ao3 felt like the wild west #maybe bc it wasn't like THEE place to go yet bc we still had so much like lj and ffnet #anyway i needed to rant bc i really do be in the trenches with wc fic

[toytulini]

can i access the tunglr on work wifi but not discord. insane

#toy txt post #apologies in advance. nonzero chance this means i liveblog The Horrors. of slogging thru work #and or also liveblog. my own going insane over tryimg to remake character playlists now that the characters have evolved enough #that i look at their og playlists like.......what was i thinking #mostly. mostly Bytte #its just #hard to find things that match Bytte or Headloose or both of them and their. fucked up little dynamic both tonally and lyrically? #like in theory i Want to put Shakiras She Wolf on Bytte's playlist. its so iconic and In Theory. it could match. i could force it #in practice........god i dont even know how to expkain how it does not fit Bytte like....tonally and probably not even lyrically #i love bridge city sinners sound and a lot of their lyrics and would love to put them on both playlists but like lyrically and subject wise #theres just.....not much that fits? #i might be willing to try to explain Why It Doesnt Fit if i had more time ? and wasnt just typing in between printing labels..idk #and defining what doesnt work and why might in turn help me find more stuff that Does #i think i need to listen to a little more uhhhhhh. megan thee stallion? is that how u spell her name? for bytte. unsure. its so tricky #like half the shit on her playlist like only a couple lines in the song Really vibe w me idk #i actually just. remade her playlist completely the other day and im less mad at it now but it still could use a lot of improvement #theres not a good like.....flow between the songs? ig? #need to. figure out headloose now also.i think in fairness when i made Bytte's playlist i still hadnt really developed her as a character #much at all yet? idk #im not As Mad at either of Headloose's playlists theres just a bunch i need to add and reorganize and prolly need to trim? and tbh i prolly #need to just honestly make multiple separate playlists for all of them like i did for Suki.... #that will be similar and have plenty of overlap but have different nuances for the different eras of their lives #like. idk maybe Bytte needs to just have a Separate playlist for how her approach to and relationship w her sexuality evolves between #how she is as a human and. warlord. and then ig after she is w headloose which #is after she decides to become a demon but before shes fully transformed cos shes not dead yet so the evolution there is still #more subtle until she turns fully. and headloose gets 1) better at controlling the shapeshifting and healing factors and #2) Headloose getting more fucked up kinks. i guess. or learning more of his own fucked up kinks. or whatever #and the influence that has on her as well AND ALSO her like. lowkey toxicity in any attempts at long term rships #due to being a woman in a weird position in a point in history where we probably didnt have a word for aromanticism #...im out of tags. how does this happen everytime

[nose-coffee]

writing some gideon character study and i already know i’ve made her too tender and not enough of a narsty dirtbag but goddamn i’m already 7k words in

#i'll just go back and edit some dirty jokes in later #but to be fair i'm writing the same gal whose last words were 'if aught but death part me and thee' #give me a break she's allowed to be a heartbroken lesbian in these circumstances i think #who am i even arguing with #anyway #fuck off lou #my post #preambles #writing #my writing #fanfiction #my fanfiction #this always happens #i need to make her snarkier #gideon nav #the locked tomb

[adammilligan]

something about how michael was built for war and he’s lived through and won endless battles and did win the war against lucifer so long ago but the first time we actually see him lose his composure on screen is when adam asks him, very gently, if he still cares about what god thinks of him after he left him in the cage. when he gets frustrated and even snaps at one point and adam is still so kind to him anyway. something about heaven’s most terrifying weapon being rendered speechless at one string of words spoken with nothing but gentle concern. not to drag a quote into this but quite literally sometimes being offered tenderness feels like the very proof you’ve been ruined

#like he can handle war but he draws himself up defensively and can't even speak when adam confronts him with nothing but kindness #behind the gesture #and that line is still so interesting to me! because it kind of implies that michael hadn't been acting like he cared about being #the favorite anymore. which to be fair he hadn't! he ditched heaven to hang out with a human that's far from how god's favorite should act #but the new identity michael was building for himself was still shaky especially since yknow. a lot of it was developed in a cage. in hell #so it makes sense that when confronted about it he would start clinging to that old identity all over again. it's very human of him actually #and with adam's real genuine concern/confusion over it + how it's apparent that they talk to each other about everything #it makes me think that no michael didn't actually care about being the favorite anymore. even in 15x19. ESPECIALLY in 15x19 #in 15x19 especially it was a combination of a) his unstable mindset after losing his closest and only friend #b) that loss being a direct hit on the foundations of his new identity #and c) the old identity coming back up to take its place because otherwise he might've actually gone insane. he had to function SOMEHOW #and i know there's only so many ways you can defend 15x19's genuinely godawful writing. i know. and i'm a steadfast 15x19 hater #but this is perhaps one of the only ways i can EXPLAIN it #and no bringing lucifer back didn't help. one of thee pillars of his old identity shows up while his new identity is crumbling to dust in #the face of adam's death and he's falling and you don't expect him to reach out and lean on it for support? that's just what people DO #it's like taking away an addict's best coping mechanism and expecting them not to relapse if only the one time #and he was being actively encouraged to relapse was the thing! dean going 'daddy's boy' at the beginning of the ep? their plan RELYING on #michael's death at the hands of chuck? REALLY. #these tags are not the point of this post. anyway #kate rambles #michael #adam milligan #midam

[derelictdumbass]

Working on a million things is not quieting my brain worms (derogatory) I need serotonin blasted directly into my frontal lobe

#self image issues u return my arch nemesis... I hate thee so #why won't my 101 million wips distract me from the unfathomable torture of having a physical form this isn't fair #once i'm done with this last comm and these gifts i'm turning my brain off and playing video games #and maybe catch up on movies bc that always helps #wish my brain would be niceys to me for once :') #nadine is typing...