#forgive the unforgivable

[writethestory365]

To be a Christian is to forgive the inexcusable, because God has excused the inexcusable in you.

- C.S. Lewis

#forgiveness #bitterness #let it go #i forgive you #forgiving #heart posture #heart wounds #generational healing #healing journey #fear of the lord #forgive the unforgivable #stay #relational intelligence #relationships quotes #relationships #love story #write the story #poetry #open heart #healingjourney #yahweh #bible #parable of the sower

[otrtbs]

not ppl hating on ahb! bc the whirlwind romance of it all is an unbelievable trope and for it to happen with three separate couples is just so unrealistic. like. my brother in christ that's the point of this fucking fanfic thanks for noticing.

i prommy nobody is rawdogging piloting a plane over an ocean either. or building life-sized replicas of museums for practice heists. LEAVE ME ALONE! JUST LEAVE ME ALONE. no need 2 tell me u fucking hated it. just keep ur mouth closed and get the fuck out!

#sorry u don't know how to have fun. go read the fucking encyclopedia or something! #like idk abt yall but i DO read fanfic for an element of the absurd sometimes #for the things that would never make it past a publishing house #yes give me three whirlwind romances #yes give me characters forgiving the unforgivable over and over again instead of leaving. #or being overskilled at everything bc they're the main character #like put those guys in the most extreme situations and make them have the most extreme reactions to things and just have fun #where is ur whimsy ??? WHERE IS UR FUCKING WHIMSY ???

[pechebeche]

i can't believe im seeing bad tlou marlene opinions in 2023. ladies can we PLEASE let black women be morally complex and make difficult choices you might not agree with without turning it into "this MORON doesn't believe our BELOVED MAN and she isn't actually trying to save people anyway!!" can we please give the benefit of the doubt to "woman tries to perform trolley problem" as "guy who picks other answer when trolley problem involves loved one." please

#you can forgive joel for TORTURE but when marlene makes the hardest decision of her life and dies for it THATS unforgivable??? #tlou #as a heads up i played the game years ago if theres significant differences in the show then sure whatever #but like. WHAT am i seeing on my dash #SHES TRYING TO SAVE LITERALLY ALL OF HUMANITY

[they-call-me-haiku]

seriously though, can we stop associating redemption with forgiveness? redemption isn't about being forgiven, it's about trying to do better and be better, even if you're not forgiven.

sometimes you make mistakes that people can't forgive and that's okay. the important thing is to remind yourself that you're on the right path, and you're going to be a better person regardless of whether they want to forgive you or not. that's their decision and they're entitled to it.

sometimes people forgive you and sometimes they don't. but you shouldn't stop working towards being better just because someone refused to forgive you. because you shouldn't be trying to fix your mistakes solely because you want that person to forgive you, you should be fixing them because it's the right thing to do.

#talking about fiction mostly but it applies irl too #so many fictional redemption arcs are so hyperfocused on forgiveness #and it just comes off as unfair and unrealistic especially if the character being redeemed is like an abuser or a war criminal #no one is irredeemable but some people are unforgivable #and that's okay! #make your characters unforgivable #redemption arc #writing problems

[hopeinthebox]

taehyung à paris: texts from last night [vol. 1]

for anon <3

#@anon.. texts from tae in paris... (1) you're a genius (2) i'm so sorry (3) i might already have a pt.2 if you can stomach it #there's absolutely no excuse for this other than the fact that this man has ruined my life so it only seems fair to return the favour #please forgive me but i'm tagging the favs again: #trackofthesoul #shirleytothesea #heyryen #annietrack #tusermanny #usersky #userjeonqquk #boongietrack #networkbangtan #dailybts #dailybangtan #source: tfln #okay now i'm off to repent. grievously. #the layout is despicable on purpose btw. the whole vibe is unforgivable. it's an artistic choice. #textsfrombangtan

[mickeym4ndy]

I think in the same way that Ian’s allowed to love and miss Monica despite everything, Fiona’s allowed to resent her and be angry with her and both are valid feelings for them

#if that makes sense #Monica Gallagher #Fiona Gallagher #Ian Gallagher #shameless #I think Monica is a complex well written character #who’s actions are often understandable yet unforgivable #and Ian understands them better than anyone #but Fiona doesn’t owe her any forgiveness

[furiousgoldfish]

Abusers will expect you to forgive them automatically without them even acknowledging they did anything wrong.

Abusers will expect, or demand, forgiveness, for something they are still actively doing and have no plans to stop.

Abusers will attack you for 'not forgiving them already' for something you are suffering severe consequences for and haven't been able to forget for a second.

Abusers will hold up forgiveness as a moral standard that is expected of you, they will not allow you to treat it as a natural process of 'no longer feeling like you need retaliation or revenge', in fact those things will not even be in the scope of thing you're allowed to feel or want.

Forgiveness will be treated as 'it never happened, you're never allowed to bring it up, you're never allowed to mention it or feel slighted by it, and you're not allowed to be upset if I do it again, in fact, you're not allowed to even be surprised if I do it again.'

This is not what forgiveness is. Forgiveness follows the path of:

Slight committed -> person acknowledges it's their fault -> they apologize sincerely -> person makes reparations -> you consider their apology and reparations and are given time to think -> you no longer suffer negative consequences from this and wish to keep having a relationship with this person -> you forgive, without actually forcing yourself or feeling obligated to do so, but because you naturally wish to mend the relationship.

In abuse, the expectations goes like this:

slight committed -> person who committed the slight attacks you if you get upset -> person who slighted you gaslights you and lies about their intentions -> person who slighted you plays the victim and demands compassion -> person who slighted you blames you for being a bad person for not being over it already -> slights keeps getting committed -> pressure to ignore the slights and to force yourself to lessen your own value and accept that you are someone who can be slighted over and over without having a say in it, increases -> person who slighted you utilizes the rest of society to also put pressure on you to accept your lesser value and accept that you should get walked over indefinitely with no reparations

This is why you don't tell victims to forgive. It's the equivalent of telling someone to not be upset about their arm being cut off, while it's still in the process of being cut off. Your attention should always be on 'how to stop the abuser from cutting and how to save your arm', or in this analogy, how to preserve your sense of value and dignity as a human being.

Ask the abuser why they always need to be forgiven. People can live without being forgiven just fine.

#forgiveness #why forgiveness is not an option in abuse #abuse is unforgivable #psychological abuse #emotional abuse #natural forgiveness #forced or coerced forgiveness #they're not asking for forgiveness but for themselves to get to abuse you and reap the benefits indefinitely #don't forgive anyone who wont even acknowledge what they did #it's not your job to figure out their reasoning or backstory #it's your job to protect yourself and your dignity

[ineadhyn]

Me trying to talk about BG3 irl: *carefully mentions Astarion*

Random straight cis gamer dude: "Astarion? I killed him right away. He tried to bite me!"

#every time #the offense in their voices when saying “he tried to bite me” #like it's actually unforgivable to invade someones personal space and bodily autonomy #i wonder why girls and gays are so far more forgiving with that *irony* #astarion #baldur's gate 3 #bg3

[5hrignold]

so how about that deleted scene

look

https://twitter.com/CrazeTheDaiz/status/1708179001619927063

#dude now i wanna see ALL the storyboards for every scene ellis is in. he’s so cute and adorable #and did you see how he noticed the ground being erased from under him. he’s so smart #also the scene is cute what with hunter comforting him but idk if i would’ve been able to forgive scarab and see him #-the same if he actually did kill ellis’ squirrels. like that’s unforgivable #adventure time #fionna and cake #ellis p #lumpy space prince #hunter wizard #fionna and cake spoilers

[stoicmike]

You always have the right to forgive — and you have an equal right to never forgive. No one has the right to tell you which to choose. -- Michael Lipsey

#forgive #forgiveness #unforgiving

[age-of-moonknight]

Variant cover for Moon Knight (Vol. 9/2021), #25 by Frank Miller.

#Marvel #Marvel comics #Marvel 616 #Moon Knight vol. 9 #Moon Knight 2021 #moon knight comics #let’s get this other bread #Moon Knight #Marc Spector #warning: personal feelings/opinions inbound because whoo boi do I never miss the opportunity to rag on Miller #generally #what is this dude’s problem??? #I d o n o t c a r e if The Dark Knight Returns revolutionized the comic book industry #was it really for the better what he revolutionized the industry into??? #the islamophobia alone is already an unforgivable offense but I simply cannot forgive All Star Batman & Robin the Boy Wonder #or the fact that the dude is seemingly unable to write a comic unless it contains a woman being backhanded/derided #I was going to say I remember really enjoying Peter Parker: The Spectacular Spider-Man (Vol. 1/1976) no. 27 #but then I remembered that Miller just did the pencilling for that while it was written by Bill Mantlo #anyway I had a lovely time at a local comic book store yesterday (where I !!! managed to snag among other issues #the last copy of MK’s hellfire gala variant!!!) chatting with the shop owner about how he cannot for the life of him get this variant #off of his shelves while everything else sells out #anyway sorry y’all I try not to harbor any ill will towards particular writers or artists or I try to stick to #‘this particular artist’s/writer’s work just isn’t to my taste’ but #…this is decade’s worth of evidenced behavior yo

[heidiamalia]

-Faceless-

Our Flag Means Death

[The Art of Fuckery]

#our flag means death #ofmd #ofmdedit #tv: ofmd #faceless series #faceless series; ofmd #《my edit》 #forgive me because this is just me playing with the settings in my phone #cutting room floor looks rough as hell and so does this set #this ep was unforgiving #but its so fun #here - i love you. have this. #tvedit

[frootbyethefoot]

actually sick to my stomach i love half life so much

#hl1 gameplay vs hl2 gameplay is maybe my favorite piece of storytelling in half life and its so unintentional #and is clearly just me digging too deep but i love it anyways #hl1 gameplay is so unforgiving and cruel because the game wants you to know you're some scientist with almost zero gun training #going against armed soldiers and it does not want you to forget #you have to play hl1 so differently compared to hl2 or even just a lot of fps games at the time #its a game about strategy and problem solving first and foremost #by hl2 gordon has reached the status of an old legend #a story resistance members tell in order to inspire hope and change #hl2 is so kind and forgiving combat wise compared to hl1 #and i can't help but wonder if its because the narrative has shifted around gordon so much #hes not just 'some theoretical physicist' now hes humanitys savior and final hope #sorry. what was i saying. oh yeah half life is a good series and hl2 is gonna be 20 this year. #half life

[mummer]

i know the fascism intrinsic to zionism is obviously apparent on the face of it but it is really illustrative of Something that it has my so-called liberal father posting links to fucking prageru videos trying to manufacture consent for the murder of palestinian children

#i seriously dont know what to fucking do anymore i feel so lost and bleak and cant go to anyone with it #one of the posts was so deeply disturbing i find it utterly unforgivable. one of the most truly depraved things ive ever read #hopeless fruitless pointless #i cant fight him but i cant just smile and wave. Whats my option here. Cage cage forever. #i dont think i can ever forgive this and the worst part is i cant forget it lol #when we first started fighting when i was in high school it was about zionism!!! that was pointless too #but when he said shitty things then i didnt have a record of what he was saying. i’ll have this screenshot forever #how am i supposed to talk to him tomorrow without sobbing. Lol. #i have to go blow my brains out #delete later. I guess

[saionjeans]

i think your blog made me like saionji. like in a "id soak him in hotdog water and throw him into a wall" sorta way

i think my blog also made me like saionji which is really funny to me bc i also cannot stand him. well actually no that’s not true either. ive always been deeply conflicted about him because i love his character design, and think that his baby design in his flashback is especially endearing. and also that scene where he cooks eggs he gathered in the woods in the middle of the night in a frilly yellow apron. like if not for the domestic abuse he’d rule actually. but also he sucks so bad. so i guess what i’m saying, anon, is that i’d also soak him in hotdog water and throw him into a wall

#saionji #u #ask #anon #i think him hitting anthy is like nanami drowning the cat #a seemingly unforgivable act of abject violence #that is actually far less egregious than the covert violence and abuse they are experiencing (and that motivates their actions) #so maybe i can forgive him for that? idk tho. anyone who has ever intentionally hurt anthy needs to die i fear

[sharp-tooths]

Thinking about the fact that Knives loved western movies as a kid and liked the idea of gunslingers and how after the crash he took the gun from a man he killed and gave it to vash, not only because he wanted his brother to protect himself and join him in killing humans, but because he thought gunslingers were cool. He gave Vash a gun cause he thought having his brother be a gunslinger on a desert planet would be cool. Just like a western movie.

Im dying

#trigun stampede #millions knives #vash the stampede #im just gonna go lie on the floor and cry for a while again #kni at the ripe old age of maybe 7 years old: #my names going to be millions knives #and my brother is going to be a cool gunslinger #and were going to protect our people and kill all of humanity! #im sobbing #on one hand i can see why vash would still so readily forgive him despite the things hes done that alot of ppl would find irredeemable #but also. kni has already been so blindingly consumed by his fear fuled rage #that hes come full circle and doesnt realize hes committed the very same acts he condemns humans for doing to plants #on the very people he was trying to protect #his brother and all the remaining dependent plants #and i personally think the way he went about it was so much more unforgivable and horrific #cause what the ever loving FUCK that was in episode 11 makes me want to puke #and in the beginning of episode 12 i actually almost did #i didnt mean to start ranting in the tags i just have FEELINGS #trigun stampede spoilers