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catboyrichardkarinsky · 3 months
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i think the most annoying part of amatonormativity is that not only do you NEED to feel love, and not only is there an order your relationships must follow (romantic/sexual partnership above all, then family, then friends) but the fact that other people HAVE to be your top priority. like even if you feel all kinds of attraction, if you dare put anything else above your relationships they consider you evil. god forbid you enjoy your hobbies more than being around your friends even though how much you care about something is completely outside of your control. it's the worst.
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bomberqueen17 · 4 months
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On the way home from work I was thinking about Rochr and Iorveth in your fic and remembered a question I had for you: there is this scene in which Roche gives an overtired and insomniac Iorveth a blowjob in a secluded room, there are knives involved, I think Breniriel is guarding the door? Anyway, Iorveth finally falls asleep and it is implied that Iorveth has been adapting poorly to feeling save and thus somehow feelt safe enough with Roche to fall asleep but not his friends /family?? I don't think they were even talking at this point in your fic, what did I miss?
Have a nice evening /day!
Well, so like, that's the premise of the fic. I'm not saying this to be an ass, this is a genuine response, because it is sort of an honor to have someone thinking about your work beyond even the time it takes to read it, but: That is the premise of the fic.
And either it works for you, or it doesn't. That's just... how fiction works. Do i think that in real life two traumatized people would actually hit it off just like that? Do I think it would work? Do I think it would be healthy? Do I think it would lead to long-term happiness for either or both of them?
I won't answer that, I will just leave that to sit for a moment. My answer is immaterial anyway, because the author's intent is only marginally relevant in some circumstances.
This is fantasy, critically, more broadly than fiction (is it a broader category? I think so). Like... one of them is an elf, and has a shapeshifting dragon as his leige and protector. Some other fantasy elements are even less realistic, but the idea is that they're plausible, for the purposes of fiction.
So this is kind of how fiction works, and fantasy in general. Do you accept the premise of this story? Do you find it plausible, for the purposes of this fictional exercise, that, to bring it specifically back to this story, two characters who have long been enemies, would find something in common like this? Two people who have been on opposite sides but were in the same conflict, who went through many of the same things, who, crucially, commanded others during this awful cataclysm of violence, who had to warp their own moral centers not only to survive but also to potentially damn others by their tragic, inevitable actions. Who have in the past bitterly fought, physically injured one another, murdered one another's comrades, and worse... but in this new peacetime, find, strangely, unexpectedly, compellingly (precedentedly, in reality!) that their former foe is the only one who truly understands what they've been through. And they can trust this former foe the way they can't trust others, because this foe gets it, because this foe knows what's at stake, fully understands what happened, has the same sense of both the fragility of society and the preciousness of its little contracts. Iorveth knows Roche would stab him in the face, not the back, and that is a kind of trust. The whole underpinning of this ship is that in the video game there's a scene where one can best the other, and in each decision tree the loser says unhinged shit about how if they have to die they're perversely glad that at least it was the other who is doing it. Because that other understands what it's worth, and is a worthy foe.
That's it, that's the ship manifesto, LOL.
So-- that's the exercise of the story, trying to draw the reader along to find this as plausible-- I did not say realistic! Plausible-- as possible. The art lies in underpinning it with realistic detail here and there-- including that after many wars in real life history, the veterans of the conflict have found more in common with their opposing veterans than with the civilians of the side they fought for-- and so on and so forth. To make it vivid, to make it relatable, to make the fantasy compelling.
And if the premise doesn't work, then the story doesn't work. That's fine, not all art is for everyone. But that's how it is. Either you accept the premise, and it works, or you don't, and you go find something else that works better for you. This is no judgement on anybody, you or me or anyone, that's just how fantasy works. A reader brings as much to it as the author, and takes as much away, and while there's an element of skill on the part of the author, a large part of it is just going to be the reader's response. Things will or won't work for you and there's nothing wrong with that, it's just another of the ways fantasy works.
(I don't know if you've missed anything, I haven't reread that scene in quite some time because I'm still working on sequels and that takes up a lot of my energy and time; same reason I rarely respond to comments, I just don't have time to both do that and make new works. I do think the blowjob with knives is a separate scene from the passing out with knives but I don't recall exactly either. It's kind of a long story. If you think you missed something, try rereading it? But if that doesn't compel you, then it's really no skin off my nose if you don't! It's fine! I'm not offended, I just don't know how else to answer that question. I don't remember the scene that well. I wrote it like a year ago or more. But I'm well aware the premise of it doesn't work for everyone, which is why there are so many people writing so many different stories.)
LOL I have more to say on this topic because I got a faintly ridiculous comment on a story recently on kind of a loosely related concept, but this is getting long and I should address it separately. Suffice to say, you got a long reply here because I have been spending some time thinking about fiction, what it is and isn't, and how it works.
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poelya · 5 days
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so i rewatched the friendly type for the first time today since watching the deleted scene, and I have to say. I was a puddle of feelings about it, but the thing that got to me the absolute most was the boat scene.
I feel like there was probably another deleted moment, between the one that got released and the scene on the boat, because it does flow fairly well (I think I'm in the minority that feels like it's not necessarily out of character for Layla, and I think the deleted scene could honestly have been kept it, but I think it was ultimately the most responsible thing to do to delete it, because considering the lack of critical thinking and how deeply ableist some of the responses to the show as it is were, then I can only imagine we'd get some of that patented star wars fandom "oh this character is saying this so we're meant to believe them and agree with them over the actual narrative" 'logic' going around), so for the sake of this post I'm treating the deleted scene as if it did happen off-screen.
Like, nearly immediately after the trial and having his own disability weaponized against him, we have Marc run into Layla again. Someone he trusts, and loves, and spent the last some odd years of his life with as a partner (presumably somewhere around ten years, is what I'm figuring). And in the deleted scene, we see her unconsciously echo some of the same ableism that Marc just faced, down to calling his alters "personalities" instead, questioning Marc's sense of reality regarding Khonshu - something that, obviously, deeply hurts Marc (I have a lot of thoughts on this deleted scene man).
And honestly, you would think it would make the boat scene feel contradictory. On paper, absolutely - why would Marc tell Layla, or think that he could, when she's just proven otherwise? Well, it's entirely possible she would have handled it better and more quickly challenged her internalized ableism had she known, but that's not the part I actually opened a tumblr post for.
No, I'm thinking about Marc telling her "for what it's worth, I had it under control until very recently" because...that's kind of quintessential Marc. Just hours ago, she was saying nearly everything he's already come to expect from people, proving him correct in why he shouldn't have told her...
But sitting opposite of her, hearing her telling him he could have, and Marc's first instinct is to offer her some kind of comfort. In the deleted scene, he tells her this is his reality, and here he's quick to reassure her that until recently, it wasn't a prominent enough reality to tell her about.
There's a lot going on in the boat sequence, and the deleted scene gave me even more to chew on, but I'm just so stuck on the fact that in spite of how much hell he'd gone through that afternoon - Marc's first instinct was to comfort Layla.
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emilykaldwen · 7 days
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is pen gonna pay for her fucking crimes? Nope. She's just gonna get away with all her slander on other women and POC because she thinks she's better than everyone. No, she gets rewarded for being a horrible fucking person. Uhg.
Anyway I'm so glad I get some more content to fast forward through. Also? why is this only a half season?
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afniel · 10 months
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Kinda getting exhausted of seeing funny posts ripping on the US for having nasty processed food. Like yeah girl go off, you caught us having a very high cost of living and a very low standard of living. Does that make you feel superior? Do you feel clever having a giggle at an entire country of people at the mercy of a few shitty billionaire corporations who just want to sell the cheapest possible corn-based cardboard to a captive audience who on the whole can barely afford to even put that much on the table? Is that what gets you off? 'Cause you sound like an asshole and maybe the humorous-to-you assumption that we just prefer poor quality food for some reason is kind of a dick move, jussayin'.
Also sorry not sorry but there's nothing inherently bad about USAmerican food as a general concept. A cheeseburger or a pizza with a variety of toppings, made with varied and decent quality fresh ingredients, is fucking delicious and actually a complete and reasonably balanced meal, die hangry about it ✌️
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icannotgetoverbirds · 3 months
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Now that I have your attention:
hey. with all the shit going around I don't wanna see any trans infighting, okay? we have a chance to stick up for each other together right now. I saw a post talking about how the people discussing transandrophobia are (partially) behind the transfem hate campaigns with absolutely nothing to back it, most likely (and I'm just hazarding a guess here) because of the perception that people talking about transandrophobia don't care about transmisogyny.
While I, personally, don't feel qualified to speak at length on transandrophobia quite yet, I think I am qualified to say that yeah, this shit happens. Ultimately what you call it is more semantics than anything, but trans men face unique oppression for being both trans and men, on top of what we face for being afab. it's all sexism in the end regardless.
With that said? I am here for the trans women being targeted by smear campaigns, mass reporting, and whatever the hell the ceo is trying to pull. Seriously, what is up with that guy?
This blog is a safe space for transfems, transmascs, and transneutral folks; any discussions of transandrophobia are never to speak over or take higher importance than discussions of transmisogyny, or vice versa, and neither are to take priority over discussions on exorsexism, or vice versa.
Right now it's important that we trust each other to be speaking in good faith unless proven otherwise, and that we don't dehumanize anybody, even if somehow some vile accusation turns out to be true.
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lesbiansanemi · 9 months
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*through gritted teeth* ppl can ship whatever they want and it’s fine it doesn’t affect you ppl can ship whatever they want and it’s fine it doesn’t affect you ppl can ship whatever they want and it’s fine it doesn’t affect you people can—
#I need to stop seeing douma/akaza stuff like. now.#I’ve tried okay I’ve tried to even mildly like it and nope#I can’t do it. I cannot do it whatsoever#I JUST DONT GET IT I DONT GET IT I DONT GET ITTTTTTTR#I know it’s my thing where I viscerally dislike ships that are based on two characters#who are on the same side but STILL fucking hate each other#because literally no matter what it just feels so weird and forced to me#like they are on the same side. they have similar morals already. if they were gonna like each other AT ALL… they would#but yeah no I’m hffjdjdksk I can’t do that one anymore#and it used to be such a rare pair so it was really easy to avoid and now I’m seeing A LOT more of it and it’s getting more difficult#and I dunno part of it is the idea of shipping douma with ANYONE#like I can’t stand him being shipped with shinobu kanae or kotoha either#his canon interactions with them have just tainted it sooooo much for me#and like yeah rocks at glass houses I’m aware I’m the enemies to lovers weirdo who ships characters who keep trying to kill each other#but mannnnnn something about the idea of shipping a guy who terrified a woman so wholly she threw her baby off a cliff because that was a#better alternative to him getting his hands on her child? yeeeeaaaaahhhhh… it’s not gonna be for me folks#it is NOT a kind of power dynamic I am gonna enjoy when it’s that particular angle#the context of their relationship cannot be that removed to me#it’s just one of my person nope. can’t fucking do it don’t fucking like it kinda makes my skin crawl things#which in a way is unfortunate#cuz I actually do enjoy douma as a character a lot and I can enjoy certain explorations of him#where he actually DOES learn to be in tune with his emotions again and learn to care for someone#but I rarely see it done well#and when I see ANY of that so called ‘development’ linked to any of these ships#it’s usually just akaza or Kotoha or shinobu getting over their hatred/fear of him in way too fast and highly unrealistic ways#while douma does very little to actually develop himself he just kinda is Automatically better because someone loved him back#(in a way that’s usually out of character for everyone involved lol)#esp when any of these ships are showcased in a REALLY cutesy way like again it’s just not for me#I don’t think I can ever really jive with it#oh well. I should just block some more tags I just needed to complain a bit first lol
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jeanmoreaux · 1 year
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Do I think the wesper scenes were cute? Yes. The actors are ridiculously so authentic in their roles
But did I also think the pacing, writing, directing and character relationships assassination build up was off? Absolutely.
Maybe it’s cz I’m somewhere on the ace spectrum…but I just feel Wylan would so not do one night stands/be reckless like that.
and especially knowing his background. Otherwise a very young boy who’s been isolated and left out his entire life, who just fled his murderous father and is on the run trying to maintain a cover—-nah fam
i get what you mean. sure they're cute, i agree. and their actors are doing their best. but their relationship and dynamic is so devoid of meaning compared to their slowburn book version. and yeah, the off-screen wesper hookup is such a curveball. it does kind of seem like an un-wylan thing to do, especially because i CANNOT even imagine a reasonable scenario in which wylan and jesper would have crossed paths in (presumably) the barrel that could have led to them hooking up. how did that random one night stand even come to be????? i don't assume wylan was doing rounds in the pubs and clubs, approaching handsome young strangers. he was probably keeping a low profile, staying out of people's way to avoid any trouble and attention, since, you know, his dad had JUST tried and failed to have him MURDERED..... i can't imagine finding someone to smooch was high on his list of priorities upon arriving in the barrel. i think he was more busy trying to survive on the streets. and we really need to remember, like you mentioned, that he grew up isolated and secluded to a degree that people barely even know he exists. i think it's fair too assume he isn't well practiced when it comes to social interactions. so diving headfirst into a sexual encounter with someone—no matter your sexuality—seems a little extreme when you're just starting to connect to people your age for the first time in your life. it's really not something that makes a lot of sense when you look at it too closely.
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hotmess-exe · 26 days
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a few of the jokes i heard at this small stand-up joint the other night were unfunny in that confused, ""edgy"" way when people try to jump on the bandwagon of [x subject] joke but have no actual personal relation to or opinion of the subject.
so basically they need me.
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soubiapologist · 2 months
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i don't expect any of you to understand the reference but alice cooper. from riverdale. is a little like if a loveless character was really really really fucking funny
#in that she a darkly realistic portrayal of Your Yes Your 🫵🏻 Insane Mom#i have never seen a more.... i don't want to say ''realistic'' because riverdale exists in this like. absurd parody dimension both--#on purpose and on accident but like.#nothing that EMULATES the FEELING of having a Crazy Mom who has no idea she's crazy#and thinks she's justified in literally everything she does and is just like. a complete fucking controlling nutcase who is making--#literally everything worse by pretending she doesn't have trauma#of course it's also very silly but rvd also wants you to take it seriously so it's just like having an (AWESOME) aneurysm the entire time#you have to have a very specific sense of humour to enjoy rvd if you like like.#sardonically sitting around watching increasingly absurd things happen to characters you have zero investment in other than laughing at--#because they just live these deranged lives that are beyond parody and just like bitching at your TV for fun with like a friend then i thin#--you might like it.#like you absolutely cannot get seriously invested in the plot or characters if you want to enjoy it it's hard to explain#but it's also like kind of like loveless in the way that the fandom was originally people doing Shipping and then getting increasingly--#annoyed when it didn't do what they wanted and dropping off#and in the process missing out on the craziest train derailment of all time just like absolute complete lunatic shit#and it seems like it keeps trying to self flagellate for the first like. half#and in riverdale's case it's REALLY funny and in loveless's case it's really um. scary (affectionate)#also like 99% of the people who watch rvd seem to not understand that it's supposed to be insane and 99% of the people who read loveless--#miss that it's supposed to be HASHTAG SCARY#like rvd also exists in this weird dimension where you're supposed to think it's funny and they're trying to piss you off on purpose#but they're also trying very hard to like Discuss Social Issues and it end up very funny because they're bad at it but GOD It's so sincere-#while standing next to the campiest insincere shit EVER it's so fucking funny#meanwhile loveless's tone problem is like yun kouga is just a crazy person.#i mean roberto is also a crazy person but yun kouga is like a tortured crazy person. and he's like. the guy who would make glee crazy--#person. does that make sense.#no one is reading this don't worry about it. smiles.
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badolmen · 11 months
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‘Stop trying to make me feel bad for billionaires!’ You do you fam I have my own principles and one of them is to recognize when something makes me think ‘hey that’s a little fucked up’ and reflect on why I feel that way. Get out of my bedroom if you don’t like the wallpaper no one’s forcing you to be here.
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butcharyastark · 7 months
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when eleanor isnt opening her fucking mouth i do think the madi and eleanor scenes are really cool. like the history of it but from such opposite sides where both have complicated fondness but one side (eleanor) is completely unaware of or unwilling to acknowledge the cost their childhood relation came at, unaware of or unwilling to contemplate what that life rlly meant to madi and her family and why her father (mr scott) kept as much of madi's life hidden from eleanor's as possible
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killajust · 8 months
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binghe's fandom is very committed
#not me tho id sell him to satan for one corn chip at this point#i REALLY need to reread sv to rekindle whatever affection i have for him kfjskjf#i always say the only one i care about is the one in my head and like#i wish it werent true but the more time i spend outside the source#and inside the fandom w everyone's takes n shit the less i like him#this makes me sad. i wanna go back#unfortunately tho i think they are correct and im in the wrong here#i very much do not belong in this fandom fkjgsfjk#i love all mxtx's characters equally! (2 seconds later) i don't care for binghe#but i want to. so maybe id better give him another chance when the time comes#he wont ever have any kind of grip on me like song lan does (has 2 lines and is dead the whole fucking time)#but i'm not asking for that either#like i WOULD like him probably if he didnt have the ONE trait i cannot stand#which is the one thing everyone loves him for#and which sadly defines his entire character#so ALAS!#all i want for him is the ability to form meaningful bonds with more than one person#but since everyone is so invested in his obsession with that saultry little binch in the bottom lsft#i am alone in this probably. nobody cares if he has 0 friends#all he needs is his guy.#its not for me it doesnt tickle my brain good#im on a roll today i just need to get this OUT somewhere safe or i will go literally insane#so much shit has been bubbling up in me is2g#the reason lwj is number one mxtx ML champion for me is bc he actually gives a fuck about people outside of wwx#even xue yang shows a little more goddamn social instinct#<- cannot go two seconds without mentioning xue yang#nah but real. the thing that stuck out to me for sv was the like. i guess reveal#like 'your mother did love you' kind of deal w/e that was memory is fuzzy#and that meaning something.#that + him kinda waiting on the outskirts for sqq to come to him had me thinking maybe there was room for development
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butch--dean · 8 months
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My company announced yesterday that they’re making everyone return to office 3 days per week EXCEPT for us in Denver (they’re closing ours bc only four people regularly go in…… of the 100 of us who work here…..) and y’all. It is a shit show
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true-blue-sonic · 10 months
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Once Silver learns to make actually edible food thanks to Amy and Espio, what dishes do you imagine he would enjoy making the most? Not necessarily the things he likes the taste of the most, but the stuff that he enjoys the creation process of for whatever reason
Not sure if it really counts as cooking dishes, but I can see Silver be quite intrigued by the concept of baking! Mostly because of how much it changes form and shape; liquid batter becomes fluffy solid cake, cookie dough rises up from a ball into a disk, things melt, solidify, and change colour everywhere. In food-cooking the same things can technically happen as well, but baking really shows it clearly, so to say. And I can imagine he finds it incredibly intriguing, especially with how every single time you can get a slightly different result!
Regarding actual food dishes, I figure he likes things that are easy to make but still nice-tasting and nutritious. Stuff like soups, meals with rice, or even just flinging some potatoes and veggies into the oven to bake them; just generally easy things for dinner, though sometimes he'll try his hand at fancier and longer-taking stuff as well. Though, I do not think he likes stuff with very strong flavours, like overly spicy or sour dishes. It'll take him some time to get used to those and begin cooking with it. But I figure that overall it's most important for him that it's fun, and the more friends he can cook together with, the better!
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