#i'm living with my partner for a month

[friendofthecrows]

I forgot about time zones and that most of my mutuals would be asleep when I posted the commissions post, so I'll probably make (a) new one(s) and/or schedule (a) reblog(s) of that one at different times. I'll tag all posts about it from here on out with "hal art commissions" so you can block that if you don't want to see them. I don't intend to spam, just like, occasional ones.

#hal rambles #blog meta #art commissions #hal art commissions #usually i don't have to worry about it because I'm on eastern time #but currently i'm in ankara #so my time zone is GMT+3 #'but Hal why are in Ankara?' #i'm living with my partner for a month #she lives here

[useless-catalanfacts]

Btw if you come on holidays and stay at an AirBnb instead of an actual registered hotel I hate you personally. Not "I hate the gentrification and touristic massification and the way we can't live in our homes and are forced to move away because of tourism" in an abstract way- No, not just that. I hate you.

#I'm from a seaside town that has become popular with tourists who come for the beach and the mediterranean climate #and the typical whitewashed walls of mediterranean coastal towns #in just a few years the average rent has gone up so much that now the average rent id #*is over 1000€ per month #one thousand! #that's a whole salary! #in the past 2 years they've been building a new neighbourhood. they've destroyed the vinyeards to make a new neighbourhood that will make #the town 1/3 bigger than it is. that's a lot. but all those houses are luxury houses with private swimming pools for rich foreigners (we #already have 2 private British schools high schools and college(in the british sense)/baccalaureate where their kids go and never have to #interact with locals. I teach some of those kids and they're very prejudiced against locals and very bigoted against the catalan language #(which ofc they never bother to learn) #there's a law in catalonia that says that for every certain amount of houses you build you are obligated to build a certain percentage of #affordable housing. so in this new neighborhood they built the bare minumum affordable housing which is still too expensive for us #and since there's so few of them everyone is competing to get them. the city hall and the bank have had to make an official competition for #them but you only classify if the renr would not be more than 1/3rd of your salary which is impossible. my cousins who are in their mid 30s #and have been working a good qualified job for 15 years (and their partners too) are considered too poor to be considered for the #affordable housing #everyone is having to move out to other cities away from their friends and family and current jobs. the only jobs left here soon will be #mostly directed at tourists #and the only way to continue living here if you're a normal person and not rich is if you're an only child who one day might inherit the #parents' house #but we look around at what's happening in nearby cities and we see the next step which will be airbnb taking the houses that are left #in many places (I've posted about thia before) there aren't any flats for rent or sell anymore that isn't an airbnb #I'm still lucky in my town when compared to other places like Barcelona which are already full of the airbnb plague #actualitat #airbnb #tourism #touristic massification #gentrification

[tieflingbi]

i don't think i've mentioned it yet but we're getting married beginning of june and we just tried on the rings we ordered !! we can pick them up next week after they're done engraving them and just WOOOOO. EXCITING!!!!!!! 💖💖🎉🎉

#fellas is it gay to marry the love of my life #in pride month no less #which is just a coincidence tbf our wedding date is the inverse of our the date we started dating #but hey if it works #I'M JUST. HNNNNN. I'M SO LUCKY AND BLESSED WITH MY PARTNER THEY ARE THE BEST AND I #DON'T KNOW WHAT I DID TO DESERVE THEM #AND NOW THEY WANNA SPEND THE REST OF OUR LIVES TOGETHER CAN YOU BELIEVE #sorry i'm just #😭😭😭😭😭😭💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

[who-is-page]

Life is hard! Consider buying my stuff!

My life isn't quite falling apart, but things have gotten really tricky lately. One housemate (and their super destructive, permanent houseguest) is refusing to pay their share of rent or utilities for the next three months, and another is refusing to pay their full share of rent for that same amount of time and is making us cover around $75 every month, and I'm having to double-up my hours at work while still being a full-time student (and also one of my professors, who we're 99% sure is using ChatGPT to generate her citations because none of them exist and we pointed this out, hates my guts and has been grading me really harshly and forcing me to go full-sail on every assignment to ridiculous degrees in order to pass this required class).

My spouse is working on getting full-time at their job, but it looks like they won't be able to until December, and we also have no idea how much rent is going to increase this year-- my guess is it's going to go up another $500, same as last year, to a total of $3,000, so things are gonna get really fucking bumpy until around January, probably.

So basically, if you like the work I've done, consider throwing me a tip on Ko-Fi or buying my stuff on Itch.io:

(Also I promise we have more stuff lined up that we want to polish and publish, life has just been super-duper fucking busy! There is so much more going on right now than what I've mentioned here, especially in terms of surprise medical bills and other horrible surprises. And we haven't forgotten about Inky Paws issue 2, either, which we're still hoping to have done by December and which will STILL always be entirely 100% free to download, no matter what our living or money situation looks like. That will never ever change, so please don't worry!)

#personal #yells #one of the surprise medical bills was MY TOOTH FUCKIN BROKE #I need to get a whole ass crown!!! wtf I'm anti-monarchy this should be illegal to happen to me #there are other surprise medical bills too but that's the one I'm most like are you FUCKIN srs rn #I love dentists and I think they're the coolest so it's like not scary or anything it's just. it's SO EXPENSIVE. #All the other bills should be at around $600 or below but this definitely won't even with insurance and I'm like whyyyyyyy #I should have gotten the crown like a week or two ago but I literally just cannot afford it rn so I'm trying to just be careful #with the patch the dentist put on it a month or so ago.... #sorry I'm just using the tags to SCREAM at this point like oh my god guys #you would not believe some of the bullshit that is going on rn #My housemate's permanent guest? it's their partner with assault charges #Who kidnapped a cat #Burned their last place of residency down #Bite and shanked their mother at 5am while she was asleep in her bedroom #And got my housemate arrested on false charges last year for funsies #And jumped off my roof #And brings stray animals in the house #And makes the hugest messes in the kitchen and living room without cleaning them up #(And I think she's a local drug dealer but that's more just a DO IT IN YOUR OWN FUCKING HOUSE AND NOT MINE thing) #So the whooooole polycule is on high alert that this person is gonna go off the rails and hurt people/pets at any time #I'm so unbelievably stressed out and worried about my cat especially #And like. I have PTSD dudes! This is so unimaginably fucking awful for my mental health! #If it weren't for my support system I would be in PIECES right now. I am so lucky to have partners and friends who care. #Also if some of that list sounds Weirdly Familiar to you it's because I wrote a fictional AITA post for NaNoWriMo '21 based on some of it #Yeah THAT is how long this stuff has been going on and what I've listed here is only Tip Of The Iceberg #Those two people will be gone by the end of November but oh my god I'm so stressed about retaliation and shit #The housemate in question tried to deflect by being like-- oh well she was just off her antipsychotics! #Like dude I don't know how to break this to you but. 1) that's a reason but not a justification for her behavior #2) She's an awful and horrible person both on and off her meds so obviously it is not the sole fault of her psychosis

[kirby-the-gorb]

#kirby #daily kirby #my art #digital #hal laboratory #nintendo #I started packing for the next move yesterday #I'm not leaving for another 2 months (and my wife will stay behind for an extra month) #but this way I can just do one or two boxes a day and still get all my stuff packed so she doesn't have to worry about it #I'm so tired of moving. #there will be at least 1 move shortly after this #then we might have to move again next year or we might stay put for a while depending how she wants to prioritize things #but eventually. someday. we will have a permanent home. #the longest I've ever lived in the same unit as an adult has been 3 years. #and I'm almost 30. #I'm so very tired of moving. #but at least for this move I get to leave ahead of time #and for the next one our other partner will already permanently be there and my wife will have way more flexible time. #after that I have no idea.

[dangerousdan-dan]

Just when I'm trying to be more social again, something will happen that reminds me why I'm a hermit

#vent ahead: #i tried to get my friends together to celebrate passing my exam #I'm not the kind of person who celebrates stuff about myself but I said fuck it I deserve it and I miss my friends #and they turned it into a drama and gossip fest #i don't care i really don't i just want to play cards against humanity and have a good time #i haven't seen these ppl in months and they either brought their romantic partners and ignored me alltogether #hijacked the evening and made it about them or didn't even arrive #why do they have to turn a simple celebration into something so complicated? #i hate it i hate it i hate pls get out of my house #I'm sitting here staring at the forgotten cards and food #and wondering if this is the point in life where i realize that friendships mean more to me than to the allo people around me #the older i get the more isolated i feel #and being aro makes it worse not gonna lie #i thought i could live without a partner as long as i had my friends but well #funny how that works #dan is rambling again

[cocoa-coated-fish]

not me excited about buying a new moppppppp

why is adulthood so mundane

#jk I like how its mundane #it's peaceful #my partner and I are also finally financially stable enough to buy a lot of the furniture we need for our new place #after living here for like....6 months lmfao #and I'm so excited for it to feel like a home and not a shell with piles of boxes in the corners and cobbled together hand-me-downs #otherstuffs

[hiimcanadia]

I genuinely do not believe that anyone deserves to die. This is like the core of all my political beliefs. No matter how shitty a person is I do not think that death should ever be the punishment for their crimes

However. Seeing Biden sending billions and billions of dollars to fund wars halfway across the globe while every single homeless shelter in my city is completely full and there's a 3+ year wait list for housing assistance is like... Well I wouldn't grieve him if he were assassinated is all

#i know someone who is living in a hotel with his partners and 5 month old baby right now #where is the multi billion dollar bill to rescue people like him from shitty and unstable living conditions? #where is the money to help people who aren't even lucky enough to afford that? #homelessness is at an all time high in my city and I'm sure hundreds of other cities across the US and it feels like nobody even cares #like every level of government has just decided its better that we die #2pm in the morning #politics

[cup-noodle]

can dads please be normal about things for one fucking second

#like. he and his partner just spent a week biking in italy and having a fab time while i'm studying for ib finals at home and taking exams #supposedly the most stressful and busiest month in our lives so far #and now the entire day he's been getting on my ass about how the kitchen table (where i study) is messy and how the bathroom is untidy etc #like mister hello?? i'm trying to learn my entire high school's worth of material in one month and you can't move one notebook before eatin #and i'm honestly handling it well so far. getting everything done. not super stressed. working very very late but sleeping enough #while also taking care of a cat and a dog with no help every day #he's had literally zero work with my entire education and all the straight As (admittedly more cause i remember fast than due to hard work) #but by how he's talking you'd think i'm doing heroin under his roof every day and routinely setting our house on fire #*long sigh* #noodle rambles

[maddy-ferguson]

"Quick test tho, replace girlfriend with boyfriend and see if ur still bothered by it." me when i'm 7 and have yet to realize that men and women have a very different place in the social hierarchy because we live in a society

#joke 7-year-olds have already realized this because they're smarter than the person i'm quoting #and because they're boys and girls themselves and are treated differently based on that from the moment they're born lmao #i was reading a book the other day (last month) where boys were already doing the weaponized incompetence thing and girls already cleaned #up after them automatically without being asked BEFORE THE AGE OF 5 like it's bad for us (it was like a sociological study) #and literally the weaponized incompetence thing makes sense it's normal/smart to try to get out of doing something you don't wanna do like #chores and stuff but it's the fact that girls internalize that they have to be the ones who stop doing what they're doing to clean up after #boys/men AS CHILDREN and then keep doing that for the rest of their lives. i'll kill myself #i was raised with just my sister and my mom and my sister is the man of the house in the sense that i'll ask her to do things a certain #way a thousand times because it's better for everyone and she'll always be like yeah you're right and then never do it. and i'm always like #if i actually had to go through that with a partner...and with male partners statistically i probably would #when women make posts like oh look what my boyfriend/husband bought vs what i asked for haha he's so silly...KILL HIM #anyway. my point was you internalize it early enough to realize some of it is off as a kid. so why would you say there's nothing wrong with #saying something about women if the same thing being said about men doesn't offend you #like are you stupid #and like i say: brf slt

[omgitsbeewave]

i made a kinda sad post and my Internet went off and tumblr deleted it....

i'm just sad today

edit: i saw and deleted it bc this one is more emotional and stuff. i'm sorry everyone who will read the tags

#i miss my partner #they are tired all the time :( #but we didn't spend time together since july #it feels like they want to get rid of me #and it works bc i don't want to annoy tired guy #i wish my partner choiced were lil better #i feel nothing but sad when i think about them #we literally don't text each other for months. #it just silence then i send them random art and more and more silence #GOSH JUST TELL ME THAT YOU WANT A BREAK UP OR SOMETHING #I CANT LIVE LIKE THIS WHEN I SAW YOU ONLINE AND MY ONLY THOUGHT NOW IS “oh #MAN #and if i start a talk about it it would be just like oh i'm sorry i'm tired you made me sad i'll go bye #i can't talk them about secret life bc it makes them sad too and i don't know what i can say #i said that i want to make them happy but everything i do makes them sad #I ONLY SENT A CLIP FROM DECKED OUT AND THEY SAID ITS MAKING THEM SAD TOO #OH MY GOD DO YOU EVEN NEEDS ME OR WHAT #I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO GIVE YOU SILLY MAN #sigh #i'm sad #bc it is #cw vent

[airenyah]

i'm probably the only one on here who's extremely excited about summer night lmao

#it's in my top 3 series that i'm looking forward to the most from the 2024 pt1 line up #next to the trainee and pluto #aaaaanyway i'm absolutely DYING to see dunk without joong #and i'm also excited to see him act opposite a girl #i'm even more excited about it now that i sat my mom down in front of hidden agenda #and we were also rewatching simm this week (we actually watched it live as it aired) #dunk works so well with joong like. they complement each other so perfectly #and i'm SO curious to see if dunk will manage with different acting partners #there's actually many things that he does where i'm like. yeah. i think he'll do well even without joong #and i just need to know if i'm right about it #for months i've been saying dunk is a better actor than fandom gives him credit for #it feels like summer night will be the series that'll prove it to me #or maybe i'll be proven wrong idk #that's what i'm dying to find out. will i be right about dunk's acting skills?? or will i be wrong?? #if i end up being right tho then i might just go off tho #(we'll see. maybe i'll just rant to my mother in private) #hidden agenda and various stage performances already got me into the dunk protection squad #but if summer night proves me right then i WILL turn into mama bear if i see people shit on his acting #and that's that on that #airenyah plappert #summer night #adrm #this rant was brought to you by: dunk posting about the summer night fitting #bye

[katandsquad]

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#basically having a mid distance relationship because my partner is living on the other end of the city #best case it takes us 1 hour to get to each other #worst case is 1 1/2 hours #shit sucks ass #he works really close to be my home #but he gets off work at ass o clock for me #he ususally gets off at 8pm #i have to go to bed 9pm to get up at 5:30 / 6 am the next day #he also has to work on saturdays and only gets them off like once maybe twice a month #i'm sick rn and i just wanna cuddle with him #horgh #he came over today because its his free day but i wont be seeing him until next week on saturday #probably #sometimes i just stop by after i finish work

[kirby-the-gorb]

#kirby #daily kirby #my art #digital #hal laboratory #nintendo #so we didn't get that house I mentioned a while ago but we *did* get the bigger apartment in the same complex our other partner is already i #*in #so it'll be a super easy move for them and they'll have time to settle in before they come get me next month #(before they left for the airport they asked me to look at apartments since they still hadn't heard back about this one) #(but when they got off the plane they had the apartment confirmed lol) #(it doesn't have a w/d but there's a big big tree by the porch) #(and they're already used to the laundry facilities there since. they already live there.) #(and it's a 2br so it's enough space for all 3 of us until my wife finds some kind of work) #(and then we should be able to afford a house rental -u- ) #(I'm really hoping to be in an actual house before december!!) #(but no one can make any promises there.)

[stellardeer]

i have to come to terms with the fact that I am actually well off for someone in this country now, like.. idk it's weird

i'm still living the exact same lifestyle that i was before, so for the most part it feels almost like nothing has changed, like maybe im spending a little bit more money on food and buying the "good" toilet paper, but all that does is allow me to actually have savings in my bank account

i still stand with the working class and impoverished people of this country, and I am very much still in the boat of "one [very] bad day from homelessness" so i am not taking this for granted whatsoever

i've just been watching some of those youtube channels where they interview random people all over the country and just like.. kinda show what their life is like and it's definitely putting mine in perspective

very very grateful for the opportunities i have had and very proud of myself for forcing myself to stay in college (even tho it took almost 10 years to finish and left me with a mountain of debt) and just like.. idk, i feel like i could be doing more to help people out, i can't wait til im out of debt ;o;

#like idk it makes me feel a little bad sometime that im able to live comfortably while others arent #fuck i mean i got one of my friends living on my fucking couch rn i have a daily reminder of the inequality in this country #cause he doesnt have any qualifications to get a good enough job to fucking LIVE in this city #he's been trying to find a place to live but everywhere wants you to be making 3x the rent #and there's not a fucking job in this town that will pay you that much... #it's college town most people here are not even paying their own rent their well-off parents are paying it #ive never even fucking paid rent here i was living off the good fucking graces of my friends and my partner for like 7 years #and im still not paying rent i live in a trailer park and i own the trailer it's a shitty 2bd that i've had to pay to fix multiple times #but the fact that i can even afford to do that now is INSANE TO ME #I OWN A BUILDING WTF #i mean i do pay lot rent but it's only $300/mo #but rent prices here keep going up and up and up and i feel bad for my friend cause i dont know wtf he's supposed to do #i'm not charging him anything to live here so he's saved up a bunch of money but no matter how much he has the apartment places dont care #cause he wont have that money once he has to spend it all on bills and then his paychecks wont be able to cover living costs... #and i love him but he's just a little bit stupid and like.. doesn't seem to comprehend that he cannot afford a place that's $900 :'D #like he thinks that because he makes $1500 a month that he can spend $900 of that on rent like buddy NOO #what about FOOD? and OTHER BILLS? that's JUST rent dude what about lights and water???? #but also idk i dont feel THAT bad for him cause he could always just move back in with his mom or live with a roommate but he fcking refuse #anyway this got off on a tangent the point is once im out of debt im donating all my fucking money

[giantsreach]

hm.

#( replaying mota to make gifs and refresh my memory of certain details and bc i don't usually take fenris #i never thought about the latter exchange as an interesting contrast until recently. #i've talked at length about it before but carver's dialogue with fenris is directly informed by the fact carver has learned #through his upbringing in an apostate-majority family #that the best way to live - or survive‚ more aptly put - is to lay low‚ don't stir up trouble‚ and keep your loved ones safe. #fenris brushes off the advice because‚ obviously‚ carver doesn't 1) understand the intricacies of his status as an escaped slave and #2) doesn't realize that ''safety'' might not be everyone's end goal in life. #BUT. but but but. fenris also offers a very similar suggestion to hawke. because fenris cares about hawke. #and‚ like carver‚ fenris wants hawke to look out for themself. wants them to be safe. #and hawke may rebut something very akin to what fenris gets to in his banter with carver. #i may dig up my old carver + fenris meta and make additions because the more i revisit da2 and switch up my choices #the more i realize there's still material to analyze! ) #( miscellaneous ╱ outofchara. ) #( also sorry for the silence here i have been v busy! #but good news is i have accepted a new job‚ so i'm that much more prepared for my partner and i's big move next month! )