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olderthannetfic · 6 months

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Re: “So, the world expects women to have and raise kids while men are expected to have little involvement or interest in their kids’ lives (paraphrased)”

Yes, that’s what it’s always been, specifically because men want it to that way. Studies show that women typically raise and socialize their children from infancy, men statistically have little interest in being active fathers, children are usually closer to their maternal relatives, children usually stay with their mothers after divorce or separation for the prior reasons but when men contest custody they usually win. And in cases where men have custody of their children, studies also show the kids are raised by the father’s mother or other female relative. Interestingly, studies also show that men usually only const custody of their kids because of a fear of paying child support.

Maybe it’s because previous anon is a trans man, so he’s had experience being socialized in both binaries, but anon doesn’t have to feel bad about the plight of fathers. They’re perfectly fine with the state of marriage and child rearing because it culturally and socially benefits them more than women. The (cis) men are just fine, don’t worry lol 🤷🏽‍♀️

(same anon talking about childrearing, (cis)straight relationships, and the priveleges of men) And of course in a patriarchal society men are encouraged to be husbands but not fathers. Men in relationships, especially marriage, statistically live longer and have more benefits than single men. Women actually receive fewer social benefits from marriage than men (on average). Again, the (cis) men are very happy with this setup. They're fine.

IDK about that. I think plenty of cis men are not fine with the current state of affairs, but they're not always prepared for the practical realities of changing things, both all the little social things they were never taught and the career penalties they'll incur.

It's the same deal as with chores and supporting a partner: a ton of cis men want to be an equal and to make a female partner's life easier. But lacking the experience of just how much fucking work basic household management is, they end up feeling like they're being imposed upon when they're actually doing like 5% of the work, and they feel like they're being asked to be mind readers when they fail to notice things many female partners have been socialized to pick up on instantly.

Yes, my lived experience is that the majority of cis men are selfish dicks who need a boot up the ass, but I don't think the problem is coming from bad intent in most cases. I, a cis woman, was also woefully unprepared to run a household when I first got out of school, and it was entirely from being raised too upper middle class by parents who were too busy to teach me basic adult skills that weren't about career or school. Many guys start even further behind.

I'm not saying we should let deadbeat dads off the hook, but a lot of cis dudes do actually want to participate but don't get how hard it's going to be or how much they're going to have to give up.

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buckysimp101 · 2 years

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Love at First Grade (18+) - 2

Single Dad!Bucky Barnes x Single Mom!Reader; Teacher!Bucky x CEO!Reader

chapter warnings: language, otherwise none

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“I told you, Maria, either Tony and Stark Industries help us out with this deal or it doesn’t happen… Tony’s not afraid of this partnership he just wants me to beg. And he knows that I. Do not. Beg. Now set up the appointment,” you barked into the phone.

You were already feeling the start of a migraine when you heard Avery’s quiet voice, “you forgot to say please, mommy.”

Your head whipped around, your eyes softening immediately after landing on your daughter, she’d already gotten herself dressed for the first day of school. She was wearing her favorite pink unicorn shirt that you got her, it may have something to do with the fact you said it had power that would make her brave and strong. It seemed to be just what Avery needed to hear when she realized she’d be going to a class with a new teacher and new students.

“Please, Maria. We need this partnership to secure the deal. Just do what you can,” you finished firmly, hanging up the phone in the process and turning to face your daughter.

What is it with kids looking like their father? You carried her for nine months, you made a bed next to the toilet for half of that, your body grew and shifted to grow her. And the universe had the audacity to have her come into the world with most of her father’s features. She was the only good thing Brock Rumlow had contributed to your marriage. Luckily, you had insisted on her last name being L/N so that your company’s future involved her, not Rumlow. This added more fuel to the fire.

What made the situation even more lucky was that you had signed an extensive prenup with Brock when the two of you had gotten engaged. You didn’t see it then, you were head over heels with the smooth talking, flirtatious man. It took a few years of marriage and one child later to find out it was all a con. Especially when you walked in on him fucking the maid on your five thousand dollar couch. You settled on a custody agreement in the divorce, allowing Brock occasional weekend visits with Avery. He never showed. She was four.

Some would say you have no weaknesses. In fact, you knew the reputation you’d garnered. To the rest of the world you were Y/N L/N, ruthless business executive and CEO of L/N industries who made men and women alike weep and kneel at your feet. Your friends and immediate family knew the truth. Your soft spot was and always would be Avery.

“Thank you for reminding me, Avery,” you said softly, holding your arms out. Her little eyes lighting up and a smile forming on her face as she ran across the living room to give you a big hug. Your eyes filled with tears as you took in your daughter. She was a small little thing, just a little bit smaller than most six year olds, but man was she the cutest thing you’d ever laid eyes on.

“I see you’ve got your big girl shirt on,” you stated with a soft look, a grin beginning to appear on your lips as Avery’s smile grew larger at the reference to her “magic bravery.” “Are you gonna be mama’s big girl at school today? Make new friends and be nice for your teacher?” you asked, running your hand lightly over Avery’s back as she nodded in response.

Where Avery got her shyness from confused you. For a child with two of the most extroverted parents she sure made up for it with her introversion. There was nothing wrong with that though and you respected her decisions. Brock on the other hand would fuss at her if she didn’t speak to one of his colleagues or if she didn’t want to hug one of his family members. Just one of the other continually compounding reasons your marriage ended up in divorce. You would never force Avery to hug anyone she didn’t want to and the only time you would nudge her to speak to someone was if it were important. When she got over her shyness…that’s when you saw yourself in your daughter. Her attitude?? A copy and paste of your own.

“Alright sweet girl, Uncle Sam is gonna be here soon to take us to school. You gonna tell him how excited you are?” You asked while patting her leg, your sign it was time to get up and help her put her shoes on. Avery nodded her head as she grabbed her pink converse and she began babbling all about what she wanted to do at school and how she hoped she’d make new friends.

On the way to school she spoke animatedly to Sam. You and Sam had been best friends for years, ever since college really. He had taken over the role as your executive assistant and was in charge of handling your meetings and getting you to and from places on time. He preferred to drive you and Avery though. The second she was born he’d been wrapped around her tiny finger. He’d also been the one to attempt to wake you from Brock’s spell. Well, Sam and Wanda both tried. Nothing seemed to work just right until that night you saw for yourself just how uncommitted he was to your marriage. A marriage you’d been trying to salvage for years to, obviously, no avail.

“Alright miss priss one and miss priss two, we’re here,” Sam announced as he pulled the car to stop. That seemed to put a halt to Avery’s excitement, she attached herself to your leg like a koala to a tree. A small frown appeared on your face, she was acting more skittish than normal.

“Aves, tell Uncle Sam you’ll see him after school,” you prompted giving her a little nudge, hoping it would make her release her grip. But all she did was mumble “bye Uncle Sam” under her breath.

You bent down to her level and made her initiate contact by lightly pulling her chin up. You could see the start of tears welling in her eyes. The sight making your heart begin to shatter. You took a deep breath, I swear kindergarten wasn’t even this hard you thought to yourself, before asking, “Avery Claire L/N. You. Are brave. You are strong. You are a L/N. What’s got you so scared baby?”

Avery’s lip wobbled as she whispered her response. “What if nobody likes me…and I don’t make any friends?”

That sound? It was your heart shattering. You pulled your daughter close to your chest and tried not to let her see your tears. After discretely wiping your eyes you held onto her shoulders, looked her in the eyes and said, “Baby, anyone would be lucky to be your friend. You are a great person, you’re so smart. Not everyone is going to like everyone and that’s okay. All we can do is be nice to them and hope that they’re nice in return.”

“Is that how you make all your friends at work, mommy?” Her question caused you to wince. Because that definitely was NOT how you made friends…but maybe you should listen to your own advice. Another time, we have to go, your inner monologue started up again but your daughter was waiting for your reply so you just responded with a nod of your head and a small smile, her shy one returning in response. The two of you headed to the office to get her teacher assignment.

Mr. Barnes’ classroom was located at the end of the first grade hall and a line of students and parents extended out his door as he greeted the students and introduced himself to the parents. As the line got shorter and shorter, Avery clung tighter and tighter to your leg until the two of you were in front of Mr. Barnes.

His attention was on Avery. Yours could not have been anywhere else except on him. He was gorgeous. The most beautiful man you had ever seen. Brock Rumlow was attractive when you met, still was except his cheating brought him down to a zero, but this Mr. Barnes? You wanted to cling to him like Avery was clinging to you. You bent down and whispered in Avery’s ear, “remember sweet girl, you are strong. You are brave. Say hi to Mr. Barnes like you practiced okay?” This prompted her to look up but immediately hide her face into your arm. The second he knelt down to her level? You were done.

Damn. All it takes is one ounce of attention to my kid from a hot man and I’m already down bad?? I NEED to get laid. NOT HELPING BRAIN. Oh shit Avery’s retracting back.

After introducing himself, Avery turned and looked at you, you gave her a nod of encouragement and a nudge of your hand and she turned around, puffed her chest out and shook her teachers hand with the most confidence a six year old could muster, making you snicker behind your hand.

When she finally decided she wanted to go to class that was it. She was giving your legs a quick squeeze and throwing a “love you” to the wind before running into the classroom to meet her new friends. The introduction between you and Mr. Barnes felt…tense to say the least. It was like the second he heard your full name he froze.

Damn. We really need to work on that…

You wanted to talk more but the next thing you knew your phone was ringing. It was Maria. You knew she was calling for the Odinson deal and that it was a call you needed to take. You bid your goodbye to Mr. Barnes and took off down the hallway, not even looking back.

By the time you got to the car Sam was waiting for you patiently, but the second he saw the look on your face after getting off the phone he asked, “what’s got you all hot and bothered, little mama?”

You took a deep breath trying to calm yourself after the phone call and from being the mere presence of that gorgeous hunk of teacher. Then you answered, “I want to climb Avery’s teacher like a fucking tree, Sam.” All Sam could do was cackle and throw his head back in response.

This is gonna be a long fucking year.

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can-i-get-a-yippee · 11 days

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I like to think of Shannon lives AUs bc she deserved better and I think it could’ve had some great storylines that paralleled/contrasted to Athena and Michael’s divorce storyline.

Like, imagine her and Eddie divorcing and her finding a new partner.

Because Shannon and Eddie loved each other but they were both too passionate, too hot tempered, too stubborn—too alike.

They burned bright together, but they also burned hot. It’s not a sustainable relationship, especially when Chris is involved.

So they divorce, and they co-parent, and it’s fine. It’s not ideal, not by a long shot, but it’s fine — good even. Shannon gets an apartment 20 minutes from Eddie, and a temp job at some finance firm downtown. Eddie still has Chris most of the time, but Shannon negotiated him up to her getting Chris while he works shifts and every second weekend of the month with Carla helping fill in some gaps. He doesn’t love being separated from his son, but he would be lying if he said it isn’t nice to do adult activities with Buck and his 118 coworkers on the weekends Shannon has custody. (Though Buck gripes that he misses getting to see Christopher every weekend, and Eddie can’t help but agree) He and Shannon still argue, bicker, about everything from pick-up schedules to parent teacher conferences. After all, being divorced doesn’t fix their communication issues, but Chris seems happy, and they’re leagues better than when they were married.

Until Shannon announces she met someone.

Well, met isn’t the most accurate word because when she tells Eddie on the front steps of his house after her weekend with Chris, she admits they’ve been seeing each other for almost 4 months.

His name is Jack. He’s a salary man— a financial analyst at some firm that Eddie doesn’t care to remember the name of— and Shannon accidentally spilled a cup of coffee on him when she ran into him at the coffee shop beside her office. He was kind and gracious and offered to buy her a new cup, despite it not being his error. She hadn’t wanted it to happen, hadn’t been looking for it, but something between them had just clicked. It’s going on 4 months and she wants to introduce Chris to him soon, but only if Eddie approves.

She and Eddie might be divorced, but she is determined to make this co-parent thing work, and if he says no, she’ll respect his decision and not bring it up again.

And Eddie, he wants to be angry. He can feel the venom boiling in his throat before she even finishes her sentence. She had divorced him. She had said that she wanted to focus on being a mother and not a wife. He wanted to make it work, and she had given up. Now, barely a year later, she’s asking him to introduce their son to her new boyfriend?

It’s an ugly and unfair feeling that he swallows down when he strains out, “Let me think about it.”

And he tries to ignore the hole in his chest when Shannon gives an apology as her goodbye.

He complains the next day to his coworkers with a mixed response. Bobby tries to offer insight based on his relationship with Athena’s kids and Michael, and Hen and Chimney chime in with their own opinions and personal anecdotes. However, it’s when he’s complaining to Buck in the locker room that he feels his stomach twist

“I just didn’t expect her to move on that fast,” Eddie repeats the sentiment that he had been repeating all shift as he slams the locker door. “We’ve barely been divorced for a year, and she’s already wanting to introduce this guy to our kid? Everything online says to wait at least 6 months, but she’s over here doing it at four months. And she wants me to agree to it, says she won’t introduce him if I’m not ready, making me look like the bad guy if I say no.”

He huffs and turns to look at Buck who has been attentively listening from the bench.

“Eddie,” Buck says it slowly. He’s giving Eddie that earnest, doe-eyed look that he gives when he’s about to say something that he knows Eddie doesn’t like. “Not that I don’t agree with you about Chris here because four months does seem a little early, but it doesn’t feel like that’s what you’re mad at her for.”

Eddie turns away then, unwilling to hold Buck’s stare any longer. The truth is stuck in his throat, and Buck has a way of making it spill out of him.

Because the truth is, Buck is right. He’s irritated about how early in the relationship Shannon wants to introduce their kid to this new guy, but he’s angry that she’s making things change, that she’s moving on from them.

Sure, their relationship wasn’t the best. They had been forced to speed their relationship up from its natural progression when Shannon got pregnant. He’s not even sure if they would’ve lasted the year had it not happened, but then it did and then they were married and then there was army and the fighting and the leaving.

But despite everything, they had always been tied to one another.

And now, she was moving on, building a new life, and Eddie was stuck in place, mourning a life that he never had in the first place.

And what if she wants everything to change? What if she wants to get actually serious with this guy? What if she wants to take Chris more than just every second weekend and try to build a family with him without at all the baggage Eddie had brought? What if this other guy comes in marries his (ex)wife and tries to take his kid and shatters the house of cards Eddie had assembled here?

God, his parents already tried to take Chris. If Shannon tries, he’ll —

“Hey, Eddie, you okay, man?” Buck had stood up and moved beside him. He’s look at him with that stupidly earnest and open expression on his face, and his hand stutters at his side, like it wants to reach out and touch him (and a part of Eddie wishes it would). “I didn’t mean to upset you. I just— you know you can talk to me about anything, right?”

Eddie scrubs a hand over his face. “It’s just— Shannon, we’re just getting a handle on the divorce co-parent thing, and we’re getting okay at it, and now she wants to change everything. We’re finally at a semi stable place, and now she wants to throw a wrench in it because of some guy she just met.”

Buck is quiet for a moment before he questions carefully, “Did you …expect that she would never date again?”

“No!” The response comes too quickly, and then he sighs. “Yes… I don’t know. I just thought we were at a good place, and doing this coparenting thing right, and now she wants to add this new guy into the equation. She wants it to change. “

The ‘I don’t want it to change’ goes unspoken.

Because things are going good right now.

Eddie loves his job. He loves his team.

He and Buck spend almost every moment outside of work together, grabbing beers when Chris is away and going to the zoo when he’s not. Dinners at Bobby and Athena’s are common and so are play dates at Hen and Karen’s. Chris loves Denny and Harry, and Eddie loves that he has a support system here.

Chris is the happiest Eddie’s ever seen him. He’s getting good grades and making friends. His teachers gush about how happy he is— telling Eddie about all Chris’ stories about what he does when he visits his mom or the weekend adventures with Buck. He’s thriving for a kid whose parents just got divorced.

And Eddie’s communication is the best it’s ever been with Shannon. When you take the sex and the relationship baggage, they make a good co-parenting team. Not perfect, not by any means, but they both love their son and centering him seems to have made them more agreeable.

If his life could stay like this, he wouldn’t complain. He doesn’t need anything else, anyone else. He’s happy.

And Shannon wants to mess that all up by starting a relationship that she made clear she didn’t want with Eddie.

“Hey, no matter what happens with Shannon, you know you’re the best father Chris could ask for. Shannon dating this new guy, it doesn’t take that away,” Buck says it with a grin and knocks their shoulders together. “And it’s not like you’re alone in this. Everyone here has your back. I’ve got your back.”

And Eddie— Eddie can’t help but grin at that as he knocks his shoulder back against Buck’s. “Does that mean you’re still down for dinner tonight? I told Chris we could order pizza since we’re getting home late.”

“Only if I get to pick the place,” Buck responds easily as he slings his bag over his shoulder. “The last plan you ordered from skimped on the cheese.”

It’s hard not to think, as they walk out chatting about weekend plans and Chris’ science project, that maybe there’s one thing he wouldn’t mind staying the same forever.

#this was supposed to be like 100 words but I got carried away #maybe I’ll write this fic if I ever finish my other fics for other fandoms lmaooo #but I just really would’ve liked to see divorced Shannon and Eddie making it work #with Buck coparenting with Eddie and neither of them realizing it acknowledging it #911 #slight Buddie #everything I write has slight Buddie if it’s 911 related tho lmaooo #Shannon Díaz #Eddie Díaz #evan buck buckley #buckley diaz family #911 abc

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sassyfrassboss · 9 months

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Also people on SMM make H&M seem way to important than they really are. Like why would parliament get involved?? They have actually jobs and need to solve shit that impacts millions of UK citizens. And not meddle in a divorce or custody battle between two irrelevant people. They live on a fucking different planet and really need to touch grass.

They also seem to think the BRF has been withholding information on her for the sake of Harry and that they’ll expose her when they get divorced. Like, come on. The brf has basically nothing on them aside from her deranged behaviour and bully report but they won’t leak those things because Charles and the workings of the brf get implicated in the bullying report. They’re have been rumours of both Andy and Charles being difficult to work with so no way will they leak that report.

I know people want H&M being taken down and completely cancelled but the reality is that they’ll just continue to slide into irrelevance. This won’t end with a bang but with a whimper. The BRF will continue to ignore and stonewall them and H&M will continue to bitch and moan.

I think that the BRF does have stuff on her but Harry also spilled loads of family secrets so they are at an impasse.

However, you are correct. This is a FAMILY matter and one that should not involve Parliament, especially seeing as how those kids are not directly in line to the throne.

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birgittesilverbae · 1 year

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ok so. i know we're mostly just. glossing over why bea and lilith got divorced in the first place but. may i perhaps toss my hat into the ring as it were? perhaps it was a bit of a marriage of convenience? like they'd been friends forever and thought each other were hot and all, so why not date and then that went well and suddenly they were married and had a kid. and like. it was fine. but perhaps it wasn't really love anymore? like. they were still friends but there wasn't any desire to stay married, and (i believe the reason bea has primary custody hasn't been stated, but i've guessed that lilith travels for work based on literally nothing) so they just. got divorced. and now with ava in the equation being all very much in love with both of them they're seeing each other in a bit of a different light? and oh. Oh fuck why am i having feelings for my ex wife (sorry about this absolutely ridiculous ramble, it very much got away from me. feel free to ignore it lmao)

@random-french-girl and I went back and forth and ended up here:

tfw they're much better divorcees than they ever were wives, when they can be Extremely Capable under different roofs instead of under the same one

when Lilith isn't letting Bea down by putting work first and Bea isn't at Lilith's throat over the pettiest shit that has built itself up because she hasn't confronted it head on.

the two of them bringing the absolute WORST in each other. beatrice with all her Mentoring Instinct trying to tell lilith what to do and teach her how to do things and that always ends in the WORST fights... especially when it comes to Libby, "she's my daughter too, Bea, I know how to take care of her". lilith with her cutthroat ambition and need to prove herself The Best Most Valuable

but throw Ava in the mix and suddenly: Lilith has someone who literally could not give a shit about being the Best because Ava's self esteem has never been dependent on what other people think of her

and they're so careful to keep it out of their interactions with Libby directly but they can feel it starting to bleed through and they know they need to pull the ripcord before they damage Libby the way they're trying to hurt each other

this is when they decide to get a divorce - and why its amicable: when they both realise the situation is hurting their daughter, and they won't ever allow that

and it would be SO hard to be separate at first, because they have been in each other's lives/ each other's ONLY confidant for so long BUT. they're also soooo much... happier? freer? lighter? that they know it's the right thing to do, but it still continues to feel a bit out of balance until ava silva enters the ring

and then the casual touches with ava become casual touches with each other again and there are heated late night convos because whatever they do it has to last, they can't keep switching on and off when Libby's gonna be affected by whatever happens.

like it's all fun and games when it just involves the two of them trying to out-top ava (neither of them wins, btw. i guess ava is the winner in this scenario) but when it slowly sinks in that this affects their relationship and their child and they need to figure it out??

#fic: dads #ava x beatrice x lilith #myfic #random-french-girl #ask #anon

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bitchapalooza · 1 year

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Some Larry headcanons

Autistic, probably undiagnosed though.

Grew up without a very involved father. Honestly doesnt even know his father's first name let alone his birthday. The times he was around, he didn't spend it with his kids. Larry doesnt care to really know anything about him at this point.

Middle child.

His older brother, by 4 years, is Grimsley. His younger brother, by 2 years, is Piers' (bio) dad.

Hes only met Piers once as a baby. Hasnt met Marnie yet since shes not actually related to him. But he does know of her thanks to public knowledge of their former actor mother.

Hes been thinking of reaching out to Piers, especially after he heard about what happened to his mom.

Not particularly close with his younger brother but hes not very happy with the man hes grown up to be anyway. He's basically become their father, but worse by completely abandoning his kid instead of partially ignoring.

Only ever hears from Grimsley when he wants something or when hes visiting the Paldea casinos. Wishes Grimsley would seek help for his addiction as he believes he has the potential to change and heal for the better unlike their brother.

Only talks to his mom on a regular basis. Actually thinking of moving back to Unova to take care of her, but Unova doesnt offer many high paying jobs like Paldea does. He has a lot to think about.

Was Johto's normal gym leader for 2 and a half years before moving to Paldea with his now ex-wife, Gala.

Personally trained Whitney and was proud to pass the gym down to her as she improved greatly in the one year he'd been her mentor. Especially terrified of her Miltank, he wont lie.

He was 17 when his family lost their fortune. So he started training more and more and so by the time he was 21, he was strong enough to be confronted by the Johto league with the gym leader proposal and the possibilty to join the Elite four if an opening ever came up. He accepted because of the wage and bonus battle commissions. How else was he supposed to take care of himself and his pokemon?

He was offered the gym leader spot after moving to Paldea. Then later the Elite four spot. He has a third job but its never clear to anyone what it is.

Dundunsparce is from his original Johto team and Staraptor was originally a gift from his childhood(as a Starly). His Johto team was Dusparce, Blissy, and Staraptor.

He sent his Blissy over to his mom after she went through back surgery. She takes good care of her and vice versa. It was a good choice.

He and Gala divorced because there just wasnt anything there anymore. They fell out of love. They either just argued or didnt talk at all. They tried couples therapy, but what was really the problem was Larry's work schedual. Unwilling to risk his pay being docked severely for asking for a schedual change, Larry couldnt compromise. Hes got a kid to take care of and rent and bills to pay, he couldnt afford less hours. Not right now anyway. So in the end, they split up and decided on joint custody over Giacomo.

They still get along as friends. They have their own ways of raising Gia, though, and sometimes conflict arrises. But in the end, they leave the past behind them and are able to see each other for coffee without fighting. Gala actually called him when she began to panic about marrying her new/current husband and he provided her with same spiel he got from his mom when he almost walked out on their wedding(she doesnt know this happened; basically Larry didnt think he was good enough for her). It calmed her down and now shes happily married to a guy that Larry actually finds very obnoxious.

Despite having a large, nearly infinite appetite, able to eat nearly anything because he doesnt care, hes not picky, Larry is as thin as a piece of fucking paper.

He has a severe nut allergy though so he does have to be careful what he eats. Hes gotta read every lable closely.

Was the first to go gray out of both his brothers.

Prefers whiskey over any other alchoholic beverage. Especially beer. He really hates beer. Just not a fan of the taste.

Low alchohol tolerance. Gets drunk fast.

Novelty tie collection. Thats literally the most interesting thing about this guy.

His favorite tie is the cloud tie, but his second favorite is a sushi tie he bought himself. He wears it with a lot of confidence.

#pokemon #pokemon headcanons #pokemon scarvi #gym leader larry

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houseofbrat · 9 months

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I have guessed that Lady C was laying some serious breadcrumbs in her videos lately. She basically implied Parliament/Government being involved re: Sussexes legalities. I figured it had something to do with the kids, it involved constitutional parameters/scope of parental rights perhaps. So divorce watch is definitely on, and as Lady C said Meghan wants a lot but she won’t get as much as she demands or what she thinks she deserves re:the children.

I don't listen/watch Lady C's youtube channel. According to a reddit user, she said the following in her video today:

Well My Dears I have some interesting news. The King has been taking soundings in Parliament. I will not specify which house because I must protect my sources, so I will be mysterious. The King has been taking soundings about the custody of the children in the event of a divorce. I was told that the relationship between Meghan and Harry is dire. It is “inevitable” the relationship will collapse. Evidently, Harry began to see past the mask when Meghan insisted Harry delay the release “Spare” to two weeks before the Coronation. Harry, to his credit, said absolutely not. He refused. I am not asking for a free pass for Harry for all that he is done, but in the interest of fairness, Harry is not the same as Meghan. I think Harry will begin to experience regret and perhaps already is.

[...]

It would appear these stories of Harry calling in the lawyers and the marriage being in trouble were not pie in the sky. It sounds like it is only a matter of “when, not “if.” And the mere fact that the King is taking soundings from Parliament is telling. You see, there are all matters of state regarding the custody of the children. There are political reasons also. The King cannot be seen to be taking two children from their mother, especially when she is American born. No matter how crass and ghastly a person is, once they marry into your family, you will do everything possible to cover up their dreadfulness. The Royal Family will do everything possible to maintain dignity. There is more to come.

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I still have my hopes that the divorce will be announced by the end of Venus' retrograde period.

#ask #reddit #Lady Colin Campbell #King Charles III #2023 sussex divorce #won't somebody please think of the children?#prince harry #that dumb prince's stupid wife

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stranger-rants · 1 year

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In honor of mother's day, I have complicated feelings about Billy's mother, but mostly because of how little details we get on what actually happened. Like, yeah, she definitely left him and that was wrong, but we don't know if that was it or if there was issues with the divorce since while it's still messy now, back then, for women? It most certainly did not always turn out pretty, especially when you had kids in the mix. Compared to Neil who looks like a respectable man with an at least somewhat stable kind of job, Billy's mom would have been a single mother who might not have a place yet that looks suitable to a judge (not to mention the theory she wasn't exactly loyal wouldn't be doing her any favors).

When my parents divorced, I still to this day have no idea what exactly went down because both of them agreed they didn't want to get me involved in fighting against the other, but my dad essentially made it so that my mom legally could not see me without his presence or at least his permission. As in, he literally could have gotten her arrested by trying to have me over or visit me without running it by him first. And most of the time, he said no.

Like, we don't know fully what happened, and custody battles are tricky, especially with an abuser. Did Billy's mom just leave, send the divorce papers and never contacted Billy again, did she try to fight for him but lost custody rights, did she get partial or visitation at least, but Neil purposely kept her from Billy until he moved his family since keeping contact long distance was even harder back then than it is now? It's why in some cases I've got sympathy for her and in some cases, have negative feelings towards her, we don't know the whole story

There's a lot we don't know. My dad left shortly before my 16th birthday, though he still had contact with me. I don't know what made him make that decision other than he was a serial cheater and a manipulative bastard. It's hard for me to empathize with parents who leave for this reason, but I do try to understand what could have motivated her to leave Billy behind with the more volatile parent. At least in my case, my dad was and still is the more volatile parent.

I don't think there's any simple answer when it comes to Billy's mom. I wish we knew more. I wish there was just something else to add another layer to the story, but I know Dacre fought hard for what we got so I'm appreciative of that at least. It must've been hard for Billy on Mother's Day to reconcile his love for his mom with the fact that she left. Then, you have Neil bringing in a replacement mother figure. It's too much. I don't blame him for being upset about that. I almost was him.

#asks

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twopoppies · 2 years

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idk much about harry but i feel like him being involved in all of this is just so heartbreaking especially when you think about him being a child of divorce(just like me) like i just keep thinking of those kids and the way she just literally doesn’t seem to care that when her children grow up they will be able to see all of this stuff and it just sad. god it just breaks my heart for them (and ik theyre not married or going through a divorce but this is what all this drama feels like; a very nasty divorce and custody battle)

Oh, the fact that Jason and Olivia weren’t legally married means absolutely nothing as far as their kids’ emotional lives are concerned. It’s still their family falling apart and all of their dirty laundry being aired in the tabloids. It’s horrifying.

#jolivia breakup

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horizon-verizon · 8 months

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One day, people will learn that not shoving a woman’s bigotry under the carpet but still standing with her when she becomes the target of a misogynistic smear campaign are two things that can and should coexist.

Like I said in this post, I am neither a fan nor gungho supporter of Sophie-the-actress/the person so much that I hope Joe's misogyny and misogynist tactics falter and die. When she played Sansa, I was a neutral observer bc I just am not a Sansa enthusiast. And after I found out Sophie was VERY racist, I couldn't ever really like her.

While I liked book!Rhaenyra's ferocity like I like Cersei and Catelyn's, the facts that:

Rhaenyra pursues power in a patriarchal society

her rule would make way for other women

I currently support her due to the many misogynist narratives made against her that makes people blind to the entire point of the Dance. As I said several times. Pre-Nettles/dragonseeds-Rhaenyra didn't really do anything morally abhorrent. Before being usurped and losing kids and the dragonseeds it was pretty clear she never went out of her way to disparage women, children, etc. Self centered, yeah. Evil, no.

I hope Sophie wins because it means better for women elsewhere and those kids she has w/Joe. But I also am not going to really spend time thinking about Sophie and Joe bc it seems like Joe is doing well to muck everything up on his own with all the lies, the majority of the caring public seems set against him pretty early on (except his fans and incels but these people are very clearly misogynist themselves after still stanning him after Gigi) and again, I don't like either of them for different reasons.

Both Sophie and Rhaenyra still need to not go down for being women, which is what their attackers were doing. Would it be ironic? Yeah, but I'd rather that other women's prospects aren't going down with her in the process AND that the fall matched the sin. I'd rather Sophie went down for her racism.

It's funny, I would have been totally pro-pre-divorce Sophie post-Sansa bc I actually do find her to be very pretty (especially in "Gothic" ensembles and black clothes) and I like red hair (superficial, but I didn't know her and she's a celeb, there was never going to be a "deep" reason for me since there were no personality traits or other abilities from her that I saw)...until the racism.

EDIT:

From Tiktok, I found out that joe would be making a smear campaign against Sophie no matter what he did or did not do, no matter custody battles, etc. because he and his entire family are evangelical Christians who do not believe in no-fault divorce. Apparently, the idea is that "they made a promise to God, they broke, there's a bad guy", so someone has to be blamed for the separation.

And so if there is no obvious villain, as in infidelity, abuse, things like that, there has to be someone who gave up earlier. There has to be someone less involved. And so all of these rumors about Sophie Turner partying and being in the UK and way from the kids, all of this slant that's happening against towards her is to make it look like she gave up and she quit on the marriage so that when he gives up and quits on the marriage it's not because he wanted to it's because she had no choice.

and this is why it's important to do research sometimes, even when you don't like the persons involved...

#ask #not asoiaf #sophie turner and joe jonas

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wy-lz · 2 years

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Liveblogging Hannibal (S1 E3: Potage)

Just started watching Hannibal after years of just reading fic in the fandom. Currently on Season 1 Episode 3. Things that stand out to me are probably mostly things that differ from how I saw them portrayed in fic.

Hannibal & Alana in Jack’s office: It’s hilarious how much Jack comes off as discussing a kid (Will) with his parents (Hannibal & Alana). (I guess Hannibal won custody in the amicable divorce.) There’s something incredibly patronizing/condescending about how Jack and Alana talk about Will. Hannibal avoids this tone by playing on a completely different dimension with a hidden agenda, but I totally understand why Will would appreciate him if this is how other people are like.

Jack in Hobbs’ cabin: Gotta say this episode does not show him in a good light. Why does he keep pointing blame away from himself? He was the one to push for Abigail to go back to Minnesota, and then when Marissa Schurr ends up dead, he accuses Will/Hannibal,“You brought Abigail Hobbs back to Minnesota to find out if she was involved in her father's murders, and another girl dies.” What??

Freddie with Nicholas Boyle: Wow, I gotta say that I dislike her much more in this episode than the previous ones. It’s one thing to find out/write about things that have occurred/are true. It’s another to try to instigate violence just to help with “online ad sales” as Will puts it.

Hannibal (the mystery caller) dealing with Abigail recognizing his voice: I really wonder what’s going through Hannibal’s mind. Like is he at all panicking? He certainly doesn’t show it. Did he later kill Marissa simply because she was rude to her mother (which is often how it seems to be portrayed in fic)?

There seems to be many possible motives here. Muddy the waters of the mystery caller by framing Nicholas Boyle (and thus even if Abigail accuses him, the accusation may not stick). Destabilize Abigail further: 1) Remove her remaining support system both to force her to rely more on Hannibal/Will/Alana and to eradicate any possibility of the return to normalcy and 2) Show her that she can’t rely on anyone (they can be killed) and she can be killed. Of course, it’s convenient for him later on in the episode that Abigail kills Nicholas and then is indebted to him for helping her hide Nicholas’ body, but I can’t see how he would’ve set that up (i.e. Nicholas coming to talk to Abigail and acting violently towards her). Is it simply a fortuitous (for Hannibal) sequence of events?

Still, why not kill Abigail herself rather than Marissa? Does he in fact care about Abigail? (Why?) Is it deeper than taking an interest in what he views as budding killers? So interesting that he tells Abigail he’s nothing like her father. He seems to like to speak in truths that others misconstrue, so what is the truth he’s hiding here? We know he is indeed a serial killer; is it about honor? Or is it about caring about Abigail? Especially interesting since Hannibal seemingly kills Marissa instead of Abigail. Interesting parallel to Abigail’s father killing others in place of her. Marissa looks somewhat similar to Abigail as well.

Abigail’s view of Hannibal: She seems to be a good actress: hiding that she knows about Hannibal to the others while still indicating to him that she remembers. I will say that she seems a bit too bold; wouldn’t it be more strategic to hide her knowledge? Not that I blame her; it’s probably hard to recalibrate your sense of danger after your loving father almost killed you, especially with the maturity of a teenager. I’m not sure whether she believes Hannibal’s excuse that he called to ask if her father was available for an interview. Is she choosing to make the smarter move this time of pretending to believe him?

Abigail’s attitude towards Freddie: Abigail’s very discerning when she first meets Freddie. It’s interesting that she changes her mind about talking to Freddie after Marissa’s murder. Why? Does coming back and receiving an icy welcome suddenly make her realize that perception is important? Does she think perception got her friend killed? (In a way it did.)

Abigail’s trauma: She says some interesting things, including that if her dad killed her, all those other girls would still be alive. Alana of course reassures her that she’s not to blame for what her father did. (But how about what she did? Is this qualification intentional on Alana’s part?) It’s an understandable survivor’s guilt. Yet, we the audience know that she knows that Hannibal is the mystery caller (and therefore likely the copycat killer according to Will). She says this all in front of him, making us (or at least me) wonder how performative her reactions/words are. What is real and what is theater?

#hannibal #hannibal liveblog #jack crawford #freddie lounds #hannibal lecter #abigail hobbs

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windflowerofskellige · 1 year

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Philippa straight up lying to Dijkstra about all of her motives vrs Dijkstra slowly figuring out "hey! Wait! She's using me and everyone else around me and killed our King!" vrs the irreparable damage done to Radovid.

Like i joke that Phil and Sigi are Radovid's divorced parents a lot but like... The events and everything around Dijkstra's leaving Redania and such is a very similar situation to a divorce where one parent gets full custody and the other isn't allowed to see them again. Except Phil was the one who got custody and the objectively worse parent.

Radovid absolutely 100% felt abandoned by Dijkstra. He was absolutely one of the few stabilising forces in his life and Philippa, controlling as she is, got rid of as much of that support system as she could. He doesn't know why Dijkstra left, realistically speaking Philippa played into the "he abandoned you" narrative.

I've said it before I'll say it again and I'll keep saying it til I'm dead. Reason of State would not happen like that! He would not fucking say that! Dude why the fuck do you think Dijkstra came back from Zerrikania? He didn't NEED to be in Novigrad to be a criminal boss and shit. He could've done that in Zerrikania. And Dandelion and Dijkstra's Gwent journey implies he gets back around 1270 which! Hm! When does Radovid become King? Oh right! 1270! You're going to tell me he came back and waited two years to kill a kid who he mentored and cared about? I'm going to have to press X to doubt on that buddy.

The only person in Reason of State acting in character is Philippa who's lost use of Radovid and after Loc Muinne has an even more personal vendetta against him and 100% would not feel any remorse killing a teenager.

Dijkstra would sooner kill Philippa than let her kill Radovid. I DON'T KNOW WHY VERNON IS THERE??? LIKE??? ANAÏS IS YOUR BEST HOPE FOR TEMERIA AND UR OUT HERE LIKE "nope gotta kill Radovid the only stabilising force for the Northern Realms because the well known traitorous bastard Emhyr says we could be the next toussaint" HE'S NOT THAT STUPID. LIKE DID VERNON GET A TASTE FOR ROYAL BLOOD AND JUST GO OFF THE RAILS DUDE WHAT THE HELL IT REALLY DOESN'T ALIGN WITH HIS GOALS FOR TEMERIA. Geralt would not get involved. Especially not with Ciri and the Wild Hunt and everything. But like just generally Would Not get involved. But Reason of State is literally there because Emhyr does Not win the war if Radovid lives which is like objectively hilarious in such a pathetic way. I am a supporter of Emhyr being ides of march-ed by Nilfgaardians you can fucking quote me on that. They don't even want to fight this fucking war!!! But if Emhyr doesn't win the war no empress ciri which is like such a stupid ending to begin with I will not get started on it because this post is already so long.

I think honestly it'd make more sense if Reason of State's questline was Dijkstra and Roche double crossing Philippa (or Philippa and Iorveth who should've been there I'm so mad about that and he has ample reason to want to kill more dh'oine kings) and the moral choice still falling on Do You Kill Radovid? Because it fits with the themes of The Witcher 3 better. And it makes more sense. And they can still have their stupid empress ciri ending.

I'm literally just rambling but I'm thinking about this again and SO mad about reason of state

#meda rambles #witcher 3 #radovid #sigismund dijkstra #philippa eilhart #this is an anti-reason of state post actually #i hate that quest #objectively one of the worst quests in the game

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watchinghallmark · 2 years

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One thing I found weird with "Noel Next Door" was the whole ex-husband situation. Maybe I'm being biased, but I thought he was being a jerk for wanting to take the son for Christmas, particularly when he claims its because "he should be in a normal family environment"! Like with you and your former mistress?! To me it felt like he was trying to just push her out and start a new family without her. Plus, her hearing the new lady hates her son, and that change her mind didn't follow for me.

I think that whole situation definitely could've been fleshed out a little more but custody arrangements are complicated and can be messy. The ex probably does think now that he's married to his former mistress that they're the real family and Noelle is sad and alone (thanks to him but he's obviously moved on from feeling any guilt if he had any at all). Shitty of him, yeah, but but not entirely unbelievable. He has a new life and wants his son involved in it. And for the sake of the son, Noelle wants to make things the best they can be for him and that means letting him spend quality time with his new step-mom. Is spending Christmas together going to fix things if the new woman doesn't like the kid? Who knows. But the kid also owned up to being a brat so maybe he wasn't willing to give the new woman a chance either and everyone just needs a reset to get on the right track.

I'm just surprised the storyline was what it was. The mistress reveal felt so scandalous for Hallmark and it was nice to see Noelle so pissed off about it all. It would be upsetting any time of year but especially happening on their first Christmas divorced she was just trying to make the best of it and be a good mom.

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pynkhues · 2 years

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delightful, dreams, & euphoric!

Thank you!

delightful; concerts or museums?

Concerts at museums. Pre-pandemic, I used to go to Friday Nights at NGV all the time, where you get to wander around looking at art while live bands play. It was (still is, I believe, since they recently restarted) the best, and my forever fave was being there with a folk band playing while I made my way through a Van Gogh exhibit.

Generally speaking though, I'd probably lean towards concerts? I tend to hunt for stories in museums, which is great in its own right, but I love to experience art in a form I can't / will never create in. I get to be a complete and captured audience, and there's something to that, y'know?

dreams; do you want or have any tattoos?

I do not have any tattoos! I do want some! Me and my best friend have been talking for years about getting a take on the jolly roger, only instead of a skull and cross bones, it's a cat skull with a red and white wine bottle crossed underneath, haha. I love it, but I also don't know if that should be a first tattoo.

euphoric; talk about someone you love.

Oh gosh, haha.

I've been talking to my sister probably the most I have in years (which is to say at least twice a day) as her divorce and custody battle is happening at the moment, and it's all pretty awful right now between his financial abuse and increasingly erratic behaviour, and her mental health, and there being two very small children involved, but it's also bizarrely marked a really new stage in our relationship, which is the last thing I was expecting.

My sister and I love each other deeply, but we've never been friends in the way that I am with my brother. Our relationship has had periods where it's been quite fraught, and she's probably one of the only people in the world I fight with (I feel I'm generally pretty lowkey, haha), and I'll be the first to admit we have a lot of baggage. We're pretty close in age, compared to our brother especially, who is eight years younger than me, and ten years younger than our sister, but my sister's also the sort of person who's never felt fulfilled by the company of women. She's always really sought out men, and I know why, because I know her, but it was one of the harder things in my life I guess to let go of this idea that we'd be the sort of sisters who had the sort of relationship I have with my friends.

A few weeks ago, for maybe the first time in our lives, she expressed a real regret about that, and told me she was jealous that I had such intimate friendships with so many women, and that she felt the lack in her own life, that she was lonely, that she both needed and wanted women around her, and I told her that she had so many that were there waiting for her. That she has so many friendships that are just waiting to be deepened, and women who love her and want to connect more with her and support her, because she does.

And then I told her I was really proud of her, because I am. I can't even fathom what she's going through, but she's handling it with a strength I didn't know she had, especially because - - well, look. We have baggage, like I said, and there are times when she has not had strength, and to see her not just surviving something like this, but clawing her way out of it with integrity, and bending but not breaking, is something I find so deeply admirable, and I told her that too, and she cried, and we just sat on the phone with each other for an hour and then two, pottering around the house with me making dinner, and her in her apartment getting ready for the next day's work, and I still don't think we're friends exactly, but I don't think either of us have just existed with each other since we were kids, and there's something in that. A shift, a slip, or maybe a leap, I don't know.

Just something important.

Ask me things

#yes 'cute asks' i read #and then basically journal intimate thoughts haha #anyway #she has another teleconference with her lawyer which i'm dialling in for tomorrow so pls wish us luck #well #her luck #me and our mum who's also dialling in patience hahaha #me floating with the fam: have we considered a hit man?#our brother agrees at least!!#mum and my sister get v glarey though lmao #rl #cute asks #i mean #kinda #haha #you know most of this already megan so i'm sorry for repeating myself <3 <3 <#3 #welcome to my ama

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legalassistance · 2 months

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