#literally their issues are bc of communication

[tbposting]

I think the scene with laios and shuro beating the hell out of each other was rly good for them <3

I did that with a friend once bc we'd been keeping our issues bottled up for a year and then just kicked eachothers asses on the volleyball court, hair pulling, biting, kicking, the works

sometimes the only way to communicate and also get closure is by eating and dishing out a coupla knuckle sandwiches ^^

well, although I would argue that social conflicts that can only be resolved by building up to such explosive pressure that it results in violence could probably be handled in other ways before they get to that point

but then I am a man, and I know intimately just how hard the pressure to Keep A Lid On It™ is. we aren't supposed to have feelings which are not anger, so anger becomes literally the only outlet for everything, and the only place to find catharsis.

and in that regard, the Laios/Toshiro scene felt... painfully accurate to me. Toshiro was literally incapable of voicing his actual feelings until his anger boiled over hard enough to make him break the iron bonds of polite silence. and I know the jealousy that Toshiro felt at seeing another man able to openly and freely express himself, without shame or paranoia about how he is seen by others

#dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #dunmeshi spoilers

[funnywormz]

I think this shitshow with Toshiro stems from the trend of people INSISTING that interpersonal conflict must be a moral failing. Like I think there's something to be said about how people afford so much less patience to people who are autistic in the "wrong" ways, but also Laios and Toshiro just clash on a fundamental level that has nothing to do with that. Hell, you could read Toshiro as autistic as well. People related to Laios' side of the argument but instead of getting any nuance out of it they started projecting their experiences with ableist people onto Toshiro.

AGREE AGREE AGREE. i think that Fandom Brain gets people very used to thinking of conflicts in terms of "who is the bad guy and who is the good guy", so when they encounter a more nuanced conflict they don't really know what to do. i don't think toshiro is a bad person at all, in his conflict with laios he's just exhausted and starving and has been pushed to the limit and from his perspective, laios doesn't even seem that emotionally affected by the situation. i don't think what he said was right and it was pretty cruel, but i don't think he's a villain or deserves to be permanently hated as a character just bc he fucked up this time lol

also yeah you could definitely read him as autistic, and i think that highlights an issue in the autistic community in general bc like....... a lot of autistic people have conflicting needs which can lead to conflict between them/make them unable to stand being around each other. and it's not because either of them are neurotypical or bad people, they're just incompatible. like autistic people who loudly stim vocally and autistic people who meltdown when they have to be around loud noises, for example. it doesn't mean either of them is bad or not autistic, just that they have conflicting needs

i 100% agree with the last part too. i disliked toshiro at first myself bc i had been (and still do ngl) projecting onto laios hard and the conflict they had reminded me of times when people have been mean or angry at me irl for social blunders i've made unintentionally, or when someone i thought liked me/was my friend turned out to actually hate me. it's a common experience for autistic people and that scene resonates with that! but i think it also helps to take a step back from projecting our own traumatic experiences onto the scene and just look at it objectively. laios isn't perfect either and he's the one who actually starts the physical fight by slapping toshiro (i feel like i don't see many people mention this lol). i feel super bad for him in that scene but he's not a perfect victim and has done things wrong himself too

as an autistic person i've also been in situations where i can relate to toshiro too lol, like where someone is overly physically and emotionally familiar with me when we don't know each other well and i've wanted them to back off but haven't been sure how to say it without hurting their feelings. this kind of conflict is far from just being a "neurotypical vs neurodivergent" thing as a lot of people portray it in the fandom

idk i just wish people would think a little more deeply about the scene and put their own emotions and experiences aside to instead consider the conflict with the added context of the individual characters and their respective cultures + the situation they're in. people don't have to like toshiro but i wish they wouldn't paint him as a villain or make up awful shit about him just to justify their feelings when he isn't even that bad of a dude in canon yknow 😑. also we literally see him at rock bottom struggling and freaking out and i think that's important to remember. in a different context i doubt he would have ever said those things to laios

#dungeon meshi #laios touden #toshiro nakamoto #ask #tysm for the ask btw!

[speakviolence]

they really teasing a Nancy / Steve romance plot line right at the end of prt 1…………,,

#ENOUGH #ENOUGHHHHHHHHHHH #OH MY GODDDD!!!!!!!!!!! #lay it to fucking rest #I swear if they break up jancy in part 2 and she gets back with Steve #it’ll literally be the biggest slap in the face #and I am sick of them not even attempting to have jancy communicate #literally their issues are bc of communication #I don’t want another fucking love triangle #LET IT GO #stranger things spoilers

[itsashowtime]

( 雨猩 / UkuShou )

There are 3 truths to this world: Beauty, Numbers and...

#minamimoto sho #ukushou #oc x canon #toshi ukuwa #the meeting of two great minds #i still cannot believe ukuwa was insane enough to make a GOD DAMN WATCH #OUT OF TRASH #WITHOUT HAVING ANY CONCEPT OF TIME (bc that was his entry fee) #He literally made an anchor escapement work bc he figured out that if he stops hearing the ticking its a success #this absolute madman #anyways shou deserves someone of his own calibre #naturally a teen horologist with deep validation issues would be a good match right? RIGHT? ksdjgfhf #jokes aside i do love these two #this is very I uNDerStANd HIm #But tbh the juiciest part of UkuShou is just the communication and connection through art they have #And how they self reflect bc of each other #(wow! shou learns empathy! does he always care tho? no)

[cremeriie]

okay so i have been thinking sooo much lately about Osvald and the father-daughter dynamics he might have with specifically Ochette and Agnea. HOWEVER tonight i was thinking about how he and Throne would interact, and how different their dynamic would be from the other two girls.

like, okay, so i feel like that, for Osvald, it's only natural for him to compliment the others on their magic use, especially in battle when his inhibitions are lowered. so, when Throne uses something like veil of darkness and wipes a whole group of foes, it's not strange to hear him say "nicely done" or something like that.

how do you think that makes Throne feel? her entire life, the only time her "father" ever complimented her skills was when he was making her do terrible things for terrible reasons. do you think she flinches at the words, pit forming in her stomache? she probably feels guilty, reacting that way, because 'what a stupid thing to be upset about, he isn't even your father, and you certainly aren't his daughter.' but then she sees the way he softens around the other girls and deep down, she wishes that he might have been.

it makes her sick to think about how unfair life is.

and Osvald probably doesn't even notice there's a problem, 'cause honestly his people skills are not the strongest. but once he finally does catch on he is at a complete loss at what to do about it.

i think it makes their interactions difficult. neither one knows how to approach something like this, and let's be real, neither of them are the warmest out of the bunch either. osvald probably just stops complimenting her all together, which only makes Throne feel worse because when she was little, at least the compliments meant she wouldn't be expecting a lashing when she returned home. what's worse, being a snake or being a failure?

the real kicker is that i dont even know how they would fix this. they probably part ways never resolving the weird tension they both know exists, for reasons they obviously know about, but are too emotionally damaged to bring up. (Osvald is proud of her resilience. he never says so. Throne truly appreciates his praise. she never lets on.)

anyways whoops sorry i dont have a happy end for this one um goodnight everybody sorry about that!

#sorry this is so ramble-y i was not feeling as eloquent as yesterday lolol #maddy talks #osvald v. vanstein #throne anguis #octopath traveler 2 #oops sorry this is sad i have deep seated family issues. do u still think im cool. #UGH IDK IDK BC I THIBK THEY COULD BE SOOOO FATHER DAUGHTER IF THEY JUST COMMUNICATED #but they literally never will until the post game and by then it doesnt matter #god okay okay im fr done now gn gn

[tomboyyyaoi]

autistic meryl is still my ride or die hc

#bc its literally not just 'shes autistic bc im autistic and i say so' #like theres so much in the source material to back me up here #like its a recurring thing that she doesnt know how to verbalise/communicate her feelings so she just doesnt #theres parts where she goes non verbal #in the jp version she has an incredibly feminine/formal way of speaking which i know is a trait for some autistic people #shes very emotionally repressed #she presumably has little social life outside of work #her relationship with her parents/dad is wobbly bc of previously stated emotional expression issues #<- also bc she gets too caught up in work to think about trying to communicate with her dad #<- and cries over worries of her dad thinking her selfish or distant for it even though she didnt mean it #like bro she is so autistic. 2 me

[americorys]

If Chenford break up I am blaming you for manifesting it!

i know you don't mean this as a compliment but i am taking it as one, thank you so much anon 😌

i need yall to stop thinking me wanting them to split up means i want them to stay apart, though. like please relax for 2 seconds about that. this isn't a dick wolf show where they'll just pop in a new love interest and there goes chenford forever...they're tied to each other. if they break up, the writers are then going to work to put them back together. that means more content (deeply emotional meaningful content) and ultimately a stronger relationship. grasp that them being apart for a stretch of episodes doesn't mean they won't be interacting – if they break up, i bet we see them interact more.

a lot of people upset about the idea of this are also like...whole hog into the way chenford has been written for years. if you trusted the writers to create a compelling story before, why don't you trust them to do it again? have a little faith and remember that there still needs to be plot on a television show. sure, could they have that without a breakup? yes! i'm not even fully sold there'll be one, it's just my ideal vehicle for a compelling storyline. and i'm allowed to think that, you do not have to agree, and we can all continue living our lives like human beings who enjoy a television show.

anyway: thank u, i love that for me.

#anonymous #ask #chenford #the rookie #'but chenford's so strong!!! they have such good communication!!!' did u watch 5b #chenford literally has not talked about their issues fr since before 5x09 #happy to discuss that at length if anyone wants to chat about it tbh #bc i think the way they've set this up is fascinating #and if people could get past the BUT THEY'RE IN LOVE of it all #they'd realize that taking a healthy step away #would be smarter than continuing to brush problems under the rug the way they've been doing

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

mcyt is like. channel awesome 2.0 but bigger. a lot of genuinely really good diverse and intelligent creators kept in the shadows of the faces of the community (usually cishet white guys at least on the English speaking side, though there’s exceptions, especially nowadays). frequent scandals that drag in innocent people and leave people thinking less of the innocent people involved who just had their name attached to certain projects. a fucking Issue with abusers and sexual predators being protected and allowed free reign to hurt both coworkers and fans. the awful people in the community basically becoming memes and smearing the name of those who just wanted to make innocent content for fun through the mud in the process. terrible handling of sensitive issues off and on screen. it gives me fucking war flashbacks istg

#i can make that joke bc i have ptsd 🥰 #also no before you ask this isn’t just about the dream smp like. i have been watching mcyt for like a decade and it’s always #kinda been like this? like it’s an issue that’s been building in the community since I was a child. #Bc while yes most mcyters are fine there’s clearly an issue when predators have been protected since the very early days #and mismanagement and abuse was intensely common in circles. not just like the wild ineptitude of the dsmp there was severe abuse going on #in some of those cc groups back in the late 00s early 10s #it’s like a whole toxic subculture of channel awesomes #except i will give them this even the big guys who I personally despise are more entertaining than Doug walker #then again depending on the era we are talking about and the specific subcommunities several commited literal crimes so it’s still worse

[craperonipizza]

You know what? Yes, top surgery WOULD fix all my problems. Fuck you

#it literally would. my mental health is poor BECAUSE OF MY BODY. #if i could fix it then i WOULD BE HAPPIER #i dont want top surgery cause itll fix my mental illness or whatever the fuck my parents think. #i want it cause IT'LL FIX ISSUES THAT MY MENTAL ILLNESS IS MAKING WORSE #does that make sense??? #idk how to communicate this to my parents. #like no i don't think testosterone or top surgery is a magic button to make all my problems go away. #BUT IT KIND OF ALSO IS. IT'D HELP A FUCKING LOT. #craperonipizza post #transgender #ftm trans #im SO FRUSTRATED #vent post #i mean im doing it anyway cause i need to and im a fucking adult. #but the opposition sucks yknow. #i know where theyre coming from. like concern bc yes its surgery and testosterone effects can be permanent...but thats kind of the point. #dont get me wrong my parents are doing amazing. i love them a lot #but its also so frustrating. cause they can't really understand what im going through no matter how much i talk to them. thats just a fact.

[honeysuckle-venom]

This is the stupidest most obvious realization of all time, but I think I just realized my avolition affects social things a lot more than I thought? Idk I'm very aware of it when it comes to struggling with self care tasks but for some reason I basically always thought I didn't really have issues with social withdrawal??? Even though it's a super super common symptom but I somehow just thought I didn't have it??? Except that's very obviously not true??? Literally all the time I have the thought "I should text [insert friend here]" or "that conversation in the server I'm in looks interesting I should join" or "I should answer my asks," immediately followed by the thought "but it's way too much effort so never mind." I thought that was just...idk normal? And I think it is normal to a certain extent, but I'm just realizing just how much I do that and it's...a lot. And it's usually combined with the same exact feeling I get that I do associate with avolition around things like making myself food. Huh. Fascinating.

#text post #my post #literally at least once a day i go 'i should talk on discord. no wait. too hard' #but i just kind of figured that was true for everyone #and i think it IS the case for a lot of people i know. which led me to think it wasn't like...an issue #but my social circle is not actually representative of normative experiences and behaviors lol so... #anyway. something interesting to think about and bring up in therapy #bc like...responding to very basic communication is not Actually supposed to be that hard or feel like that much effort #and yet

[fairybonesandstardust]

istg non lesbians need to back tf out of lesbian conversations and lesbians need to get their shit together

a small edit for a little more context: this post is inspired by a tiktok of a girl talking about another girl (their both lesbians) said she slept with men as a form of self harm after breakups. everyone in the comments immediately started claiming that she was as actually bisexual. i want my community to be a safe space

#yes. surprise i am in fact a lesbian #lesbian #its about community issues and how “gold star“ have affected the community #why is it that when a lesbian sleeps or has slept with man we automatically shun them #or claim it’s internalized biphobia? #i’m literally straight4pay #i’m a sw for context #idk who told u that you can only fuck people ur sexually or romantically attracted to but their WRONG #you can CONSENTUALLY fuck someone you’re not attracted to…. #we are just reinforcing gold star ideals in out community when we claim someones not realy a lesbian bc they don’t fit this hyper specific #idea #i think this probably goes much deeper and def has more nuance and etc to be said #but i’m not the smartest and im tired #lgbtq #lgbtq community #trans lesbian #lgbtqia

[the-king-of-lemons]

..

#was literally abt to have a nap lol #anyways does this p much confirm majority of the french (excl pierre but like. ask a french fan abt him) wont return #so much for international server connecting communities (they never included the french in the first place) #yeah this shit sucks from what it seems the eggmins not involved in running of the server are all leaving bc they are bein ghosted so hard #turns out complete silence when the main issue is lack of communication is in fact a bad idea... who coulda thunk it #citric complaints #im gonna nap in a bit tho lol

[fjordfolk]

also just bracing myself for if i eventually do pick out a sire for troja because frustrating and hypocritical etc etc but i will eventually end up sacrificing a known health result or two for untested factors

#INFURIATING because i want ALL dogs to have full health testing god damn it #but that is not the world i live in #the norm here is still ONLY eye screening #MAYBE a HD result. MAYBE a CEA or MDR1 result. rarely both #and unfortunately i would rather risk producing a puppy with CRD than with bad temperament #or GI issues. #or those apparent neurological episodes that are currently popping up in the wake of that US import male #theres a constant weighing of hating my breed community for being anti-testing and trying not to blind myself on numbers and acronyms #my goal is the highest possible likelihood of getting a dog #thats as likely as possible to live as long and well as possible with the least possible amount of intervention or mitigation #a dog can have CRD and still do that. a dog can not be fearful and do that. #HD is a minefield almost literally and it fckn kills me that we only have single-dog results to go off #and thats not even getting into reading discrepancies between countries #you can have a better set of genetics in a C dog than an A-B dog and ppl will use that as an excuse to not test at all bc its 'unreliable' #when we should use that as a reason to test WAY MORE because we need WIDTH in our results to make accurate assessments #anyway sorry sorry anyone mentions a sire for troj and my brain goes like those spirit boxes on ghost shows

[snekdood]

Quite honestly, i think people just dont like to acknowledge how many times i have been victimized bc it doesnt work for their narrative of the Scary Bad Trans Guy With No Regard For Others And Likes To Kick Puppies And Doesnt Know Real Pain Or Trauma

#bc otherwise yall would have to feel bad about putting me through way more additional unnecessary trauma on here #and i swear its yall who believe everything my abuser says about me. you need to tell yourself its true that i did the shit they accuse me #of and theyre just this pure uwu innocent pewson who doews no wongg umu #yall dont wanna except ive been through hell bc then you gotta accept youve put me through additional unnecessary hell that only warped my #perception worse of a community i thought i was fuckin part of and accepted in but apparently tf not #like you only have yourselves to blame for that shit. for why i hate online queer spaces now. #man it would just suck so so hard for your narrative if i was actually abused as much as i say and my abusive x was actually lying about me #bc otherwise how will you pretend trans men never ever experience any issues ever? #like i dont need to look. ik im one of the main blogs yall like to target and put on blast for transandrophobia stuff bc im super fuckin #outspoken about my shit (nevermind that yall never directly confront me). i already know thats how it is bc theres ppl on here who have a #apparently deep interest in constantly hating me and trying to find reasons im wrong. so when i say something is bad they habe to act like #its good actually somehow. and ik it all roots back to my abuser. there is literally no other reason i can think of that would mame ppl #that invested in hating me unless they believe everything my ex says. so undoubtedly theres ppl in my exs spaces who believe #transandrophobia is fake men arent oppressed ever etc etc. i digress. but ik its yall who've propped this whole shit up #ik its yall who put me on blast for this first and triwled to spread it that i was one of the Big Bad Names in the transandrophobia spaces #so ik yall use me as an example. ik you tell people i lie about everything. ik you tell people i exaggerate. ik you tell people im crazy #ik you tell ppl they cant trust me or rely on me and spread all the bs my ex says about me and even spreads their abuse toward me further #by even doing that shit. yall NEED to keep believing that im the Big Bad Trans Guy that you think i am bc otherwise your whole worldview #falls tf apart. everything you've been standing on online about how trans mascs who believe in transandrophobia are bad would fall apart. #if i am really as fuckin abused and victimized as i say. suddenly you dont get to use me as the example for Bad Transandrophobia Believer #and I KNOW thats the only reason yall choose not to listen or believe us. its LITERALLY just because you're choosing a side in a personal #relationship situation. ik it has nothing to do with politics for plenty of you. you're taking a side and shitting out reasons for why you #did after the fact. #if you really care about politics n shit you should listen to ALL THE OTHER TRANS MEN TALKING ABOUT THIS #besides using one person as your example for why you shouldnt believe people who believe this is a thing. #i mean. even aside the fucking fact that its all bs. if yall dont wanna believe me. whatever. you can get traumatized by them if you want #idefc at this point. if you actually care about politics as much as you say you gotta engage w people in good faith and uh maybe try n #listen to the SWATHES of other trans guys who also talk about this shit and thinks its real.

[raine-but-irl]

you ever see SUCH a display of "how the fuck can u even do such a senseless thing" it makes you lose your fucking mind??

#this is ab my city's teachers union deciding to blame our principal for issues THEY caused #ALSO ab how apparently the teachers have been VERY unprofessional #im talking 'hour-long session to say things they hate about this guy' unproffessional #AND most of it is behind his back #hes literally SUCH a great person he doesnt deserve this!! the lack of communication is not solely HIS fault!! #hes not the only one at fault for every issue this damn school has !!! #'im so pissed #bc WHYYY bring up these concerns only at the end of the year ???? like #AND almost no one outside of the student council even KNOWS ab this whole issue #like theres chalk and papers set up on the outside of my swchools enterance to educate students #I bet these fuckers are gonna use the several fights that've happened as 'a display of incompetence' on the principals part #like miss me with that shit tbh

[imaginarianisms]

ok..... some of y'all bout to be real mad at me. the fact that. h.aymitch is literally described as. grey eyed & dark curly brown haired & comes from the seam (yknow where k.atniss & g.ale, both brownskinned indigenous ppl, live) & also canonically struggles with addiction from the trauma he endured in the hunger games & afterward. & ppl still want to depict him as white......... y'all.

#out of the galaxy. || ooc. #like. do y'all know how much of an issue s.ubstance a.buse is in our communities. #im not saying make that his only defining character trait bc that'd be a stereotype but n.dns are REAL people capable of having addictions. #I've literally had family members DIE to this shit.